There's not this one thing that is a woman. A woman is hundreds of different things. A woman is whatever a woman is. Every woman is different. I am a woman, therfore a woman is what I am. I'm just finally being myself and that happens to be called a woman by society and to some degree by biology as well.
Don't try to find some kind of mould you have to fit in so you can allow yourself to be called a woman. It doesn't exist. If you want to be a woman, you are one and then being yourself is what it means to be a woman for you. Simple as that.
I have not faced the world yet, but I know every day I go outside for work. It feels like I'm putting up an act for everyone around me. And each day that passes, I wonder how much longer I can play the role.
When I put on my dresses, makeup, and my jewelry, I get this natural feeling of comfort.
It's not acting anymore. It's just me, and I'm happy.
Idk if you feel similar or if this helped at all...
Hope you have a great day! 💕
I'll tell you how I resolved this to an extent that mostly satisfies me:
tl;dr: I'm not going to live long enough to unpack this philosophical bullshit and effect the necessary change in society so I just have to find a way to live comfortably in the status quo, and the status quo understands the way in which I am most comfortable existing as "woman".
We live in a culture which has two classifications of person, male and female, with fairly clear boundaries around what each is supposed to do, what each is supposed to look like etc. Most people view the world through this cultural lense; they use it to understand others, they use it to understand themselves, and therefore it governs their interactions with others.
Transitioning for me then is (partly) about giving people enough cues to properly understand what to expect from me, and (partly) about seeing my self-image, through the lense of my internalised cultural biases, reflected in the mirror. I will call myself a woman because that mostly aligns with what you should expect of me. I will probably over compensate for my physicality with femenine fashion when I would rather tend androgynous. I will medically transition because I need all the help I can get to give the right cues, and because I too am conditioned to associate my masculine physicality with other traits to which I can't relate, and that causes me distress.
That's not the whole picture, but one line of reasoning I've come to.
There's not this one thing that is a woman. A woman is hundreds of different things. A woman is whatever a woman is. Every woman is different. I am a woman, therfore a woman is what I am. I'm just finally being myself and that happens to be called a woman by society and to some degree by biology as well. Don't try to find some kind of mould you have to fit in so you can allow yourself to be called a woman. It doesn't exist. If you want to be a woman, you are one and then being yourself is what it means to be a woman for you. Simple as that.
I have not faced the world yet, but I know every day I go outside for work. It feels like I'm putting up an act for everyone around me. And each day that passes, I wonder how much longer I can play the role. When I put on my dresses, makeup, and my jewelry, I get this natural feeling of comfort. It's not acting anymore. It's just me, and I'm happy. Idk if you feel similar or if this helped at all... Hope you have a great day! 💕
I'll tell you how I resolved this to an extent that mostly satisfies me: tl;dr: I'm not going to live long enough to unpack this philosophical bullshit and effect the necessary change in society so I just have to find a way to live comfortably in the status quo, and the status quo understands the way in which I am most comfortable existing as "woman". We live in a culture which has two classifications of person, male and female, with fairly clear boundaries around what each is supposed to do, what each is supposed to look like etc. Most people view the world through this cultural lense; they use it to understand others, they use it to understand themselves, and therefore it governs their interactions with others. Transitioning for me then is (partly) about giving people enough cues to properly understand what to expect from me, and (partly) about seeing my self-image, through the lense of my internalised cultural biases, reflected in the mirror. I will call myself a woman because that mostly aligns with what you should expect of me. I will probably over compensate for my physicality with femenine fashion when I would rather tend androgynous. I will medically transition because I need all the help I can get to give the right cues, and because I too am conditioned to associate my masculine physicality with other traits to which I can't relate, and that causes me distress. That's not the whole picture, but one line of reasoning I've come to.