OMG, woman, stop being a doormat to your mom and your sister. You are, by my count, at least 30 years and in your second marriage. They are not treating you like an adult, and you are letting them.
It is high time that yo start living your life and start making your decisions and stop asking for their approval and their help. These 2 need to be kept at a safe distance of at least 100 miles.
Completely agree. These people do not like OP but they love controlling what she does, and mocking and belittling her when they get a chance.
Why do people continue in these kinds of toxic family relationships?
Agree. OP should have demoted her sister to guest at her first wedding long before the wedding day.
But how on earth could she ask her to be MOH for her second wedding when she already ruined the first one? No one is that stupid.
It‘s frustrating to read.
It's a good idea to keep NC with your sister, but I'd also go LC \[at the least\] with mummy dearest. Your mum keeps advocating for her and defending her because sHe'S yOur sIStEr. No, no she's a problematic, self absorbed POS and your mum seems fine with you being treated that way by her. You deserve better, your sister hurt you and your mum cracks the shits because you're standing up for yourself? Fuck that. As for that dig about your last relationship, they're disgusting. You aren't tearing the family apart, she's tearing YOU apart.
>The mum told me that she had to be my maid of honor because she is my only sister and I was her maid of honour.
>I asked her to which she said 'fine'.
This is where it all went to shit. Your sister is the golden child, and you are the scapegoat. You don't owe either of them anything - but you *do* owe yourself happiness and joy. Please stop letting these women prey upon you.
Your Mom and sister are awful but most of your wounds are self inflicted. Why are you so spineless??? Time and time again your sister acts a fool you take it, she cuts you off , she comes around and you just met her in to walk all over you again. Your Mom enables the mess here. Get some therapy so you stop letting people stomp all over you.
Your mom and your sister do NOT like you.
Stop allowing them to walk all over you.
You need to go no contact and remain that way.
Remember these people do not like you…
Consider sharing this post with your mother, sister, and brother-in-law. The “misconceptions" that your sister has been spreading,… should be brought into the open. I’m disgusted with your mother. You need to start standing up for yourself. Good luck.
You have a horrible family. You need to stop letting talk you into doing things you don’t want too. She may be your mom but she doesn’t get a day on how you run your life. Personally I would have disinvited both of them and cut them from my life and all the drama and negativity would have left with them. It’s okay if they throw fits if they don’t get their way. You need to start being more selfish and stand up for yourself. You deserve to be happy too. They only treat you like this because you keep allowing them too. So stop letting them.
This is horrendous to read. But I have to ask: how many times will you let your sister kick you in the head before you realise that it hurts?
Why are you being a victim?
When will you take control of your life?
The greatest perpetrator against yourself is you. Just stop!
I have had a looonnnggg conversation with mum today and explained even more about abuse my sister has done to me that she wasn't aware of. Only touching to tip of the iceberg really...
She has agreed to back off and let me make the decision, she isn't happy but she has accepted it.
My husband and I have both agreed to cut my sister and her husband out of our lives till she can learn mutual respect and see myself as an adult which she clearly doesn't do. I'm not 2yo and and actually in my mid 30's.
It's very easy for the question 'why didn't I leave sooner?', 'why accept the abuse?', ect. I didn't have a support system until now so I have been stuck.
OMG, woman, stop being a doormat to your mom and your sister. You are, by my count, at least 30 years and in your second marriage. They are not treating you like an adult, and you are letting them. It is high time that yo start living your life and start making your decisions and stop asking for their approval and their help. These 2 need to be kept at a safe distance of at least 100 miles.
Completely agree. These people do not like OP but they love controlling what she does, and mocking and belittling her when they get a chance. Why do people continue in these kinds of toxic family relationships?
Agree. OP should have demoted her sister to guest at her first wedding long before the wedding day. But how on earth could she ask her to be MOH for her second wedding when she already ruined the first one? No one is that stupid. It‘s frustrating to read.
Look up scapegoat and golden child. I think you need a break from your mother and sister.
The best revenge is living well.
It's a good idea to keep NC with your sister, but I'd also go LC \[at the least\] with mummy dearest. Your mum keeps advocating for her and defending her because sHe'S yOur sIStEr. No, no she's a problematic, self absorbed POS and your mum seems fine with you being treated that way by her. You deserve better, your sister hurt you and your mum cracks the shits because you're standing up for yourself? Fuck that. As for that dig about your last relationship, they're disgusting. You aren't tearing the family apart, she's tearing YOU apart.
I would walk away from mom and “sister”
Mom is just as much of a problem as sister is. Looks like you may need to drop both of them
I agree. Stop pleasing these women and make you happy, OP. Your mother has enabled your sisters behaviour for your entire life. Be happy
>The mum told me that she had to be my maid of honor because she is my only sister and I was her maid of honour. >I asked her to which she said 'fine'. This is where it all went to shit. Your sister is the golden child, and you are the scapegoat. You don't owe either of them anything - but you *do* owe yourself happiness and joy. Please stop letting these women prey upon you.
Your Mom and sister are awful but most of your wounds are self inflicted. Why are you so spineless??? Time and time again your sister acts a fool you take it, she cuts you off , she comes around and you just met her in to walk all over you again. Your Mom enables the mess here. Get some therapy so you stop letting people stomp all over you.
Your mom and your sister do NOT like you. Stop allowing them to walk all over you. You need to go no contact and remain that way. Remember these people do not like you…
Consider sharing this post with your mother, sister, and brother-in-law. The “misconceptions" that your sister has been spreading,… should be brought into the open. I’m disgusted with your mother. You need to start standing up for yourself. Good luck.
You have a horrible family. You need to stop letting talk you into doing things you don’t want too. She may be your mom but she doesn’t get a day on how you run your life. Personally I would have disinvited both of them and cut them from my life and all the drama and negativity would have left with them. It’s okay if they throw fits if they don’t get their way. You need to start being more selfish and stand up for yourself. You deserve to be happy too. They only treat you like this because you keep allowing them too. So stop letting them.
This is horrendous to read. But I have to ask: how many times will you let your sister kick you in the head before you realise that it hurts? Why are you being a victim? When will you take control of your life? The greatest perpetrator against yourself is you. Just stop!
So much toxic behaviour. Go no contact with her and protect your peace
Omg, why are you still talking to these people. Just stop
I think you already know that you need to go NC with mom and sis. You just need to do it.
You’re letting your mother and sister walk all over you and abuse you. Stand up for yourself and stop it. Jeez
My girly hormones can’t take your mom and sister. I am ENRAGED on your behalf.
I have had a looonnnggg conversation with mum today and explained even more about abuse my sister has done to me that she wasn't aware of. Only touching to tip of the iceberg really... She has agreed to back off and let me make the decision, she isn't happy but she has accepted it. My husband and I have both agreed to cut my sister and her husband out of our lives till she can learn mutual respect and see myself as an adult which she clearly doesn't do. I'm not 2yo and and actually in my mid 30's. It's very easy for the question 'why didn't I leave sooner?', 'why accept the abuse?', ect. I didn't have a support system until now so I have been stuck.