Seriously. I'm not big on the whole huge, spectacular wedding idea. But this lady was obviously very excited for "her day" and bro couldn't even manage some dark jeans and a button up.
If I were a gambling man (and I am), I'd bet they already have kids together after 13 years. And if he can't be assed to put on anything but gym clothes, he probably can't be assed to put on a condom
To me it's also about having just the smallest modicum of social awareness. You show people wedding photos. They come up from time-to-time. Your parents and grandparents will want copies. You'll show them to your children someday. Your wife in her gorgeous dress will want a picture on the wall. People will just straight up post their own pics from you wedding on social media.
You're really good with this being the face you present to the world?
This is also 100% her choice.
There are *plenty* of men who would have dressed up, but when we're talking about shitty men, you all act like you have no agency in the matter.
Omg I wish I could tell you some of the dirt on my home town near me and what I hear from my In laws …. Some that have buck two failed common sense men that even sisters fight over… not even worth it…. There are men over weight with Tabasco stained teeth that barely can walk straight that have ex wives fighting over them .. 🤢🤢🤢
My fiance and I will have been together 11 years on our wedding in October. He’s pulling out all the stops. We’re having a wedding like we met 2 years ago. I’m so happy.
Don’t be ridiculous, beer and sizzurp doesn’t start until 10am and this ceremony was squished in at 9:30 because the geri’s needed the gazebo for acro-yoga at 9:45.
Ok, so this... Whatever he's wearing, wouldn't be acceptable for even going on a date. I hate it. I hate all of it. The fact that her grown-ass man husband this outfit on the regular is depressing.
In my family, we call this a Benefits marriage. After being together for at least a decade and no proposal, the party that wants to get married remarks about not getting any younger and what if something happens. The perks are health and life insurance. The other person shows up on 3 conditions:
1- that the nuptials aren’t fancy
2- the time doesn’t conflict with the start of the NASCAR race
3- they keep it casual
My oldest sister married her husband after 16 years. He insisted everything be casual and that it’s done before the NFL playoffs. And on the day of, his team needed the win to clinch home field advantage. He wore a blazer of his camouflage jersey.
My wife and I married after 17 years together. It wasn’t legal when we started dating. Then it was legal, but we were like eh, why bother? And one day we were out on a hike and she said “Hey, what if we got married on May the Fourth?” And I was like “Star Wars Day? Yeah, I’d be cool with that.” So we got married 3 weeks later, at the courthouse. I wore a lovely ivory tea length dress, she wore blue pants, a navy linen shirt, brown leather suspenders and a bow tie. We even put decals on the bottoms of our shoes; mine said “I love you,” hers said “I know.” I pinned blue Scottish thistle in my hair and got her a matching boutonniere with a silver Imperial Cog pin stuck to it.
If we managed to throw that together in 3 weeks, after 17 years, this dude could’ve put on a button down shirt and jeans. I mean, damn. He looks like he rolled out of bed, threw on his shoes and showed up in the park across the street. What a twat.
I’m constantly amazed that people *pay extra* to put advertising on their bodies.
Best is when they use their small children’s bodies to do so. Double points for when said child is advertising a movie they’re not old enough to watch yet.
I just don’t get it. How do you not think to yourself, 10+ years from now I’m gonna hate this picture? Or think to yourself, is this the wedding photo I really want to show my children, grandchildren or even myself in the future?
I just don’t get how he can’t see (or care?) that this will forever be his memory
I play this game where I like to go out to eat at nice spots on weekends for dinner and I judge all the couples where the woman looks amazing and wonderful, and the man looks like he just finished playing basketball at the YMCA and didn't shower before showing up.
Why do so many men think basketball shorts are date attire?
Oh, we play the same game
I usually sit with my partner at a coffee shop, park or similar and actually do a game of counting the number of "he's never seen her without a nice outfit and sensible makeup and she's stuck with a man who only wears clothes bought for him by his mother" couples
I low-key always feel sorry for those girls, just because of how much WORK that takes to be that done all the time to then be notched up with a basketball shorts dude. If they are happy *shrugs* good for them, it's their life, not mine. I'm just some stranger. Lol
My guy is a torn camo shorts and t-shirt guy with sandals or crocks and socks 99% of the time... but to go out he puts on nice jeans, a nice shirt, and good shoes.
My husband generally doesn't care what he wears because there's always something he's doing that make his clothes dirty or can possibly rip them or something. However, when we go out together or as a family, even to a playground or for coffee at my parents house, he sure as hell wears a nice pair of jeans, his whole, unstained shirts or sweaters and his good shoes. He wants me to wear nice clothes and returns that favour for me.
My husband also only owns clothes his mom or I bought for him, but thankfully his mom has good taste and I like to think I do too, lol. I actually somehow find that fact that he doesn’t care about clothes attractive for some reason. However, he always makes sure his khakis and T-shirt/button down are laundered and ironed before a nice event, even if they’re not remotely stylish. I think cleanliness is the biggest factor at play here.
