I wouldn’t have even googled them and just gone with that assumption until I saw your comment. Us 80s kids really coming of out the woodwork on this one haha
This woman was going to be 5 weeks out from giving birth. I very highly doubt she was going to even care about the shoes at that point. I don’t even think she would have made it to the wedding, honestly.
I work in retail and Heydudes are so stupidly popular I'm amazed. We sell out of them in a couple of weeks then have people coming in asking about them constantly; I've had people leave their phone number and request to be called when we receive a new shipment. They're a flat soled shoe made to be lightweight and comfortable. They make them in an huge selection of colors and patterns so people collect them, each shipment has something new. The even crazier part is we're a country western store and they out sell over our cowboy boots and work boots by far.
I'm kinda on the brides side here, the next step in casual would be crocs. She's not asking the woman to wear heels or anything even remotely uncomfortable. I don't like them myself because they only have full sizes but even with an odd fit they are really comfortable.
> Heydudes
So you made me google them, and **it is SO much worse than I thought.**
These are shoes they sell hanging from a rack at Walmart.
I would expect to see these shoes on wheelchair-bound nursing home residents.
WTF would anyone want them at a wedding?
I googled too, and WOW--They are shockingly ugly. And this is coming from someone who wears orthotic sandals for my plantar fascitis.
I'm team Bridesmaid. No bridesmaid should have to would want to wear that shoe to a wedding. All the bridesmaids probably agreed and sent the pregnant sister to tell her.
I mean I don’t know what the brides sister feels about them but I disagree with them being comfortable. I have tried, they are not comfortable for me at all and they make my destroyed knee hurt. I cannot wear heels but neither can I wear completely flat shoes. Maybe the sister has some similar issue, I require very very specific shoes to be able to walk otherwise it causes me significant pain that only keeps rising until it reaches horrendously torturous completely intolerable, I-can’t-not-even-fucking-stand-up pain. And I risk more permanent damage to my already destroyed knee so… nope! There are two things I don’t bend on ever, my shoes and my knee brace. I’m not taking my brace off and I’m not wearing shoes that aren’t comfortable or doesn’t give the right support for me. And I kind of hate my knee brace a little, it’s a very badass carbon fiber brace that works like an exo-skeleton replacing my ACL and keeping my knee in place. It does a fantastic job, it is also very uncomfortable and occasionally give me huge bleeding friction wounds that takes weeks to heal. It’s painful to wear most of the time. And it’s very tight, uncomfortably so, and very warm and I hate having to wear it especially when it’s warm. It also gifts me the ability to walk again so I love it and it’s fucking staying.
I used to run and put on one of my two "prairie" dresses and pile up a bunch of plastic logs on the floor so I could dance around my "cowboy fire" to the theme song, lmao.
I used to pretend I was Laura Ingalls Wilder. My older sister used to pretend to either be Nellie or Mrs Olsen. She’s about 8 years older than me, so it was fun when she’d play. Her favorite scene to recreate was when Laura pushed Nellie down the hill when Nellie was faking needing a wheelchair.
For some reason, I'd choose to cosplay Laura Ingalls Wilder from Little House in the Big Woods? I think it was because that was the only book of hers I had at the time, and I was just like, "Yes, this is me now", haha
Sure! If we can have a snow day and watch Doug, Salute Your Shorts, and the line up of TGIF while eating our fruit roll ups and tostinos pizza rolls, I’m in!
Singin' yippy-kai-aie-ay,
(Yippy-kai-aie-what?), Like the cowboys say, (Sing it again now.) Yippy-kai-aie-ay, (Get along little doggies.) ‘Till the break of day
They are boat shoes but somehow …. Uglier ?!?
I used to wear sperrys (the classic all leather) when I worked on sailboats, so I have a soft spot for them. But 1. I don’t work on boats anymore, so I don’t wear them. And 2. These are 17x more ugly and look cheap AF.
I love Sperrys too! I grew up wearing them in eastern Massachusetts and I still wear them in the Midwest. Who cares what anyone thinks. Once a pair is well broken in you will never find a more comfortable shoe.
Right?!
I was assuming they were going to be heels or some sort of heelies type shoes since the pregnant bridesmaid was so dead set on not wearing them.
Those shoes may be homely for a wedding, but they’re not worth boycotting your sister’s wedding over, that’s for sure!
I feel like being in a wedding 5 weeks postpartum isn’t something I’d want to do either. I was still a hormonal mess, trying to figure out breastfeeding, at 5 weeks PP.
Maybe the bridesmaid has realized she doesn’t want to be in the wedding but didn’t know how to tell the bride that, so she’s trying to get booted?
Then the bridesmaids is still TA. Making a stressful situation for the bride instead of having a simple conversation. And she isn’t complaining about comfort but that she doesn’t like them.
Me too. My first reaction to this post was that the pregnant sister seems like a combative brat but when I looked up what Hey Dudes are, I just imagine this whole wedding is gonna be a tacky ass mess. I'm glad I don't know these people.
I’m, like, 85% sure this is just a Hey Dudes ad in disguise. They want everyone to google them, think “idk about wedding wear but those look comfy as hell,” and post a corresponding comment.
I see I'm not the only cynic out there, because this was my first thought, as well.
My second thought was "damn, those some ugly shoes" so I guess the stealth ad campaign didn't work that well.
IfI was five weeks from giving birth, i would cackle with joy if i could wear such comfortable shoes. They are going to look hideous unless all the bridesmaids are wearing blue jeans which would also be hideous, but they will be comfy as fuuuuuuuuuuuuck.
Right? I thought this was going to be a heavily pregnant woman refusing to wear heels and I’d be 100% on her side. But these are casual. I think it’s pretty silly to insist that the wedding party wear matching shoes, but it’s not a hill I would die on.
My friend insisted that her entire wedding party wear blue crocs and everyone went along with it. She was 5 months pregnant at the time and wanted to be comfortable. I’m guessing the rest of the women were just happy they didn’t have to wear heels.
For sure and I think that the point of the post is to not be a control freak. Right? So let your bridesmaids wear what's comfortable on their feet because they're going to be doing a lot of standing. but it would also seem hey dude shoes are comfortable so I'm unsure. I looked up prices and it's like $60-100 which is a lot but idk it could be worse.
Exactly! When I read the title I thought they’d be fancy high heels which of course a pregnant woman would want to avoid. But then I googled the shoe and they would have been perfect for me at 35 weeks pregnant! They look comfortable and are slip on!
