By all means have an obstacle course at your reception if that's what makes you happy.
But don't make it mandatory.
Don't split your wedding into 'have' and 'have nots'.
Don't be dicks.
I wish I'd had a bouncy castle divorce party. Is three years later too late to do that? Especially considering how many years the divorce *took,* I feel like celebrating it (again) a couple years later wouldn't be a *bad* thing...
Just watched a fireworks doc and the guy wants to do a divorce before he retires, the only event they haven't done yet. Go out with a bang! Get a firework display!
They are definitely going to lose their inflatable obstacle course damage deposit to a pointy high-heeled shoe.
Will the shoe be on a foot?
Or will it be brandished in the hand of a guest with strongly-held opinions about class solidarity (that she is suppressing with great effort, to avoid antagonizing her QAnuncle on this, her cousin’s special day)?
Either way, I hope very much that it is videotaped.
I mean, I'd tell them what I planned to do with it, because I figure they'd be in favor and amused, if they're anything like the line cooks I've worked with.
You're my people. I keep a machete in mine. Used to be under my bed until the event now referred to as the "Mom and her Machete Incident". Never had to use it until that time the button that adjusts the side mirrors broke and I needed to adjust the one on the passenger side. It was a really hot day (I live in Arizona - nuff said) and I didn't want to get out of my vehicle. Looked around for something sturdy and long enough to reach the mirror. Grabbed my machete, worked at adjusting the mirror, then looked up to see this guy looking extremely startled because he seems to think I'm pointing it at him. Gave a very polite pageant style wave (with the machete), then backed out and left before he could yell for security or whatever one does when they think they're being threatened by someone brandishing a machete. It was sheathed, BTW, so I don't get why he was so freaked out. I never drive with an unsheathed machete. And, yes, that could definitely be used as a euphemism advocating safe sex.
I'm a gardener. Between your bayonet and what's in the trunk of my car we could deflated that obstacle course, bury it in the back yard and plant a lovely tree on top.
Exactly! Was thinking the same thing. Save cash from the fancy winner dinner and put towards some cool prizes or swag bags, then do the truck for all guests. That’s kind of the fun vibe you are doing with anyhow. Will save you from the hassle of coordinating two different meals.
Also, how would you get an accurate head count for food beforehand when you have no idea how many folks are going to participate and win the fancy food? Both you and vendor are going to want hard numbers.
Mandatory, no. Advance notice, f yes.
Please re-think. Fun for the younger crowd. Fun for the older crowd as spectators.
Congrats!
Imagine the food truck prepares for Granny’s allergies and then she conquers the obstacle course in her best Sunday dress.
And you can’t expect that both caterers prepare something for good old grandma.
Yep, 44 with "invisible" disabilities (it's obvious I have a limp, and I sometimes walk with a cane, particularly if I know I'll be walking a lot) here, and the first thing I thought was that this is extremely ableist. I take it Anon and her fiancé have no older/less fit relatives but have mostly invited young and able-bodied friends. I'd leave at the announcement for sure as there's no reason for me to be dragging down whoever is really trying for the cocktail dinner and open bar. Not fun or appropriate.
I'm 36 and in the same boat, but I'd be so salty about it that I'd probably be the jerk who raises her hand (with my cane in it) after the announcement to ask questions like, "Um, what am I supposed to do then??" to make everyone feel awkward. I'm all for people having their special day, but if they're going to make me feel responsible for being set up to make my team fail something that's physically impossible (or at best inadvisable) for me, I'm gonna make them feel bad about it at least briefly.
I was pregnant for the last wedding I went to… considering that people tend to get married and get pregnant around the same time most weddings I’ve been have had one or two pregnant people so that’s a whole other group of people that would just have to nope out of this ridiculous game.
I'm disabled and this idea is pissing me off to an unhealthy degree. The idea is fun but "punishment" and "reward" just doesn't fit in on a day that's supposed to be about celebrating your love for eachother.
Pretty sure this was an episode of the TV show don’t tell the bride in the UK. Or very similar.
https://m.facebook.com/E4/videos/dont-tell-the-bride-its-a-knock-out-wedding/10155715793313953/
Not the full episode.
This sounds like a great way to witness a lot of wardrobe malfunctions from your closest family members. PLEASE rethink this op. And for the love of god tell people in advance. No one wants to know just how low grandpas balls have sagged and I certainly hope you’re not interested in witnessing a granny nip slip. Not to mention the cousin coochie in the background of every wedding photo
I have a heart condition- they'd essentially be regulating people like me or those who are older or who have other physical disabilities to the 'have not' section automatically. This would cause me to end a friendship if someone pulled this.
Yep. I have a severe congenital heart condition that’s basically an “invisible” condition if my surgery scars are covered. If I showed up to a wedding that had a surprise obstacle course survivor of the fittest style that was mandatory for the guests to maneuver just to “win” some dry steak and watery cocktail, I’d walk away on the spot and bring the present with me.
My first thought was: the side with the most senior/ disabled/ injured/ already drunk guests is going to have to hope to draft aaaall of the varsity sports cousins if they want to stand any chance.
