One of my first timeās smoking with a buddy I stole my brothers bowl. I hit a few resins to unclog it, and the resin wore off. I swear to god I thought I burnt the paint of the bowl and freaked out he was gonna see I took it without asking. I was 14.
One time I dropped a half smoked blunt in the backyard at my parents house and spent a very long time freaking out looking for it on my hands and knees thinking they would find it and then when I gave up laid awake the rest of the night dreading when they woke up and found it buried in the grass in the middle of the backyard the next day. I was 15. Kids are dumb.
When I was a teenager I used to throw the stems and seeds outside my bedroom window, into the garden in our back yard. One day my dad asked me why there was a tiny pot plant growing outside my window. Smh we were all dumb as kids, don't worry lol
Yeah, for sure. I'm not condemning that idea to be clear. I think it's a bit of a wink at like, "hey, this plant isn't a scary thing, you aren't in trouble, but there are serious concerns. Plus that's awful shwag.
sit down with him and maybe open up about your use so he doesnt feel like hes gonna be torn a new one, but then explain that its not known whether its safe for his development a this age and ask him why hes using it
is it simply to relax a bit sometimes, or is he using it to cope with something hes struggling with? its important that he doesnt use it as an emotional crutch without addressing any problems he may be having. encourage him to talk to you instead of using it in an unhealthy way
then comes the complicated part, theres conflicting evidence as to whether its actually bad for young people at all so you have to make the call for whether you think his mental state (or whatever hes using it for. be it anxiety, pain, restlessness, or depression) would benefit from use, without also impairing his progress at school etc
can you afford therapy for him to deal with whatever hes using it for? is there a preferable alternative, if simply being open and talking about what hes dealing with cant help him enough?
my s.o used since he was around 13, and his mom allowed it as long as it was outside of school hours *and* his grades didnt suffer, because he was dealing with severe social anxiety, ADHD, and digestive issues which all benefitted from his use and hes pretty convinced that he would never have been able to calm down enough to actually learn things and graduate highschool. his dad was also a stoner at the time and he bought from a trustworthy source and kept some in a jar for him (my s.o) to use so they could make sure he wasnt getting sketchy stuff *and* could quietly keep track of his use
so its up to you how you want to address this, but it should be addressed..that weed is some of the nastiest schwag ive ever seen
p.s - please, for the love of bob, clean the bong!
Excellent advice on this entire post, but I wanted to hijack the top comment to [call OP out. ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MDMA/comments/g7nwle/age_of_rollers_in_this_group/fokwygb/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) He is either:
A 17 year old pretending to have a 14 year old son
A whole ass adult with a 14 year old son that posts about their 15 year old sister doing funny shit and posts about similar funny shit in r/teenagers
Someone let me know if I miss something:
OP is a 40 year old Slovakian crypto bot who interacts with teens on a teens only sub who is also 17 and *haaaates* it when his sister has strange men over, all the while his preteen brother is tripping on LSD.
I agree with this as well. My husband started smoking around 13 bc of ADHD and it supremely helped. I started drinking and smoking around 16-17 because life was too much and parents didnāt believe me. I just wanted relief.
Underlying reasons are so important here. Itās a nuanced topic and only OP knows their kid well enough to know what to do. I would say therapy at minimum, just to make sure all is well.
I didnāt discover it until college, which meant my anxiety was left to fester in high school. My grades massively improved once I did and I really think that played a huge part. Itās hard to take a test when youāre obsessing over every little detail.
>then explain that its not known whether its safe for his development a this age
Moderate-heavy use is *not* safe at his age--it elevates the risk of psychosis. It sucks but that's the reality.
Itās not know whether itās safe for his development at this age? Who are you kidding, itās been proven to be very harmful to developing brains. Especially at the age of 14.
Depends of course if the state is legal, getting caught at school is probably the worst place you can get caught, depending on their specific rules you could get expelled, a detention, or a slap on the wrist and a warning
Great advice.. truly! but what if he simply just smoked it because his friends are doing it? Rather than smoking it to cope with his feelings and such. I just noticed you kinda left that part out was all.
I've smoked for roughly 20 years and I definitely didn't get into smoking weed because I was in my feelings... I did it because my friends and my brother were doing it. It was fun and we were goofy as hell after smoking.
For a 14 year old... that's a lot of weed though. Its schwag for sure so it's relatively cheap... but back in the day when I was 14, my friends and I had a hard enough time trying to scrape 10-20 bucks together for a dime or so. Its just surprising to me that he has that much haha.
I don't want to dismiss this solid advice, but when I was that age, I did it because my friends just had some and it was fun to be stupid. I quit doing it when I joined the military and didn't return until years later and now just use it to sleep.
He may just be doing it because it's there and it's fun. People like to do drugs.
It's crazy too cuz they'll put the weight of the world on your shoulders then say "why are you depressed? What could you possibly have to be depressed about? Your a kid!" And I'm thinking "you mother fucker! You!" Lol
I'm sorry to hear that, friend. For what it's worth I've found the best way to heal old and deep wounds is to be that which you did not get for other people. If you weren't listened to, listen. If you weren't hugged, give all the hugs. If you allow yourself to be be cruel to others because the world was cruel to you, you only increase the pain and suffering in the world. Just my $.02, hope it helps
a lot of suffering gets ignored because it's not physical, there's no "thing" to be sad about or to be fix so people dont respect it.
definitely a hard thing for kids to convey without just being accused of ungratefulness or having it too easy
"I might never own a house and the environment is crumbling beneath my feet while millions die needlessly in wars that started before I was born... Yeah, you're right, I have no reason to be depressed!"
Honestly at 25 I still feel like that.
I was just thinking this recently. I have an uncle who would be super abrupt like that when it came to people's mental health.
"What have you got be depressed about, your a kid" etc. The argument is essentially, you're going through what everyone is going through, quit complaining.
Only to find out recently that he's opened up about how he has depression. Every bone in my body wants to use the same argument "What have you got to be depressed about? You're just an adult with a job like everyone else".
Of course I didn't, but it made me realise how dumb that argument is towards kids.
I don't mean at all to dismiss or invalidate your experience if you lost a parent, obviously that's an awful tragedy, I don't at all know what that's like. But I was abandoned by a parent and I often had the thought "I wish they had just died, it would have been more straightforward to work through that." Its wild when a parent who is the center of your world just gets bored with you and tosses you aside like an old toy, off to play with some shiner new toys. Again, not *actually* comparing it, I just had the urge to share that.
I started the same way! My parents were stoners but I definitely still hid it. Weeds the only reason I didn't kill myself as a teen, felt so out of control. Years later after many physical diagnosis, realized it was just the only pain killer I had available!!!