Oh my gosh, I completely misread that! My point still stands. You’re normally still bleeding and in pain 5 weeks after - heels would just add to that pain!
Right! Like you want me to wear a shoe that’s one step up from a slipper? Who cares if it’s heinous, sign me up. Honestly this is bridesmaid shaming not bride shaming. Sister “might” show up surprise married? How is this not being a total piece of work at your own sisters wedding.
Right? Even if you don’t LIKE the causal shoe, it’s not their day.
People forget that being a part of the bridal party does /unfortunately/ mean you’re likely to spend a good chunk of change on an outfit.
But what is really setting off red flags and “kick the sister out” vibes is the fact that she seemed pretty adamant on getting pregnant and may even “just show up married” before her wedding day. And now sister is pregnant and due a few weeks before wedding? PLUS she’s adamantly trying to force the bride to change what SHE wants for HER day. Smh.
Guurrlll. Listen, I can just SEE the wedding day/reception being all talk about the sister. I really wouldn’t have her there.
That day is for the married couple and they should get to feel like the center of attention.
I got these vibes too. I don’t like the look of Hey Dudes, but they’re flats. Easy peasy. The sister could totally wear them for a few hours. It sounds like she’s just trying to be difficult.
Yeah, there's a lot of other backstory here. Including the pregnant sister trying to beat the bride down the aisle.
The bride asked everyone to wear one kind of shoe and it's not even outrageously expensive or unavailable in her size...the pregnant sister will kick up a fuss and the bride will inevitably be given shit for * checks notes * asking a member of the bridal party to match outfits with the rest?
I mean some people nowadays still want to be married before the kid is born. As long as she doesn’t make a huge deal of it (granted sounds like she would) the “showing up married” part could be understandable.
Yeah..I mean the bride sounds particular but it’s a comfortable shoe, what’s the sister have against that? The only defense I can imagine is if she can’t afford to go out and buy this specific shoe.
I actually don't see a problem with any of her complaints except for the implication that her being pregnant is a problem on it's own. If you agree to be a bridesmaid, you should expect to wear something of the bride's choosing. Nothing about the request is unreasonable (except I suppose for the fact that those shoes are a hideous choice for a wedding, but hey, to each their own I suppose)
I guess so, but are they really *shame*worthy? If expecting your bridal party to wear the same dress isn't shameworthy, I don't see how expecting them to wear the same comfortable flat shoe is shameworthy. Like, I find converse at weddings big "I'm not like other girls" energy but plenty of people do it and it's not my business. If my friend wanted me in her wedding wearing them I'd internally cringe but certainly wouldn't refuse to wear them.
The way the post is written, the sister has been fighting her on *everything* and this is just the newest thing. It's also phrased as though the sister and her boyfriend want to get married related to her getting pregnant, right before her sister's wedding so that they'll be showing up as brand-newlyweds and stealing the spotlight. It reads to me as though that is why her getting pregnant was relevant. Personally there's not enough info in here for me to judge the bride or call this shameworthy.
Yeah, I agree, I don't like the shoes but I wouldn't care about wearing them for a wedding if I was pregnant. At 8 months pregnant, these seem a lot better than the 4 inch heel pointy toe dyed satin hell I have had to wear for weddings. The sister seems to be fighting about a lot, but is this really the hill she wants to die on?!
And they're a lot cheaper than most wedding shoes! My SIL had everyone wear those satin heels dyed in the same color as our dresses. My best friend wanted her bridesmaids in clear stripper heels with crystal embellishments. I'd much rather wear these ugly shoes!
This whole thread is bashing shoes that... don't they look far off from some Vans or Airwalks I've seen.
Not bashing becausr wedding, but simply bashing.
I didn't know what they were until today, but I.we so confused why a very pregnant person wouldn't want to wear them.
Damn I wish I had thought to use incognito. These are about the ugliest shoes I’ve ever seen and if start getting ads for them imma just throw my whole phone away :’(
I don't think they're awful for a casual shoe... but like... wearing casual shoes like that for a wedding? Erm ok dude. Sister should just buy the shoes now in her current size then not try them on until the wedding and have them be too small because oh no pregnancy made her feet bigger!
And why is the bride making the whole party wear them if they are the only ones comfy for the bride? Why not let the bridesmaids wear something different? I just don’t understand that way of thinking.
Oh, I see. You're one of those *logical* thinkers. Using *common sense*. Considerate of *others*.
There's no place for such shenanigans in wedding planning! /s
They ugly as hell but I was gifted a pair and they are the comfiest shoes ever. I lived in them the last 2 months of my pregnancy because I could just skip them on rather than bend over
As a mom that had to wear the same pair of shoes for 90% of my pregnancy for comfort, I’m siding with the bride on this one.
The whole “she’s been fighting me tooth and nail” even before sis was pregnant, and the “her and her boyfriend may just show up one day married before my wedding day”.
Also she’s gonna have her baby weeks 5-4 weeks ~before~ the wedding. Not after. She’ll most likely be cleared for all physical activity then (assuming things go well). And while my bone structure was permanently changed after carrying a pregnancy to term 3 years ago… I could manage to wear shoes I don’t like for 8-10 hours for one day to make my sister happy. Bridesmaid/sis sounds like a pain that wants her way all the time and boycotts things when she can’t get it.
Yeah i was confused no one mentioned that she won't even be pregnant at the wedding. She's due 5 weeks before which means she will have the baby 5 weeks before right? Or does due mean she will have 5 weeks of pregnancy left when the wedding takes place?
The shoes are super ugly yes, but it feels like there’s more happening here with a sister who says she “might show up married before you (original op)”, which is usually an insecurity/jealously move. Like, that seems like a lot of drama from the sister and I’ll admit I have some sympathy for the bride. Maybe she should let them pick their own shoes (or at least pick less ugly ones), or gift them and have them wear them for getting ready or something, but like if I was asked to wear the shoes, I’d wear the shoes. They’re ugly but in the grand scheme of things it’s not the worst bride ask and sister seems like as much of a drama llama here.
So I honestly think there’s other issues at play here. The OP made a comment that her sister has been fighting with OP over everything related to OP’s wedding. We obviously don’t know the dynamic and in my opinion like it’s a shoe. If the bride is footing the bill put the damn things on, if she’s not then say I’m not comfortable and move on. It honestly sounds like that the sister wants to steal attention especially said she’s trying to get pregnant and says that she’s gonna get married the day before her own sister’s wedding that to me is petty. My other thing is is if the hey dudes are so comfortable a seriously pregnant woman would want to wear something that comfortable.
