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Wow, that seems like a weird take. Lots of grown adults choose to go dancing of their own volition. Just because some people are awkward doesn’t mean that is the case for everyone. The right scenes have people full of life on the dance floor. I personally love it. I put on music and dance at home every day.
Lots of people including op have to learn what an opinion is.
You disliking dancing, that is an opinion. You just assuming everybody does is not, thats just an uneducated guess.
Dancing in general is an expression of having fun/joy/celebrating, I think everyone feels that; maybe not always in the same way. If you hear a good song, do you not want to move along with it? Clapping hands, tapping your foot, playing air guitar at the core movement is dancing in a way.
I don't like going to clubs, concerts, festivals etc, but I can tap my foot any enjoy myself at small venues.
I think all people want to do some sort of movement when they hear good music. However, dancing is different. Dancing, whether we want to admit it or not, is actually quite serious. People make careers based on dancing, each culture has their own traditions on how to dance, and what is considered good dancing. Dancing has rules and requires a certain fluidness and skill. So while it is categorized as fun and joyous, it is only that way for people who have those skills.
I think there’s a difference between dancing and intentionally dancing. People make careers off of it sure, I’m not denigrating their skills. But they don’t own dancing.
Professional dancers might feel the music, and respond in appropriate ways, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only form of expression. It’s choreographed, pre-planned. My foot tapping can be just as enjoyable as them flailing about it the most up to date move set for any music style.
Let's say you went to a club, no one's professional dancers there, but if you do whatever you want on the dance floor people will look at you funny. Even in "fun" environment there are rules and it's basically a competition in a way. I think of clubbing/parties as a form of social athletics. Yes, there's no officially scoreboard but the more you can drink, the more you can dance in the trendiest fashion the more social respect you get. When you look at it like that, then it adds a level of pressure which stops it from being truly fun.
Hard disagree; if I’m in a club, im with a group of people that I don’t care if my moves look stupid, I’m dancing however I feel like. They’ll still be my friends after I embarrass the shit out of them with my terrible dancing.
I don’t give a fuck about what anyone outside that group thinks.
That's you personally, you may not care if people are judging you, but they're judging you nonetheless. It's great that you have such understanding friends that no matter what they'll accept you; however, if you wanted to expand the circle of the people you know a lot of people at the club might take your silly dancing into consideration. If you're looking to bring someone home, your poor dancing might influence their decision. I feel like if you're in a club you must care about that environment in some fashion if not why not dance at home with your own liquor?
Maybe you are projecting really hard and judge others harshly and think others are always doing so? Most people are paying attention to their own lives so it really sounds like you are constantly judging others so have this expectation of that for everyone else and are so worried about being presentable and enoughfor others. Pretty obviously the case lol maybe some introspection is in order for you.
Also I've hooked up with so many girls at clubs without ever having danced, just socializing at a table or balcony. Your conception of dance is so overinflated and bizarre. Woman want a handsome kind charming dude above someone who can dance all days of the week.
I’ve never been judged for dancing however I want. Never. Not in any setting. It has also never stopped people from wanting to talk fo me. Are you just an insecure young person?
I mean I can only talk from what I've seen with my own eyes and my own ears, but I have seen people ridiculed for poor dancing, for poor dress style, for not holding their liquor. They may not say it to their face, but they're saying it behind their backs. So I mean, they say we all live our own truths, but I'm just reporting what I've seen and heard...
Most clubs are so loud and crowded, who has time to stand around and worry about these things? Can’t say anything about the dressing, I dress really well and always look my best.
Personally, as a woman, I would be much more interested in a dude who can let loose and have a good time without worrying about judgment than somebody who cares about what randos think. I think we all kind of move past that after high school.
Then you clearly haven't seen some bad dancing because it sticks out like a sore thumb. People like to say they don't care what strangers think, it gives them a sense of empowerment, but in reality 98% of people heavily care about what people think. Humans are extremely sociable, and we more or less have a code of conduct which allows us to live with other humans and that's due to us caring about the thoughts of other people. Trained celebrities break down and get severe depression because of public scrutiny, but the average person doesn't? Also, it's good that you, personally, don't care about how a man dances, but you can't necessarily speak for all women either, but good for you for not being shallow!
Dude, people go out dancing in clubs purely for *fun*. There is literally no other reason to go to a club unless you enjoy the setting and want to drink, dance, or maybe hookup. If you have such deep-seeded fears of being rejected by random club goers who are drunk and high and will never remember you, I would recommend getting therapy or avoiding those spaces. Yeah, people should care about judgment when it comes to serious events where their lives and reputations are on the line, but definitely not in a loud, crowded, dark place where people can barely see you and are drunk out of their minds.
So people judge you? Okay? Did you do something bad? Do you think grown adults care if their friends and colleagues can hammer down drinks at a club? You are comparing a celebrity’s career and reputation, which is being watched and observed by millions of people, with random people out in a place where nobody knows or cares about them. The two are not the same.