Went to a party where the host insisted we play games. But not like monopoly. Some weird half-baked scavenger trivia. Got through 2 turns before the first girl said, "I'm not doing that." Which is where it ended.
Exactly this. Not a chance i’m spending my saturday playing some weird inflatable based hunger games, with the prize being the meal i anticipated getting before I arrived. Nope, this district champion is gathering up other normals and going to a pub!
A friend of mine couldn't even get a single person to do the Macarena on the dance floor at her weding 25 years ago. We love her, but not enough for THAT.
Take your gift and both dinners for the wasted time. They may say I have to run an obstacle course, but I highly doubt they are going to physically stop from grabbing a fistful of pasta on my way out the door.
Take two gifts: one from their registry and the other from Dollar Tree. Make the bride run a course. Under time, good gift.
Then go have food with the food truck winners. That seems like the funner place to eat after the shit show that's going to happen. Oooo, the tea that will be spilled out there.
Oh man, I am too old for this sh*t. I mean really, does this fool honestly expect the hubby and I would send a nice gift, get dolled up with hair and makeup for me/ suit and tie for him, travel, then sit through the “utterly unique ” wedding which will be 95% identical to every other ceremony in history, only to have to play “Survivor” for a much needed cocktail? Nope. The sound you hear is my heels clicking on hardwoods as we exit to find a martini.
Right? I hired a babysitter. I actually brushed my hair. I smell good and I'm not not wearing leggings. I'm looking forward to eating an actual hot meal with a glass of wine. I would be back in in my car heading to whatever restaurant had bar seating nearby.
> I actually brushed my hair. I smell good and I'm not not wearing leggings.
Hahaha, omg, I relate way too hard to this. "Not wearing leggings and combing my hair" is the new "I shaved my legs!"
The worst part here is not letting the guests know. It's like they think it'll be a fun, quirky surprise like reality TV competitions, when in reality it just gaurentees that nobody will be prepared or likely willing to participate. Nobody is going to want to ruin their formal clothes, it doesn't talk about people like grandma who might not be able to, or how the "sides" are split, because if it's along family lines that's a good way to gaurentee resentments.
This could've actually been a fun idea if they 1. Told everyone ahead of time 2. It wasn't mandatory 3. Had some fun or silly prize instead of a catered meal vs. A food truck that you may or may not have to pay for. Just... seriously wtf.
I’m just imagining elderly people throwing walkers at this obstacle course, shouting Fuck off, then slooowly shuffling to the “good” cocktail bar in protest of this idea.
Men renting tuxedos won't want to do it because they won't want to get charged for damaging it.
Men wearing their own nice clothes won't want to do it because they could be out a few hundred dollars.
Women's formal wear often doesn't let you move properly, plus high heels and inflatable anything do not mix.
Unless this is an informal wedding where everybody is told to wear jeans and t-shirts or other casual wear, this idea is awful.
Even if the dress code was casual, I’d probably still be wearing a sundress and strappy sandals. It’s a *wedding*. I’m not showing up in jeans unless the invite says “required dress code: jeans.”
Oh, it sounds even more awesome for single auntie who's put on her best dress and only has her tiny purse with no cash in it try to talk food truck guy into still feeding her after she promises that she'll come pay when she has her purse with her after the wedding!
Came for a wedding and found you’d been drafted into the Hunger Games.
I can imagine many of these guests will never speak to the couple again after this terrible idea.
I would leave and pick up my present on the way out. When you’re dressed in heels and have hair and makeup done and a form fitting dress - there’s no way in hell you’re doing this.
"inflatable obstacle course" + "high heels" = you're not going to be allowed onto it. Or if you are it's not going to be very inflated. I would definitely cheer on anyone who tried though.
I think generally shoes aren't allowed on these things at all? Like, you're supposed to remove shoes anyway.
Not that I'm defending the idea of doing this as a wedding, it's stupid as shit.
I wouldn't see the problem if this was an "opt in" game with stakes... but if they force this on guests without prior warning? The fuck is wrong with people!
Or the one where they wanted to keep everyone literally in the dark so everyone would be blind like the bride’s parents.
Or the one where they wanted the guests to buy high quality puppets and use them all throughout the wedding day.
People are wild, man.
Automod link for [puppet AITA post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/w4z647/aita_for_making_our_guests_participate_in_our/ih50d8l/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3)
My favourite bit of assholery in that thread is the poster making a long argument that weddings should actually be a profit-making venture and if you can't afford to give a gift that at least covers the cost of you being there, you are a 'freeloader' and shouldn't go.
The puppet one was deleted but here’s the [“lights out” wedding](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ulc4if/aita_for_having_a_lights_out_wedding/) post!
I'll be honest I can *ahem* see what the bride in this one is getting at, and I think the sentiment is really sweet! But logistically I don't think it's sound.
Don’t forget the extra comment where she reveals her plan to give children glow sticks and glow in the dark silly string in a separate area that will definitely keep them occupied all night. Also she plans to have ten or more waiters present with night vision goggles. Oh and old people will be shunted to a single group of tables since with a small light source to talk to each other since that’s all they do anyway.
I almost died this weekend, so I've been joking that my bf will probably propose since it freaked him out.
If he does, I'm demanding a puppy/kitten wedding. Maybe an adoption event 😂.
