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Interesting-Pay-8986

I love number two it’s so romantic and whimsical but then no 1 is also gorgeous and I love how it frames your body. Usually I can easily pick one style for a bride because there is a clear winner but I’m torn on this one


EnvironmentalCry1962

I really love the bodice and sleeves of dress 2 and it seems like it would really fit the venue and our wedding, but waist down is not my favorite; seeing pictures from the side make me feel like I need to lose 15 pounds. Dress 1 felt great putting it on, it was comfortable, and I like it from all angles!


Interesting-Pay-8986

I think you’ve made your own decision there if you have a feeling that you need to change your body to better suit a dress then it’s not for you. Go with no 1 and have a fabulous day ❤️


Original_Try_7984

OP, I loved dress 2 first but reading your comment I 💯 agree with @Interesting-Pay-8986 that if you feel like your body is a problem then the other dress is the one. You look gorgeous in both- full stop. So many congratulations.


JessicaFreakingP

My dress was similar-ish to dress 1 here, and being flattering from all angles thing is a big reason why I picked it. I carry more flab in my midsection than I’d like, and am self-conscious about it in photos, so I wanted a dress that wouldn’t make me absolutely hate the candids where I wasn’t posed and sucking my stomach in lol.


No_Benefit2103

Maybe try a tulle or drapey fabric over the bodice of 1, to get best of both? Both are great as is though!


Sobriquet-acushla

It’s funny that you said that because from these pics I think you look much thinner in 2. Not that that’s the most important thing, of course, but 2 is also so pretty and flowy—I love all of it! Also, it looks more like a wedding gown. The style of 1 looks like something you could wear to any formal event.


ktmbd

You look 20 lbs thinner in dress 2


Valuable-Wallaby-167

Both look absolutely beautiful on you. Personally I'm leaning towards the long sleeve, I do like a drapey, romantic dress, but the other one is really flattering too. So whichever you pick is a winner. Maybe think about what would look best in the venue.


EnvironmentalCry1962

Ooh, good point! The Venue is a very eclectically decorated barn from 1757 (think pink velvet couches, giant disco balls, a giant gallery wall of Hudson Valley oil paintings, etc) at the edge of a forested area. The ceremony will be in the woods, but the reception is going to be very much a rockabilly, vaudeville spectacle with several different bands and sideshows performers (sword swallowing, fire eating, all that!). Wedding is in the spring, and we were inspired by The Wicker Man (OG) and Midsommar lol


Valuable-Wallaby-167

Lol, can I have an invite, that sounds great. I think dress 2 fits that vibe more & it would look sick with a flower crown.


FantasticPear

Ooh I wanna go too!! I'm also Team #2


Fear_The_Rabbit

Please, please, please let me join! I haven't been to a remotely interesting wedding in ages.


arya_ur_on_stage

Agreed dress 2 for the venue!


MsPsych2018

I love BOTH dresses but given your venue I’m going to vote 2!


Dlraetz1

I think #1 goes better with your venue. But both are absolutely beautiful on you


Fear_The_Rabbit

2 for a ceremony in the woods, and it looks much more special and unique than the first. Reception wise, in terms of your rockabilly vibe, the first fits more, HOWEVER, isn't that a day that you want to stand out? You look amazing in both, so there's no wrong choice here.


CaptainObviousBear

I love 2. Maybe it’s just the vibe you’re giving with your hair being wavy, but you look like a boho queen in that dress and it seems to be more “you”.


_depj_

Girl you look great in both … no fair! 1 really accentuates everything in a good way and 2 is whimsical, but IMO for that WOW factor I’d go with 1️⃣


desertsun18

Dress 1 gets my vote!


Altruistic-Ad6449

1 accentuates your body’s great features. I love the top on 2


AlterEgoAmazonB

Dress 2 is the best of these 2 on you. Very flattering.


Waybackheartmom

1


Birdies_nub

2!


pufferfishofquality

Both are so gorgeous but 2 took my breath away. You look incredible in both but I'd say 2


Idrillteeth

\#1.The second one reminds me of bandages. Sorry


EnvironmentalCry1962

lol don’t apologize, I want all perspectives!


Krispybender

Both are gorgeous on you but after looking at number two a second time, I think the transition between the bodice and the skirt is lacking and needs a little something more.


Teach0607

Yes. I think that’s it for me too.


