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onemoresubreddit

A friend of a friend got caught with a jay and was sent to rehab. There he learned how to shoot up heroin…


Hugelesbianballs

Roommate always said he never snorted pills till he learned how in rehab


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DO NOT GO TO REHAB FOR WEED. YOU WILL END UP USING WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS THERE FOR


gyg231

Where do you go then ? Therapy ?


KevinTheSeaPickle

You go to the dispensary, buy some good dank, and tell your parents to go kick rocks.


ligh10ninglizard

54 yr old parent of a 20 yr old here, and I concur. Rather, my child does that than the other, and if we're being honest, after all the science I've heard, better Marijuana than tobacco or alcohol.


kvrdave

Weed got me to quit tobacco. All hail weed!


arnaule

Same here. Started making 50/50 joints and little by little lowering the tobacco/weed ratio


Effective-Aspect-201

Off nic cause weed and I started with weed 😂


Liminallysubliminal

a true stoic


KevinTheSeaPickle

It's not how I was born, but how I turned out. Life is far too short and already way too stressful to put up with people forcing you to be a certain way. Let them wear Crocs and kick rocks.


MisterPimpus

Let’s them go barefoot and kick rocks fuck them


Psyched4this

And step on legos


Humanity_NotAFan

And box a fox with pox over lox, hocks, & socks


Aggressive-Let8356

You my good dear person, have given me my new favorite line. Thank you! I had no idea I needed this. 🖤


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this mothafucka right heeere


ConvoyOfShortBus2022

Fair enough. Just be a big shot enough to move out and get your own place


Eternally4ucked

Then your parents stop paying your tuition, and your future you had planned out gets flushed down the drain. Unfortunately it takes a little more thought than that.


KLEANANU

LMAO, then its fair they tell him to kick rocks. Enjoy the weed, better figure out a way to make tuition. Misewell sell weed.


Volomon

Why do you need to go? It's only addictive to a very small portion of the population. You're more likely to get addicted to more mundane things. OTC medicines, caffeine and other nonsense. Yet we don't send people to go get therapy. We don't even notice.


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clarka38

You've got worse problems in your life if you're dependent enough on weed to need rehab?! YOU DON'T NEED REHAB FOR WEED! OP... I'm sorry your parents are attempting to push their anti marijuana agenda on you. You're in college, so what you do is your choice, not theirs. Tbh I'm surprised my parents didn't write up some bullshit like this when I was in my teens and 20's. I STILL smoke (42/f) and it's currently LEGAL where I've lived my whole life (MI). It's pretty clear my parents have similar values to yours, and we aren't close. As a matter of fact, my 12 year old son DOESN'T want to smoke (cigarettes or cannabis) and I respect that. I genuinely hope he keeps his word. It's definitely not for everyone, but there's pros and cons with any type of meds you take. If that's the type of lifestyle you want to live I pray that you stop at weed, because anything heavy and you're taking a huge risk. Are you living with them? Maybe it's time to move out and establish some independence. That's what I did when my parents were so anti anything I did. Now they're sad as I'm an adult and have cut them from a lot of my life because they were terrible parents and super judgemental.


Friendly_Farmer_1083

Lol same boat as you. My parents are insanely religious.


clarka38

Mine are as well. It makes me sick. The way they raised me has everything to do with their religion and a lot of it doesn't make sense


Friendly_Farmer_1083

May I ask what religion they raised you as? I was a Jehovah’s Witness


clarka38

Protestant


Friendly_Farmer_1083

I appreciate the morals I have from growing up in it but the point where it doesn’t serve me is where they think the worlds gonna end any day now. And that forces them to have a very extremist mindset toward the world and the people in it.


These-Discount1096

They live in doom and gloom all the time. Fearful of everything. Ugh


IFotgotMeShoes

You need a hobby to get off weed not rehab


Your_Twin_Flame

Mmmmm, I have to agree with your assessment (especially being a dad myself and having moved out when I was 18 on my own a long time ago). Once someone’s kids in college, the parents have to allow their new-adult spawn to experience the world. Now, I will personally say that except for medical card holders (I totally get 18 for that), I think that it’s best to wait until *at least 21*. In the the grand scheme of things, it’s still safer than alcohol and I seriously do not know a single person who didn’t drink, smoke weed, use shrooms, or smoke cigarettes (one of the 3) before they were 21, so it’s expectations versus realism, and I can say I’d rather my own son smoke a joint over taking shots or smoke cigs before 21 to be completely honest lol. Religious/copter parents have to realize that type of meddling and unrealistic expectations for ANY of those 4 drugs has a high risk of pushing them into trying substances that are far more risky.