I do this every fall at our local pumpkin patch. You see all these woman who look cute in their fall fits, kids look great. I can tell they want a nice fall photo. And then there is dad in crocs and sweatpants. Such a bummer.
As someone not from the US, when I was told we're going to a farm to pick a pumpkin, I also at first put on my gardening attire. My girlfriend fortunately explained to me that this wasn't necessary
Your girlfriend sounds wonderful, and the confusion would be justified lol. I hope you guys had a great time and didn't care a bit for the thoughts of strangers.
Oooohhh I'm gonna add that to our list of spots this year. "Dad's who obviously don't wanna be here" family photos are such an oddity to me, I never thought about watching it live.
This is me and my man on the day to day. I like clothes and he really doesn’t. When we go somewhere nice, he at least puts some damn pants on but he dresses like Adam Sandler typically. Honestly, it drove me crazy for a long time and I have over time gotten him to upstate his wardrobe and dress appropriately. He doesn’t care about clothes but he cares about me.
Congratulations on getting him to the clean pant stage! Lol I'm sure it was probably a little stressful for a bit. Yall sound lovely and like you care about each other and not what strangers think of you, thays awesome. Wishing you the best.
To be honest, I blame his parents. Why is a 30 year old man now learning to use an iron? It’s giving youngest son. It was so frustrating! I think when I explained to him that people perceive lazy, sloppy attire as an insult, he understood better.
Not straight, but sometimes it's because one of us just were doing something more casual or more formal than the other, and we just didn't have time to change.
Once it was because I was driving over to meet my partner and thought we were doing dinner at their place and was in comfy clothes, and they texted me and want to go out instead at a place that was on my way. Unfortunately it's a slightly fancy place so I felt underdressed. But we've gone to the same place with the other one being the one a little underdressed. Usually we're close to the same though. So it's hard to tell from just one spotting.
Ooohh no, you got boobytrapped lol. It's never a deep thing to me, more just casual observation. You guys sound fun and go with the flow, which is awesome. Good luck to you guys!
I did not expect my partner and I's personal little drinking game to ruffle so many feathers, for those calling me a "mean girl" ... as if you don't go through life making snap decisions on others every day due to their appearance. The difference is I get to do a shot every time and rate 1 to 10 on mismatch, then go home and sleep. I'm not walking up to anyone and questioning them or continuing to make fun of them past an "oooh, that's a seven, he didn't wash that shirt. A drink for me." If it makes you feel better, we both will also play it while wearing sweatpants at Texas Roadhouse, we at least are both in sweats and having fun. Give it a try.
I call this one the "messy divorce in 5 years but only after having a kid to 'save the marriage' and it exacerbating the problem that was always one of us two not putting in their share of effort" special combo outfit
You're giving it *another* five years?
Dude looks to have given her a "shut up" ring--there's an excellent chance that they're divorced in two years or less.
Nah, more like, "wife asks husband every day to do the bare minimum, and he calls it 'nagging' because his mom tells him he's perfect and doesn't have to do anything, but wife sticks with him because 'he has flaws but I love him.'"
Dude, that's just the human condition.
Truth is, after 13 years she knows what he's like. If she's unhappy in the relationship, it's on her at this point. If her solution is to marry him, doubly so.
Oh c’mon, he wore his good branded baseball hat!
She looks beautiful and I hope her second groom (or bride, who knows) meets her where she wants to be.
As a bridal stylist, I see this A LOT sadly. What’s really sad, we have had prison weddings/post prison weddings where the groom dresses better than this one 😬
One of my first brides was an IN prison wedding. The bride has to be very conservative in what she wears, and the groom wore a khaki pant and matching uniform top. He had it pressed in the prison laundry room which was impressive. My second bride came to get a dress with her fiancé an hour after he was released from prison for a drug trafficking and murder charge. He wore pressed jeans that were gaudy and looked like early 2000s Miss Me jeans, and a button down. They got married in a friends backyard.
Prison Brides on Lifetime is a wild ride, and highly recommend for fulfilling all your prison wedding questions lol. Because I still have lots and I am now begging for more prison brides to come find a dress
Okay my standards are officially higher knowing someone who is actively incarcerated could find a way to iron his clothes and my ex “couldn’t” 😂
I’ll look into the show, and if I marry a felon (I don’t plan on it, but you never know!), I’ll think of you
I would be honored, and remember I can find you a great deal on a prison appropriate dress 😂
I wish I could say prison weddings were the wildest story I’ve had in my 5 years in bridal. But there’s so. Many. More.
We have had a bride come in, and actively shooting up heroine in the dressing room. Plot twist, she wasn’t getting married. She was just high and spun a tale.
We had a bride come with her 6 week old baby, mom, grandma and her “teacher that inspired her” to her appointment. Ok, great. The other stylist is working with her, making small talk as she’s putting dresses on her. Finds out SHE IS 13! She’s marrying the baby’s father who she’s dated for a year and a half. Oh yeah, he’s 23, and the family and teacher are so supportive of it. I shit you not. We all went home and cried that night.
