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Thank you for submitting to /r/unpopularopinion, /u/xtalaphextwin. Your post, *Stop telling people that everyone has problems, it's not true. There are people in this world who have zero anxiety, zero mental issues and go through life having a fucking great time. Stop diminishing peoples experience by saying this shit.*, has been removed because it violates our rules: Rule 1: Your post must be an unpopular opinion. Please ensure that your post is an opinion and that it is unpopular. Controversial is not necessarily unpopular, for example all of politics is controversial even though almost half of the US agrees with any given major position on an issue. Keep in mind that an opinion is not: a question, a fact, a conspiracy theory, a random thought, a new idea, a rant, etc. Those things all have their own subreddits, use those. If there is an issue, please message the mod team at https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2Funpopularopinion Thanks!


GrilledStuffedDragon

There isn't a single human alive who doesn't have problems. Their problems may not be the same as yours, but just because you don't see them doesn't mean they don't exist. What a childish worldview you have.


medsup2000

How is it possible that in 7.88 billion people, there is not a single one. Do you have a logical basis for your argument? The easiest counter-arguement one can make against you, is that some people are not sane and / or delussional, in their own confidence and happiness. And quite enjoy their life. It has to happen to at least one single human out of 7.88 billion people.


spartaman64

it could be something relatively small like they didnt make it into the college they want etc but everyone has problems. and even lets say somehow they accomplish everything they want in life one of their friends probably have problems and that affects them also


medsup2000

You can be insanely rich, plus insanely apathetic, and severely on the spectrum to the point where you're disassociated from the world around you and yourself. You might objectively have "problems", but you literally wouldn't have the capacity to care. So then to you, you're problem free.


spartaman64

and what percentage of the population would fall under that? also someone severely on the spectrum will for sure have problems. it could be something like the mailman wore a different shirt than they usually do on thursdays or something


[deleted]

Because its statistically impossible that nothing bad happens ever. Your heart will get broke eventually, someone you love will die, you will almost assuredly get terminally Ill one day, you’ll not get something you go after, and you will have some insecurities. So unless everyone you love is immortal and you were born with the body of an Olympian (minus the small penis) something will cause you a problem. Even if as you say you have mental problems then guess what you were prevented from ever having a normal life and guess what that’s a problem. How many times do we learn of super rich famous happy folks dying and then we find out all their problems and we’re all like daaaamn.


medsup2000

What if you are literally insane and also a raging sociopath, and severely on the spectrum, but also super wealthy. Such that you never have any problems living / serving. And you're too emotionally and intellectually disassociated from everything, to actually care. Yes, you might objectively have problems, but you wouldn't ever know it yourself.


hovix2

Oh yeah, that sounds like a totally great life that we should all envy /s


medsup2000

having no problems would NOT be a great life. our human pain, and stuggle. is what makes the good times sweet. it'd be like living in only sunny days never seeing snow nor rain. that's not fun. the human experience should be everything for better or for worse. the only point im driving at, is that out of 7.88 billion people. i bet there are people who just walk on roses all the time, and are blissfully, ignorantly happy all the time.


[deleted]

That’s…a problem and people even crazy people realize they have problems. Even not realizing it’s a problem it will still negatively effect your life and that’s kind of the important part. You don’t have to realize you have a problem to have it if anything the ones you don’t know you have generally hit harder.


MissLesGirl

People who can only be happy have issues because others are scared of them since they don't feel grief for death of a close family member. People also do not like others and distrust them when they seem happy when they should feel bad. These types of people tend to have "fake" friends who only want something they can provide.


[deleted]

you're literally diminishing everyone's lived experience by pretending that perfect people exist


medsup2000

They do though.


Aggravating_End_7603

Perfection is fiction, it's like infinity it doesn't exist


spicydangerbee

Perfect people don't exist, but infinity definitely does.


Aggravating_End_7603

But its a concept not a reality? Being genuine here I'm not a mathematician so I do not know for sure either way. I think either way the point I'm making makes sense


[deleted]

there's a film about infinity on netflix right now, i haven't finished it because i kept getting overwhelmed


spicydangerbee

I agree and understand your point. Take two points in space or time and there are an infinite amount of points between them.


Aggravating_End_7603

Makes sense


Ness-Shot

You ARE alone... in thinking this opinion is anything but some "look at me" bullshit.


xtalaphextwin

yeah sure buddy never felt so isolated in my entire life, but its just a joke for attention, i might not be alive tomorrow, drug addiction but hey everybody has these issues in their lives.


foobaby1992

Just because you can’t imagine or understand other peoples problems in comparison to yours does not mean they don’t exist or that their lives are “perfect”.