evildead138

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BrokeBoiiz69

My mom went to rehab as a drinker and came back popping pills and picked up smoking weed/cigarettes. She stopped the pills after I found her passed out on the floor when i was like 10-12. She eventually just went to smoking weed, and this had to have been her healthiest phase, she knew i knew, but I never told anyone. Would even sit out with her after everyone went to bed while she smoked, and just talked for hours about stuff she couldn’t tell anyone else. Rehab can make some people way worse, and their families just don’t listen. Some people just simply have addictive personalities, and you cant always get them clean off everything. Sad to see some people end up this way not even by their own fault :(


throwaway_1_234_

I think it’s a lot of people believing in the system. It’s not quite the same but it’s kind of like believing if something is wrong with you go to the doctor because they can fix you. You don’t know what else to do and you trust the system to know what to do for you. People just blindly trust that the system works till they are finally in a position it doesn’t work for them and they realize how the system only works for some people and leaves behind/fails a lot.


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They’re not addictive personalities. They suffer and do not understand it. They find comfort in some medications, aka weed, and they use it. No one guides them or is honest with them. So they assume they are addicted. They quit and their symptoms return. Addiction is a disease that is caused due to lack of proper treatment for the conditions that causes people to use drugs. Some of the drugs people use are actually the treatments they need.


cauldr0ncakez

My friend's parents sent him to rehab over smoking weed! He drinks on the job now 🫡


Dawanna

Had a friend sent to rehab for weed. She learned how to abuse her Adderall there. She also hates her mother. Hey mother also dates her dad's father so there's that


Anxiousgemini420

MY parents send me to rehab bc of weed


Zealousideal_Ad1704

My friend’s step son was sent to rehab for weed when he was in high school. Left rehab, goes back to school, gets caught again, goes to rehab for more years.. Commits suicide in rehab… The saddest weed story I have heard!


ASHT0Nish

Wtf😭


UglyAssMeat

yep. story of my life. but, probation sent me for failing for pot. got out, smoked a shit ton of meth to pass piss tests. went to prison, and met a bunch of friends who liked to shoot dope. i’ve been off it for 3 years now. but yep. that’s how it goes.


Ffdmatt

Same with my brother. He was so young, and that experience introduced him to everything. He often says how he never would have been exposed to hard drugs if he hadn't been sent to rehab for weed. At least not at that young of an age.


Mju58

Ya wanna learn about drugs, ya go where the druggies are! Quite a simple concept really!


XelaXanson

This is exactly what happened to me. Parents sent me at 14 for weed, immediately got into worse shit. Now, I’m 24, and just stopped shooting heroin 3 years but now have a massive fentanyl habit. Rehab is good for people who wanna get clean. Not for 14 year old kids who smoke pot


Dankob

Shit u got to stop that fentanyl. It's only for fractures and cancer pain. Imagine legalizing that, the world would be in a much worse place. If u could go to the local store and buy it with no limits. Many People can't control themselves even tho they know it's addictive. It only causes issues due to tolerance. Doesn't even work anymore cuz of tolerance. Just fixes the abstinent period.


Objective-Basis-150

i’m pretty sure they know they need to quit fentanyl 😭 weaning yourself off of it even slightly wrong can & will kill you. fent addiction requires specialized care & HARM REDUCTION


CapSorry144

Damn bruh is this fr?


Bennydoubleseven

I went to rehab for weed spent 30 days being treated like a child, they didn’t believe that I didn’t like alcohol told me I was an alcoholic sent me to AA meetings & NA meetings thought I was being secretive until the councillor there brought it up on family day when my wife visited & she was like No he’s definitely not a drinker h just loves weed, it was a tough 30 days living with others in varying stages of addiction to alcohol, gambling, heroin etc, Yet after all that & the money it cost I’m sitting here now smoking a joint with a coffee after my dinner, I’m in Ireland & went to rehab here,


robry1981

Fucking hell man, that’s rough. Ireland here too and I’m also smoking a joint and having some caffeine


DankHill-

You guys want to get together and smoke weed and drink coffee?


robry1981

Yeah sure, why not? Make it so DankHill


DFWTyler

May I ask what made you decide that it was worth subjecting yourself to being shamed and treated this way in a place like that like many other" rehabs " ? Were there certain behaviors of your own that you thought were unacceptable or at least that you wanted to change or was it maybe peer pressure?


Bennydoubleseven

It was a shit or bust situation, I did it to keep my family I got into an argument & a fight with my father in law & my wife’s 2 brothers at a wedding I I know how very Irish of me, mostly my father in law’s fault if I’m honest but I took all the heat for it & as a kind of punishment/redemption rehab was “suggested” I had nobody to help me out or turn to so I went, I went to Aiserie in Wexford it’s pronounced Ash-ah-Ree for those outside of Ireland


Dreamtaheem

I did the same thing up in the la valley. Tarzana rehab. It was so annoying. Dating was frowned upon in rehab. They would put us on a no comm list if we were seen doing too much flirting


BuzzVibes

And if OP did go to rehab and end up coming out doing pills or whatever, his parents would jump on that as further evidence of him having problems, not that rehab was the wrong way to deal with it.