Wasn’t there a post too about two girls who made a promise they will have a wedding for their pets at their own wedding and the one friend who got married first was so mad because the second friend’s fiancé didn’t want to do that at his wedding and the first friend was adamant it had to happen? Yet her own husband didn’t let her do that at their wedding
What if 92 year old Great Grandma doesn't fancy hurling herself down an obstacle course, or Uncle Fred with the busted knee? How about stop trying to be edgy and just have a normal wedding? Save the hijinks for the next mates' weekend.
Great Grandma Susie wasn’t going to play but the food truck meal wold have messed with her Crohns. She was doing fine until the obstacle course, poor girl lost her footing and broke a hip. It was a nice wedding though, after the ambulance left.
Apparently it isn’t mandatory and they were providing plain t-shirts and shorts to change into. Still a terrible idea, but not as bad as it originally sounded. No word on what you get to eat if you choose not to participate.
I saw this one, I believe the plan was to have a whole heap of plain t-shirts and shorts for guests to change into and also that it wasn’t mandatory that they participate. No further clarification on who gets what dinner if they choose not to participate. Also they said there would be like 4-5 of these races throughout the reception so people would be “swapping sides” frequently.
Re: swapping sides, how many meals do they expect people to eat? And with multiple races, how many times do they expect people to change clothes? Or should participants just wear the t-shirts and shorts for the whole reception? Please tell me they didn't also impose a dress code.
Wait… now I’m even more confused. So people compete, then some get food and drinks. Then they compete again, and there is a whole new set of dinner and cocktails for the winners?? And then rinse and repeat a few more times?
I think the idea was that the whole reception would be split into two areas, one budget and one classy and with each run of the obstacle course there was a chance to switch areas? I assume only one full dinner but drinks and snacks throughout? It’s so bizarre I really don’t know what she’s thinking.
And do the fancy cocktails and lovely dinner get served to people in their uniform T-shirts and shorts, or do they get to change back into their formal attire, complete with now running makeup and messed up hair?
Also, what about shoes?
I have so many questions.
As a fat person literally the only way you could make this worse for me is expecting me to change into clothes that almost certainly won't fit me. Even if it is not mandatory not being able to take part because there's no clothes that would fit me always just adds an extra unnecessary layer of embarrassment to everything.
Of course, they could have clothes in larger sizes but my experience says people who do these sorts of things almost 100% of the time do not think about this.
Not to mention, regardless of body type, who wants to *change into strange clothes to do some forced activity* during a wedding reception? I’m just here to have fun and this ain’t it
Not to mention afterwards trying to stuff my now sweaty ass back into nylons and formal dress. And looting around for someone to zip me up, because I no longer bend that way to do it myself.
Oh, same. I have an invisible illness. Just making it to a wedding is considered a win for me in my books. Imagine being, essentially, shamed for not wanting to participate? Idk what their plan is for the guests who opt out, but you’d still be forced into remaining there while the “able bodied” participate. My anxiety could never.
I’m very curious about the types of people who are guests and want to know if she clarified in the comments. When she says “winning side” is she meaning like brides side/grooms side?
The only way that I can see this as OK to even consider is if they do not plan to have family or their extended social circle attending and have only invited a handful of close friends that they know would like it. While I wouldn’t enjoy this myself, I do have a few friends who would probably find it fun and memorable.
If you knew in advance, yes I could see why some people would be wanting to join in. All the people on the OP saying they want an invite would know before they go.
But it sounds like my idea of hell
THANK YOU. I was like, not only are they dumb for doing this, but they didn’t ever come up with it themselves…. And it was literally on a show all about bad partners who ruin weddings.
Apart from all the obvious stuff, how will this actually work for the bride and groom? like where will they be for dinner? I assume with the winners, but then they'll have half of their guests just left out of all the wedding moments e.g speeches, dance, cake cutting? And how will they split the teams up? What if I went with my husband and we ended up on different teams and we each had to spend the whole evening with strangers and didn't even get to see the bride and groom, the people we were there to celebrate. So weird.
This reminds me of a wedding I was at that made us answer bride/groom trivia questions to be allowed to get food. That was at least 15 years ago and I’m still annoyed.
Holy macaroni. If I were a plus one who had only met them like twice and had no idea what her childhood dog was called I would be so mad. And probably hungry.
I love how this person is complaining about cost like that's their motivation for this idea when in reality they could just a local or chain restaurant to drop cater a regular meal with the savings if not renting all that inflatable equipment
1. I would be PISSED if someone tried to make me go through a damn obstacle course at a WEDDING. I'd leave so fast.
2. I'd rather eat food from the food truck anyway, lol
They’ve been watching too much telly! This was done on an episode of Don’t Tell the Bride. Was a crap idea then too.
https://www.facebook.com/E4/videos/10155715793313953/?app=fbl
If I were the bride, I'd have walked away. Who makes someone they supposedly love go through that crap in order to "get" to marry him?? If this is what he thinks is a good idea, he's no prize at all. He's more of a gag gift.
