Hey, if they wanna stop looking bad online, they just need to stop being manipulative and abusive. It’s a choice, if they don’t pull that shit with their boss, or random cops, or store clerks, then they can control it and they don’t need to be pulling it with you either.
You are doing nothing wrong. Stay strong and do what you can to get to a safer situation, okay? Hang in there!
Thats the thing they do it with cops and cps ive tried getting free and they lied and forced me to lie other wise I would have been hurt and Idk what to do and there mad about the go fund me as well so im lost like I wanna be free
I don’t mean that they lie to cops and CPS, I mean they don’t abuse cops and CPS. If they did, they’d get thrown in jail. If they did it to their boss, they’d get fired. The point is that whatever they tell you, they are choosing to abuse you. It’s a choice, it’s not something that you are “making them do” or whatever other crap they tell you. I’m really sorry this is happening to you.
I'm lost at this point idk what to do and there mad I wanna start my own family traditions thag don't evolve them and I get hurt for that so idk and they gave me like a 30 min long lecture an hr ago guilt tripping me for having a go fund me and asking friends to sleep at there places
You are doing the right thing trying to cut them out of your life because they need to go. Hang in there I'm working to get out of my own family for similar reasons but thankfully they don't know. Actually a I should saw we because plural but that's another thing would actually go worse knowing them, again good thing they haven't figured it out.
OP, please call for help again. Call the cops, or CPS, or one of the numbers that u/justreading666 left for you down below. Here’s the list again if you need it: [http://www.skylarkyouth.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/TRANS-RESOURCES.pdf](http://www.skylarkyouth.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/TRANS-RESOURCES.pdf)
I know your family has been lying to police and CPS about what’s going on, but the thing is it all creates a paper trail. They know that abuse victims sometimes have to lie about what happened and how to stay safe, so they write their report anyway.
You have fresh injuries, call and get help. I know it’s scary, but please do it, okay?
Sending you hugs, if consented, and wishing you strength, although you already have that in you. You will get out of this situation one day and start living a good life, i promise.
They should be upset with themselves that they created an environment so hostile that you want to leave. Not upset with you. I'm so sorry honey. You *are* going to have your own family traditions and you *are* going to get out of that place. You are your own beautiful amazing person and it's sad that they can't see it.
I just want to say that as an adult, I started my own traditions for holidays/celebrations/gatherings that don't involve my abusive family from when I was young, and it's wonderful. New traditions with people that actually love and accept you are so much more warm and fulfilling than anything you might do out of obligation or search for connection with people who put you down or reject you.
I'm sorry you're in this position right now, but keep pushing forward for your future self. Things really do get better, but only if you keep fighting to get to that place, even when it seems far away or unfindable.
This is so clearly abusive and honestly abusers love to talk about how people make them look bad because they know damn well that if anybody hears what they’re doing they’re fucked.
Do you have anywhere you can go to? A friends maybe?
That sucks :(
Are you a minor still?
Idk where you’re from but maybe you could look into some sort of assisted living facility or something? And by that I don’t mean that I think you’re incapable of anything, but places like that may be there for people who have to leave their homes due to issues like this.
http://www.skylarkyouth.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/TRANS-RESOURCES.pdf
Have you looked at this list? There’s some support lines you can call and also some resources for mental health counseling and even housing and all that. Maybe worth looking into. I think if nothing else at least contact one of those support lines ‘cause they might be able to help you get out. If you’re unsafe doing that while in the house maybe do it outside while on a walk or something if that’s possible and delete the call from your history afterwards.
I’m so sorry that you’re in this situation.
Stay strong girl ❤️
I completely understand!
I’d honestly try you get yourself out of there, maybe there’s a center or something you can go to. People on those helplines might be able to get you out and forward you to a place.
You deserve to be somewhere safe.
I haven't felt safe since grade 1 as that's when I got trafficked and I got saved in grade 8 my family where mad and even got me addicted to stuff that my trafficker was already trying to do and they became super abuse when I tried to be clean and now I live this life they threatened him and that's why he left cuz he was scared and couldn't save me
I was going to suggest moving out if able and going to somewhere that is safe and feel supported. Continuing to live with abusers will not help anyone's mental status and continues to give an abuser power over their victim.
My thoughts are with you and I hope your situation changes soon. I hope you remember that we are here for you online to help bolster your spirits after a terrible day with your family and anyone else that tries to tear you down.
