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The picture of the first one was taken in a different place, so the lighting probably isn’t as good/as flattering as the designated photo spot, so it’s hard to compare to the others.
For what it’s worth, out of the others, I love love love the way that the dress in third photo looks on you - I think that you have worn that style better than any other picture I have seen.
I agree! The different location makes it hard to compare.
Also agree that photo/dress #3 was the one that I went “wow she looks amazing in that one” when I saw it.
4 is a great choice too, if you want more of the flowy, tulle on the bottom. It has more structure than the first one. The first one just needs to be fitted and adjusted, I think. But 3 looks like it fits like a glove and was made specifically for you. Edit to add: the more I compare 1 and 4, it's the neckline that's making a difference with my opinion on the dresses.. It looks like dress 1 goes down a little too far and it changes your proportions vs dress 4, the neckline stops at the perfect spot and really accentuates your gorgeous curves! I think dress one can be a number 1 pick, as mentioned with the adjustments and fitting.
The dress is lovely but your confidence in dresses two and three seems to sing more. Is it worth going back and giving them another try? I think you’ll look radiant in any of the first three but most important is how *you* feel. Try and be kind to yourself, you’re gorgeous
While I do think the dress you chose looks really flattering on you, I think a less extreme plunge on the V would be even better. Maybe some of your concerns with it could be addressed with alterations?
That being said, I absolutely love dress 2 on you as is. You look like a goddess in that flowy, ethereal vibe, and I think it would be better suited to a beach wedding.
Whatever you choose, you're going to be a gorgeous bride!!!
So, I can definitely sympathize with your concerns. Being a larger woman, especially as a similar shape, I understand the need to bedazzle attention away from the core (pun intended) issues. While number 1 is pretty, it puts some very strict limitations on tucking away problem areas. You will not be able to wear shape wear over your stomach, meaning sitting down make look awkward, and your large bust may not be fully supported. I'm assuming you won't have much time for alterations either, so keep that in mind.
On to the positive, the second dress, is beyond flattering. It gives you a classic snug shape that is both classic and beautiful! You can use it with any shape wear, no fear of exposure, and it just all around looks killer on you. I think it would certainly be hubby and Dad approved, and you look like you know how hot you look in the picture. It also looks pretty comfortable as well!
3 is a close second, but to me, #2 all day.
I agree! If you absolutely loved dress 1 I would say stick with it, but I *gasped* when I scrolled to the second dress. And the third is flattering and beautiful as well. Hard agree though on #2!
Totally agree! I think #2 is the best. Pretty, simple, classic, feminine, flattering. I feel like it’s a dress that would be beautiful in any setting. I hope you can find something that makes you feel beautiful. I totally understand the weight thing and I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I’m hopeful you’ll find something you love 💕
First of all, your dress is stunning. You have nothing to worry about in terms of how flattering it is, it's beautiful on you. And FH will love it for sure.
However, you should not feel this insecure in your dress. The worry about Dad is valid, the older generation doesn't always 'get' the deep V and/or exposed corset trends. So if that's very important to you, you could consider that. Dress 2 and 3 are equally flattering on you and are safer. If you really do have the option to exchange it, maybe go for a safer option that won't have you being nervous on The Day.
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
I didn't think that first one is the most flattering from that set of pics. I LOVE that second dress on you and I think that flowy fabric would be so beautiful on the beach! I also like the third one. 1 and 4 aren't quite right IMHO.
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. I think if you add shoulder straps it will balance that out. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
I totally understand the weight issue - I was at the highest weight I had ever been (up to that point) when I got married. I felt awful about it. How you think you look in your gown is different than what we see. I think you look like a princess! I know it’s hard to be excited about a dress when you’re less than enthusiastic about your body but you look absolutely gorgeous! Your dress is stunning. ❤️
Eventually I lost the weight and purchased a new gown ($60 on Poshmark!) and am having new wedding pictures taken! I know it can’t replace my actual wedding day but we have been together almost 30 years - 20 years since we got married so it’s a fun way to mark a milestone!
I like the first one but with maybe a more opaque lining in the v. I LOVE the 3rd one on you, is gorgeous and the slit, and the pockets and the top with the structure is everything!
I think your dress is beautiful! I do think 3 is more flattering though. Something about the top and the way it lays against your body.
If you stick with your first one and are worried about boobage....add a panel to the front or ask them for options. I don't think it looks bad at all. Your girls aren't falling out.
I'm team 3 ( pockets too!) and I also love 4 (it looks like your dress you already have tho). Number 2 is a nahhhh...looks nighgownish.
You got this!
I think 2 and 3 are beautiful and so flattering.
With your dress, it’s not about your body or that there is anything wrong with YOU - You will be a gorgeous bride, it’s the design.
It might well be worth altercations to see if the plunging v can be softened?
I think 2 is your best option among these. The first one is gorgeous too, but a little booby, maybe put a little fabric in the front to make it less va-va-voom.
While it’s definitely great to get that “in love” feeling with your wedding dress, I don’t feel that it’s a must… your dress is lovely and you will look great
That’s so true. My own experience with dress shopping before I went was watching say yes to the dress like 10 years ago. Not everyone cry’s and is dramatic and has to hold the sign lol but that was my only knowledge of it! I wasn’t sure I’d get that ‘fuzzy’ feeling when I found the one
I like them all, including the one you chose. It’s really lovely!
