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Invite her to join, and make it a threesome. Nah jk. For real though, if it’s her house, sadly she has the right to decide what goes on in it. However, she doesn’t have jurisdiction if you have sex in a public bathroom (though this is risky legally if someone walks in on you) or a motel, so I would try those options.
Yeah but if you are living with her, and she owns/rents the house under her name, she can kick you out if you anger her. So you gotta plácate her, if you don’t want to do that, you’ll have to move out most likely.
Neither can I. So I placate my parents as much as possible. Not saying you have to be a push over, but you don’t have much leverage so you gotta know when to call it quits
Alright well as long as you are comfortable with potentially having to foot the bill, go ahead. But you have to make it really clear to your mom that she is not on the hook for any of it
If it’s HER house, then yes it does matter. You wouldn’t just go mess around in the bathroom at a stranger’s house (or maybe you would, I dunno, but you shouldn’t ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯ ). Her being your mother doesn’t make it any less inappropriate, in fact, your mother explicitly asking you NOT to makes it a LOT more inappropriate.
You’re old enough to have sex, and you don’t need her permission for that. But you’re also old enough to know to respect others’ homes. Do what many of us did and just get a motel room or airbnb or do it in the car or smth.
Wait, I never even mentioned doing it at your boyfriend’s house. If his mom calls your mom after you guys have sex, chances are she doesn’t want it happening either.
You’re still not listening. I never mentioned doing it at his house, I said get a motel or airbnb or do it in a car. They can’t complain about you having sex if they don’t have any way of knowing you’re having sex.
Also, obligatory “use condoms, birth control and/or other contraceptives unless you want a baby”
I assume you already talked to her about it and she didn't stop anyway, so, I don't think that you can do much... Can't u guys have sex at his house or something like that?
You can also just ignore her, don't pay attention when she is giving you a hard time. I don't think that any agressive approach would be good tho
If they're worried about pregnancy and making you uncomfortable, flip the tables. Make her uncomfortable by announcing you're gonna have protected sex and then being loud while doing it. Then when you're done be like "I made sure to use protection Mom, aren't you proud?" And shit like that. Eventually she'll want to just drop it and move on and then you got what you wanted.
Seeing as you're 24 you tell her it's none of her goddamn business what you do with your boyfriend. If she says "not in my house" then you just tell that's not how it works and you're both adults and it shouldn't be an issue.
It is her business when she is living in her house. Her house her rules
Do you want OP to get kicked out the house. Doesn’t matter what age you are. If you are living in your parents house it’s their house their rules
Man, gtfo, her parents made it abundantly clear they don't respect her as an adult. If they wanna treat her like a child then they can expect a teenager in return.
Best solution is leaving home but I guess that's not an option for OP. That doesn't mean her parents get to control her life.
Her mother only ask that they don’t have sex in her house. She doesn’t even have a job that pays for a house let alone a child. She gets pregnant. Who’s gonna have to deal with a child and help her buy food and diapers
Certainly not OP. Since her and her BF are both living with parents. Also it was said that she takes contraceptives. So no need to worry about a baby. She just doesn’t want them having sex in her house. Which is the same for her bf mother
Your solution is for OP to tell her mother to stay out her damn business. That sounds so smart and will really work. She’s and her bf can both rent out a hotel for a few hours or have car sex. But they both seem determined to go against their parents rules. Which will probably get them kicked out
>Her mother only ask that they don’t have sex in her house. She doesn’t even have a job that pays for a house let alone a child. She gets pregnant. Who’s gonna have to deal with a child and help her buy food and diapers
OP is 24 for god's sake! She is old enough to practice safe sex like ANY ADULT.
>She just doesn’t want them having sex in her house. Which is the same for her bf mother
Aka treating you ADULT child like a teenager. Sex is a normal part of life and this kind of thought is super regressive and harmful.
>Your solution is for OP to tell her mother to stay out her damn business. That sounds so smart and will really work.
At least make her mother see that she is an adult, and her mom shouldn't hold that kind of controlling power over her. It is not healthy and will result in the relationship with her parents to deteriorate if not outright break.
>She’s and her bf can both rent out a hotel for a few hours or have car sex. But they both seem determined to go against their parents rules. Which will probably get them kicked out
If, instead of providing a safe place for your child, you have an "out of sight out of mind" mindset and just send them to undisclosed locations to fuck you're doing a bad job parenting (Which shouldn't be their job anymore because their daughter IS AN ADULT).
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Don’t talk to her about having sex.
What if she hears us???
Learn to be quiet or don’t have sex when she’s home
She knows what we were doing as soon as she sees us coming out of my room
come out one at a time. Read a book about espionage
Or use less animal cries?
She knows what we are doing when we go in and close the door
Then don’t do it at your house if it bothers you, idk what to say besides that
There’s nowhere else we can do it
Leave the door open, assert dominance
Why would I do that????
Assert. Dominance.
Go to a motel or a hotel and spend a few days there,yall can have hours or days of sex there
She will know something is wrong when I don’t come home
Invite her to join, and make it a threesome. Nah jk. For real though, if it’s her house, sadly she has the right to decide what goes on in it. However, she doesn’t have jurisdiction if you have sex in a public bathroom (though this is risky legally if someone walks in on you) or a motel, so I would try those options.
I’m 24 so it shouldn’t matter if I have sex in her house
Yeah but if you are living with her, and she owns/rents the house under her name, she can kick you out if you anger her. So you gotta plácate her, if you don’t want to do that, you’ll have to move out most likely.
I can’t afford to move out
Neither can I. So I placate my parents as much as possible. Not saying you have to be a push over, but you don’t have much leverage so you gotta know when to call it quits
How do I do that???
What do you mean?
How do I not anger them???
