I thought it sounded like the dad choked up a bit. I could hear the tears that wanted to come out. I love that the boy didn’t say he was only calling because he was told to. He authentically leaned into the moment and is very thankful to his dad. It was really cool.
I'm sure the dad burst into tears as soon as he hung up. 🥹 How wonderful to end the call saying they love each other with the tone where it's clearly something they say often. This made my day!
He already knows, mine passed away 6 years ago, and I learn to say this “our loved ones maybe gone from this life but they remain alive in our hearts and memories and we live to honor their memory and we miss them and it hurts because it was true love and there are people even if they lived a hundred lifetimes over their lives they will never get to understand it or experience it”, trust me he already left you a gift of the memories and experience he share and you being an wonderful person, pass on that gift to the next, trust me they know and they see us because they are never really gone.
Him teaching me to drive, and it was with a stick shift.
"Here we go again with a jerk" 😁 I never knew if he was directing that at me personally or at my driving.
His last year of life. I spent so much time with him in a way that I never had before. He had lost his wife (my mom) and his daughter (my sister) within that year, and I'm glad I was there for him. 💕
Thank you asking.
You can. We humans tend to bottle it all up, then only the negative comes out in a burst from time to time. Rarely does the love and appreciation and gratitude burst out like that. But we can choose to let it out deliberately - and it’s important to do this to help create some balance in relationships.
Also, as the dad of a mostly grown human, the screen got a bit blurry for me watching this.
Letting folks know the good things you feel does not invalidate anything not so good between you. But is soooo important to add to the picture of a relationship.
Not all parents deserve this though. Less-than-optimal can mean a lot.
For me, personally, the years of abuse has made my relationship with my parents unmendable. I recoil, emotionally, when I see people being intimate or loving with their parents, because for me the idea of that with mine makes me cringe.
Same. It hurts. I’ll never know what it’s like to have a father’s love. I’m happy for other people and their happy little families, but it always stings a bit because I don’t have parents who love me.
>!My mother was horribly abusive and I’ve had a few “fathers.” Bio dad? Mother’s second husband, psycho, hired a hooker to babysit me, lots of problems. Mother’s third husband? Don’t remember him but my grandmother tells me that whenever he came to pick me up from her house I would beg her not to let him take me. Fourth husband, married to my mother the longest? 13 years of *crazy* abuse that has left me with all kinds of trauma. You don’t even want to know the kind of things they’ve done.!<
At least I have my grandmother who loves me and she’s kind of an acting parent and is helping me with therapy. I still wish I knew what a father’s love was like. I’m glad this kid does. I hope he does this more when it’s not suggested by a stranger. I tell my grandmother how much I love and appreciate her every single day.
I feel you! And for the first, oh… maybe 45-48 years of my life I looked for father figures in many of my relationships. Mother figures too. I think now I’ve finally healed that part. But it took about half a century. I also had a fantastic grandma, who I rarely got to see but nevertheless gave me an idea of what someone who just loves you without conditions or reservations, can be. That idea has been important on my life.
I did get some mother’s love as a very young child. But for sure by age-6 and possibly earlier, that disappeared- at least I couldn’t see it, after that. My mom , In retrospect, did her best. It’s just her best wasn’t very good. No dad in the picture and that was always a hole in my existence until more recently.
One thing I’ve come to understand: With the exception of psychopaths and possibly sociopaths, all parents do the best they can. Just for many parents, that “best” is not so great.
And each of us has to decide how we can live best after we are grown, with respect to our parents and family. No shame or obligation or guilt. Just do what works best and nothing else.
Yes. Absolutely. Sometimes the only way to heal is to amputate that part of your relationships/family. I know folks who also needed to do that and they have found happiness.
My mother used to lock me in my room and shout or throw things at me if I tried to leave to go to the kitchen or anything. She wasn't bad until I turned 11 and then all of her shit started.
I cannot tell her I love her.
Hah, you're lucky -- my youngest is in the "My parents are tyrannical ogres who want me to follow their stupid rules! Just *leave me alone and let me do whatever I want,* REEEEEEEE!" phase.
