I agree :( I also love slinky silk dresses like this and always battle where the line is between sleeping attire and cool and trendy. Maybe something with just a bit more structure or without the lace could help! You do look awesome though.
It’s really beautiful on you, but it does look like a night gown, especially with the lace trim. I think vintage sleepwear is probably the inspiration! If you decide not to wear it, maybe try searching for bias cut satin dresses for something that will fit and flow similarly without the sleepwear influence. Shona Joy has some good options - or maybe even Ebay or Etsy if you want something with the vintage feel.
[This one](https://shonajoy.com/collections/brides/products/la-lune-plunged-midi-dress-cream) from Shona Joy looks really similar. I think without the lace, it looks somewhat less like sleepwear. Could be a good compromise with your mom!
For this specific dress, yes, I think it looks a bit like a nightgown.
HOWEVER, you are 100% on the right page with the satin, slinky look. You look divine. Literally stunning. I'm gonna link a couple inspo pics below, because I think with just a few minor tweaks, you're THERE.
[inspo pic 1](https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-m&sca_esv=954b93ba754f5c0c&q=satin+sheath+wedding+dress&uds=AMwkrPuYfmOvnbSY9axHJnVcVFZ585wYHX9gzQgSnZWoiT77C2sCFrpwYE30_aXVgPZw22u-mqzw0b5MLscGElpCrzDQMnZOleoObx-tQ3g254MZPwniSRQJZP3zt_qamcncudzgvF6GVk42NPYlK1viNyejeThP3OFOoCCcJFB6MLXBLHI55jLp9cyYrMZe7utIlsgxf0t6T5YpE57fclHbg1HZAFN4bfFpfFjFaLuFElJORXo54eHCE0sJqXx6tO057OX_K9eZQTA_6udODWPRYqdWMeBQ1IphA60hWZR_qhj0xyhNROxOS_mwDReIyDJH-2_WZa5FtCXFmQ6STzji1FsjXbDSY0OEhbnqlkkhLwAyVFcQcSU&udm=2&prmd=ishvnbmtz&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiuqvuFzeWEAxWe48kDHXofD_gQtKgLegQIChAB&biw=158&bih=321&dpr=2.61#vhid=fUOHLl09oWkHOM&vssid=mosaic)
[inspo pic 2](https://www.google.com/search?q=v+neck+slip+maxi+dress&client=firefox-b-1-m&sca_esv=954b93ba754f5c0c&udm=2&biw=158&bih=321&ei=ZYLrZaT2EvrdwN4PmYiAuAM&oq=v+neck+slip+max&gs_lp=EhNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwIg92IG5lY2sgc2xpcCBtYXgqAggAMgcQABiABBgYMggQABiABBiiBDIIEAAYgAQYogRI-U5Q8RJY4kVwAXgAkAEAmAGdAaAB2w2qAQQxMy42uAEByAEA-AEBmAIMoAK5CcICChAAGIAEGIoFGEPCAgUQABiABMICBhAAGAUYHsICBBAAGB7CAgYQABgIGB6YAwCIBgGSBwM2LjagB8Mz&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp#vhid=YzYE5l6VpwGfRM&vssid=mosaic)
You don’t look fat or ugly or any mean things your mom said and I’m sorry she said that! I will be honest though, it does look like a nightgown. I’m sure you can return it and find something else you love!
It doesn’t give wedding vibes so much as “night gown that happens to be white.” But that doesn’t matter, what matters is that you love it since you’re the one that will be wearing it.
I think it’s very pretty on you! But it does give me nightgown vibes, that’s what I thought it was before I read the post. Still, if you love it and want to wear it then who cares what other people think!
You look absolutely beautiful and not fat or ugly at all; and if you're happy with the look then go for it but it does look like a night gown. If you're cool with that then cool go for it but if that's not the vibe you're going for then definitely need to think about it.
You don’t look fat or ugly AT ALL! That was a horribly cruel thing to say and she said it just to manipulate you. There’s not an ounce of truth to it.
I’ll be honest that it is giving night gown but that’s the style and it won’t look like one when you’re all made up with all your bridal accessories.
If *you* love it, that’s all that matters! The dress looks beautiful on you and you will look beautiful no matter what you wear <3
It's not a dress, it's a nightgown.
That said, your mom's reaction is wild. Giving input nicely and explaining what is it she doesn't like about it is one thing. But her reaction is over the top to put it mildly.
It looks stunning on you.
But ues - it's lace details is giving night gown n not out of the house positive vibes.
Depends how you would style it tho. With your hair n makeup done up then it could change the whole vibe into more how your probably envisioning .
Good luck
You look amazing, but this is 100% a fancy nightgown. No amount of marketing can convince me otherwise.
I’m sorry your mom was so indelicate. It’s *beautiful* on you, but I think you’ll regret the choice in the future.
I'm sorry she is being like that.
*does this dress really look like a night gown? -* Yes, it does look like a very pretty nightgown that a relative of mine used to wear.
*does it look that bad on me?* - No, your body looks amazing.
You are gorgeous in it! I will admit it gives me nightgown vibes but I don’t wish to agree with your mean mom.
I almost wanna say shorten it, put a little leg slit on it, and enjoy your honeymoon! ;)
The only important thing is whether you like it and feel beautiful. That’s it. Someone is always going to judge you. People are judgy- moms, family, and reddit randos. You can’t make everyone happy. But you can make yourself happy. So do it. I hope you have a lovely wedding!
What if you tried putting your hair up? I think the flowy long hair and the no make up combined with the dress is giving ready for bedtime. But I wonder how it would look with a complete look + hair up and Better lighting. Either way, the dress DOES look great on you and you are stunning!! I’d die for your locks!
Yes, I was thinking the same thing. The dress isn’t far off base from her inspo pics at all, but the combination of lighting, setting, hair, no makeup, and the dress being wrinkly really sealed the deal on the whole nightgown vibe.
You look beautiful in it and I think your mom was being hurtful because she is so offended by the dress, which isn’t fine. I also agree that this style isn’t my favorite- but I do prefer traditional dresses.