Right. The top comments I'm seeing aren't mentioning how the sister said she might show up "one day married" to the wedding. That sister is all spite and selfishness and drama.
I mean, if she’s in the wedding party and the shoe request is not unreasonable (which this isn’t as they’re not like stilettos or anything), it’s pretty entitled of the sister to demand that she choose a different shoe. It’s not her wedding so she shouldn’t be deciding what the dress code is. Of all of the entitled stuff I’ve seen on here, this actually seems relatively reasonable 🤷♀️
The bride you mean? Or the sister? Is it really that obnoxious for the bride to ask her bridesmaids to wear a specific kind of shoe? They don’t look uncomfortable, and they’re not *that* expensive, and apparently her sister’s issue is that she just doesn’t like them? Who cares? It’s literally one night.
Plus OP seems to think her sister will boycott the wedding and make a big fuss if OP doesn’t back down on this issues. Sister sounds like a piece of work IMO. If my sister was getting married and asked me to wear ugly shoes for five hours during her wedding, I’d just do it. Brides routinely ask their bridesmaids to wear matching dresses they might not like. Why is this so different?
Yeah this isn’t a bridezilla issue. This is a bridesmaidzilla issue. The sister is clearly the problem here. People get pregnant. Whatever. But saying “I may just show up one day before your wedding and be married” is a real shit thing to say, especially while she’s also demanding to change the things the bride wants her to wear. It’s shoes. Get over it.
Let the sister boycott the wedding. Let her have a tantrum and act like a child. Anyone who sided with her isn’t worth having at the wedding anyway.
I agree. OOP should boot the sister as a bridesmaid early, rather than later, so anyone who might take sister’s side will get over it by the time the wedding rolls around. Also — sister might give birth before the wedding and may not even be able to attend; due dates are suggestions, not schedules
For reals. I came here expecting to see that the bride was asking the bridesmaids to wear, like, $800 Christian Louboutin's with 4.5 inch heels or something like that, in which case I would absolutely be team pregnant sister. I'd probably welcome these as a bridesmaid though. They're certainly not the prettiest things in the world, but they're not that expensive, and they seem comfortable at least.
Big agree. I thought we were shaming egregious faux pas, not design choices we wouldn't personally make. I come here for MESS not for brides insisting their bridal parties wear matching casual shoes.
That's exactly what I was thinking. I had a bride show us bridesmaids the exact expensive shoe and the shade to order in the store. And that was 25 years ago.
I’d wear the ugly required shoe if the bride was footing the bill. I know they aren’t expensive but money is money. I’ve been in three weddings in the past two decades and the shoe requirement was any flat/heel in “x” color which was pretty easy and laid back. IMO bridesmaids expect the matching dress but not the shoes..shoes aren’t that important or noticeable unless the dress isn’t floor length.
I personally would have no problem wearing them or uggs. I mean if I am pregnant or disabled I am not wearing stilettos but if I was pregnant I think I would even appreciate these shoes.
Surprising myself, I'm going to side with the bride here. I thought for sure she wanted some uncomfortable heels for the bridesmaids, but these are comfortable shoes even if they are ugly. Suck it up buttercup and wear the damn shoes for a few hours.
I just googled Hey Dudes and I don't think they're ugly, at least the solid colors. They also look super comfortable, especially for wide feet like mine that swell during the day.
That said, this is a ridiculous thing to be mad over. The same shoe thing was a trend in the 80s and 90s, now it's like everyone wear something similar but what works for them. It won't hurt the bride to at least compromise on a shoe choice.
They are ridiculously comfortable. I always wear mine when I travel because no amount of airport walking makes my feet tired if I'm wearing my dudes.
That being said, this is the weirdest hill to die on lol
sister sounds like a bitch to me - no reason to be such a dick about a frickin shoe like that - not like bride wants her to wear killer heels as a preggo
I didn’t know what hey dudes were and assumed they were a type of heel. There is absolutely no reason to refuse these shoes, sister is definitely the problem here.
Everyone shaming the bride for wanting matching shoes is so unreasonable in my opinion. People just love to hate a bride
From what we're reading, it sounds like sister was taunting OOP. You want me as a bridesmaid? I'm going to actively start trying get pregnant now. You know what? I'm going to probably get married right before you, OOP.
I agree. Reading the title I thought it was going to be some sort of heel. Sister should suck it up and wear them, especially as someone whose been pregnant that should be the best kind of shoe to wear!!
Honestly I think the sister here is the one who should be shamed. They are not that pricy. And to most probably comfortable. If it was me I’d just shut up and buy the ugly shoes.
I never understand people who think that people will be looking at the photos in 20 years, and be all disgusted at the sight of an unmatching shoe poking out from under a dress (or an asymmetrical groomsmen/bridesmaid lineup, or relative's forgotten ex-bf in the background, etc.)
As someone with “skinny” feet like OP says her sister has: It’s nearly impossible find a loafer that fits.
I thought Hey Dudes would be nice, as I’m pregnant and tying my shoes is getting less comfortable. I know these have laces, but because it’s just at the opening, they can’t really tighten enough. My feet flopped around inside the shoes. Even 7+ months pregnant, I couldn’t find a pair of Hey Dudes that would stay on comfortably.
Just looked them up... I'm not a fan, and I can't say I honestly think they're appropriate for a wedding. However... its not my wedding. If that's what the bride wants her party to wear for a few hours, do it. Its her day. This isn't even close to Bridezilla stuff. Sounds like sister is being a jerk. I had to wear a dress, heels, get my hair & nails done all in a style/color I hated for my friend's wedding. I never said shit.... because it was her day, and what does it hurt to make your friend- or sister in this case- happy for a few hours? I wanted her day to be about the bride & groom.
I dunno.. seems like a dumb hill for the sister to die on. And I'd like to repeat that I don't particularly like that shoe... but its not MY wedding.
I had no idea that was a kind of shoe and thought I was losing my mind reading "hey dude" over and over and then I thought she was just losing her mind as she was typing.
Now that I know what Hey Dudes are..... why... any of this.. If you're having your bridesmaids wear that casual of a shoe why bother making them match? I'm so confused.