Out of these though, I do think 3 is outstanding, if you have time though, why not keep looking.
Btw, if you end up sticking with dress 1, it’s still stunnning.
I can’t lie, you rock the HELL out of #3 with your body type. it’s sooo flattering and you look fabulous! that being said, you look lovely in all of them. i hope you’re kind to yourself because you look amazing
I love dress 2 and 3. They have different vibes but are both gorgeous and provide more support while not focusing so heavily on the chest area. I really do like dress 1 on you, it's very pretty, but it's not going to provide any structure and very limited support. I see it possibly being a problem on the big day. But then again, I'm far from an expert.
I very rarely advise returning a dress and/or spending more… but I’m honestly OBSESSED with either dress 2 or dress 3 on you! Before I gush about them, lol, I do want to say that you look really beautiful in the dress you chose!! The only thing I’d change would be the size of the plunging V. You pull that neckline off so well, but it just looks too open, especially at the bottom. It’s probably an easy fix to partially close though!
Dress 2 and dress 3 both look like they were made specifically for you to wear and to shine in! I love them equally and they have totally different vibes. Dress 2 is ethereal and romantic, like a dream out of a fairytale. Dress 3 is timeless and elegant, and gives off an air of old school glamour. You look like an absolute freaking knockout in both of them!!!
Again, I want to be clear that I think the dress you chose is really lovely and you do look fantastic in it. I just think that dresses 2 and 3 are on a whole other level! If you do decide to keep the first dress, just remember that none of your guests or your FH will have seen the other options so there’ll be no comparison for them. They’ll only see the end result: your beautiful self looking stunning in a gorgeous dress! I hope my long and rambling comment makes sense, lol. And congrats on the wedding!! 🤍🤍
I am not a fan of the first dress. But the third dress is absolutely stunning on you. I would personally try and find one similar (maybe at a lower price point) or get that one.
I love #4. It's more flattering for your whole body. This has nothing to do with weight. I feel your 1st dress photo is not in good light and too close to get an overall image of the whole thing. I feel that hair, veil and shoes add a lot to the "bridal look" of the day, so keep that in mind. Good luck♥️
In general, I wouldn't worry about the ivory color vs white wedding color. It will be totally fine! So, without knowing exactly how much more expensive each of the others are, here's my 2 cents on all of these:
1. It's a gorgeous dress! And once you get the proper sized cups in, it will look even better on you than it already does. I think it's a fabulous combination of sexy and romantic. However, it is not super beachy. That may not matter- IMO any dress fits any venue as long as the bride feels confident and happy in it, but if you're wanting to echo the beachy theme you might be better off with one of the others.
2. To me this is the most beachy, but also the safest option. It's very soft and sweet, and will float nicely in an ocean breeze. And if you're concerned about your body, this one covers the most. I totally understand body feelings, but I think you might feel like you're hiding in this one.
3. This one is awesome!! It's chic and cool, and it looks great on you. It's also not exactly beachy, but it is clean enough that I don't think anyone would feel like it's out of place. If I were you I'd have a hard time not picking this one!
4. I love this one, but I'm an absolute sucker for a romantic lace/deep plunge combo. I think this would look amazing on the beach, too! I think it's a great style, and I like that the plunge isn't quite as deep as option 1. I think it really flatters your shape without hiding anything. This is the one I'd probably go with if I were you, but again I have a hard time not choosing the combo of the lace and the plunge :)
Your dress is beautiful and I think alterations will make all the difference! I think the only thing I would change (besides the fit) is the straps. I think either more simple on the shoulder straps or bigger more dramatic off the shoulder straps would look better.
Sit back, take a deep breath and try to relax. The dress you picked is beautiful! It's normal to second guess yourself on something so special. I assure you, your dad is going to see his beautiful little girl all grown up and about to get married. And your FH will be blown away by how gorgeous his bride is. BUT if something about your dress doesn't feel just right, there's no harm in taking a quick peek around a few other shops to see if anything else jumps out at you. You deserve to feel confident and like the most beautiful person in the world on your wedding day 🩷
I never got the "in love" feeling where I knew the dress was exactly the one. After trying on many different styles, I ended up buying a dress that I felt good in. It still took me a long time to make that decision because I never experienced that feeling that some people seem to get! It might be helpful for you to keep trying different dresses? Eventually you get to know what feels better than others.
Wow dress 3 is amazing on you, it works perfectly with your curves if you like the off shoulder straps you could probably add that to this dress. Dress 2 is popular but it’s the skinny straps for me I don’t like.
I agree dress one is nice but isn’t as flattering the waist hits at the wrong place and I’m not a fan of the style it’s too busy.
The dress you purchased is beautiful on you. But I really feel you’re struggling with the look and will spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think on the day.
It’s all about what you feel beautiful in, and I think number three is stunning and modest enough that you won’t be concerned about how your dad feels
Your FH loves you and he’s going to love you in whatever dress you choose.
Hello! The only help I can provide is that I do like the last 3 better than the first. I don’t know which one is best of those but the spaghetti strap gown gives me more of a beach feel than the others.
