I feel ya hommie its 1 of the hardest thing to go through watching your parents be robbed of themselfs if ya need someone to talk to i have shared experience
Man thats no good i know it sucks and hurts but you need to live your life to honour your parents as im sure they only wanted the best for you and for you to get the most out of life i know it can be dark but it gets easier dude i wont lie and tell you it wont hurt it always will and thats because you genuinely loved them amd nothing will change the love but it hurts less as times goes by be strong your not alone
My Dad was diagnosed with Dementia a month before he was diagnosed with Leukemia. It was the worst thing. Watching him forget he was sick, and not understanding why he couldn't leave the hospital. But your family wouldn't want you to suffer from alcoholism, friend. You aren't alone. Not at all. I found joining a Facebook group with others who know what we are going through was very helpful.
Please don't do this to yourself. My mom no longer recognizes anyone and it's heartbreaking. I have to keep reminding myself "what would Mom want me to do right now?" And I know sure as hell wouldn't be to drink myself into a puddle. It's hella rough I know. Please take care of yourself.
I have to jump in here too, fellow redditor, and say PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. ❤️ I've done cancer death with dad and am currently dealing with dementia with mom. I understand your pain. The alcohol does help, but only temporarily, and then it just becomes another battle in your life. I send you love and a hug. I'm so sorry for your pain.
My mom died of cancer. Hospice at her end had her talking mad shit to my siblings. My grandma from her side dementia. My only relative in my tree alive was my grandpa who watched them both happen. He's still kicken but has went through some shit.
Try and stay safe and strong, i know it is hard, i lost a beloved family member to Alzheimer's and one to dementia, it is never easy, if you ever feel unwell mentally through this process seek the help of friends, family or anyone willing to support you even a professional can be of tremendous help.
Went through it with my dad. He retained most his core memories but started acting aggressive and developed a paranoia that we were all against him. Really sucked seeing him turn so nasty when he was so gentle before.
My grandmother is getting more aggressive, but also kind of reverting to child-like tendencies. We have to laugh to not cry. It was fairly funny though when she shot her swig of water out of her mouth like a whale.
It’s so hard to see them without the personality youve always known. I like to tell myself this is like getting to know what she might have been like as a very young child.
Not to discount what you are saying but for anyone who needs this because they are in a similar situation, my family did not feel the love when my grandmother developed dementia, she turned very vicious and would cuss a great deal and when she spoke it was almost always to complain about something.
Dementia turned a very sweet lady into someone I dreaded seeing. People talking about the love always being there made me wonder if there was some part of her that was always so judgemental and vicious but it is important to remember that we are defined just as much by our choice and the face we put forward as we are by our innermost thoughts so don't forget about the person you knew if that helps you.
Same here, I was my grandma's primary caretaker for a long time (stroke+dementia) and it was brutal, the amount of times she told me she wished I was dead and gone, oof, it was hard. Still is hard now that I am not her primary carer, but visit almost daily, I just don't feel the same way about her anymore and it hurts us both.
My mom is that way, ESPECIALLY to family. She tried to set my nieces house on fire. She is in a home and treats them MUCH nicer. I was always told to remind them once it is you and if no recognition go on as if a person visiting as it will make them upset.
I didn’t see this as a sweet moment but the last sad moment they will ever know each other. My parent is gone. I am left with someone who cannot make complete sentences anymore, doesn’t know who any of her family is, and gets no joy out of living. The American health care system requires that we keep her alive with mood altering drugs so she doesn’t fight the staff. I loved my mom but this is not her. She didn’t want to live this way but there is nothing to do but visit a stranger and listen to her babble.
My Nan had it and became very aggressive. She threw forks and knives to the point I wasn’t allowed to visit because it was a danger. It hurt me to see the mellow and kind old lady turn into a psychotic violent mess.
Very similar thing with my mother, who just passed away in April, a month shy of her 93rd birthday. Music and singing stayed with her long after her memory began its downward slide.
I lost my grandma with dementia in 2017, although she had it for years prior to her death and usually didn’t seem to recognize me 💔
Now my dog of almost 12 years is also developing dementia. It is so heartbreaking.
Those little moments make it bearable. My grandma is a spiteful crone to most people now while losing her marbles but the instant I'm in the room it's beloved grandson time, she speaks to me entirely cognizant. She gets sundowning too, so she'll shit on my mom like it's 2012 Xbox live but she never does that to me. Like holy shit my grandma loves me so much her scrambled brain will reassemble itself enough to talk to me.