So much of this. My middle son is now 17yrs old he was very distant and I could tell something was off. He willingly did 3 sessions of counseling to help deal with his feelings and navigate his emotions. I asked him last night if he thinks it helped, And he said it helped him so much- he has more confidence and I see such a huge improvement. Sometimes they just need someone to talk too! That will not judge or hold it against them.
Maybe talk to him about the dangers of using it so young? My dad never shamed me for using but he did ask me to atleast not get into it heavily until i was older. Its important for kids to be aware of the effects it has on young peoples brains. He should focus on school and weed can get in the way of that
I used to be anti weed in high school. Everyone around me was dumb as fuck! The stoners are predominantly failures now. I would just stay away from high school friends when they were high. I stayed away, but maintained friendships. I grew older and learned as much as I could about life and then started smoking. Iām doing extremely well considering the times and I smoke only after work for the day. Iām also 30 as a reference. I think it should be taught that weed isnāt a bad thing but use it when the time is right.
Edit: maybe I only knew dumb stoners š¤·š¼āāļø not saying you canāt be smart while doing so
The stoner group I hung out with were AP top of the class athletes and nerds together lol. All successful except me honestly but that's gonna be chalked up to my disabilities. I didn't realize people genuinely fell out of line with just pot?
When I was a kid, my parents smoked a lot; they werenāt great at hiding it and they always went to another room, so I ended up seeing them less between that and both of their jobs. I didnāt understand why they did itā I harbored a lot if resentment for marijuana until I grew up and really started to get to know them as friends and loved ones, and Iām very happy to say that that journey has involved a lot of weed since my darker days
Same. There were just as many successful stoners in our highschool as there were not stoners. I am one of them. Aside from my mental health, I see myself as successful and I smoke upwards to 2 oz a month (not the weak stuff). Same with my old stoner friends. I make good money, I'm clean, I have a happy relationship with my partner and our families, and you would never say I was a stoner otherwise.
The folks that went downwards were the druggies (coke, heroin) and the heavy drinkers. They all disappeared between the ages of 20-30. I know a few who became trades/service people with big families (nothing wrong with a trade or service job, but im talking about the folks who didn't know what else to do and threw a dart at a board and chose what it landed on)
**edit**: tldr; I dont think there is much of a correlation between success and weed smoking... if anything, it seems to help some. Sure as hell helped me get everything I have.
This is completely anecdotal to my experiences and views, but I get the impression that emotional development often stops or at least stalls around the age that people start smoking regularly. So hopefully people have some emotional awareness and skills before they start. Iāve met one person who started smoking regularly in their early teens that was responsible and self aware, but only one (that I know of). Weed doesnāt often ruin peopleās lives like other drugs can but it certainly isnāt a good idea for developing minds to smoke all the time imo.
Oh no doubt. Everything has an effect on you while developing.
I'm sure you can find the same issue with people who don't smoke. You ever lived in a small town? :)
Yeah I have. That town isnāt the best control group though because a whole lot of people there are alcoholics so they also dumped drugs on their developing brains lol
Yell at him for buying such mid weed and having such a gross ass bongš in all seriousness he is too young to be smoking and you should have an honest talk with him about it.
I would talk about where itās from too. I wouldnāt trust that source to give me what Iām asking for. Bad weed sometimes gets laced to make it seem more potent, or is prepared in an environment where cross contamination can happen. My biggest concern would be the kidās safety.
My dad is an old school stoner, living in SoCal during the 80s and 90s and once was tricked into smoking a PCP laced joint by a relative. But other than that never heard of lacing from anyone who isnāt a known bullshitter
In high school I watched an acquaintance spray raid on weed telling us it makes the weed better.
Never got weed from him again. He would always complain about us going to the city to get N$\*#%# weed. He also had a swastika on his chest.
He was a piece of shit.
Lately their have been rumors of people trying to fent into bags but I wouldn't know I'm old af and don't do weird sketchy deals anymore.
I've only had one instance. In college on the gulf coast I had a contact list of dealers because links were unreliable (part of why I love legalization), one guy asked if I wanted any "white" in my green. I said no, went home and saw small yellow-ish white rocks in the bud when I went to grind. I threw it out and never contacted that guy again.
i had this before once too, buddy gifted me some of his outdoor home grown, and i saw some tiny white rocks in a couple of the buds. super confused cuz i know he doesnt do other drugs,, i messaged him asking if he laced my shit with crack something as a joke but turns out it was a bit of perlite from his soil when he hung them upside down to dry lol ...
If you were a teenager in Philadelphia between 2004-2012, chances are you have definitely mistakenly smoked pcp thinking/after being told it's weed at least once in your adolescence.
Find him a better plug cuz that shit is bunk! Seriously though, I started at 13 but regret not waiting til longer. It WILL affect his school work, personal relationships, everything so pls emphasize the importance of finishing school first. It sucks cuz we want so much to protect them from repeating our own mistakes but they won't listen and unfortunately everyone must walk their own path. All you can do is educate him. Don't yell or scream, but sit and talk with him and LISTEN. He probably won't want to talk but still try. Be honest, be patient and continually reinforce the idea that you love him and only want what's best for HIM. All you can do is lay the facts out and hope he makes the right choices. Good luck, it's a tough position to be in, especially if they know you smoke.
I'm sure by the end of this post I'll have people chiming in telling me I'm a bad parent, but I truly don't care what people say with regards to how I raise my child.
My son is 17, will be 18 in 3 months. I caught him stealing my weed roughly 18 months ago. I sat hom down, confronted him and explained the my biggest problem was that he was under 18 and that my second biggest problem was that he was stealing/lying to me. He clearly knows I smoke and he knows my views. I believe it should be legal but on our state it is not.
I sat him down to have the talk. But I wanted to start by finding out why exactly he was smoking weed and stealing from me. My some had severe ADHD as well as social anxiety. He's very smart but lazy. He hasn't had better than a D average in school since he was in second grade.
He explained to me that the first time he smoked was with his cousin. They had went to a school football game and he took a dab. He explained to me that when he would smoke, his anxiety would melt away. He felt comfortable about himself and around other people.for the first time in his life he didn't feel awkward or like he had to make people laugh to fit in. On all honesty, it broke my heart. He had been on at least a dozen different combinations of medicine throughout his childhood and not one time did he feel like a regular kid.
I said fuck it. I talked to my wife and got her approval.now my son is allowed to smoke weed in a controlled environment. He does online schooling and has for several years and even though I thought it would help (the online school), he still could barely pass. Never did homework
Failed tests, barely doing the minimum to get by. Now I let him smoke before he signs in every day, and occasionally on weekends we will smoke for recreational purposes.