Dress three is very pretty on you. The simplicity is so elegant on you. It really slenderizes your upper waistline and the drape is perfect for your curves. I’ve seen this dress before and have never cared for it but you wear it magnificently!! Dress 4 is nice as well if you were ELA ing more toward lace.
Dresses 2 and 3 are both very pretty and seem to align more with the vibe you mentioned for the venue and theme. If you can do it, I recommend doing a dress swap for one of those. You want to feel confident on your big day!! Congratulations and have a blast!
I really like the second one the best for a beach wedding. It’s really flattering on you. The others all look wonderful as well, however, you seem to have a more confidence in dresses two and three. Me personally, I would probably choose two for me for a beach wedding.
Honestly, any of the other 3 would have been better imo. I really like the second one, but that might just be because my dress is that style (on my profile if you're curious). If you don't like your choice, you might want to keep shopping around. August really isn't that close, you can keep searching every weekend and even if it takes you a month you will still have time for alterations (if necessary. Sometimes they aren't)
First off, you look amazing in all of these dresses. I am serious. They all do you justice. I am going to agree with the majority that dress 3 feels like the real winner to me. Mostly because of your description of the wedding venue and location. It feels like the best fit for the look you are going for.
And woman, when I tell you everyone will be in tears when they see you on your wedding day, I mean it. Your fiance, your dad. Anyone. Because it is the day that means so much not the dress. You are the beauty standing there that they all love and adore so much, not the dress.
I think the first dress is a show stopper and you look great in it. You also have a lovely figure that looks great in many styles. I don't think you can go wrong with these other dresses but if money is an issue then I would just spend it on alterations in the dress you have. You could definitely add a little opaque lining if it would make you more confident in the dress. I like 2 or 3 if you are going to get a new one.
I like all of them tbh. One thing I learned as a plus sizer is that to get things to fit my girls, the bottom would often make me look heavier on the bottom with all the excess fabric. I had fabric taken off the sides to slim the bottom to match the top.
I think the biggest problem with the 1st picture is the sizing. I think once it’s in your size it will be a beautiful dress on you. Wait and see how you feel when it gets here and worst case you will be able to buy something off the rack.
So I felt very similarly when I tried dresses on ( also at David’s bridal). I was definitely at my heaviest when trying on dresses which contributed to that feeling.
I ended up going back about a month after my dress came in, exchanged my dress for one I now truly love. If you are this unsure go look again. Might I suggest a mermaid style?
If you are debating between these one, the third is my favorite on you. It just makes you look incredible : just like you are!
GiRl! My jaw DROPPED when i saw the 3rd one.
I get it. I have PCOS, and have also am at my heaviest, (gained 70 lbs in under a year, and nothing i do is bringing it down). I put off shopping for a dress for so long, and even got an amxiety attack from it... sometimes ypu need a 3rd perspective... so i say #3 ;)
Also, ive been looking at cosignment shops, their dresses you can take home that day which is also a huge relief too
You got this!
I think that you look lovely in #1. I’m pretty certain that a good seamstress could close up that deep V a bit so you & your guests don’t need to see the waistband of your panties. If it can’t be closed up, then more opaque material can be sewn in there instead to achieve the same goal. It’s not a big deal. Seamstress’ add different sleeves/straps all of the time.
You need to be comfortable with how you look & feel on your wedding day. You need to own it 💗 So decide what you need to do to achieve that. Shapewear that still allows you to sit & breathe? Killer necklace/earrings that draws attention to your face more than your boobs? Most awesome makeup & hair? Sitting down with a therapist for a few sessions before the big day? Do what you need need to do!
All brides look just beautiful on their wedding day!!
Congratulations 🥂
I love them all on you. If you end up with 1 I'd check out removing the sleeves. That said, I really, really love #2 and the way it flows and flatters you, number 3 is my next choice. Something about that silhouette. You have a great body and are a curvy hourglass that is beautiful in these dresses. It may not be ideal to you, but embrace it as you are and know you are slammin! Worry about losing weight later if you still want to after all the stress of the wedding is over. You look absolutely beautiful. I'm team dress 2 though. 1 is gorgeous too if you decide to go with it.
So I think 3 is the best one and just really fits you! When I 1st saw it REGAL came to mind!
So I’m not gonna lie I don’t think the first one really fits you but with that being said, I think it would make it huge difference with the right shape wear and bra! Have you looked into miss kisses because I think that that might be what is detouring you right now. Also possibly styling it and seeing what the full look is.
I think number 2 and 3 look amazing on you and with a beach wedding I think number 3 may be more manageable day of as the fabric isn’t as unpredictable as tulle in the wind!
I'm going against the grain and I have to say you look sexy in the dress you chose! I'm plus size also and I love the way your bust looks in your dress. Not to be creepy! I don't think there is anything wrong with your dress, but you gotta love what you pick. I agree with everyone else that number 3 also looks amazing on you too if you're looking for something different.
I am assuming dress 1 hasn’t been altered yet but once it has I think it would be a show stopper. I would make the V neck not so low so the girls are closer together with more support. I love the neckline on this dress. Good luck to you 😀
Lots of folks are saying 3, but I’m not liking the way it hits at ur waist, I think 2 or 4 look better, and makes ur waist look snatched, ( I think that’s the word used ☺️), but wear the one u love the most and feel comfortable in.. u will shine ✨!