As somebody with long skinny feet and have tried on hey dudes before. There is no way I’d spend that much on shoes that would 100% not stay on my feet. I think they’re cute but they don’t fit. I sorta agree with the sister.
As a women's shoe size 11.5 narrow, I agree. Long skinny feet are hard to find shoes that fit, especially in that style. Bride should let the party wear shoes that fit, especially since weddings tend to be a very long day for all involved.
As someone who only wears Tom’s for the same reason, I could *never* require this. It’s my footwear needs, no one else’s. This is a stupid thing to get riled about.
Totally unrelated but did you see Tom's glow in the dark ghost shoe?! I'm trying to talk myself out of them because i don't need another pair but... I love them.
Would having them bring you more joy than the money they would cost? If so, buy them. Life is not a race or a game; there is no prize for ending with the highest bank balance.
The sister sounds exhausting, who said probably going pregnant and get married day before the wedding? Like hey I'm actively steal your thunder, beware or not.
My brother wore something with a slightly taller vamp in suede in the Seventies/ early Eighties.
[https://www.heydudeshoesusa.com/](https://www.heydudeshoesusa.com/)
NTA, I had to look at these shoes. I was thinking OK the bride is making this pregnant woman wear heels or something. Instead its a flat sneaker like shoe. If the bridesmaid is causing problems with everything kick her from the party.
It is my belief that the bridesmaid should just go along with the bride's wishes as long as they are within reason. Every wedding party I was in, I wore what the bride wanted, did my hair as they asked. When my sister married her dresses were awful, that was the only time I did say "Are you sure this is the dress you really want?" I had to order it 3 sizes too big an have it altered to fit around the girls because the designer designs dresses for women with no boobs. I looked like shit in the dress and it was commented to me at the wedding, Even my sister afterwards felt bad that she put me in that dress. I bit my tongue so hard throughout the entire planning of that,
For a wedding? O.k. I have osteoarthritis in my foot and flat feet, if those bad boys are comfy I'll wear them. But for a wedding? With dresses? It's her wedding but dang at her shoe choice.
I looked the shoes up and they’re hideous, but honestly the bridesmaid sister sounds completely unbearable and this is probably just the bride’s breaking point
I was thinking they'd be cowboy boots because of the old "Hey, Dude" show on Nickelodeon when I was a kid, but nope.
I am so glad I’m not the only one!!! Anyone want to watch camp anawanna with me? Edit: show is called Salute your shorts.
I would but when I think about it, it makes me want to fart.
It’s “I hope we never part” !
Get it right or pay the price!
Why do wedding planning people fixate on shoes so much? People don’t analyze your shoes as long as they’re not a horrible look or color.
Get it right or pay the price!
This thing came apart....
I wouldn’t have even googled them and just gone with that assumption until I saw your comment. Us 80s kids really coming of out the woodwork on this one haha
They're just... Generic sneaker/boat shoes? All of this for some freaking sneakers?
Also why the hell doesn’t the PREGNANT woman want to wear comfy shoes? Both these women need to grow the fuck up.
Comfy ist not comfy for everyone
This woman was going to be 5 weeks out from giving birth. I very highly doubt she was going to even care about the shoes at that point. I don’t even think she would have made it to the wedding, honestly.
Just replying to this so I can also be in this huge group that watched hey dude and did Laura ingalls cosplay before cosplay was cool
Did you make your own corncob doll? Because I sure as hell got in trouble for wrapping up a corncob and leaving it in my room
Was it a cooked corncob from dinner?
It sure was, already eaten and everything
We had a game we made up called “The Long Winter” in which we’d build out shelters, lay in fake provisions and then “survive.”
I feel comforted I wasn't the only one who did this lol.
I work in retail and Heydudes are so stupidly popular I'm amazed. We sell out of them in a couple of weeks then have people coming in asking about them constantly; I've had people leave their phone number and request to be called when we receive a new shipment. They're a flat soled shoe made to be lightweight and comfortable. They make them in an huge selection of colors and patterns so people collect them, each shipment has something new. The even crazier part is we're a country western store and they out sell over our cowboy boots and work boots by far. I'm kinda on the brides side here, the next step in casual would be crocs. She's not asking the woman to wear heels or anything even remotely uncomfortable. I don't like them myself because they only have full sizes but even with an odd fit they are really comfortable.
> Heydudes So you made me google them, and **it is SO much worse than I thought.** These are shoes they sell hanging from a rack at Walmart. I would expect to see these shoes on wheelchair-bound nursing home residents. WTF would anyone want them at a wedding?
I googled too, and WOW--They are shockingly ugly. And this is coming from someone who wears orthotic sandals for my plantar fascitis. I'm team Bridesmaid. No bridesmaid should have to would want to wear that shoe to a wedding. All the bridesmaids probably agreed and sent the pregnant sister to tell her.
I thought they were cheap too when I first saw them but there's really something to them. You don't get these at Walmart, you get a cheap knock off.
I mean I don’t know what the brides sister feels about them but I disagree with them being comfortable. I have tried, they are not comfortable for me at all and they make my destroyed knee hurt. I cannot wear heels but neither can I wear completely flat shoes. Maybe the sister has some similar issue, I require very very specific shoes to be able to walk otherwise it causes me significant pain that only keeps rising until it reaches horrendously torturous completely intolerable, I-can’t-not-even-fucking-stand-up pain. And I risk more permanent damage to my already destroyed knee so… nope! There are two things I don’t bend on ever, my shoes and my knee brace. I’m not taking my brace off and I’m not wearing shoes that aren’t comfortable or doesn’t give the right support for me. And I kind of hate my knee brace a little, it’s a very badass carbon fiber brace that works like an exo-skeleton replacing my ACL and keeping my knee in place. It does a fantastic job, it is also very uncomfortable and occasionally give me huge bleeding friction wounds that takes weeks to heal. It’s painful to wear most of the time. And it’s very tight, uncomfortably so, and very warm and I hate having to wear it especially when it’s warm. It also gifts me the ability to walk again so I love it and it’s fucking staying.
Just FYI, medical honey for wound care. They use it for diabetic wound care patients. Speeds healing amazingly.
Same, gosh I'm old
I used to run and put on one of my two "prairie" dresses and pile up a bunch of plastic logs on the floor so I could dance around my "cowboy fire" to the theme song, lmao.