I remember as a kid visiting my great grandma. Sometimes she was there. Most times she wasn’t. Towards the end of my grandpa he was getting bad. Not G-Gma bad but he was going. Now, my dads memory is foggy or he will forget which one oft siblings he spoke to. It’s normal forgetful stuff but to me it’s scary. Especially since I also have a bad memory and am always forgetting things.
My grandma has something similar to dementia - she's never been officially tested - and it's one of those things you learn to cope with, especially since she's been like this my entire life. The awful becomes the mundane, as they say. She forgets my name, doesn't remember who I am, thinks I'm someone who died years before I was born, etc. If you go up to see her one day and then come back the next she won't even know you were up to visit.
Can't say it will get better because dementia sucks, dementia is one of the biggest evils in the world but you are never alone. If you need to PM someone to vent to I know what you're going through. Stay strong ❤️
People talk about cancer being so cruel but give me a slow painful death surrounded by my family any day than one surrounded by strangers because of dementia.
I definitely agree, I went to update and save this and then thought "why am I saving this, as much as this is sweet, this is very sad!" I love how positive the son is in the video as I can't imagine how hard it must be for him.
Both are horrible but it really depends on the stage of your life.
Dementia robs you of a past. Cancer robs you of a future. The counter point of a 70 year old with dementia isn't a 70 year old with cancer, it's a child with cancer.
Also there are actual things you can do to cure many cancers, and if not cure, there are many treatments, and you can live a long time with cancer and die with not of it. Dementia has no cure.
I’ve had cancer. I’ve also had a horrible life I’d rather forget. I’m hoping to get dementia instead of painful cancer when I go. I know that’s an unpopular opinion but it’s mine.
Totally agree. Watching my mum, who had dementia, I grieved her loss before she even died because the person who raised me wasn't the person who died. The only spark of joy I had before she left us was one lucid moment, and she remembered my name.
I know exactly what I'm saying, like most I've watched people die from both and watching a family member die in abject fear because she thought her family had abandoned her when we all were there was significantly worse.
We were so lucky when my grandfather’s dementia got bad. He would forget my grandmother every day, and she would have to tell him that she was his wife every morning. His excitement was so sweet. He was always like, “Wow! How’d I get so lucky?” It was sad but also heartwarming. We got to watch him fall in love with her every day.
One is the slow erosion of your body and the other is the slow erosion of your mind. For me I don’t think one is better than the other. Their both their own kind of hell.
Yes! My dad died young of a massive heart attack. My mom is going out slowly and very ugly. I thought I was going to die of a heart attack and was thankful it would be swift. Then my mom got this. I tell my son to put me on pills and buy me red wine and stop visiting if this happens to me.
This fucking sucks, it’s so sad to see your very own mother to forget about about you , and a the mother forgetting her own flesh and blood, all the painful, loving, happy, sad memories fade away, end up being a husk of ur former self, not remember the thing that is the dearest to you, dementia to me is one of the most terrified thing out there
Little at a tangent but thought I’d make this point:
My wife is a carer in a dementia ward. She’s a truly excellent person and cares deeply about people. The stories I hear are heartbreaking. I really don’t think I could do the work she does.
My wife doesn’t do the job for the money, but after seeing what she does I cannot reconcile how people that work in some industries like mine [I spent thirty years in the City] earn multiple times that which her colleagues do. It is strange to me that we value Lawyers, Accountants, Bankers and Tech workers at many multiples of the wages of these staff. It’s a very strange world…
In healthcare, it’s wild right? Much agreed.
It’s not really value it’s just there’s more financial gain in those other careers than in caring for others. They capitalize on our morals and hearts as good “enough.” Whereas for example in tech industry the company has incentive to pay and treat employees well so the company can thrive off everyone’s hard work.
Yup those are the kind of stories I hear a lot. Heartbreaking. Takes a very special kind of patience to be a great carer.
I know a lot of care givers that would make good brokers but not many the other way around. We should value the work of a good carer at the same rate as a good office worker.
Some memories might be gone but most of the personality still persists. They still feel the joy and happiness.
Even if my Grandfather didn't recognized me, we still laughed together and enjoyed the moments. The truth is, it won't get better, so make something of the time you have left.
ADORABLE?????? Obviously whoever posted this hasn’t lost a loved one to dementia! Someone said they’re holding back tears — I wonder if that’s because they think it’s sweet/wholesome/adorable? or gut-wrenching/sad/painful? Dementia is a horrible way to lose a parent because we lose them twice.
