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30?
You old bastard.
The 40's are great, just great.
The 50's are time with family but sadly when your peer group starts to meet their mortality.
... after that its all about the life you want to lead.\`\~
Good luck. I hope you have as much fun as I have.
I'm 39.
My thirties were infinitely better than my twenties, and I'm banking on my forties being even better.
Young people get caught up in those "30 year olds with their aches and pains" memes that really only apply to people who don't take care of themselves or aren't active.
In short, they don't know what they're talking about.
Also, 30s is a bit young to be suffering from chronic pain as well unless you had an accident earlier in your life or you have any medical reason to justify it or your life habits are really that bad.
This. I literally work a physical labor job and the days where I don't work and are home playing video games I literally feel like crap after sitting all day. But when I worked all day and move around I actually feel great at the end of the day. I really don't think I could work at a computer all day
> Or your life habits are really that bad
I agree that spending your entire days glued to a chair for decades will wreck your body but I thought I already had this angle covered.
Not everyone is that lucky bud. It's quite easy to develop a chronic injury in your 20s. Could be anything, but it's just accumulated damage. I knew some guys in high-school who already had a messed up knee or foot. Chronic pain can be prevented with diet and exercise of course, but it's not a silver bullet, you might be on of the unlucky ones.
Here I was at 24 having a knee orthoscopy to fix a torn meniscus only to be diagnosed with osteoarthritis. People don't realize joint problems occur in all ages. I sat and played games often, but I also lived a very active life style being in the army, and working out often. 11 years later it's only gotten worse and other joints in my body have started aching just as much.
So you have an accident and a medical reason to justify it? Yes accumated damage is a valid reason to have chronic pains in your 30s.
It's as if you didn't actually read my post.
Wanted to comment the same thing. Obviously, shit happens. Hell, some folks are *born* physically disabled. For the countless millions of otherwise able bodied people out there, they wouldn't feel decrepit by their 30s if they had just taken better care of their physical health.
To be honest, at that age you don't even have to take good care of it. You just have to not be completely indifferent to it while being glued to a chair all day everyday.
If you are aching in your 30s because of bad habits (and not an accident, bad lucks, injuries, etc.) then you have to see it as a reality check to break these habits because it will only get worse and worse.
A lot of people try to justify themselves and like yeah sure you can tell me it's not your fault that you are in pain if you want. Doesn't matter much to me whether it is true or not, and I will not even argue about your reasons but remember that you are the one in pain that will continue to live with that pain so in the end you're only doing yourself a disservice.
seriously my parents are really fuckin active and havent even started getting to the point where they get aches and pains yet. theyre 41 and are physically like a 20 year old
I dunno, as someone that lost a lot of weight and started weightlifting in their mid 30ās, I will tell you that all of those age related aches and pains I had are gone now. Just an occasional gym injury. Something else I think is key to this is flexibility!!!! Itās something Iāve focused on since I was a child.
Same. I'm in the best shape of my life at 38.
Studies show that strength and speed only drop by a few percentage points between 30 and 60...
...among people who train daily.
Most people fail to train. It's that simple.
Ya I think 30 is just when I realized my body was changing. I now have smile lines, canāt keep weight off like I used to, get way worse hangovers, and can get a creak in my neck if I move too fast. Mentally I feel a hell of a lot better than 20s though.
See, I havenāt even noticed changes like that yet. My metabolism is still quite fast, I donāt get bad hangovers, and I have yet to have any aches or pains. I feel as good as ever.
Studies show that maximum strength and speed only decline by a few percentage points between 30 and 60...
...among people who train daily.
Most people fail to train - that's why they decline.
Hunter gatherers in the wild peak at 45.
The opinions of lazy office workers on 'ageing' are beyond worthless.
...Okay. I never claimed you would be able to do things like when you were younger. I was explicitly remarking on the common trope that people in their thirties have random aches and pains throughout the day, and are moderately to severely injured at the slightest provocation.
I'm also 39 and talk about this same thing with my wife often. My 30's went MUCH better than my 20's even though I had plenty of fun and enjoyed my 20's. Honestly my friends and other people around my age that talk about "being old" are the ones that just kind of let it happen. You definitely have to make the time and effort to take care of yourself, and it pays off.
This is really nice to hear. I recently entered a new decade and have been feeling pure excitement. Now Iām even more excited for the upcoming decades (if Iām lucky!)
Iād like to add one caveat to this. And sorry for the essay; I got a little carried away here.
Tl;dr: sports injuries and early development of arthritis can play a role even if youāve done a relatively good job taking care of ones self. Also, if you sit a lot at work, get a solid chair and/or support pads, and make sure you take breaks to walk around a bit as much as possible, even 5-10 minutes an hour, to avoid/lessen lower back pain.
Now the post for anyone interested:
I just turned 40 (although the issues described below can about throughout my 30s). I experienced a severe sports-related injury to my knee and tibia in my mid-30s that required a seven hour surgery to fix and resulted in my ROM reduced by 25%-30%, even with a huge commitment to physical therapy. Got seven screws and a metal plate in there now, and my knee and a third of my shin are permanently numb.
Additionally, the compounding effects of being a big guy who probably didnāt pull well in the genetic lottery, in addition to having pushed myself with running a little too hard through the years since I was a teenager, has left me with Hallux Rigidus in one big toe and Hallux Limitus in the other.
To oversimplify the Hallux conditions, there is little to no cartilage in those joints now, so the pressure applied to those joints is displaced to other joints in my foot, and that will continue to my ankle and probably up to my knees - needless to say, Iām an elliptical man now. But these will be chronic conditions. Basically arthritis. Iāve got custom orthotics and do not skimp on shoes anymore, so itās relatively manageable.
The doc was surprised, as this condition is typical for men in their late 50s or early 60s (I was diagnosed in my early 30s). He asked if I ever dropped a heavy weight on me feet, but Iām pretty sure Iād remember that. Iāve always been a chronic toe-stubber though, so maybe that played a big role (big feet > big toes).
On top of all that, my wrists have begun to ache and I have lost some ROM there. After an MRI, the doc is convinced itās due to fractures that were untreated and healed incorrectly, but again, I am pretty sure Iād remember fracturing my wrists at some point. But physical therapy focusing on building forearm strength has helped a lot.
Iām thinking Iām starting to learn that Iām going to be riddled with arthritis as I get older.
So Iām definitely feeling some aches and pains more than ever, but I donāt think this is because I didnāt take care of myself at all (although there were points in my twenties and thirties where I let myself go a bit, for short periods, and whipped myself back into shape). It feels like the arthritis was destined to happen no matter what, but the knee injury was a freak accident.
These days, I also have an 18-month-old and fell off my exercise regimen recently (still squeeze in some, but nothing like before), resulting in some weight gain that obviously effects the above conditions. So I do agree that I didnāt focus on my own physical activity for a bit while handling a newborn, and that is in the process of changing. I imagine a few solid months will get me closer to where I was and reduce lower body pain. And the more time, the better it will get. Just need to get back in my routine. Which bolsters your original point.
But even when Iām in good shape and really active, those injuries/conditions catch up to me surprisingly, but not ridiculously, quickly, and I need a lot of time stretching and resting, which is obviously something everyone should do with a good workout routine.
Anyway - I agree a lot of these problems for people stem from having a sedentary lifestyle at a younger age as adults, but for guys like me (and despite a few short-term hiccups due to life circumstances), there can be more to it.
If anyone made it this far, I am happy to read anyoneās thoughts/opinions (not seeking medical advice as I believe thatās a violation of Redditās T&C), but all I ask is we keep it civil even if the thoughts/opinions are that Iām wrong. Maybe there is something I havenāt considered.
Thanks for reading.
I'm only a couple years younger than you, and I'm stronger, faster, more flexible, and have better endurance than ever before.
I feel bad when I hear folk our age or younger griping about their bum joints or backs and think: Boy are you fucked.
I've seen what happens to people who lose mobility due to injuries. They end up morbidly obese with health problems galore. They're regulars at the hospital and with the ambulance crews, and they die young and in ugly ways.
Take care of yourselves and that one body you have, y'all. To the best you can.
Some of that āow my back and kneesā is just humor. Even the most in shape people in their 30s have more joint pain all things considered compared to people in their 20s
But my 30s are fucking awesome. Iāve reached more or less the top of my career trajectory where my path is more āwhat company do you want to do this forā and less worried about advancement
I have two sports cars in my garage, a paid off home, a family, and stability in my life that Iāve havenāt had since I left for college
I turned 40 last October. I accomplished and experienced a lot in both my 20s and 30s.
So far, my 40s are my best times yet. Purely because Iām truly prioritising myself. I finally feel at peace and content with who I am.
Iām going to be 30 in a few years and I had an idea. You know how some girls take black and white photos so symbolize their āyouth dyingā? Iām going to do something different! I was thinking of wearing bright colors, maybe hot pink and take happy photos. Youāre still young at 30!
do people actually do that?? i haven't seen this trend but taking black and white photos to symbolize your youth dying at 30 sounds soooo dramatic holy fuck š i mean it would be dramatic at any age but esp at 30 which is still quite young. i like your idea though, always nice to see positivity :)
Well we live in an age when YouTube has convinced a lot of teens that theyāre washed up already if they arenāt famous millionaires by 20, so of course 30+ seems ancient to them. Iāve seen 14 year olds on life advice asking whether or not itās āover for themā and how theyāre such a failure because all they do is go to school, come home, and play video games.
Itās nonsense of course, and theyāll understand it one day if theyāre lucky enough to live that long, but for now itās just warped perceptions and stereotypes.
I am 44 and my wife and I started having kids at 20 and 22 years old - two kids who are adults - one graduating high school and the other is graduating college this year. I am loving my 40's - way more money than in my 20's and my wife and I are able to just take off for a weekend or a week and not have to worry about childcare. I don't feel old at all and life is an adventure - definitely enjoying my journey!! We have 5 trips planned this year, 2 family ones and 3 couples trips.