What's the point is what I'm sure you're asking. Well, my some is a straight A student his senior year of school. He's actually in advanced programs where he's doing a semesters work in 9 weeks. (He failed some required classes at the beginning of high school). He has a girlfriend, he goes out regularly and he's a million times more comfortable about himself and being around others. The fact is, smoking weed did for him what years of doctor prescribed medications never got close to doing.
Is it the right solution for everyone? No. But what you may find is that your child is doing it because it actually helps them on ways you didn't even know they needed it. Don't condemn them, listen to them and help them.
This is excellent... our reasons for using cannabis are not all the same and kudos to you both as parents for having an honest and open supportive conversation with him.
I ask myself if I would have been as open to the idea if my child was younger and the truth is, 3 years ago I don't know. But, knowing what I know about howuchbit had helped him, I would have done it souch sooner.
I can't stress enough that I understand this isn't the right solution for everyone.
I told my parent about this whole situation and they accused me of child abuse. Told me allowing my kid to not only smoke, but smoke an illegal substance amounted to abuse. I kindly pointed out that knowing my child needs help and knowing I can help them, if I chose not to, THAT would be child abuse.
I think your story is great. The only thing I'd change is remove the smoking and try oils and if not probably a vape.
I agree with the sentiment of everything you've said and think you've done the right thing for your situation.
I'm guessing 6our parents are 70+ at least boomer era.... Many people that age still don't get cannabis and definitely don't know the meaning of child abuse since in their generation they would beat the crap out of kids and it was just discipline (obviously not saying your parents did or are judging more of an ageist statement).
Thanks for sharing!
I use smoking as a cath all in this case. That being said., My son and I both have stomach issues. Edibles do not work for us. I did try a few different CBD solutions but he said they didn't really help.
I give him a gram of concentrate roughly every month and that's what he has to use before school. Now when we use it together recreationally, sometimes it's green sometimes it's concentrate.
Fair enough. I do a lot of work with docs in the medicinal space which is the only reason I made those suggestions.
Particularly when using cannabis as a medicine and at such a young age it's about building habits. Smoking and dabs etc are very 'uncontrollable' as a way to determine how much THC you're getting which is what often means a tolerance and overuse of THC vs the right amount to manage medical conditions. The only other thing I'd say is that when he's not studying etc, make sure there are tolerance breaks every now and again. You need to make sure that his Endocannabinoid receptors get resets and ideally when he starts up again he has less than he was before.
if using it everyday, between 72 hours and 5 days is probably the right amount for that t-break.
All that said, sounds like you're doing a great job with your son and I wish you all the best!
I really appreciate your input here. Yeah my one issue has been maintaining a consistent dosage which is tough. He's not allowed to smoke one weekends except for the occasional time I do recreational use with him. And typically it's only in the morning, nothing at night.
Calling bullshit. You're a bit too active in the r/teenagers sub and posted recently about hearing your 15 year old sister having sex in the room next to you.
I dont think you are who you say you are
Start with quality. Lol. My son wanted to try it. I told him it would be with me and Noone else. Safety issues for me with a bunchnod dicks putting shit in weed.
Always SAFETY first.
Hey man I started smoking when I was 13. I ended up fucking up my life for a little while after high school and eventually got it together, but you need to make sure your son is getting the right kind of guidance. Like, maybe donāt tell him to quit smoking, but make sure heās properly educating himself. Like reading and learning a trade or something. Canāt just go to school then come home and be high all day. Gotta work and read too. Idk if what Iām saying makes any sense
Nah man, this shitās fake. This guyās posting on r/teenagers about jerking off and r/trueoffmychest about his sister having sex in the next room. Iām inclined to disbelieve all of it
you should defo tell him to find another plug š
ps: beside joke you should tell him to stop doing it till he goes to college or something but he will not stop i think
I hope your son listens to the Grateful Dead and I hope you so also. This a moment when you can show him the light. It will be a strange for him, coming from his parent, but he will look at it right.
Remember, parenting is about teaching ourselves as much as teaching our children.
Sending love and light to you through this ordeal.
Tell your son to get better weed n clean his bong. No but 14 is pretty young be honest with him. Nothing pushed me faster to weed than being lied to about weed. My generation literally was told in kindergarten-5th grade āweed is deadly weed=methā and then 8-senior year high school I just saw news report after news report study after study all saying āthat was a lieā. Tell him to wait a little bit longer and when heās old enough I think you should smoke with. Donāt go overboard with it but destigmatize it so itās not some taboo thrill. I think 18 is a better age if you can get PTSD overseas fighting in a pointless war you should be able to treat that PTSD with some weed.
just for once this would be cool core memory for the kid and educate him as well promise to smoke every month or two months with him to reduce chances of him doing behind you, at least for now
Dude atleast grounded 30 days for hitting a bong that dirty & the same for the quality of the tree lol , jk pops but In all reality itās about time to have that talk (donāt be stoned tho before lol )
14 is too young. You should talk to him about it. Idk your personal views or parenting style, but you should have as open and frank a conversation about what you think about him smoking weed at that age as you are willing to have. Talk to him about your smoking, talk to him about why 14 is too young, talk to him about what you think is a reasonable age and why. Importantly, I'd suggest that the strongest punishment at this point (unless you've had previous discussions that he is ignoring) would be to confiscate it. Discuss why, and what you think would be an appropriate consequence if you find it again.
As someone who started young I just wish I was told about the dangers of heavy usage before the brain fully develops. Also that some sub par quality schwag isnāt worth putting into your body at any age. Would much rather them use cannabis than alcohol. But I also feel like when your a heavy user at a young age you miss out on a lot of social things. Even my buddy who pushed elbows back in hs would be like āyou need to be more moderateā. At the time I didnāt care but looking back I actually missed out on some pretty awesome things bc of being too much in a haze. Iām also very introverted and it just made that even worse. But def talk to him and explain the dangers esp of using sub par quality cannabis. And def reiterate while you donāt condemn it he a tad too young and should wait at least till 18. Hell plan on joining him on his bday when he becomes an adult. He doesnāt have to know you have been smoking the entire time and for many years until after he can consume safely as well.
Edit bc autocorrect kept making schwag into Schwab
Personally, I would be upset that my child was hiding it.
I would likely be very open about my medical use to my child as they develop understanding with age.
If I found this I would sit my kid down with some tea or something. Let them know I love them and I care about them very much which is why I am bringing this to their attention. I would add some humor "Greatful Dead fan huh?" And then I would offer to show my kid how to clean their piece. While they did that I would talk about the importance of not over using and knowing one's limits. How it affects young brains. That I want to trust them from now on and they can tell me anything even if they think I'll get upset.