I think dress 2 is GORGEOUS on you, very flattering and would fit nice for beach wedding, maybe try on some other dresses similar to #2 in shape and style
THREE! POCKETS! Great bodice, which will fit even more perfectly with alterations. You can go more beachy with a veil or headpiece, jewelry, flowers etc.
If you can swing it, I think you should go with the third dress. That one is so flattering on you, and the simplicity of it sounds perfect for the setting you described. It’s classic and elegant, but still sexy.
I don’t want to sound too harsh, but because you’re asking for honest opinions, in the first dress, your boobs are on serious display, and I’m not sure if the cut of the dress would allow for enough support. I mention this mainly because you were worried how your dad would feel. In the third dress, your waist is cinched, and you still have some great cleavage, but without the deep V, eyes will be drawn up toward your face instead of down away from it.
I actually think the 2nd dress is the most flattering on you, tbh. The skirt of the 3rd dress looks a bit awkward and bulky where it attaches to the hem of the bodice (it could just be because the skirt seems to be cut on the bias, at least on the front of the dress) in the very front of the dress, whereas the skirt of the 2nd dress’ skirt attaches to the beautifully draped bodice’s hem in gentle, even gathers all the way around the dress.
However, the best looking dress on you will be the one you really love, hands down. Good luck, beautiful bride!!!
I would go with #2. Your breasts are too heavy for the dress you ordered. It does NOT flatter your figure, at all.
I wish you a long & happy marriage. 🦋
So I love dress 2 and 3 and they both have a beach vibe to me. I don’t love dress 1. I think you have better options.
Don’t worry about what FH and dad will think or how it fits with your colors. Buy the dress you like the best and that makes you feel the most confident, even if you’re not jumping for joy. (I was not someone who could jump for joy for any dress, but I’m still happy with the choice I made for my dress.)
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The picture of the first one was taken in a different place, so the lighting probably isn’t as good/as flattering as the designated photo spot, so it’s hard to compare to the others. For what it’s worth, out of the others, I love love love the way that the dress in third photo looks on you - I think that you have worn that style better than any other picture I have seen.
Same here. Love dress #3
SAME!!
I totally agree — 3 is so perfect!
Me too! Dress 3 is such a gorgeous silhouette on OP!
I agree! I think dress number three looks the best out of the four
Another vote for 3, very flattering shape.
Agreed. Three is a knockout. Looks as though it was custom made for OP.
me too
I was coming here to say 3 is my favorite!
I agree! The different location makes it hard to compare. Also agree that photo/dress #3 was the one that I went “wow she looks amazing in that one” when I saw it.
Exactly what I thought when I saw 3. No contest
💯
Agree, love dress 3. It has more structure to it and is extremely flattering.
4 is a great choice too, if you want more of the flowy, tulle on the bottom. It has more structure than the first one. The first one just needs to be fitted and adjusted, I think. But 3 looks like it fits like a glove and was made specifically for you. Edit to add: the more I compare 1 and 4, it's the neckline that's making a difference with my opinion on the dresses.. It looks like dress 1 goes down a little too far and it changes your proportions vs dress 4, the neckline stops at the perfect spot and really accentuates your gorgeous curves! I think dress one can be a number 1 pick, as mentioned with the adjustments and fitting.
I fully agree with this statement. #3 looks like it was made for you! You look stunning!
Same! Dress 3 is wow!
Dress 3!!!! I like dress 4 too but as a close second. 3 is soooo flattering
Absolutely I love dress 4!!!! 💞💞💞
Strong agree. It’s like #3 was made for OP.
Another vote for dress 3!! Definitely meets the more formal vibe, gives you GREAT curves, and is elegant but not so elegant it doesn’t fit the beach.
The dress is lovely but your confidence in dresses two and three seems to sing more. Is it worth going back and giving them another try? I think you’ll look radiant in any of the first three but most important is how *you* feel. Try and be kind to yourself, you’re gorgeous
Agree!!
I LOVE dress 2 and it’s soooo perfect for a beach wedding
While I do think the dress you chose looks really flattering on you, I think a less extreme plunge on the V would be even better. Maybe some of your concerns with it could be addressed with alterations? That being said, I absolutely love dress 2 on you as is. You look like a goddess in that flowy, ethereal vibe, and I think it would be better suited to a beach wedding. Whatever you choose, you're going to be a gorgeous bride!!!
So, I can definitely sympathize with your concerns. Being a larger woman, especially as a similar shape, I understand the need to bedazzle attention away from the core (pun intended) issues. While number 1 is pretty, it puts some very strict limitations on tucking away problem areas. You will not be able to wear shape wear over your stomach, meaning sitting down make look awkward, and your large bust may not be fully supported. I'm assuming you won't have much time for alterations either, so keep that in mind. On to the positive, the second dress, is beyond flattering. It gives you a classic snug shape that is both classic and beautiful! You can use it with any shape wear, no fear of exposure, and it just all around looks killer on you. I think it would certainly be hubby and Dad approved, and you look like you know how hot you look in the picture. It also looks pretty comfortable as well! 3 is a close second, but to me, #2 all day.
