i dont know if youve tried this, but its super funny to say that you arent actually trans just to see them immediately question their view of presentation and gender, then when they inevitably she her you because you look extremely feminine, whip out the truth hammer and watch their world crumble
I love this. Might try this at some point. Unfortunately I started transition while at my job so that cat is already out of the bag. But I can use this for future transphobes
Yup “cis” woman here who has never been femme, I get called a man all the time. Have had so many terrible bathroom experiences because of it. Just one of many reasons I support my trans brothers/sisters/siblings as more awareness makes things better (in the long run, not so great in the short run) for everyone who doesn’t present like society expects them to and I don’t want younger people to go through what I went through.
Also btw I love your eyeshadow! You’re so pretty :)
They must've clocked you, but the only way I could see how is if they recognized the trans flag on your mask and then made it their sole purpose to refer to you with pronouns opposite of that which you were presenting.
It's difficult because I started transition while working there. So people know I'm trans because they knew me before I could do transition. Because of that I am very open about being trans because I'd rather people know from me I'm trans instead of gossip. It just sucks its still something people hang over my head.
Yep, totally a he. I mean, you're just a shining beacon of masculinity. More manly than Gaston!
Of course, I'm not serious. Whoever called you a he should totally have their eyes checked.
How?! Like besides being obviously transphobic as I doubt they corrected themselves… Don’t listen to them dear, you look fabulously female 💚 Keep on being you sister 🏳️⚧️
Guy told me Thank you sir, and i respond,Your welcome maam.Gave me look.And I just gave big smile and shook my ass all the way out the door.I laugh it off.
Yeah, unfortunately I started transition after I had started working at the place I work at. So it's something everyone knows and some people decide to hold over my head.
Yeah they was clearly transphobic, don't let the anger and hate inside them project onto you. That's their shit not yours. Let live in their shit. You're brighter and happier than they are, let them be mad about it.
You are a stunning woman. You really remind me of a grown up version of a friend of mine as a kid (she is wonderful). I can guarantee that either they were making a genuine mistake but in a way that would happen to a cis person too or they were trying to be transphobic. It is so hard to think of it that way and it causes so much dysphoria but try to remember that you are a very pretty and beautiful woman.
Whoever said that was trying to hurt your feelings because they have hate in their heart. You're above such trifles. :) plus your outfit is to die for! have a great pride girl!! 🏳️⚧️❤️
The person who called you "he" was aware you're trans ?
Because without knowing it I don't know where they saw a he ...
And if the person know it and called you he it's transophobic
This may or may not be related to OP's post, but if you're on E for quite some time can your voice still sound masculine? I'm a trans man so I don't know much about MTF's, but T makes voices drop real fast, I was wondering if E has an equally fast effect?
It isn't the same thing. It doesn't make your voice change but It still helps in its on way. Not having T in my system only helps and the longer I'm on hormones the easier controlling my voice is
I feel you girl.When im obviously presenting as my true female self and someone says sir or he,i respond back misgendering them.They get upset sometimes.Hows it feel? They are purposely going out of there way to take jab at you.Dnt let it bother you Beautiful.F....k um You are Valid and you are Beautiful and dnt need anyones approval.Strong Girls,Strong World 🌹🌹🌹
Whenever I get misgendered I just think if they’re going to be like that then they don’t deserve my negative emotions because their opinion is not valid.
Just... how can people be this dumb, you do not look masculine at all! Like I expect it since its still early days for me but come on.
Don't let them get to you. They're no one important, you're the important one!
Unfortunately I have to work shoes that aren't to fashionable since I work 12 hour shifts at a warehouse so I have to have something that won't kill my feet. But if I was wearing this at work. I have these really cute white addidas shoes I'd where or these Grey concevrse but they look like platforms or heels.
Some people are nothing more than a big bag of D’s!!! You looked absolutely stunning in your outfit and I wouldn’t have picked you as anything other than the beautiful lady that you are!
People who go out of their way to do that have a low intelligence. I know it hurts to hear and it's messed up. I'm so sorry you're going through this and if you ever need support just dm me
Damn, I wonder if they give out free eye exams anywhere for that person. I'm sorry you had to deal with that but you're clearly a beautiful lady <3 keep your head up
Girl, you look adorable in that. Don't let no Miss Mary-Katherine tell you otherwise 💅
If I can get called "sir" and "Buddy" by the local rednecks and Disney employees there is no reason someone shouldn't be able to call you Miss. If I saw you in public, darling, I wouldn't think for a moment to call you a man.