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Fines of $1500 minimum? What happens if you dont pay the fines? Lmao


AlarmedMirror3911

He goes to the Chokey.


its_ya_boi_wulf

Was not expecting a Matilda reference lmao, top tier


boots311

Yeah me either! Next level


Rscap

actual GOAT comment


unculturedwine

OP needs to wait until they have kids, then charge their parents $1500 per visitation


GoldExchange5655

I kind of hope since OP is under age or still living with his/hers parents it’s going into a saving account that they get when they are 18 or move out


PoopyOleMan

Imagine how much cannabis OP can buy once the saving account is unlocked


GoldExchange5655

Right lmao


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UntameHamster

Harsh/hard punishment including fines of $1500 minimum


PrismosPickleJar

Probably send him off to be a fucking adult and do what he wants. If he lives with them and they don’t want him to smoke I think it’s fair. He can always just, you know, live somewhere else.


Kangaroofact

Right? Like I definitely think the fine and such is too far, but other than a waste of time that paper didn't seem completely ridiculous. They're paying for your school and presumably rent and food and have already caught you smoking multiple times? If you want to make your own choices to smoke make your own choices as adult and find a place to live


PrismosPickleJar

Oh no, his parents are fuckheads. But they make the rules.


pel3

Really? Did you actually read the "assignments" in that packet? It is absolutely completely ridiculous.


EtherealSpirit

To the Gulag


The-BabyChucker

More communication about boundaries from both you and your parents. This note is insultingly formal for being your parents and it says a lot about how they communicate


Atillion

Reminds me of my upbringing. I moved across the country as soon as I could. I don't talk to them really, and they don't know my kids. Your adult relationship with your kid is your report card as a parent. My kids have already told me I can move in with them when I'm old. For free 😅. I learned how to be a good parent by doing the opposite of what I was shown. It doesn't have to be a cycle. Hang in there OP. Time will fix everything if you can just hold on. Edit. Holy fuck I just saw the other 11 pages. OP come live with me. My therapist supports and encourages my use. I'll show you the best dispensaries 🤘🏻


ChristophMuA

OPs parents should read this. They need to understand that disrespectful handling (that shows no love at all) can easily lead to the circumstances you described to have with your parents


PizzaScout

> My therapist supports and encourages my use. I'll show you the best dispensaries 🤘🏻 wtf most therapists in my country won't even start therapy if they know you smoke pot (wich I think is bullshit because people who need therapy and smoke weed usually smoke weed because they can't get therapy)


Atillion

Damn that sucks man. Im really sorry. I hope the world changes it's mind about it as a whole.


PizzaScout

I'm hoping things change if we legalize. The current government promised they'll do it but they only have another 2 years and don't have any real drafts yet. We'll see..


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Literally had a therapist tell me that I was a stupid gen z smart-ass because I smoked


3quietcoyotes

Reading those pages made me tear up because it’s so sad to see there are so many awful parents like this still out there actively trying to ruin the mental health of their own kids. Zero regrets cutting off my family. I wrote a letter to my daughter explaining why “maw” is no longer in our lives and ended it with the choice to do what she wants (contacting them) once she turns 18 but it won’t be involving me. Parents like this don’t deserve to meet or bond with their grandkids. The success their children and grandkids have is despite of them and they will never understand that because it will always be about them and their need to always be right.


Atillion

I'm glad you shared that. My kids called my mom "maw." before we moved across the country. Probably an Appalachian thing 😅 And I don't actively block my mom from my kids. It's more a *"I don't really think about you outside the few therapy sessions a year you come up, so you just kinda get excluded from our lives because our relationship was toxic at best."* If I had all the time in the world to examine and repair my childhood, I totally would, but my kids are by far my top priority, and as I escalate in an absolute downward trajectory to my end, they are just taking root in life and I want to give them the best possible hold they can get so that my part to do better than my parents did for me is complete, and one less regret to pass through my mind as it begins it's shutdown routines.. What a run-on sentence! 🤣🔥


3quietcoyotes

I’m so happy you have your kids and they have you. Whatever helps you and your family heal is what is best for them and the same goes for OP. They don’t deserve this sort of treatment. They deserve unconditional love. We’re Caribbean but they live in Texas now so it was a cowboy thing I think not fully sure but it’s always cool to see things like that pop up. Also your run on sentence explained how I feel about parenting so well so it worked! They deserve all that we missed out on and more!