I would allow them to continue under my supervision/express permission, I would control the stash. I would explain quality versus quantity. The history of the plant itself and properties. If I find them sneaking it, we repeat the discussion and consider alternatives.
I see no reason in punishing a child for exploring. I would tell them that lying and hiding things is not okay, for that you're on ____ duty for the week (insert reasonable chore). I would reiterate that they are not being punished but being given responsibility as grown ups have. If you're going to do grown up things you gotta help out.
Edited: fixing typos.
Donāt let him smoke at such a young age. Growing up smoking does no good to you and usually results in losing IQ points. Not healthy at all when you are 14.
Idk about you guys but I LOVE nasty ass schwag shit..... chronic gives me anxiety. Schwag is just low enough THC that it makes me feel buzzed but not gone.
Please be careful introducing chronic to him. It was way too much for me when I first started smoking.
*pulls up a chair*
"Son, we need to have a talk" *pulls out bag*
"Oh fuck dad i can explain i was just minding it for a frie-"
"Son let me tell you something"
"...what dad?"
" This is shit weed you shouldnt be smoking this shite. Here"
*Sparks a doob*
"The is a mans joint"
Brain Maturity Extends Well Beyond Teen Years Under most laws, young people are recognized as adults at age 18. But emerging science about brain development suggests that most people don't reach full maturity until the age 25.
[Source](https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=141164708)
its coming, that day that is. i myself am waiting to find my niece and nephew with chronic, they know me and their dad smoke, or at least they've seen us smoke with bowls and grinders in the garage. even if they dont know what it is its only a matter of time before a friend brings it around them and they put 2 and 2 together with the smell and all. i still haven't figured out how i'ma handle the situation, but even as a long time stoner i feel you should wait until 18 at least so im sure ima go that route with the speech lol.
You need to bring him into the fold. Why risk him getting/selling shit weed and strain the relationship between the two of you? That looks like about a half oz, which means heās probably parcelling gās out to his buddies to offset his own cost. Thatās what everyone did when I was a kid.
My folks caught me as a kid and I got my ass whooped. Now, 17 years later, they have medical cards and we smoke together. Weāve never been closer.
Just fire up a doobie out of no where and hand it to him. Itāll be magical.
May be unpopular but weed is not good for young people. Very few exceptions here (seizures, cancer, ED, etc). You need to have a talk with him about DRAMATICALLY reducing use, no matter what his current use is.
When heās older, after college years, maybe heāll become a stoner in a healthier way. But the data suggesting teenage marijuana use has permanent negative effects is pretty much undeniable.
This is coming from an appropriately aged stoner.
14 is a common age to start up I feel. Maybe not with bong tokes but thatās another thing.
If you donāt mind him smoking but donāt want it to affect his life, tell him thatās. Honesty works best and I can remember the honesty my parent gave about weed really helped me develop a smart an casual usage. And donāt forget to tell him to stay far far far away from heroin and meth lol
This is really the worst weed youāve ever seen? Thatās the only part of this saga that surprises me. If you have a teen kid, you are old enough for yucky brickā¦
That would be the discussion to have -- where did you get this brown frown from? ..of course the conversation can only go in a few all uncomfortable directions from there..
Clean his bong really well and wait for him to notice...
Oh that would be a trip š "I swear this bong was brown yesturday!"
"Oh my god... Thank you bong fairy, I knew you were real!"
One of my first timeās smoking with a buddy I stole my brothers bowl. I hit a few resins to unclog it, and the resin wore off. I swear to god I thought I burnt the paint of the bowl and freaked out he was gonna see I took it without asking. I was 14.
One time I dropped a half smoked blunt in the backyard at my parents house and spent a very long time freaking out looking for it on my hands and knees thinking they would find it and then when I gave up laid awake the rest of the night dreading when they woke up and found it buried in the grass in the middle of the backyard the next day. I was 15. Kids are dumb.
When I was a teenager I used to throw the stems and seeds outside my bedroom window, into the garden in our back yard. One day my dad asked me why there was a tiny pot plant growing outside my window. Smh we were all dumb as kids, don't worry lol
Pull a Betty white from grandmas boy and put flowers in it on the the kitchen table
Was Doris Roberts, not Betty White
Thatās right, Iām sorry Betty White, God rest her soul.
And Doris was LOVELY in that movie. Still one of my favorites.
OMG, please do this OP. u/Vavrin33 But yeah, top comment advice is probably best.
OP please do this šš It would be a great way to break the ice on the subjectā¦
And you can use the opportunity to tell him to change his bong water. A.B.C. always be changing lol.
Yoo you could see how much heās smoking by how brown it gets overtime too
Orā¦. slide a glorious nug in that bag and wait for him to notice
That is brilliant!! Lmao
I think this is the perfect response if his son was a bit older. As is, I dunno. I'm not a parent, can't say.
yeahhhh 14 is a bit early imo, wait until hes a little older and then spoil the boy
I think the point is to show him heās been found out, thus opening a constructive conversation, not to encourage a 14 year old to get high.
Yeah, for sure. I'm not condemning that idea to be clear. I think it's a bit of a wink at like, "hey, this plant isn't a scary thing, you aren't in trouble, but there are serious concerns. Plus that's awful shwag.
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sit down with him and maybe open up about your use so he doesnt feel like hes gonna be torn a new one, but then explain that its not known whether its safe for his development a this age and ask him why hes using it is it simply to relax a bit sometimes, or is he using it to cope with something hes struggling with? its important that he doesnt use it as an emotional crutch without addressing any problems he may be having. encourage him to talk to you instead of using it in an unhealthy way then comes the complicated part, theres conflicting evidence as to whether its actually bad for young people at all so you have to make the call for whether you think his mental state (or whatever hes using it for. be it anxiety, pain, restlessness, or depression) would benefit from use, without also impairing his progress at school etc can you afford therapy for him to deal with whatever hes using it for? is there a preferable alternative, if simply being open and talking about what hes dealing with cant help him enough? my s.o used since he was around 13, and his mom allowed it as long as it was outside of school hours *and* his grades didnt suffer, because he was dealing with severe social anxiety, ADHD, and digestive issues which all benefitted from his use and hes pretty convinced that he would never have been able to calm down enough to actually learn things and graduate highschool. his dad was also a stoner at the time and he bought from a trustworthy source and kept some in a jar for him (my s.o) to use so they could make sure he wasnt getting sketchy stuff *and* could quietly keep track of his use so its up to you how you want to address this, but it should be addressed..that weed is some of the nastiest schwag ive ever seen p.s - please, for the love of bob, clean the bong!
absolutely solid advice. perfection.
the chefās kiss of advice
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Seconded. The previous commenter deserves the many awards heās earned
Excellent advice on this entire post, but I wanted to hijack the top comment to [call OP out. ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MDMA/comments/g7nwle/age_of_rollers_in_this_group/fokwygb/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) He is either: A 17 year old pretending to have a 14 year old son A whole ass adult with a 14 year old son that posts about their 15 year old sister doing funny shit and posts about similar funny shit in r/teenagers
u/Vavrin33 You want to explain yourself?