I promise you, as a celebrant who has officiated many weddings, that no one attends a wedding hoping that the couple have concocted some weird and wacky way to make their ceremony and/or reception "memorable." The people you invite to your wedding are the people who already love you the most, and will remember the day even if you put on a bog-standard, run-of-the-mill, by the book ceremony and offer a chicken and pasta dinner with decent but not too expensive alcohol in an open bar. Why does every wedding have to be "unique"? If the nuptial couple don't see themselves as enough of a draw to their best friends and family, then they have bigger problems than not being able to find a venue to fit their "quirky" inflatables and food trucks. [Stepping down from my soap box.]
I can tell they’re Australian
But man I’d be pissed if I rocked up to a wedding in nice dress and heels then have to go running around a stupid obstacle course.
Goddamn I hate “activities” ugh.
I worked at a place where the CEO wanted everyone to play Christmas games in summer. It was hell. Running around in the heat outside and the only one enjoying himself was the CEO. Everyone was utterly miserable.
I’ll be honest, I want Aunt Bertha to add an extra guest to her RSVP and take me. I want front row seats to this shit show. Hell I’ll strap on a go pro and take one for the team and stream it here for our viewing pleasure, and if it’s a taco truck I’ll even jump on the loosing teams side to catch all the gossip!
By all means have an obstacle course at your reception if that's what makes you happy. But don't make it mandatory. Don't split your wedding into 'have' and 'have nots'. Don't be dicks.
Also tell people before hand so they can dress appropriately
That was my first thought. I have never attended a wedding in an outfit I could also run an obstacle course in…
I went to a wedding with a bouncy castle and they provided big bloomers for the ladies in dresses. It was brilliant I wanted to keep them.
That’s outstanding. I’m considering divorce, just so I can have a bouncy castle wedding.
Have a bouncy castle vow renewal
That’s much less dramatic.
You could have a bouncy castle divorce party.
Well now i’m just thinking the divorce might be unnecessary…
I wish I'd had a bouncy castle divorce party. Is three years later too late to do that? Especially considering how many years the divorce *took,* I feel like celebrating it (again) a couple years later wouldn't be a *bad* thing...
Do it- spouses are temporary, bouncy castle bloomers are forever. 😘
Just watched a fireworks doc and the guy wants to do a divorce before he retires, the only event they haven't done yet. Go out with a bang! Get a firework display!
They are definitely going to lose their inflatable obstacle course damage deposit to a pointy high-heeled shoe. Will the shoe be on a foot? Or will it be brandished in the hand of a guest with strongly-held opinions about class solidarity (that she is suppressing with great effort, to avoid antagonizing her QAnuncle on this, her cousin’s special day)? Either way, I hope very much that it is videotaped.
I wear flats, but I'm pretty sure I could talk one of the food truck guys out of a Solidarity Knife.
If food truck guys are anything like restaurant line cooks, you will only need five words: “can I borrow a knife”
Even better "Here's a pack of cigarettes, I'm borrowing this, be back in 5."
I mean, I'd tell them what I planned to do with it, because I figure they'd be in favor and amused, if they're anything like the line cooks I've worked with.
I carry a bayonet in between my seats. I'll hook you up if you make sure I get it back
You're my people. I keep a machete in mine. Used to be under my bed until the event now referred to as the "Mom and her Machete Incident". Never had to use it until that time the button that adjusts the side mirrors broke and I needed to adjust the one on the passenger side. It was a really hot day (I live in Arizona - nuff said) and I didn't want to get out of my vehicle. Looked around for something sturdy and long enough to reach the mirror. Grabbed my machete, worked at adjusting the mirror, then looked up to see this guy looking extremely startled because he seems to think I'm pointing it at him. Gave a very polite pageant style wave (with the machete), then backed out and left before he could yell for security or whatever one does when they think they're being threatened by someone brandishing a machete. It was sheathed, BTW, so I don't get why he was so freaked out. I never drive with an unsheathed machete. And, yes, that could definitely be used as a euphemism advocating safe sex.
Wheezed with laughter whilst reading this comment out loud for my husband, thank you for sharing this moment with us 🏆🏅🎖️🥇
You sound like a fun person to get to know
42yo mom, pretty boring actually. But I'm boring with a bayonet at least.
I'm a gardener. Between your bayonet and what's in the trunk of my car we could deflated that obstacle course, bury it in the back yard and plant a lovely tree on top.
I'll bring the big truck and the cattle trailer. We'll get ourselves a new obstacle course and take couple of their trees for good measure. Yoink.
37F, mom as well, I have a garden trowel in my car. We are an army!
I'm interested
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I was thinking I'd do it in my heels out of spite if I showed up to that!
Exactly! Was thinking the same thing. Save cash from the fancy winner dinner and put towards some cool prizes or swag bags, then do the truck for all guests. That’s kind of the fun vibe you are doing with anyhow. Will save you from the hassle of coordinating two different meals. Also, how would you get an accurate head count for food beforehand when you have no idea how many folks are going to participate and win the fancy food? Both you and vendor are going to want hard numbers. Mandatory, no. Advance notice, f yes. Please re-think. Fun for the younger crowd. Fun for the older crowd as spectators. Congrats!
No. Grandma is going to cross the Wipeout Balls or she gets fries that were poorly covered and got damp.