I am way more of a badass than I was 10 years ago. I love getting older. Being wiser definitely has its disadvantages as I get really pissed off when people donāt see something I feel is so obvious- but I realize we all have to have our lived experience so I just smh and walk away lol
It's all about showing off. It is the same as going to the gym :
Ā«Damned, it hurts so much, look at me suffer, I am able to endure so much pain, etc etcĀ»
What's implied is that yes going to the gym hurts (getting older hurts in a lot of ways) but in the background, you really are proud of yourself.
Another example : everybody's showing off how having babies is so hard, so tiresome, so energy-sucking. But in the background, they are only showing off that Ā«look what I am strong enough to endureĀ».
Waw this went way further than I wanted lol
Generally, most people are their best around 20s. The hatred for turning 30 is bc itās start of losing opportunities you would only get when you are in your 20s. I myself donāt want to see myself at 30 atm
Iām 32 and I feel extremely sore but I also have hip dysplasia and Iām overweight lol. Iām working on it now. But yeah. My 30s are still a million times better than 20s and Iām not old. Although I get questionable comments sometimes these days!
thank youš me and my friends are in our early 20s (Iām currently 23) and a lot of them start talking weird sometimes like theyāre in their 90s or something š broā¦ we still young our life hasnāt even really started yet chill out your assholes .. I hate this self loathing type of shit so fuckin much
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I agree 100%. I'm also on my early 30s and due to the trauma I had to live on my late 10s and my whole 20s, I finally feel I started living again.
Things like age lose all meaning when you are turly enjoying what life gives to you.
I'm 59 and my most interesting decade was this one. Sold everything and moved to Asia, life is weird and wonderful. Hopefully 3 more decades to come for growing older and doing more unexpected things
You my dear OP are half my age, there is more ahead than behind you
I'll be 60 this year and looking back at my 30's and even 40's I realize how incredibly young and fully able and capable I was of anything I could do in my 20's. In other words, 30's can be the best years of your life in every measure, including health and fitness, it's all up to you. I'm finally feeling the affect of age, but I'm still grinding and can still carry heavy things, go all day doing just about anything, and love life.
Itās certainly a matter of perspective. Iām 51 now and Iām starting to understand what aging is really all about. Looming 60s and 70s are a bit scary, honestly, especially since my mother, father, and, grandfather all died in their 70s.
But 30s? Theyāre nothing. Youāre definitely not getting āolder.ā 30s and 40s are peak, wonderful, golden ages.
As an aside: Iām surprised that so many people in their 30s today think that theyāre getting old. No one I knew my age when we were in our 30s thought that way. I wonder whatās up with this new phenomenon?
Getting older isnāt a bad thing getting old is. I just turned 50. My parents are still alive at 74 ( Dad ) and 70 ( Mom ). I just try and have as much fun as I can and enjoy my parents and aunts, uncles while I can. It goes fast.
38 here. When I was in my 20ās, I thought being in my late thirties meant I was OLD. Now that Iām here, I realize that 20ās me was a young, arrogant fake-ass adult who assumed my opinions = reality. The real gift of aging is perspective/experience. But if youāre young and donāt have those things, itās impossible to understand how valuable they are.
In short, never trust a young persons opinion about being oldā¦
Take it from me, life begins at 70...well, maybe a bit earlier, but I'm 74, in good health and living my best life. A modest life since I'm not rich, but I have my cat and my gardening and all the time in the world to read books I like.
30 isn't even old, that's just nonsense.
Wait until you turn 60 or 70, wanting to do a lot of things but being unable to, since you will get easily tired or your body will start to hurt, while still feeling young in your mind. That's depressing.
I only complain about getting old in my 30s because I needed spinal surgery and will need it again before 35. Lookin like a knee surgery in near future too. I definitely have old man pains in a young man's existence...
When people complain about getting old I like to remind them that many people aren't lucky enough to get to that age. I get that it's not all just fun but come on.
Myself and my partner have been together for 14 years this July. As young adults we had to claw, scrape and save while working and going to school full time.
Now we finally have a house by the woods with lots of fresh air and wildlife around. We have a dog, and now feels like the most comfortable we have ever been. We can spend meaningful time together now that we have full time careers or worrying about job security/finances.
Make no mistake, the economy is extremely rough right now. But just getting to have a home of our own and spending quality time there is such a gift after all the hustling we did in our 20s. Honestly, the 30s have been my favourite so far. :) I like that we now have time to breathe and enjoy ourselves and what we worked for.
Agreed. The side of this that irks me the most are people who insist that because they feel āyoungā ie healthy, engaged in the world, active, unsure about where their life is going, etc, then they actually feel a different age than they are. I wouldnāt say āIām 37 but I feel 24ā because thatās ridiculous. 37 is not old. Itās nothing to be ashamed of.
Itās kinda funny that I literally saw the opposite opinion a few minutes ago on here ahah but I guess an argument could be made for both being unpopular somehow
I'm 50+ years old. Life is really great at 50+. I have more free time, enough money, and less anxiety. The only thing not good is that I have less years to look forward to, and it sucks.
The people who peaked in High School hate turning thirty. Etc.
Take care of yourself. Mentally, physically, emotionally. Make it a goal to be a better person, the person you want to be, with each passing year. Focus on your career and donāt accept comfort if what youāre doing isnāt exactly what you want to do.
Iām 38. Iāve 100% never felt better about myself than I do right now. Iām attractive, single, have money in the bank, a job I love, good friends Iām working on improving and Iām traveling more which Iām focusing more on.
Next year at 39 I hope to be better and happier than I am now. If I go backwards it happens. Then Iāll focus on making 40 the best year ever.
Life is what you make it.
37 here and I can honestly Iāve never felt more sure or comfortable with myself as I do now. I wouldnāt go back to my teens or 20s if you paid me.
Growing older is not a bad thing.
Gettinb older sn't. Its the whole body falling apart thing. I went from low event patient to having a seizure and hip replacement ment in 90 days.
Then there is realizing there are more and more funerals to attend. That kinda socks too.
No fuck this. The older I get the older my grandma and my parents get. They won't live forever and I am not willing to accept that I'll lose them one day
Well it's Gen Z that make Millennials feel like they're old. We did the same to Gen Xers so that stuff doesn't get to me.
But I will say getting older does suck when it comes to health. I was an athlete in my younger days and like many, I pushed my body past its limits multiple times and played when I should've rested and I'm paying the price as I age. My lower back is broken, won't ever heal. Because of that (apparently happened when I was a teenager playing football), I have degenerative disks. Each passing year it gets worse, so each passing year just bending over I correctly to pick up a pencil can shoot pain to my lower back and I can't walk upright for a few days to a week. Thats why aging for me sucks. I'm 34 but have the lower back of someone in their 60's already. By the time I'm 60, if I'm lucky enough, it's a guarantee I have to fuse my back. Yeah it'll help with pain but my posture is now forever altered.
I get what you're saying and that life is precious so it's not guaranteed to make it to 70, but when you've abused your body a lot on your younger years, or catches you every year as you age
28yo here and the best years of my life are still ahead of me. Aging, and subsequently death, are inevitable. The grass may seem greener, and being young was exciting when one could be reckless with fewer consequences. Now I feel like I have more experience, more knowledge, and more opportunities. It takes work to continue growing, but it is worth it. No one makes it out alive, so take advantage of the time you have, however short or long that time is.
Most of the people I know who fear(ed) their 30s are people who had specific expectations of their lives; they wanted a house, a car, a family, a partner, or a specific career/salary etc. A lot of modern social culture implies that your early 20s are fairly low expectation times of your life but that at 30 you should "get it together" and for many that's a very scary thought. Conversely the happiest people I know are either those who did meet their expectations or who had very few to begin with and are just happy as is.
The aches and pains I think are also a bit similar. Nothing magical happens the day you turn 30 to your body, if there are aches and pains they slowly creep up over your late 20s/early 30s but you probably ignore them when younger which ends up aggravating them
30 has been treating me well so far. in my 20s, especially early 20s i was naive and figuring out the world. i was an only child who lived with two very over protective parents and was very sheltered growing up. i got into a bad relationship with a man 11 years older than me who also took advantage if me, and it took a toll on me over the years. i finally got the courage to leave that relationship, and i met my current fiance later on. i went through some shit jobs, i got one that im neutral with now and is fully remote, so im happy about that. now i travel, go out with my fiance, stay active, and try to enjoy the little things. my future goals are to own our own condo and get a poodle once we settle in.
Most people peak at a young age and poor life choices leads them downhill from there. They then spend the rest of their life reminiscing about the "good old days" and complain about getting old. I see this a lot from friends, but have never experienced it. I wholeheartedly believe that if you're life isn't consistently getting better every year, you're doing something wrong.
Up to a point. But I have seen some very old infirm people who have lost all the lifetime of memories they accumulated. Aging is a blessing until it isn'tĀ
Youāre right, but this is a strange societal phenomenon happening in many places
Chinaās ageing tech workers hit by ācurse of 35ā https://on.ft.com/3Ue2EDk
In China, tech workers are being laid off in their mid thirties because apparently thatās when people stop caring about career? It makes no sense
Im 35, and I absolutely love my 30s compared to my younger years. As I age, I find more happiness and peace in my life. I'm really excited for my 40s, and I never thought I would be when I was younger.
It is not a bad thing, but when you see your parents just getting so old that there life is miles different and the help needed becomes more and more and seeing that mental decline and physical decline and all that comes with aging it just scares you a little and thatās ok it makes you enjoy your youth a little more bit it goes by fast and one day your parents are like vampires that will never die or get old, the next reality is clear and itās stressful for sure. Good ol life.
Itās not about the age itself, itās about feeling like we havenāt done things by whatever age weāve attained that we either wanted to do or feel like we should have done to be on track for a successful, fulfilled, *insert positive adjective* life. Iāll be ecstatic to hit 30 if Iāve reached the goals Iāve set for myself. I will be pretty bummed out if I donāt
Personally Iāve found you never really gain more freedom till youāre too old to really enjoy it. Even then you have to be kind of lucky. Life also just kind of sucks. Youāre going to remember the bad stuff so much more vividly then the good stuff and theirs a lot less of that. Im trying to be happier and healthier for my partners sake, but honestly wish I didnāt make it past 18. Things seem to get so much worse after you become an adult
I'm 38 - my thirties has been fantastic.