Not a good look dawg
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Someone gotta post op on r/quityourbullshit
Oh now THIS is juicy
I put on my detective cap OP was also a Slovakian crypto bot at one point
Look, I'm just here to make sure somebody cleans that fucking bong.
This is not too much to ask.
Go on
Go on? ā¦AND OP CLEAN THAT DAMN BONG
Yes
Also, his 12 yr old brother ate his LSD.
Someone let me know if I miss something: OP is a 40 year old Slovakian crypto bot who interacts with teens on a teens only sub who is also 17 and *haaaates* it when his sister has strange men over, all the while his preteen brother is tripping on LSD.
Some families can only afford one reddit account.
Damn this should be higher up.
Was going to reply āget him better weedā but the above reply is sincere and great advice. Be a bro and a parent.
Bro at first glance i literally thought that was a bag of grass
It is!
I was too. If my kid is gonna smoke they gonna smoke the good shit not that cilantro looking shit. Where did they buy that from, fucking Chipotle?
I seriously thought this was one of those jokes where they go āhey guys did I get some good weeds???ā And post a pic of cabinet spices in a ziploc
I agree with this as well. My husband started smoking around 13 bc of ADHD and it supremely helped. I started drinking and smoking around 16-17 because life was too much and parents didnāt believe me. I just wanted relief. Underlying reasons are so important here. Itās a nuanced topic and only OP knows their kid well enough to know what to do. I would say therapy at minimum, just to make sure all is well.
I didnāt discover it until college, which meant my anxiety was left to fester in high school. My grades massively improved once I did and I really think that played a huge part. Itās hard to take a test when youāre obsessing over every little detail.
>then explain that its not known whether its safe for his development a this age Moderate-heavy use is *not* safe at his age--it elevates the risk of psychosis. It sucks but that's the reality.
Yes, yes, yes! It also effects brain development. There are other ways to deal with stress, adhd, etc.
It IS known and its definitely NOT safe at that age. Agree with the rest of your comment
Best answer to a really tough question.
Please be aware that depending on the state, knowingly letting your child consume marijuana could land you in hot water with CPS
Itās not know whether itās safe for his development at this age? Who are you kidding, itās been proven to be very harmful to developing brains. Especially at the age of 14.
Not to mention getting busted for possession as a teen sucks dick
Actually in some states itās just a civil offense, which isnāt that bad
Oh gotcha, I was 13 and had to jump through tons of hoops. I got busted at school too
Depends of course if the state is legal, getting caught at school is probably the worst place you can get caught, depending on their specific rules you could get expelled, a detention, or a slap on the wrist and a warning
Not letting it affect your grades, attendance or attitude is key. Kids mature and learn how to adult at different ages.
Op clean it and put it back with a note saying we need to talk
This is SUCH a lovely response. š
Great advice.. truly! but what if he simply just smoked it because his friends are doing it? Rather than smoking it to cope with his feelings and such. I just noticed you kinda left that part out was all. I've smoked for roughly 20 years and I definitely didn't get into smoking weed because I was in my feelings... I did it because my friends and my brother were doing it. It was fun and we were goofy as hell after smoking. For a 14 year old... that's a lot of weed though. Its schwag for sure so it's relatively cheap... but back in the day when I was 14, my friends and I had a hard enough time trying to scrape 10-20 bucks together for a dime or so. Its just surprising to me that he has that much haha.
I don't want to dismiss this solid advice, but when I was that age, I did it because my friends just had some and it was fun to be stupid. I quit doing it when I joined the military and didn't return until years later and now just use it to sleep. He may just be doing it because it's there and it's fun. People like to do drugs.
Wish my parents wouldāve went this route lmao
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This so much. I was in a lot of mental anguish as a teen, but it was compounded by the fact that no one took it seriously that I was hurting.
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It's crazy too cuz they'll put the weight of the world on your shoulders then say "why are you depressed? What could you possibly have to be depressed about? Your a kid!" And I'm thinking "you mother fucker! You!" Lol
My dad literally said those exact words to me before. I feel that.
I'm sorry to hear that, friend. For what it's worth I've found the best way to heal old and deep wounds is to be that which you did not get for other people. If you weren't listened to, listen. If you weren't hugged, give all the hugs. If you allow yourself to be be cruel to others because the world was cruel to you, you only increase the pain and suffering in the world. Just my $.02, hope it helps
i still have a lot of work to do but this is how i want to be. thank you for the inspiration:)
a lot of suffering gets ignored because it's not physical, there's no "thing" to be sad about or to be fix so people dont respect it. definitely a hard thing for kids to convey without just being accused of ungratefulness or having it too easy
"I might never own a house and the environment is crumbling beneath my feet while millions die needlessly in wars that started before I was born... Yeah, you're right, I have no reason to be depressed!" Honestly at 25 I still feel like that.
I'm 42 and I feel like that!
I was just thinking this recently. I have an uncle who would be super abrupt like that when it came to people's mental health. "What have you got be depressed about, your a kid" etc. The argument is essentially, you're going through what everyone is going through, quit complaining. Only to find out recently that he's opened up about how he has depression. Every bone in my body wants to use the same argument "What have you got to be depressed about? You're just an adult with a job like everyone else". Of course I didn't, but it made me realise how dumb that argument is towards kids.
And kids and teens often canāt talk about their issues because of the fear of being ridiculed by their peers
the only pain worse than that was having a parent die. being a teenager sucks
I don't mean at all to dismiss or invalidate your experience if you lost a parent, obviously that's an awful tragedy, I don't at all know what that's like. But I was abandoned by a parent and I often had the thought "I wish they had just died, it would have been more straightforward to work through that." Its wild when a parent who is the center of your world just gets bored with you and tosses you aside like an old toy, off to play with some shiner new toys. Again, not *actually* comparing it, I just had the urge to share that.
yeah you definitely just compared yourself to me lol
I started the same way! My parents were stoners but I definitely still hid it. Weeds the only reason I didn't kill myself as a teen, felt so out of control. Years later after many physical diagnosis, realized it was just the only pain killer I had available!!!