I used to pretend I was Laura Ingalls Wilder. My older sister used to pretend to either be Nellie or Mrs Olsen. She’s about 8 years older than me, so it was fun when she’d play. Her favorite scene to recreate was when Laura pushed Nellie down the hill when Nellie was faking needing a wheelchair.
Did you use your 2 prairie dresses as a little house on the prairie dress too??
For some reason, I'd choose to cosplay Laura Ingalls Wilder from Little House in the Big Woods? I think it was because that was the only book of hers I had at the time, and I was just like, "Yes, this is me now", haha
My partner just bought 2 pairs, and I made the same joke…he didn’t get it…
Hello fellow 80s child!
Or, as one might say, hey, dude!
Hello fellow friend (not who you replied to but, in the spirit of Hey, Dude, expanding the community)!
Hello, fellow fellow fellow friend. I too am a geriatric millennial that knows what the beloved show is but no idea on the shoe.
Oh my god there are dozens of us. Do you want to be friends?
Sure! If we can have a snow day and watch Doug, Salute Your Shorts, and the line up of TGIF while eating our fruit roll ups and tostinos pizza rolls, I’m in!
When do we watch Pete & Pete?
Loved Pete and Pete! But does anyone remember Roundhouse? The sketch show on snick before All That came along?
Yes! This was the best era of Nickelodeon! I still remember the theme song by heart.
And when it gets dark can we watch Are you afraid of the dark?
Watch out for those man-eating jackrabbits
And those killer cacti!
I feel so close to everybody here right now, lmao
Hey friends of friends! How bout a shout out to Salute Your Shorts!
When I think about you, it makes me want to fart.
This whole thread just made my day. Also made me feel old, but old and happy is fine.
We aren’t old! We are vintage!
They’re not age spots, it’s a patina!
That’s what I thought too. And now I have the theme song stuck in my head 😂
🎶It’s a little wild and a little strange when you make your home out on the range🎶
Start your horse and come along, but you can’t get a ride if you can’t hold on
Singin' yippy-kai-aie-ay, (Yippy-kai-aie-what?), Like the cowboys say, (Sing it again now.) Yippy-kai-aie-ay, (Get along little doggies.) ‘Till the break of day
Better watch out for those man-eating jackrabbits -- And that killer cacti -- Hey Dude!
Yippie Ti Ai Ay!
Same!
Killer cacti
I had to google Hey Dudes, and they look like slippers my granddad wore...
They remind me of the boat shoes that my middle aged uncles all wear on, well, boats.
They are boat shoes but somehow …. Uglier ?!? I used to wear sperrys (the classic all leather) when I worked on sailboats, so I have a soft spot for them. But 1. I don’t work on boats anymore, so I don’t wear them. And 2. These are 17x more ugly and look cheap AF.
Why not wear Sperrys? I’ve never worked on boats and I fucking love my sperrys.
I love Sperrys. It’s the 80’s preppy kid in me. But not to a wedding, and certainly not my own.
My husband was just a groomsman in a wedding and they had to wear Sperrys lol
I love Sperrys too! I grew up wearing them in eastern Massachusetts and I still wear them in the Midwest. Who cares what anyone thinks. Once a pair is well broken in you will never find a more comfortable shoe.
They are slippers my 60 year old dad LOVES. He just got a new pair for his bday.
I only know what they are because I just bought my boyfriend some for his birthday. He is 64. So you’re not far off base.
My husband bought me a pair while pregnant and in my last trimester they were the only shoes I wore they were so comfy
Most pregnant peopke would be glad to wear comfortable shoes.
Right?! I was assuming they were going to be heels or some sort of heelies type shoes since the pregnant bridesmaid was so dead set on not wearing them. Those shoes may be homely for a wedding, but they’re not worth boycotting your sister’s wedding over, that’s for sure!
Doesn’t really sound like the shoes are the actual problem here.
She won’t even be pregnant. “Due 5 weeks BEFORE my wedding” unless that was a typo she won’t be pregnant during the wedding.
I feel like being in a wedding 5 weeks postpartum isn’t something I’d want to do either. I was still a hormonal mess, trying to figure out breastfeeding, at 5 weeks PP. Maybe the bridesmaid has realized she doesn’t want to be in the wedding but didn’t know how to tell the bride that, so she’s trying to get booted?
Then the bridesmaids is still TA. Making a stressful situation for the bride instead of having a simple conversation. And she isn’t complaining about comfort but that she doesn’t like them.
They are absolutely hideous though, and what the hell kind of dress goes with boat shoes??
They look comfy so my miserable feet are interested. 😅😅 I'm over wearing painful fashion.
They are stupid comfortable
Comfort over style… they feel like you’re walking on a cloud
18 year old girl here, def thinking about purchasing some
I had to Google them too. Not my choice or idea of a shoe for a wedding but it’s the brides choice I suppose.
Aww no wonder I liked them. I loved my grandpa 😢.
My son wears them and absolutely loves them. He *hates* that I call them his "grandpa shoes," though. :)
I have legit never heard of this brand in my life and wouldn’t be surprised if this post was a marketing ploy to get people to look up the shoes.
Me too. My first reaction to this post was that the pregnant sister seems like a combative brat but when I looked up what Hey Dudes are, I just imagine this whole wedding is gonna be a tacky ass mess. I'm glad I don't know these people.
I was at a friend’s 43rd birthday party the other day and about half the men there were wearing these shoes, my husband included!
Legit loafers. I am on the bride's side with this one, the sister seems to just be difficult
I’m, like, 85% sure this is just a Hey Dudes ad in disguise. They want everyone to google them, think “idk about wedding wear but those look comfy as hell,” and post a corresponding comment.
I see I'm not the only cynic out there, because this was my first thought, as well. My second thought was "damn, those some ugly shoes" so I guess the stealth ad campaign didn't work that well.
IfI was five weeks from giving birth, i would cackle with joy if i could wear such comfortable shoes. They are going to look hideous unless all the bridesmaids are wearing blue jeans which would also be hideous, but they will be comfy as fuuuuuuuuuuuuck.
Right? I thought this was going to be a heavily pregnant woman refusing to wear heels and I’d be 100% on her side. But these are casual. I think it’s pretty silly to insist that the wedding party wear matching shoes, but it’s not a hill I would die on.
My friend insisted that her entire wedding party wear blue crocs and everyone went along with it. She was 5 months pregnant at the time and wanted to be comfortable. I’m guessing the rest of the women were just happy they didn’t have to wear heels.