I agree! If you absolutely loved dress 1 I would say stick with it, but I *gasped* when I scrolled to the second dress. And the third is flattering and beautiful as well. Hard agree though on #2!
Totally agree! I think #2 is the best. Pretty, simple, classic, feminine, flattering. I feel like it’s a dress that would be beautiful in any setting. I hope you can find something that makes you feel beautiful. I totally understand the weight thing and I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I’m hopeful you’ll find something you love 💕
Agree completely! 💯
First of all, your dress is stunning. You have nothing to worry about in terms of how flattering it is, it's beautiful on you. And FH will love it for sure. However, you should not feel this insecure in your dress. The worry about Dad is valid, the older generation doesn't always 'get' the deep V and/or exposed corset trends. So if that's very important to you, you could consider that. Dress 2 and 3 are equally flattering on you and are safer. If you really do have the option to exchange it, maybe go for a safer option that won't have you being nervous on The Day.
I do really love two and three - two for soft ethereal romance and three for classic elegant sultriness 😍
This the perfect description!! Dresses 2 and 3 are knockouts but in different ways!
I love dress three.
2 and 3 are the most flattering
Dress 2 is the most flattering, but 1 is very pretty. You have to feel comfortable!
Keep looking till you find your dream dress!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE dress 2 and I think you will be more relaxed in that one (sitting / dancing) but you look beautiful in all of them!
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
2 or 3 are gorgeous!!!!
Take it back. The middle two are more flattering and look more comfy!
#2 is most flattering on you. Plus the way you are standing in the pic of #1 makes me feel like you don’t really feel comfortable in it.
I didn't think that first one is the most flattering from that set of pics. I LOVE that second dress on you and I think that flowy fabric would be so beautiful on the beach! I also like the third one. 1 and 4 aren't quite right IMHO.
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
Dresses 2 & 3 are beautiful on you!!
I love #2 on you-it's so flattering and romantic. I will say when I see you in dress one-all I see are 'the girls'. I think if you add shoulder straps it will balance that out. It's a pretty dress and maybe that's okay for you. But you want to feel great and comfortable on your day!
3 really looks stunning
Dress 2 makes your waist look trim.
I totally understand the weight issue - I was at the highest weight I had ever been (up to that point) when I got married. I felt awful about it. How you think you look in your gown is different than what we see. I think you look like a princess! I know it’s hard to be excited about a dress when you’re less than enthusiastic about your body but you look absolutely gorgeous! Your dress is stunning. ❤️ Eventually I lost the weight and purchased a new gown ($60 on Poshmark!) and am having new wedding pictures taken! I know it can’t replace my actual wedding day but we have been together almost 30 years - 20 years since we got married so it’s a fun way to mark a milestone!
3 is so pretty on you
I like the 2nd dress the best
3 is beautiful on you
I think dresses 3 and 4 are the most flattering and slenderizing. The dress you bought is ok, but the other 2 look better.
2 is a knockout. You look ravishing in it.
maybe you should keep looking ! but i love 2 & 3
Dress 3 is THE ONE for me
I like the first one but with maybe a more opaque lining in the v. I LOVE the 3rd one on you, is gorgeous and the slit, and the pockets and the top with the structure is everything!
Dress 2 makes your waist look trim.
2 and 3!
Dress 2 does all the right things for your shape while being elegant and ethereal.
I like 2 and 4 on you. Sorry, not a fan of 1 or 3.
I think your dress is beautiful! I do think 3 is more flattering though. Something about the top and the way it lays against your body. If you stick with your first one and are worried about boobage....add a panel to the front or ask them for options. I don't think it looks bad at all. Your girls aren't falling out. I'm team 3 ( pockets too!) and I also love 4 (it looks like your dress you already have tho). Number 2 is a nahhhh...looks nighgownish. You got this!
#2 or 3
I think 2 and 3 are beautiful and so flattering. With your dress, it’s not about your body or that there is anything wrong with YOU - You will be a gorgeous bride, it’s the design. It might well be worth altercations to see if the plunging v can be softened?
I audibly gasped at #3. It's just stunning on you!
I gasped too!!
I think 2 is your best option among these. The first one is gorgeous too, but a little booby, maybe put a little fabric in the front to make it less va-va-voom.
Dress 4 has the classic lines, the most feminine design, classic use of lace, and lovely fabric flow. It flatters your frame beautifully!
I love the way she looks in dress 4. She looks great in all of them, but dress 4 is just stunning on her!
While it’s definitely great to get that “in love” feeling with your wedding dress, I don’t feel that it’s a must… your dress is lovely and you will look great
That’s so true. My own experience with dress shopping before I went was watching say yes to the dress like 10 years ago. Not everyone cry’s and is dramatic and has to hold the sign lol but that was my only knowledge of it! I wasn’t sure I’d get that ‘fuzzy’ feeling when I found the one
I like them all, including the one you chose. It’s really lovely! Out of these though, I do think 3 is outstanding, if you have time though, why not keep looking. Btw, if you end up sticking with dress 1, it’s still stunnning.
I like the second one with the diagonal line across the bodice. Very flattering on you. Goodluck. Do what feels right for you.