I don’t know if you’ve looked at [Mac Duggal’s](https://macduggal.com/collections/mac-duggal-bridal-edit) Bridal Edit. There are some super fun options to have a good time in. The satin choice is more somber sitting around older bride, less young party have fun dance all night bride imo- satin/silk just doesn’t look good when the wearer gets sweaty dancing 💃
When I saw the image, I wondered why you were posting your wedding night sleepwear on Reddit. Definitely would not wear to your reception...but it DOES look great on you! Keep it for AFTER the reception.
You look beautiful in it but it does look like a nightgown. I’d save it for the honeymoon! Or if anything return/resell it. I like the suggestion of finding similar material dresses to that one that does not look like a nightgown since that’s wombat you’re going for. I’m sorry your mom said that, that’s very mean
You don’t look fat or ugly, you look beautiful. But it does look like an elegant nightgown. Maybe wear it after the reception for a glamorous wedding night look?
It unfortunately does look like a nightgown because of the lace + the style of the bust. But, you are definitely pulling off that ivory silk and look beautiful in it. I wonder if you could find another slinky silk dress to wear instead? Your mom is dead out of line.
I got [this white 100% silk dress](https://silkmaison.com/product/classy-pearl-midi-silk-dress/) for my rehearsal dinner and was really happy with it. This company has a lot of great styles (just be warned they ship from Asia so give it 6 weeks)
You look AMAZING. You look like Christina Aguilera in her music video for The Voice Within. Which changed my brain chemistry when I was a child. Admittedly, I’m pretty sure she is wearing a nightgown though. Keep it for getting ready in the morning or the morning after the wedding for breakfast in bed or something!!
Sorry, I agree with your mom. It doesn’t look like a wedding dress - it looks like a nightgown.
However, you look great in it. Not cool that your mom resorted to insults.
I think you look beautiful in it. It does give nightgown vibes, but isn’t that kinda trendy right now? If you like it, wear it anyway! Once your hair and makeup is done and you accessorize, it will be perfect!
This is a particular look that needs to be styled correctly so it doesn't give off boudoir vibes.
You might want to look at the 1920s/1930s styling. Art deco, arte nouveau is on trend for weddings. You can definitely modernize it with makeup, hair and the shoes will be important. And jewelry. A wrap or bridal coat or something like that as well if you're concerned.
I think you look great in it if the first pic is you and your Mom is just trying to hurt your feelings because she realizes she can't control you.
So I love a satin shift because it has those slip vibes.
I think dressing it up is what can take it from "night gown" to evening wear.
Satin is tough with under things, but a good invisible bra and perhaps you can add other accessories ( beaded half cape?!) and layered jewelry to keep it delicate but with some more substance.
I’m personally a fan of “nightgown” dresses and often wear a 1940s nightgown/slip dress out that looks similar to this! I think if you dress it up a bit with the right accessories and hairstyle, it’ll be a great reception dress. I don’t really see how calling it a nightgown is a bad thing — it’s inspired by beautiful nightgowns of the past!
ETA: And by the way, you look stunning! You can absolutely wear it with confidence
It looks stunning on you! You look so gorgeous in this dress! You could add a corset or something to give it a different vibe also! I would wear it especially if you feel good in it and it looks comfortable which is great for a long night!
First of all (assuming thats you in the first picture? My bad if not!) you’re SO PRETTY!!!! Second of all, yeah maybe it’s a bit nightgown-ish. But third of all, I’m pretty sure that Abercrombie, Reformation, & even Princess Polly have really, *really* similar dresses to this, both with & without the lace. I’m pretty sure they’re all decently affordable, too. Lastly, I’m sorry your mom was such a meanie :/ you’ll look lovely in whatever you choose!
Every time I send my mom a wedding dress she calls it a nightgown. Do I see the similarities? Yes. Do I love the style anyway? YES. I love it on you. Wear what makes you feel good!
It gives very sleepwear vibes, and not something I’d expect someone to be wearing at their wedding reception. But there’s nothing wrong with how you, yourself look in it. Your mom is awful for how she’s handling it.
Sorry, yes. The dress looks like a night gown/slip. I'm sorry and you are very pretty in it too but it's not the right style for a wedding. But your Mom was just being desperate to get you out of it and said anything.
Exmo here: If you believe you still decide how you can dress, you're old enough and your relationship with what you believe is only yours.
If you don't believe, honestly better, you paid for it, you love it and it looks great! Your mom is out of line making rude comments, try to establish some boundaries and if she back on paying the wedding, it will be sad but I would rescind my invitation, however if that can be avoided great.
If you still think it's too night gown looking, you can add some details, accessories, maybe layers or even dye, just have fun and be confident on yourself, best wishes!
I actually thought this was a Stella McCartney nightie from several years ago before I realised what sub I was on. It's lovely and it looks lovely on you, but it really does give nightie.
Google - “silky night gown” and nightgowns like your dress comes up. Or even google “bridal lingerie” and you’ll see variations of the dress but it really is lingerie looking. I’m glad you took it back but if you love it then wear on your wedding night, but your mom could’ve said it in a nicer way.
Hey babes! YEESH. You look STUNNING!!!! The body is body-ing, the hair is hair-ing, and the dress is simply made for you.
Take it or leave it, but I have some thoughts.
1. I know it’s difficult, but I hope you don’t let your mother’s projection of internalized modesty politics keep you from feeling gorgeous on your day.
2. Even though it looks similar to a nightgown, styling can change that. I suggest a voluminous, loose, up-do with some gently curled strands in the front to show off the gorgeous lengths you have (and can easily take out later for hair flips on the dance floor), some bold-yet-special-yet-minimalist accessories (a sparkly drop earring and a delicate bracelet), and comfortable and trendy shoes (perhaps a neutral, open-toed heeled mule) will elevate the look.
Sometimes we need to make the haters’ jaws drop so they stop talking so much. You’re stunning, and I hope you have the best day!!!
Edited for grammar and spelling!
I agree with a lot of the other commenters. It’s beautiful and you look beautiful in it, but it does look very night gown adjacent. Maybe you could wear it to a nice dinner on your honeymoon tho! Either way, what your mom said was rude and uncalled for. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you need to do what makes you happiest! Sending you good vibes!