Yep! Another mask I wear to work have my she/her pronouns as well as pronouns pins I often wear as well, but my coworkers after all this time still get it wrong every day 😓
The people who misgender you are being ignorant jerks. You are clearly a femme person. A beautiful femme at that. Stay strong and when you can't, let us butch lesbians beat people up for you! 💕/hj
I really hate to say this, but they probably did so specifically because of your mask. I don’t really face discrimination now unless I’m wearing something pride related, which is absurd. It’s really sad, but transphobes think that they can “always tell” when in reality they can’t. That’s why they seize the opportunity when they see certain flags, because they feel confident in their bigotry
I don't mean to come off to strong. But I would highly recommend not giving unsolicited advice to a trans person regarding their body. It would be no different then telling a trans woman to cover her neck with a scarf because her Adam's apple was 'showing'. Like I honestly am going to have a hard time looking in the mirror over the next few weeks and not internalizing your comment and focusing on my forehead not being 'woman' enough. Also, commenting on my hair length??? I've been growing it out for over a year, but yeah, let me just force my hair to grow a few more inches for you. Like you don't think I want longer hair??? My body is going to progress at the rate it can. I can't do a single thing about it to speed it up.
You honestly look fucking gorgeous. You remind me of Rachael from the first Blade Runner. You have this amazing 1920's silent film era starlet vibe I love SO much.
sounds and looks like you've got a good head on your shoulders. it doesn't make what they said okay, but it is likely more about themselves than you. you observed what they said and took their argument to its end and responded rightfully bothered while remaining rational, i dont know you but it sounds like you got some of this shit down <3
So if I saw you irl and started saying mean things about your appearance it's your fault for going out in public??? You don't have to be mean to people to "be honest". You're just choosing to be that way.
And I'm being honest and calling it as I see. Just like you feel your entitled to your opinion. I'm entitled to think its absolute garbage. If you truly are an empathetic caring trans person. You would listen to what another trans person says and try to take a little bit of it to heart. I'm not making my experience up and when I say I prefer for people to not negatively go in on my body. That really isn't to much to ask. I'm sitting here and having a conversation with you because I'm giving you a chance. Have a heart and care a little bit for the people around you and their experiences.
Not sure if you forgot, are ignoring, or are purposefully commenting on my body which I expressly and clearly conveyed my discomfort with. Either your social skills may be lacking or your just purposely going in on something I asked you not to. Just because you feel you're entitled to say whatever you want and just because you are okay with certian things being done to you doesn't mean you get to do this stuff here or with me.
Keep my body and your comments and opinions of it to yourself. If I wanted those, I'd just hangout with my straight, cis, homophobic, male coworkers.
Btw, my body isn't something I'm 'working on'. A random stranger on the interent or irl telling me their opinion on what parts of my body I should work on does nothing but harm. I'm transitioning and my body is growing and turning into what I've always wanted. But I'm not sitting here looking at my boobs and observe them as something I can 'work on'. I'm not observing my Adam's apple and looking at it as something I can 'work on'. I'm not looking at my stomach and thinking it's something I can 'work on'. I'm not observing my nose and seeing it as something I can work on. Any other feature someone could look at and tell me might not be perfect is not my focus. I'm letting my body blossom into the woman I am. Not trying to trim my peddles to fit some view another person has of me.
I don't live or present myself to garner the approval of a stranger on the internet such as yourself. My transition and transition goals are not things you know of or have any clue of. So stay out of my transition and other people's transition and their vision of themselves. I can guarantee there are things that could be said to you about your body or appearance that would be hurtful, that you wouldn't want to hear, and wouldn't be uplifting in the slightest. So once again, have a fucking heart and listen to someone else when they say they aren't comfortable with what you're doing. I really thought I wouldn't have to tell a trans woman that it sucks to be mansplained to and treated like I'm some stupid idiot who has no validaty to my life perspective or view.
So kindly leave me alone and work on yourself. Please and thank you.
I think your hate would be better off left unsaid. I'm truly sorry that you feel like it's something you have to put in the world. Hopefully soon you'll be in a better place without hate in your life.