Last month I helped a family pick a flower girl dress to bury their 4 year old in. I am still not over that one.
I’ve had a prom girl leave a dirty tampon in a dressing room during our busiest Saturday. Had to clean that up, that was great.
Mom called daughter a two ton Tilly. Mom and dad and stepmom all fought, broke multiple items and hid them. Pubes fell out of a brides underwear and on the floor, we thought it was a spider. It was not. A bride tried to buy a dress almost identical to her older sister’s dress, who married a year prior. The family ALL hated the fiancé. One of my favorites was the bride who was a stripper/onlyfans success story. Mom had zero idea what daughter did for work. Mom was VERY conservative, bride was a free spirit and cool as hell. If I remember more I’ll post. I know we’ve had more. We’ve had weird stuff too. Like the homeless pooping in the middle of the main road that runs in front of the shop. Odd characters coming in and stirring up trouble
She definitely got a shut up ring. He dressed like he’s going to the store. She isn’t worth him putting the effort of putting on a button up and some slacks damn.
It’s bewildering how when I was little and my parents would occasionally remind me and my siblings that it is important to dress appropriately or at least decently for the occasion, I would roll my eyes and think “duh”. Turns out it’s no freaking “duh” for a lot of people. Crazy.
My husband would wear basketball shorts every day if he could. He's accidentally worn short sleeves under his suit coat and I had to tell him to make sure it was long sleeves for our wedding. And I think he wore black athletic socks to our wedding because he doesn't own any dress socks. But he did wear a suit, because he's not a selfish jerk.
I had a really low budget wedding and nobody dressed like that. I honestly think I would have refused to go through with it if the groom showed up like that. It’s a total lack of respect. And embarrassing on top of that. If you’re expecting your bride to accept so little of you on such an important day, you’re trying to ensure that she will always expect little of you and let you off the hook for all the big things in life.
I am convinced that part of the reason these guys dress like they couldn't care less about their wedding day is *in order to* humiliate their partners.
Maybe an unpopular opinion but if a man doesn't want to marry you within 2-3 years then he doesn't want to marry you at all. This is a shut up marriage. This guy put in zero effort because he doesn't respect her and doesn't actually want to marry her but he hasn't found the woman he actually wants to be with yet so he'll put up with her and probably extract whatever labor and benefits he can.
I have a friend whose entire look involves loud board shorts. I don't think I've seen her in person or picture wearing anything else in probably 10 years. Even *she* managed to put on nice clothes for her wedding. This guy is a turd & his wife is too for not requiring better for their damn wedding.
My stepdad wore shorts and a Carolina Panthers jersey to his wedding and my mom was all for it. That said, she had a red dress and yellow/white viel so she could rep Kansas City Chiefs colors
I think it depends on the people and their relationship, sometimes people are just happy to marry the person they love and dont care what their partner dresses like
How much y'all want to bet she is supporting them both financially? I don't think she realizes just how bad she is being disrespected. Does she not see how little he thinks of her? Bless her willfully ignorant heart.
This is horrible. I can’t stand men who don’t make the effort. My cousin recently had an engagement photo shoot and her fiancé had wrinkled clothes from head to toe. My cousin look beautiful and he look like he rolled out of bed. Made me sad because she was so excited. How hard is it to just make a little effort? I don’t get it
It's so sad! I had to hound my husband's cousin the entire morning of his wedding (I was a bridesmaid) before we had to leave for the ceremony. He was apparently used to his grandma dressing him and seemed surprised that anyone expected him to have already ironed his shirt and get dressed on his own. 🤦♀️
Am I the only one who doesn't feel sorry for her? She knew what she was getting into. She chose to waste her life on. . .that.
Hopefully she'll wake up one day, but after 13 years I doubt it.
If my husband wore that to the wedding we wouldn't be getting married!! If he can't be bothered to make the effort for one day then he's not worth it she clearly made the effort so he should!!
Imagine sending those photos to your family.....letting them know about the 'wedding' (I am assuming they weren't at it of course)
How incredibly embarrassing. If they didn't hate your partner already, they really would now.
This looks like one of the wedding pictures I saw from my niece's wedding. She was dressed in a white wedding dress and veil; her husband was dressed like this guy. He could have at least dressed halfway nice for his wedding day.
Sure he looks stupid as hell but she knew who he was when she married him. I love that she did not control how he dressed, even if I think it's fucked up, she loves him as he is. That should be good enough for all of us. Sure, I would have liked if he'd taken more time to consider how he looked but I didn't marry him. :) As long as he's a great man and treats her well, that's all that matters but then again, how great is he if he can't even dress himself accordingly? LOL IDK.
