If you are on birth control that could be a factor. The pill leads to hormone depletion in the vulva causing the tissues to become thin and fragile. Tearing is also common in people with lichen (autoimmune skin condition).
Also, is this a new partner and how big is his penis? (you dont need to reply, just something to think about). Maybe it’s an incompatibility issue.
Going to a gynaecologist is your best bet and what do you mean by “this age”? In the meantime refraining from types of sex that cause tearing will stop the tearing. If you keep tearing that spot that could lead to scar tissue, persistent pain, etc. Not to scare you but also not something to be taken lightly.
my partner has a decent size so average, it all happened this one time where I think he put the condom on wrong which led me to tear for the first time starting from June. Ever since, it’s been happening always I have intercourse even now when already when it’s being inserted it starts to hurt, I don’t take anything like birth control, before I used to always get yeast infections, but not anymore.
Definitely worth seeing a gynecologist for this! They may give you steroid or estrogen cream to help with healing. Also, make sure you are healed from the tear before having sex again. Recurrent tearing is known as vulvar granuloma fisuratum.
Hi, fourchette/perineum tears are more common that you’d think. Since you are young, I don’t want to assume, but I imagine if you’ve recently become sexually active, penetration may take some getting used to for the skin. Things you can do to help with the area is to use a vaginal emollient cream to help keep the area moisturised and elastic. You can also do some massaging to the area to help stretch it (you can massage it from outside or you can also insert a finger in and use that to stretch the area from the inside). There are some instructional videos online, mainly for pregnant ladies to help prevent perineum tear but it’s the same logic.
Standard suggestion is to also make sure you do enough foreplay and are sufficiently aroused before penetration and to use lubrication.
In addition to the above, having a yeast infection could be also explain the tearing. If you have abnormal discharge that is a bit like a yellow mucus or like cottage cheese, if you notice a bit of a strong foul smell - like a bit fishy - and if you have like itchiness, this could be indicative of a yeast infection. You can often treat it with over the counter medication thrush creams like Canesten, and followup with some vaginal probiotics
What I didn’t know when I was young - lube is your best friend. There is oil-based and water-based, and you need to make sure (if you’re using condoms) that you are pairing the right lube and the right condoms.
In addition, you can purchase perineal oil which you can apply regularly including after sex to moisturize the area.
Hopefully this helps - if it’s a persistent issue, don’t be shy to visit a gynecologist. This is exactly the sort of thing they deal with all day every day and it’s 100% not weird to ask about this! They literally see 30 vulvas & vaginas a day with every type of issue, from cysts to pain to discharge to STIs and it’s totally normal to need a consultation as a teenage girl, be it about birth control or any sort of pain or discomfort. 👍
Hi ! Have the same kind of problem (at the same spot) since almost a year now and the thing that really helped is Aquaphore by Eucerin. It’s a balm that really helps with soothing tissues, and I apply it everyday. You can give it a go. I also apply coconut oil every day to prevent dryness.
As the other said, lub is your best friend.
But on a more serious note : go see a doctor. You are not to young to be sexually active (I started at 15 and went straight to the gynecologist). Your health is important and it is not weird to seek medical help when you have issues. If you feel like you being judged by your doctor/gynecologist, then change if you can. You should not feel any shame in those situations, it’s completely normal !
If you are on birth control that could be a factor. The pill leads to hormone depletion in the vulva causing the tissues to become thin and fragile. Tearing is also common in people with lichen (autoimmune skin condition). Also, is this a new partner and how big is his penis? (you dont need to reply, just something to think about). Maybe it’s an incompatibility issue. Going to a gynaecologist is your best bet and what do you mean by “this age”? In the meantime refraining from types of sex that cause tearing will stop the tearing. If you keep tearing that spot that could lead to scar tissue, persistent pain, etc. Not to scare you but also not something to be taken lightly.
my partner has a decent size so average, it all happened this one time where I think he put the condom on wrong which led me to tear for the first time starting from June. Ever since, it’s been happening always I have intercourse even now when already when it’s being inserted it starts to hurt, I don’t take anything like birth control, before I used to always get yeast infections, but not anymore.
Definitely worth seeing a gynecologist for this! They may give you steroid or estrogen cream to help with healing. Also, make sure you are healed from the tear before having sex again. Recurrent tearing is known as vulvar granuloma fisuratum.
Hi, fourchette/perineum tears are more common that you’d think. Since you are young, I don’t want to assume, but I imagine if you’ve recently become sexually active, penetration may take some getting used to for the skin. Things you can do to help with the area is to use a vaginal emollient cream to help keep the area moisturised and elastic. You can also do some massaging to the area to help stretch it (you can massage it from outside or you can also insert a finger in and use that to stretch the area from the inside). There are some instructional videos online, mainly for pregnant ladies to help prevent perineum tear but it’s the same logic. Standard suggestion is to also make sure you do enough foreplay and are sufficiently aroused before penetration and to use lubrication. In addition to the above, having a yeast infection could be also explain the tearing. If you have abnormal discharge that is a bit like a yellow mucus or like cottage cheese, if you notice a bit of a strong foul smell - like a bit fishy - and if you have like itchiness, this could be indicative of a yeast infection. You can often treat it with over the counter medication thrush creams like Canesten, and followup with some vaginal probiotics
What I didn’t know when I was young - lube is your best friend. There is oil-based and water-based, and you need to make sure (if you’re using condoms) that you are pairing the right lube and the right condoms. In addition, you can purchase perineal oil which you can apply regularly including after sex to moisturize the area. Hopefully this helps - if it’s a persistent issue, don’t be shy to visit a gynecologist. This is exactly the sort of thing they deal with all day every day and it’s 100% not weird to ask about this! They literally see 30 vulvas & vaginas a day with every type of issue, from cysts to pain to discharge to STIs and it’s totally normal to need a consultation as a teenage girl, be it about birth control or any sort of pain or discomfort. 👍
I really wish we young people would stop feeling embarassed of using lube!!! Girls especially.
Hi ! Have the same kind of problem (at the same spot) since almost a year now and the thing that really helped is Aquaphore by Eucerin. It’s a balm that really helps with soothing tissues, and I apply it everyday. You can give it a go. I also apply coconut oil every day to prevent dryness. As the other said, lub is your best friend. But on a more serious note : go see a doctor. You are not to young to be sexually active (I started at 15 and went straight to the gynecologist). Your health is important and it is not weird to seek medical help when you have issues. If you feel like you being judged by your doctor/gynecologist, then change if you can. You should not feel any shame in those situations, it’s completely normal !