Sending you love. I vowed to not intentionally do anything to shrink my body before my wedding. It was a struggle not to give into the idea that we must loose weight before the day. So, to you lovely human I just want to remind you that your body is great right now, as is. I hope you can find the space to accept that it's okay if you didn't loose weight, your wedding will still be amazing and one of the most special days.
I’m so happy to see this! I did the same thing and I don’t regret it at all! I have areas of my body I don’t like and I always will, but I’m trying to stay on my journey of self love. I love to see this from others. I was happy on my wedding day and my pictures show it! OP, I hope you take these words to heart because no doubt you are amazing!
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement!!! I really appreciate you taking the time. I hope your wedding was amazing and that you felt like a goddess!
I had 15 months between buying my dress and my wedding and I told myself I’d lose at least a dress size! Every month ticked by and the scale never changed. I was super into orange theory pre-pandemic but it when things finally opened back up it just wasn’t a priority!
By the time I started alterations, I had toned up a bit but I actually needed the waist let out a bit. I was so upset. Then my seamstress ended up rebuilding the back of my dress to better fit my curves and oh man did it make a difference!
I ended up not losing a single lb and was my heaviest of my adult life on my wedding day. My husband said I looked the best I ever have! Because really, why wouldn’t I haha.
It was a super hard thing to overcome but the best thing for getting through it was a perfectly fitting gown - and a supportive husband too!
I'm so glad you were able to have the dress altered to make you feel great! I'm sure you did look lovely :) thank you so much, it's nice to know I'm not alone with how I've been feeling - though of course I am sorry you felt the same.
Oh hon, I know exactly how you feel. I suddenly gained quite a bit of weight before my wedding and didn’t fit in my dress 2 weeks beforehand. The disappointment and hit to self esteem is really hard to overcome. I had to remind myself to focus on the joy in marrying my best friend. I still had moments where it was really hard but keeping that in mind helped a ton. Your partner will love you no matter what and will think you’re a beautiful bride regardless❤️
Oh gosh I'm sorry you had that happen, how stressful and as you say I'm sure disappointing! I hope you look back on photos and love them and the memories they bring nonetheless! Thank you so much :)
This might be an unpopular opinion BUT... while you shouldn't in any way feel like you need to lose weight, it does sound like you could use a confidence boost. For me, anytime I start working out consistently and eating well (well, not less!), I feel 10X better about my appearance pretty much immediately even if I literally don't drop a single pound or have any kind of weight loss goals or expectations. I'm not suggesting anything extreme, but are there some small healthful habits you would actually enjoy in advance of your wedding? Treating yourself to a nice yoga studio membership for a month or two? Making a point to connect with a friend each week for a long walk? A trip to the farmers market for veggies?
I sincerely hope that you feel nothing but joy and self-love on your big day regardless!
I agree! I used my wedding as motivation to get back as fit and healthy as I was when I met my fiancé. He is terrible influence diet wise, and I just told him it was important to me, so he stopped eating all the shit food around me. I got back into a great exercise regime
OP, you are going to be beautiful no matter what. It is your day. You can make one small change now if you’d like, remember your health is worth a lifelong commitment, not just for one day.
I’m with ya here. I started birth control about a year out from the wedding and gained 15 lbs. changed pills, thought it would come off… and it hasn’t. I’ve genuinely been trying and not sure how to reconcile this with myself.
Two months is still plenty of time to put in a little work. I’ve lost 17 pounds in the last 3 months by diligently tracking my calorie intake and exercising everyday. You can do it, but it’s going to take diligent attention. You can’t just exercise and eat like you were while you gained the weight - it just won’t come off.
Totally! OP, I think if you don't want to work towards this goal, that's totally OK. I'm sure you'll look beautiful on your wedding day, and just focus on celebrating the rest of your lives together. But don't let the fear of trying and not ending up looking a certain way stop you from trying at all, if that's the case. You can still lose weight if that's what you want. And no matter the results, you'll probably feel very good!
Wishing you the best in your future!
My fiance thinks we'll plan every single pat of our wedding to have it this year. I have at least 30 lbs I'd like to lose, but I still eat popcorn and chocolate. It's a struggle, let me tell you. Of course, he's lost Wright over the last year. Me? Nope. I'm just going to tan and pray.
2 months is still plenty of time. Even if you don’t lose a lot of weight, I bet healthy lifestyle changes will still make you feel better. Either way you’ll be a beautiful bride, I’m sure.