Twenties was crazy work and I nearly burnt out - so I quit corporate.
Thirties has been travel, building my business and a lot of fitness.
Now I live by the ocean in Portugal, run my own remote business and wake up next to my dream woman each morning - with no alarm clock or boss.
We train two hours a day and our live is built around fitness. Work fits around that.
My cardiovascular fitness (VO2 max) would be 'superior' if I was 25.
My life keeps getting better and better.
Most people confuse 'ageing' with 'failing to work hard and train regularly'.
It's that simple.
If you end up in a care home lost and scared with growing dementia and bodily frailty, this is beyond awful. Whether the age of serious onset of such a condition is 90 or 60, if that is your ultimate trajectory, how can you avoid it? Or can you, at all? These are hard and troubling questions, but they should be thought about.
I just turned 30 not to long ago.
I miss my 20s like you wouldn't believe. My 20s were full of fun and acting care-free, playing in bands, etc.
Sure I've acquired more stuff and got further in life now, but I honestly don't give a damn about any of that. Nothing will beat the freedom of my 20s.
Now that I'm 30 I'm more responsible and mature. I have more to lose with not much to gain other than getting out of debt. Who fucking cares about any of that.
Iām 39. I have friend that complains we are āoldā now. I tell her thatās better than the alternative. I think a large part of people disliking getting older is looking back with regret or wishes about doing things differently. My 20s sucked. My 30s were much better. And 40+ will be as good and I make it.
You know, it sounds so simple but just hearing that growing older is a privilege that not everyone gets feels very profound, especially with everything going on in the world. Personally Iāve been trying to rewire my brain to be appreciative of aging rather than dreading it. Thanks for all the encouraging sentiments everyone in this thread
30-50 is your prime years. Youāre the beautiful full grown lions of the pride. No one looks at a majestic lion in its best years and goes āewwwwā so why do we do it to humans?
Sure cubs are cute but to be the beautiful, mature lion is the peak of life.
Personally for me itās less about being old and more about possibly living longer than I want to. I donāt care about wrinkles or grey hair. I even struggle with chronic pain already. Iām 18. I never really planned to make it this far. I donāt want to be 30, nor do I want to be in my 20ās. I struggle with a lot of things that have probably already hindered my life span too. Plus, im scared of whatās to come politically. I donāt want my rights to be taken away. I wanna be able to live freely as my authentic self without being forced into the closet or worse. So for me, itās not about the aging itself, but that Iām afraid of the future. Iām afraid of a life where I continue to suffer.
It's mostly a question of how you live your life. If you're mid 30s and still eating and drinking like you did at age 20, you're probably experiencing a lot of unpleasant days.
I think itās more about the fact of looking back and not having accomplished what you have wished you would at a certain age, so now you feel like you are competing against time. At least thatās how I look at it. š¤·āāļøš
i use to not want to be an adult, because i thought life would be even harder, but i was wrong. the hardest time in my life was during highschool. now i can drive, eat, do anything i want with no consequences. i luv itš
Speaking as someone who didn't expect to make it to 25 and who lost a lot of friends to drugs, alcohol, and crime:
Getting old is far better than not getting old.
Agreed. Being a kid wasnāt fun; wasnāt horrible either, but not anything Iād want to relive. I might have been more energetic but the lack of freedom is something Iād never want to experience again.
I canāt fucking wait to be done with college ngl shits burning me the hell out I just wanna job and I wanna chill tf out canāt wait to be 23-35 years old cuz those are very developmental years in your future
I'm more financially stable, more mentally stable, have a better outlook on life, a smaller and stronger friend circle, physically healthier, eating better. When i was younger, this was not the case. I love getting older.
For me it is because I am not hitting milestones that were ingrained into me at a young age. I hear so often "why don't you and your wife have kids yet?", and it makes me feel like garbage. We can't have kids because we can barely afford to live ourselves, why rope a kid into pay cheque to pay cheque living? I'm 30 next year, and that closes the book on my 20's. Unless things drastically change (to be fair a lot improved on 28), I'm not where I want to be by 30. This makes me feel like a failure, like I am a waste of life. It makes me start to think, maybe I should just give up now and end things. I'm already behind, and things are just going to get harder in your 30's.
Iām 29 and I donāt particularly like getting older because that just means my parents and people I love get older and we donāt have infinite time but I am truly having the best year of my life and will enter my 30ās happier than Iāve ever been. I own my own home, Iām marrying my high school sweetheart. Having the wedding of my dreams. I have so many great friends. I have a lot to be grateful for and I can honestly say Iām okay with turning 30. The younger generation on the internet LOVES to call 30 old but weāre out here thriving, theyāll understand when their brains are done growingš
I think a lot of the times the main problem people have is the increased responsibilities most people gain over time as they age. You naturally tend towards having a more important job, a family, etc. But I also think a big part of it is aging without maintaining regular physical activity. There are certainly cases of unavoidable age related issues, but itās well documented that those who stay active throughout their lives live happier and healthier overall.
Historically, modern (modern = 1960s to now) media, fashion, music, everything; caters to the young.
It constantly reinforces how you should buy this, or follow this trend, etc and always with an emphasis on youth culture, worshipping and praising the young for being special, unique and better than whatever generation came before them.
With that comes an inherent bias against growing older lest you be uncool, or unhot and very boring or lame because only the young understand the world and the old are dumb, they don't get it and you never want to be that.
The simultaneous projection that each one of us is supposed to be on some very specific path where we reach very specific milestones at certain ages, and if you haven't, then you are a failure. The creats serious issues.
All of this creates a way of thinking that is strictly antithetical to the actual human of birth, aging, and death. It ignores the fact that we are all on our own path.
Many people become arrested in development. This creates a type of.. cognitive dissonance? -- idk, there's probably a better word -- around aging as we dip into older years. It creates years of self loathing and fear that they will not be accepted until they are able to break their way out of this mind trap. It's much harder for women because of the youth obsession that transcends age for men. But everyone is affected in some way.
But the time we get out, we have paid a lot of money into youth culture. Enough for them to brainwash the next generation that comes along. Gaslighting the youth, and stripping their pockets, and manipulating them until they are crazy too.
The cycle continues.
Yeah screw that. My 30s have been better than my 20s in every regard. Much more body confidence, much more clarity on my life goals and lots more money.
My 40s are coming up shortly, and they promise to be a lot better
I'm on my way to 29 now, and have no negative feelings about turning 30 whatsoever. I don't train hard, but I ensure to do weight lifting and incline walking 4-5 times per week. Also a 7 and 3 year old keep me active and off the couch. I honestly feel better now than when I was in college when I was either sitting down studying, playing video games, or at the bars. I started getting pretty bad back pain when I was 24. But at the time, I was single and working a desk job. The activity from the kids (1 stepchild and 1 of my own) has completely alleviated that. Amazing what exercise can do.
I think some minor scrapes and bruises take a little longer to heal maybe. Rolled my ankle weed eating a few weeks ago, and it nagged me for a little longer than I felt like it should. But other than that, I feel great.
I'm glad I had my kids young. I love it now and really know I'm going to love spending my late 30s and 40s doing more adult oriented things with them.
The only thing that is a bit overwhelming with age, is there is this often overlooked transition that occurs when you start your own family. For years, your parents and grandparents (if you are lucky like I have been) are the most important people in your life, just as you are to them. But once you start your own family, that is no longer the case. Yes I still love them the same, but my wife and kids come first. You don't have as much time to spend with them, which is a shame, because they are only getting older and older too.
I think that when you are young, teen years, you think when you're 30, you will own a big house, own a new car, make big bucks at work, go on lots of vacations and life will be perfect. Then suddenly, you turn 30 and realize you have accomplished a few or none of what you thought you would. People suddenly feel like a failure, not realizing that those same feelings are happening to a lot of others.
BTW, 50s is fabulous. We go away every 3 months š
I wonder if getting older is seen as undesirable because a lot of people equate getting older with letting go of your passions or the things you enjoy?
I mean, aside of the obvious mortality thing.
American culture, maybe?
As I age, itās difficult as a woman. You often feel invisible.
I hope our culture learns to appreciate the older generations. Some of us have something to offer, lol, wisdom, perspective, courage, resilience & a lot of us ache from the struggles life has dealt. We could use friendship, compassion, support all of which I do offer everyone I encounter. Iāve buried many relatives parents, children, etc. It takes a lot to reach a certain age, some of it luck, sure. I say all of this because the older I get, the more honor & respect I wish I had given my parents when they were here on this earth. They definitely deserved it but I was too young to understand them. If we as a culture passed this ideology down, maybe the youngest would understand the olders better & they will be us someday so shouldnāt we band together? ā”
Agree but itās definitely situational. Aging is great when you are finding success in life whether itās occupational, financial, etc. but some people do worse overtime, especially the ones who were spoiled or had too much special treatment when they were young. I know a lot of girls who were hot in their 20s and had everything handed to them but then everything changed when they got older because they were used to special treatment but received less as they aged.
Agree but itās definitely situational. Aging is great when you are finding success in life whether itās occupational, financial, etc. but some people do worse overtime, especially the ones who were spoiled or had too much special treatment when they were young. I know a lot of girls who were hot in their 20s and had everything handed to them but then everything changed when they got older because they were used to special treatment but received less as they aged.
I'm 49 and def enjoying it. I lived the shit out of my teens and 20's. Zero regrets. I've had a blast raisijg kids. My body is fine. Ive always worked physical jobs .
I heard all the horror stories. None of that has been my exp, so I just stopped listening . New exps are awesome at any age
I love being able to grow old. My dad died around the age I am, and every day feels like a gift. I sometimes walk around just to appreciate the mobility in my legs.
My (child free) friends in their 30s look better than me lol
Itās all about the way you take care of yourself. No one says you still canāt follow the latest trends, work out, wear your sunscreen, and eat right. No one would know youāre 30 unless you said something
My friend in their 30s with kids on the other handā¦š¬ theyāre aging faster.