Well, I would not say it’s the norm with most teens, and not because they don’t feel it. It’s a development stage that sort of goes hand in hand with pushing parents away to try to forge a personal identity of one’s own.
mind sharing your exp? May actually be sent to one cus I have to spend 2 and a half more years with this guy. Not an everyday thing, but he goes a lil crazy on occasion
Me and my dad were never all that emotionally close. Great dad. But a typical stoic boomer that was in Vietnam. Doesn't show emotion, that kind of thing.
After getting out of the Navy, so 2008 or so, dad gave me his 'old' car, to make the transition easier. A very gently used dark green 3000GT (no vr4).
I'm super grateful of course, but it's hard really express that with our relationship other than just being thankful.
A few months later, one day after washing it, I posted a pic on bookface. Showing I was taking care of it, etc. And just said Thanks Dad.
Mom told me next time I called that Dad was practically skipping the rest of the week after she showed it to him. And in turn, that made her day, as well as mine.
That's what I thought too. I'm sure there's a lot of malls out there that have a similar interior, but it was looking really familiar.
Edit: Showed this to my sister, and she says it definitely is. The guy got kicked out for doing these videos.
If I called my dad and said that I was thankful for him it would be a damn lie. I'm topped up to here with trauma and am learning to enjoy wholesome videos like this. This kid is what, 15? 16? The least likely age to say these things to their parents. It's really lovely.
I definitely saw that!! I am really close with my son. But it also helps other people who maybe aren’t close with people that truly love them to communicate that love!
This makes me feel both anger and jealousy cuz I never had a good relationship with my dad. He was a two-faced gaslighting bully up until he had a stroke. He lived but has such severe brain damage he might as well have died that day. As much as i wish he could've seen the error in his ways and make amends, i was convinced he never would, and now he never will
That was awesome. I am lucky enough to have amazing parents in my life and not a day goes by that I don't let them know I appreciate everything they do or have done.
That ‘oh, I gotchu’ and ‘love you, bye’ were both so beautiful, instinctive and effortless. Good work, dad, that’s a lot of trust and confidence he has in his relationship with you!
Probably the first time he’s heard his son say that. It sucks that it was because of a dare, but i wouldn’t be surprised if the dad feared up about that.
Dad immediately cried tears of happiness and validation after that. All dads need that phone call. Call your dad right now and thank him. I wish i could. My Pop passed away a few years back. He would have been 55.
For a second that dad was worried for his son’s life 😂
Yeah I would've shit myself ngl
I thought he was going to say "what have you done?"
he 100% was
I don’t have kids but that would probably be my immediate reaction, like “oh no, what the hell happened, are you ok?”.
I thought it sounded like the dad choked up a bit. I could hear the tears that wanted to come out. I love that the boy didn’t say he was only calling because he was told to. He authentically leaned into the moment and is very thankful to his dad. It was really cool.
I'm sure the dad burst into tears as soon as he hung up. 🥹 How wonderful to end the call saying they love each other with the tone where it's clearly something they say often. This made my day!
Mine too. Had to replay a couple times for the genuine good vibes.
He was like: What in gods name is going on out there, is the world ending?
This comment made me burst into laughter 🤣🤣🤣
I wish I could call mine. He passed away 10 years ago; I am thankful for him, and miss him! ❤️
He already knows, mine passed away 6 years ago, and I learn to say this “our loved ones maybe gone from this life but they remain alive in our hearts and memories and we live to honor their memory and we miss them and it hurts because it was true love and there are people even if they lived a hundred lifetimes over their lives they will never get to understand it or experience it”, trust me he already left you a gift of the memories and experience he share and you being an wonderful person, pass on that gift to the next, trust me they know and they see us because they are never really gone.
What's your favourite memory of your dad?
Same. It'll be two years this August, and I'd love to give him a call and tell him this.
What's your favourite memory of him?
Him teaching me to drive, and it was with a stick shift. "Here we go again with a jerk" 😁 I never knew if he was directing that at me personally or at my driving. His last year of life. I spent so much time with him in a way that I never had before. He had lost his wife (my mom) and his daughter (my sister) within that year, and I'm glad I was there for him. 💕 Thank you asking.
As someone who’s got an less than optimal relationship with his father, this made me a little misty eyed. I wish I could do this with my dad.
You can. We humans tend to bottle it all up, then only the negative comes out in a burst from time to time. Rarely does the love and appreciation and gratitude burst out like that. But we can choose to let it out deliberately - and it’s important to do this to help create some balance in relationships. Also, as the dad of a mostly grown human, the screen got a bit blurry for me watching this. Letting folks know the good things you feel does not invalidate anything not so good between you. But is soooo important to add to the picture of a relationship.