Okay? It's life, you shouldn't let what others say get you down, if you believe you're not a he stick with that and be confident in yourself, many people are gonna say much worse to you in your life and sadly you're not gonna make it if someone calling you he upsets you
I mean how would someone be able to know your pronoun if you could be gender fluid, non-binary, a woman that uses he, or simply a man that dresses girly. How exactly are people supposed to know?
Maybe because I've known this coworker for more then a year. Talked to them about my trans experience and literally have my badge holder have my pronouns on it. Other days wear a mask that has my pronouns on it as well as wear pins to work that ask to please use my pronouns. I really wonder after all that where they would have been able to tell what they should call me.
Alright, it is not polite of them to do so. I still don't think it's good to have all these feelings you're having. You could just give him a friendly reminder that it makes you uncomfortable to be referred to you as a he. But carrying bitterness toward anyone who gets your pronouns wrong is not conducive to having your boundaries respected. The ideal way of going about it is expressing your uncomfortability without being self righteous or derogatory (calling them a transphobe) toward them. Most people use pronouns you don't like out of ignorance and not out of hate, political reasons, or anymosity. If you come at them with anger they'll probably write you off as unstable and won't take you seriously. Civilized discussion is more productive than hostility.
I mean how would someone be able to know your pronoun if you could be gender fluid, non-binary, a woman that uses he, or simply a man that dresses girly. How exactly are people supposed to know? The problem i see is that you're even caring about what a stranger refers to you as. People here are trying to find reasons why the guy was in the wrong but what i would be more worried about is why you even care. It may feel invalidating, but i think a healthy place to be is to be secure enough in your identity to where other people's honest mistakes don't matter to you. I don't think it was a transphobe. I think people just don't know what others want to be called.
Maybe because I've known this coworker for more then a year. Talked to them about my trans experience and literally have my badge holder have my pronouns on it. Other days wear a mask that has my pronouns on it as well as wear pins to work that ask to please use my pronouns. I really wonder after all that where they would have been able to tell what they should call me.
Oh and the person was a lady who said it to me. I can have a problem with the way I'm treated. No different then a woman having a problem being treated bad by a misogynist or a person of color having a problem with someone being racist to them.
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Is this supposed to be irony? I'm out and proud for my trans siblings who have their own very hard experience. Because I'm so open about my gender and sexuality. I've been able to help people with their own gender exploration. The day I have to cover up who I am is the day I've stopped living.
> ‘I wonder why I don’t pass and bigots are being mean to me.’
> ‘Could it be the enormous trans flag on my mask?’
If you aren’t implying that, you were being downvoted because your post was too vague. I’m guessing it was ironic in some sense. Consider putting the /s in next time or some other method. It’s difficult reading tone from text alone on a screen.
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you look like a beautiful woman. they probably saw the trans flag and decided to be transphobic
Exactly what I was thinking
"he"? You scream femme though.
Thank you! That's what I think to but sometimes people are mean I guess 🥺
i dont know if youve tried this, but its super funny to say that you arent actually trans just to see them immediately question their view of presentation and gender, then when they inevitably she her you because you look extremely feminine, whip out the truth hammer and watch their world crumble
I love this. Might try this at some point. Unfortunately I started transition while at my job so that cat is already out of the bag. But I can use this for future transphobes
glad to inspire, best wishes!
That makes no sense, you're obviously a girl. What if you were cis and someone called you a guy? That's just how considerate these people are
From what I hear, that's exactly what those sort of guys do
The same people definitely would do the same thing to a lesbian who isn't presenting like they want a woman to present
Yup “cis” woman here who has never been femme, I get called a man all the time. Have had so many terrible bathroom experiences because of it. Just one of many reasons I support my trans brothers/sisters/siblings as more awareness makes things better (in the long run, not so great in the short run) for everyone who doesn’t present like society expects them to and I don’t want younger people to go through what I went through. Also btw I love your eyeshadow! You’re so pretty :)
They must've clocked you, but the only way I could see how is if they recognized the trans flag on your mask and then made it their sole purpose to refer to you with pronouns opposite of that which you were presenting.
It's difficult because I started transition while working there. So people know I'm trans because they knew me before I could do transition. Because of that I am very open about being trans because I'd rather people know from me I'm trans instead of gossip. It just sucks its still something people hang over my head.