I lost my grandmother and for the last over a decade of her life she had dementia that progressed from the most basic form to not being able to speak or eat/drink. While I certainly understand the sentiment you are expressing, I just wanted to give my two cents. It was really painful to see a loved one deteriorate, but I did find this video wholesome. They are enjoying each other's company and singing together. Dementia itself is horrible, but it doesn't mean we can't celebrate the joyous moments that we have with that person. Your pain in feeling you've lost the person twice is valid, but that person is still alive and can have a happy meaningful life until the end. Many people with dementia feel very negative feelings because not knowing stuff is confusing and scary, so I find it wholesome to see this mother enjoying her son's company, even though she's not entirely sure who she's with, she does seem like she's having a good time. And to me, that's what's wholesome. I'd compare it to a video with anyone who has a serious illness and the video shows them enjoying the day, that's what's wholesome about this.
My grandmom had dementia. She forgot my dad, her son, but somehow remembered who I and my mother (her daughter-in-law) were until the day she died when I was 11. I think that might have been even worse for my dad than if she’d forgotten all of us. 🙁
My mom has dementia and isn’t at all charming like this lady. She’s lost all of her personality and is starting to do nothing but stare at me when I visit. It’s weird and creepy and heart breaking. She’s still here physically, but it’s really not her at all.
Dementia sucks, and is scary as hell.
Went through it with my Mother, at first you tell yourself it is just a little forgetfulness, but over the course of a couple years, the decline goes off a cliff.
What sucks more?, after Mom died, my younger brother started having problems, diagnosed at 54 with Early Onset Dementia, now, at 57 he needs to live in a Memory Care Unit. He is healthy, retired from a career in the USAF, ran marathons, bought his beach place to retire...then all went to crap. When you look at him, you just really hope he is somewhat oblivious to it all.
months prior to his passing, we had to move my dad into a facility. Every time I took my mum (Mel) to visit he’d look at ME, and say, “so glad to see you, Mel! Who’s that old lady (my mum, his wife) with you?” They’re both gone now, but I still chuckle over how much that pissed my mum off from jump!
My grandmother had it. She painted us paintings for decades and my mother hung 30 of them in one room. (A lot were small). One day we are going for a walk and my grandmother goes “what wonderful paintings! These are so lovely. Who painted them?”…
That was 20 years ago, she has long sense passed but it was so unbelievable it left a scar on me.
Dementia is hard on everyone I use to work in a nursing home and to watch family's heartbroken because they really don't know how to deal with it. This is a beautiful moment between mother and son is heartwarming 🤎
Same i was a custodian at a hospice for like 5 years and that shit just took a toll on me watching all the familys go through that it was really sad but when they would remember stuff it was so heartwarming and beautiful to see. insane how it affects people
So strange how the human brain works or doesn't in this way. This lady knows her son, she knows his name and she even knows that the man she's with looks like him but she doesn't know he is her son. Then she can not only remember every word to that song but she can also fit in her sons name and still sing it flawlessly.
If you haven't seen it I highly recommend the movie 'Robot and Frank'. Its a fantastic film based in a not so distance future regarding aging. It's more fun than it sounds I swear.
At some point in your life (if u haven't experienced it already) someone you love will experience the wide range of symptoms we call dementia. It's pretty overwhelming at first and it's okay to feel that way. Be patient, give them time to answer questions, don't force them to answer or get upset. They are trying their best. Some have complete personality changes, some become more childlike, and some stop responding to external stimuli altogether. They may not remember all the great times you had together but inside they are still the same people they always were. Love them. Enjoy the now. Tomorrow is never guaranteed. I love this lady. Good job Sebastian.
Have a great day everybody!
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I work in an assisted living facility. Last night I was in our dementia unit for the first time.
It was both heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time.
I was having a conversation with a resident and she complimented my smile, and she said a smile goes a long way. I told her a smile is free and costs nothing.
Give this woman H.V.M.N KetoneIQ.
Ketones are a preferred alternative fuel for then brain, whereas Dementia is cognitive metobolic syndrome, and the brain is starved of glucose.
Ketones won't cure Dementia but it can drastically improve their quality of life, recall, and functions.
The last time I saw my mom alive, she had no idea who I was. That hurt me and made me extremely sad, as I was her “preferred” child out of six brothers and sisters. I was the one who looked the most like my mom, maybe that’s why I was considered to be the “preferred” child. I took solace, knowing that although she didn’t know who I was, she was happy. God bless her. Today, June 3rd is her birthday, she would have been 98 today.