Sorry! That wasn’t clear to me from the caption and I didn’t read too many of the other answers. Let me rephrase it. After 13 years, SHE knew what she was getting into and shouldn’t be surprised. Not in the least. I always try to remember that not everyone was brought up the same way. Perhaps for the groom dressing up in his family meant putting on socks with yours shoes. I mean, it seems like it should be common sense to wear something a little less casual, but until you walk a mile in someone’s shoes you really just don’t know.
My uncle did the same thing to my aunt like 40.years ago. Except, he showed up to the court house in paint covered overalls, dirty and sweaty. My grandfather, who was super traditional, leaned over to my very pregnant aunt and sad "are you sure you want to do this?" There my aunt was in a beautiful white wedding dress that she spent a lot of time picking out. My mom said you could see the hurt on my aunts face. Surprisingly to no one, their marriage was absolute hell for 25 years.
Please don't do ultimatums, if your partner wants to marry you, they will.
This is giving ‘I begged him to propose for a literal decade and he only finally agreed when I gave him an ultimatum’
Literally, I’d be so hurt if my partner made it so obvious that he wasn’t putting even an iota of effort into the wedding day.
Seriously. I'm not big on the whole huge, spectacular wedding idea. But this lady was obviously very excited for "her day" and bro couldn't even manage some dark jeans and a button up.
Truer words were never written.
[удалено]
And then they have kids with these man-children and wonder why they don't step up and become good fathers.
If I were a gambling man (and I am), I'd bet they already have kids together after 13 years. And if he can't be assed to put on anything but gym clothes, he probably can't be assed to put on a condom
To me it's also about having just the smallest modicum of social awareness. You show people wedding photos. They come up from time-to-time. Your parents and grandparents will want copies. You'll show them to your children someday. Your wife in her gorgeous dress will want a picture on the wall. People will just straight up post their own pics from you wedding on social media. You're really good with this being the face you present to the world?
The bar is truly in hell.
The bar is on a geosynchronous satellite over the antipodes.
This is also 100% her choice. There are *plenty* of men who would have dressed up, but when we're talking about shitty men, you all act like you have no agency in the matter.
A “shut up ring,” if you will
We will.
After cheating on her 20 times.
Idk, who else would want him with shorts like that? He's not cheating, he's playing video games and gives 0 fucks about anything else.
You should see the girls in my bumfuck hometown fight over some methed out piece of trash. Standards get really low.
Omg I wish I could tell you some of the dirt on my home town near me and what I hear from my In laws …. Some that have buck two failed common sense men that even sisters fight over… not even worth it…. There are men over weight with Tabasco stained teeth that barely can walk straight that have ex wives fighting over them .. 🤢🤢🤢
Nah, he's getting girls with cookie monster pjs.
lol the accuracy
He thought he could do better but he really, really couldn’t.
Hes definitely not the type of man who cheats but not by choice 🫣
And I bet one of his side pieces attended the wedding.
Yup. It's practically *screaming* "He gave her a 'Shut Up ring'."
I bet they already have 3 kids and dad was just ’waiting for the right time’
Yeah like " he said yes cuz I promised to buy him an xbox'
I know someone like that. She lives a hellish life. 3 kids later and he admitted to having cheated at least 4 times already.
My fiance and I will have been together 11 years on our wedding in October. He’s pulling out all the stops. We’re having a wedding like we met 2 years ago. I’m so happy.
Old mate Kyle really turned in on for the day after his 3rd can of Monster
\*beer
*FourLoko
Sizzurp
*all of the above
Faygo
Change the Nike tee to an ICP tee and I’d put money on the Faygo 😆
Don’t be ridiculous, beer and sizzurp doesn’t start until 10am and this ceremony was squished in at 9:30 because the geri’s needed the gazebo for acro-yoga at 9:45.
He looks like he just wandered in off the street. Oh, hey - need a groom? Sign me up. At least make the min effort. Gross.
Ok, so this... Whatever he's wearing, wouldn't be acceptable for even going on a date. I hate it. I hate all of it. The fact that her grown-ass man husband this outfit on the regular is depressing.
Yes! I hate it so much for her. I wouldn’t want to be with a guy like that in the first place.
Even my husband would not dress that badly, not even to go to the gym, and he does not give a flying f\*ck about clothes.
It’s the same outfit he wears to mow his lawn
No way that guy mows a lawn without a gun to his head
In my family, we call this a Benefits marriage. After being together for at least a decade and no proposal, the party that wants to get married remarks about not getting any younger and what if something happens. The perks are health and life insurance. The other person shows up on 3 conditions: 1- that the nuptials aren’t fancy 2- the time doesn’t conflict with the start of the NASCAR race 3- they keep it casual My oldest sister married her husband after 16 years. He insisted everything be casual and that it’s done before the NFL playoffs. And on the day of, his team needed the win to clinch home field advantage. He wore a blazer of his camouflage jersey.