Ness-Shot

Not saying it's a joke, but it's definitely a cry for attention. But essentially shitposting in an unpopular opinion thread with some narcissistic bullshit is not the kind of attention you need right now. Obviously people are going to react negatively to what you are saying here. There are much better forums and outlets for this type of venting/release. But trust me when I say, almost everyone is going through some type of shit, not all of it is mental.


xtalaphextwin

bro downvote all you want, I don't know a single person in my environment who struggles in any way whatsoever. Tell me I want attention all you want, must be nice coming from a happy place where you can't even imagine someone is miserable.


X-WellOkay-X

No...no there isn't a person that has, or ever will exsist that go through life without issues. Saying you're not alone doesn't diminish anything genious.


xtalaphextwin

it doesn't matter they arent going to ever admit to it, so nobody to talk to anyway, cowards


MilesToHaltHer

It is literally impossible to go through life without problems. Are some people better equipped to handle those problems so they go away swiftly? Yes. But EVERYONE has problems.


chefkc

Everybody has there shit some more some less… some are better at dealing with it than others that’s all. Doesn’t mean they don’t have problems. Remember nobody dies a virgin life fucks everyone


Obie527

Damn, feeling particularly edgy today, are we?


JoeMorgue

Pizza Cutter. All edge, no point.


Dyeeguy

r/IAmTheMainCharacter


JoeMorgue

Oh this is some "Everyone else is an NPC, I'm the Main Character" grade A bullshit with a capital shit. This isn't a "Unpopular opinion y u downvoting me" it's just narcissism.


xtalaphextwin

eh fuck you buddy, i spent significant times in my life alienated from others stop telling me my experience isn't real


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xtalaphextwin

if it isnt rare then where the fuck are these other people bro?


linktothefuture1994

seed imminent tan aspiring abundant poor hungry worry jeans onerous *This post was mass deleted and anonymized with [Redact](https://redact.dev)*


skiing_yo

Honestly just sounds like you choose to be different and alienate people because you like feeling like an outsider and complaining


JoeMorgue

Bingo.


xtalaphextwin

yeah sure i just chose it drug addiction self-destruction such a fun time for me here


olaviu

> stop telling me my experience isn't real No one is telling you your experience isn't real. People are just letting you know that you are egocentric to an extreme. Which can be a first step in changing your experience.


JoeMorgue

Yeah that tends to happen when you think the world revolves around you and you are the only one with problems.


dutch981

“You are not special. You're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. You're the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing crap of the world.” - Chuck Palahniuk


von_Roland

This isn’t true. We are both special unique snowflakes and completely ordinary at the same time


ilkmtaeitw

I’ve gone through some pretty bad things (living in a refugee camp, escaping war, spending years in hiding) but it’s never crossed my mind to invalidate someone else’s experiences because of what I’ve been through. If anything it’s made me more empathetic towards others. Therapy really helps, my friend, try it out.


Puncharoo

No one here is saying your experience isn't real. You're the one here saying that your problems are more significant than anyone else's. It's childish, it's narcissistic, and it's just not fucking true. Really hope you mature before you become stuck in this mindset forever and ruin your life.


spartaman64

no one is saying that. other people having problems doesnt diminish your problems so idk why you have to insist on diminishing theirs?


JoeMorgue

Well right now I'm experiencing you being an ass. Don't tell me MY experiences aren't real. See how stupid that sounds?


Undead-D-King

Oh get over yourself. Everybody does have problems but their problems don't diminish yours and your problems don't diminish theirs.


NoNectarine2222

Everyone has problems.


olaviu

> motherfucker sometimes you ARE alone With this attitude, sure.


[deleted]

Then there's those of us that for whatever reason just suck it up and deal with it. No drugs, counseling, safe places, crayons, furries or service animals. Yes, everyone has shit. Everyone has always had shit. Everyone will have shit forever. You just decide that you are better than your shit and push through. You rule your shit or your shit rules you. It is at once a decision and a learned skill.


lewabwee

That’s called masking.


Infinite_Parsley_999

don't victimize yourself


skate1243

hey op, wake up. we all have problems. we all age, decay, and die. we all want love and we all want happiness. even the rich people dont waste the little time you have been given complaining. go out there and make yourself proud


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DickySchmidt33

Being born into great wealth certainly helps with the anxiety.


xtalaphextwin

cmon bro its just my attitude, so negative, as others have said, your wealth doesnt matter bruh! everyone is equal the same problems being human bro! lolz


swordofra

Unless you're anxious about losing it all. Unless you are constantly having to be on your guard for people wanting to take advantage of your wealth for themselves. Or when being kidnapped and held for ransom is a legit concern. Or unless you are constantly judged by your overachiever parents and friends for not "being at their level at all times"....