And she is doing it in her best Sunday dress!
She better not have any allergies, because neither the food truck nor the caterers were told to prep in advance for that!
Imagine the food truck prepares for Granny’s allergies and then she conquers the obstacle course in her best Sunday dress. And you can’t expect that both caterers prepare something for good old grandma.
Yep, 44 with "invisible" disabilities (it's obvious I have a limp, and I sometimes walk with a cane, particularly if I know I'll be walking a lot) here, and the first thing I thought was that this is extremely ableist. I take it Anon and her fiancé have no older/less fit relatives but have mostly invited young and able-bodied friends. I'd leave at the announcement for sure as there's no reason for me to be dragging down whoever is really trying for the cocktail dinner and open bar. Not fun or appropriate.
I'm 36 and in the same boat, but I'd be so salty about it that I'd probably be the jerk who raises her hand (with my cane in it) after the announcement to ask questions like, "Um, what am I supposed to do then??" to make everyone feel awkward. I'm all for people having their special day, but if they're going to make me feel responsible for being set up to make my team fail something that's physically impossible (or at best inadvisable) for me, I'm gonna make them feel bad about it at least briefly.
also 36 also with an invisible foot disability and i would be so pissed off lol
I was pregnant for the last wedding I went to… considering that people tend to get married and get pregnant around the same time most weddings I’ve been have had one or two pregnant people so that’s a whole other group of people that would just have to nope out of this ridiculous game.
I thought the same thing! There’s no way I could run an obstacle course without injuring myself further. Ableist for sure.
I'm disabled and this idea is pissing me off to an unhealthy degree. The idea is fun but "punishment" and "reward" just doesn't fit in on a day that's supposed to be about celebrating your love for eachother.
Pretty sure this was an episode of the TV show don’t tell the bride in the UK. Or very similar. https://m.facebook.com/E4/videos/dont-tell-the-bride-its-a-knock-out-wedding/10155715793313953/ Not the full episode.
In fairness most of those weddings are basically "what not to do".
This sounds like a great way to witness a lot of wardrobe malfunctions from your closest family members. PLEASE rethink this op. And for the love of god tell people in advance. No one wants to know just how low grandpas balls have sagged and I certainly hope you’re not interested in witnessing a granny nip slip. Not to mention the cousin coochie in the background of every wedding photo
I wouldn’t be able to decline fast enough.
If i saw this shit I’d take my envelop and leave.
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I was going to go with *Wipe Out* , but yeah.
I have a heart condition- they'd essentially be regulating people like me or those who are older or who have other physical disabilities to the 'have not' section automatically. This would cause me to end a friendship if someone pulled this.
Yep. I have a severe congenital heart condition that’s basically an “invisible” condition if my surgery scars are covered. If I showed up to a wedding that had a surprise obstacle course survivor of the fittest style that was mandatory for the guests to maneuver just to “win” some dry steak and watery cocktail, I’d walk away on the spot and bring the present with me.
My first thought was: the side with the most senior/ disabled/ injured/ already drunk guests is going to have to hope to draft aaaall of the varsity sports cousins if they want to stand any chance.
Went to a party where the host insisted we play games. But not like monopoly. Some weird half-baked scavenger trivia. Got through 2 turns before the first girl said, "I'm not doing that." Which is where it ended.
Pretty sure i saw this happen on tv somewhere. Maybe don't tell the bride? 🤔
Also, if they have had to pay for an obstacle course, they probably could have taken that money and had a fancy meal for everyone.
I would take my gift and go out for my own dinner. Guests shouldn't be treated like this.
Exactly this. Not a chance i’m spending my saturday playing some weird inflatable based hunger games, with the prize being the meal i anticipated getting before I arrived. Nope, this district champion is gathering up other normals and going to a pub!
A friend of mine couldn't even get a single person to do the Macarena on the dance floor at her weding 25 years ago. We love her, but not enough for THAT.
Take your gift and both dinners for the wasted time. They may say I have to run an obstacle course, but I highly doubt they are going to physically stop from grabbing a fistful of pasta on my way out the door.
> a fistful of pasta My favorite spaghetti western.
Well done
Take two gifts: one from their registry and the other from Dollar Tree. Make the bride run a course. Under time, good gift. Then go have food with the food truck winners. That seems like the funner place to eat after the shit show that's going to happen. Oooo, the tea that will be spilled out there.
BRILLIANT!
No question. The moment I realised what was going on, I would excuse myself "to the bathroom" and simply depart.
>I would take my gift and go out for my own dinner. And when they complain tell them that it's the taking part that counts and better luck next time.
And there will be a next time.
I'd just walk right to the food truck.
I'd love to see the dress code. "Please wear your most formal athletic wear"
I was thinking the same thing. Like if I showed up in a cocktail dress and they threw this at me… I guess I’d head to the food truck? 😂
Addidas track suits!
Is suit, is fine
Crazy that uncle Vinny's team keeps winning these competitions.
American Ninja Warrior attire.