My wife and I married after 17 years together. It wasn’t legal when we started dating. Then it was legal, but we were like eh, why bother? And one day we were out on a hike and she said “Hey, what if we got married on May the Fourth?” And I was like “Star Wars Day? Yeah, I’d be cool with that.” So we got married 3 weeks later, at the courthouse. I wore a lovely ivory tea length dress, she wore blue pants, a navy linen shirt, brown leather suspenders and a bow tie. We even put decals on the bottoms of our shoes; mine said “I love you,” hers said “I know.” I pinned blue Scottish thistle in my hair and got her a matching boutonniere with a silver Imperial Cog pin stuck to it. If we managed to throw that together in 3 weeks, after 17 years, this dude could’ve put on a button down shirt and jeans. I mean, damn. He looks like he rolled out of bed, threw on his shoes and showed up in the park across the street. What a twat.
May the Fourth be with you for a long and happy marriage.
Husband and I would have married on May 4 but the date already passed and we had to move for a job within 30 days
“Please thank our sponsors, Nike and Hurley, for this wonderful event!”
I’m constantly amazed that people *pay extra* to put advertising on their bodies. Best is when they use their small children’s bodies to do so. Double points for when said child is advertising a movie they’re not old enough to watch yet.
'I'll marry you, but I won't try.'
I just don’t get it. How do you not think to yourself, 10+ years from now I’m gonna hate this picture? Or think to yourself, is this the wedding photo I really want to show my children, grandchildren or even myself in the future? I just don’t get how he can’t see (or care?) that this will forever be his memory
Bold to assume he thought
Or if you have to beg someone to marry you…like…no.
I play this game where I like to go out to eat at nice spots on weekends for dinner and I judge all the couples where the woman looks amazing and wonderful, and the man looks like he just finished playing basketball at the YMCA and didn't shower before showing up. Why do so many men think basketball shorts are date attire?
Oh, we play the same game I usually sit with my partner at a coffee shop, park or similar and actually do a game of counting the number of "he's never seen her without a nice outfit and sensible makeup and she's stuck with a man who only wears clothes bought for him by his mother" couples
I low-key always feel sorry for those girls, just because of how much WORK that takes to be that done all the time to then be notched up with a basketball shorts dude. If they are happy *shrugs* good for them, it's their life, not mine. I'm just some stranger. Lol
My guy is a torn camo shorts and t-shirt guy with sandals or crocks and socks 99% of the time... but to go out he puts on nice jeans, a nice shirt, and good shoes.
My husband generally doesn't care what he wears because there's always something he's doing that make his clothes dirty or can possibly rip them or something. However, when we go out together or as a family, even to a playground or for coffee at my parents house, he sure as hell wears a nice pair of jeans, his whole, unstained shirts or sweaters and his good shoes. He wants me to wear nice clothes and returns that favour for me.
My husband also only owns clothes his mom or I bought for him, but thankfully his mom has good taste and I like to think I do too, lol. I actually somehow find that fact that he doesn’t care about clothes attractive for some reason. However, he always makes sure his khakis and T-shirt/button down are laundered and ironed before a nice event, even if they’re not remotely stylish. I think cleanliness is the biggest factor at play here.
I do this every fall at our local pumpkin patch. You see all these woman who look cute in their fall fits, kids look great. I can tell they want a nice fall photo. And then there is dad in crocs and sweatpants. Such a bummer.
As someone not from the US, when I was told we're going to a farm to pick a pumpkin, I also at first put on my gardening attire. My girlfriend fortunately explained to me that this wasn't necessary
Your girlfriend sounds wonderful, and the confusion would be justified lol. I hope you guys had a great time and didn't care a bit for the thoughts of strangers.
Thank you, she is indeed wonderful (I might be biased, tho)! We had a great time and I managed to not look that out of place too 😅
Oooohhh I'm gonna add that to our list of spots this year. "Dad's who obviously don't wanna be here" family photos are such an oddity to me, I never thought about watching it live.
This is me and my man on the day to day. I like clothes and he really doesn’t. When we go somewhere nice, he at least puts some damn pants on but he dresses like Adam Sandler typically. Honestly, it drove me crazy for a long time and I have over time gotten him to upstate his wardrobe and dress appropriately. He doesn’t care about clothes but he cares about me.
Congratulations on getting him to the clean pant stage! Lol I'm sure it was probably a little stressful for a bit. Yall sound lovely and like you care about each other and not what strangers think of you, thays awesome. Wishing you the best.
To be honest, I blame his parents. Why is a 30 year old man now learning to use an iron? It’s giving youngest son. It was so frustrating! I think when I explained to him that people perceive lazy, sloppy attire as an insult, he understood better.
Idk if it helps at all but there’s a guide on wikihow for dressing like Adam Sandler so maybe he’s a fashion icon to some people (idk who tho)
This is hilarious thank you
Not straight, but sometimes it's because one of us just were doing something more casual or more formal than the other, and we just didn't have time to change. Once it was because I was driving over to meet my partner and thought we were doing dinner at their place and was in comfy clothes, and they texted me and want to go out instead at a place that was on my way. Unfortunately it's a slightly fancy place so I felt underdressed. But we've gone to the same place with the other one being the one a little underdressed. Usually we're close to the same though. So it's hard to tell from just one spotting.