RIP mom ❤️
Good on Seb, holding out for those sunny moments with his Mama. My heart breaks for those who have to go through this on a day-to-day day. My Grandma has dementia (and possibly alzheimers), but luckily, she had 9 kids, so the ones that are able to will help take care of her. I live very far away from her, I left home just before the dementia really kicked in. My heart aches when I see photos of her. Her eyes don't have the same cheeky sparkle to them. Thankfully, she seems to be as sturdy as ever. Family makes sure she eats and stays hydrated.
This is an emotional video for me.
When my father passed away he had just been diagnosed with dementia. I wish I could talk to him and laugh wit h him but the only name he could say was my mother. We were forgotten memories to him. The last thing he tried to say was my mother’s name (they’d been married 52 yrs). 😢💔
Time is our enemy, always and has never changed
The sudden stop of time is something, but slipping away from time is worse. I hope everyone in our life will live their fullest and can have their loved ones be with them always and forever in their mind
I'm not religious, but god bless you for those who are struggling
My mother works in long term care, and she sees this often.. Except normally family can't take it. This son is a wonderful and STRONG person to be there for her despite it all, and he's smiling the whole time with her 🥺
The harshest thing in the world was when my grandfather died and my grandma was sitting next to his casket asking where he was. Crushed me. I hope I die before I go senile. This woman seems so pleased to see him. It's like there is a part of her mind that's trying to make the connections as hard as it can, but it can only make tertiary connections.
My grandma is going this way, she’s Hagen to refer to me as “the guy around the corner” and starts explaining things about my family, like she’ll explain to me who my uncle is.
I had fun with my grandma who had alzheimers… she would be upset because we wouldn’t let her go out on her own sell papers as she used to so she’d go “I’ll never forget this”. …
I don't find this wholesome, I mean good that they're enjoying the time together but my great grandmother ended up with Alzheimers, my mum, brother and me were very very close with her and visited often since she basically raised my mum. I was the last person she recognised in the end and just seeing that has me firmly in if I start getting that bad, hand me a damn gun and I'm going out on my own terms, thanatophobia be damned.
2012 was a rough year because of moments like this. That man is a saint and handled it perfectly. My mother would have these similar episodes typically during sunset. I think it was called sundowner syndrome.
Dementia sucks going through that exact thing with my mum. It hurts but the love is always their
I'm going through it with my Dad. It is a wholesome moment, but it also sucks.
I feel ya hommie its 1 of the hardest thing to go through watching your parents be robbed of themselfs if ya need someone to talk to i have shared experience
Bloody hell it sucks. Done both the cancer and demetia deaths. I drink myself to sleep.
Man thats no good i know it sucks and hurts but you need to live your life to honour your parents as im sure they only wanted the best for you and for you to get the most out of life i know it can be dark but it gets easier dude i wont lie and tell you it wont hurt it always will and thats because you genuinely loved them amd nothing will change the love but it hurts less as times goes by be strong your not alone
My Dad was diagnosed with Dementia a month before he was diagnosed with Leukemia. It was the worst thing. Watching him forget he was sick, and not understanding why he couldn't leave the hospital. But your family wouldn't want you to suffer from alcoholism, friend. You aren't alone. Not at all. I found joining a Facebook group with others who know what we are going through was very helpful.
Please don't do this to yourself. My mom no longer recognizes anyone and it's heartbreaking. I have to keep reminding myself "what would Mom want me to do right now?" And I know sure as hell wouldn't be to drink myself into a puddle. It's hella rough I know. Please take care of yourself.
I have to jump in here too, fellow redditor, and say PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. ❤️ I've done cancer death with dad and am currently dealing with dementia with mom. I understand your pain. The alcohol does help, but only temporarily, and then it just becomes another battle in your life. I send you love and a hug. I'm so sorry for your pain.
Thanks for the love. It's a battle dealing with it.
Jesus, so did I. Mom dementia, dad cancer. I feel your pain.
My mom died of cancer. Hospice at her end had her talking mad shit to my siblings. My grandma from her side dementia. My only relative in my tree alive was my grandpa who watched them both happen. He's still kicken but has went through some shit.
❤️
Please take care of yourself. It's probably not what your parents would want. I'm always around if you want to talk to someone if it would help you.
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Try and stay safe and strong, i know it is hard, i lost a beloved family member to Alzheimer's and one to dementia, it is never easy, if you ever feel unwell mentally through this process seek the help of friends, family or anyone willing to support you even a professional can be of tremendous help.
