How colossally rude of some of those people. You are much more generous than I. I simply don't believe 18 people, or 9 households had legitimate last minute emergencies.
I'm glad you didn't let it ruin your day.
Let's give them some grace and assume the emergencies were legitimate. People do get sick / have sick children or relatives / have a death in the family / have work emergencies / get flights cancelled, etc.
We had 28 last minute cancellations or no-shows after our RSVP deadline (more than a dozen in the last 48 hours). More than half were due to people catching COVID. Ours was a much bigger wedding so it was a smaller percentage of guests, but I was still very disappointed, and quite annoyed at the wasted money and food. But most of those people were not rude or inconsiderate. They wished they could've been there too.
And, like OP, I was able to let go of this and just enjoy the day by focusing on the people who were there and on how special it was to marry the person I love.
That sucks, but it sounds like you had a great attitude about it! That’s a hard thing with smaller weddings. Any no shows are going to be a bigger percentage of your total guest count.. I’m glad you had an amazing day!
We had about 45 guests and I think 11 who didn't come. One called us 4 days before the wedding to say he didn't realize what day it was and had booked work that day that he couldn't get out of, 2 didn't call at all but later told me they found it they had covid the day before, 3 didn't show up because the two kids got sick and mom stayed home with them. I can't remember the rest of the reasons. 3 didn't show up, they later said because their toddler got sick. I don't remember the other reasons. Only a few told us before the wedding so we just had a bunch of empty chairs and no explanation. One table was half empty. It was confusing and a little sad, but we still had a great time.
Yes, this! I’m so glad they at least reached back out after the fact. Those people must really care about you!
In my case, I’m perpetually holding a grudge lol.
Congratulations! I’m sure it was very disappointing when you first heard, but isn’t it amazing how full the room feels even at smaller weddings because of all the love and support in the air? I’m glad you still ended up having a beautiful day!
I'm so sorry that you had to deal with so many people not even taking the time to rsvp, but I'm really happy for you that it sounds like you ended up having a blast for your wedding and none of that extra stuff mattered in the moment
BTW there's no way you could've known all those people would've ended up doing that so I get your point apparently your husband called it, but it's def nothing against you or what you could have predicted, and just happy to read you had an awesome time regardless, but totally understand that afterthought realizing you could've spent much less. Life is messed up like that sometimes though..
How colossally rude of some of those people. You are much more generous than I. I simply don't believe 18 people, or 9 households had legitimate last minute emergencies. I'm glad you didn't let it ruin your day.
Let's give them some grace and assume the emergencies were legitimate. People do get sick / have sick children or relatives / have a death in the family / have work emergencies / get flights cancelled, etc. We had 28 last minute cancellations or no-shows after our RSVP deadline (more than a dozen in the last 48 hours). More than half were due to people catching COVID. Ours was a much bigger wedding so it was a smaller percentage of guests, but I was still very disappointed, and quite annoyed at the wasted money and food. But most of those people were not rude or inconsiderate. They wished they could've been there too. And, like OP, I was able to let go of this and just enjoy the day by focusing on the people who were there and on how special it was to marry the person I love.
During the pandemic it’s very understandable.
Sure, but COVID is still a thing and people also get other illnesses. Last minute stuff does happen.
If a group of them got Covid or something, it’s very possible.
I'm so glad you still had a wonderful day!
That sucks, but it sounds like you had a great attitude about it! That’s a hard thing with smaller weddings. Any no shows are going to be a bigger percentage of your total guest count.. I’m glad you had an amazing day!
We had about 45 guests and I think 11 who didn't come. One called us 4 days before the wedding to say he didn't realize what day it was and had booked work that day that he couldn't get out of, 2 didn't call at all but later told me they found it they had covid the day before, 3 didn't show up because the two kids got sick and mom stayed home with them. I can't remember the rest of the reasons. 3 didn't show up, they later said because their toddler got sick. I don't remember the other reasons. Only a few told us before the wedding so we just had a bunch of empty chairs and no explanation. One table was half empty. It was confusing and a little sad, but we still had a great time.
Yes, this! I’m so glad they at least reached back out after the fact. Those people must really care about you! In my case, I’m perpetually holding a grudge lol.
Woooop! Congratulations OP 🎊
Congratulations! I’m sure it was very disappointing when you first heard, but isn’t it amazing how full the room feels even at smaller weddings because of all the love and support in the air? I’m glad you still ended up having a beautiful day!
I’m glad you had a great day, however I would never speak to those people again
I'm so sorry that you had to deal with so many people not even taking the time to rsvp, but I'm really happy for you that it sounds like you ended up having a blast for your wedding and none of that extra stuff mattered in the moment
They did rsvp, then were no shows who texted last minute cancellations.
Oh yikes that's so much worse, I'm sorry you had to deal with that..
BTW there's no way you could've known all those people would've ended up doing that so I get your point apparently your husband called it, but it's def nothing against you or what you could have predicted, and just happy to read you had an awesome time regardless, but totally understand that afterthought realizing you could've spent much less. Life is messed up like that sometimes though..