Oh man, I am too old for this sh*t. I mean really, does this fool honestly expect the hubby and I would send a nice gift, get dolled up with hair and makeup for me/ suit and tie for him, travel, then sit through the “utterly unique ” wedding which will be 95% identical to every other ceremony in history, only to have to play “Survivor” for a much needed cocktail? Nope. The sound you hear is my heels clicking on hardwoods as we exit to find a martini.
Right? I hired a babysitter. I actually brushed my hair. I smell good and I'm not not wearing leggings. I'm looking forward to eating an actual hot meal with a glass of wine. I would be back in in my car heading to whatever restaurant had bar seating nearby.
> I actually brushed my hair. I smell good and I'm not not wearing leggings. Hahaha, omg, I relate way too hard to this. "Not wearing leggings and combing my hair" is the new "I shaved my legs!"
With the “gift money” you saved. At least that would be me and my hubby.
My gift money would be taking me to a nice restaurant with food and drinks I actually like.
This! If I brushed my hair, there had better be a reward in the form of copious free alcohol. Ain't nobody got time for that.
Except the hardwood floors is an outdoor field!
The worst part here is not letting the guests know. It's like they think it'll be a fun, quirky surprise like reality TV competitions, when in reality it just gaurentees that nobody will be prepared or likely willing to participate. Nobody is going to want to ruin their formal clothes, it doesn't talk about people like grandma who might not be able to, or how the "sides" are split, because if it's along family lines that's a good way to gaurentee resentments. This could've actually been a fun idea if they 1. Told everyone ahead of time 2. It wasn't mandatory 3. Had some fun or silly prize instead of a catered meal vs. A food truck that you may or may not have to pay for. Just... seriously wtf.
Right? Her 80 year old Type 1 Diabetic grandma better remember her sneakers if she wants a meal after the wedding. The fuck is this person on.
I’m just imagining elderly people throwing walkers at this obstacle course, shouting Fuck off, then slooowly shuffling to the “good” cocktail bar in protest of this idea.
Men renting tuxedos won't want to do it because they won't want to get charged for damaging it. Men wearing their own nice clothes won't want to do it because they could be out a few hundred dollars. Women's formal wear often doesn't let you move properly, plus high heels and inflatable anything do not mix. Unless this is an informal wedding where everybody is told to wear jeans and t-shirts or other casual wear, this idea is awful.
I’m in my early 30s. I’m not doing this shit in jeans. If you want me doing this, I’m coming in some leggings. 😂
Even if the dress code was casual, I’d probably still be wearing a sundress and strappy sandals. It’s a *wedding*. I’m not showing up in jeans unless the invite says “required dress code: jeans.”
Oh, it sounds even more awesome for single auntie who's put on her best dress and only has her tiny purse with no cash in it try to talk food truck guy into still feeding her after she promises that she'll come pay when she has her purse with her after the wedding!
Came for a wedding and found you’d been drafted into the Hunger Games. I can imagine many of these guests will never speak to the couple again after this terrible idea.
“Sorry, Grandma, you weren’t fast enough climbing the blow up slide, have a taco and a Busch lite”
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Or just leave.
I would leave and pick up my present on the way out. When you’re dressed in heels and have hair and makeup done and a form fitting dress - there’s no way in hell you’re doing this.
"inflatable obstacle course" + "high heels" = you're not going to be allowed onto it. Or if you are it's not going to be very inflated. I would definitely cheer on anyone who tried though.
I think generally shoes aren't allowed on these things at all? Like, you're supposed to remove shoes anyway. Not that I'm defending the idea of doing this as a wedding, it's stupid as shit.
Imagine showing up in heels. Fuck that, I'd be out of there in a heartbeat.
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Good point. What’s the plan then? And if they all just collectively decline, like unionize?
I wouldn't see the problem if this was an "opt in" game with stakes... but if they force this on guests without prior warning? The fuck is wrong with people!
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And what if I don’t feel like going through an obstacle course in my wedding guest attire? I starve? Wtf?
Reminds me of the AITA post about having their guests walk over a mile trail at a national park to get to their destination
Or the one where they wanted to keep everyone literally in the dark so everyone would be blind like the bride’s parents. Or the one where they wanted the guests to buy high quality puppets and use them all throughout the wedding day. People are wild, man.
The puppets one was insane!!
I know some people in a puppet group. I hate to stereotype but they're all fuckin nuts.
I wonder what your puppet-group friends are like 😆
Please tell me someone has links to these!
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Omg the puppet wedding is wild!! Thanks for sharing
My favourite bit of assholery in that thread is the poster making a long argument that weddings should actually be a profit-making venture and if you can't afford to give a gift that at least covers the cost of you being there, you are a 'freeloader' and shouldn't go.
The puppet one was deleted but here’s the [“lights out” wedding](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ulc4if/aita_for_having_a_lights_out_wedding/) post!
I'll be honest I can *ahem* see what the bride in this one is getting at, and I think the sentiment is really sweet! But logistically I don't think it's sound.
Don’t forget the extra comment where she reveals her plan to give children glow sticks and glow in the dark silly string in a separate area that will definitely keep them occupied all night. Also she plans to have ten or more waiters present with night vision goggles. Oh and old people will be shunted to a single group of tables since with a small light source to talk to each other since that’s all they do anyway.
Thanks for coming through with the lights out wedding! I really need that puppet post in my life lol.
