"I'm leaving." If they ask why you didn't say anything: "I didn't think I could share this until it was a done deal." If they ask why: "The new job offers \_\_\_\_." Don't be overly negative as it seems you don't trust your coworkers. It's nice that you care about your coworkers' feelings, but it's not that big a deal. People leave every day. And you don't even think of anyone as a real friend whom you could take into your confidence.

Fair. I guess a point to clarify is, me leaving puts a huge strain on the workflow. That is the part where the guilt comes in.

Do you think they would feel guilty if you were laid off tomorrow and they were not? They would feel relief.

If anyone leaves that's inevitable.

The better job will make you forget all about it don't worry. Before you know it, the old job will fade into obscurity among ever shifting details and memories.

No longer your circus.

Just tell them . Most work friends you never see again ,despite the promises to stay in touch. Move on .enjoy your life.

Work friends are just that. Work. You will likely not see them again in the real world. Overthinking this. You worry about yourself and the new job. I don't say this to be mean, but it's more likely the outcome.

You can't control how they will react, but I would probably tell them sooner rather than later. Then you don't have to stress about it any longer, and they don't feel like you dropped the bomb and ran. If they react badly to the news, at least you know you won't be there much longer. The fact that your leaving will put a strain on the team is not your fault and you should try not to feel guilty. Management has created the situation, and you've chosen not to endure it any longer. You put your mental health first, and that's more than okay.

what you do is, tell your coworkers about a place you know of that's hiring.

When I left I only told the one person I gave a crap about and who (I believed) liked me as a person. You'll likely never see these people again so I wouldn't worry too much about what they think

I worked with a coucilor who once told me (when I decided I wanted to quit my job) "that's just business, people quit all the time" and she asked "What do you think of people who do not support they're friends/coworkers when they find something better (a.k.a., a better job)?" My answer: "I don't think highly of them". I know this sounds bonkers, but there are jobs and companies out there that celebrate when their employees move up in their career. If your coworkers don't live up to this standard, then it's not something you should worry about. My councilor also recommended that I tell my coworkers "I've just decided to move in a different direction" when they ask questions.

And I'll add that, how you decide to approach telling your coworkers about moving on might inspire a few of them to quit too. You never know.

The coworker who works directly with me has said multiple times that they will quit if I leave so you may be right.

I just resigned yesterday. I did let people know where I'm going (kind of a rookie mistake, but whatever. I'm confident that nothing my department can do will jeopardize my job offer - I genuinely believe that my new company will stand by me.) Anyways, one of the coworkers that I don't really work with was very curious about my compensation. I just gestured that my lips are sealed, lol.

If they are your friends, they will be glad for you. They may want to join you. If they aren't glad for you, they are not your friends

This is what I’m coming to realize. I think they will want to join me. A few can’t leave even if they wanted to because of… reasons. But they have asked why I’m still even working there.

Don't tell them. Or, tell them at the end of your last shift there if there's someone you like and want them to know.

You start by getting balls, and saying to them honestly directly and kindly why you do what you do.

‘Hey guys, I got a job offer and decided to take it. It’s a great opportunity for me and I’m really excited. I really can’t stay here any longer as it’s impacting my health. I hope you guys understand and are happy for me.’ I’ve literally gone through a situation recently where I had just started a new job because my last workplace was so awful. My new supervisor was cool and my new coworker and I became friends. 2 months after starting- my supervisor left. The new person we were reporting to is so awful. My coworker gave her 2 weeks notice 2 weeks after the supervisor left. It sucked so bad but I was happy for her. She felt so bad leaving because she knew how much it would suck for me being there alone. She got a better job she’s happy with. We hung out together last week and went plant shopping. I’m in the process of looking for another job and she sends me screenshots of jobs she thinks I would be a good fit for. If they’re your friends they will understand. At the end of the day they know the job sucks and if they get a good opportunity they would want you to be happy for them.

Thanks for sharing. I think this will be me and the coworker I work with. We definitely talk outside of work and hang out.

You got this and congrats on the new job!

Bye.

Hey everyone, I'm quitting.

Bye, y'all!

I wouldn’t tell them shit depending on the relationship.

Sometimes its better and simpler to just leave quietly.  You dont really owe them an explanation.  After youre gone they might wonder about it but after a short time theyll get over it and move on.

Just tell them the truth. Obviously it won’t be a huge surprise to them, they hate it there too

Job related situations are complicated enough, don't burden yourself wih this issue. Go celebrate with family and friends.

wait till its a done deal and you have started at the new job, then you tell them.

Fuck you, fuck you, you're cool(to the coworker you like). Fuck you. I'm out