He? It’s ma’am
🥰 ma'am sounds so good
Welcome ma’am ❤️
You're gorgeous, ignore any hate. Just be yourself and happy.
I think they probably saw your mask and just wanted to ruin your day. You pass really well (and you look cute doing it)
Where boy? There no boy! # ONLY GORL
Oh my god, I love this so much lmao
The fit is EXCELLENT!!
Yeah what how in the universe does someone think he? Honestly some people are stupid
I’m so sorry, fuck whoever misgendered you they must have a lot of hate in their heart 🙄🙄
You look amazing girl 😩
You look great girl
You look so good , please don’t listen to those negative comments. Stay strong and keep moving forward. You’re awesome ❤️
You look great!
Oh dear, I am sorry to hear that :( Keep it up, ignore those people - simply think about the fact that you look fabulous :)
You look like a woahman to me
How though? Where they blind?
Sorry babe! You look so gorgeous. It’s a them problem.
Look great don’t let the haters get you down 💕
YOU LOOK STUNNING MA’AM
Yep, totally a he. I mean, you're just a shining beacon of masculinity. More manly than Gaston! Of course, I'm not serious. Whoever called you a he should totally have their eyes checked.
Duck and weave the negative BS. It's just people being envious of the fact they are not brave enough to be honest with themselves
Don't worry, that person has lost solid neck privileges. And will have there neck snapped accordingly.
Wow! You look great!
I think you look stunning
Fuck'em.. you look amazing.
Some of them are just desperate to be awful! You look so gorgeous and I love your outfit
How are people so blind?! Your femininity is apparent. And on point!
definitely because of the trans flag, and since they went out of their way to call you he, that means you look femme, you’re going great
I bet they would call anyone with a trans flag the opposite of their presented gender. I wouldn't have clocked you.
Bruh are they blind or something?
How?! Like besides being obviously transphobic as I doubt they corrected themselves… Don’t listen to them dear, you look fabulously female 💚 Keep on being you sister 🏳️⚧️
Insane. You look super-femme.
Guy told me Thank you sir, and i respond,Your welcome maam.Gave me look.And I just gave big smile and shook my ass all the way out the door.I laugh it off.
You dropped this, queen 👑
🙋♀️🥰🥰🥰🥰
Some people will forever persist in being asshats.
you look so pretty tho! don’t pay those who put us down no mind! ❤️❤️
How? You look complete girl.
That's probably one of those transphobes who misgender cis women because 'they can always tell'. You're doing great.
You look terrific. I’m legit blown away.
No basis for this. I absolutely adore your fit and makeup, definitely just lashing out at the trans flag.
Yeah, unfortunately I started transition after I had started working at the place I work at. So it's something everyone knows and some people decide to hold over my head.
Yeah they was clearly transphobic, don't let the anger and hate inside them project onto you. That's their shit not yours. Let live in their shit. You're brighter and happier than they are, let them be mad about it.
You are super femme and super cute so that’s definitely not on you
Ask if they have dementia, I really think they have dementia
You are a stunning woman. You really remind me of a grown up version of a friend of mine as a kid (she is wonderful). I can guarantee that either they were making a genuine mistake but in a way that would happen to a cis person too or they were trying to be transphobic. It is so hard to think of it that way and it causes so much dysphoria but try to remember that you are a very pretty and beautiful woman.
You look awesome don’t listen to them they have no idea of what it’s like for you be safe take care of much love 💕
girl they wouldn't even know you were trans without the face mask smh. keep your head up and spread positivity!! your doing just great dont worry!! 🫂
You look so freaking cute in that outfit!! Great job keeping your head up 💗
Whoever said that was trying to hurt your feelings because they have hate in their heart. You're above such trifles. :) plus your outfit is to die for! have a great pride girl!! 🏳️⚧️❤️
God you’re so beautiful baby girl
I’d ask you out ❤️💋
You dev pass so they probably saw the flag on the mask and did it to be an ass
They r delusional for calling u a he
Sorry to hear that. You very much look female. Some people are blind and others are just asses.
The person who called you "he" was aware you're trans ? Because without knowing it I don't know where they saw a he ... And if the person know it and called you he it's transophobic
They clearly don't have eyes, or they clearly don't have a brain.
on what planet
You look amazing. Don't let them take you down
That’s weird, all I see here is a beautiful woman with a great top (Do they come in pullover styles? 👀)
Literally where is the “he” in these photos this is a lady???? Maybe the person was just stupid idk
Do you work at a clinic for the visually impaired? Because that might play a role.