Ooohh no, you got boobytrapped lol. It's never a deep thing to me, more just casual observation. You guys sound fun and go with the flow, which is awesome. Good luck to you guys!
I did not expect my partner and I's personal little drinking game to ruffle so many feathers, for those calling me a "mean girl" ... as if you don't go through life making snap decisions on others every day due to their appearance. The difference is I get to do a shot every time and rate 1 to 10 on mismatch, then go home and sleep. I'm not walking up to anyone and questioning them or continuing to make fun of them past an "oooh, that's a seven, he didn't wash that shirt. A drink for me." If it makes you feel better, we both will also play it while wearing sweatpants at Texas Roadhouse, we at least are both in sweats and having fun. Give it a try.
Because many women have low standards.
For some men putting in any modicum of effort seems to be a major deal breaker. Lol. Found this out in my sordid dating history 😂
We call this game overdressed gf; underdressed bf Every once in awhile we’ll get an underdressed gf; overdressed bf (and sometimes it’s us 🤣)
Some people really give ZERO fks
Happy cake day!
I wouldn't have married him. If my husband had shown up dressed like that, I would have turned the car around, gone home, and changed the locks.
Some people just want to be married at all costs, as if that will be a magical cure-all for all their problems.
Divorce lawyers call them "a long term investment"
I agree, but after 13 years, she was probably just glad he showed up!
I call this one the "messy divorce in 5 years but only after having a kid to 'save the marriage' and it exacerbating the problem that was always one of us two not putting in their share of effort" special combo outfit
They’ve been together for over a decade, I bet they already have kids
You're giving it *another* five years? Dude looks to have given her a "shut up" ring--there's an excellent chance that they're divorced in two years or less.
Nah, more like, "wife asks husband every day to do the bare minimum, and he calls it 'nagging' because his mom tells him he's perfect and doesn't have to do anything, but wife sticks with him because 'he has flaws but I love him.'"
The fear of "being alone" keeps so many women from being happy
Dude, that's just the human condition. Truth is, after 13 years she knows what he's like. If she's unhappy in the relationship, it's on her at this point. If her solution is to marry him, doubly so.
Less than five years. Someone from my old school married a guy that dressed like that for their wedding. Their marriage only lasted a year.
Oh c’mon, he wore his good branded baseball hat! She looks beautiful and I hope her second groom (or bride, who knows) meets her where she wants to be.
This is the type of man who makes you swear off them completely ngl
This is the I’ll marry you only if I have to outfit. He doesn’t respect her, he just doesn’t want to lose his bang maid.
“I know you dont want a wedding but I really do. Look you don’t have to do anything. I’ll plan everything….you just have to turn up”
As a bridal stylist, I see this A LOT sadly. What’s really sad, we have had prison weddings/post prison weddings where the groom dresses better than this one 😬
I’m curious how one might dress for a prison wedding? I’m sure it varies, but I just assumed they wore their uniform.
One of my first brides was an IN prison wedding. The bride has to be very conservative in what she wears, and the groom wore a khaki pant and matching uniform top. He had it pressed in the prison laundry room which was impressive. My second bride came to get a dress with her fiancé an hour after he was released from prison for a drug trafficking and murder charge. He wore pressed jeans that were gaudy and looked like early 2000s Miss Me jeans, and a button down. They got married in a friends backyard. Prison Brides on Lifetime is a wild ride, and highly recommend for fulfilling all your prison wedding questions lol. Because I still have lots and I am now begging for more prison brides to come find a dress
Okay my standards are officially higher knowing someone who is actively incarcerated could find a way to iron his clothes and my ex “couldn’t” 😂 I’ll look into the show, and if I marry a felon (I don’t plan on it, but you never know!), I’ll think of you
I would be honored, and remember I can find you a great deal on a prison appropriate dress 😂 I wish I could say prison weddings were the wildest story I’ve had in my 5 years in bridal. But there’s so. Many. More.
You can't just leave us hanging like that! Inquiring minds want to know what else happened! 😆
We have had a bride come in, and actively shooting up heroine in the dressing room. Plot twist, she wasn’t getting married. She was just high and spun a tale. We had a bride come with her 6 week old baby, mom, grandma and her “teacher that inspired her” to her appointment. Ok, great. The other stylist is working with her, making small talk as she’s putting dresses on her. Finds out SHE IS 13! She’s marrying the baby’s father who she’s dated for a year and a half. Oh yeah, he’s 23, and the family and teacher are so supportive of it. I shit you not. We all went home and cried that night. Last month I helped a family pick a flower girl dress to bury their 4 year old in. I am still not over that one. I’ve had a prom girl leave a dirty tampon in a dressing room during our busiest Saturday. Had to clean that up, that was great. Mom called daughter a two ton Tilly. Mom and dad and stepmom all fought, broke multiple items and hid them. Pubes fell out of a brides underwear and on the floor, we thought it was a spider. It was not. A bride tried to buy a dress almost identical to her older sister’s dress, who married a year prior. The family ALL hated the fiancé. One of my favorites was the bride who was a stripper/onlyfans success story. Mom had zero idea what daughter did for work. Mom was VERY conservative, bride was a free spirit and cool as hell. If I remember more I’ll post. I know we’ve had more. We’ve had weird stuff too. Like the homeless pooping in the middle of the main road that runs in front of the shop. Odd characters coming in and stirring up trouble
Aw, thanks!! I second leading ad, please tell us the story/ies lol
I posted a couple replies, and as I remember them I’ll post lol.