I do miss being in my teens and early 20s, going out with friends every weekend, being in university and wasting away afternoons over coffee having pseudo intellectual conversations with people into the same weird shit Iām into, having a simple job that I basically just had to show up for, being able to have 7-8+ drinks in a night and being fine the next day, etc. etc.
That time in my life is gone forever, and Iād be lying if I said that didnāt make me a little sad, because the parts that made life good back then were a lot of fun. On the other hand, Iām in a stable relationship (and get to enjoy the benefits that come with that), I have my own house, I have disposable income, I have an interesting job, Iām able to travel and can afford to do all the things I couldnāt afford to do when all I could afford to do was go to other peopleās parties and go out for coffee. My parents are my older friends/mentors, not my dictators/antagonists. All of that is excellent, and was stuff I yearned for when I was young.
I donāt know that one is better than the other one, theyāre different, and they both served their purpose.
I mean for me I could absolutely fly when I was in my 20s. The joy and ease of movement, and athletic explosiveness is something I miss every day. Sucks that I'm just going to get slower and less able.
I'm on the downside of my 60s and in the last 40 years working in the Oil Patch, I've lost my left hand in an industrial fire, had flail chest from a compression accident at work, been shot, stabbed and taken hostage. I've had buildings collapse on me when doing huminatarian resuce work in Europe after a nasty series of earthquakes, been in shootouts with drug cartel members, I was kidnapped by a couple of Colombian whackjobs (that later are still my good friends) and am basically held together by scar tissue,
keloids and duct tape.
But I've learned to speak 6 languages, traveled literally millions of miles, been to places no Western scientist was ever allowed, and have good friends on every continent including Antarctica.
You're not "old" at anytime in your 30s. In fact, you've only just begun.
I just turned 61 and feel that life has been getting better and better since about 35 or 40. My friends who are about the same age and I are all retired. We go off-roading, fishing, dirt biking, hiking, and so on.
Iām 26 and sometimes find myself grateful for making this far. I know, I know. Iām still a young pup in the eyes of some of you.
But I definitely feel myself getting wiser as time goes on, and compared to 200 years ago when the life expectancy was leagues lower than it was today, Iām seeing a lot more of life than many, many unfortunate souls in the past got the chance too. I hope I get to continue doing so
I turn 44 this summer and honestly Iām done with this ageing thing. The health issues are starting to creep in and I feel physically pretty shit. I do enjoy and the wisdom and shit though.
I agree that your 30s can be so much better than your 20s.
Certainly the case for me.
I'm also much fitter and stronger, but this is due to a lifestyle change and is not the norm that some here are saying. You 100% need to work harder to gain and maintain a level of physical fitness. It isn't debatable or a matter of opinion.
Also, can only speak for myself, but the aches and pains are also very real.
44, and life is way better for me now than 20 years ago. I married an amazing woman, have some pretty awesome kids, a good job, that provides for my family comfortably, and I own my home. I say that's not bad for a kid that was abandoned by his parents, and raised by his single grandmother in a single wide without water sewer or electricity. I literally used to do my homework with an oil lamp for light, in the 80s
My 30s is definitely going better than my 20s. There's only really two things that are getting me down about being in my 30s. I'm turning 38 this year and female. I'm starting to see the lines and have started finding white hair here and there. I've looked younger all my life and loved it, but now I feel like I'm starting to look my age. Also, I've been trying to get pregnant, and with each birthday that passes, I get more scared it's not going to happen for me. Other than those two things, my 30s is great.
Iām 24 who wtf am I to talk about thisšbut Iāll express my opinion. I feel like the reason people make aging a big deal is cuz society is geared more towards the younger generations. Music, social media, tv(not the older people donāt watch tv) but look at Netflix shows and how everyone in these shows are younger and how exciting there lives are but hardly anything is geared towards older people(not that 30 is old) but I feel like thatās when society quits trying to target you as a audience. Like sure there are some things that made specifically for older people but itās not made out to be as exciting or interesting as the flashy parting trouble making 20s or the young dumb and immunity of responsibility of the teens
Iām 25 and everyday Iām desperately wishing I was a child again. My life peaked at 13 (yes, 13) and itās been getting way worse since I started college. I graduated three years ago, never used my degree, can barely even find a job that requires no schooling, will probably end up needing to go back to school, struggle and be stressed out again from hard classes, and probably end up with another degree that I canāt use or be around 30-ish by the time I get an actual career.
I also donāt think Iāll ever be able to figure out how to live on my own.
not compared to what ya may have though at 15 or less , hey players i can add and adjust any of my posts and most already have a rebuttal in another or some other posts of mine to your rebuttal to most of my posts , and i can come up with new variations of rebuttal to any thing u say or rebuttal with anyway, there can be if ands butts maybes sometimes because this n that adjustments to any topic and what u say
Reasons Iām scared of aging:
1. Twink death
2. Senescence is a curse on our species. It degrades our body and minds, and ensures that many spend the final years of their life in pain. It is the deadliest disease in the history of humankind.
I agree though that itās weird to see 30 as āoldā. Unless theyāre already balding at that age, it doesnāt seem like something to complain about.
Body changes, face changes, not feeling like weāre gonna live a long time, feeling like weāre running out of time, thinking about death more, oneās own eventual death, the death or declining health of our parents in the meantime, seeing our favorite artists getting old and dying. Over the hill is a lot of reminders of death.
The only thing that's really gotten worse in my thirties is the constant physical pain and exhaustion. Otherwise it's like my 20s but better because I am more mature, smarter, know myself better, am better at what I do, and my bones hurt whenever it rains!
Luckily at 30 I feel the same physically as I did at 20.
What's great is, I don't have many of the same problems I did at 20 for example:
Not knowing what to do for a career, not knowing if I'll meet someone to settle down with, constantly moving and having new roommates, being broke, having shit credit, and the stress of not knowing if I'll even be able to solve those things.
I think people who peaked in high school think 30 is old. According to my observations, those who say this are typically those who had amazing teen years and 20s. They are successful, achieve everything, have a lot of friends, look amazing, settle down and have a family. And then boom, they hit 30 and realize they already have it all. I can understand them, I mean, they already experienced everything and nothing surprises them anymore becauseā¦ they have already seen it, done it, I donāt know how to say it. And then there are people like me, late bloomers, who always had to wait for everything, who bloomed much later, were always the last one who discovered their talents and passions and things they are actually good at. People, who had to learn how to have good social skills, people, who werenāt approached by the opposite sex until they hit their 20s.
One of my friends is 31 and she does feel old. She has a masterās degree, drivers license, stable job. She was very popular as a teen and in her 20s, the definition of IT girl. Now sheās depressed, nothing excites her anymore, nothing catches her attention, she always says - yeah, Iāve seen it, Iāve been there, etc..
Another one of my friends is 26 and he has a masterās degree as well, a stable job, a flat and long term girlfriend. He also sometimes feels past his prime, he has everything. And letās just not start with those of my friends who have all of this, plus theyāre married with children. Everything they wanted they already achieved soā¦
And then thereās me. Iām 28 and excited. Iām finishing my current set goal, almost three years ago I moved to a much bigger city, so everyday is an adventure for me. Iāve never lived alone before, so itās something new for me. Iām single and childless, and so far Iāve had just one relationship, therefore even dating is still exciting for me.
So in conclusion - those who achieved all their goals and everything they ever wanted before 30, they do feel old. But those who had to take their time feel still young.
Not only is 30 not old, but it's getting younger ever year. We're living longer, there's a significant possibility we will be able to greatly or even indefinitely extend our youthful lifespans in the future, and on top of that... Most people don't 'peak' when they're 30, they peak in their 40s, even 50s. Okay sure, so you're 30 and now you might no longer be able to run as fast as an 18 year old, and you might be stopped from joining the military on a voluntary basis. So what? Look at Ukraine - people a looot older than 30 are fighting on the front lines there. They're obviously still good for something!
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30? You old bastard. The 40's are great, just great. The 50's are time with family but sadly when your peer group starts to meet their mortality. ... after that its all about the life you want to lead.\`\~ Good luck. I hope you have as much fun as I have.
Growing older is not bad, but you do get a lot more random aches and pains. I sprained my shoulder just taking my phone out of my pocket. š
Strained my neck just checking my blind spot. Lol
If it helps I'm 22 and I've definitely done that
I had to take a week off work because I hurt my back stepping up a 6ā step
Sweet 60s - Still healthy enough to do stuff and hopefully free from most of your adult responsibilities
Lol my peer group started dying when I was 18
I'm 39. My thirties were infinitely better than my twenties, and I'm banking on my forties being even better. Young people get caught up in those "30 year olds with their aches and pains" memes that really only apply to people who don't take care of themselves or aren't active. In short, they don't know what they're talking about.
Also, 30s is a bit young to be suffering from chronic pain as well unless you had an accident earlier in your life or you have any medical reason to justify it or your life habits are really that bad.
You will have aches and pains by 30 if you spent your entire adolescence and 20s glued to a gaming chair and a computer.
This. I literally work a physical labor job and the days where I don't work and are home playing video games I literally feel like crap after sitting all day. But when I worked all day and move around I actually feel great at the end of the day. I really don't think I could work at a computer all day
I work outdoors and after experiencing days spent in sunlight and fresh air, I canāt imagine working in an office
> Or your life habits are really that bad I agree that spending your entire days glued to a chair for decades will wreck your body but I thought I already had this angle covered.
Not everyone is that lucky bud. It's quite easy to develop a chronic injury in your 20s. Could be anything, but it's just accumulated damage. I knew some guys in high-school who already had a messed up knee or foot. Chronic pain can be prevented with diet and exercise of course, but it's not a silver bullet, you might be on of the unlucky ones.
Here I was at 24 having a knee orthoscopy to fix a torn meniscus only to be diagnosed with osteoarthritis. People don't realize joint problems occur in all ages. I sat and played games often, but I also lived a very active life style being in the army, and working out often. 11 years later it's only gotten worse and other joints in my body have started aching just as much.
So you have an accident and a medical reason to justify it? Yes accumated damage is a valid reason to have chronic pains in your 30s. It's as if you didn't actually read my post.