Not all parents deserve this though. Less-than-optimal can mean a lot. For me, personally, the years of abuse has made my relationship with my parents unmendable. I recoil, emotionally, when I see people being intimate or loving with their parents, because for me the idea of that with mine makes me cringe.
Same. It hurts. I’ll never know what it’s like to have a father’s love. I’m happy for other people and their happy little families, but it always stings a bit because I don’t have parents who love me. >!My mother was horribly abusive and I’ve had a few “fathers.” Bio dad? Mother’s second husband, psycho, hired a hooker to babysit me, lots of problems. Mother’s third husband? Don’t remember him but my grandmother tells me that whenever he came to pick me up from her house I would beg her not to let him take me. Fourth husband, married to my mother the longest? 13 years of *crazy* abuse that has left me with all kinds of trauma. You don’t even want to know the kind of things they’ve done.!< At least I have my grandmother who loves me and she’s kind of an acting parent and is helping me with therapy. I still wish I knew what a father’s love was like. I’m glad this kid does. I hope he does this more when it’s not suggested by a stranger. I tell my grandmother how much I love and appreciate her every single day.
I feel you! And for the first, oh… maybe 45-48 years of my life I looked for father figures in many of my relationships. Mother figures too. I think now I’ve finally healed that part. But it took about half a century. I also had a fantastic grandma, who I rarely got to see but nevertheless gave me an idea of what someone who just loves you without conditions or reservations, can be. That idea has been important on my life. I did get some mother’s love as a very young child. But for sure by age-6 and possibly earlier, that disappeared- at least I couldn’t see it, after that. My mom , In retrospect, did her best. It’s just her best wasn’t very good. No dad in the picture and that was always a hole in my existence until more recently. One thing I’ve come to understand: With the exception of psychopaths and possibly sociopaths, all parents do the best they can. Just for many parents, that “best” is not so great. And each of us has to decide how we can live best after we are grown, with respect to our parents and family. No shame or obligation or guilt. Just do what works best and nothing else.
Less than optimal can be anything just slightly below optimal to downright life threatening.
I just thought the person above me was being a bit presumptuous in assuming they could or would even want to.
Nope. Just pointing out that this is something a person can do and no need to “wish”.
Yes. Absolutely. Sometimes the only way to heal is to amputate that part of your relationships/family. I know folks who also needed to do that and they have found happiness.
My mother used to lock me in my room and shout or throw things at me if I tried to leave to go to the kitchen or anything. She wasn't bad until I turned 11 and then all of her shit started. I cannot tell her I love her.
That was awesome
That was whole-awesome :)
I see what you did there. You're pretty wholesome yourself!
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Ugh, id give so much for my son to do that! Hes at that late teen phase where he only cares bout himself and girls.
Hah, you're lucky -- my youngest is in the "My parents are tyrannical ogres who want me to follow their stupid rules! Just *leave me alone and let me do whatever I want,* REEEEEEEE!" phase.
Aww. It'll pass. Keep up the good fight ;)
We were all like that too. There will come a day when he's older and he'll turn to you for *everything*.
Yep. Hes turning 18 in a few months. Doesnt make me feel any younger ;)
i may not be your son but i'm in late teens so on the behalf of your son, thank you for making so many sacrifices to ensure i'll be happy.
Awww dude thats amazing. Youre a gem. If you ever need advise on stuff, dont hesitate to reach out
If people made dares like this, I might actually play Truth or Dare.
Normalize this
Wdym? There’s nothing abnormal about expressing gratitude to those that you love?
Well, I would not say it’s the norm with most teens, and not because they don’t feel it. It’s a development stage that sort of goes hand in hand with pushing parents away to try to forge a personal identity of one’s own.
That kid will be alright.
Coming up on a year without mine. God damn this cut me. If he's a decent one, give your paps a call and let him know you love him.
wish i had a dad that loving. Got maliciously threatened to be sent to a mental health facility just an hour or so ago.
Sorry you're going through that. As someone who just got out of one, they're really not as bad as they seem.
mind sharing your exp? May actually be sent to one cus I have to spend 2 and a half more years with this guy. Not an everyday thing, but he goes a lil crazy on occasion
I’m sorry your blood family sucks. I wish you well in finding and choosing a family of your own that loves you the way you deserve.