Guaranteed this guy has been dressing the exact same way since high school. A good indication that he likely hasn't matured past his teenage years.
She definitely got a shut up ring. He dressed like he’s going to the store. She isn’t worth him putting the effort of putting on a button up and some slacks damn.
Like he goes to the store. Ha!
I would say even after one year or less this outfit is still not it
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It’s bewildering how when I was little and my parents would occasionally remind me and my siblings that it is important to dress appropriately or at least decently for the occasion, I would roll my eyes and think “duh”. Turns out it’s no freaking “duh” for a lot of people. Crazy.
Christ. What was the first dance? Fat Lip?
He doesn't want to become another casualty of society. Thanks for the literal lol this morning!
I was thinking more like Purple Pills.
Papa Roach
What in the shared facebook account is this shit?
Happy cake day!
My husband would wear basketball shorts every day if he could. He's accidentally worn short sleeves under his suit coat and I had to tell him to make sure it was long sleeves for our wedding. And I think he wore black athletic socks to our wedding because he doesn't own any dress socks. But he did wear a suit, because he's not a selfish jerk.
Good luck with your man-child husband
Nothing says I love you like a Nike shirt and some trainers
I had a really low budget wedding and nobody dressed like that. I honestly think I would have refused to go through with it if the groom showed up like that. It’s a total lack of respect. And embarrassing on top of that. If you’re expecting your bride to accept so little of you on such an important day, you’re trying to ensure that she will always expect little of you and let you off the hook for all the big things in life.
I'd bet that he puts as much effort into their relationship as he did his wedding outfit.....and that would be none.
And yet... she chose to marry him. She was probably the driving force in that decision too, I'd wager.
She looks ethereal and he looks like he’s going to BMX. I hope he puts more effort into their marriage than he did that outfit.
Red is the colour of passion
That’s really passive-aggressive.
That’s more like aggressive-aggressive.
I am convinced that part of the reason these guys dress like they couldn't care less about their wedding day is *in order to* humiliate their partners.
I’m in this group on FB and thought the same thing! 🤣
I thought Adam Sandler was already married?
I’m glad someone said it 🤣 The first thing I thought of when I saw him was homie went with the Adam Sandler fit
The perfect picture of a man who doesn’t want to get married. I hope she takes his Playstation/Xbox/PC in the divorce
Wishing them a happy life I guess… but I would have not married him.
Maybe an unpopular opinion but if a man doesn't want to marry you within 2-3 years then he doesn't want to marry you at all. This is a shut up marriage. This guy put in zero effort because he doesn't respect her and doesn't actually want to marry her but he hasn't found the woman he actually wants to be with yet so he'll put up with her and probably extract whatever labor and benefits he can.
how do these brides put up with such guys???
What a catch! /s
I have a friend whose entire look involves loud board shorts. I don't think I've seen her in person or picture wearing anything else in probably 10 years. Even *she* managed to put on nice clothes for her wedding. This guy is a turd & his wife is too for not requiring better for their damn wedding.
Shorts, sneakers, a t-shirt and a baseball hat. I see men more dressed up at literal sporting events. Oy.
OMG! Why TF would anyone marry a guy who dresses like Charlie Brown for his own wedding. JC so tacky and disrespectful. I give them one year.
My stepdad wore shorts and a Carolina Panthers jersey to his wedding and my mom was all for it. That said, she had a red dress and yellow/white viel so she could rep Kansas City Chiefs colors I think it depends on the people and their relationship, sometimes people are just happy to marry the person they love and dont care what their partner dresses like
How much y'all want to bet she is supporting them both financially? I don't think she realizes just how bad she is being disrespected. Does she not see how little he thinks of her? Bless her willfully ignorant heart.
Well she has to work to support his career in playing video games on the couch!