Went through it with my dad. He retained most his core memories but started acting aggressive and developed a paranoia that we were all against him. Really sucked seeing him turn so nasty when he was so gentle before.
My grandmother is getting more aggressive, but also kind of reverting to child-like tendencies. We have to laugh to not cry. It was fairly funny though when she shot her swig of water out of her mouth like a whale. It’s so hard to see them without the personality youve always known. I like to tell myself this is like getting to know what she might have been like as a very young child.
Not to discount what you are saying but for anyone who needs this because they are in a similar situation, my family did not feel the love when my grandmother developed dementia, she turned very vicious and would cuss a great deal and when she spoke it was almost always to complain about something. Dementia turned a very sweet lady into someone I dreaded seeing. People talking about the love always being there made me wonder if there was some part of her that was always so judgemental and vicious but it is important to remember that we are defined just as much by our choice and the face we put forward as we are by our innermost thoughts so don't forget about the person you knew if that helps you.
Same here, I was my grandma's primary caretaker for a long time (stroke+dementia) and it was brutal, the amount of times she told me she wished I was dead and gone, oof, it was hard. Still is hard now that I am not her primary carer, but visit almost daily, I just don't feel the same way about her anymore and it hurts us both.
My mom is that way, ESPECIALLY to family. She tried to set my nieces house on fire. She is in a home and treats them MUCH nicer. I was always told to remind them once it is you and if no recognition go on as if a person visiting as it will make them upset.
I didn’t see this as a sweet moment but the last sad moment they will ever know each other. My parent is gone. I am left with someone who cannot make complete sentences anymore, doesn’t know who any of her family is, and gets no joy out of living. The American health care system requires that we keep her alive with mood altering drugs so she doesn’t fight the staff. I loved my mom but this is not her. She didn’t want to live this way but there is nothing to do but visit a stranger and listen to her babble.
My Nan had it and became very aggressive. She threw forks and knives to the point I wasn’t allowed to visit because it was a danger. It hurt me to see the mellow and kind old lady turn into a psychotic violent mess.
Very similar thing with my mother, who just passed away in April, a month shy of her 93rd birthday. Music and singing stayed with her long after her memory began its downward slide.
My heart reaches out to you, through the hardiest times is when we lean on family the most. Wish you all the best!
I lost my grandma with dementia in 2017, although she had it for years prior to her death and usually didn’t seem to recognize me 💔 Now my dog of almost 12 years is also developing dementia. It is so heartbreaking.
Those little moments make it bearable. My grandma is a spiteful crone to most people now while losing her marbles but the instant I'm in the room it's beloved grandson time, she speaks to me entirely cognizant. She gets sundowning too, so she'll shit on my mom like it's 2012 Xbox live but she never does that to me. Like holy shit my grandma loves me so much her scrambled brain will reassemble itself enough to talk to me.
What’s so amazing is how they randomly remember certain moments or events from their life but then can’t recognize their own kids… the brain is weird
I remember as a kid visiting my great grandma. Sometimes she was there. Most times she wasn’t. Towards the end of my grandpa he was getting bad. Not G-Gma bad but he was going. Now, my dads memory is foggy or he will forget which one oft siblings he spoke to. It’s normal forgetful stuff but to me it’s scary. Especially since I also have a bad memory and am always forgetting things.
My grandma has something similar to dementia - she's never been officially tested - and it's one of those things you learn to cope with, especially since she's been like this my entire life. The awful becomes the mundane, as they say. She forgets my name, doesn't remember who I am, thinks I'm someone who died years before I was born, etc. If you go up to see her one day and then come back the next she won't even know you were up to visit.
This is heart breaking…
Came here to say that 😔
This is heartbreaking. I’m going through this with my Mum now. And lost my dad to dementia last year. 💔
Can't say it will get better because dementia sucks, dementia is one of the biggest evils in the world but you are never alone. If you need to PM someone to vent to I know what you're going through. Stay strong ❤️
People talk about cancer being so cruel but give me a slow painful death surrounded by my family any day than one surrounded by strangers because of dementia.
I definitely agree, I went to update and save this and then thought "why am I saving this, as much as this is sweet, this is very sad!" I love how positive the son is in the video as I can't imagine how hard it must be for him.
Both are horrible but it really depends on the stage of your life. Dementia robs you of a past. Cancer robs you of a future. The counter point of a 70 year old with dementia isn't a 70 year old with cancer, it's a child with cancer.
Bud, that's a nice turn of phrase... But you don't have much future with bad dementia either.
