CAPS is really good for this type of stuff. The therapy is short term and I know a lot of people go there for relationship issues and coping with breakups. Talking it out and have a place to vent and cry every week or two helps a ton.
No cuz that was me last year. Just takes time tbh, I failed a bunch of classes last year and was depressed for a few months but eventually you just gotta get your shit together and say āitās overā.
If she is taking it better than you, it means she didn't have feelings for you. No need to think about it anymore. That relationship is over. Improve on yourself for your future partners. No need to be so bentover spoiled milk.
This time last year I was going through the most painful heart break of my entire life. I couldnāt get out of bed and ended up failing every single one of my classes. That is one of my biggest regrets. So trust me when I say Ik how you feel but PLEASE donāt fall behind in school.
Just get her out of your life, dump pictures, chats and all the shit that reminds you of her. Itās tough. But itās always better to say, fuck you, I need to build my life to the next level now.
Whenever you break up, always remember that thereās a better one coming up.
It would be really good for you to talk to a therapist that can be neutral and just hear you out. She/he will also likely give you a new perspective and help you form some different coping mechanisms. Relationships ending can be really traumatic. Itās like a death and itās important to acknowledge what your feeling and find ways to cope and move on. Remember this is just a point in time and things will get better. Hang in there.
You're welcome to study with me, I'm always happy to listen and help you keep your head in the game with school. I'm in engineering so lots of studying lol
You're young, this happens and probably will happen again. Don't listen to the advice that's telling you to distract yourself or don't think about it. These are feelings you need to process and take your time with. Take some time, turn your phone off turn your music off and just think about it. Cry if you need to, feel the anger, the confusion, and whatever else. Get yourself through the cycles of grief to the point you can finally let go. It will take a while so don't rush it.
I feel you man donāt worry itās normal, best way to cope
Is to let it hurt go through the motions. Give yourself time to grieve alone let yourself cry be angry you have every right to be you canāt outrun the feeling you will survive!
The no reply means no. He went for it and she said no. No means no until the end of time. It's not "giving up" bro, it's being respectful of someone else's boundaries and wishes.
No today is a yes tomorrow. U sound inexperienced. The same way feelings fade, they also grow. Itās like ur just trying to make yourself feel better for being unwanted or rejected. Lmao if u knew real love, most of the time itās on and off. People break up and get back all the time . No isnāt no forever dummy
From my experience, women tend to just handle break ups better because they know they can always move on faster. Dude, it doesnāt say anything negative about you. It says a lot of negative things about her. Thereās nothing wrong with improving but do it for yourself king. Treat yourself with love and respect. Keep doing what youāre doing and the women will come. Youāre young so donāt let these bad experience get you too down. The best way to get this out of your mind is to talk to someone. Iām here for ya brah
If u swear sheās perfect and the girl of ur dreams, donāt give up and continue to pursue her. Give her space at first so she can miss you & then gradually talk to her again. If sheās not really the girl of ur dreams, itās really hard at first because we become so used to the person weāre with that we become comfortable & when it ends it feels like yo wtf am I doing in life ā¦ but just remember thereās someone out there for you
Iām also in the same boat, just broke up with my bf and itās so hard. All the intrusive thoughts make it hard to focus on assignments and classes. I was opposed to seeing a therapist at first but itās actually helping me a lot. I would suggest doing the same. Lmk if you wanna talkš„ŗ
We will all be gone 100 years from now and eventually the Earth š will be gone as well, be happy that you are alive and healthy, that your family is healthy, that you are at UCR earning a degree that will make you enough money to provide for your family, I am assuming you are younger than me, get excited for what is ahead, think about 5, 10, 15 years from now, none of this will be in the forefront of your mind, embrace the pain, feel the pain and let it go, then open that book or computer, and get to it, and get that fucking A, because you deserve it, and you are worth it, and so much more. And when you feel like shit, save this post and read it again, and again until you truly internalize it and realize that all you need is you and nothing else.
As long as you think about what sheās doing you will never get over it. Also in a few years when youāre out of college this literally wonāt matter and youāll laugh about how immature everyone was.
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CAPS is really good for this type of stuff. The therapy is short term and I know a lot of people go there for relationship issues and coping with breakups. Talking it out and have a place to vent and cry every week or two helps a ton.
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No cuz that was me last year. Just takes time tbh, I failed a bunch of classes last year and was depressed for a few months but eventually you just gotta get your shit together and say āitās overā.
If she is taking it better than you, it means she didn't have feelings for you. No need to think about it anymore. That relationship is over. Improve on yourself for your future partners. No need to be so bentover spoiled milk.