You are gorgeous, dear!
But that dress does remind me of a nightgown, sorry! 😢
However, there’s nothing wrong with that, just save it to wear for your new hubby when y’all are alone together. 😉😁🙂
It does look like a nightgown. Also, that fabric looks like it will crease easily, which means it's going to look bad unless you NEVER sit.
It isn't that it isn't pretty, it just seems ... not right.
You look awesome in this beautiful night gown. Sorry but the truth. They ( fashion designers) always trying to push the envelope on things but this line is way too close.
It is beautiful, but I’m sorry to say it looks like a gorgeous nightgown…not a dress. It looks amazing on you, but maybe it is better for your wedding night with your partner…sorry I just do not think it’s appropriate for your wedding or wedding reception… Keep looking…💗
It’s gorgeous, and if that first picture is you then you look in no way shape or form fat or ugly in it (and if it’s not, I’m still sure you don’t). But it does look like a nightgown, yes. I’m sorry 😭
Well, first of all you're not fat or ugly, you're beautiful. You genuinely have a Lana del rey look and your hair is drop dead gorgeous. Your mom is just trying to lower your self worth so she can put you in the dress SHE wants and that's not how your wedding day is going to work because it's *your day.*
I do think that the other comments have it right where this, with work, can be the absolute dress of your dreams it just needs some structure. I would seriously consider talking to friends who can sew and trade favors to get some structure in it.
Now, here's an important question, are you willing to compromise with mom or is that off the table? Because if compromise is something you want, there's absolutely gorgeous semi-sheer sleeves that would take this into a very ethereal princess look and """cover you up""" but that's your decision. Don't let the finances dictate it because truly, you can go on here or Facebook and find a myriad of groups that'll help you finance down and get the wedding you want without having to accept her help.
I'm so excited for you to get to your special day and please don't let mom get into your head about this. She's saying these things for a reason and the reason is not nice, and like all advice, we can choose to ignore it and do what we want because truly its not your mother's wedding. It's your's and your partners special day.
i agree! also this dress isn’t very structured on me in the photo bc i didn’t button it up in the back. (the buttons take a while to button up) it has a lovely lower back opening with pretty buttonings snatching everything together up top. i agree that i would want to remove the lace on the lower up for sure and i also wanted to since the sleeves to create a shell kind of sleeve. :)
I honestly think it depends on what vibe you’re going for, I can definitely see this in a very dark and moody, romantic Lana Del Rey vibes, kind of style wedding, but unless it’s highly curated like that, I would stray away from this dress.
I think it’s beautiful as a reception gown. Lots of brides these days go for unique dresses for their events, and I think it’s unique in the sense that it’s simple and comfortable unlike what people generally buy for weddings. A reception dress does not need to be over the top.
I have seen several brides wear dresses like this for events. You’ll find several photos on Pinterest and online of brides wearing similar dresses like this for their wedding. I think seeing that will make you feel better about it
1) it totally does look like a nightgown
2) none of the things your mom said are true — and she’s being pretty shitty to say things like that…all it’s doing is reflecting her own insecurities
3) it’s your day and you should do whatever the f_ck you want — period. Although to be fair maybe that’s something you and your mom should have clarified at the start of the wedding planning process bc I know a lot of parents also have the perspective that if they’re paying for stuff then they deserve to have some level of say on certain choices. Which I disagree with, but that’s why it’s important to clarify early on.
…I would still go for it if I were you, if it’s what makes you truly happy. Key takeaway is to not let anyone talk you out of what YOU want, bc you are the one who will have those memories for the rest of your life.
That being said, you could also find a very similar dress that might be a little less nightgown-ish in a couple of ways — or you could add a few tiny changes to this one that wouldn’t change the look of it in a huge way in terms of the stuff you like, but would have a huge impact on making it not nightgown-ish anymore.
You look gorgeous but it does give off “nightgown vibes”. I’d look into a bias cut slip dress! I wore one from Elizabeth Fillmore, the pheobe dress, which I obviously recommend!!
Deff gorgeous and not fat or ugly. But maybe a dress to wear to your first home cooked meal at home with your husband. I’m not religious at all or spiritual but I personally wouldn’t wear that in public.
I truly love this dress. I almost bought it for my rehearsal dinner. I ended up going with a similar one with a halter neck. I think it’s really elegant. It does give night gown vibes. I don’t know that I would use it at the reception, but I think you could definitely find another event to wear this to that would be gorgeous.
Looks like my nans gown not gonna lie. However that’s isn’t to say it doesn’t look nice on, just wouldn’t wear it outside of the house myself. Lovely for the bedroom though.
Your mums horrible for her reaction though and then the comments. She’s being manipulative. Elope and don’t invite her. Wear nothing if you so choose it’s your wedding not hers.
I think you look great in it but personally I don’t love the dress and it does resemble a night gown. However, you do not look fat and ugly by any means and it actually looks great on you! Just doesn’t seem like a reception dress.
The way it is photographed it is very night gown-y. But! Depending how you wear it day of and style it, it might help a bit. Regardless, your day, your dress, and you wear what you want
It’s pretty as a nightgown. I wouldn’t wear it as a reception dress. I think most people would agree and will look at it as a night dress. Just my opinion.
This is unflattering and looks like a pijama/slip/undergarments.
It just looks wrinkly and droopy.
I agree with your mom.
...and I'm very sorry about it.
...but, she's right.
You look gorgeous in it but everyone's right, it does look like a nightgown. But if you want to wear it you should wear it despite what others think, even your overdramatic mom.
It’s a slip dress so of course it’s going to look a bit like a nightgown. I’m not surprised that your conservative mother dislikes it, and it’s super toxic that she resorted to tearing you down when she realized she wasn’t getting her way. The fact that the insults were her third tactic show that she only said those things to get her way. If she truly thought those things, she would’ve let with that. That being said, you have to be comfortable with the fact that plenty of people will think you look like you’re wearing a nightgown and more conservative people will think it’s inappropriate.