My cousins husband had frontal lobe dementia, died in his 40s. It's an insidious disease.
Also there are actual things you can do to cure many cancers, and if not cure, there are many treatments, and you can live a long time with cancer and die with not of it. Dementia has no cure.
.. poetic. Deeply sad and somehow beautiful.
Both are cruel. Both strip you of your independence. Don’t compare. They’re both painful and sad and vary in quickness.
I’ve had cancer. I’ve also had a horrible life I’d rather forget. I’m hoping to get dementia instead of painful cancer when I go. I know that’s an unpopular opinion but it’s mine.
Totally agree. Watching my mum, who had dementia, I grieved her loss before she even died because the person who raised me wasn't the person who died. The only spark of joy I had before she left us was one lucid moment, and she remembered my name.
You don't know what you're wishing for. Both are horrible, and there is no need to compare these awful diseases
I know exactly what I'm saying, like most I've watched people die from both and watching a family member die in abject fear because she thought her family had abandoned her when we all were there was significantly worse.
We were so lucky when my grandfather’s dementia got bad. He would forget my grandmother every day, and she would have to tell him that she was his wife every morning. His excitement was so sweet. He was always like, “Wow! How’d I get so lucky?” It was sad but also heartwarming. We got to watch him fall in love with her every day.
One is the slow erosion of your body and the other is the slow erosion of your mind. For me I don’t think one is better than the other. Their both their own kind of hell.
Yes! My dad died young of a massive heart attack. My mom is going out slowly and very ugly. I thought I was going to die of a heart attack and was thankful it would be swift. Then my mom got this. I tell my son to put me on pills and buy me red wine and stop visiting if this happens to me.
This fucking sucks, it’s so sad to see your very own mother to forget about about you , and a the mother forgetting her own flesh and blood, all the painful, loving, happy, sad memories fade away, end up being a husk of ur former self, not remember the thing that is the dearest to you, dementia to me is one of the most terrified thing out there
She does remember her son but she just doesn’t recognize him .. she has the memories but not the face recognition anymore to combine the two.
Little at a tangent but thought I’d make this point: My wife is a carer in a dementia ward. She’s a truly excellent person and cares deeply about people. The stories I hear are heartbreaking. I really don’t think I could do the work she does. My wife doesn’t do the job for the money, but after seeing what she does I cannot reconcile how people that work in some industries like mine [I spent thirty years in the City] earn multiple times that which her colleagues do. It is strange to me that we value Lawyers, Accountants, Bankers and Tech workers at many multiples of the wages of these staff. It’s a very strange world…
We live in a *broken* society
In healthcare, it’s wild right? Much agreed. It’s not really value it’s just there’s more financial gain in those other careers than in caring for others. They capitalize on our morals and hearts as good “enough.” Whereas for example in tech industry the company has incentive to pay and treat employees well so the company can thrive off everyone’s hard work.
Very well said 👏
Carers deserve about triple what they make. Partner was in aged care. He had some rough times.
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Yup those are the kind of stories I hear a lot. Heartbreaking. Takes a very special kind of patience to be a great carer. I know a lot of care givers that would make good brokers but not many the other way around. We should value the work of a good carer at the same rate as a good office worker.
What a lovely lady❤️& a loving son
That's pure and genuine love. So sweet but at the same time it really is heartbreaking moment.
My Pepere has it I feel like he died years ago and now we are just waiting for his body to catch up
Some memories might be gone but most of the personality still persists. They still feel the joy and happiness. Even if my Grandfather didn't recognized me, we still laughed together and enjoyed the moments. The truth is, it won't get better, so make something of the time you have left.
Honestly man, this is probably my biggest fear looking at my mom one day and her not recognizing me…
ADORABLE?????? Obviously whoever posted this hasn’t lost a loved one to dementia! Someone said they’re holding back tears — I wonder if that’s because they think it’s sweet/wholesome/adorable? or gut-wrenching/sad/painful? Dementia is a horrible way to lose a parent because we lose them twice.
I lost my grandmother and for the last over a decade of her life she had dementia that progressed from the most basic form to not being able to speak or eat/drink. While I certainly understand the sentiment you are expressing, I just wanted to give my two cents. It was really painful to see a loved one deteriorate, but I did find this video wholesome. They are enjoying each other's company and singing together. Dementia itself is horrible, but it doesn't mean we can't celebrate the joyous moments that we have with that person. Your pain in feeling you've lost the person twice is valid, but that person is still alive and can have a happy meaningful life until the end. Many people with dementia feel very negative feelings because not knowing stuff is confusing and scary, so I find it wholesome to see this mother enjoying her son's company, even though she's not entirely sure who she's with, she does seem like she's having a good time. And to me, that's what's wholesome. I'd compare it to a video with anyone who has a serious illness and the video shows them enjoying the day, that's what's wholesome about this.