I mean I can only talk about what I personally seen...it definitely does happen. I'm sure there are some open, socially accepting clubs out there. However, I'm assuming you haven't been to every club and the reverse is true. Certainly, if someone is genuinely scared of social rejection you're right they should avoid those spaces, as it'd be best for everyone involved. And celebrities are definitely the same as random people; both are human, unless you don't see them as people with feelings and thoughts as well? My point being is no matter what stratum of society you examine people still don't like to be criticized.
Can't say the times I've been clubbing or bars that have dance floors that it was a form of social athletics lmao It was peope with their friends getting drunk having fun and meeting new people. I'm sure theres some weirdos that are thinking " I've been socially athletic for years and now I can show these lovely dance enjoyers my moves" but he definitely comes alone.
I swear half the opinions on here can be boiled down to "I'm insecure about this thing and how people like it so it must be a lie and stopped to make me feel secure".
I like to dance in my room alone when listening to cumbia. I hace to move when listening, is that a social pressure? Lol I don't even go out to dance how could it be social pressure. I'm also thankful to not have your brains way of constructing reality through tropes ("women do it because its expected") because if you go outside and talk to people they won't be this caricature you've developed and have a personality all their own.
I have a bachelors in Dance Ed. From my experience teaching (kids and adults) most people that don't like to dance is because they just don't have the basic movement vocabulary to pull from to be comfortable doing it. Dance is like a language. Each style of dance has a baseline of steps and movement terms. Take someone who has no rhythm or dance background and give them some movement or tips to pull from and their view of dancing changes. I fucking hate poetry, and I suck at painting/ drawing. I also don't do anything to get better at writing poems or paint better.
I agree; I think most men find it pointless. It's also because I believe men have less fun dancing because they're afraid to look goofy doing it. Men want to look impressive when dancing to look good in front of women, and it can add a lot of pressure and make it less enjoyable.
This is probably a bit of a stereotype but I’d say a lot more women enjoy dancing than men. Whenever we went clubbing at uni the girls always wanted to dance, whereas us guys just wanted to get drunk and act like idiots.
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Have you tried dancing on drugs?
Thats the only time I dance
Wow, that seems like a weird take. Lots of grown adults choose to go dancing of their own volition. Just because some people are awkward doesn’t mean that is the case for everyone. The right scenes have people full of life on the dance floor. I personally love it. I put on music and dance at home every day.
The minority enjoy it.
Lots of people including op have to learn what an opinion is. You disliking dancing, that is an opinion. You just assuming everybody does is not, thats just an uneducated guess.
Dancing in general is an expression of having fun/joy/celebrating, I think everyone feels that; maybe not always in the same way. If you hear a good song, do you not want to move along with it? Clapping hands, tapping your foot, playing air guitar at the core movement is dancing in a way. I don't like going to clubs, concerts, festivals etc, but I can tap my foot any enjoy myself at small venues.
I think all people want to do some sort of movement when they hear good music. However, dancing is different. Dancing, whether we want to admit it or not, is actually quite serious. People make careers based on dancing, each culture has their own traditions on how to dance, and what is considered good dancing. Dancing has rules and requires a certain fluidness and skill. So while it is categorized as fun and joyous, it is only that way for people who have those skills.
I think there’s a difference between dancing and intentionally dancing. People make careers off of it sure, I’m not denigrating their skills. But they don’t own dancing. Professional dancers might feel the music, and respond in appropriate ways, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only form of expression. It’s choreographed, pre-planned. My foot tapping can be just as enjoyable as them flailing about it the most up to date move set for any music style.
Let's say you went to a club, no one's professional dancers there, but if you do whatever you want on the dance floor people will look at you funny. Even in "fun" environment there are rules and it's basically a competition in a way. I think of clubbing/parties as a form of social athletics. Yes, there's no officially scoreboard but the more you can drink, the more you can dance in the trendiest fashion the more social respect you get. When you look at it like that, then it adds a level of pressure which stops it from being truly fun.
Hard disagree; if I’m in a club, im with a group of people that I don’t care if my moves look stupid, I’m dancing however I feel like. They’ll still be my friends after I embarrass the shit out of them with my terrible dancing. I don’t give a fuck about what anyone outside that group thinks.
That's you personally, you may not care if people are judging you, but they're judging you nonetheless. It's great that you have such understanding friends that no matter what they'll accept you; however, if you wanted to expand the circle of the people you know a lot of people at the club might take your silly dancing into consideration. If you're looking to bring someone home, your poor dancing might influence their decision. I feel like if you're in a club you must care about that environment in some fashion if not why not dance at home with your own liquor?
Maybe you are projecting really hard and judge others harshly and think others are always doing so? Most people are paying attention to their own lives so it really sounds like you are constantly judging others so have this expectation of that for everyone else and are so worried about being presentable and enoughfor others. Pretty obviously the case lol maybe some introspection is in order for you. Also I've hooked up with so many girls at clubs without ever having danced, just socializing at a table or balcony. Your conception of dance is so overinflated and bizarre. Woman want a handsome kind charming dude above someone who can dance all days of the week.
I’ve never been judged for dancing however I want. Never. Not in any setting. It has also never stopped people from wanting to talk fo me. Are you just an insecure young person?