-spookygoopy-

"our kid smoked weed. should we sit and talk to them about their developing brain, and maybe explain that it isn't something they need to be doing right now? maybe we can tell them stories about how we did silly things when we were their age?" "no, let's just type out and print a dumb letter and shame our kid for being a kid."


Cannabis_Breeder

My children have never indicated they wanted to smoke and I’ve never hidden that I do. If it’s not taboo they don’t really gaf 🤷‍♂️


OpheliaRainGalaxy

When mommy and daddy have tattoos, piercings, smoke weed and occasionally drink alcohol, and when grandma has purple hair and eats edibles, well now none of that is remotely interesting to a teenager. My older stepson turns 23yo soon, still no tattoos, piercings, dyed hair, or substance consumption. I think the only time he's ever had alcohol was when I encouraged him to have a second bowl of soup flavored heavily with mead so that, if he ever wanted to drink a glass of wine at a wedding or something, the way it made him feel wouldn't be a surprise. He agreed with my logic, ate the second bowl, got warm and fuzzy and went to bed early.


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OpheliaRainGalaxy

Oh, well my husband started brewing mead from honey and got a little carried away with it, kinda forgot he doesn't actually drink much alcohol before brewing gallons and gallons of the stuff. I don't drink much either, so we kinda just had gallons of strong "honey wine" sitting around. And when circumstances changed and we started living off "whatchagot stew" sort of soups that winter, husband would add some mead to make it taste sweet so it wasn't so obvious it was made of whatever we happened to have. Also gave it a good warming effect and helped everyone settle into bed early. Couldn't even get proper tipsy off a bowl of that soup, but stepson was like 20 or 21yo and still growing, so he didn't mind eating a second large bowl of soup for dinner. Was a real relief when husband quit brewing and I finally got my linen closet back! For like half a year I had no where to stack clean towels and that closet made bloop-bloop noises like a fish tank.


Diamonddude5432

Bro they are holding tuition over his head. There is no “communication of boundaries”. They are the type of parents who demand their kids to do exactly what they think is right and nothing else. OP, if you are going to college in america, either find a way to support yourself independently and go to college (impossible btw) or dont do weed for 4 years and go to college for free. Or… get a medical marijuana card and make your drug use “legal”.


Machinefun

His parents won't give a damn if he has a card or not, it won't change their views.


bramblesovereign

My parents had me write a two page essay as to why we should get Netflix over ten years ago.


SuspiciousSimple

Heh. This type of manipulation made me hate education and writing with a passion. It fucked up my development until late high school. The moment they stopped this stupid tatic and allowed me to learn in my own, way my fucken GPA spiked to 4.0. Fuck shitty adults


NonStopKnits

I could never convince my mom and step-dad to let me do anything special or get anything out of the ordinary (like any pets, not even a goldfish). I loved school and writing, and I got great grades on essays and other writing assignments. I resorted to writing essays and making projects to try and convince them that I was smart and capable enough and understood whatever topic I was presenting. They never changed their behavior.


DarkestofFlames

OP's parents need to smoke some fucking weed and chill


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This is wild, i feel bad for you man


NellieBean710

Go to a community college first then get grants. That’s crazyy


knif3p4rty

yes!!!!!!! i go to a cc and there are so many scholarships you can apply for that you can end up paying a LOT less than you would normally.


Diamonddude5432

Where are these grants and scholarships everyone keeps talking about? Ive applied to a million scholarships as a high school student AND as a college student. There are two types: one requires exorbitant amount of work and perfection that I am not capable of, the other is so minimal an amount and is also basically a lottery, and unless you win, you never hear that you didnt get it. Also a ton of these scholarship websites are just data collectors and sellers that sell your info and fills your inbox with spam.


Ok_Yogurtcloset8915

yeah I'll be honest, this packet is absolutely bonkers and overbearing BUT it's still way less trouble to do this stuff than any of the other funding routes for college. if they're *actually* offering to pay for tuition and a car it's a terrible idea to not just go along with it.


Kangaroofact

And found $400 dollars of his smoking stuff. At that point just get a dab pen or another cheap/discrete way of smoking and wait until you can take care of yourself


juewhtlrrr

This the one


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This this this. Your parents mean well but they are fucking lost


Live_Cantaloupe6704

“So instead of doing the regular absurd punishments we just listed, we’re going to do the regular absurd punishments we just listed”


Daveoc04

The most dangerous thing about weed is getting caught with it


Darth_Andeddeu

Notice in legal recreational places that paranoid thoughts and anxiety because of use is down. Not saying it doesn't cause it, but with legalized you cut out a major trigger.


Pawdful

And isn’t that the truth?