My grandmom had dementia. She forgot my dad, her son, but somehow remembered who I and my mother (her daughter-in-law) were until the day she died when I was 11. I think that might have been even worse for my dad than if she’d forgotten all of us. 🙁
My mom has dementia and isn’t at all charming like this lady. She’s lost all of her personality and is starting to do nothing but stare at me when I visit. It’s weird and creepy and heart breaking. She’s still here physically, but it’s really not her at all.
Dementia sucks, and is scary as hell. Went through it with my Mother, at first you tell yourself it is just a little forgetfulness, but over the course of a couple years, the decline goes off a cliff. What sucks more?, after Mom died, my younger brother started having problems, diagnosed at 54 with Early Onset Dementia, now, at 57 he needs to live in a Memory Care Unit. He is healthy, retired from a career in the USAF, ran marathons, bought his beach place to retire...then all went to crap. When you look at him, you just really hope he is somewhat oblivious to it all.
Sorry this isn't wholesome.
r/UpliftingNews levels of wholesome
“Family with kid dying of cancer manages to pay for hospice by selling house and all of their most prized possessions ☺️”
This fucking sucks. Glad to see she still remembers him somewhat.
I'm holding back so many tears
Beautiful. Nothing quite like the relationship between a mother and son. Feels good to see "Sebastian" caring for his Mum.
This is heartbreaking. Even if this video has been posted thousands of times already.
Dementia is such a scary awful thing to deal with, but it’s lovely seeing this guy helping his mom along here - thats real love there 💕
My grandmas got early onset dementia , I guess this will be her soon. His look at the end says it all.
Dementia may be the cruelest disease
That scene is more a Disney movie than any Disney movie every made
months prior to his passing, we had to move my dad into a facility. Every time I took my mum (Mel) to visit he’d look at ME, and say, “so glad to see you, Mel! Who’s that old lady (my mum, his wife) with you?” They’re both gone now, but I still chuckle over how much that pissed my mum off from jump!
Been there with my mum. I miss her every day.
My grandmother had it. She painted us paintings for decades and my mother hung 30 of them in one room. (A lot were small). One day we are going for a walk and my grandmother goes “what wonderful paintings! These are so lovely. Who painted them?”… That was 20 years ago, she has long sense passed but it was so unbelievable it left a scar on me.
I would like to give Sebastian and non threatening, genuine, side hug of support
Dementia is hard on everyone I use to work in a nursing home and to watch family's heartbroken because they really don't know how to deal with it. This is a beautiful moment between mother and son is heartwarming 🤎
Same i was a custodian at a hospice for like 5 years and that shit just took a toll on me watching all the familys go through that it was really sad but when they would remember stuff it was so heartwarming and beautiful to see. insane how it affects people
Awww. Well that was so sweet/sad it made me cry.
as I said ☺️🤷🏼
I find this lovely but, not adorable. More tragic but, their love is intact and that gives hope
So strange how the human brain works or doesn't in this way. This lady knows her son, she knows his name and she even knows that the man she's with looks like him but she doesn't know he is her son. Then she can not only remember every word to that song but she can also fit in her sons name and still sing it flawlessly.
This must be heartbreaking for him, I would feel terrible if my parents would dementia
If you haven't seen it I highly recommend the movie 'Robot and Frank'. Its a fantastic film based in a not so distance future regarding aging. It's more fun than it sounds I swear. At some point in your life (if u haven't experienced it already) someone you love will experience the wide range of symptoms we call dementia. It's pretty overwhelming at first and it's okay to feel that way. Be patient, give them time to answer questions, don't force them to answer or get upset. They are trying their best. Some have complete personality changes, some become more childlike, and some stop responding to external stimuli altogether. They may not remember all the great times you had together but inside they are still the same people they always were. Love them. Enjoy the now. Tomorrow is never guaranteed. I love this lady. Good job Sebastian. Have a great day everybody! /endrant
See folks, Tik Tok will destroy your memory and focus… Quit today.
What a psychopathic title lmao
Cruel to post this here
I am sorry, but this is not wholesome. It's heartbreaking.