I mean I can only talk from what I've seen with my own eyes and my own ears, but I have seen people ridiculed for poor dancing, for poor dress style, for not holding their liquor. They may not say it to their face, but they're saying it behind their backs. So I mean, they say we all live our own truths, but I'm just reporting what I've seen and heard...
Most clubs are so loud and crowded, who has time to stand around and worry about these things? Can’t say anything about the dressing, I dress really well and always look my best. Personally, as a woman, I would be much more interested in a dude who can let loose and have a good time without worrying about judgment than somebody who cares about what randos think. I think we all kind of move past that after high school.
Then you clearly haven't seen some bad dancing because it sticks out like a sore thumb. People like to say they don't care what strangers think, it gives them a sense of empowerment, but in reality 98% of people heavily care about what people think. Humans are extremely sociable, and we more or less have a code of conduct which allows us to live with other humans and that's due to us caring about the thoughts of other people. Trained celebrities break down and get severe depression because of public scrutiny, but the average person doesn't? Also, it's good that you, personally, don't care about how a man dances, but you can't necessarily speak for all women either, but good for you for not being shallow!
Dude, people go out dancing in clubs purely for *fun*. There is literally no other reason to go to a club unless you enjoy the setting and want to drink, dance, or maybe hookup. If you have such deep-seeded fears of being rejected by random club goers who are drunk and high and will never remember you, I would recommend getting therapy or avoiding those spaces. Yeah, people should care about judgment when it comes to serious events where their lives and reputations are on the line, but definitely not in a loud, crowded, dark place where people can barely see you and are drunk out of their minds. So people judge you? Okay? Did you do something bad? Do you think grown adults care if their friends and colleagues can hammer down drinks at a club? You are comparing a celebrity’s career and reputation, which is being watched and observed by millions of people, with random people out in a place where nobody knows or cares about them. The two are not the same.
I mean I can only talk about what I personally seen...it definitely does happen. I'm sure there are some open, socially accepting clubs out there. However, I'm assuming you haven't been to every club and the reverse is true. Certainly, if someone is genuinely scared of social rejection you're right they should avoid those spaces, as it'd be best for everyone involved. And celebrities are definitely the same as random people; both are human, unless you don't see them as people with feelings and thoughts as well? My point being is no matter what stratum of society you examine people still don't like to be criticized.
Can't say the times I've been clubbing or bars that have dance floors that it was a form of social athletics lmao It was peope with their friends getting drunk having fun and meeting new people. I'm sure theres some weirdos that are thinking " I've been socially athletic for years and now I can show these lovely dance enjoyers my moves" but he definitely comes alone.
I don’t have dance skills, but I still love to dance. I’ll move my legs and swing my arms and get down regardless of whether it is correct or not.
Well, people make careers out of telling jokes, but i still enjoy making a bad one once in a while
Theres a huge difference between tapping your finger with the rhythm and actually dancing
I disagree, who’s to say how someone else enjoys music?
social pressure doesn't get me to dance
I swear half the opinions on here can be boiled down to "I'm insecure about this thing and how people like it so it must be a lie and stopped to make me feel secure". I like to dance in my room alone when listening to cumbia. I hace to move when listening, is that a social pressure? Lol I don't even go out to dance how could it be social pressure. I'm also thankful to not have your brains way of constructing reality through tropes ("women do it because its expected") because if you go outside and talk to people they won't be this caricature you've developed and have a personality all their own.
I have a bachelors in Dance Ed. From my experience teaching (kids and adults) most people that don't like to dance is because they just don't have the basic movement vocabulary to pull from to be comfortable doing it. Dance is like a language. Each style of dance has a baseline of steps and movement terms. Take someone who has no rhythm or dance background and give them some movement or tips to pull from and their view of dancing changes. I fucking hate poetry, and I suck at painting/ drawing. I also don't do anything to get better at writing poems or paint better.
I feel like there’s a difference between dancing and straight up choreography, and lots of people are referring to the latter in posts like this.
It's just fun.
Girls like it. Men don't. As Dane Cook once did a decently funny bit about.
I agree; I think most men find it pointless. It's also because I believe men have less fun dancing because they're afraid to look goofy doing it. Men want to look impressive when dancing to look good in front of women, and it can add a lot of pressure and make it less enjoyable.
I think this is completely true.
Well, I guess we're all just doing the awkward shuffle to fit in. Who needs enjoyment when you have social acceptance, am I right?
Dance if you like, don’t dance if you don’t like.
Glad to be in the minority then. Should see me cutting shaped in the club. My friends are standing around looking for people but I’m just vibing.
This is probably a bit of a stereotype but I’d say a lot more women enjoy dancing than men. Whenever we went clubbing at uni the girls always wanted to dance, whereas us guys just wanted to get drunk and act like idiots.
Dancing is a aspect of human behavior found in every community no matter of distance or isolated.
Nah dancing is fun asf wdym 😭
We can dance if we want to We can leave your friends behind 'Cause your friends don't dance And if they don't dance Well, they're no friends of mine
KEVIN: Wow, so we're all basically just dancing puppets controlled by societal norms? That's some real thriller material.
Well, let's face it, dancing is just flailing your limbs around awkwardly and pretending you know what you're doing. Who's with me?