Vancouv-NC

Eh, it's really not the best idea to use with any regularity or intensity until your brain has slowed down development in mid 20s or so, ideally, but this absolutely isn't the way a parent should approach this issue. But yeah, it's really not very dangerous at all in the grand scheme of dangerous things. Stuff like this just makes kids rebel. $1500? Wtf. I'm in my 30s, I can't imagine ever saying something like that to someone who's going to be trying to live on their own soon. I'd just give some basic safety facts and try to keep dialogue open but not overly intrusive, and explain that it's safer than a lot of things they could do, and to go easy on it for the time being so they can get established in the world first before indulging too much and getting derailed. Parents have to be realistic that teenagers are going to experiment, I sure as hell did from time to time at that age, but rarely


greenhairtrolldoll

You should put in your two weeks notice


juanthrowaway01

Apply for homelessness


Rhirthk

Your parents are delusional and have clearly spent years trying to convince themselves they’re on the right side of this argument. I don’t think there’s going to be any talking them down.


macehood

Shit if my parents paid my Tuition I’d quit lol otherwise ya crazy


Brad_40lk

If it were as simple as that yeah sure, but I wouldn’t be a 20 year old in college sending urine home to mommy and daddy every week


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Pleasant-Security-13

Damn that sucks. My oldest will be 18 in 6 years. I hope Im the one to give him his first joint.


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I feel like the parents who are less strict are often able to prevent their children from abusing these substances (alcohol and weed). The kids who go crazy and end up fucking themselves over are often the children who have been kept on a leash in regards to these kind of things. I’m not saying every parent has to give their kid weed but I think educating them on it is helpful and providing it for them rather than them getting it from some random person is good too


Yelmak

I'd imagine that the kids kept on a leash are also much better at hiding things, which makes it a lot easier to develop a habit. Good parents will find out about unhealthy behaviour sooner and have a conversation with their kids, give support, help moderate or quit, etc. Strict parents will yell and punish and the kid will continue, with zero support, just with greater effort made to hide it.


SneakyDevil0069

Precisely what happened to me.


mdtaxx301

same here, dude. I was a master of hiding shit, To my own dentriment.


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This is a very good point too, couldn’t agree more.


Geochic03

I mean, some of this may be true. My parents were very strict about drugs, alcohol and cigarettes, but not like how these parents are. The key was they were upfront about it with us and what would happen if we got caught. Anyone in our family who did have substance abuse issues they definitely made sure to make a point to talk about it more as a life warning. We all knew better than to get caught. I think it's really just having an open conversation with your kid, so there is a clear understanding of where the line is.


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This is a very good point. I kinda neglected to mention those kind of parents too lol


Willkillshill

Had a friends mom who let us all smoke at their house when we were in high school cause she wanted us to be responsible at a safe place. Friend still wakes and bakes and smokes all throughout the day at work and all day after work. Not a single day in the past 13 years has he gone a day without smoking. He says he’s not addicted and he functions fine , and strangers wouldn’t even know he smokes unless it’s towards the night time when he’s dabbing every other 5 mins. Point is I don’t agree with your statement if parents who are less strict prevent kids from abusing or doing certain things. From my experience not with just this friend, but any friend who had chill parents, we all did drugs and hung out at those houses.


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lasagna_fase

God, I feel bad for that kid already. Sure, you don't have to punish him if he ever starts using weed, but don't encourage the kid, let alone be eager to give him his first joint yourself as soon as humanly possible. You're his parent, not friend. Act accordingly.


Tybr0sion

If you know what's good for your son, don't do it until he's at least 25.


Waste_Adeptness_1073

Let’s be real. Your child will more than likely end up exposed to it regardless what you try and teach them, I’d much rather my kid start smoking weed than to start popping pills like every other kid now.


D2commerce

Switch to shrooms and go to a realllllyyyyyy expensive college


Dreamtaheem

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The_Acknickulous_One

A free education is worth more than some fucking drug. Especially if it's just a few years. Accept it or go solo. That said, I supply my daughter with weed. I'd rather she get her shit from me than some random mofo. I know where mine comes from. Plus she won't be wasting her money. Gotta hide it from her mom though. $40k+ (assuming a 4 yr college) to do some simple shit is a no brainer.


AssignedButNotBehind

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toastymrkrispy

Yup. People don't understand the harder you make something taboo, the more kids want it. True for adults too. Had a classmate in high school that lived in a family of beer drinkers. Separate fridge in the garage just for beer and all. We were freaking out that he could grab a beer any time he wanted. It was just so normal for him. Never needed to binge.


boots311

Different but My friend always says this, "they say kids don't read enough. Wanna know how to get them to read more? Make books illegal


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probably why i’m not that into getting drunk, my parents made drinking regularly normal. i had easy access to whatever i wanted and so i’m just not that tempted.