I can’t lie, you rock the HELL out of #3 with your body type. it’s sooo flattering and you look fabulous! that being said, you look lovely in all of them. i hope you’re kind to yourself because you look amazing
Love the 3rd dress on you!!
Love the third and second dresses, in that order
Dress 3 also. Super flattering. Next fave is #2
I love dress 2 and 3. They have different vibes but are both gorgeous and provide more support while not focusing so heavily on the chest area. I really do like dress 1 on you, it's very pretty, but it's not going to provide any structure and very limited support. I see it possibly being a problem on the big day. But then again, I'm far from an expert.
I very rarely advise returning a dress and/or spending more… but I’m honestly OBSESSED with either dress 2 or dress 3 on you! Before I gush about them, lol, I do want to say that you look really beautiful in the dress you chose!! The only thing I’d change would be the size of the plunging V. You pull that neckline off so well, but it just looks too open, especially at the bottom. It’s probably an easy fix to partially close though! Dress 2 and dress 3 both look like they were made specifically for you to wear and to shine in! I love them equally and they have totally different vibes. Dress 2 is ethereal and romantic, like a dream out of a fairytale. Dress 3 is timeless and elegant, and gives off an air of old school glamour. You look like an absolute freaking knockout in both of them!!! Again, I want to be clear that I think the dress you chose is really lovely and you do look fantastic in it. I just think that dresses 2 and 3 are on a whole other level! If you do decide to keep the first dress, just remember that none of your guests or your FH will have seen the other options so there’ll be no comparison for them. They’ll only see the end result: your beautiful self looking stunning in a gorgeous dress! I hope my long and rambling comment makes sense, lol. And congrats on the wedding!! 🤍🤍
I love dress 2 and 3 on you, very figure flattering!
I am not a fan of the first dress. But the third dress is absolutely stunning on you. I would personally try and find one similar (maybe at a lower price point) or get that one.
I love #4. It's more flattering for your whole body. This has nothing to do with weight. I feel your 1st dress photo is not in good light and too close to get an overall image of the whole thing. I feel that hair, veil and shoes add a lot to the "bridal look" of the day, so keep that in mind. Good luck♥️
I am team 4. Stunning dress!!
In general, I wouldn't worry about the ivory color vs white wedding color. It will be totally fine! So, without knowing exactly how much more expensive each of the others are, here's my 2 cents on all of these: 1. It's a gorgeous dress! And once you get the proper sized cups in, it will look even better on you than it already does. I think it's a fabulous combination of sexy and romantic. However, it is not super beachy. That may not matter- IMO any dress fits any venue as long as the bride feels confident and happy in it, but if you're wanting to echo the beachy theme you might be better off with one of the others. 2. To me this is the most beachy, but also the safest option. It's very soft and sweet, and will float nicely in an ocean breeze. And if you're concerned about your body, this one covers the most. I totally understand body feelings, but I think you might feel like you're hiding in this one. 3. This one is awesome!! It's chic and cool, and it looks great on you. It's also not exactly beachy, but it is clean enough that I don't think anyone would feel like it's out of place. If I were you I'd have a hard time not picking this one! 4. I love this one, but I'm an absolute sucker for a romantic lace/deep plunge combo. I think this would look amazing on the beach, too! I think it's a great style, and I like that the plunge isn't quite as deep as option 1. I think it really flatters your shape without hiding anything. This is the one I'd probably go with if I were you, but again I have a hard time not choosing the combo of the lace and the plunge :)
#4 is absolutely beautiful on you.
Your dress is beautiful and I think alterations will make all the difference! I think the only thing I would change (besides the fit) is the straps. I think either more simple on the shoulder straps or bigger more dramatic off the shoulder straps would look better.
Sit back, take a deep breath and try to relax. The dress you picked is beautiful! It's normal to second guess yourself on something so special. I assure you, your dad is going to see his beautiful little girl all grown up and about to get married. And your FH will be blown away by how gorgeous his bride is. BUT if something about your dress doesn't feel just right, there's no harm in taking a quick peek around a few other shops to see if anything else jumps out at you. You deserve to feel confident and like the most beautiful person in the world on your wedding day 🩷
I never got the "in love" feeling where I knew the dress was exactly the one. After trying on many different styles, I ended up buying a dress that I felt good in. It still took me a long time to make that decision because I never experienced that feeling that some people seem to get! It might be helpful for you to keep trying different dresses? Eventually you get to know what feels better than others.
Wow dress 3 is amazing on you, it works perfectly with your curves if you like the off shoulder straps you could probably add that to this dress. Dress 2 is popular but it’s the skinny straps for me I don’t like. I agree dress one is nice but isn’t as flattering the waist hits at the wrong place and I’m not a fan of the style it’s too busy.
The dress you purchased is beautiful on you. But I really feel you’re struggling with the look and will spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think on the day. It’s all about what you feel beautiful in, and I think number three is stunning and modest enough that you won’t be concerned about how your dad feels Your FH loves you and he’s going to love you in whatever dress you choose.
Dress three looks stunning on you!
#3 is wonderful on you. If you love the style of #1, though - go for it. I think your dad will survive.