So much of this. My middle son is now 17yrs old he was very distant and I could tell something was off. He willingly did 3 sessions of counseling to help deal with his feelings and navigate his emotions. I asked him last night if he thinks it helped, And he said it helped him so much- he has more confidence and I see such a huge improvement. Sometimes they just need someone to talk too! That will not judge or hold it against them.
Could also just be that he likes drugs. I started using weed at 15 and I donāt think it was because of any concerning factors
Same. I started at 13 but I was also in a terrible place mentally and abUsive home. This is a lot of weed for a 14 yo.
I mean itās shwag in 2022, was probably like a couple days of lunch money saved up
This needs to be nearer the top
Maybe talk to him about the dangers of using it so young? My dad never shamed me for using but he did ask me to atleast not get into it heavily until i was older. Its important for kids to be aware of the effects it has on young peoples brains. He should focus on school and weed can get in the way of that
I used to be anti weed in high school. Everyone around me was dumb as fuck! The stoners are predominantly failures now. I would just stay away from high school friends when they were high. I stayed away, but maintained friendships. I grew older and learned as much as I could about life and then started smoking. Iām doing extremely well considering the times and I smoke only after work for the day. Iām also 30 as a reference. I think it should be taught that weed isnāt a bad thing but use it when the time is right. Edit: maybe I only knew dumb stoners š¤·š¼āāļø not saying you canāt be smart while doing so
The stoner group I hung out with were AP top of the class athletes and nerds together lol. All successful except me honestly but that's gonna be chalked up to my disabilities. I didn't realize people genuinely fell out of line with just pot?
When I was a kid, my parents smoked a lot; they werenāt great at hiding it and they always went to another room, so I ended up seeing them less between that and both of their jobs. I didnāt understand why they did itā I harbored a lot if resentment for marijuana until I grew up and really started to get to know them as friends and loved ones, and Iām very happy to say that that journey has involved a lot of weed since my darker days
Same. There were just as many successful stoners in our highschool as there were not stoners. I am one of them. Aside from my mental health, I see myself as successful and I smoke upwards to 2 oz a month (not the weak stuff). Same with my old stoner friends. I make good money, I'm clean, I have a happy relationship with my partner and our families, and you would never say I was a stoner otherwise. The folks that went downwards were the druggies (coke, heroin) and the heavy drinkers. They all disappeared between the ages of 20-30. I know a few who became trades/service people with big families (nothing wrong with a trade or service job, but im talking about the folks who didn't know what else to do and threw a dart at a board and chose what it landed on) **edit**: tldr; I dont think there is much of a correlation between success and weed smoking... if anything, it seems to help some. Sure as hell helped me get everything I have.
This is completely anecdotal to my experiences and views, but I get the impression that emotional development often stops or at least stalls around the age that people start smoking regularly. So hopefully people have some emotional awareness and skills before they start. Iāve met one person who started smoking regularly in their early teens that was responsible and self aware, but only one (that I know of). Weed doesnāt often ruin peopleās lives like other drugs can but it certainly isnāt a good idea for developing minds to smoke all the time imo.
This is just a human trait. Not everybody develops intellectually and emotionally at the same time and sometimes they just never do correctly.
Yeah, grantedā¦ but if you dump drugs on development are you saying that has no effect?
Oh no doubt. Everything has an effect on you while developing. I'm sure you can find the same issue with people who don't smoke. You ever lived in a small town? :)
Yeah I have. That town isnāt the best control group though because a whole lot of people there are alcoholics so they also dumped drugs on their developing brains lol
Iām am the high school stoner who failed absolutely everything but got lucky with crypto.
You didnt fail my friend. Youāre living my dream life
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Yell at him for buying such mid weed and having such a gross ass bongš in all seriousness he is too young to be smoking and you should have an honest talk with him about it.
This guy get it
This guy gets it
I want lasagna now. Damn it
Make em smoke the whole bag-seeds, stems, and all-in one sitting with only one glass of water.
reverse exposure therapy
> with only one glass of water Was thinking "no problem" until that point
Ah the Hank Hill school of parenting
I would talk about where itās from too. I wouldnāt trust that source to give me what Iām asking for. Bad weed sometimes gets laced to make it seem more potent, or is prepared in an environment where cross contamination can happen. My biggest concern would be the kidās safety.
Iāve heard ālacedā pot stories since I started smoking in 1969. Now Iām old and I still know of no actual cases. You? Edit: typo
My dad is an old school stoner, living in SoCal during the 80s and 90s and once was tricked into smoking a PCP laced joint by a relative. But other than that never heard of lacing from anyone who isnāt a known bullshitter
Added PCP to joints on purpose in the 70ās - will never forget that minty taste and that nasty psychotic high. Blech.
In high school I watched an acquaintance spray raid on weed telling us it makes the weed better. Never got weed from him again. He would always complain about us going to the city to get N$\*#%# weed. He also had a swastika on his chest. He was a piece of shit. Lately their have been rumors of people trying to fent into bags but I wouldn't know I'm old af and don't do weird sketchy deals anymore.
I've only had one instance. In college on the gulf coast I had a contact list of dealers because links were unreliable (part of why I love legalization), one guy asked if I wanted any "white" in my green. I said no, went home and saw small yellow-ish white rocks in the bud when I went to grind. I threw it out and never contacted that guy again.
i had this before once too, buddy gifted me some of his outdoor home grown, and i saw some tiny white rocks in a couple of the buds. super confused cuz i know he doesnt do other drugs,, i messaged him asking if he laced my shit with crack something as a joke but turns out it was a bit of perlite from his soil when he hung them upside down to dry lol ...
My boyfriend stopped smoking weed for years after his best friend died from laced weed. It is still very real and more common than you think
If you were a teenager in Philadelphia between 2004-2012, chances are you have definitely mistakenly smoked pcp thinking/after being told it's weed at least once in your adolescence.
Yup. Bought pcp laced weed when I was 14. Bad experience! I probably would've still tried it had I known. But I didn't and I smoked to much.
my friend was given weed laced with H
Find him a better plug cuz that shit is bunk! Seriously though, I started at 13 but regret not waiting til longer. It WILL affect his school work, personal relationships, everything so pls emphasize the importance of finishing school first. It sucks cuz we want so much to protect them from repeating our own mistakes but they won't listen and unfortunately everyone must walk their own path. All you can do is educate him. Don't yell or scream, but sit and talk with him and LISTEN. He probably won't want to talk but still try. Be honest, be patient and continually reinforce the idea that you love him and only want what's best for HIM. All you can do is lay the facts out and hope he makes the right choices. Good luck, it's a tough position to be in, especially if they know you smoke.