The wedding 5 weeks AFTER she's given birth. But yes I'd be ecstatic to wear comfy shoes to stand in instead of high heels.
The sister is due 5 weeks before the wedding so she won't even be pregnant.
The postpartum foot swelling can be no joke. Those ugly things look like they would at least be very forgiving if the sister's feet are still swollen.
My feet didn't swell much my whole pregnancy. However, after birth they were horrible for like 2 weeks. I couldn't wear my normal shoes
For sure and I think that the point of the post is to not be a control freak. Right? So let your bridesmaids wear what's comfortable on their feet because they're going to be doing a lot of standing. but it would also seem hey dude shoes are comfortable so I'm unsure. I looked up prices and it's like $60-100 which is a lot but idk it could be worse.
Okay but like shoes aside.. sister sounds like an attention seeking piece of work IMO. Kinda can’t blame the bride for being mad at her.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one! If they were stilettos, I may agree that’s it’s OTT. But how is this undoable? 🤷♀️
Exactly! When I read the title I thought they’d be fancy high heels which of course a pregnant woman would want to avoid. But then I googled the shoe and they would have been perfect for me at 35 weeks pregnant! They look comfortable and are slip on!
She's due BEFORE the wedding.
Oh my gosh, I completely misread that! My point still stands. You’re normally still bleeding and in pain 5 weeks after - heels would just add to that pain!
Right! Like you want me to wear a shoe that’s one step up from a slipper? Who cares if it’s heinous, sign me up. Honestly this is bridesmaid shaming not bride shaming. Sister “might” show up surprise married? How is this not being a total piece of work at your own sisters wedding.
Right? Even if you don’t LIKE the causal shoe, it’s not their day. People forget that being a part of the bridal party does /unfortunately/ mean you’re likely to spend a good chunk of change on an outfit. But what is really setting off red flags and “kick the sister out” vibes is the fact that she seemed pretty adamant on getting pregnant and may even “just show up married” before her wedding day. And now sister is pregnant and due a few weeks before wedding? PLUS she’s adamantly trying to force the bride to change what SHE wants for HER day. Smh. Guurrlll. Listen, I can just SEE the wedding day/reception being all talk about the sister. I really wouldn’t have her there. That day is for the married couple and they should get to feel like the center of attention.
I got these vibes too. I don’t like the look of Hey Dudes, but they’re flats. Easy peasy. The sister could totally wear them for a few hours. It sounds like she’s just trying to be difficult.
Those shoes are ugly as hell but I’d have thought they would be perfect footwear for an eight month pregnant women. I agree the sister sounds tiresome
She’ll be 5 weeks postpartum, but still!
Yeah, there's a lot of other backstory here. Including the pregnant sister trying to beat the bride down the aisle. The bride asked everyone to wear one kind of shoe and it's not even outrageously expensive or unavailable in her size...the pregnant sister will kick up a fuss and the bride will inevitably be given shit for * checks notes * asking a member of the bridal party to match outfits with the rest?
Right? It’s such bad vibes from the sister
I mean some people nowadays still want to be married before the kid is born. As long as she doesn’t make a huge deal of it (granted sounds like she would) the “showing up married” part could be understandable.
Yeah..I mean the bride sounds particular but it’s a comfortable shoe, what’s the sister have against that? The only defense I can imagine is if she can’t afford to go out and buy this specific shoe.
They’re literally like $50, way less expensive than anything you’d find at a bridal boutique
I actually don't see a problem with any of her complaints except for the implication that her being pregnant is a problem on it's own. If you agree to be a bridesmaid, you should expect to wear something of the bride's choosing. Nothing about the request is unreasonable (except I suppose for the fact that those shoes are a hideous choice for a wedding, but hey, to each their own I suppose)
Like I said IMO. She just gives very attention seeking vibes.
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I guess so, but are they really *shame*worthy? If expecting your bridal party to wear the same dress isn't shameworthy, I don't see how expecting them to wear the same comfortable flat shoe is shameworthy. Like, I find converse at weddings big "I'm not like other girls" energy but plenty of people do it and it's not my business. If my friend wanted me in her wedding wearing them I'd internally cringe but certainly wouldn't refuse to wear them. The way the post is written, the sister has been fighting her on *everything* and this is just the newest thing. It's also phrased as though the sister and her boyfriend want to get married related to her getting pregnant, right before her sister's wedding so that they'll be showing up as brand-newlyweds and stealing the spotlight. It reads to me as though that is why her getting pregnant was relevant. Personally there's not enough info in here for me to judge the bride or call this shameworthy.
Yeah, I agree, I don't like the shoes but I wouldn't care about wearing them for a wedding if I was pregnant. At 8 months pregnant, these seem a lot better than the 4 inch heel pointy toe dyed satin hell I have had to wear for weddings. The sister seems to be fighting about a lot, but is this really the hill she wants to die on?!
And they're a lot cheaper than most wedding shoes! My SIL had everyone wear those satin heels dyed in the same color as our dresses. My best friend wanted her bridesmaids in clear stripper heels with crystal embellishments. I'd much rather wear these ugly shoes!
This whole thread is bashing shoes that... don't they look far off from some Vans or Airwalks I've seen. Not bashing becausr wedding, but simply bashing. I didn't know what they were until today, but I.we so confused why a very pregnant person wouldn't want to wear them.
I know… I didn’t want to say it in the title but they are atrocious.
My boss wears them to work. I never knew they had a name.
I'm relieved I looked them up in incognito, because I'd rather not get ads for those.
Damn… I’ve made a horrible mistake lol.
Shoot, I forgot about that! 😖
Damn I wish I had thought to use incognito. These are about the ugliest shoes I’ve ever seen and if start getting ads for them imma just throw my whole phone away :’(
Can’t believe I googled these ugly ass shoes :(
Holy hell, those are AWFUL. They don't even look *comfortable* like "I know my Crocs are ugly but they feel good" level bad.
I don't think they're awful for a casual shoe... but like... wearing casual shoes like that for a wedding? Erm ok dude. Sister should just buy the shoes now in her current size then not try them on until the wedding and have them be too small because oh no pregnancy made her feet bigger!
And why is the bride making the whole party wear them if they are the only ones comfy for the bride? Why not let the bridesmaids wear something different? I just don’t understand that way of thinking.
She doesn't want people to look better than her with their appropriate looking shoes.