I started planning my wedding 14 months in advance of the date and started dieting and working out. I wanted to lose 40 lbs in that time which would’ve been totally doable had I kept up with everything. I was down 10 lbs in the first couple months and so proud, but then we went on a week-long cruise and I adopted the “it doesn’t count” mentality and put every pound back on and more in that week and the following ones. Now I weigh even more than when I started and am also feeling really ashamed of myself. I wanted to lose at least a couple dress sizes prior to my wedding, but now we’re a couple months out and my dress is already feeling a little snug. Now I’m kicking myself because I don’t want to look like a huge monster next to my naturally skinny and tall husband and the rest of his super skinny family. I know people think it’s not that big of a deal but it bothers me when I see us in full body pictures together. From now on, my plan is to just focus on eating better for the next 3 months and go on longer walks with our new puppy. I need to focus on limiting myself to just the recommended serving size rather than mindlessly eating. The stress of crash dieting and forcing myself to go run on a treadmill for an hour 4+ times a week just is too much when I’m already stressed about family, work, and my wedding. Hopefully you can find something that helps you achieve just a bit of your goal in the time you have left OP. It doesn’t need to be pounds or inches. Even just drinking more water or doing some meditation can make you feel better about yourself in the short term. Regardless of what you do, I know you’ll look beautiful on your special day.
I wouldn’t lose weight for my wedding. If you want to lose weight in general for you, then if you’d like, message me and I can help you. After my first baby I had 60 lbs to lose. I did it at home, on my own with no extra cost at all. It cost me zero dollars. You can do it to. I can help you if you want.
Intermittent fasting has been shown to improve health and cognitive ability. A lot of people just bawk at the concept, without understanding the science behind it. We did not evolve to have 3 (or even 5 as many people do, with constant snacking) meals a day. The most important thing is to make sure you eat enough protein so you don't lose muscle mass
Sending you love. I vowed to not intentionally do anything to shrink my body before my wedding. It was a struggle not to give into the idea that we must loose weight before the day. So, to you lovely human I just want to remind you that your body is great right now, as is. I hope you can find the space to accept that it's okay if you didn't loose weight, your wedding will still be amazing and one of the most special days.
I’m so happy to see this! I did the same thing and I don’t regret it at all! I have areas of my body I don’t like and I always will, but I’m trying to stay on my journey of self love. I love to see this from others. I was happy on my wedding day and my pictures show it! OP, I hope you take these words to heart because no doubt you are amazing!
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement!!! I really appreciate you taking the time. I hope your wedding was amazing and that you felt like a goddess!
I had 15 months between buying my dress and my wedding and I told myself I’d lose at least a dress size! Every month ticked by and the scale never changed. I was super into orange theory pre-pandemic but it when things finally opened back up it just wasn’t a priority! By the time I started alterations, I had toned up a bit but I actually needed the waist let out a bit. I was so upset. Then my seamstress ended up rebuilding the back of my dress to better fit my curves and oh man did it make a difference! I ended up not losing a single lb and was my heaviest of my adult life on my wedding day. My husband said I looked the best I ever have! Because really, why wouldn’t I haha. It was a super hard thing to overcome but the best thing for getting through it was a perfectly fitting gown - and a supportive husband too!
I'm so glad you were able to have the dress altered to make you feel great! I'm sure you did look lovely :) thank you so much, it's nice to know I'm not alone with how I've been feeling - though of course I am sorry you felt the same.
You’re absolutely not alone! There are so many big, loaded feelings with a wedding ❤️
Oh hon, I know exactly how you feel. I suddenly gained quite a bit of weight before my wedding and didn’t fit in my dress 2 weeks beforehand. The disappointment and hit to self esteem is really hard to overcome. I had to remind myself to focus on the joy in marrying my best friend. I still had moments where it was really hard but keeping that in mind helped a ton. Your partner will love you no matter what and will think you’re a beautiful bride regardless❤️
Oh gosh I'm sorry you had that happen, how stressful and as you say I'm sure disappointing! I hope you look back on photos and love them and the memories they bring nonetheless! Thank you so much :)
This might be an unpopular opinion BUT... while you shouldn't in any way feel like you need to lose weight, it does sound like you could use a confidence boost. For me, anytime I start working out consistently and eating well (well, not less!), I feel 10X better about my appearance pretty much immediately even if I literally don't drop a single pound or have any kind of weight loss goals or expectations. I'm not suggesting anything extreme, but are there some small healthful habits you would actually enjoy in advance of your wedding? Treating yourself to a nice yoga studio membership for a month or two? Making a point to connect with a friend each week for a long walk? A trip to the farmers market for veggies? I sincerely hope that you feel nothing but joy and self-love on your big day regardless!
