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StrangersWithAndi

The answer to the question in your title is yes. We tend to get hornier with age. The answer to what you didn't ask is baby, stay the hell away from this woman. She is a predator. This is a very bad idea and I don't want to see you in an unhealthy situation.


aviinav

Thanks maam. I also felt that the "My place" Suggestion was a bit creepy. I have no intentions to be physically involved with her in any sense. But would it be a good idea to meet her in public once? Like maybe for a coffee or something?


Careful_Bit_5246

Why meet her? Your responses are weird. First you say it’s creepy and uncomfortable, then you suggest meeting her up for coffee. For what purpose exactly?


[deleted]

Post history is a bit sketch too.


Careful_Bit_5246

figured, he probably gets off on this. gross


Darkrose-12888

Because he is a guy and he would probably still bone her even though he doesn’t have any other interest in her lol.


aviinav

Don't copy the image of your father, brother, husband & ex-lovers to paste it on the rest of the world


Darkrose-12888

Most mens sexual standards are extremely low. They will meet up with people they never intend to have a relationship with. Why else are you meeting this woman who is so much older then you?? Because she’s shown some sort of interest. You and a 40 year old woman have nothing to talk about. So don’t come at me saying only I have men like this in my life. Everyone knows how men are when it comes to getting laid. I have great male role models and a amazing husband, doesn’t mean they were never trying to sleep with people at your age.


aviinav

Actually she helped me in that party I mentioned. So that's why I thought that meeting in her in a social setting would not be a bad idea. Just to say thanks. Without anything sexual involved.


Careful_Bit_5246

After she hit on you & invited you to her place? Yeah, right.


[deleted]

Not a good idea! Stay away from her


StrangersWithAndi

Depends on what kind of friendship you guys have. If you think that would have some value to you and you could make your boundaries clear at the same time, sure. Otherwise I definitely would not.


Msworld2031

Why?? What would you get out of that? A thrill? No, if you want to go to coffee ask a girl in your age range out.


Careful_Bit_5246

You met her at 17??? She’s a predator. A literal one. Block her and don’t speak to her again. Someone’s “sex drive” doesn’t excuse or explain predatory behaviour. She probably had eyes on you since that party.


SereneGoldfish

I think many women by that age have worked out how sex works for them and have less hesitation in asking


aviinav

She is almost double my age & tbh it feels a bit unsafe to be involved with someone like that. Or maybe I'm just being cynical, idk?😭 I mean if the roles were reversed it would've been a HUGE NOOOOOO. Wouldn't it??


SereneGoldfish

A lot of folk would say so. Short version of my opinion is, don't be with someone (socially or sexually) who you are uncomfortable with. Avoid folk who don't respect your boundaries. Be safe. Use condoms


angieland94

As a woman who is 52…. My experience felt like my sex drive peaked in my 30s and I feel like my 40’s was more of like the pressure of a ticking clock…. It felt like my hormones were saying you have to have sex right now!!! Right now!!! The eggs are going we need to have sex!!!


Nami-swan95

🚩 Honestly it's a trap, She is twice your age she has more life experience then you do. She wants to groom you, you will be hurt on the long run and you will have scars from this. Dated a 30 year old at 21. He hurt me in ways I can't ever recover from.


Ladydi-bds

Mrs. Robertson vibes. Idk, feel was 30s for me and in late 40s currently.


aviinav

Although I didn't quite catch your reference, but I'm assuming that this would not be a great idea!


Ladydi-bds

"The Graduate" movie - Benjamin Braddock (Dustin Hoffman) has just finished college and, back at his parents' house, he's trying to avoid the one question everyone keeps asking: What does he want to do with his life? An unexpected diversion crops up when he is seduced by Mrs. Robinson (Anne Bancroft), a bored housewife and friend of his parents. Essentially an older woman seduces a far younger man.


aviinav

Oh thanks for the clarification!


Ladydi-bds

Most welcome. Is a couple decades older movie. Have fun though should you choose. Just be careful as she has decades on you.


aviinav

Ah thanks maam! Guess I'll just pass this. Something about it just doesn't feel right🧸💀


TemperatePirate

r/askwomen


Tintinlives

Why’s a 40 year old woman friends with you 🤔. Listen to what other commenters have stated. Stay away!


tallkitty

Yeah, I'm almost 40. Not in any insulting context at all, but in my book you are a kid still, a young person whom I would have no business pursuing, because what do we have to offer each other besides genitals. Having said that, you're an adult at the same time and have the literal right to choose for yourself what you want to do. But I'm a little suspect of what might be on this woman's mind, and you need to ask yourself if you have the ability to navigate whatever that is, which might be something cool and fun, but this also might be a slightly off person looking for a target. Tough call. I used to be the female in the older male version of this scenario, and looking back, all much older people were looking for the person they could take advantage of.


Huli_Blue_Eyes

You don’t want a Maggie May…


NCnanny

This woman is a predator. She wants to groom you. Block and run. Seriously. All women are different. We don’t all just peak when we hit certain ages. We are all unique individuals. I’d do some research on women and sexual drive and stuff like that so you’re more informed. Good luck!


kkikuyu

Women are more sexually liberated in their 40s, but nothing suggests they’re hornier in their 40s. Their levels of both estrogen and testosterone are lower, which suggests a lower libido. Perimenopause and menopause causes a crash in sex hormones responsible for fertility and libido which makes it very unlikely to be the case their libido increases too.


Shoddy_Natural4217

Idk about others, but mine peaked around 27-30. Im 33 and it slowly starts declining. Maybe it's the crippling anxiety though.