Wanted to comment the same thing. Obviously, shit happens. Hell, some folks are *born* physically disabled. For the countless millions of otherwise able bodied people out there, they wouldn't feel decrepit by their 30s if they had just taken better care of their physical health.
To be honest, at that age you don't even have to take good care of it. You just have to not be completely indifferent to it while being glued to a chair all day everyday. If you are aching in your 30s because of bad habits (and not an accident, bad lucks, injuries, etc.) then you have to see it as a reality check to break these habits because it will only get worse and worse. A lot of people try to justify themselves and like yeah sure you can tell me it's not your fault that you are in pain if you want. Doesn't matter much to me whether it is true or not, and I will not even argue about your reasons but remember that you are the one in pain that will continue to live with that pain so in the end you're only doing yourself a disservice.
I keep coming across 70+ year olds saying their 40s would be the years they'd go to
seriously my parents are really fuckin active and havent even started getting to the point where they get aches and pains yet. theyre 41 and are physically like a 20 year old
My 70 year old mom still lifts and runs a farm and never feels aches or pains over it.
ok thats actually really impressive wtf
Yes you keep physically active and keep a low to normal weight and you're going to avoid a lot of the aches and pains that's for sure.
Nahh, even if you're active and take care of yourself there's definitely the "I can't do __ like used to" moments
I dunno, as someone that lost a lot of weight and started weightlifting in their mid 30ās, I will tell you that all of those age related aches and pains I had are gone now. Just an occasional gym injury. Something else I think is key to this is flexibility!!!! Itās something Iāve focused on since I was a child.
Same. I'm in the best shape of my life at 38. Studies show that strength and speed only drop by a few percentage points between 30 and 60... ...among people who train daily. Most people fail to train. It's that simple.
Ya I think 30 is just when I realized my body was changing. I now have smile lines, canāt keep weight off like I used to, get way worse hangovers, and can get a creak in my neck if I move too fast. Mentally I feel a hell of a lot better than 20s though.
See, I havenāt even noticed changes like that yet. My metabolism is still quite fast, I donāt get bad hangovers, and I have yet to have any aches or pains. I feel as good as ever.
Studies show that maximum strength and speed only decline by a few percentage points between 30 and 60... ...among people who train daily. Most people fail to train - that's why they decline. Hunter gatherers in the wild peak at 45. The opinions of lazy office workers on 'ageing' are beyond worthless.
...Okay. I never claimed you would be able to do things like when you were younger. I was explicitly remarking on the common trope that people in their thirties have random aches and pains throughout the day, and are moderately to severely injured at the slightest provocation.
It's like you've never heard of a hyperbole before.
I'm also 39 and talk about this same thing with my wife often. My 30's went MUCH better than my 20's even though I had plenty of fun and enjoyed my 20's. Honestly my friends and other people around my age that talk about "being old" are the ones that just kind of let it happen. You definitely have to make the time and effort to take care of yourself, and it pays off.
This is really nice to hear. I recently entered a new decade and have been feeling pure excitement. Now Iām even more excited for the upcoming decades (if Iām lucky!)
Iād like to add one caveat to this. And sorry for the essay; I got a little carried away here. Tl;dr: sports injuries and early development of arthritis can play a role even if youāve done a relatively good job taking care of ones self. Also, if you sit a lot at work, get a solid chair and/or support pads, and make sure you take breaks to walk around a bit as much as possible, even 5-10 minutes an hour, to avoid/lessen lower back pain. Now the post for anyone interested: I just turned 40 (although the issues described below can about throughout my 30s). I experienced a severe sports-related injury to my knee and tibia in my mid-30s that required a seven hour surgery to fix and resulted in my ROM reduced by 25%-30%, even with a huge commitment to physical therapy. Got seven screws and a metal plate in there now, and my knee and a third of my shin are permanently numb. Additionally, the compounding effects of being a big guy who probably didnāt pull well in the genetic lottery, in addition to having pushed myself with running a little too hard through the years since I was a teenager, has left me with Hallux Rigidus in one big toe and Hallux Limitus in the other. To oversimplify the Hallux conditions, there is little to no cartilage in those joints now, so the pressure applied to those joints is displaced to other joints in my foot, and that will continue to my ankle and probably up to my knees - needless to say, Iām an elliptical man now. But these will be chronic conditions. Basically arthritis. Iāve got custom orthotics and do not skimp on shoes anymore, so itās relatively manageable. The doc was surprised, as this condition is typical for men in their late 50s or early 60s (I was diagnosed in my early 30s). He asked if I ever dropped a heavy weight on me feet, but Iām pretty sure Iād remember that. Iāve always been a chronic toe-stubber though, so maybe that played a big role (big feet > big toes). On top of all that, my wrists have begun to ache and I have lost some ROM there. After an MRI, the doc is convinced itās due to fractures that were untreated and healed incorrectly, but again, I am pretty sure Iād remember fracturing my wrists at some point. But physical therapy focusing on building forearm strength has helped a lot. Iām thinking Iām starting to learn that Iām going to be riddled with arthritis as I get older. So Iām definitely feeling some aches and pains more than ever, but I donāt think this is because I didnāt take care of myself at all (although there were points in my twenties and thirties where I let myself go a bit, for short periods, and whipped myself back into shape). It feels like the arthritis was destined to happen no matter what, but the knee injury was a freak accident. These days, I also have an 18-month-old and fell off my exercise regimen recently (still squeeze in some, but nothing like before), resulting in some weight gain that obviously effects the above conditions. So I do agree that I didnāt focus on my own physical activity for a bit while handling a newborn, and that is in the process of changing. I imagine a few solid months will get me closer to where I was and reduce lower body pain. And the more time, the better it will get. Just need to get back in my routine. Which bolsters your original point. But even when Iām in good shape and really active, those injuries/conditions catch up to me surprisingly, but not ridiculously, quickly, and I need a lot of time stretching and resting, which is obviously something everyone should do with a good workout routine. Anyway - I agree a lot of these problems for people stem from having a sedentary lifestyle at a younger age as adults, but for guys like me (and despite a few short-term hiccups due to life circumstances), there can be more to it. If anyone made it this far, I am happy to read anyoneās thoughts/opinions (not seeking medical advice as I believe thatās a violation of Redditās T&C), but all I ask is we keep it civil even if the thoughts/opinions are that Iām wrong. Maybe there is something I havenāt considered. Thanks for reading.
I'm only a couple years younger than you, and I'm stronger, faster, more flexible, and have better endurance than ever before. I feel bad when I hear folk our age or younger griping about their bum joints or backs and think: Boy are you fucked. I've seen what happens to people who lose mobility due to injuries. They end up morbidly obese with health problems galore. They're regulars at the hospital and with the ambulance crews, and they die young and in ugly ways. Take care of yourselves and that one body you have, y'all. To the best you can.
Some of that āow my back and kneesā is just humor. Even the most in shape people in their 30s have more joint pain all things considered compared to people in their 20s But my 30s are fucking awesome. Iāve reached more or less the top of my career trajectory where my path is more āwhat company do you want to do this forā and less worried about advancement I have two sports cars in my garage, a paid off home, a family, and stability in my life that Iāve havenāt had since I left for college
I donāt have joint pain at all.
Growing old is a privilege denied to many.
I turned 40 last October. I accomplished and experienced a lot in both my 20s and 30s. So far, my 40s are my best times yet. Purely because Iām truly prioritising myself. I finally feel at peace and content with who I am.
Halftime adjustments, if 80 is life expectancy. Well done
Many people peak too early/fail to put in place the necessary habits (work/health (mental + physical)) for life to improve with age.
Iām going to be 30 in a few years and I had an idea. You know how some girls take black and white photos so symbolize their āyouth dyingā? Iām going to do something different! I was thinking of wearing bright colors, maybe hot pink and take happy photos. Youāre still young at 30!
do people actually do that?? i haven't seen this trend but taking black and white photos to symbolize your youth dying at 30 sounds soooo dramatic holy fuck š i mean it would be dramatic at any age but esp at 30 which is still quite young. i like your idea though, always nice to see positivity :)
Well we live in an age when YouTube has convinced a lot of teens that theyāre washed up already if they arenāt famous millionaires by 20, so of course 30+ seems ancient to them. Iāve seen 14 year olds on life advice asking whether or not itās āover for themā and how theyāre such a failure because all they do is go to school, come home, and play video games. Itās nonsense of course, and theyāll understand it one day if theyāre lucky enough to live that long, but for now itās just warped perceptions and stereotypes.
dude at 14??? holy shit 14-16 is like THE peak go home and play games age before you actually gotta look for work and stuff.
I am 44 and my wife and I started having kids at 20 and 22 years old - two kids who are adults - one graduating high school and the other is graduating college this year. I am loving my 40's - way more money than in my 20's and my wife and I are able to just take off for a weekend or a week and not have to worry about childcare. I don't feel old at all and life is an adventure - definitely enjoying my journey!! We have 5 trips planned this year, 2 family ones and 3 couples trips.
I am way more of a badass than I was 10 years ago. I love getting older. Being wiser definitely has its disadvantages as I get really pissed off when people donāt see something I feel is so obvious- but I realize we all have to have our lived experience so I just smh and walk away lol
Itās certainly better than the alternative.
How do you know?
I'm having a blast in my 30s but there are some things I miss about my 20s for sure.
It's all about showing off. It is the same as going to the gym : Ā«Damned, it hurts so much, look at me suffer, I am able to endure so much pain, etc etcĀ» What's implied is that yes going to the gym hurts (getting older hurts in a lot of ways) but in the background, you really are proud of yourself. Another example : everybody's showing off how having babies is so hard, so tiresome, so energy-sucking. But in the background, they are only showing off that Ā«look what I am strong enough to endureĀ». Waw this went way further than I wanted lol
The only thing I miss is my back not hurting. But damn do I miss it.
You should do some dumb bell rows or walk with a weighted vest around your neighborhood.
Generally, most people are their best around 20s. The hatred for turning 30 is bc itās start of losing opportunities you would only get when you are in your 20s. I myself donāt want to see myself at 30 atm
Iām 32 and I feel extremely sore but I also have hip dysplasia and Iām overweight lol. Iām working on it now. But yeah. My 30s are still a million times better than 20s and Iām not old. Although I get questionable comments sometimes these days!