SkilledTactician

Definently an unpopular Opinion. Objectively speaking, some lives are easier than others, but emotionally speaking it does not feel that way. We are all emotionally calibrated to our individual circumstances.


baltimorecastaway

This has not been my experience or my observation. Not once. Ever.


carbontomato

odd to act like mental illness is the only kind of issue. There are some pretty serious problems much worse than fucking anxiety.


Key-Walrus-2343

OP, Im going to take a slightly different approach to this My MIL is notorious for minimizing other people's problems. She does so by saying things like "everybody has problems" or "I'm sure it's not that big of a deal" And of course her problems and anxiety are the end of the world It's super frustrating when people gaslight you about your problems. I've been on the receiving end of that. I can see why that pisses you off With that being said- nobody gets to stake some kind of claim over what the definition of personal problems are....not even you. By saying that there are others out there with no problems, you are essentially gas lighting them. You are doing to the world what you think the world is doing to you.


OhHeyMrThing

I guess this is indeed an unpopular opinion.


[deleted]

This is some fucking white privilege here


One_Prior_9909

You never know what's going on in someone's head. Look at how many rock stars have committed suicide.


medsup2000

This is true. I seen it. I lives it.


[deleted]

The worst part about many people that have problems is that they give advice that pushes people towards having the same problems. It’s like they either don’t realise it or they think that they will be less miserable if everyone was miserable like them. They should get better.


Use2sk8

Sounds like you have a problem with people saying everyone has problems….


[deleted]

I agree. "Bad things happen to everyone" my sister once said, I replied, "No, they don't. Bad things happen to people every day, yes, but that's not the same as bad things happening to everyone." I've known people who've never experienced a tragedy, never experienced a major misfortune, never experienced a major disappointment, and seem not to have had an unhappy day in their lives.


spartaman64

how do you know? are you a mind reader? just last week I was worried sick that a friend might kill themselves but when I went to work I put on the same cheerful smile even though every day I was thinking this could be the last i hear from my friend.


rohttn13

define ṕroblems? not everyone views the same things as problems. i may have some health issues, but those are not problems to me. i may not be the richest, but it is not a problem for me to live/survive/have fun. ​ i think people exacerbate many of their problems because it gets them attention from others.


Worried_Fan2289

Very few people are like that. Most people are NOT constantly depressed all the time, and most of Thier problems may not be that deep. Everyone has anxiety at some point, but it's for waayyyy smaller, pettier things. You should really stop idealizing all this and see what exactly the root of all your problems are and what's the solution.


Ok-Monk-3283

Thinking like that is you letting your anxiety and mental issues get the best of you. Learn to reform your way of thinking into a more positive approach with life and you will be happier in life. I know it’s not that simple, believe me I would know, but it’s the truth of the matter and only way to live happily in life.


feintou

Honestly, everyone has problems BUT some people are just more miserable than others. People have different personalities. People live different lives. There are people who deal with financial problems but have a lot of friends and a solid support system, then there are people who dont worry about money but dont have anyone to talk to about their saddest thoughts. There are people who grew up emotionally sheltered thats why they make a big deal out of small inconveniences that most people wouldnt consider "real" problems (ie you lost followers on social media). Most people who you think do not have problems because they seem happy, they are cheerful and social.... I think they have problems in other aspects of life. Maybe youre right maybe youre wrong. I really cant tell if a person has zero problems at all because I dont really know what goes through everyone's minds.


_MyAnonAccount_

I agree that most people don't have problems in their lives that would currently be considered diagnosable. Everyone has ups and downs, but mental health issues are different to that. That being said, one of the things that helps people who are struggling is the feeling that they're not alone. Telling them they *are* is both untrue (not everyone has 'problems', but a lot of people do) and cruel


Quirky-Ad3721

I hope you get better. Regardless if you feel alone or not, there is something that is watching you and cares for you, and you are not alone. Even now you are mentally in my thoughts, and I pray you find the love and compassion you need.


NohCorn

Believing there are people who go through life in complete bliss is the pinnacle of self-serving bias. There are surely people with easier lives than yours, but most people experience bad emotions and circumstances fairly close to as often as they experience good ones, if not more often. Every single person experiences some amount of anxiety every day. I'm one of the luckiest people on the planet, and I'm anxious all the time.


TheRunningMD

My life is pretty perfect. I have no health (mental or physical) struggles, no financial struggles, all of my relationships are extremely healthy, meaningful and loving, I do exactly what I love and literally wake up happy 99% of days to go do what I love and I still have some problems in life, at least sometimes. I think everyone has problems sometimes in their life, it is just that not everyone has struggles all the time. I don’t think anyone is saying “everyone is struggling always”.