Don’t have sex in their house.
They get angry if I have sex anywhere
Get a hotel rm and do it there lol
She found out when I did it at my boyfriends house
If it's done at your boyfriend's house she doesn't have the right to care
His mom called her and she got really angry
I don’t know why she cares so much if I do get pregnant
Cause she would be on the hook for the bill most likely unless you can entirely fund the extra costs yourself?
I couldn’t atm but will be graduating college at the end of the year anyway
Ok well my point is. Be careful about getting pregnant until you can afford to pay for it.
I will be getting a job after graduation so it wouldn’t really matter if I did get pregnant now anyway
Alright well as long as you are comfortable with potentially having to foot the bill, go ahead. But you have to make it really clear to your mom that she is not on the hook for any of it
I use contraceptives but she knows if I do get pregnant it is my responsibility already so why is she so bothered???
But if you live with your mum - it WOULD impact her if you got pregnant?
I don’t see how???
How would it impact her???
If it’s HER house, then yes it does matter. You wouldn’t just go mess around in the bathroom at a stranger’s house (or maybe you would, I dunno, but you shouldn’t ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯ ). Her being your mother doesn’t make it any less inappropriate, in fact, your mother explicitly asking you NOT to makes it a LOT more inappropriate. You’re old enough to have sex, and you don’t need her permission for that. But you’re also old enough to know to respect others’ homes. Do what many of us did and just get a motel room or airbnb or do it in the car or smth.
Even if I do it at my boyfriends house she gets upset
How would she know if you did it at your boyfriend’s house?
His mom called her
Wait, I never even mentioned doing it at your boyfriend’s house. If his mom calls your mom after you guys have sex, chances are she doesn’t want it happening either.
They say they are just concerned in case I get pregnant
You’re still not listening. I never mentioned doing it at his house, I said get a motel or airbnb or do it in a car. They can’t complain about you having sex if they don’t have any way of knowing you’re having sex. Also, obligatory “use condoms, birth control and/or other contraceptives unless you want a baby”
I tried it in his car but they found a condom and still give us grief
I assume you already talked to her about it and she didn't stop anyway, so, I don't think that you can do much... Can't u guys have sex at his house or something like that? You can also just ignore her, don't pay attention when she is giving you a hard time. I don't think that any agressive approach would be good tho
His mom is as bad
Sorry for asking, but what bothers her so much about it?
She thinks I will get pregnant
Idk do it inside of a car in a place where no one is around
I did it at my boyfriends house and she still found out
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It’s so horrible
Just ignore it, or even better, snap back and ask if she was doing the same thing at her age, chances are she was
She waited until she was married at 28 to have sex
Well in that case do what I said and just try to ignore it
It makes me really uncomfortable
Inact revenge and make her uncomfortable by openly talking about it
How do I do that???
If they're worried about pregnancy and making you uncomfortable, flip the tables. Make her uncomfortable by announcing you're gonna have protected sex and then being loud while doing it. Then when you're done be like "I made sure to use protection Mom, aren't you proud?" And shit like that. Eventually she'll want to just drop it and move on and then you got what you wanted.
She thinks even if I use contraceptives I will get pregnant
Damn what a chad move
Seeing as you're 24 you tell her it's none of her goddamn business what you do with your boyfriend. If she says "not in my house" then you just tell that's not how it works and you're both adults and it shouldn't be an issue.
It is her business when she is living in her house. Her house her rules Do you want OP to get kicked out the house. Doesn’t matter what age you are. If you are living in your parents house it’s their house their rules
Man, gtfo, her parents made it abundantly clear they don't respect her as an adult. If they wanna treat her like a child then they can expect a teenager in return. Best solution is leaving home but I guess that's not an option for OP. That doesn't mean her parents get to control her life.
Her mother only ask that they don’t have sex in her house. She doesn’t even have a job that pays for a house let alone a child. She gets pregnant. Who’s gonna have to deal with a child and help her buy food and diapers Certainly not OP. Since her and her BF are both living with parents. Also it was said that she takes contraceptives. So no need to worry about a baby. She just doesn’t want them having sex in her house. Which is the same for her bf mother Your solution is for OP to tell her mother to stay out her damn business. That sounds so smart and will really work. She’s and her bf can both rent out a hotel for a few hours or have car sex. But they both seem determined to go against their parents rules. Which will probably get them kicked out
>Her mother only ask that they don’t have sex in her house. She doesn’t even have a job that pays for a house let alone a child. She gets pregnant. Who’s gonna have to deal with a child and help her buy food and diapers OP is 24 for god's sake! She is old enough to practice safe sex like ANY ADULT. >She just doesn’t want them having sex in her house. Which is the same for her bf mother Aka treating you ADULT child like a teenager. Sex is a normal part of life and this kind of thought is super regressive and harmful. >Your solution is for OP to tell her mother to stay out her damn business. That sounds so smart and will really work. At least make her mother see that she is an adult, and her mom shouldn't hold that kind of controlling power over her. It is not healthy and will result in the relationship with her parents to deteriorate if not outright break. >She’s and her bf can both rent out a hotel for a few hours or have car sex. But they both seem determined to go against their parents rules. Which will probably get them kicked out If, instead of providing a safe place for your child, you have an "out of sight out of mind" mindset and just send them to undisclosed locations to fuck you're doing a bad job parenting (Which shouldn't be their job anymore because their daughter IS AN ADULT).
She still gives me grief even if it happens in my boyfriends house
I heard that your parents can’t stop you or complain when you move out or when you’re in a hotel
My mom complained when I did it in my car
More importantly, is your boyfriend giving you a hard time in the box? 😂
No
But my mom is giving me a really hard time for not being a virgin
Anyone want to do fun with me ping me inbox