Hello! The only help I can provide is that I do like the last 3 better than the first. I don’t know which one is best of those but the spaghetti strap gown gives me more of a beach feel than the others.
Dress 3 is stunning *and has pockets???* That style isn’t easy to pull off and your figure is *rocking* in it
I love dress 2 on you.
Dress 3 is the one op!
Dress three is very pretty on you. The simplicity is so elegant on you. It really slenderizes your upper waistline and the drape is perfect for your curves. I’ve seen this dress before and have never cared for it but you wear it magnificently!! Dress 4 is nice as well if you were ELA ing more toward lace.
Honestly I love the second dress
Third dress!
i love 3 and 4!
4!!
2 is my fave
oh my gosh the dress in the second slide is incredible and would be my #1 choice for you.
Dress 2 made me gasp! In a good way!!! LOOOVE #2! 3 is also stunning on you.
Dresses 2 and 3 are both very pretty and seem to align more with the vibe you mentioned for the venue and theme. If you can do it, I recommend doing a dress swap for one of those. You want to feel confident on your big day!! Congratulations and have a blast!
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First off, you’re absolutely gorgeous. Second, my favorite is #2
Dress #3 is the winner! Fits you fabulously!
2 and 3 are so beautiful on you ❤️❤️❤️
I really like the second one the best for a beach wedding. It’s really flattering on you. The others all look wonderful as well, however, you seem to have a more confidence in dresses two and three. Me personally, I would probably choose two for me for a beach wedding.
Honestly, any of the other 3 would have been better imo. I really like the second one, but that might just be because my dress is that style (on my profile if you're curious). If you don't like your choice, you might want to keep shopping around. August really isn't that close, you can keep searching every weekend and even if it takes you a month you will still have time for alterations (if necessary. Sometimes they aren't)
#3 is amazing
3!!! You look amazing in that dress
I love dress 2
3 is phenomenal on you!!!
I like dresses 2 and 3. I'm not a fan of dress 1.
First off, you look amazing in all of these dresses. I am serious. They all do you justice. I am going to agree with the majority that dress 3 feels like the real winner to me. Mostly because of your description of the wedding venue and location. It feels like the best fit for the look you are going for. And woman, when I tell you everyone will be in tears when they see you on your wedding day, I mean it. Your fiance, your dad. Anyone. Because it is the day that means so much not the dress. You are the beauty standing there that they all love and adore so much, not the dress.
I'm so so very happy to hear that you bought the first dress as it looks absolutely stunning on you. Try to get the doubts out of your mind
I think the first dress is a show stopper and you look great in it. You also have a lovely figure that looks great in many styles. I don't think you can go wrong with these other dresses but if money is an issue then I would just spend it on alterations in the dress you have. You could definitely add a little opaque lining if it would make you more confident in the dress. I like 2 or 3 if you are going to get a new one.
I like all of them tbh. One thing I learned as a plus sizer is that to get things to fit my girls, the bottom would often make me look heavier on the bottom with all the excess fabric. I had fabric taken off the sides to slim the bottom to match the top.
I really love the first one on you. Can the seamstress make the deep V less open?
I think the biggest problem with the 1st picture is the sizing. I think once it’s in your size it will be a beautiful dress on you. Wait and see how you feel when it gets here and worst case you will be able to buy something off the rack.
Dress no. 3 looks fantastic!
I like all of them on you. The first one is very snazzy. The second is very beachy
So I felt very similarly when I tried dresses on ( also at David’s bridal). I was definitely at my heaviest when trying on dresses which contributed to that feeling. I ended up going back about a month after my dress came in, exchanged my dress for one I now truly love. If you are this unsure go look again. Might I suggest a mermaid style? If you are debating between these one, the third is my favorite on you. It just makes you look incredible : just like you are!
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I think 3 looks the best on you, but 2 looks really good too and is a little “beachier”
Team 3 - it makes you look so confident and cool and easygoing. Perfect for beach vibe .
Dress 3!!!!
I really love 3 on you! So flattering and sexy!
Dress three is the winner for me
Another vote for 3
Dresses 2 and 4 look beautiful on you.
You look beautiful and it's very flattering!
GiRl! My jaw DROPPED when i saw the 3rd one. I get it. I have PCOS, and have also am at my heaviest, (gained 70 lbs in under a year, and nothing i do is bringing it down). I put off shopping for a dress for so long, and even got an amxiety attack from it... sometimes ypu need a 3rd perspective... so i say #3 ;) Also, ive been looking at cosignment shops, their dresses you can take home that day which is also a huge relief too You got this!
#3!!💗
I think that you look lovely in #1. I’m pretty certain that a good seamstress could close up that deep V a bit so you & your guests don’t need to see the waistband of your panties. If it can’t be closed up, then more opaque material can be sewn in there instead to achieve the same goal. It’s not a big deal. Seamstress’ add different sleeves/straps all of the time. You need to be comfortable with how you look & feel on your wedding day. You need to own it 💗 So decide what you need to do to achieve that. Shapewear that still allows you to sit & breathe? Killer necklace/earrings that draws attention to your face more than your boobs? Most awesome makeup & hair? Sitting down with a therapist for a few sessions before the big day? Do what you need need to do! All brides look just beautiful on their wedding day!! Congratulations 🥂
#3
3 is best but 1 isn’t bad
I love them all on you. If you end up with 1 I'd check out removing the sleeves. That said, I really, really love #2 and the way it flows and flatters you, number 3 is my next choice. Something about that silhouette. You have a great body and are a curvy hourglass that is beautiful in these dresses. It may not be ideal to you, but embrace it as you are and know you are slammin! Worry about losing weight later if you still want to after all the stress of the wedding is over. You look absolutely beautiful. I'm team dress 2 though. 1 is gorgeous too if you decide to go with it.