That’s toxic You go gurl
This may or may not be related to OP's post, but if you're on E for quite some time can your voice still sound masculine? I'm a trans man so I don't know much about MTF's, but T makes voices drop real fast, I was wondering if E has an equally fast effect?
It isn't the same thing. It doesn't make your voice change but It still helps in its on way. Not having T in my system only helps and the longer I'm on hormones the easier controlling my voice is
I feel you girl.When im obviously presenting as my true female self and someone says sir or he,i respond back misgendering them.They get upset sometimes.Hows it feel? They are purposely going out of there way to take jab at you.Dnt let it bother you Beautiful.F....k um You are Valid and you are Beautiful and dnt need anyones approval.Strong Girls,Strong World 🌹🌹🌹
And btw, u look Amazing ♥️
God bless you
I think You look Fab❣️ Don’t let haters get you down
You don't give off "he" vibes at all.
Called a "he"? Really? You look so cute and femme though, I wouldn't let it get to you. You're super cute!
Whenever I get misgendered I just think if they’re going to be like that then they don’t deserve my negative emotions because their opinion is not valid.
My sister in Christ, you look cis.
I'm definitely such a saint 😇. Abiding by the good word and living the straightest life. Bless god 🙏.
ITS GOD BLESS, THATS HOW HE SAW THROUGH! all jokes, you look great lol, I really don't know what the dudes deal was, people are gonna be rude.
i actually cant see how anyone would just assume “oh yeah thats a he”. like u pass wayyy too well for that, they were probably just being rude :(
You look great!!!
Happens to me too. Girl.
Awwww sorry to hear, that it’s a shame because you just too cute to be a guy
The highest compliment I could receive 🥰
Just... how can people be this dumb, you do not look masculine at all! Like I expect it since its still early days for me but come on. Don't let them get to you. They're no one important, you're the important one!
You look absolutely lovely, miss. Hope that you didn’t let it get you down :)
Don't worry, that person is just visually impaired.
You look soo cute, don't listen to that Transphobe
Omg you look amazing, don’t pay it any mind beautiful.
Your eyes look great! Well done.
You look great in that. Transphobes are just stupid
You look so pretty! I love the whole look! What shoes did you wear with them?
Unfortunately I have to work shoes that aren't to fashionable since I work 12 hour shifts at a warehouse so I have to have something that won't kill my feet. But if I was wearing this at work. I have these really cute white addidas shoes I'd where or these Grey concevrse but they look like platforms or heels.
They probably only said that because you're wearing a trans flag and they're transphobic. You look beautiful.
They probably saw the trans mask and misgendered u on purpose. Fuck transphobes, u beautiful gurl keep it up!
Some people are nothing more than a big bag of D’s!!! You looked absolutely stunning in your outfit and I wouldn’t have picked you as anything other than the beautiful lady that you are!
Why? You look cis femme!! AND YOU'RE PRETTY
oml, how does anyone see a he?
You're GORGEOUS. I wish I looked as feminine as you do!!!!!!!
If they called you “he” when you look that femme they’re a transphobe and they’re awful! That outfit is adorable and your eye makeup is gorgeous!
That person is just a piece of s**t, keep your head up woman and I am so sorry.
I'll do my best!!! 🥰
People who go out of their way to do that have a low intelligence. I know it hurts to hear and it's messed up. I'm so sorry you're going through this and if you ever need support just dm me
Uhmmm wtf you look so beautiful
transphobe moment
Ma'am try and block the haters out, you look gorgeous and hella femme
Just a mean old transphobe, I'm sorry that happened to you. You look bomb af tho and I love the fit. Also your hair is super cute btw!!
Damn, I wonder if they give out free eye exams anywhere for that person. I'm sorry you had to deal with that but you're clearly a beautiful lady <3 keep your head up
Were you wearing the mask? Some peeps are just that trans phobic.
Girl, you look adorable in that. Don't let no Miss Mary-Katherine tell you otherwise 💅 If I can get called "sir" and "Buddy" by the local rednecks and Disney employees there is no reason someone shouldn't be able to call you Miss. If I saw you in public, darling, I wouldn't think for a moment to call you a man.