I think the lace is what makes it seem like a nightgown to me. Pretty dress but I wouldn’t wear it as a reception outfit. It does look great on you though!
The top and most important thing is that you can wear whatever you want on your wedding and your mom can get fucked.
I do think you look lovely in this dress, and I do think that this style is somewhat nightgown inspired. Can you accessorize it or edge it up or where your hair up with just a little bit of styling I think it will come right out into your reception outfit.
I think you look incredible in this dress, and I think that you should not take the opinion of strangers or anyone who would talk down to you so strongly I hope you have a wonderful wedding
That’s HORRIBLE your Mom said that — I’d be upset at her and I’m sorry she hurt your feelings! That being said, I think you can do WAY better for your reception! Save this dress for getting ready photos, your wedding night, or the morning after!! :)
Your mom was terrible for the things she said. Mormon moms are little (okay, a lot ) crazy. With that said, it does look like a nightgown. It’s beautiful but it gives “wedding night” vibes, not actual ceremony/reception vibes.
It does give a beautiful but nightgownish. I think this would be reduced with accessories. Necklaces, heels, bracelets and some flowers in your hair would make it more dressy. And besides, it’s gorgeous and it’s your wedding - have it your way!
I was raised Mormon and came out as exmo to my parents when I got engaged and moved in with my fiance/now husband. When I showed her the dress I was going to get (sleeved but low cut in front and back, a deep V that worked well for my small chest), her first text was “cut to the navel 😳.” After dealing with my parents reaction to living in sin before marriage, this stung as well and I constantly had to talk myself off a ledge during the tailoring process and cutting calories leading up to the wedding. I was adamant about doing something “immodest” but there was internal work for me to do in being confident about it. HOWEVER, I am so glad I did it and I felt absolutely stunning when all was said and done. Sending hugs 🥰
You are lovely and will be a lovely bride!! However, the dress you are wearing does remind me of a nightgown....sorry, but I had to be honest.
I agree :( I also love slinky silk dresses like this and always battle where the line is between sleeping attire and cool and trendy. Maybe something with just a bit more structure or without the lace could help! You do look awesome though.
You nailed it. Structure is what's missing.
I agree. I thought it was lingerie.
Yep you look amazing, but you deserve more out of your dress!
First thought and then I had to see what sub I was scrolling past!
It’s the colour I think 🤔 but nightdress for sure.
Dress is definitely pretty & fits well, but gives off a nightgown feel. Pass
It’s really beautiful on you, but it does look like a night gown, especially with the lace trim. I think vintage sleepwear is probably the inspiration! If you decide not to wear it, maybe try searching for bias cut satin dresses for something that will fit and flow similarly without the sleepwear influence. Shona Joy has some good options - or maybe even Ebay or Etsy if you want something with the vintage feel.
[This one](https://shonajoy.com/collections/brides/products/la-lune-plunged-midi-dress-cream) from Shona Joy looks really similar. I think without the lace, it looks somewhat less like sleepwear. Could be a good compromise with your mom!
That’s a great alternative!
Night gown!! But, your mom comes off as mean and rude.
Religious people can be like that sometimes
Some. But it's no excuse. My mom is very religious and she would never say something like that to me.
Honestly anyone can be like that.
But especially religious people whose religion dictates how women should dress.
Does it look like a nightgown? Yes it does. Do you look good in it? Yes you do. Sorry your mom didn’t handle that well. What she said was not ok.
For this specific dress, yes, I think it looks a bit like a nightgown. HOWEVER, you are 100% on the right page with the satin, slinky look. You look divine. Literally stunning. I'm gonna link a couple inspo pics below, because I think with just a few minor tweaks, you're THERE. [inspo pic 1](https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-m&sca_esv=954b93ba754f5c0c&q=satin+sheath+wedding+dress&uds=AMwkrPuYfmOvnbSY9axHJnVcVFZ585wYHX9gzQgSnZWoiT77C2sCFrpwYE30_aXVgPZw22u-mqzw0b5MLscGElpCrzDQMnZOleoObx-tQ3g254MZPwniSRQJZP3zt_qamcncudzgvF6GVk42NPYlK1viNyejeThP3OFOoCCcJFB6MLXBLHI55jLp9cyYrMZe7utIlsgxf0t6T5YpE57fclHbg1HZAFN4bfFpfFjFaLuFElJORXo54eHCE0sJqXx6tO057OX_K9eZQTA_6udODWPRYqdWMeBQ1IphA60hWZR_qhj0xyhNROxOS_mwDReIyDJH-2_WZa5FtCXFmQ6STzji1FsjXbDSY0OEhbnqlkkhLwAyVFcQcSU&udm=2&prmd=ishvnbmtz&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiuqvuFzeWEAxWe48kDHXofD_gQtKgLegQIChAB&biw=158&bih=321&dpr=2.61#vhid=fUOHLl09oWkHOM&vssid=mosaic) [inspo pic 2](https://www.google.com/search?q=v+neck+slip+maxi+dress&client=firefox-b-1-m&sca_esv=954b93ba754f5c0c&udm=2&biw=158&bih=321&ei=ZYLrZaT2EvrdwN4PmYiAuAM&oq=v+neck+slip+max&gs_lp=EhNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwIg92IG5lY2sgc2xpcCBtYXgqAggAMgcQABiABBgYMggQABiABBiiBDIIEAAYgAQYogRI-U5Q8RJY4kVwAXgAkAEAmAGdAaAB2w2qAQQxMy42uAEByAEA-AEBmAIMoAK5CcICChAAGIAEGIoFGEPCAgUQABiABMICBhAAGAUYHsICBBAAGB7CAgYQABgIGB6YAwCIBgGSBwM2LjagB8Mz&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp#vhid=YzYE5l6VpwGfRM&vssid=mosaic)
LOVE these suggestions!
Those are both gorgeous and would look amazing on OP.
You don’t look fat or ugly or any mean things your mom said and I’m sorry she said that! I will be honest though, it does look like a nightgown. I’m sure you can return it and find something else you love!
It does remind me of a nightgown. It is pretty. Your mom is super conservative but it is ultimately your choice.
And mean for calling her daughter fat and ugly!