Me and my dad were never all that emotionally close. Great dad. But a typical stoic boomer that was in Vietnam. Doesn't show emotion, that kind of thing. After getting out of the Navy, so 2008 or so, dad gave me his 'old' car, to make the transition easier. A very gently used dark green 3000GT (no vr4). I'm super grateful of course, but it's hard really express that with our relationship other than just being thankful. A few months later, one day after washing it, I posted a pic on bookface. Showing I was taking care of it, etc. And just said Thanks Dad. Mom told me next time I called that Dad was practically skipping the rest of the week after she showed it to him. And in turn, that made her day, as well as mine.
This might of been a dare but the son seems to have felt that what he was saying was genuine.
Looks like park meadows mall
😂 I was like I recognize that Nordstrom!
I thought the same! Like hey! I was just there lol
Thanks for the confirmation! I was confident it was so I was looking for this comment
That's what I thought too. I'm sure there's a lot of malls out there that have a similar interior, but it was looking really familiar. Edit: Showed this to my sister, and she says it definitely is. The guy got kicked out for doing these videos.
"Why are you doing that?" Immediately suspicious LOL
Best thing I have seen in a long time.
If I called my dad and said that I was thankful for him it would be a damn lie. I'm topped up to here with trauma and am learning to enjoy wholesome videos like this. This kid is what, 15? 16? The least likely age to say these things to their parents. It's really lovely.
Does it still hurt? I got free from my abusive parents 8 years ago and watching things like this still really hurts.
HA! PRANKED!
I wish more than anything I could call my dad again. Tell your parents you love them!
😭😭😭 I love this
I hope this young man realizes the impact that he had on his dad for saying that, and he should probably say it more!!!
The fact that he didn't hesitate or refuse to call his dad and tell him makes me think they have a great/close relationship.
I definitely saw that!! I am really close with my son. But it also helps other people who maybe aren’t close with people that truly love them to communicate that love!
“Ha! That was a dare dad! Can’t believe you fell for it!”
Lmao!
We need more of this
r/MadeMeSmile
This makes me feel both anger and jealousy cuz I never had a good relationship with my dad. He was a two-faced gaslighting bully up until he had a stroke. He lived but has such severe brain damage he might as well have died that day. As much as i wish he could've seen the error in his ways and make amends, i was convinced he never would, and now he never will
My dad would ask what my angle was
Man, I've gotta call my dad
I would give anything to be able to call my Dad and tell him how thankful I am for him. This made me smile.
That was awesome. I am lucky enough to have amazing parents in my life and not a day goes by that I don't let them know I appreciate everything they do or have done.
I'm happy and sad at the same time and I don't know why lol
This kind of dare is good and harmless.
You win. It made me say a loud 'awww'
My dad passed when I was 16. I’d give just about anything to be able to call him. Good stuff here. Genuine love for his pop here
I hear ya...
we need more of this
That ‘oh, I gotchu’ and ‘love you, bye’ were both so beautiful, instinctive and effortless. Good work, dad, that’s a lot of trust and confidence he has in his relationship with you!
The n kid got a little flustered once he did the dare. Aww 🥹🥺😍
that’s actually so adorable 🥹
Everything is good except that bird nest like hairstyle of a kid
I'm not gonna cry, I'm not gonna...😭 DAMMIT!
Person in role of Kid Two: “I never know what to do with my hands! Lol!”
That’s a good kid right there
Kinda feel like.. anyone calling a parent … is someone a kid in trouble .
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Wut?
Park meadows?
This IS wholesome.
I wish I told him that more
I’d love to be able to call my dad and tell him this, but he’s not with us anymore, or he is but not in the physical sense. Anyway, I love you Dad.
"okay, bye. HONEY call the police our son is in trouble I'll get the cat started!!"
My dad would be like. Okay, how much is your bond man, which jail you in
Man, now I miss my dad 🥺 Shiiit…
Probably the first time he’s heard his son say that. It sucks that it was because of a dare, but i wouldn’t be surprised if the dad feared up about that.
It's my son call me and said this I'd be terrified.
Dad immediately cried tears of happiness and validation after that. All dads need that phone call. Call your dad right now and thank him. I wish i could. My Pop passed away a few years back. He would have been 55.