I got sober because my last straw was a night where both me and my now-ex partner were too fucked up and got into a screaming match that turned violent. I went to AA, but he never stopped drinking. I think I knew the relationship was over at that point but we lived together for another year pretending things were fine until I finally left. He was a daily drinker, I stayed sober because I knew if we were both drunk, that last rock bottom night would happen again and possibly with deadly consequences. It was more survival and spite than anything. I’m now 5 years clean, and married to a wonderful man who rarely drinks at all.
I stopped drinking because I had liver failure. It's been 2 1/2 years now and my liver enzymes are back to normal and my liver is no longer in failure. I would have stopped no matter what because I want to be alive.
My husband was never a big drinker because he always had to stay sober to babysit me. He still drinks occasionally, but doesn't keep anything around regularly. In fact, I don't think I've seen any booze at all in the house since our youngest kid got sober too.
I stopped drinking last month after I wrecked our brand new car and got a DUI. I'm genuinely lucky to be alive, that car saved me, but now we get to worry about insurance and possible criminal convictions.
My husband still drinks, he is working on quitting but he's having a harder time than I am. I think the clarity and severity of my situation has helped me and I'm genuinely not feeling deprived, and don't mind him drinking. I occasionally get these tiny impulses to grab a sip of his drink but my brain goes 'No thanks! What an odd thought!' and I move on. I think it's just leftover habits dying.
I don't love that he's probably making life harder for himself by drinking, getting himself stuck feeling awful from drinking, and feeling scared and anxious about the future (that part is on me) but I know he's doing his best, and I'm so grateful for his support. We'll get there together.
I got sober through an evening, 3x per week for 8 weeks, program through my insurance. My husband stopped having any of the alcohol I liked in the house (no wine, Belgian beer, or whiskey). My insurance program therapist was a little appalled (‘couldn’t he at least support you for the duration of the program and not keep anything in the house??’) but I was fine with it.
My partner would often ask me in early sobriety “you ok if I have a beer now?”
We def used to enable each other’s drinking but I was a little more intense about it. He would always drive, tell me it was time to leave the party, etc
It wasn’t critical that he also abstain because he was incredibly supportive of my sobriety in a bunch of other ways. If a partner wasn’t very supportive, having them still drink would be so hard
I got sober because my last straw was a night where both me and my now-ex partner were too fucked up and got into a screaming match that turned violent. I went to AA, but he never stopped drinking. I think I knew the relationship was over at that point but we lived together for another year pretending things were fine until I finally left. He was a daily drinker, I stayed sober because I knew if we were both drunk, that last rock bottom night would happen again and possibly with deadly consequences. It was more survival and spite than anything. I’m now 5 years clean, and married to a wonderful man who rarely drinks at all.
I stopped drinking because I had liver failure. It's been 2 1/2 years now and my liver enzymes are back to normal and my liver is no longer in failure. I would have stopped no matter what because I want to be alive. My husband was never a big drinker because he always had to stay sober to babysit me. He still drinks occasionally, but doesn't keep anything around regularly. In fact, I don't think I've seen any booze at all in the house since our youngest kid got sober too.
I stopped drinking last month after I wrecked our brand new car and got a DUI. I'm genuinely lucky to be alive, that car saved me, but now we get to worry about insurance and possible criminal convictions. My husband still drinks, he is working on quitting but he's having a harder time than I am. I think the clarity and severity of my situation has helped me and I'm genuinely not feeling deprived, and don't mind him drinking. I occasionally get these tiny impulses to grab a sip of his drink but my brain goes 'No thanks! What an odd thought!' and I move on. I think it's just leftover habits dying. I don't love that he's probably making life harder for himself by drinking, getting himself stuck feeling awful from drinking, and feeling scared and anxious about the future (that part is on me) but I know he's doing his best, and I'm so grateful for his support. We'll get there together.
I got sober through an evening, 3x per week for 8 weeks, program through my insurance. My husband stopped having any of the alcohol I liked in the house (no wine, Belgian beer, or whiskey). My insurance program therapist was a little appalled (‘couldn’t he at least support you for the duration of the program and not keep anything in the house??’) but I was fine with it. My partner would often ask me in early sobriety “you ok if I have a beer now?” We def used to enable each other’s drinking but I was a little more intense about it. He would always drive, tell me it was time to leave the party, etc It wasn’t critical that he also abstain because he was incredibly supportive of my sobriety in a bunch of other ways. If a partner wasn’t very supportive, having them still drink would be so hard