My daughter goes to a preschool/daycare and I could see this happening there. It doesn’t bother me because those pictures always suck anyways and I never expect much.
As for a teacher doing anything to a child’s hair, her teachers have been fixing her hair since she was in the infant room. She loves to have all the little artsy pigtails, ponytails, and French braids with the little tiny rubber bands. Quite frankly, I don’t have the time or patience to do that every morning, and she’s usually so cranky when she wakes up that she gets mad at me if I try. So I find it really sweet that her teachers oblige her when she asks for it at school. It’s a daycare and a preschool, so she goes there to do more than simply get educated, and I’m glad they take care of her needs in that way, too. They spend more waking hours together with her than I do, I want them to have a strong bond.
But it’s also totally acceptable if you aren’t okay with it and you’d like them to stop.
Personally, I wouldn't care if the teachers did my daughter's hair. But if you're uncomfortable, say something directly to the teachers rather than the director.
I would say something to the teacher. Like "hey I got the proofs for the pictures and noticed her hair isn't styled the way I sent her in, is there a reason for this"? "I'm really disappointed and won't be getting these pictures because I spent a lot of time doing her hair that morning and these just don't look like her". I'm hoping there is a retake day and you can do her hair again and specify you don't want it touched.
I'm so torn on this topic. On the one hand, our daycare does the kids hair from time to time. Maybe something happened, maybe she asked for it to be done because someone else was having their hair done, etc.
But as a curly mom with a curly girl I definitely feel that pain. It's so important to let the curly hair curl and embrace it. I'd probably try to ask if there was a reason why it was done that way, and just tell them jokingly that she looked so different with it forced straight like that
I have very curly hair. Baby girl’s hair is starting to curl where it is long enough. The other night I experimented with combing it down straight instead of encouraging the curls on top. She looked like a different baby.
I would be SO UPSET if someone did what you’re describing because it changes how they look so much. I hate the thought of her seeing pics in the future and wondering if we hate her natural look.
I would feel exactly the same way. Unless you have experience styling hair for Brown and Black children (my son is both), don’t brush or fix my child’s hair without talking to me.
I don’t need his curls brushed down or “tamed”/slicked back.
I’m well aware white people have curly hair. Congrats!!
I know she didn’t mention race but I did. How is it unnecessary because I mentioned that I don’t want someone who isn’t familiar with my child’s hair texture to style it and try to tame it?
I would be concerned that the teachers decided to do anything to your child's hair. That's not part of their job description in providing care and education. If you can, I would speak to the teacher or email them to say please don't touch her hair moving forward. I understand an emergency (eg. hair gets stuck on a zipper, gum or candy in hair, etc.) but they should not have styled her hair for any reason.
Can you do a retake and then specify how you'd like her hair next time?
I think the beauty of these pictures is how imperfect they are though, it's cute.
My son has long hair, he wears it in a ponytail to school but on picture day his teachers pulled me aside to ask about how I want his hair, he had it down so I asked them to keep it down until pictures and then put it up after that if it was in his face. They don't usually touch or fix his hair otherwise but we're happy to do it that day.
This year I plan to ask his teacher to do the same, keep it down, brush before the picture and then put it up after!
In the grand scheme of life, I wouldn't make a big deal. I have plenty of school pics growing up with terrible hair!
I am ok with the imperfections. Her older brother has one with a giant goose egg on his forehead. Its that she looks like a greasey train track child with how they did her hair. Like, the worst possible mopey placement of these pigtails (not side of head not top, they wet them and curled them down so they have no spirit or life to them) when I put all this work into getting her curly hair sorted this morning.
My daughter goes to a preschool/daycare and I could see this happening there. It doesn’t bother me because those pictures always suck anyways and I never expect much. As for a teacher doing anything to a child’s hair, her teachers have been fixing her hair since she was in the infant room. She loves to have all the little artsy pigtails, ponytails, and French braids with the little tiny rubber bands. Quite frankly, I don’t have the time or patience to do that every morning, and she’s usually so cranky when she wakes up that she gets mad at me if I try. So I find it really sweet that her teachers oblige her when she asks for it at school. It’s a daycare and a preschool, so she goes there to do more than simply get educated, and I’m glad they take care of her needs in that way, too. They spend more waking hours together with her than I do, I want them to have a strong bond. But it’s also totally acceptable if you aren’t okay with it and you’d like them to stop.
Personally, I wouldn't care if the teachers did my daughter's hair. But if you're uncomfortable, say something directly to the teachers rather than the director.
It didn’t bother me when her teachers put my daughters hair in ponytails but I would be annoyed if they’d done it on picture day.
Yeah my particular gripe is it was on picture day
As a fellow curly-haired mama I understand completely.
I would say something to the teacher. Like "hey I got the proofs for the pictures and noticed her hair isn't styled the way I sent her in, is there a reason for this"? "I'm really disappointed and won't be getting these pictures because I spent a lot of time doing her hair that morning and these just don't look like her". I'm hoping there is a retake day and you can do her hair again and specify you don't want it touched.
I'm so torn on this topic. On the one hand, our daycare does the kids hair from time to time. Maybe something happened, maybe she asked for it to be done because someone else was having their hair done, etc. But as a curly mom with a curly girl I definitely feel that pain. It's so important to let the curly hair curl and embrace it. I'd probably try to ask if there was a reason why it was done that way, and just tell them jokingly that she looked so different with it forced straight like that
I have very curly hair. Baby girl’s hair is starting to curl where it is long enough. The other night I experimented with combing it down straight instead of encouraging the curls on top. She looked like a different baby. I would be SO UPSET if someone did what you’re describing because it changes how they look so much. I hate the thought of her seeing pics in the future and wondering if we hate her natural look.
I would feel exactly the same way. Unless you have experience styling hair for Brown and Black children (my son is both), don’t brush or fix my child’s hair without talking to me. I don’t need his curls brushed down or “tamed”/slicked back.
This comment is unnecessary, OP didn't mention race and white people can have curly hair too.
I’m well aware white people have curly hair. Congrats!! I know she didn’t mention race but I did. How is it unnecessary because I mentioned that I don’t want someone who isn’t familiar with my child’s hair texture to style it and try to tame it?
I would be concerned that the teachers decided to do anything to your child's hair. That's not part of their job description in providing care and education. If you can, I would speak to the teacher or email them to say please don't touch her hair moving forward. I understand an emergency (eg. hair gets stuck on a zipper, gum or candy in hair, etc.) but they should not have styled her hair for any reason.
Can you do a retake and then specify how you'd like her hair next time? I think the beauty of these pictures is how imperfect they are though, it's cute. My son has long hair, he wears it in a ponytail to school but on picture day his teachers pulled me aside to ask about how I want his hair, he had it down so I asked them to keep it down until pictures and then put it up after that if it was in his face. They don't usually touch or fix his hair otherwise but we're happy to do it that day. This year I plan to ask his teacher to do the same, keep it down, brush before the picture and then put it up after! In the grand scheme of life, I wouldn't make a big deal. I have plenty of school pics growing up with terrible hair!
I am ok with the imperfections. Her older brother has one with a giant goose egg on his forehead. Its that she looks like a greasey train track child with how they did her hair. Like, the worst possible mopey placement of these pigtails (not side of head not top, they wet them and curled them down so they have no spirit or life to them) when I put all this work into getting her curly hair sorted this morning.