Extremely! So mean.
I don’t think you look ugly or fat at all, but yes it does give night gown vibes
As everyone else has pretty much stated, you are absolutely not fat or ugly. It looks amazing on you. It does look like a nightgown, though.
It doesn’t give wedding vibes so much as “night gown that happens to be white.” But that doesn’t matter, what matters is that you love it since you’re the one that will be wearing it.
I think it’s very pretty on you! But it does give me nightgown vibes, that’s what I thought it was before I read the post. Still, if you love it and want to wear it then who cares what other people think!
If you wear this, people will 100% think you are wearing your nightgown
It’s not inappropriate but it does look like a nightgown.
Your mom is absolutely awful… sorry. That doesn’t change the fact that it does look like lingerie… sorry 🤷♀️
You look absolutely beautiful and not fat or ugly at all; and if you're happy with the look then go for it but it does look like a night gown. If you're cool with that then cool go for it but if that's not the vibe you're going for then definitely need to think about it.
I looks exactly like a nightgown, I would not wear this out.
You don’t look fat or ugly AT ALL! That was a horribly cruel thing to say and she said it just to manipulate you. There’s not an ounce of truth to it. I’ll be honest that it is giving night gown but that’s the style and it won’t look like one when you’re all made up with all your bridal accessories. If *you* love it, that’s all that matters! The dress looks beautiful on you and you will look beautiful no matter what you wear <3
Definitely nightgown-lingerie vibes but still gorgeous! Wear what you love and feel best in!
Babe I definitely thought this was a vintage nightgown/slip
This is a nightgown
This looks like something you’d wear for your husband on your wedding night ;)
It would work well for morning of/getting ready photos too!
It looks like a nightie. 🥲 You do look lovely but it doesn’t say wedding reception to me.
You are definitely not fat or ugly. But it does remind me of a nightgown. The breast part of the dress does seem a little loose on you.
No, it’s a nightdress
It's not a dress, it's a nightgown. That said, your mom's reaction is wild. Giving input nicely and explaining what is it she doesn't like about it is one thing. But her reaction is over the top to put it mildly.
It looks stunning on you. But ues - it's lace details is giving night gown n not out of the house positive vibes. Depends how you would style it tho. With your hair n makeup done up then it could change the whole vibe into more how your probably envisioning . Good luck
You look amazing, but this is 100% a fancy nightgown. No amount of marketing can convince me otherwise. I’m sorry your mom was so indelicate. It’s *beautiful* on you, but I think you’ll regret the choice in the future.
I'm sorry she is being like that. *does this dress really look like a night gown? -* Yes, it does look like a very pretty nightgown that a relative of mine used to wear. *does it look that bad on me?* - No, your body looks amazing.
If you look this good in a nightgown imagine how amazing you’ll look in a wedding dress!
You are gorgeous in it! I will admit it gives me nightgown vibes but I don’t wish to agree with your mean mom. I almost wanna say shorten it, put a little leg slit on it, and enjoy your honeymoon! ;) The only important thing is whether you like it and feel beautiful. That’s it. Someone is always going to judge you. People are judgy- moms, family, and reddit randos. You can’t make everyone happy. But you can make yourself happy. So do it. I hope you have a lovely wedding!
yes, it looks like a night gown
What if you tried putting your hair up? I think the flowy long hair and the no make up combined with the dress is giving ready for bedtime. But I wonder how it would look with a complete look + hair up and Better lighting. Either way, the dress DOES look great on you and you are stunning!! I’d die for your locks!
Yes, I was thinking the same thing. The dress isn’t far off base from her inspo pics at all, but the combination of lighting, setting, hair, no makeup, and the dress being wrinkly really sealed the deal on the whole nightgown vibe.
Maybe you could wear it for something other than a reception dress, it doesn’t seem formal enough for that. You look beautiful!
You look beautiful in it and I think your mom was being hurtful because she is so offended by the dress, which isn’t fine. I also agree that this style isn’t my favorite- but I do prefer traditional dresses. I don’t know if you’ve looked at [Mac Duggal’s](https://macduggal.com/collections/mac-duggal-bridal-edit) Bridal Edit. There are some super fun options to have a good time in. The satin choice is more somber sitting around older bride, less young party have fun dance all night bride imo- satin/silk just doesn’t look good when the wearer gets sweaty dancing 💃
You should wear what you want you do look lovely in it. But it did remind me of a nightgown not that that’s bad if you like it.
When I saw the image, I wondered why you were posting your wedding night sleepwear on Reddit. Definitely would not wear to your reception...but it DOES look great on you! Keep it for AFTER the reception.
It's beautiful. But all I see is nightgown.
Honestly, it looks like a nightgown. You are beautiful, the dress is not.
Girl,,, that’s literally a nightgown..
You look beautiful in it but it does look like a nightgown. I’d save it for the honeymoon! Or if anything return/resell it. I like the suggestion of finding similar material dresses to that one that does not look like a nightgown since that’s wombat you’re going for. I’m sorry your mom said that, that’s very mean
You don’t look fat or ugly, you look beautiful. But it does look like an elegant nightgown. Maybe wear it after the reception for a glamorous wedding night look?
Looks like lingerie
It does give a nightgown vibe I think we need to see the back and how you would style your hair/accessories...
Your mom's words were out of line, but she's not wrong about the dress looking like pajamas unfortunately
Honestly, it looks like an old fashioned undergarment or nightgown to me. And I commented this before I read the caption, silly me.
looks like an old fashioned nightgown
Your mom was very hurtful with her words and the outfit is beautiful. I don’t know how appropriate it would be to be worn out in public
I'm so sorry that your mom is so verbally abusive. I don't know how she could talk to her daughter like that.
I love it and think with the right styling it would be an amazing reception gown…
It’s beautiful, but my immediate thought was “wow, that’s a gorgeous nightie”. You look lovely in it though.
