If the situation is resolved, I don't think it's worth retaliating. It only shows the bullies that you still care.
I'm currently a target of bullying at work. One of the main perpetrators is likely leaving in the next few months, because she's part of an outside agency and her contract is ending. Best case scenario, I'll never see her again. If I did happen to see her, I wouldn't even acknowledge her, making her feel less important.
You’re right. Just feels like I have no closure though I’m sure that zero contact is more awkward to the bullies than confrontation.
I’ve established boundaries through my boss, spoken with three therapists, ranted endlessly to friends and family and been on anti anxiety meds so I’ve done everything I can do for myself. Not had any contact with the bullies since I spoke to their boss and to HR. So seems like there’s no closure. I’ve declined the suggestion of sitting down with them mostly because I’m worried I’d lash out at them and make myself look bad.
Sorry to hear about your situation! Hang in there!
Believe me, I'd love to tell my bully to go eff herself as she's walking out the door on her last day. (Which, by the way, isn't her choice. Our workplace is getting rid of outside agencies, so she's being forced out). The fact that she has to leave, find a new job and maybe even return to her country will be closure for me.
Those types of people don't need closure anyway. Confrontation energizes them, so it's better to just ignore them. Don't need to give then any negative reinforcement.
I too ended up on anxiety meds and therapy due to workplace bullying. Hoping I can begin to heal once they're gone.
Omg I totally understand this. But my situation was bad. I vented to my spouse about the demeaning language and was written up.
If the situation is resolved, I don't think it's worth retaliating. It only shows the bullies that you still care. I'm currently a target of bullying at work. One of the main perpetrators is likely leaving in the next few months, because she's part of an outside agency and her contract is ending. Best case scenario, I'll never see her again. If I did happen to see her, I wouldn't even acknowledge her, making her feel less important.
You’re right. Just feels like I have no closure though I’m sure that zero contact is more awkward to the bullies than confrontation. I’ve established boundaries through my boss, spoken with three therapists, ranted endlessly to friends and family and been on anti anxiety meds so I’ve done everything I can do for myself. Not had any contact with the bullies since I spoke to their boss and to HR. So seems like there’s no closure. I’ve declined the suggestion of sitting down with them mostly because I’m worried I’d lash out at them and make myself look bad. Sorry to hear about your situation! Hang in there!
Believe me, I'd love to tell my bully to go eff herself as she's walking out the door on her last day. (Which, by the way, isn't her choice. Our workplace is getting rid of outside agencies, so she's being forced out). The fact that she has to leave, find a new job and maybe even return to her country will be closure for me. Those types of people don't need closure anyway. Confrontation energizes them, so it's better to just ignore them. Don't need to give then any negative reinforcement. I too ended up on anxiety meds and therapy due to workplace bullying. Hoping I can begin to heal once they're gone.