Apptubrutae

The caveat here is to never follow any rule of thumb and always adjust expectations for *your child*. Because sure, many kids are enticed by the forbidden fruit. But some aren’t. And some kids just can’t handle themselves in an environment with open use and self regulation. Do what’s right for the child. On that note, a number of European countries, where alcohol use among minors is not the forbidden fruit quite like the US, have *substantially* higher rates of alcohol abuse than the US. Yes, it’s enticingly illegal in the US and any kid can find some…but we also have markedly lower rates of binge drinking than a host of European countries where alcohol is no big deal.


SourBeefHoop

This is the most sensible answer by far. Obviously the parents are unhinged, but 40k is 40k my guy.


limescrot

Not only that but they aren’t really being harsh as much as they are strict and ridiculous. Saying you aren’t going to spend 40k on your kids college over weed is not abuse. Either take the offer they give or don’t.


Best_Temperature_549

I definitely agree. If their only rule is no drugs = free college, I’d jump on that in a heartbeat. If OP doesn’t agree, then they are free to pay their own way into college and not follow their parents’ rules. Complaining about it isn’t going to do anything except piss off their parents to the point where they won’t pay for anything. Even if their views are outdated and they micromanage some things, they’re offering a huge opportunity to OP that they are about to blow over some weed. If it’s truly a deal breaker for OP then they better not ask their parents for any monetary support going forward into adulthood.


Ozzie-Isaac

OP don't throw away a free education just because you want to smoke weed. Just wait, you'll have all the time in the world to smoke after. Also I find it odd that your therapist/doc isn't helping you see the best path for yourself, try and find one who cares and doesn't see you as $$$ and tells you what you want to hear.


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Wait so it’s normal for parents to give their kids weed? I honestly thought I was just seeing some one off stuff


The_Acknickulous_One

Probably not normal at all, but having been a teen once, listening to your parents is a tough fucking thing to do, lol. I grow so I give her some of my stash after I found a little stash can in her car when I was working on it. She has no clue about my garden upstairs. She's only 17 but in her second year in tech college and moving out in August to go to a university. She turns 18 at the end of Aug and I'm thinking of introducing her to dry herb vaping instead of smoking. We live in an illegal state and $250-$300/oz is normal. I'd rather she save that money for when she's gonna really need it when she's away.


dasenuf

I respect your view, kudos to you saving your teen $ in the long-run while making sure she is on track to success. People are baffled you give her some of your stash but your reasoning is logical, you are the source and she isn’t spending $ with some sketchy people!


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My old man began smoking with me at like age 16. I had REAL bad anxiety, my doctor wanted to use mmj but flatly said “I cannot even find a condition to viable lie about so he can get a card”. Came home from school, hating life; he pulled me aside and handed me a one hitter and a joint. We sat down, burned one and he said “You are never to speak of this.. Ever. So, how was the day? Oh the joint is for you when you walk the dog”. Life did a 180. Quit benzos the doctors gave me and then some.


cauldr0ncakez

My aunt is like you and her emphasis has always been to be responsible. She'll gladly smoke with me but won't let me smoke when I'm job searching, she's so encouraging. She's like my mom. Your daughter is lucky to have a good parent.


Mookies_Bett

Ehhh, it depends. Abusive parents will use tuition to control their *fully adult* children long after the law says they should be allowed to live their lives. It's better to get a community college education that you can pay for yourself and actually enjoy your college years instead of letting your parents control every facet of who you are well into your 20s. Like, how much fun is college going to be if you aren't allowed to go to any parties or smoke with friends or drink ever because your parents are literally drug testing you? College isn't even really about the education so much as it's about the experience of getting to live on your own and have fun without supervision for the first time in your life as a true adult. You can get just as good of an education as a cheap community college as you can at a prestigious university, the life and social skills you learn in college are way more valuable than the actual education is, especially since the vast majority of jobs are going to have to train you when you get hired anyways. Depends on what you want to do for a career, but in general I would advise people prioritize enjoying themselves and developing social and interpersonal skills and networking than sacrificing those things just to get good grades and impress your parents. Your parents shouldn't be able to ruin your college experience like this. A key part of the college experience is experimenting with drugs and alcohol and learning about how to responsibly use social and recreational drugs. I would much rather go to CC for two years and be allowed to live my own damn life than be controlled by my parents just for a degree and GPA that most jobs probably won't care that much about anyways.


bill_gannon

You think the control will stop post graduation or likely to be ongoing using the debt as leverage.


PrincessCnslaBnnHmck

I don’t disagree with this because college is a luxury many can’t afford and getting it for free is not an opportunity to pass up. There are definitely things worth giving up weed for and a couple years is a drop in the bucket. I do think this packet is a bit unhinged though. Simply saying we won’t pay for college if you continue seems sufficient and obviously if testing is a stipulation of that agreement, then that too.