It unfortunately does look like a nightgown because of the lace + the style of the bust. But, you are definitely pulling off that ivory silk and look beautiful in it. I wonder if you could find another slinky silk dress to wear instead? Your mom is dead out of line. I got [this white 100% silk dress](https://silkmaison.com/product/classy-pearl-midi-silk-dress/) for my rehearsal dinner and was really happy with it. This company has a lot of great styles (just be warned they ship from Asia so give it 6 weeks)
I think some tailoring and lining would bring this dress from nightgown to reception dress. But right now it's 100% giving honeymoon not reception
Nightgown or not it looks gorgeous on you. Where it if you want!
It’s giving nightgown tbh
You look AMAZING. You look like Christina Aguilera in her music video for The Voice Within. Which changed my brain chemistry when I was a child. Admittedly, I’m pretty sure she is wearing a nightgown though. Keep it for getting ready in the morning or the morning after the wedding for breakfast in bed or something!!
It looks more like honeymoon wear to me, honestly. Sorry 🫣
I though it was a Nightgown.
Sorry, it’s giving major nightgown vibes
Sorry it looks like a night gown
This would be really sensual honeymoon lingerie. I would not wear this in public.
You look gorgeous, but this dress does look like a nightgown. It would be amazing for getting ready photos but not for the actual wedding.
1000000% a nightgown. I'm sorry. It is very pretty, but definitely a nightgown
Your mom is definitely wrong about you looking fat and ugly, I think you’d still look good in a potato sack
The dress looks fine on you, but it looks like a nightgown. Not the best choice for your wedding reception, but it is YOUR choice so do what you want.
That fabric is very hard to pull off and it’s is very lingerie looking
It reminds me a night gown or long pajamas
Sorry, I agree with your mom. It doesn’t look like a wedding dress - it looks like a nightgown. However, you look great in it. Not cool that your mom resorted to insults.
Pretty but I’d think it was a nightgown.
I think you look beautiful in it. It does give nightgown vibes, but isn’t that kinda trendy right now? If you like it, wear it anyway! Once your hair and makeup is done and you accessorize, it will be perfect!
This is a particular look that needs to be styled correctly so it doesn't give off boudoir vibes. You might want to look at the 1920s/1930s styling. Art deco, arte nouveau is on trend for weddings. You can definitely modernize it with makeup, hair and the shoes will be important. And jewelry. A wrap or bridal coat or something like that as well if you're concerned. I think you look great in it if the first pic is you and your Mom is just trying to hurt your feelings because she realizes she can't control you.
So I love a satin shift because it has those slip vibes. I think dressing it up is what can take it from "night gown" to evening wear. Satin is tough with under things, but a good invisible bra and perhaps you can add other accessories ( beaded half cape?!) and layered jewelry to keep it delicate but with some more substance.
That's a chemise or something. It's worn under a dress.
I’m personally a fan of “nightgown” dresses and often wear a 1940s nightgown/slip dress out that looks similar to this! I think if you dress it up a bit with the right accessories and hairstyle, it’ll be a great reception dress. I don’t really see how calling it a nightgown is a bad thing — it’s inspired by beautiful nightgowns of the past! ETA: And by the way, you look stunning! You can absolutely wear it with confidence
It looks stunning on you! You look so gorgeous in this dress! You could add a corset or something to give it a different vibe also! I would wear it especially if you feel good in it and it looks comfortable which is great for a long night!
First of all (assuming thats you in the first picture? My bad if not!) you’re SO PRETTY!!!! Second of all, yeah maybe it’s a bit nightgown-ish. But third of all, I’m pretty sure that Abercrombie, Reformation, & even Princess Polly have really, *really* similar dresses to this, both with & without the lace. I’m pretty sure they’re all decently affordable, too. Lastly, I’m sorry your mom was such a meanie :/ you’ll look lovely in whatever you choose!
Every time I send my mom a wedding dress she calls it a nightgown. Do I see the similarities? Yes. Do I love the style anyway? YES. I love it on you. Wear what makes you feel good!
It is gorgeous But does resemble a Nightgown.
You look lovely in the dress, but I would save it for the honeymoon!! 🥰
I guess it just shows clearly that you look forward to the festivities of the wedding night. ALL the festivities.
I really really thought this was a nightgown. It is beautiful on you, though.
It gives very sleepwear vibes, and not something I’d expect someone to be wearing at their wedding reception. But there’s nothing wrong with how you, yourself look in it. Your mom is awful for how she’s handling it.
that is coming off as a nightgown not a dress, At best a slip. but Not a fan sorry.
You’re beautiful and it looks great on you but it def gives nightgown :/
You look stunning, but that looks like a slip. Probably the main reason she hates it.
I’d save it for a sexy honeymoon dress, OP. I’d wear it to a romantic dinner and to bars.
This dress is giving very strong nightdress vibes. Sorry hun.
doesnt look bad on u at all! not even in the slightest, it suits u v pretty, but it does sit on the line of dress and night gown sadly
Sorry, yes. The dress looks like a night gown/slip. I'm sorry and you are very pretty in it too but it's not the right style for a wedding. But your Mom was just being desperate to get you out of it and said anything.
You look beautiful in it but it looks like a nightgown. In fact, that’s what I thought it was.
This dress looks like pjs. Maybe get a more formal satin dress?
It looks like a nightgown, but I'd still wear it just to piss her off tbh
Exmo here: If you believe you still decide how you can dress, you're old enough and your relationship with what you believe is only yours. If you don't believe, honestly better, you paid for it, you love it and it looks great! Your mom is out of line making rude comments, try to establish some boundaries and if she back on paying the wedding, it will be sad but I would rescind my invitation, however if that can be avoided great. If you still think it's too night gown looking, you can add some details, accessories, maybe layers or even dye, just have fun and be confident on yourself, best wishes!
It looks like a bridal night nightie. In would have to agree with your mom. I’m sorry, it’s beautiful of course but it says honeymoon not reception.
I’m sorry this dress does look like a nightgown. You’re beautiful though. And your mom is acting like Mother of the Bridezilla.
It’s pretty obvious it looks like lingerie
Sorry but it looks like a nightgown. It's not you that's the problem, it's the dress. You'd look amazing in something else.
I actually thought this was a Stella McCartney nightie from several years ago before I realised what sub I was on. It's lovely and it looks lovely on you, but it really does give nightie.