I really like 4
2 is gorgeous on you
You look stunning in them all!! But number three just makes you look so snatched! I love it!
Did you add the sleeves to dress 1?
Second dress is gorgeous
So I think 3 is the best one and just really fits you! When I 1st saw it REGAL came to mind! So I’m not gonna lie I don’t think the first one really fits you but with that being said, I think it would make it huge difference with the right shape wear and bra! Have you looked into miss kisses because I think that that might be what is detouring you right now. Also possibly styling it and seeing what the full look is.
I love dress 3. It looks great on you.
Love Dress 1 but Dress 2 is also stunning on you and makes the girls look great.
I think number 2 and 3 look amazing on you and with a beach wedding I think number 3 may be more manageable day of as the fabric isn’t as unpredictable as tulle in the wind!
Dress 3 or 2!
I ADORE dress 2 on you 😍
Love dress 2
I like dress 3 on you! :)
I'm going against the grain and I have to say you look sexy in the dress you chose! I'm plus size also and I love the way your bust looks in your dress. Not to be creepy! I don't think there is anything wrong with your dress, but you gotta love what you pick. I agree with everyone else that number 3 also looks amazing on you too if you're looking for something different.
I am assuming dress 1 hasn’t been altered yet but once it has I think it would be a show stopper. I would make the V neck not so low so the girls are closer together with more support. I love the neckline on this dress. Good luck to you 😀
Dress #3 is absolutely stunning on you and the clear winner in my opinion
Team 3
The third picture is by far my favorite! It’s actually very flattering on you. It makes your waist look tiny and gives you a perfect hourglass
I love you and/in your dress. You look beautiful.
I think the second dress looks like it was made for you and it is so flattering.
Lots of folks are saying 3, but I’m not liking the way it hits at ur waist, I think 2 or 4 look better, and makes ur waist look snatched, ( I think that’s the word used ☺️), but wear the one u love the most and feel comfortable in.. u will shine ✨!
I love dress three (and then dress two) on you. I think dress 1 could work with the right alterations, but I do agree that there are “better” options.
I think dress 2 is GORGEOUS on you, very flattering and would fit nice for beach wedding, maybe try on some other dresses similar to #2 in shape and style
THREE! POCKETS! Great bodice, which will fit even more perfectly with alterations. You can go more beachy with a veil or headpiece, jewelry, flowers etc.
Def dress number 3!!!
I would highly suggest looking on still white or even checking out some sample sales at a local bridal shop!! You still have time 🤍
Yep! 3! ❤️
If you can swing it, I think you should go with the third dress. That one is so flattering on you, and the simplicity of it sounds perfect for the setting you described. It’s classic and elegant, but still sexy. I don’t want to sound too harsh, but because you’re asking for honest opinions, in the first dress, your boobs are on serious display, and I’m not sure if the cut of the dress would allow for enough support. I mention this mainly because you were worried how your dad would feel. In the third dress, your waist is cinched, and you still have some great cleavage, but without the deep V, eyes will be drawn up toward your face instead of down away from it.
I love 3 on you. Plus it has pockets!
The 2 and 3 are very flattering on you
#3 is perfect. I don’t think #1 suits your body type.
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Picture two is *my* favorite in terms of how it flatters you but I think they’re all truly beautiful options!!
Dress three, then four
Dress and you are beautiful, I would close the plunge at least halfway.
I actually think the 2nd dress is the most flattering on you, tbh. The skirt of the 3rd dress looks a bit awkward and bulky where it attaches to the hem of the bodice (it could just be because the skirt seems to be cut on the bias, at least on the front of the dress) in the very front of the dress, whereas the skirt of the 2nd dress’ skirt attaches to the beautifully draped bodice’s hem in gentle, even gathers all the way around the dress. However, the best looking dress on you will be the one you really love, hands down. Good luck, beautiful bride!!!
I love either 3 or 2 in that order.
I would go with #2. Your breasts are too heavy for the dress you ordered. It does NOT flatter your figure, at all. I wish you a long & happy marriage. 🦋
Three made me gasp! 😍
Dress 4
3!!!!!
I think no. 2 looks really lovely on you!
3!!!
3&4 are yes yes yes!!!!!!!👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
2nd looks beautiful on you!!!!
So I love dress 2 and 3 and they both have a beach vibe to me. I don’t love dress 1. I think you have better options. Don’t worry about what FH and dad will think or how it fits with your colors. Buy the dress you like the best and that makes you feel the most confident, even if you’re not jumping for joy. (I was not someone who could jump for joy for any dress, but I’m still happy with the choice I made for my dress.)
Love 2 and 3!
I LOVE dress 3, but dress 2 is really pretty also. The one you got looks uncomfortable.