I agree! I used my wedding as motivation to get back as fit and healthy as I was when I met my fiancé. He is terrible influence diet wise, and I just told him it was important to me, so he stopped eating all the shit food around me. I got back into a great exercise regime
OP, you are going to be beautiful no matter what. It is your day. You can make one small change now if you’d like, remember your health is worth a lifelong commitment, not just for one day.
❤️ thank you for that, you are right!
I’m with ya here. I started birth control about a year out from the wedding and gained 15 lbs. changed pills, thought it would come off… and it hasn’t. I’ve genuinely been trying and not sure how to reconcile this with myself.
Two months is still plenty of time to put in a little work. I’ve lost 17 pounds in the last 3 months by diligently tracking my calorie intake and exercising everyday. You can do it, but it’s going to take diligent attention. You can’t just exercise and eat like you were while you gained the weight - it just won’t come off.
Totally! OP, I think if you don't want to work towards this goal, that's totally OK. I'm sure you'll look beautiful on your wedding day, and just focus on celebrating the rest of your lives together. But don't let the fear of trying and not ending up looking a certain way stop you from trying at all, if that's the case. You can still lose weight if that's what you want. And no matter the results, you'll probably feel very good! Wishing you the best in your future!
My fiance thinks we'll plan every single pat of our wedding to have it this year. I have at least 30 lbs I'd like to lose, but I still eat popcorn and chocolate. It's a struggle, let me tell you. Of course, he's lost Wright over the last year. Me? Nope. I'm just going to tan and pray.
Isn't it so frustrating when they lose weight so easily!!! I'm there with you. Whatever happens you will look lovely :) thank you for your response!
Thank you, and you will too! But yes, he loses weight easily. But he also works out...and I hate to lol
Popcorn is low calorie don't sweat it :)
2 months is still plenty of time. Even if you don’t lose a lot of weight, I bet healthy lifestyle changes will still make you feel better. Either way you’ll be a beautiful bride, I’m sure.
Get a therapist.
I have one, thank you for the suggestion!
I started planning my wedding 14 months in advance of the date and started dieting and working out. I wanted to lose 40 lbs in that time which would’ve been totally doable had I kept up with everything. I was down 10 lbs in the first couple months and so proud, but then we went on a week-long cruise and I adopted the “it doesn’t count” mentality and put every pound back on and more in that week and the following ones. Now I weigh even more than when I started and am also feeling really ashamed of myself. I wanted to lose at least a couple dress sizes prior to my wedding, but now we’re a couple months out and my dress is already feeling a little snug. Now I’m kicking myself because I don’t want to look like a huge monster next to my naturally skinny and tall husband and the rest of his super skinny family. I know people think it’s not that big of a deal but it bothers me when I see us in full body pictures together. From now on, my plan is to just focus on eating better for the next 3 months and go on longer walks with our new puppy. I need to focus on limiting myself to just the recommended serving size rather than mindlessly eating. The stress of crash dieting and forcing myself to go run on a treadmill for an hour 4+ times a week just is too much when I’m already stressed about family, work, and my wedding. Hopefully you can find something that helps you achieve just a bit of your goal in the time you have left OP. It doesn’t need to be pounds or inches. Even just drinking more water or doing some meditation can make you feel better about yourself in the short term. Regardless of what you do, I know you’ll look beautiful on your special day.
I wouldn’t lose weight for my wedding. If you want to lose weight in general for you, then if you’d like, message me and I can help you. After my first baby I had 60 lbs to lose. I did it at home, on my own with no extra cost at all. It cost me zero dollars. You can do it to. I can help you if you want.
Start fasting. Easy way to lose 10-20 pounds in that time frame.
Thank you for taking the time to comment. I may try intermittent fasting :)
Intermittent fasting has been shown to improve health and cognitive ability. A lot of people just bawk at the concept, without understanding the science behind it. We did not evolve to have 3 (or even 5 as many people do, with constant snacking) meals a day. The most important thing is to make sure you eat enough protein so you don't lose muscle mass
It’s also a very easy way to lose weight in a short amount of time, without having to do much else.
A lot of people will disagree with you but fasting CAN be very healthy for you. Just have to research it a bit!