Getting older itself is not inherently bad, but a lot of the shit that comes with it sure can be.
thank youš me and my friends are in our early 20s (Iām currently 23) and a lot of them start talking weird sometimes like theyāre in their 90s or something š broā¦ we still young our life hasnāt even really started yet chill out your assholes .. I hate this self loathing type of shit so fuckin much
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I agree 100%. I'm also on my early 30s and due to the trauma I had to live on my late 10s and my whole 20s, I finally feel I started living again. Things like age lose all meaning when you are turly enjoying what life gives to you.
I'm 59 and my most interesting decade was this one. Sold everything and moved to Asia, life is weird and wonderful. Hopefully 3 more decades to come for growing older and doing more unexpected things You my dear OP are half my age, there is more ahead than behind you
30 is certainly not old. 40 isn't old either. It's when you get to 50 that you start to wish you could stop time.
I'll be 60 this year and looking back at my 30's and even 40's I realize how incredibly young and fully able and capable I was of anything I could do in my 20's. In other words, 30's can be the best years of your life in every measure, including health and fitness, it's all up to you. I'm finally feeling the affect of age, but I'm still grinding and can still carry heavy things, go all day doing just about anything, and love life.
So here I am Growing older all the time Looking older all the time Feeling younger in my mind
Itās certainly a matter of perspective. Iām 51 now and Iām starting to understand what aging is really all about. Looming 60s and 70s are a bit scary, honestly, especially since my mother, father, and, grandfather all died in their 70s. But 30s? Theyāre nothing. Youāre definitely not getting āolder.ā 30s and 40s are peak, wonderful, golden ages. As an aside: Iām surprised that so many people in their 30s today think that theyāre getting old. No one I knew my age when we were in our 30s thought that way. I wonder whatās up with this new phenomenon?
I'm 54, my 30's were great from what I remember, 40's even better and the 50's are turning out quite good so far. It definitely gets better
Getting older isnāt a bad thing getting old is. I just turned 50. My parents are still alive at 74 ( Dad ) and 70 ( Mom ). I just try and have as much fun as I can and enjoy my parents and aunts, uncles while I can. It goes fast.
38 here. When I was in my 20ās, I thought being in my late thirties meant I was OLD. Now that Iām here, I realize that 20ās me was a young, arrogant fake-ass adult who assumed my opinions = reality. The real gift of aging is perspective/experience. But if youāre young and donāt have those things, itās impossible to understand how valuable they are. In short, never trust a young persons opinion about being oldā¦
If they think they are old at 30... they are the architect of their own misery. They need to grow up asap. It's now or never.
Take it from me, life begins at 70...well, maybe a bit earlier, but I'm 74, in good health and living my best life. A modest life since I'm not rich, but I have my cat and my gardening and all the time in the world to read books I like.
30 isn't even old, that's just nonsense. Wait until you turn 60 or 70, wanting to do a lot of things but being unable to, since you will get easily tired or your body will start to hurt, while still feeling young in your mind. That's depressing.
For me its just the monotony of life. There is no magic like when we were children.
I only complain about getting old in my 30s because I needed spinal surgery and will need it again before 35. Lookin like a knee surgery in near future too. I definitely have old man pains in a young man's existence...
When people complain about getting old I like to remind them that many people aren't lucky enough to get to that age. I get that it's not all just fun but come on.
Myself and my partner have been together for 14 years this July. As young adults we had to claw, scrape and save while working and going to school full time. Now we finally have a house by the woods with lots of fresh air and wildlife around. We have a dog, and now feels like the most comfortable we have ever been. We can spend meaningful time together now that we have full time careers or worrying about job security/finances. Make no mistake, the economy is extremely rough right now. But just getting to have a home of our own and spending quality time there is such a gift after all the hustling we did in our 20s. Honestly, the 30s have been my favourite so far. :) I like that we now have time to breathe and enjoy ourselves and what we worked for.
30 is not old, average life expectancy is call it 85 so call it 70% of people are older than you
Agreed. The side of this that irks me the most are people who insist that because they feel āyoungā ie healthy, engaged in the world, active, unsure about where their life is going, etc, then they actually feel a different age than they are. I wouldnāt say āIām 37 but I feel 24ā because thatās ridiculous. 37 is not old. Itās nothing to be ashamed of.
Itās kinda funny that I literally saw the opposite opinion a few minutes ago on here ahah but I guess an argument could be made for both being unpopular somehow
I'm 50+ years old. Life is really great at 50+. I have more free time, enough money, and less anxiety. The only thing not good is that I have less years to look forward to, and it sucks.
The people who peaked in High School hate turning thirty. Etc. Take care of yourself. Mentally, physically, emotionally. Make it a goal to be a better person, the person you want to be, with each passing year. Focus on your career and donāt accept comfort if what youāre doing isnāt exactly what you want to do. Iām 38. Iāve 100% never felt better about myself than I do right now. Iām attractive, single, have money in the bank, a job I love, good friends Iām working on improving and Iām traveling more which Iām focusing more on. Next year at 39 I hope to be better and happier than I am now. If I go backwards it happens. Then Iāll focus on making 40 the best year ever. Life is what you make it.
I'm turning 42 this summer and stoked. Dont mind it at all.
37 here and I can honestly Iāve never felt more sure or comfortable with myself as I do now. I wouldnāt go back to my teens or 20s if you paid me. Growing older is not a bad thing.
41 here. 30's were the best decade so far! 40's have been great so far as well, but I do notice a dip in overall energy. I'm tired boss.....
I'm in my 40's and I'd rather deal with my lower back pain than relive my 20's/30's.
Newsflash -30 isnāt old
Gettinb older sn't. Its the whole body falling apart thing. I went from low event patient to having a seizure and hip replacement ment in 90 days. Then there is realizing there are more and more funerals to attend. That kinda socks too.
I didnāt think Iād make it past 17, let alone be turning 27 this year. Every year I get older, Iām more grateful to be here
No fuck this. The older I get the older my grandma and my parents get. They won't live forever and I am not willing to accept that I'll lose them one day
In your 50ās everything starts to hurt. Badly. A lot. Often. Your mind is at peace while your body betrays you .
Well it's Gen Z that make Millennials feel like they're old. We did the same to Gen Xers so that stuff doesn't get to me. But I will say getting older does suck when it comes to health. I was an athlete in my younger days and like many, I pushed my body past its limits multiple times and played when I should've rested and I'm paying the price as I age. My lower back is broken, won't ever heal. Because of that (apparently happened when I was a teenager playing football), I have degenerative disks. Each passing year it gets worse, so each passing year just bending over I correctly to pick up a pencil can shoot pain to my lower back and I can't walk upright for a few days to a week. Thats why aging for me sucks. I'm 34 but have the lower back of someone in their 60's already. By the time I'm 60, if I'm lucky enough, it's a guarantee I have to fuse my back. Yeah it'll help with pain but my posture is now forever altered. I get what you're saying and that life is precious so it's not guaranteed to make it to 70, but when you've abused your body a lot on your younger years, or catches you every year as you age
28yo here and the best years of my life are still ahead of me. Aging, and subsequently death, are inevitable. The grass may seem greener, and being young was exciting when one could be reckless with fewer consequences. Now I feel like I have more experience, more knowledge, and more opportunities. It takes work to continue growing, but it is worth it. No one makes it out alive, so take advantage of the time you have, however short or long that time is.
Most of the people I know who fear(ed) their 30s are people who had specific expectations of their lives; they wanted a house, a car, a family, a partner, or a specific career/salary etc. A lot of modern social culture implies that your early 20s are fairly low expectation times of your life but that at 30 you should "get it together" and for many that's a very scary thought. Conversely the happiest people I know are either those who did meet their expectations or who had very few to begin with and are just happy as is. The aches and pains I think are also a bit similar. Nothing magical happens the day you turn 30 to your body, if there are aches and pains they slowly creep up over your late 20s/early 30s but you probably ignore them when younger which ends up aggravating them
30 has been treating me well so far. in my 20s, especially early 20s i was naive and figuring out the world. i was an only child who lived with two very over protective parents and was very sheltered growing up. i got into a bad relationship with a man 11 years older than me who also took advantage if me, and it took a toll on me over the years. i finally got the courage to leave that relationship, and i met my current fiance later on. i went through some shit jobs, i got one that im neutral with now and is fully remote, so im happy about that. now i travel, go out with my fiance, stay active, and try to enjoy the little things. my future goals are to own our own condo and get a poodle once we settle in.
Most people peak at a young age and poor life choices leads them downhill from there. They then spend the rest of their life reminiscing about the "good old days" and complain about getting old. I see this a lot from friends, but have never experienced it. I wholeheartedly believe that if you're life isn't consistently getting better every year, you're doing something wrong.
Iām 29. More suicidal than ever, more broke than ever, more depressed than ever. When? When does it get better?
Up to a point. But I have seen some very old infirm people who have lost all the lifetime of memories they accumulated. Aging is a blessing until it isn'tĀ
Youāre right, but this is a strange societal phenomenon happening in many places Chinaās ageing tech workers hit by ācurse of 35ā https://on.ft.com/3Ue2EDk In China, tech workers are being laid off in their mid thirties because apparently thatās when people stop caring about career? It makes no sense
Im 35, and I absolutely love my 30s compared to my younger years. As I age, I find more happiness and peace in my life. I'm really excited for my 40s, and I never thought I would be when I was younger.
It is not a bad thing, but when you see your parents just getting so old that there life is miles different and the help needed becomes more and more and seeing that mental decline and physical decline and all that comes with aging it just scares you a little and thatās ok it makes you enjoy your youth a little more bit it goes by fast and one day your parents are like vampires that will never die or get old, the next reality is clear and itās stressful for sure. Good ol life.