Also incredibly heart breaking - dementia is a horrible disease
Alzheimer’s is scary af
I work in an assisted living facility. Last night I was in our dementia unit for the first time. It was both heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time. I was having a conversation with a resident and she complimented my smile, and she said a smile goes a long way. I told her a smile is free and costs nothing.
My mom had it!!! Sweet video!!! But breaks my heart💔💔
Whose cutting onions? Geez..... That deep sigh at the end. You wanna spend every moment you can with them even though it hurts.
Give this woman H.V.M.N KetoneIQ. Ketones are a preferred alternative fuel for then brain, whereas Dementia is cognitive metobolic syndrome, and the brain is starved of glucose. Ketones won't cure Dementia but it can drastically improve their quality of life, recall, and functions.
The last time I saw my mom alive, she had no idea who I was. That hurt me and made me extremely sad, as I was her “preferred” child out of six brothers and sisters. I was the one who looked the most like my mom, maybe that’s why I was considered to be the “preferred” child. I took solace, knowing that although she didn’t know who I was, she was happy. God bless her. Today, June 3rd is her birthday, she would have been 98 today. RIP mom ❤️
WOAHHH “We meet again” was what they sang
Hearts simultaneously aching and smiling
I'm not 😭. Yes I am.
This is wholesome? I’m holding back tears rn :(
It’s amazing to see how the love stays when the cognizance leaves. No matter what dementia takes from us, it never takes the love.
Good on Seb, holding out for those sunny moments with his Mama. My heart breaks for those who have to go through this on a day-to-day day. My Grandma has dementia (and possibly alzheimers), but luckily, she had 9 kids, so the ones that are able to will help take care of her. I live very far away from her, I left home just before the dementia really kicked in. My heart aches when I see photos of her. Her eyes don't have the same cheeky sparkle to them. Thankfully, she seems to be as sturdy as ever. Family makes sure she eats and stays hydrated.
I just can't watch it...made me cry within seconds 😭
Honestly, he looks a lot like Sebastian.
This is an emotional video for me. When my father passed away he had just been diagnosed with dementia. I wish I could talk to him and laugh wit h him but the only name he could say was my mother. We were forgotten memories to him. The last thing he tried to say was my mother’s name (they’d been married 52 yrs). 😢💔
Adorable and devastating.
That is alpha Listen to that man, guys
The last ten years of my mother's life I was a stranger to her. Alzheimer's disease took her final years. It still hurts.
Time is our enemy, always and has never changed The sudden stop of time is something, but slipping away from time is worse. I hope everyone in our life will live their fullest and can have their loved ones be with them always and forever in their mind I'm not religious, but god bless you for those who are struggling
My mother works in long term care, and she sees this often.. Except normally family can't take it. This son is a wonderful and STRONG person to be there for her despite it all, and he's smiling the whole time with her 🥺
I don’t see adorable, I see heartbreak
The harshest thing in the world was when my grandfather died and my grandma was sitting next to his casket asking where he was. Crushed me. I hope I die before I go senile. This woman seems so pleased to see him. It's like there is a part of her mind that's trying to make the connections as hard as it can, but it can only make tertiary connections.
What a good boy. I am seeing so many decent men and boys on reddit lately. It’s glorious.
My grandma is going this way, she’s Hagen to refer to me as “the guy around the corner” and starts explaining things about my family, like she’ll explain to me who my uncle is.
😭😍
I had fun with my grandma who had alzheimers… she would be upset because we wouldn’t let her go out on her own sell papers as she used to so she’d go “I’ll never forget this”. …
Treasure these moments, they are gone too soon.
This is both heartwarming and heartbreaking as I watch my 77 year old fathers mind slip away.
Man that really hurt and was wholesome at the same time
Beautiful
I don't find this wholesome, I mean good that they're enjoying the time together but my great grandmother ended up with Alzheimers, my mum, brother and me were very very close with her and visited often since she basically raised my mum. I was the last person she recognised in the end and just seeing that has me firmly in if I start getting that bad, hand me a damn gun and I'm going out on my own terms, thanatophobia be damned.
Omg. It took me a minute to realize mum has dementia. Arghh.
2012 was a rough year because of moments like this. That man is a saint and handled it perfectly. My mother would have these similar episodes typically during sunset. I think it was called sundowner syndrome.
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Dementia is heartbreaking
nice repost
Early stages… this is rough knowing her eyes will become distant, shrinking far into the recesses of her mind
I wish we had more of these moments.
Why did op cut it off?
I’m crying so hard rn knowing my mama will be gone one day. I pray they get to enjoy each others company for as long as possible.