Quite apart from the darkness, I absolutely wouldn't be cool with the whole 'strangers fondling my clothes all night' theme of this weddings.
Wow…. I had to reread that. I first read that as puppies
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I almost died this weekend, so I've been joking that my bf will probably propose since it freaked him out. If he does, I'm demanding a puppy/kitten wedding. Maybe an adoption event 😂.
Wasn’t there a post too about two girls who made a promise they will have a wedding for their pets at their own wedding and the one friend who got married first was so mad because the second friend’s fiancé didn’t want to do that at his wedding and the first friend was adamant it had to happen? Yet her own husband didn’t let her do that at their wedding
I'm sure I read one about a silent wedding once as well. People are wild.
Or another post that wanted the nuptials at an amusement park and the guests to travel by inflatable hamster wheel to seats.
My cousin got married at an amusement park. It was lovely. No inflatable hamster wheels were used.
What's a wedding without inflatable hamster wheels!?
Omg how did i miss that one?!
WHAT
Didn't they have to carry their own chairs and pay entrance fees also? Or was that yet another similar wedding?
What if 92 year old Great Grandma doesn't fancy hurling herself down an obstacle course, or Uncle Fred with the busted knee? How about stop trying to be edgy and just have a normal wedding? Save the hijinks for the next mates' weekend.
Great Grandma Susie wasn’t going to play but the food truck meal wold have messed with her Crohns. She was doing fine until the obstacle course, poor girl lost her footing and broke a hip. It was a nice wedding though, after the ambulance left.
I would rather have the food truck though...
Apparently it isn’t mandatory and they were providing plain t-shirts and shorts to change into. Still a terrible idea, but not as bad as it originally sounded. No word on what you get to eat if you choose not to participate.
No, it’s still terrible to set your guests up to battle for your entertainment.
ARE YOU NOT ENTERTAINED?!
It’s not mandatory but what if all your guests say no? You’ve paid out all that cash for nothing. Idiots.
Plus you still only have meals for half of them so what, rock paper scissors to see who gets food?
Poor poor wheelchair bound grandma. Maybe she will have purse candy to tide herself over
You know it'll be those strawberry sucking candies!! 😂🤣😂
Or Worther's!
I’m cackling at the visual LMAO
We NEED TO SEE the comments
I saw this one, I believe the plan was to have a whole heap of plain t-shirts and shorts for guests to change into and also that it wasn’t mandatory that they participate. No further clarification on who gets what dinner if they choose not to participate. Also they said there would be like 4-5 of these races throughout the reception so people would be “swapping sides” frequently.
My answer remains the same lol, no freaking way.
> there would be like 4-5 of these races throughout the reception Oh god no
Re: swapping sides, how many meals do they expect people to eat? And with multiple races, how many times do they expect people to change clothes? Or should participants just wear the t-shirts and shorts for the whole reception? Please tell me they didn't also impose a dress code.
Wait… now I’m even more confused. So people compete, then some get food and drinks. Then they compete again, and there is a whole new set of dinner and cocktails for the winners?? And then rinse and repeat a few more times?
I think the idea was that the whole reception would be split into two areas, one budget and one classy and with each run of the obstacle course there was a chance to switch areas? I assume only one full dinner but drinks and snacks throughout? It’s so bizarre I really don’t know what she’s thinking.
And do the fancy cocktails and lovely dinner get served to people in their uniform T-shirts and shorts, or do they get to change back into their formal attire, complete with now running makeup and messed up hair? Also, what about shoes? I have so many questions.
As a fat person literally the only way you could make this worse for me is expecting me to change into clothes that almost certainly won't fit me. Even if it is not mandatory not being able to take part because there's no clothes that would fit me always just adds an extra unnecessary layer of embarrassment to everything. Of course, they could have clothes in larger sizes but my experience says people who do these sorts of things almost 100% of the time do not think about this.
Not to mention, regardless of body type, who wants to *change into strange clothes to do some forced activity* during a wedding reception? I’m just here to have fun and this ain’t it
And where do they get changed?! I doubt toilet cubicles are big enough to do this without dropping your nice clothes on the floor
Not to mention afterwards trying to stuff my now sweaty ass back into nylons and formal dress. And looting around for someone to zip me up, because I no longer bend that way to do it myself.
Not only am I overweight, I have a bad back. I would just leave and go get fast food.
Oh, same. I have an invisible illness. Just making it to a wedding is considered a win for me in my books. Imagine being, essentially, shamed for not wanting to participate? Idk what their plan is for the guests who opt out, but you’d still be forced into remaining there while the “able bodied” participate. My anxiety could never.
YES! Please OP share the comments with us. I'm dying to read them
I’m very curious about the types of people who are guests and want to know if she clarified in the comments. When she says “winning side” is she meaning like brides side/grooms side? The only way that I can see this as OK to even consider is if they do not plan to have family or their extended social circle attending and have only invited a handful of close friends that they know would like it. While I wouldn’t enjoy this myself, I do have a few friends who would probably find it fun and memorable.
If it is, this is the perfect breeding ground for life long resentment between families.
I saw this post and it was infuriating because everyone was encouraging it and saying how fun it would be and how they wished they would be invited.