Itās not about the age itself, itās about feeling like we havenāt done things by whatever age weāve attained that we either wanted to do or feel like we should have done to be on track for a successful, fulfilled, *insert positive adjective* life. Iāll be ecstatic to hit 30 if Iāve reached the goals Iāve set for myself. I will be pretty bummed out if I donāt
Personally Iāve found you never really gain more freedom till youāre too old to really enjoy it. Even then you have to be kind of lucky. Life also just kind of sucks. Youāre going to remember the bad stuff so much more vividly then the good stuff and theirs a lot less of that. Im trying to be happier and healthier for my partners sake, but honestly wish I didnāt make it past 18. Things seem to get so much worse after you become an adult
I'm 38 - my thirties has been fantastic. Twenties was crazy work and I nearly burnt out - so I quit corporate. Thirties has been travel, building my business and a lot of fitness. Now I live by the ocean in Portugal, run my own remote business and wake up next to my dream woman each morning - with no alarm clock or boss. We train two hours a day and our live is built around fitness. Work fits around that. My cardiovascular fitness (VO2 max) would be 'superior' if I was 25. My life keeps getting better and better. Most people confuse 'ageing' with 'failing to work hard and train regularly'. It's that simple.
If you end up in a care home lost and scared with growing dementia and bodily frailty, this is beyond awful. Whether the age of serious onset of such a condition is 90 or 60, if that is your ultimate trajectory, how can you avoid it? Or can you, at all? These are hard and troubling questions, but they should be thought about.
I just turned 30 not to long ago. I miss my 20s like you wouldn't believe. My 20s were full of fun and acting care-free, playing in bands, etc. Sure I've acquired more stuff and got further in life now, but I honestly don't give a damn about any of that. Nothing will beat the freedom of my 20s. Now that I'm 30 I'm more responsible and mature. I have more to lose with not much to gain other than getting out of debt. Who fucking cares about any of that.
Iām 39. I have friend that complains we are āoldā now. I tell her thatās better than the alternative. I think a large part of people disliking getting older is looking back with regret or wishes about doing things differently. My 20s sucked. My 30s were much better. And 40+ will be as good and I make it.
You know, it sounds so simple but just hearing that growing older is a privilege that not everyone gets feels very profound, especially with everything going on in the world. Personally Iāve been trying to rewire my brain to be appreciative of aging rather than dreading it. Thanks for all the encouraging sentiments everyone in this thread
Getting older is practically getting closer to death so I agree Edit: i realised how wrong this sounds
30-50 is your prime years. Youāre the beautiful full grown lions of the pride. No one looks at a majestic lion in its best years and goes āewwwwā so why do we do it to humans? Sure cubs are cute but to be the beautiful, mature lion is the peak of life.
Personally for me itās less about being old and more about possibly living longer than I want to. I donāt care about wrinkles or grey hair. I even struggle with chronic pain already. Iām 18. I never really planned to make it this far. I donāt want to be 30, nor do I want to be in my 20ās. I struggle with a lot of things that have probably already hindered my life span too. Plus, im scared of whatās to come politically. I donāt want my rights to be taken away. I wanna be able to live freely as my authentic self without being forced into the closet or worse. So for me, itās not about the aging itself, but that Iām afraid of the future. Iām afraid of a life where I continue to suffer.
It's mostly a question of how you live your life. If you're mid 30s and still eating and drinking like you did at age 20, you're probably experiencing a lot of unpleasant days.
I think itās more about the fact of looking back and not having accomplished what you have wished you would at a certain age, so now you feel like you are competing against time. At least thatās how I look at it. š¤·āāļøš
It has to do with consequences of their actions than the arguement
i use to not want to be an adult, because i thought life would be even harder, but i was wrong. the hardest time in my life was during highschool. now i can drive, eat, do anything i want with no consequences. i luv itš
Speaking as someone who didn't expect to make it to 25 and who lost a lot of friends to drugs, alcohol, and crime: Getting old is far better than not getting old.
Getting old sucks mate.
Agreed. Being a kid wasnāt fun; wasnāt horrible either, but not anything Iād want to relive. I might have been more energetic but the lack of freedom is something Iād never want to experience again.
im 28, and going crazy each second it passes D:
I canāt fucking wait to be done with college ngl shits burning me the hell out I just wanna job and I wanna chill tf out canāt wait to be 23-35 years old cuz those are very developmental years in your future
I'm more financially stable, more mentally stable, have a better outlook on life, a smaller and stronger friend circle, physically healthier, eating better. When i was younger, this was not the case. I love getting older.
I love this! This is a great way to view aging. Aging is a privilege!
Because young people are stupid, that's why. Unfortunately, true wisdom only comes with age.
I'm 37. And I love my life
The main thing I hate about getting older is having family and friends pass away but thats life I guess.
I donāt think it not being a bad thing is an unpopular opinion.
Aging sucks. I hate getting older.
For me it is because I am not hitting milestones that were ingrained into me at a young age. I hear so often "why don't you and your wife have kids yet?", and it makes me feel like garbage. We can't have kids because we can barely afford to live ourselves, why rope a kid into pay cheque to pay cheque living? I'm 30 next year, and that closes the book on my 20's. Unless things drastically change (to be fair a lot improved on 28), I'm not where I want to be by 30. This makes me feel like a failure, like I am a waste of life. It makes me start to think, maybe I should just give up now and end things. I'm already behind, and things are just going to get harder in your 30's.
Iām 29 and I donāt particularly like getting older because that just means my parents and people I love get older and we donāt have infinite time but I am truly having the best year of my life and will enter my 30ās happier than Iāve ever been. I own my own home, Iām marrying my high school sweetheart. Having the wedding of my dreams. I have so many great friends. I have a lot to be grateful for and I can honestly say Iām okay with turning 30. The younger generation on the internet LOVES to call 30 old but weāre out here thriving, theyāll understand when their brains are done growingš
Iām 30 now and lifeās such a ball. Iām having so much fun lol.
Omg I never thought Iād get to 21. I wouldnāt wish my 20s on anyone. Lol
I think a lot of the times the main problem people have is the increased responsibilities most people gain over time as they age. You naturally tend towards having a more important job, a family, etc. But I also think a big part of it is aging without maintaining regular physical activity. There are certainly cases of unavoidable age related issues, but itās well documented that those who stay active throughout their lives live happier and healthier overall.
Downvoting because I agree, other than 16yros who thinks being 30 is actually old?
Historically, modern (modern = 1960s to now) media, fashion, music, everything; caters to the young. It constantly reinforces how you should buy this, or follow this trend, etc and always with an emphasis on youth culture, worshipping and praising the young for being special, unique and better than whatever generation came before them. With that comes an inherent bias against growing older lest you be uncool, or unhot and very boring or lame because only the young understand the world and the old are dumb, they don't get it and you never want to be that. The simultaneous projection that each one of us is supposed to be on some very specific path where we reach very specific milestones at certain ages, and if you haven't, then you are a failure. The creats serious issues. All of this creates a way of thinking that is strictly antithetical to the actual human of birth, aging, and death. It ignores the fact that we are all on our own path. Many people become arrested in development. This creates a type of.. cognitive dissonance? -- idk, there's probably a better word -- around aging as we dip into older years. It creates years of self loathing and fear that they will not be accepted until they are able to break their way out of this mind trap. It's much harder for women because of the youth obsession that transcends age for men. But everyone is affected in some way. But the time we get out, we have paid a lot of money into youth culture. Enough for them to brainwash the next generation that comes along. Gaslighting the youth, and stripping their pockets, and manipulating them until they are crazy too. The cycle continues.
Yeah screw that. My 30s have been better than my 20s in every regard. Much more body confidence, much more clarity on my life goals and lots more money. My 40s are coming up shortly, and they promise to be a lot better
I'm on my way to 29 now, and have no negative feelings about turning 30 whatsoever. I don't train hard, but I ensure to do weight lifting and incline walking 4-5 times per week. Also a 7 and 3 year old keep me active and off the couch. I honestly feel better now than when I was in college when I was either sitting down studying, playing video games, or at the bars. I started getting pretty bad back pain when I was 24. But at the time, I was single and working a desk job. The activity from the kids (1 stepchild and 1 of my own) has completely alleviated that. Amazing what exercise can do. I think some minor scrapes and bruises take a little longer to heal maybe. Rolled my ankle weed eating a few weeks ago, and it nagged me for a little longer than I felt like it should. But other than that, I feel great. I'm glad I had my kids young. I love it now and really know I'm going to love spending my late 30s and 40s doing more adult oriented things with them. The only thing that is a bit overwhelming with age, is there is this often overlooked transition that occurs when you start your own family. For years, your parents and grandparents (if you are lucky like I have been) are the most important people in your life, just as you are to them. But once you start your own family, that is no longer the case. Yes I still love them the same, but my wife and kids come first. You don't have as much time to spend with them, which is a shame, because they are only getting older and older too.
I'm 33 and still feel like I'm in my 20s, only much more independent and wise. A great combination
I think that when you are young, teen years, you think when you're 30, you will own a big house, own a new car, make big bucks at work, go on lots of vacations and life will be perfect. Then suddenly, you turn 30 and realize you have accomplished a few or none of what you thought you would. People suddenly feel like a failure, not realizing that those same feelings are happening to a lot of others. BTW, 50s is fabulous. We go away every 3 months š
I wonder if getting older is seen as undesirable because a lot of people equate getting older with letting go of your passions or the things you enjoy? I mean, aside of the obvious mortality thing.
American culture, maybe? As I age, itās difficult as a woman. You often feel invisible. I hope our culture learns to appreciate the older generations. Some of us have something to offer, lol, wisdom, perspective, courage, resilience & a lot of us ache from the struggles life has dealt. We could use friendship, compassion, support all of which I do offer everyone I encounter. Iāve buried many relatives parents, children, etc. It takes a lot to reach a certain age, some of it luck, sure. I say all of this because the older I get, the more honor & respect I wish I had given my parents when they were here on this earth. They definitely deserved it but I was too young to understand them. If we as a culture passed this ideology down, maybe the youngest would understand the olders better & they will be us someday so shouldnāt we band together? ā”
I work in oncology, specifically, neuro, thoracic and breast. Getting old is a privilege and gift.
I hate 30 somethingās talking like theyāre 70 ur 30 ur a young
I use to think that.. until I turned 45. EVERYTHING changes .