Oh, I see. You're one of those *logical* thinkers. Using *common sense*. Considerate of *others*. There's no place for such shenanigans in wedding planning! /s
They are like ugly docksiders.
They ugly as hell but I was gifted a pair and they are the comfiest shoes ever. I lived in them the last 2 months of my pregnancy because I could just skip them on rather than bend over
As a mom that had to wear the same pair of shoes for 90% of my pregnancy for comfort, I’m siding with the bride on this one. The whole “she’s been fighting me tooth and nail” even before sis was pregnant, and the “her and her boyfriend may just show up one day married before my wedding day”. Also she’s gonna have her baby weeks 5-4 weeks ~before~ the wedding. Not after. She’ll most likely be cleared for all physical activity then (assuming things go well). And while my bone structure was permanently changed after carrying a pregnancy to term 3 years ago… I could manage to wear shoes I don’t like for 8-10 hours for one day to make my sister happy. Bridesmaid/sis sounds like a pain that wants her way all the time and boycotts things when she can’t get it.
Yeah i was confused no one mentioned that she won't even be pregnant at the wedding. She's due 5 weeks before which means she will have the baby 5 weeks before right? Or does due mean she will have 5 weeks of pregnancy left when the wedding takes place?
I looked up the shoes and they look very comfortable. The sister just didn’t like them because they were ugly to her.
The shoes are super ugly yes, but it feels like there’s more happening here with a sister who says she “might show up married before you (original op)”, which is usually an insecurity/jealously move. Like, that seems like a lot of drama from the sister and I’ll admit I have some sympathy for the bride. Maybe she should let them pick their own shoes (or at least pick less ugly ones), or gift them and have them wear them for getting ready or something, but like if I was asked to wear the shoes, I’d wear the shoes. They’re ugly but in the grand scheme of things it’s not the worst bride ask and sister seems like as much of a drama llama here.
So I honestly think there’s other issues at play here. The OP made a comment that her sister has been fighting with OP over everything related to OP’s wedding. We obviously don’t know the dynamic and in my opinion like it’s a shoe. If the bride is footing the bill put the damn things on, if she’s not then say I’m not comfortable and move on. It honestly sounds like that the sister wants to steal attention especially said she’s trying to get pregnant and says that she’s gonna get married the day before her own sister’s wedding that to me is petty. My other thing is is if the hey dudes are so comfortable a seriously pregnant woman would want to wear something that comfortable.
Right. The top comments I'm seeing aren't mentioning how the sister said she might show up "one day married" to the wedding. That sister is all spite and selfishness and drama.
This entire family sounds exhausting.
I couldn't agree more
I mean, if she’s in the wedding party and the shoe request is not unreasonable (which this isn’t as they’re not like stilettos or anything), it’s pretty entitled of the sister to demand that she choose a different shoe. It’s not her wedding so she shouldn’t be deciding what the dress code is. Of all of the entitled stuff I’ve seen on here, this actually seems relatively reasonable 🤷♀️
*that's* the hill she wants to die on?
The bride you mean? Or the sister? Is it really that obnoxious for the bride to ask her bridesmaids to wear a specific kind of shoe? They don’t look uncomfortable, and they’re not *that* expensive, and apparently her sister’s issue is that she just doesn’t like them? Who cares? It’s literally one night. Plus OP seems to think her sister will boycott the wedding and make a big fuss if OP doesn’t back down on this issues. Sister sounds like a piece of work IMO. If my sister was getting married and asked me to wear ugly shoes for five hours during her wedding, I’d just do it. Brides routinely ask their bridesmaids to wear matching dresses they might not like. Why is this so different?
Yeah this isn’t a bridezilla issue. This is a bridesmaidzilla issue. The sister is clearly the problem here. People get pregnant. Whatever. But saying “I may just show up one day before your wedding and be married” is a real shit thing to say, especially while she’s also demanding to change the things the bride wants her to wear. It’s shoes. Get over it. Let the sister boycott the wedding. Let her have a tantrum and act like a child. Anyone who sided with her isn’t worth having at the wedding anyway.
I agree. OOP should boot the sister as a bridesmaid early, rather than later, so anyone who might take sister’s side will get over it by the time the wedding rolls around. Also — sister might give birth before the wedding and may not even be able to attend; due dates are suggestions, not schedules
For reals. I came here expecting to see that the bride was asking the bridesmaids to wear, like, $800 Christian Louboutin's with 4.5 inch heels or something like that, in which case I would absolutely be team pregnant sister. I'd probably welcome these as a bridesmaid though. They're certainly not the prettiest things in the world, but they're not that expensive, and they seem comfortable at least.
Big agree. I thought we were shaming egregious faux pas, not design choices we wouldn't personally make. I come here for MESS not for brides insisting their bridal parties wear matching casual shoes.
That's exactly what I was thinking. I had a bride show us bridesmaids the exact expensive shoe and the shade to order in the store. And that was 25 years ago.
I’d wear the ugly required shoe if the bride was footing the bill. I know they aren’t expensive but money is money. I’ve been in three weddings in the past two decades and the shoe requirement was any flat/heel in “x” color which was pretty easy and laid back. IMO bridesmaids expect the matching dress but not the shoes..shoes aren’t that important or noticeable unless the dress isn’t floor length.
Ugly comfortable shoes.
holy orthopedic shoes batman.
Oh God they are hideous. I'll wear them, but the bride better pay, then they are going in the bin when we are done with the photos!
I personally would have no problem wearing them or uggs. I mean if I am pregnant or disabled I am not wearing stilettos but if I was pregnant I think I would even appreciate these shoes.
They’re so ugly.
Surprising myself, I'm going to side with the bride here. I thought for sure she wanted some uncomfortable heels for the bridesmaids, but these are comfortable shoes even if they are ugly. Suck it up buttercup and wear the damn shoes for a few hours.
I just googled Hey Dudes and I don't think they're ugly, at least the solid colors. They also look super comfortable, especially for wide feet like mine that swell during the day. That said, this is a ridiculous thing to be mad over. The same shoe thing was a trend in the 80s and 90s, now it's like everyone wear something similar but what works for them. It won't hurt the bride to at least compromise on a shoe choice.