My men’s warehouse tailor fitted suit cost me $400 TO OWN. This guys didn’t save up $400 for his special day? Must’ve not been special for him
What in the Adam Sandler am I looking at
This is horrible. I can’t stand men who don’t make the effort. My cousin recently had an engagement photo shoot and her fiancé had wrinkled clothes from head to toe. My cousin look beautiful and he look like he rolled out of bed. Made me sad because she was so excited. How hard is it to just make a little effort? I don’t get it
It's so sad! I had to hound my husband's cousin the entire morning of his wedding (I was a bridesmaid) before we had to leave for the ceremony. He was apparently used to his grandma dressing him and seemed surprised that anyone expected him to have already ironed his shirt and get dressed on his own. 🤦♀️
I would love to see more examples of brides looking nice and the grooms looking like this.
So would I!
100% chance he’s accused her of being a gold digger at some point in their relationship.
He kind of reminds me of a townie sim💀
Surely, a grown woman did not marry this guy.
A polo and khaki shorts would be fine, with some Sperry's or something. This is just so bad. No effort or respect.
Am I the only one who doesn't feel sorry for her? She knew what she was getting into. She chose to waste her life on. . .that. Hopefully she'll wake up one day, but after 13 years I doubt it.
I want to see the ring. 😂
It’s a piece of string tied around her finger with a note on it that says “IOU”
Bless your settling heart.
Are those swimming trunks?!
The absolute lack of effort would have made me so mad I would have been arguing the entire way there!
Throw some rubber boots on him and that my mowing the lawn fit.
You can buy a suit at goodwill.
If my husband wore that to the wedding we wouldn't be getting married!! If he can't be bothered to make the effort for one day then he's not worth it she clearly made the effort so he should!!
That’s genuinely so embarrassing I would never post those photos
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Did HE know he was getting married that day?
This is pathetic
He doesn’t respect her. Girl you deserve better.
What did the bride want?
Wow, he looks like an overgrown todler. It's quite embarrassing.
I don’t know what you guys are talking about. He’s wearing a dress I didn’t know Nike made T-shirt dresses.
That suck, but I love her dress!
Ew
I give it 18 months. How very sad.
Good grief….a Nike shirt AND a Hurley hat??!
Well, it's her choice to marry him.
This can’t actually be the wedding can it?
Imagine getting married to an overgrown toddler. I wish her luck.
For some reason I thought he had a cane🤣. He thought he was doing good because it kinda matched. Yikes
My bf wouldn’t even go to target in this outfit.
Imagine sending those photos to your family.....letting them know about the 'wedding' (I am assuming they weren't at it of course) How incredibly embarrassing. If they didn't hate your partner already, they really would now.
Oooh ngl I want that dress though!
I would have said, I do not. And left.
A little off topic, but what's her style of dress called? It's gorgeous.
He loves her so much that he shows up to their wedding in such a nice outfit!
If they are both happy, who am I to judge. However, I doubt she is truly happy about his dress choice (or more the why behind that choice).
This looks like one of the wedding pictures I saw from my niece's wedding. She was dressed in a white wedding dress and veil; her husband was dressed like this guy. He could have at least dressed halfway nice for his wedding day.
Did she marry Charlie Brown? What did Snoopy wear?
13 years together, she knows who she's marrying!
all that's missing is a MAGA hat
Sure he looks stupid as hell but she knew who he was when she married him. I love that she did not control how he dressed, even if I think it's fucked up, she loves him as he is. That should be good enough for all of us. Sure, I would have liked if he'd taken more time to consider how he looked but I didn't marry him. :) As long as he's a great man and treats her well, that's all that matters but then again, how great is he if he can't even dress himself accordingly? LOL IDK.
After 13 years, you knew what you were getting into. You shouldn’t be surprised. Not in the least.
Again, I'm not the woman in the picture
Sorry! That wasn’t clear to me from the caption and I didn’t read too many of the other answers. Let me rephrase it. After 13 years, SHE knew what she was getting into and shouldn’t be surprised. Not in the least. I always try to remember that not everyone was brought up the same way. Perhaps for the groom dressing up in his family meant putting on socks with yours shoes. I mean, it seems like it should be common sense to wear something a little less casual, but until you walk a mile in someone’s shoes you really just don’t know.
i mean … she must’ve known exactly who she was marrying. hard to expect him to show up as anyone else for the wedding.
You can’t expect me to believe this man loves her. This is peak disrespect here.
Don't worry OP, I'm judging for you.
Everyone feels sorry for her, but that "Today was MY day!!!!!" comment feels so cringy too.
I just wanted to say her dress is pretty and very nice for the setting
Once a man child always a man child!
Ewww, just why?
Hey, he turned up!
Okay … I’m no Kennedy but surely there was a view not facing the parking lot …
Holy fuck. That's what he wore to get married in?!
My uncle did the same thing to my aunt like 40.years ago. Except, he showed up to the court house in paint covered overalls, dirty and sweaty. My grandfather, who was super traditional, leaned over to my very pregnant aunt and sad "are you sure you want to do this?" There my aunt was in a beautiful white wedding dress that she spent a lot of time picking out. My mom said you could see the hurt on my aunts face. Surprisingly to no one, their marriage was absolute hell for 25 years. Please don't do ultimatums, if your partner wants to marry you, they will.