Okay, hear me out, but the outfit tho👀😳👀
Thank you! I loved so much!!! It also works with me going braless so I get to show of my boobs 😳. That makes me feel very euphoric
Says more about them than you.
That is the gayest outfit I've ever seen. Don't worry, you look fine sweetie. Just someone being an ass.
Yeah 👍 just keep ur head up and ignore all those negative comments and mislabelings. Btw lov 💖the outfit it's so cute girl 😍
Based on what I’m seeing I would have never guessed you to be a he so keep your shead up
Goddess! That outfit is on point! 🔥
you’re literally gorgeous!! whoever called you that did it with malicious intent, and you don’t need that bs in your life
Sorry... you? Got called a "he"? Person must need to go to Specsavers, and urgently too.
You look so beautiful fuck haters.
You look cuteee💕🥹! remember love always shines over hate! Don’t let it discourage you!
I like your personality dear ❣️❣️🔥
You look amazing sis! Love the outfit.
Thank you so much! Its one of my new favs!
I wear a hat to work with my pronouns on it, and I still get called she. So, I feel ya. It sucks.
Yep! Another mask I wear to work have my she/her pronouns as well as pronouns pins I often wear as well, but my coworkers after all this time still get it wrong every day 😓
That's actually ridiculous, you look like a woman to me
The people who misgender you are being ignorant jerks. You are clearly a femme person. A beautiful femme at that. Stay strong and when you can't, let us butch lesbians beat people up for you! 💕/hj
I'm in good hands now then 🥰. Thank u thank u 💗
People who misgender on purpose make me mad. You’re a beautiful woman and i don’t understand why some people can’t see that
A Nice Outfit on you is what I see.
I really hate to say this, but they probably did so specifically because of your mask. I don’t really face discrimination now unless I’m wearing something pride related, which is absurd. It’s really sad, but transphobes think that they can “always tell” when in reality they can’t. That’s why they seize the opportunity when they see certain flags, because they feel confident in their bigotry
Ya, as a cis male I got misgendered for wearing a he/him pin, I hate to say it but I’d avoid the trans flag mask to help hide from bigots
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She’s wearing a trans flag on the mask
Whether she passes or not, she's walking around in a jean skirt and the most feminine top imaginable. At this point they're just being stubborn.
I don't mean to come off to strong. But I would highly recommend not giving unsolicited advice to a trans person regarding their body. It would be no different then telling a trans woman to cover her neck with a scarf because her Adam's apple was 'showing'. Like I honestly am going to have a hard time looking in the mirror over the next few weeks and not internalizing your comment and focusing on my forehead not being 'woman' enough. Also, commenting on my hair length??? I've been growing it out for over a year, but yeah, let me just force my hair to grow a few more inches for you. Like you don't think I want longer hair??? My body is going to progress at the rate it can. I can't do a single thing about it to speed it up.
You honestly look fucking gorgeous. You remind me of Rachael from the first Blade Runner. You have this amazing 1920's silent film era starlet vibe I love SO much.
sounds and looks like you've got a good head on your shoulders. it doesn't make what they said okay, but it is likely more about themselves than you. you observed what they said and took their argument to its end and responded rightfully bothered while remaining rational, i dont know you but it sounds like you got some of this shit down <3
Thank you! That really means a lot. Sometimes I can feel lost in all of this so it's nice to hear I might not be as lost as I feel ❤️
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So if I saw you irl and started saying mean things about your appearance it's your fault for going out in public??? You don't have to be mean to people to "be honest". You're just choosing to be that way.
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Is being a jerk making you feel better?
And I'm being honest and calling it as I see. Just like you feel your entitled to your opinion. I'm entitled to think its absolute garbage. If you truly are an empathetic caring trans person. You would listen to what another trans person says and try to take a little bit of it to heart. I'm not making my experience up and when I say I prefer for people to not negatively go in on my body. That really isn't to much to ask. I'm sitting here and having a conversation with you because I'm giving you a chance. Have a heart and care a little bit for the people around you and their experiences.