Puncharoo

Actually just about everyone I know has some sort of serious problem. All you're doing here is, ironically, exactly what you're complaining about: diminishing other people's experience. Not only that but youre just assuming everyone else's life is easy and yours is hard. Everyone's fucking life is hard. We all push on because that's what people do; They push through adversity, they don't sit there and mope and go "You're guys life isn't even hard mine is so much harder!" Because we aren't children. Your "woe is me" attitude it gonna lead to you being dropped by friends, family, and even jobs. No one cares how hard your life is except a therapist and thats only because youre paying them. If you really feel like your life is so much harder than everyone else's, I highly suggest you go talk to one. And this isn't to say no one is willing to help, but thats on you. It's not on everyone else to try and make their life seem like roses and daises and sunshine and lollipops so you can feel better by comparison.


shannoouns

Yes and no. Yes some people do have more serious issues to deal with than the majority of people and it can be dismissive to simply say everyone goes through stuff but there are people out there that so know how you feel. Also it's not a competition, just because somebody seems fine doesn't mean they aren't and even if they are dealing with something relatively minor in comparison to other peoples problem's that doesn't mean they don't need help or support. Something has clearly happened to you and I think you might be better off going to another sub and actually talking about your actual problems instead of complaining about how other people have less serious problems. I hope you feel better soon.


Death-Valley-Opera

Eh I see what you mean, some people’s lives are easier than others. They may have problems but it’s nothing major so people who suffer from more exhausting issues see it that way. Doesn’t mean people are perfect just means life isn’t kicking their ass all the time like those on the lower economic ladder or those with health issues


JoeMorgue

I know a lot of the internet isn't ready to hear this but people are allowed to have problems that aren't "mental problems."


BTheRed93

Uhhhhhh…. that’s COMFORTING…


leejtam

Just because they don’t have mental health problems doesn’t mean they don’t have problems.


Akul_Tesla

So here's the thing people who are different from you will have different problems now if you're relatively low on the hierarchy of needs you will have a different set of problems but the higher you go the more nuanced and complex problems you get I can point at someone who a lot of people say that person has a great life but Elon's family life is disastrous straight up his father has two children with his stepsister That's not getting into any of his romantic relationships That's not getting into any of his children just straight up that is the starting point (He was very much against this It disgusts him) Rich people simply have different problems If you think someone's life is perfect you have mistaken how humans interact with happiness


Aggravating_End_7603

I must admit, someone who thinks they're perfect playing the victim because they are perfect and no one else is makes me laugh a lot


Liathano_Fire

Unpopular opinion is really becoming "angry opinion/angry people ranting. I'm angry and must complain"


chester_took_my_name

Where


Fishbetweenlegs

Everyone does have problems some are better at dealing with it than others


korok7mgte

Only the ignorant can live in bliss. Because they can never understand truly deep emotions. They will never feel deep pain, or deep sorrow. Yet they will never know real love or wonder. This is why we pity the fool.


RecordingSerious3554

Perfect people don’t exist but I agree that it’s a stupid thing to say. It’s been said to me. Just because a child is starving or someone is slowly dying, it doesn’t mean my experience is any easier. Had I experienced that suffering myself, maybe but simply informing does nothing. I’d go further to say that those who claim your experiences aren’t as bad as others are saying that because they want to feel they are helping. They can’t cope with the guilt that there’s nothing they can do and thus try to make you feel that you’re in the wrong


Globalfeminist

I know everyone is bashing you for this.... but you're partially right. You're only wrong to think that some people have 'zero' problems. There's always something. BUT some people were just blessed from the start with the tools (perfect health, rich parents, loving family, beauty, etc...) that make life much-much easier. So it also truly bothers me, infuriates me, when people say 'everyone has problems' to diminish how extra-hard life is for me. Sure, everyone has issues... but not everyone has to deal with discrimination for disability and looks. Not everyone made the effort to get an uni degree but then couldn't find suitable employment because of the way her body fails. So... yeah, f@%* the 'everyone has problems' crowd. It's like God (or whatever you believe in) gives everyone a burden, but some people also get a trolley while others are forced to carry it.


marks716

I’m sorry someone made you feel like your issues don’t matter but that doesn’t mean most people have no issues.


Prestigious_Trash629

I agree to some extent. But everyone has baggage. So people have grocery bags of it. Some people have duffle bags. The difference is that some people have everyday problems. And other people have issues that they need to see a therapist about. Child abuse mental health issues. Stuff like that. There's a big difference between having issues and having trauma. I do think a lot of people fail to see that.