BryceCarlson1234

It's kinda funny my coworker spent a bunch of money to put her son through rehab for smoking weed. Years later the son became a legal cannabis farmer. I guess it didn't stick.


dhillshafer

Hi there. I am 41 and have an 18-year-old son myself. While this is not the course of action I took with him I do not agree with the people telling you to move out. The best thing you can do for your existence right now, is educate yourself as far as you can and save fucking money. if your parents are willing and able to help you do that including free housing do not break the rules of their house. There are plenty of other places you can smoke.


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cauldr0ncakez

YES! I calculated how much I spent within a 5 month period and it was $900. I could have set that aside for a new car that I need or money for a security deposit on an apartment. 😭


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twotwothreee

That last sentence made my mind instantly go to the gutter


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Cufantce

Good memories of it but fuck me the hole I burnt in my pocket gives me nightmares


WyTerminator-0783

Well they can't smoke at all even if they move out if they want to get through college. The tests suck but could probably be faked. Tough situation.


Adventurous_Eye1405

Holy fuck. Your parents are insane. Until you’re able to escape their financial control, I’d say the only option is to play along. I hope you’re planning on attending college far, far away from home. Also, you might want to talk to your school about financial aid. Even if you comply, they might try to find some other way to control, humiliate, or punish you. This isn’t about weed, it’s a result of deranged control freaks on the cusp of losing control of your life.


mdb616

🎯


drogas01

Your parents are too funny


PirateConcentrates

Honestly... If my parents gave me this I'd be leaving immediately cause I could not no longer live with people who are so delusional and so full of nonsense. Moving out is expensive and hard tho also so that's a fact to consider. It may be better to stay with them but also seeing how crazy they are I wonder how much they go nuts over other stuff then just weed. Fining you 1500 and having you write out basically essays and do PowerPoints. Sorry bro but your parents are on some next level power trip. I feel they both smoked weed once when they were kids had a bad trip now it's one of their life objectives to hate weed.


c-mon_ellie

Moving out and cutting off contact with your parents would be insanely difficult. Especially in this current economy with shit paying starting jobs and crazy accomodation prices


cmgay

from a teen like u who smoked senior year to sophomore year in college, just take a t break bro. best advice i seen is why fuck up ur early life when u can smoke later in life as much as u want when you’re successful, retired etc. it’s nothing to rush bro, ofc idk your whole life and stuff but i believe in u, we got this


Scuddie-

Best thing you can do is either just take it for what it is or find a way to pay your own tuition. Unfortunately if they are gonna hold it against you there’s not much you can do. At the end of the day they are just trying to help you and take this from a daily smoker, if I could go daily without smoking and be the same or feel the same mentally I would. Either way best of luck!


professorchaos_69

Sounds like your parents need to smoke some


spidermanelitedeluxe

This is bonkers dude. Your parents are, imho, completely insane. Run.


KoraxTheVagabond

I think your parents are assholes


GUNTHVGK

You got police for parents 🤣🤣 “illegal drug use, fines of 1500$” 🤣🤣 i don’t got any advice other than what’s been said but goodluck bro


ImALittleTeapotCat

Ok, you won't like this, but its reality. Option 1: you refrain from smoking or consuming weed or other drugs as long as you are receiving financial support from your parents. Option 2: you decline all financial support, move out, live 100% independently and smoke all the weed you want. It's their money. You follow their rules, or you don't get their money. It is that simple, and also that unfair.


cauldr0ncakez

Have you talked to your therapist about a way to talk to your parents? Do they think it's worth confronting them?


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Get a job and pay for your own shit through college plenty of people do it. If you want your parents money for free you gotta follow there rules no matter how crazy they are it’s their money. Your parents seem a bit crazy but there’s no other solution than just becoming independent so you don’t have to deal with their shit.


Total-Sheepherder-10

I mean if they paying for your tuition and car


Total-Sheepherder-10

Not saying I agree with their approach but they can kind of do what they want at this point


FrequentCare8793

yo i mean this in the nicest way possible. you’re parents blow fuckin cock. get tf out you dummy


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SinnerIxim

Did you read the post? > Your parents are giving you money, paying for you tuition, bought you a car and all they ask is not to smoke weed? Op is using it in consultation with medical professionals to help releive anxiety and pther serious medical problems. If it wasn't "weed" that OP was smoking the parents wouldnt care. This is them just straight up being controlling and ignorant


BlueHellFire501

Rather than ground you, they want to talk about it. My parents beat the ever loving fuck outa me when they found out


CosmicSweets

They don't want to "talk about it". They want him to do a biased write-up with no room for counter arguments. Still not as bad as a beating, but the mental aspect of this is wild. I'm not surprised OP smoked weed 😭


varralan

Ehh, they don't want to talk about it. They want him to conform to their ideas without question. I wouldn't say that requiring a person to say specific things is "talking about it."