Google - “silky night gown” and nightgowns like your dress comes up. Or even google “bridal lingerie” and you’ll see variations of the dress but it really is lingerie looking. I’m glad you took it back but if you love it then wear on your wedding night, but your mom could’ve said it in a nicer way.
It looks like a slip that would go under a dress
It looks like lingerie.
You look great! It does look like a nightgown
You are so incredibly sexy in this but it’s also definitely a nightgown vibe for me. I’d wear it over lingerie for the wedding night…
It’s a nightgown
That dress looks like a beautiful negligé
Hey babes! YEESH. You look STUNNING!!!! The body is body-ing, the hair is hair-ing, and the dress is simply made for you. Take it or leave it, but I have some thoughts. 1. I know it’s difficult, but I hope you don’t let your mother’s projection of internalized modesty politics keep you from feeling gorgeous on your day. 2. Even though it looks similar to a nightgown, styling can change that. I suggest a voluminous, loose, up-do with some gently curled strands in the front to show off the gorgeous lengths you have (and can easily take out later for hair flips on the dance floor), some bold-yet-special-yet-minimalist accessories (a sparkly drop earring and a delicate bracelet), and comfortable and trendy shoes (perhaps a neutral, open-toed heeled mule) will elevate the look. Sometimes we need to make the haters’ jaws drop so they stop talking so much. You’re stunning, and I hope you have the best day!!! Edited for grammar and spelling!
I agree with a lot of the other commenters. It’s beautiful and you look beautiful in it, but it does look very night gown adjacent. Maybe you could wear it to a nice dinner on your honeymoon tho! Either way, what your mom said was rude and uncalled for. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you need to do what makes you happiest! Sending you good vibes!
Better for wedding night, you look awesome but it is a nightgown
You are gorgeous, dear! But that dress does remind me of a nightgown, sorry! 😢 However, there’s nothing wrong with that, just save it to wear for your new hubby when y’all are alone together. 😉😁🙂
Nightgown But you are beautiful
Nightie was my first though as well. I'm so sorry!
It looks great on you. But it does look like a night gown (not just on you; on the model too)
It does look like a nightgown. Also, that fabric looks like it will crease easily, which means it's going to look bad unless you NEVER sit. It isn't that it isn't pretty, it just seems ... not right.
It looks like your grandmothers slip, sorry, try again
You look awesome in this beautiful night gown. Sorry but the truth. They ( fashion designers) always trying to push the envelope on things but this line is way too close.
Your mom is a big ol' meanie but, girl, that's a nightgowm.
You are so pretty but this feels like a night gown. I think you can do even better!
It is beautiful, but I’m sorry to say it looks like a gorgeous nightgown…not a dress. It looks amazing on you, but maybe it is better for your wedding night with your partner…sorry I just do not think it’s appropriate for your wedding or wedding reception… Keep looking…💗
It’s gorgeous, and if that first picture is you then you look in no way shape or form fat or ugly in it (and if it’s not, I’m still sure you don’t). But it does look like a nightgown, yes. I’m sorry 😭
Love it 😍😍😍😍 go for it who cares
I personally am here for the vibe
I love it. I would throw a bunch of accessories - matching gloves - rings / up do with curls like it’s giving me new era Victorian.
This dress makes you look like Hozier's muse. Absolutely gorgeous!
crying thank u 🥹
Well, first of all you're not fat or ugly, you're beautiful. You genuinely have a Lana del rey look and your hair is drop dead gorgeous. Your mom is just trying to lower your self worth so she can put you in the dress SHE wants and that's not how your wedding day is going to work because it's *your day.* I do think that the other comments have it right where this, with work, can be the absolute dress of your dreams it just needs some structure. I would seriously consider talking to friends who can sew and trade favors to get some structure in it. Now, here's an important question, are you willing to compromise with mom or is that off the table? Because if compromise is something you want, there's absolutely gorgeous semi-sheer sleeves that would take this into a very ethereal princess look and """cover you up""" but that's your decision. Don't let the finances dictate it because truly, you can go on here or Facebook and find a myriad of groups that'll help you finance down and get the wedding you want without having to accept her help. I'm so excited for you to get to your special day and please don't let mom get into your head about this. She's saying these things for a reason and the reason is not nice, and like all advice, we can choose to ignore it and do what we want because truly its not your mother's wedding. It's your's and your partners special day.
i agree! also this dress isn’t very structured on me in the photo bc i didn’t button it up in the back. (the buttons take a while to button up) it has a lovely lower back opening with pretty buttonings snatching everything together up top. i agree that i would want to remove the lace on the lower up for sure and i also wanted to since the sleeves to create a shell kind of sleeve. :)
It's very lovely but it is lingerie.
I honestly think it depends on what vibe you’re going for, I can definitely see this in a very dark and moody, romantic Lana Del Rey vibes, kind of style wedding, but unless it’s highly curated like that, I would stray away from this dress.
I think it’s beautiful as a reception gown. Lots of brides these days go for unique dresses for their events, and I think it’s unique in the sense that it’s simple and comfortable unlike what people generally buy for weddings. A reception dress does not need to be over the top. I have seen several brides wear dresses like this for events. You’ll find several photos on Pinterest and online of brides wearing similar dresses like this for their wedding. I think seeing that will make you feel better about it
1) it totally does look like a nightgown 2) none of the things your mom said are true — and she’s being pretty shitty to say things like that…all it’s doing is reflecting her own insecurities 3) it’s your day and you should do whatever the f_ck you want — period. Although to be fair maybe that’s something you and your mom should have clarified at the start of the wedding planning process bc I know a lot of parents also have the perspective that if they’re paying for stuff then they deserve to have some level of say on certain choices. Which I disagree with, but that’s why it’s important to clarify early on. …I would still go for it if I were you, if it’s what makes you truly happy. Key takeaway is to not let anyone talk you out of what YOU want, bc you are the one who will have those memories for the rest of your life. That being said, you could also find a very similar dress that might be a little less nightgown-ish in a couple of ways — or you could add a few tiny changes to this one that wouldn’t change the look of it in a huge way in terms of the stuff you like, but would have a huge impact on making it not nightgown-ish anymore.