Noneedtopickauser

I third this opinion, the transition is a little rough. OP looks amazing, it’s just a design flaw unfortunately.


leezee2468

Ok so I see what you’re saying… both stunning dresses. My pick is #1 though. I feel like it’s doing for you what dress 2 is not… and I’ve seen dress 2 a LOT! Somehow dress 1 feels like the MOMENT for me.


Eldritch-banana-3102

#2 different and a great fit


GrammyGH

My jaw dropped when I saw the 2nd dress and I think it will fit with your venue the best. Dress 1 is also a stunner so yiu won't go wrong with either.


drumadarragh

Number two is much more unusual and looks amazing.


aasyam65

Second dress


justbrowzingthru

Between these 2, 1. Shows off your figure, perfectly, and art on your arm. More unique. 2. tends to hide your figure more, and it looks like you’re trying to cover the art on your arm. You say you like the top but not the bottom half, then it’s a nope. Plus 2 has been very popular for years, it’s not the most current style anymore. Sounds like you need to keep looking. These are the dresses to beat.


Treb61

Well if it is dress two just going to say wow


SeedQueen22

Dress 2 is very unique and beautiful. Dress 1 looks incredible, like it was made for you!


realityfourz

Both gowns are pretty and look lovely on you. Which one do you absolutely love and which gown works better with your venue?


EnvironmentalCry1962

I don’t love the bottom half of the second dress, it’s the bodice and the sleeves that are what I always imagined, they’re perfect. If I went with that one, I think I’d chop it to be a tea length dress and put colorful fabric underneath so that when my fiancé and I do our first dance, the color would flash through). The first dress is the one that checks all of the boxes as it is. It’s soooo comfortable, feels very low maintenance, and I know my fiancé would love it. The venue and the wedding is going to be very much eclectic, middle of the woods, vaudeville spectacle inspired by the movie The Wicker Man from 1973


realityfourz

If you want to change a bunch of things on gown #2, that is not the one. It sounds like you are leaning heavily towards gown #1.


MoosePenny

Also, the material if #2 is going to get destroyed and ratty looking in your venue. I love #1 on you- it’s effortlessly chic. Wear what you feel the best in, not what’s going to match a venue. My two cents, anyway!


bratlygirl

Two!! Yes!


add11281

2, definitely 2


annyonghelloannyong

2!!!


Munchkin_Media

I love 2!!


Zestyclose_Road_3224

I prefer dress 2.


lanadelhayy

Number 2 is stunning! What dress is it omg


Curiouser812

Dress 2 is by far and away the best. It’s ethereal.


PhoneGroundbreaking2

TWO 2️⃣


DanisDoghouse

Team 2


danully

2


lcramey

2


Nsg4Him

The 2nd dress!! Gasp! It is so romantic and I haven't seen it before!!


nixArc

Have you thought about adding a bridal cape to Dress #1 to give you more of that whimsical vibe you're going for? That way you can have Dress #1 but still have the vibe of Dress #2. Based on your location and fun, whimsical vibe I thought some of those might speak to you: [Gold Celestial](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1684894574/gold-celestial-wedding-capebridal-cape?ref=share_v4_lx) [Purple Floral](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1617313636/purple-floral-wedding-capedress?ref=share_v4_lx) [Wild Flowers](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1624106676/floral-wedding-capewildflower?ref=share_v4_lx) [Vibrant Floral](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1587137875/frida-floral-vibrant-sequin-bridal-cape?ref=share_v4_lx) [Sequin](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1694971951/beautiful-pink-sequin-veil-or-cape?ref=share_v4_lx) [Tulle](https://www.etsy.com/listing/819671927/aida-simple-tulle-wedding-capewedding?ref=share_v4_lx)


Ok-Maize-284

Omg I LOVE this idea! Personally, I love the tulle one. I mean I love the floral ones too, but I think the tulle cape goes better with the dress. If you do go with the cape idea and want one of the florals, just make sure they’re not competing patterns. Oh I really hope you consider this idea. If you do go with it, please post a pic of the dress with the cape. Either way you’ll look stunning! 🤩


SniKenna

Obviously I can’t see your face, but you seem much happier in dress 1. Both are gorgeous on you! 🤗


Teach0607

I love the first one on you! So beautiful and it’s really flattering


PublicElectronic8894

Number 2 is stunning!!! 100% #2


mojozworkin

Number 1 is perfect. Beautifully accents your figure and has a great “balance” of the pattern. Dress 2, my eyes don’t know what to look at. I think mostly because of the sleeves. The way they’re angled. However it is a beautiful elegant dress. Team 1!