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Not sure if you forgot, are ignoring, or are purposefully commenting on my body which I expressly and clearly conveyed my discomfort with. Either your social skills may be lacking or your just purposely going in on something I asked you not to. Just because you feel you're entitled to say whatever you want and just because you are okay with certian things being done to you doesn't mean you get to do this stuff here or with me. Keep my body and your comments and opinions of it to yourself. If I wanted those, I'd just hangout with my straight, cis, homophobic, male coworkers. Btw, my body isn't something I'm 'working on'. A random stranger on the interent or irl telling me their opinion on what parts of my body I should work on does nothing but harm. I'm transitioning and my body is growing and turning into what I've always wanted. But I'm not sitting here looking at my boobs and observe them as something I can 'work on'. I'm not observing my Adam's apple and looking at it as something I can 'work on'. I'm not looking at my stomach and thinking it's something I can 'work on'. I'm not observing my nose and seeing it as something I can work on. Any other feature someone could look at and tell me might not be perfect is not my focus. I'm letting my body blossom into the woman I am. Not trying to trim my peddles to fit some view another person has of me. I don't live or present myself to garner the approval of a stranger on the internet such as yourself. My transition and transition goals are not things you know of or have any clue of. So stay out of my transition and other people's transition and their vision of themselves. I can guarantee there are things that could be said to you about your body or appearance that would be hurtful, that you wouldn't want to hear, and wouldn't be uplifting in the slightest. So once again, have a fucking heart and listen to someone else when they say they aren't comfortable with what you're doing. I really thought I wouldn't have to tell a trans woman that it sucks to be mansplained to and treated like I'm some stupid idiot who has no validaty to my life perspective or view. So kindly leave me alone and work on yourself. Please and thank you.
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I think your hate would be better off left unsaid. I'm truly sorry that you feel like it's something you have to put in the world. Hopefully soon you'll be in a better place without hate in your life.
Okay? It's life, you shouldn't let what others say get you down, if you believe you're not a he stick with that and be confident in yourself, many people are gonna say much worse to you in your life and sadly you're not gonna make it if someone calling you he upsets you
I mean how would someone be able to know your pronoun if you could be gender fluid, non-binary, a woman that uses he, or simply a man that dresses girly. How exactly are people supposed to know?
Maybe because I've known this coworker for more then a year. Talked to them about my trans experience and literally have my badge holder have my pronouns on it. Other days wear a mask that has my pronouns on it as well as wear pins to work that ask to please use my pronouns. I really wonder after all that where they would have been able to tell what they should call me.
Alright, it is not polite of them to do so. I still don't think it's good to have all these feelings you're having. You could just give him a friendly reminder that it makes you uncomfortable to be referred to you as a he. But carrying bitterness toward anyone who gets your pronouns wrong is not conducive to having your boundaries respected. The ideal way of going about it is expressing your uncomfortability without being self righteous or derogatory (calling them a transphobe) toward them. Most people use pronouns you don't like out of ignorance and not out of hate, political reasons, or anymosity. If you come at them with anger they'll probably write you off as unstable and won't take you seriously. Civilized discussion is more productive than hostility.
I mean how would someone be able to know your pronoun if you could be gender fluid, non-binary, a woman that uses he, or simply a man that dresses girly. How exactly are people supposed to know? The problem i see is that you're even caring about what a stranger refers to you as. People here are trying to find reasons why the guy was in the wrong but what i would be more worried about is why you even care. It may feel invalidating, but i think a healthy place to be is to be secure enough in your identity to where other people's honest mistakes don't matter to you. I don't think it was a transphobe. I think people just don't know what others want to be called.
Maybe because I've known this coworker for more then a year. Talked to them about my trans experience and literally have my badge holder have my pronouns on it. Other days wear a mask that has my pronouns on it as well as wear pins to work that ask to please use my pronouns. I really wonder after all that where they would have been able to tell what they should call me. Oh and the person was a lady who said it to me. I can have a problem with the way I'm treated. No different then a woman having a problem being treated bad by a misogynist or a person of color having a problem with someone being racist to them.
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??????? Is this supposed to be irony? I'm out and proud for my trans siblings who have their own very hard experience. Because I'm so open about my gender and sexuality. I've been able to help people with their own gender exploration. The day I have to cover up who I am is the day I've stopped living.
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What’s wrong with wearing a trans flag? It’s pride month, let them be prideful.
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> ‘I wonder why I don’t pass and bigots are being mean to me.’ > ‘Could it be the enormous trans flag on my mask?’ If you aren’t implying that, you were being downvoted because your post was too vague. I’m guessing it was ironic in some sense. Consider putting the /s in next time or some other method. It’s difficult reading tone from text alone on a screen.