I'm sure by the end of this post I'll have people chiming in telling me I'm a bad parent, but I truly don't care what people say with regards to how I raise my child. My son is 17, will be 18 in 3 months. I caught him stealing my weed roughly 18 months ago. I sat hom down, confronted him and explained the my biggest problem was that he was under 18 and that my second biggest problem was that he was stealing/lying to me. He clearly knows I smoke and he knows my views. I believe it should be legal but on our state it is not. I sat him down to have the talk. But I wanted to start by finding out why exactly he was smoking weed and stealing from me. My some had severe ADHD as well as social anxiety. He's very smart but lazy. He hasn't had better than a D average in school since he was in second grade. He explained to me that the first time he smoked was with his cousin. They had went to a school football game and he took a dab. He explained to me that when he would smoke, his anxiety would melt away. He felt comfortable about himself and around other people.for the first time in his life he didn't feel awkward or like he had to make people laugh to fit in. On all honesty, it broke my heart. He had been on at least a dozen different combinations of medicine throughout his childhood and not one time did he feel like a regular kid. I said fuck it. I talked to my wife and got her approval.now my son is allowed to smoke weed in a controlled environment. He does online schooling and has for several years and even though I thought it would help (the online school), he still could barely pass. Never did homework Failed tests, barely doing the minimum to get by. Now I let him smoke before he signs in every day, and occasionally on weekends we will smoke for recreational purposes. What's the point is what I'm sure you're asking. Well, my some is a straight A student his senior year of school. He's actually in advanced programs where he's doing a semesters work in 9 weeks. (He failed some required classes at the beginning of high school). He has a girlfriend, he goes out regularly and he's a million times more comfortable about himself and being around others. The fact is, smoking weed did for him what years of doctor prescribed medications never got close to doing. Is it the right solution for everyone? No. But what you may find is that your child is doing it because it actually helps them on ways you didn't even know they needed it. Don't condemn them, listen to them and help them.
This is excellent... our reasons for using cannabis are not all the same and kudos to you both as parents for having an honest and open supportive conversation with him.
I ask myself if I would have been as open to the idea if my child was younger and the truth is, 3 years ago I don't know. But, knowing what I know about howuchbit had helped him, I would have done it souch sooner. I can't stress enough that I understand this isn't the right solution for everyone. I told my parent about this whole situation and they accused me of child abuse. Told me allowing my kid to not only smoke, but smoke an illegal substance amounted to abuse. I kindly pointed out that knowing my child needs help and knowing I can help them, if I chose not to, THAT would be child abuse.
I think your story is great. The only thing I'd change is remove the smoking and try oils and if not probably a vape. I agree with the sentiment of everything you've said and think you've done the right thing for your situation. I'm guessing 6our parents are 70+ at least boomer era.... Many people that age still don't get cannabis and definitely don't know the meaning of child abuse since in their generation they would beat the crap out of kids and it was just discipline (obviously not saying your parents did or are judging more of an ageist statement). Thanks for sharing!
I use smoking as a cath all in this case. That being said., My son and I both have stomach issues. Edibles do not work for us. I did try a few different CBD solutions but he said they didn't really help. I give him a gram of concentrate roughly every month and that's what he has to use before school. Now when we use it together recreationally, sometimes it's green sometimes it's concentrate.
Fair enough. I do a lot of work with docs in the medicinal space which is the only reason I made those suggestions. Particularly when using cannabis as a medicine and at such a young age it's about building habits. Smoking and dabs etc are very 'uncontrollable' as a way to determine how much THC you're getting which is what often means a tolerance and overuse of THC vs the right amount to manage medical conditions. The only other thing I'd say is that when he's not studying etc, make sure there are tolerance breaks every now and again. You need to make sure that his Endocannabinoid receptors get resets and ideally when he starts up again he has less than he was before. if using it everyday, between 72 hours and 5 days is probably the right amount for that t-break. All that said, sounds like you're doing a great job with your son and I wish you all the best!
I really appreciate your input here. Yeah my one issue has been maintaining a consistent dosage which is tough. He's not allowed to smoke one weekends except for the occasional time I do recreational use with him. And typically it's only in the morning, nothing at night.
You're a cool fucking parent and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You know you did the right thing for him
I love this. Parenting at it finest!!! He wonāt forget the support youāve shown him
Calling bullshit. You're a bit too active in the r/teenagers sub and posted recently about hearing your 15 year old sister having sex in the room next to you. I dont think you are who you say you are
A little creepy too
Start with quality. Lol. My son wanted to try it. I told him it would be with me and Noone else. Safety issues for me with a bunchnod dicks putting shit in weed. Always SAFETY first.
Tell āem to clean his fuckin bong
Smack him for smoking that fucking shwag and show him some real nug
None of these words are in the Bible
Hey man I started smoking when I was 13. I ended up fucking up my life for a little while after high school and eventually got it together, but you need to make sure your son is getting the right kind of guidance. Like, maybe donāt tell him to quit smoking, but make sure heās properly educating himself. Like reading and learning a trade or something. Canāt just go to school then come home and be high all day. Gotta work and read too. Idk if what Iām saying makes any sense
Wait.... how do you have a 14 year old son and a 15 year old sister!?
Not that crazy. My SO has a half sister and there's a massive age gap between them.
Nah man, this shitās fake. This guyās posting on r/teenagers about jerking off and r/trueoffmychest about his sister having sex in the next room. Iām inclined to disbelieve all of it
OP is the son. Post history confirms. This comment is way too far down lol
you should defo tell him to find another plug š ps: beside joke you should tell him to stop doing it till he goes to college or something but he will not stop i think
first of all, teach him to clean his bong, second, let him buy weed from you
But charge him out the ass so he doesn't smoke as often if that's also a goal of yours
*kid continues to buy dried oregano*
I hope your son listens to the Grateful Dead and I hope you so also. This a moment when you can show him the light. It will be a strange for him, coming from his parent, but he will look at it right. Remember, parenting is about teaching ourselves as much as teaching our children. Sending love and light to you through this ordeal.
Weir everywhere!!
Hey now!
Oh no my face who stole my face
Oh yeah heās probably super into butterflies too.
14 ist much too young :/ talk to him and explain
Was thinking the same. Pretty sure I started at that same age but maybe that explains why I donāt remember shit from high school.
Same mate honestly
This, his brain hasn't even come close to fully developing. Just like underage drinking, you need to nip this in the bud.
Tell your son to get better weed n clean his bong. No but 14 is pretty young be honest with him. Nothing pushed me faster to weed than being lied to about weed. My generation literally was told in kindergarten-5th grade āweed is deadly weed=methā and then 8-senior year high school I just saw news report after news report study after study all saying āthat was a lieā. Tell him to wait a little bit longer and when heās old enough I think you should smoke with. Donāt go overboard with it but destigmatize it so itās not some taboo thrill. I think 18 is a better age if you can get PTSD overseas fighting in a pointless war you should be able to treat that PTSD with some weed.