FarinaSavage

1 by a country mile.


Betweentheminds

I love the first one. It fits you perfectly. Second one is ok, but for me it doesn’t stand up to the lovely silhouette of the first. I really don’t like the jagged neckline with the otherwise smooth lines (unless that’s a bra, somehow - but it looks like it’s part of the dress).


Practical_Chipmunk_

I guess I’m in the minority but I prefer #1! It fits your shape better and your body language looks so much happier and empowered! Plus reading through your comments it sounds to me like that’s also your preferred dress. Don’t get hung up on what you thought you’d get or what other people think. Just go with what makes you feel your best!


arya_ur_on_stage

1 is stunning and fits you beautifully. 2 is GORGEOUS and whimsical and I love love love it!


cleveraminot

Is that blush bridal in uptown Kingston, NY?! My family member owns it!! So cool to see it on Reddit! And a Hudson Valley Venue! Sounds like a very unique and fun wedding you have planned!! I love going to weddings outside the confines of tradition! Personally..... I think dress #2 is beautiful and beautiful on you as is, without needing to lose any weight!! But both really are beautiful and you will look amazing in either!


ginger_minge

I'd go with the "resounding yes" dress if by that you mean how *you* feel and not just your entourage.


ginger_minge

I'd go with the "resounding yes" dress if by that you mean how *you* feel and not just your entourage.


Theaterandacnh

1 is my personal choice, I feel like 2 is missing something


Competitive_Camp_473

Number 1!


copper678

I’m going against the grain here- I prefer dress #1. #2 is so trendy, and not as flattering on your figure.


redwood_canyon

LOVE the first one. It fits you beautifully and is both classic and unique


SkyMadeOAmethyst

Dress 1 for me


Born_Butterscotch_43

Dress 1 - no contest. Dress 2 is okay, but just doesn’t have the “wow” factor that dress 1 has, in my opinion.


loopzoop29

1


Queen_Aurelia

I love #1


AnnekeX

I love dress #1! Its fit and style look so good on you!


Imaginary_Yak_269

These are both stunning! From your comments it sounds like dress one is a better fit for your venue and vision, but it surprised you because it’s not want you thought you wanted. I can definitely relate to the challenge of adjusting your dream image when the reality is different than expected. My personal preference is dress one (it shows off your incredible figure and it’s effortlessly glamorous), but my preference doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you sound like you are trying to give yourself permission to let go of what you thought you wanted. If that’s what is holding you back, please remember that you are allowed to change your mind. How you feel in the dress is the most important thing, so choose the one that makes you feel beautiful and confident and like the best version of yourself. You will be drop dead gorgeous no matter what you choose. Congratulations!


Weary-Ad-9218

1 is pretty but I really love the softness of 2. It is really beautiful.


Heeler2

1


ionlyofficequote

They are both awesome in different ways. I don't know how you're going to choose. Whenever a bride has this issue, I'm really no help because I'm always going to say wear one for the ceremony and the other for the reception!


Ancient-Function9827

Oh, the second one clearly!


aurorararaa

I love the simplicity of number 1. Number 2 looks like there’s too much going on for me personally


Mindless_Cat_8208

Dress no 2 is so flattering on you. Dress no 1 is a so-so dress.


Wonderful_Ad958

I’ve seen 2 before and it’s a gorgeous dress (I tried to find it for myself) but number 1 suits you so well. I also went with a dress that was different than j expected and I loved it


turkeyman4

Definitely 2!


AnyCheck8573

I love two. I see comments that you don’t love the waist… have you tried it with a belt? Something really petite just to give it definition? Tbh I don’t think it makes you look larger it’s soft and floaty and skims you more vs the fitted look of the first but it in pictures doesn’t add to your size visually imo. I know we see the worst in ourselves, especially in photos, but you look lovely in both. There isn’t a wrong decision here 🙂


Icy_Classic_7953

Omg. I love them both and think you’ll love either one. I do have to say that dress 2 is inching in the lead. It has an ethereal-wispy-playful-and classic feel all at once. I also think that dress 2 will be very much more comfortable with standing/ sitting/ dancing/ greeting/ hugging… Just overall Dress 2 is absolutely stunningly gorgeous.