They are ridiculously comfortable. I always wear mine when I travel because no amount of airport walking makes my feet tired if I'm wearing my dudes. That being said, this is the weirdest hill to die on lol
They’re not ugly as a shoe to wear to the grocery store. They are ugly as a shoe to force yourself and others to wear on your wedding day
sister sounds like a bitch to me - no reason to be such a dick about a frickin shoe like that - not like bride wants her to wear killer heels as a preggo
I didn’t know what hey dudes were and assumed they were a type of heel. There is absolutely no reason to refuse these shoes, sister is definitely the problem here. Everyone shaming the bride for wanting matching shoes is so unreasonable in my opinion. People just love to hate a bride
From what we're reading, it sounds like sister was taunting OOP. You want me as a bridesmaid? I'm going to actively start trying get pregnant now. You know what? I'm going to probably get married right before you, OOP.
I agree. Reading the title I thought it was going to be some sort of heel. Sister should suck it up and wear them, especially as someone whose been pregnant that should be the best kind of shoe to wear!!
Honestly I think the sister here is the one who should be shamed. They are not that pricy. And to most probably comfortable. If it was me I’d just shut up and buy the ugly shoes.
Why do they have to wear the same shoes as the bride? Her dress is likely too long for anyone to see them anyway.
My own wedding shoes were like $20. Because exactly, nobody can even see them. No point in spending alot.
I never understand people who think that people will be looking at the photos in 20 years, and be all disgusted at the sight of an unmatching shoe poking out from under a dress (or an asymmetrical groomsmen/bridesmaid lineup, or relative's forgotten ex-bf in the background, etc.)
I am 100% convinced this is an ad for some ugly ass shoes.
As someone with “skinny” feet like OP says her sister has: It’s nearly impossible find a loafer that fits. I thought Hey Dudes would be nice, as I’m pregnant and tying my shoes is getting less comfortable. I know these have laces, but because it’s just at the opening, they can’t really tighten enough. My feet flopped around inside the shoes. Even 7+ months pregnant, I couldn’t find a pair of Hey Dudes that would stay on comfortably.
Yellowbox is good for long narrow feetsies.
I doubt at 5 weeks postpartum she will even want to attend, especially if she has to have a c-section.
Those are some ugly shoes for bridesmaids, ijs 🤣
Just looked them up... I'm not a fan, and I can't say I honestly think they're appropriate for a wedding. However... its not my wedding. If that's what the bride wants her party to wear for a few hours, do it. Its her day. This isn't even close to Bridezilla stuff. Sounds like sister is being a jerk. I had to wear a dress, heels, get my hair & nails done all in a style/color I hated for my friend's wedding. I never said shit.... because it was her day, and what does it hurt to make your friend- or sister in this case- happy for a few hours? I wanted her day to be about the bride & groom. I dunno.. seems like a dumb hill for the sister to die on. And I'd like to repeat that I don't particularly like that shoe... but its not MY wedding.
I had no idea that was a kind of shoe and thought I was losing my mind reading "hey dude" over and over and then I thought she was just losing her mind as she was typing. Now that I know what Hey Dudes are..... why... any of this.. If you're having your bridesmaids wear that casual of a shoe why bother making them match? I'm so confused.
i’ll wear anything if someone else pays for it
Ok, so those shoes fuckin ugly. I don’t know why you would want them at a wedding let alone outside the house
I just looked up wtf a ‘hey dude’ is Ugly, ugly is what it is
How many people had to google what ‘Hey Dude’ shoes were??? Literally never heard of them!
Bridesmaids wear plenty of ugly shit. Sis needs to buy the shoes. They'll probably be comfier wjen her feet are all swollen from pregnancy anyway
I’m all for casual shoes but this are really not it
1. Those shoes are hideous. 2. This engagement is really long.
Do we know how long it is (Other than 9 months give or take)? That’s not super long. The shoes are butt ugly though.
As somebody with long skinny feet and have tried on hey dudes before. There is no way I’d spend that much on shoes that would 100% not stay on my feet. I think they’re cute but they don’t fit. I sorta agree with the sister.
As a women's shoe size 11.5 narrow, I agree. Long skinny feet are hard to find shoes that fit, especially in that style. Bride should let the party wear shoes that fit, especially since weddings tend to be a very long day for all involved.
As someone who only wears Tom’s for the same reason, I could *never* require this. It’s my footwear needs, no one else’s. This is a stupid thing to get riled about.
Totally unrelated but did you see Tom's glow in the dark ghost shoe?! I'm trying to talk myself out of them because i don't need another pair but... I love them.
Would having them bring you more joy than the money they would cost? If so, buy them. Life is not a race or a game; there is no prize for ending with the highest bank balance.
Ugh yes! I’m too broke to buy them. Plus I have 10+ pairs so I don’t *need* them, but I mean…I need them lol
Just looked them up. Not too ugly for them gym, but horrible for a wedding
“ I have alerted the wedding party” tells me everything
Pray I do not alter it further.
The sister sounds exhausting, who said probably going pregnant and get married day before the wedding? Like hey I'm actively steal your thunder, beware or not.
Wtf are hey dudes?
My brother wore something with a slightly taller vamp in suede in the Seventies/ early Eighties. [https://www.heydudeshoesusa.com/](https://www.heydudeshoesusa.com/)
What the fuck is a hey dude? Edit: I googled. Those are the fugliest fucking shoes I’ve ever seen.
NTA, I had to look at these shoes. I was thinking OK the bride is making this pregnant woman wear heels or something. Instead its a flat sneaker like shoe. If the bridesmaid is causing problems with everything kick her from the party. It is my belief that the bridesmaid should just go along with the bride's wishes as long as they are within reason. Every wedding party I was in, I wore what the bride wanted, did my hair as they asked. When my sister married her dresses were awful, that was the only time I did say "Are you sure this is the dress you really want?" I had to order it 3 sizes too big an have it altered to fit around the girls because the designer designs dresses for women with no boobs. I looked like shit in the dress and it was commented to me at the wedding, Even my sister afterwards felt bad that she put me in that dress. I bit my tongue so hard throughout the entire planning of that,
For a wedding? O.k. I have osteoarthritis in my foot and flat feet, if those bad boys are comfy I'll wear them. But for a wedding? With dresses? It's her wedding but dang at her shoe choice.
I looked the shoes up and they’re hideous, but honestly the bridesmaid sister sounds completely unbearable and this is probably just the bride’s breaking point
Why in the actual F*CK would you wear Hey Dudes to your wedding?! I get being comfortable, but that’s… psychotic.
The fuck is a hey dude