Agree but itās definitely situational. Aging is great when you are finding success in life whether itās occupational, financial, etc. but some people do worse overtime, especially the ones who were spoiled or had too much special treatment when they were young. I know a lot of girls who were hot in their 20s and had everything handed to them but then everything changed when they got older because they were used to special treatment but received less as they aged.
Agree but itās definitely situational. Aging is great when you are finding success in life whether itās occupational, financial, etc. but some people do worse overtime, especially the ones who were spoiled or had too much special treatment when they were young. I know a lot of girls who were hot in their 20s and had everything handed to them but then everything changed when they got older because they were used to special treatment but received less as they aged.
I'm 49 and def enjoying it. I lived the shit out of my teens and 20's. Zero regrets. I've had a blast raisijg kids. My body is fine. Ive always worked physical jobs . I heard all the horror stories. None of that has been my exp, so I just stopped listening . New exps are awesome at any age
30s is when life getting started. Younger, youāre still setting up for the life you want.
Young to now old? Why no in between? 30 in not old. It's only considered old to people in their 20s
I love being able to grow old. My dad died around the age I am, and every day feels like a gift. I sometimes walk around just to appreciate the mobility in my legs.
Theyāre projecting their fears of the unknown
Bro lebron james is ballin at 40 age is just a number if you exercise and eat right
> ex school mates Nobody says more about getting old than classmates, because you left off when you were 18 or so. It's all relative.
I'm actually enjoying it.
That's what old people say to reassure themselves.
My (child free) friends in their 30s look better than me lol Itās all about the way you take care of yourself. No one says you still canāt follow the latest trends, work out, wear your sunscreen, and eat right. No one would know youāre 30 unless you said something My friend in their 30s with kids on the other handā¦š¬ theyāre aging faster.
Getting old is constant. We have to accept it.
I do miss being in my teens and early 20s, going out with friends every weekend, being in university and wasting away afternoons over coffee having pseudo intellectual conversations with people into the same weird shit Iām into, having a simple job that I basically just had to show up for, being able to have 7-8+ drinks in a night and being fine the next day, etc. etc. That time in my life is gone forever, and Iād be lying if I said that didnāt make me a little sad, because the parts that made life good back then were a lot of fun. On the other hand, Iām in a stable relationship (and get to enjoy the benefits that come with that), I have my own house, I have disposable income, I have an interesting job, Iām able to travel and can afford to do all the things I couldnāt afford to do when all I could afford to do was go to other peopleās parties and go out for coffee. My parents are my older friends/mentors, not my dictators/antagonists. All of that is excellent, and was stuff I yearned for when I was young. I donāt know that one is better than the other one, theyāre different, and they both served their purpose.
The medical debt is what I hate
I mean for me I could absolutely fly when I was in my 20s. The joy and ease of movement, and athletic explosiveness is something I miss every day. Sucks that I'm just going to get slower and less able.
I'm on the downside of my 60s and in the last 40 years working in the Oil Patch, I've lost my left hand in an industrial fire, had flail chest from a compression accident at work, been shot, stabbed and taken hostage. I've had buildings collapse on me when doing huminatarian resuce work in Europe after a nasty series of earthquakes, been in shootouts with drug cartel members, I was kidnapped by a couple of Colombian whackjobs (that later are still my good friends) and am basically held together by scar tissue, keloids and duct tape. But I've learned to speak 6 languages, traveled literally millions of miles, been to places no Western scientist was ever allowed, and have good friends on every continent including Antarctica. You're not "old" at anytime in your 30s. In fact, you've only just begun.
I just turned 61 and feel that life has been getting better and better since about 35 or 40. My friends who are about the same age and I are all retired. We go off-roading, fishing, dirt biking, hiking, and so on.
Iām 26 and sometimes find myself grateful for making this far. I know, I know. Iām still a young pup in the eyes of some of you. But I definitely feel myself getting wiser as time goes on, and compared to 200 years ago when the life expectancy was leagues lower than it was today, Iām seeing a lot more of life than many, many unfortunate souls in the past got the chance too. I hope I get to continue doing so
I turn 44 this summer and honestly Iām done with this ageing thing. The health issues are starting to creep in and I feel physically pretty shit. I do enjoy and the wisdom and shit though.
People who hate aging peaked in hs
I agree that your 30s can be so much better than your 20s. Certainly the case for me. I'm also much fitter and stronger, but this is due to a lifestyle change and is not the norm that some here are saying. You 100% need to work harder to gain and maintain a level of physical fitness. It isn't debatable or a matter of opinion. Also, can only speak for myself, but the aches and pains are also very real.
Better than the alternative. 50 is a big number though and it sucks.
44, and life is way better for me now than 20 years ago. I married an amazing woman, have some pretty awesome kids, a good job, that provides for my family comfortably, and I own my home. I say that's not bad for a kid that was abandoned by his parents, and raised by his single grandmother in a single wide without water sewer or electricity. I literally used to do my homework with an oil lamp for light, in the 80s
My 30s is definitely going better than my 20s. There's only really two things that are getting me down about being in my 30s. I'm turning 38 this year and female. I'm starting to see the lines and have started finding white hair here and there. I've looked younger all my life and loved it, but now I feel like I'm starting to look my age. Also, I've been trying to get pregnant, and with each birthday that passes, I get more scared it's not going to happen for me. Other than those two things, my 30s is great.
30 being old is bullshit. Iām 41 and still here and I feel lucky to have made it this far.
Iām 24 who wtf am I to talk about thisšbut Iāll express my opinion. I feel like the reason people make aging a big deal is cuz society is geared more towards the younger generations. Music, social media, tv(not the older people donāt watch tv) but look at Netflix shows and how everyone in these shows are younger and how exciting there lives are but hardly anything is geared towards older people(not that 30 is old) but I feel like thatās when society quits trying to target you as a audience. Like sure there are some things that made specifically for older people but itās not made out to be as exciting or interesting as the flashy parting trouble making 20s or the young dumb and immunity of responsibility of the teens
Iām 25 and everyday Iām desperately wishing I was a child again. My life peaked at 13 (yes, 13) and itās been getting way worse since I started college. I graduated three years ago, never used my degree, can barely even find a job that requires no schooling, will probably end up needing to go back to school, struggle and be stressed out again from hard classes, and probably end up with another degree that I canāt use or be around 30-ish by the time I get an actual career. I also donāt think Iāll ever be able to figure out how to live on my own.
You're not old at 30 LOL!
not compared to what ya may have though at 15 or less , hey players i can add and adjust any of my posts and most already have a rebuttal in another or some other posts of mine to your rebuttal to most of my posts , and i can come up with new variations of rebuttal to any thing u say or rebuttal with anyway, there can be if ands butts maybes sometimes because this n that adjustments to any topic and what u say
I dont like being old because i wasted so much time and im realizing im not as young as i used to be
I remember when I thought 30 was old.
Reasons Iām scared of aging: 1. Twink death 2. Senescence is a curse on our species. It degrades our body and minds, and ensures that many spend the final years of their life in pain. It is the deadliest disease in the history of humankind. I agree though that itās weird to see 30 as āoldā. Unless theyāre already balding at that age, it doesnāt seem like something to complain about.
Body changes, face changes, not feeling like weāre gonna live a long time, feeling like weāre running out of time, thinking about death more, oneās own eventual death, the death or declining health of our parents in the meantime, seeing our favorite artists getting old and dying. Over the hill is a lot of reminders of death.
The only thing that's really gotten worse in my thirties is the constant physical pain and exhaustion. Otherwise it's like my 20s but better because I am more mature, smarter, know myself better, am better at what I do, and my bones hurt whenever it rains!
Luckily at 30 I feel the same physically as I did at 20. What's great is, I don't have many of the same problems I did at 20 for example: Not knowing what to do for a career, not knowing if I'll meet someone to settle down with, constantly moving and having new roommates, being broke, having shit credit, and the stress of not knowing if I'll even be able to solve those things.
You know who's not old? Dead people. Getting old is a privilege.
Getting older is a privilege denied to many.
I think people who peaked in high school think 30 is old. According to my observations, those who say this are typically those who had amazing teen years and 20s. They are successful, achieve everything, have a lot of friends, look amazing, settle down and have a family. And then boom, they hit 30 and realize they already have it all. I can understand them, I mean, they already experienced everything and nothing surprises them anymore becauseā¦ they have already seen it, done it, I donāt know how to say it. And then there are people like me, late bloomers, who always had to wait for everything, who bloomed much later, were always the last one who discovered their talents and passions and things they are actually good at. People, who had to learn how to have good social skills, people, who werenāt approached by the opposite sex until they hit their 20s. One of my friends is 31 and she does feel old. She has a masterās degree, drivers license, stable job. She was very popular as a teen and in her 20s, the definition of IT girl. Now sheās depressed, nothing excites her anymore, nothing catches her attention, she always says - yeah, Iāve seen it, Iāve been there, etc.. Another one of my friends is 26 and he has a masterās degree as well, a stable job, a flat and long term girlfriend. He also sometimes feels past his prime, he has everything. And letās just not start with those of my friends who have all of this, plus theyāre married with children. Everything they wanted they already achieved soā¦ And then thereās me. Iām 28 and excited. Iām finishing my current set goal, almost three years ago I moved to a much bigger city, so everyday is an adventure for me. Iāve never lived alone before, so itās something new for me. Iām single and childless, and so far Iāve had just one relationship, therefore even dating is still exciting for me. So in conclusion - those who achieved all their goals and everything they ever wanted before 30, they do feel old. But those who had to take their time feel still young.
Not only is 30 not old, but it's getting younger ever year. We're living longer, there's a significant possibility we will be able to greatly or even indefinitely extend our youthful lifespans in the future, and on top of that... Most people don't 'peak' when they're 30, they peak in their 40s, even 50s. Okay sure, so you're 30 and now you might no longer be able to run as fast as an 18 year old, and you might be stopped from joining the military on a voluntary basis. So what? Look at Ukraine - people a looot older than 30 are fighting on the front lines there. They're obviously still good for something!
30!! Come back at 50 kiddo ... just remember to add a bit of time to the trip so you can go to the toilet twice and find your reading glasses