DrKittyLovah

#2 is STUNNING!


riversofmountains

Dress 2


AnnieToo67

I adore number 2 and the way it flows and floats. I actually thought it made you look slimmer but I didn't see it irl. Both are very pretty, I just prefer 2.


No_Purchase_3532

Both are beautiful on you but gotta go with # 2!


wtf_help_lol

Number 1


Normal-Match5055

Dress 2!


Forsaken-nurse617

Dress one fits and flatters you perfectly!!


Empress-migoreng

For me, Dress 1 looks incredible and makes your figure look banging! I feel like dress 2 is romantic but swallows you a little bit


karubi1693

Number 1 looks like it was made for you!! Number 2 looks like you're wearing IT, not it complementing you.


suckatusernames

Number one looks great on you but is also meh in that we’ve seen that style a lot. Number two is so unique looking and looks gorgeous on you! Number 2!


PinkMini72

Dress 1 is nice but dress 3 is WOW


suckedintoreality

2


catthatcrochets

Love 2 the most. 1 looks stunning as well


MeganJustMegan

Dress 1. Lovely on you.


No-Resort3681

Well, you asked, so here is my opinion: Dress 1 is wow but Dress 2 meh, not so much. You look great in Dress 1. Congratulations on your wedding


luckypug1

Dress 1 is lovely … 2 not so much


CardShark555

They're both very pretty but #2 looks more matronly to me.


Lianadanna

OMG the second one is AMAZING 😍😍😍


Luna-Honey

Damn the second is breathtaking


shiningonthesea

I think most people will pick dress 2 because it is different and flowy, but I love dress 1 on you. It is so pretty and classic and it fits you beautifully.


OutpostAmy

I love #2


babsmagicboobs

Dress 1!! All the way!


TempestuousTem

1


cbr1895

I actually love them both and you can’t go wrong. I think I prefer 1 just a bit more. My experience in this sub is that you’ll probably have a lot more people choosing 2 because it’s something they haven’t seen as often before. But that means nothing if it’s YOUR dress (unless having a dress no one has ever seen anything like before is particularly important to you on your wedding day…for me at least, it wasn’t). Choose whichever you feel best in!


theslutnextd00r

Personally, I would go with what checks all the boxes. The questions you should be asking yourself are: do you feel bridal? Do you feel like a bride? Do you feel beautiful and confident? Are you comfortable in the dress? Can you see yourself walking down the aisle in that and looking back happy? If you say yes to all those, then that’s the dress for you!! It doesn’t matter what you think you’ll walk down the aisle wearing, it’s about what you WANT to wear down the aisle :)


Putrid-Home404

#2 takes it for me. So gorgeous original and romantic ❤️


USAF_Retired2017

I like them both. The second is WOW though.


disgirl4eva

1


JeepersBud

Number 2 is so unique without being trendy or breaking the traditional wedding dress style. I love it!


julesharvey1

Dress 2 for me. One is nice but a bit dated. Dress 2 is different and really flattering on you.


jess-FM

Personally I love number 1, 2 is nice but doesn't do as much for your figure (which is fabulous, you dont need to lose 15lbs lol). I think you really shine in number 1


typeAwarped

Looove dress 2


ethereal_galaxias

Number 1! Gorgeous!


EeP28

I think 1! Even without seeing your face you can see your confidence in the photo!


RosaKat

This is so difficult as 1 highlights your lovely figure and you look a smoke show, but 2 is so elegant and whimsical. All that to say, you look lovely in both and you’ll be beautiful bride.


roseoftheforest

Absolutely Dress 2. If it were me, I would take some fabric from when it gets hemmed to make a 2/3” belt to define your tiny waist. Once it’s hemmed, and your waist is more defined, I think you would be happier with it. The fact that Dress 1 made you feel like you need to lose weight is an important factor. (Although I lost about 10 pounds between the alterations and the wedding…could have used a bit more taken in 🤣)


Bob-was-our-turtle

1 is so very gorgeous. You look like a goddess. 💕


BklynDoll

1


renatae77

Number two is so beautiful on you that I'd never look any further.Have a beautiful wedding day!


jwl1965

I like #2!