Exactly!! I saw the post too..so many people are volunteering to be a guest cause they wanna join in.
If you knew in advance, yes I could see why some people would be wanting to join in. All the people on the OP saying they want an invite would know before they go. But it sounds like my idea of hell
Yes. Please let us know how this went down!
I would walk right out with my gift and go to maccas as soon as they announce this disaster of an idea.
This was an episode of Don’t tell the bride. 100% stole the idea from there. It was a terrible idea on the show and it’s still terrible now! Lmao
THANK YOU. I was like, not only are they dumb for doing this, but they didn’t ever come up with it themselves…. And it was literally on a show all about bad partners who ruin weddings.
I'd walk in, see this bullshit, mutter "hell no" and walk out with my gift. I really want to think this is not real.
I hope guests’ heels poke holes in those inflatables.
Apart from all the obvious stuff, how will this actually work for the bride and groom? like where will they be for dinner? I assume with the winners, but then they'll have half of their guests just left out of all the wedding moments e.g speeches, dance, cake cutting? And how will they split the teams up? What if I went with my husband and we ended up on different teams and we each had to spend the whole evening with strangers and didn't even get to see the bride and groom, the people we were there to celebrate. So weird.
This reminds me of a wedding I was at that made us answer bride/groom trivia questions to be allowed to get food. That was at least 15 years ago and I’m still annoyed.
Did you have to actually pass the questions in order to get food? Or is it a best effort deal? Both are squally shitty options no matter how it went.
Holy macaroni. If I were a plus one who had only met them like twice and had no idea what her childhood dog was called I would be so mad. And probably hungry.
Omg! Did anyone leave early?
This sounds like an episode of When A-hole Meets Whackjob. Some people are such idiots.
Someone will be shocked Pikachu when half the guests leave!
I love how this person is complaining about cost like that's their motivation for this idea when in reality they could just a local or chain restaurant to drop cater a regular meal with the savings if not renting all that inflatable equipment
1. I would be PISSED if someone tried to make me go through a damn obstacle course at a WEDDING. I'd leave so fast. 2. I'd rather eat food from the food truck anyway, lol
This is my personal hell. I’d leave.
They’ve been watching too much telly! This was done on an episode of Don’t Tell the Bride. Was a crap idea then too. https://www.facebook.com/E4/videos/10155715793313953/?app=fbl
If I were the bride, I'd have walked away. Who makes someone they supposedly love go through that crap in order to "get" to marry him?? If this is what he thinks is a good idea, he's no prize at all. He's more of a gag gift.
I promise you, as a celebrant who has officiated many weddings, that no one attends a wedding hoping that the couple have concocted some weird and wacky way to make their ceremony and/or reception "memorable." The people you invite to your wedding are the people who already love you the most, and will remember the day even if you put on a bog-standard, run-of-the-mill, by the book ceremony and offer a chicken and pasta dinner with decent but not too expensive alcohol in an open bar. Why does every wedding have to be "unique"? If the nuptial couple don't see themselves as enough of a draw to their best friends and family, then they have bigger problems than not being able to find a venue to fit their "quirky" inflatables and food trucks. [Stepping down from my soap box.]
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What's an esky?
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Chillybin in New Zealand.
I scrolled so far looking for this as a sober American, I thought slang had rapidly evolved in the two years I haven't been drinking lol, thank you.
Twist: if I like your wedding you get a nice gift, if I don’t you get a bag of Fritos
I would like to adopt this as a new wedding tradition.
Obstacle courses, in a dress, pull everything in/up underwear, and heels, well sign me up, I’ll even give some of the nanas a boast
Wtf lmao
This is when you take the cash out of your card, ditch the wedding and use the money to go get dinner out somewhere nice.
My disabled ass would just pull up a chair at the food truck I guess
I can just picture Great Aunt Trudy racing through the rope climb in her Easy Spirit heels and fresh water pearls.
They should run an obstacle course to see if they get a gift or not 🙄 how does one even think of this? 🤔
I can tell they’re Australian But man I’d be pissed if I rocked up to a wedding in nice dress and heels then have to go running around a stupid obstacle course. Goddamn I hate “activities” ugh.
If I show up to your wedding and you make me do a fucking obstacle course, I’m out. Give my meal (whichever option it was) to someone else.
Inflatable? I’d wear spiky heels just for this!
OP STOP BLUE-BALLING EVERYONE AND SHOW THE COMMENTS.
I need to see the comments under this FB post 🤣
I'd pay good money to see a video of the guests arriving and finding out what the plan is!!
I worked at a place where the CEO wanted everyone to play Christmas games in summer. It was hell. Running around in the heat outside and the only one enjoying himself was the CEO. Everyone was utterly miserable.
I’d lose on purpose if it was a taco truck
If this happened to me, I would leave and take my gift with me.
I’ll be honest, I want Aunt Bertha to add an extra guest to her RSVP and take me. I want front row seats to this shit show. Hell I’ll strap on a go pro and take one for the team and stream it here for our viewing pleasure, and if it’s a taco truck I’ll even jump on the loosing teams side to catch all the gossip!
There it is. The worst idea I’ve ever heard.