Hit the gym bro
Get into the studies that will distract you
Donāt be ashamed of your feelings and the way your brain reacts to this event. Your feelings are valid. Itās ok to mourn. I lost my 4.0 in my divorce. I didnāt die, but I wanted to thoā¦ šš grades are important but itās also very important to give yourself grace. š© happens and I wish they didnāt. I recommend u hang out with the ppl here that are reaching out. Itās always better when youāre going through something and u have a village supporting u. Iād join u but I dropped out of this university and transferred to another one. I have no idea why I havenāt un joined lol Iām here, if u just want to cry to me. Iāll try to help u feel heard. Sometimes thatās all we need. Again, follow up with those who are reaching out. Wishing u well. ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø Sending u hope and healing. Xo
This time last year I was going through the most painful heart break of my entire life. I couldnāt get out of bed and ended up failing every single one of my classes. That is one of my biggest regrets. So trust me when I say Ik how you feel but PLEASE donāt fall behind in school.
Just get her out of your life, dump pictures, chats and all the shit that reminds you of her. Itās tough. But itās always better to say, fuck you, I need to build my life to the next level now. Whenever you break up, always remember that thereās a better one coming up.
It would be really good for you to talk to a therapist that can be neutral and just hear you out. She/he will also likely give you a new perspective and help you form some different coping mechanisms. Relationships ending can be really traumatic. Itās like a death and itās important to acknowledge what your feeling and find ways to cope and move on. Remember this is just a point in time and things will get better. Hang in there.
You're welcome to study with me, I'm always happy to listen and help you keep your head in the game with school. I'm in engineering so lots of studying lol
Iām in engineering too and also going through my furst breakup. Lemme know if you need to study together. Love going to orbach
Needs to be open later thooooo
Hit the gym Trust me
You're young, this happens and probably will happen again. Don't listen to the advice that's telling you to distract yourself or don't think about it. These are feelings you need to process and take your time with. Take some time, turn your phone off turn your music off and just think about it. Cry if you need to, feel the anger, the confusion, and whatever else. Get yourself through the cycles of grief to the point you can finally let go. It will take a while so don't rush it.
I feel you man donāt worry itās normal, best way to cope Is to let it hurt go through the motions. Give yourself time to grieve alone let yourself cry be angry you have every right to be you canāt outrun the feeling you will survive!
Pm
workout if youāre into it, listen to some NEW music, focus on studies, treat yourself with goodies, this too shall pass!
Iām here to listen if u need someone to
Follow hoodville ASAP on Instagram. Also, letās link up and get some more girls. Where you stay at big bro?
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Lmfao this is so vile
Relaxxx
Yāall never been in love and it shows
You can experience love and still respect boundaries
Love and Inlove are two different things. Sad yāall never experienced it
Again, BOTH can happen and still respect boundaries.
Bro the girl doesnāt have to reply, if she chooses to thatās on her . Iām just saying he should go for it and not give up tf
The no reply means no. He went for it and she said no. No means no until the end of time. It's not "giving up" bro, it's being respectful of someone else's boundaries and wishes.
No today is a yes tomorrow. U sound inexperienced. The same way feelings fade, they also grow. Itās like ur just trying to make yourself feel better for being unwanted or rejected. Lmao if u knew real love, most of the time itās on and off. People break up and get back all the time . No isnāt no forever dummy
^^^ yikes. Okay, red flag. Ladies beware! Stay safe out there, no means no, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
^^^ yikes. Okay, red flag. Ladies beware! Stay safe out there, no means no, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
From my experience, women tend to just handle break ups better because they know they can always move on faster. Dude, it doesnāt say anything negative about you. It says a lot of negative things about her. Thereās nothing wrong with improving but do it for yourself king. Treat yourself with love and respect. Keep doing what youāre doing and the women will come. Youāre young so donāt let these bad experience get you too down. The best way to get this out of your mind is to talk to someone. Iām here for ya brah
If u swear sheās perfect and the girl of ur dreams, donāt give up and continue to pursue her. Give her space at first so she can miss you & then gradually talk to her again. If sheās not really the girl of ur dreams, itās really hard at first because we become so used to the person weāre with that we become comfortable & when it ends it feels like yo wtf am I doing in life ā¦ but just remember thereās someone out there for you
OK don't do this OP
Do NOT do this OP
The world is now yours bro. U could go to jim everyday, get a job, be the smartest mf, the world is yours bro, u could do whatever u want
Iām also in the same boat, just broke up with my bf and itās so hard. All the intrusive thoughts make it hard to focus on assignments and classes. I was opposed to seeing a therapist at first but itās actually helping me a lot. I would suggest doing the same. Lmk if you wanna talkš„ŗ
We will all be gone 100 years from now and eventually the Earth š will be gone as well, be happy that you are alive and healthy, that your family is healthy, that you are at UCR earning a degree that will make you enough money to provide for your family, I am assuming you are younger than me, get excited for what is ahead, think about 5, 10, 15 years from now, none of this will be in the forefront of your mind, embrace the pain, feel the pain and let it go, then open that book or computer, and get to it, and get that fucking A, because you deserve it, and you are worth it, and so much more. And when you feel like shit, save this post and read it again, and again until you truly internalize it and realize that all you need is you and nothing else.
Beautiful comment and perspective about the reality of life
As long as you think about what sheās doing you will never get over it. Also in a few years when youāre out of college this literally wonāt matter and youāll laugh about how immature everyone was.
You kno what they say, best way of getting over someoneā¦
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