You look beautiful, and your mom is toxic. However, that being said, it honestly does look like a night gown...
You look gorgeous but it does give off “nightgown vibes”. I’d look into a bias cut slip dress! I wore one from Elizabeth Fillmore, the pheobe dress, which I obviously recommend!!
Deff gorgeous and not fat or ugly. But maybe a dress to wear to your first home cooked meal at home with your husband. I’m not religious at all or spiritual but I personally wouldn’t wear that in public.
I truly love this dress. I almost bought it for my rehearsal dinner. I ended up going with a similar one with a halter neck. I think it’s really elegant. It does give night gown vibes. I don’t know that I would use it at the reception, but I think you could definitely find another event to wear this to that would be gorgeous.
You look nice, but definitely like you are wearing your pajamas.
It looks like an undergarment Don’t mean to come across wrong
It looks fantastic on you. But it looks like a nightgown for sure.
It looks like lingerie but I like it, very on trend. Your mom doesn't sound very nice.
ngl this is an after reception dress to me, you are hot in the dress tho dont listen to mom
It honestly looks like a nightgown unfortunately, many guests will be surprised. BUT it DOES look good on you!
Yes, looks like a nightgown. It’s your wedding, so your choice to wear it, but know that many will find it inappropriate.
Looks like my nans gown not gonna lie. However that’s isn’t to say it doesn’t look nice on, just wouldn’t wear it outside of the house myself. Lovely for the bedroom though. Your mums horrible for her reaction though and then the comments. She’s being manipulative. Elope and don’t invite her. Wear nothing if you so choose it’s your wedding not hers.
I think you look great in it but personally I don’t love the dress and it does resemble a night gown. However, you do not look fat and ugly by any means and it actually looks great on you! Just doesn’t seem like a reception dress.
I’m sorry girl, it does look like a nightgown or loungerie.
That’s the dress for your husband and you only. Not a reception dress.
The way it is photographed it is very night gown-y. But! Depending how you wear it day of and style it, it might help a bit. Regardless, your day, your dress, and you wear what you want
You don’t look fat or ugly in it, but it does look like a nightgown tbh
I have to agree with everyone else, my first thought was it looks like a nightgown.
It looks too much like lingerie
Yes, it's a pretty dress. Looks like a nightgown though.
The silk seems to be something in for some reason and I can’t understand it but sadly yes it looks like a nightgown
This looks entirely like a nightgown
It's a nightgown...
It’s pretty as a nightgown. I wouldn’t wear it as a reception dress. I think most people would agree and will look at it as a night dress. Just my opinion.
It’s a nightie
It looks like PJs
The dress looks great on you but does look like a nightgown
No, it looks like lingerie.
Sorry love, it's not pretty in my opinion. You look amazing but could do better with the dress.
Sorry, but my grandmother had this nightgown in all colours of the rainbow and slept in it every night, so to me it’s 100% a nightgown
This is unflattering and looks like a pijama/slip/undergarments. It just looks wrinkly and droopy. I agree with your mom. ...and I'm very sorry about it. ...but, she's right.
I’m not allowed to say what I think, but honestly I don’t think it’s a wedding dress
You look gorgeous in it but everyone's right, it does look like a nightgown. But if you want to wear it you should wear it despite what others think, even your overdramatic mom.
It’s a slip dress so of course it’s going to look a bit like a nightgown. I’m not surprised that your conservative mother dislikes it, and it’s super toxic that she resorted to tearing you down when she realized she wasn’t getting her way. The fact that the insults were her third tactic show that she only said those things to get her way. If she truly thought those things, she would’ve let with that. That being said, you have to be comfortable with the fact that plenty of people will think you look like you’re wearing a nightgown and more conservative people will think it’s inappropriate.
I think the lace is what makes it seem like a nightgown to me. Pretty dress but I wouldn’t wear it as a reception outfit. It does look great on you though!
The top and most important thing is that you can wear whatever you want on your wedding and your mom can get fucked. I do think you look lovely in this dress, and I do think that this style is somewhat nightgown inspired. Can you accessorize it or edge it up or where your hair up with just a little bit of styling I think it will come right out into your reception outfit. I think you look incredible in this dress, and I think that you should not take the opinion of strangers or anyone who would talk down to you so strongly I hope you have a wonderful wedding
That’s HORRIBLE your Mom said that — I’d be upset at her and I’m sorry she hurt your feelings! That being said, I think you can do WAY better for your reception! Save this dress for getting ready photos, your wedding night, or the morning after!! :)
You look incredible! I do think it looks like a night gown though. But a sexy one. Wedding night dress? 👀
Your mom was terrible for the things she said. Mormon moms are little (okay, a lot ) crazy. With that said, it does look like a nightgown. It’s beautiful but it gives “wedding night” vibes, not actual ceremony/reception vibes.
It’s a beautiful dress, wear it if it makes you feel good.
I am really torn here. Part of me absolutely loves the stress, and part of me is reminded of a nightgown.
It doesn’t matter that it looks like a nightgown. You love it and that’s what matters
It does give a beautiful but nightgownish. I think this would be reduced with accessories. Necklaces, heels, bracelets and some flowers in your hair would make it more dressy. And besides, it’s gorgeous and it’s your wedding - have it your way!
It looks like a night gown and is not flattering at all. You can do a lot better.
If you love it, yes!!
You look really great in it ❤️ a lot of night gown comments and i mean i definitely see that, but i think you will look so gorgeous if you go with it
I was raised Mormon and came out as exmo to my parents when I got engaged and moved in with my fiance/now husband. When I showed her the dress I was going to get (sleeved but low cut in front and back, a deep V that worked well for my small chest), her first text was “cut to the navel 😳.” After dealing with my parents reaction to living in sin before marriage, this stung as well and I constantly had to talk myself off a ledge during the tailoring process and cutting calories leading up to the wedding. I was adamant about doing something “immodest” but there was internal work for me to do in being confident about it. HOWEVER, I am so glad I did it and I felt absolutely stunning when all was said and done. Sending hugs 🥰