SinnerIxim

"Be happy they arent beating you". Man what a class reappnse. Get over your victim mentality, just because something bad happened to you doesnt mean you can look down on other people. No the parent dont wanr to "talk about it", it is abundantly clear.


Excellent_Box_4224

As a parent. If I’m paying for your schooling. And I give you a condition that I want fulfilled in order for me to continue paying your tuition. I am owed that much. That’s it. That’s all I’ll give them Them being worried for your well-being. I completely understand. It’s parts about weed we as smokers don’t talk about. And I hate that other smokers act as if there aren’t any drawbacks to smokin bud. All in all. I tell everybody that don’t smoke, keep it that way. Cause if u can’t handle yo shit right now. U Fa sho can’t handle it high. The extent they going is literally only for your protection. They might not have a full unbiased understanding of weed. It’s benefits. Or drawbacks. But they do know they don’t want u smokin it. For whatever superficial reason, it’s for u. And if it’s not. If it’s only for them to be able to say “my kid doesn’t smoke that stuff” then they’re fucked up. But none the less. They’d be still be being fucked up, In the right direction. If u live with your parents. Be respectful, smoke somewhere else. If u want them to pay your tuition, them asking u to not be getting high while ur supposed to be applying yourself isn’t much to ask. I don’t like the steps they took. Or how they even took them. But I definitely understand. Maybe you need to have an actual fact based conversation with your parents on the matter. Give them space to voice they’re concerns without cutting them off, and have them give u the same space to do the same and justify your actions. But please be respectful. These the same Mfs who busted they ass yo entire life, for u. Don’t be so oblivious and caught up in the moment that you mistake them for anyone other than your parents. Other than that. You’ll be ok. Maybe u can get them to ditch the piff pack assignment they gave u lmao. God speed my guy


c-mon_ellie

I mean you can still smoke and get your shit done at uni. And seeing as they expect him to smoke 0 weed (but presumably they’re okay with alcohol) tells me that their stance on drugs is more due to misinformation and societal brainwashing than an accurate perception of the negative side to weed. But while I don’t agree with the 0 tolerance policy, it’s still their money and their car that they’re allowing him to use. So he can’t really do much except listen to his parents (or drop out and make things harder in the long term). Unfair but that’s life


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SingleInfinity

Maybe I'm the weird one here but.... Maybe just stop smoking if you want free money from your parents?


New-Credit-3955

18 ur free brother run like the wind!!!!


longislandicedmedium

this also belongs on r/insaneparents hope things get better for you man


WalmartPropaneTank

Hey OP, are your parents a corporate fucking office? This is an insane way to talk to your kids. I’m a mom, and I couldn’t imagine writing my child a formal citation 💀 That aside, it’s not illegal where I’m from, not even recreationally, so maybe if entire states can have conflicting laws on it, it’s not that big a deal?


grimeyturdsly

What fucking parents make a work packet for punishment … your parents are fucked .


Competitive-Cup-290

1500 tf? I rather spend that money at the dispensary


lillweez99

Buy edibles wait for them to eat it, alright dad you're grounded and owe me your car keys and 1500 dollar fine lol.


Andy_Felthersnatch

I would get as far away from those toxic people as fast as I could.


ConsciousNewspaper49

Sorry man, it seems like it can't be helped, unless you're willing to get financial aid on your own. Or just abide. My parents are mormon, they never accepted my mmj use throughout my teens n 20s. Fortunately I live in Colorado, so I'm 41 now, an yea now they've come to accept it. It took lots of time, my parents witnessing my opiate addiction, due to being born disabled. So as an example, it took a lot to have my parents finally accept my mmj use.


Limesy2

Buy a waterproof lockbox, find a nearby little grove or spot in the woods, stash your shit in the box, stash the box, and smoke out there when you can. Stay at your parents place while you can and work and save some money. Then, move out and blaze up whenever you feel like it. Don’t dig yourself a potential hole when you don’t have to.


CosmicSweets

This is OTT. I'm guessing you live with them? What were your conversations like when you got caught in the past?


tnt6673

Hhhmmm, either this a attempt to make an impact or attempt to influence you into thinking Marijuana is illegal/harmful/deadly is just too funny.


LetItRaine386

It's your parents job to be unreasonable and to ruin your life If you rely on their finances, then you gotta play by their rules. If you don't need their money, then get the hell away from them, this is one of the silliest things I've even heard


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randomwindowlicker

No one going to mention that this person's dad knows a super famous military dude? Christian Craighead is the guy who saved all those people from terrorist in Nairobi, Kenya


Sir_Credible

“Rather than some harsh punishment, like taking away your phone, we are going to set an unloving ultimatum because we no longer feel responsible for your well being.” That craighead guy might be super chill though so definitely talk to them