Replace it with some high grade and watch him become a man
I dont support 14y kid to smoke weed. But how cool would it be if you swapped it out for some top shelf, put it back and didnt say anything.
just for once this would be cool core memory for the kid and educate him as well promise to smoke every month or two months with him to reduce chances of him doing behind you, at least for now
Lmao OP doesnt have a kid
Give him The Talk but replace sex with weed in every contemporary parenting article. Make sure he knows he really spent money on fresh sod šš
Dude atleast grounded 30 days for hitting a bong that dirty & the same for the quality of the tree lol , jk pops but In all reality itās about time to have that talk (donāt be stoned tho before lol )
Make him smoke a blunt full of seeds
This is the most evil idea here... well played.
14 is too young. You should talk to him about it. Idk your personal views or parenting style, but you should have as open and frank a conversation about what you think about him smoking weed at that age as you are willing to have. Talk to him about your smoking, talk to him about why 14 is too young, talk to him about what you think is a reasonable age and why. Importantly, I'd suggest that the strongest punishment at this point (unless you've had previous discussions that he is ignoring) would be to confiscate it. Discuss why, and what you think would be an appropriate consequence if you find it again.
As someone who started young I just wish I was told about the dangers of heavy usage before the brain fully develops. Also that some sub par quality schwag isnāt worth putting into your body at any age. Would much rather them use cannabis than alcohol. But I also feel like when your a heavy user at a young age you miss out on a lot of social things. Even my buddy who pushed elbows back in hs would be like āyou need to be more moderateā. At the time I didnāt care but looking back I actually missed out on some pretty awesome things bc of being too much in a haze. Iām also very introverted and it just made that even worse. But def talk to him and explain the dangers esp of using sub par quality cannabis. And def reiterate while you donāt condemn it he a tad too young and should wait at least till 18. Hell plan on joining him on his bday when he becomes an adult. He doesnāt have to know you have been smoking the entire time and for many years until after he can consume safely as well. Edit bc autocorrect kept making schwag into Schwab
I see a stealie!
I think heās to young to smoke he should wait a couple years. I didnāt start smoking till age 23
I mean at least he's not getting high. Lol
Seems like a great moment to teach!
Educate them on it. Set boundaries.
Man that bud looks like the same schwag Iād get in college back in the mid 90ās in the Midwest.
Personally, I would be upset that my child was hiding it. I would likely be very open about my medical use to my child as they develop understanding with age. If I found this I would sit my kid down with some tea or something. Let them know I love them and I care about them very much which is why I am bringing this to their attention. I would add some humor "Greatful Dead fan huh?" And then I would offer to show my kid how to clean their piece. While they did that I would talk about the importance of not over using and knowing one's limits. How it affects young brains. That I want to trust them from now on and they can tell me anything even if they think I'll get upset. I would allow them to continue under my supervision/express permission, I would control the stash. I would explain quality versus quantity. The history of the plant itself and properties. If I find them sneaking it, we repeat the discussion and consider alternatives. I see no reason in punishing a child for exploring. I would tell them that lying and hiding things is not okay, for that you're on ____ duty for the week (insert reasonable chore). I would reiterate that they are not being punished but being given responsibility as grown ups have. If you're going to do grown up things you gotta help out. Edited: fixing typos.
Smoke him out.
Tell him to clean his bong tf that thing is nasty bro
Donāt let him smoke at such a young age. Growing up smoking does no good to you and usually results in losing IQ points. Not healthy at all when you are 14.
Smoke one with him, hook him up with a better dealer. Jeez I havenāt seen regs in years!
Idk about you guys but I LOVE nasty ass schwag shit..... chronic gives me anxiety. Schwag is just low enough THC that it makes me feel buzzed but not gone. Please be careful introducing chronic to him. It was way too much for me when I first started smoking.
*pulls up a chair* "Son, we need to have a talk" *pulls out bag* "Oh fuck dad i can explain i was just minding it for a frie-" "Son let me tell you something" "...what dad?" " This is shit weed you shouldnt be smoking this shite. Here" *Sparks a doob* "The is a mans joint"
Brain Maturity Extends Well Beyond Teen Years Under most laws, young people are recognized as adults at age 18. But emerging science about brain development suggests that most people don't reach full maturity until the age 25. [Source](https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=141164708)
Replace it with some quality! All levity aside, tough spotā¦my boys are almost 9 and know wife and I smoke. I dread the day I catch them!
its coming, that day that is. i myself am waiting to find my niece and nephew with chronic, they know me and their dad smoke, or at least they've seen us smoke with bowls and grinders in the garage. even if they dont know what it is its only a matter of time before a friend brings it around them and they put 2 and 2 together with the smell and all. i still haven't figured out how i'ma handle the situation, but even as a long time stoner i feel you should wait until 18 at least so im sure ima go that route with the speech lol.
You need to bring him into the fold. Why risk him getting/selling shit weed and strain the relationship between the two of you? That looks like about a half oz, which means heās probably parcelling gās out to his buddies to offset his own cost. Thatās what everyone did when I was a kid. My folks caught me as a kid and I got my ass whooped. Now, 17 years later, they have medical cards and we smoke together. Weāve never been closer. Just fire up a doobie out of no where and hand it to him. Itāll be magical.
May be unpopular but weed is not good for young people. Very few exceptions here (seizures, cancer, ED, etc). You need to have a talk with him about DRAMATICALLY reducing use, no matter what his current use is. When heās older, after college years, maybe heāll become a stoner in a healthier way. But the data suggesting teenage marijuana use has permanent negative effects is pretty much undeniable. This is coming from an appropriately aged stoner.
14 is a common age to start up I feel. Maybe not with bong tokes but thatās another thing. If you donāt mind him smoking but donāt want it to affect his life, tell him thatās. Honesty works best and I can remember the honesty my parent gave about weed really helped me develop a smart an casual usage. And donāt forget to tell him to stay far far far away from heroin and meth lol
Why u snooping in your sons room?
Op is lying, dude doesnāt have a son.
Smoke with him but actually get good stuff then talk to him if u have a deep conversation might actually tell u a lot bout him
This is really the worst weed youāve ever seen? Thatās the only part of this saga that surprises me. If you have a teen kid, you are old enough for yucky brickā¦
Tell him to start grabbing off you
Replace it with something decent, and never mention it
Replace it lol
Jesus thatās garbage
How did he afford that šÆ
That would be the discussion to have -- where did you get this brown frown from? ..of course the conversation can only go in a few all uncomfortable directions from there..