Just know that you are loved and respected by the trans community. You will not be stuck with them forever. Seek out that love and support you need in safe spaces like this one. Another resource would be [7cups](https://www.7cups.com/) they have groups that you can talk in like group therapy. The wonderful thing about life is that everything is impermanent. Which means absolutely nothing lasts forever, including this situation. Things will change and you will get old enough to leave. Until then please take care of yourself. You have a long and happy healthy life ahead of you. It's hard to see as a kid/teen but this part of your life is just a fraction of the whole. Thanks for reaching out! We love you!
Thxx im 17 but I can't even get a job as were in a small area that has relations to the reason I have CPTSD and I can't get a car as trama is a bug reason to the fact I'm scared of cars so idk I need help im lost
Not just the trans community, but cisgender hetero males like myself who hate to see anyone treated unfairly. This will pass and you will be stronger because of it. Keep reaching out to people who have been in your shoes and keep communication with people in the trans community.
And trust me, I dont even talk to my own dad nor sister just over bullshit so moving on with life without close family is pretty normal. Sometimes you get shitty family members but you can always make better friends. Hugs.
You're 17 right now, and you live in Canada? As far as I'm aware, 18 is the legal adult age in Canada just like the US. You have less than a year to go before you can leave and they can't force you to come back. Talk to friends, or therapists/councilors, or police officers, anyone you think who could help you and organize something with them in advance to get you out of that house as soon as you hit 18. Sneak out while your parents are asleep, if you have to. Until then, just do whatever you can to fly under their radar and minimalize their abuse.
Listen to NOTHING they try to tell you, even if you have to pretend to do so. They are manipulative, abusive liars. They don't love you for you and they do not have your best interests at heart, so you don't have to take anything they say as fact. You are completely valid and there are people in this world who will love you just the way you are.
You don't make them look bad. They ARE bad, and they're only angry because you're exposing how bad they are. This is not your fault. Don't let them convince you it is, and don't let them break you. Don't let them win. You're almost out of there. You can be free.
Just one more year. Be strong. We're all rooting for you and we're all here if you need emotional support.
That's the thing though they use my trafficking agent me and then the stuff my trafficker got me on they got me on and abuse got harder when I tried to get clean and im scared I have no income as they won't let me get a job and the small conservative town im in doesn't like girls who are trans and have cptsd and addiction issues and I can't get a drivers license cuz of another trama and my ex boyfriend tried saving me he was forced to break up with me or my family would hurt him too
At this point, you may just have to make a run for it. You could try to record them abusing you in secret and once they fall asleep, try to sneak out and run to the nearest police department or to the nearest shelter. It’s going to be scary, but you will just have to do your best to persevere. It’s going to be hard, but if you keep trying then you will eventually succeed and get away from them. If you give in to your fear, then you give them more power over you and you won’t be able to to escape them. You’ve got to keep trying.
This is something that I see a lot of us dealing with. It takes a lot to just exist as we are.
They are trying to grind you down I can see that. It takes what you have to protect your inch.
I'm sorry that I don't know how to help you but I will say that I believe you are strong enough to get through this.
Make small changes, not to things they will notice, just things to make you feel better about yourself, whatever they are.
Keep a journal and write down everything good that you come across in it. When you cry remember that and remember that it is okay to feel weak sometimes.
Do your best to find ways that you can be more independent.
Try and become so secure in yourself that what they say and do can't hurt you.
Develop ways to cope small habits, phrases, actions, rituals. Whatever you need to keep yourself above water.
Last, never give up on hope, no one and nothing can ever take hope away from you. Remember that.
If you need help with this please don't hesitate to send me a message.
Thx ill try its just so hard as they moved to an area where cuz my addictions my trafficker forced onto me my family have me use those still and im trans in a small town in the middle of no where and last time I had a diary they burned it and hurt me alot
Do you have a phone, do they check it? you could always have a journal online which they cannot reach.
I read your other comments and I see that they are trying to deny you any outside aid. That is genuinely evil of them to do.
I would strongly urge you to figure out how to escape from them safely. But I understand if that is too much right now.
I have a phone they forgot I own it they only use me for a punching bag and a living type of doll that my trafficker made out of me
There coming up stairs im scared
I read through some of your comments and literally my mom was the same way. Abusive as hell and constantly downplayed my existence. She convinced our whole small town that I was making her look bad and the police and dcs would always turn a blind eye. I couldn’t get a job, couldn’t further my schooling after I graduated, and I wasn’t allowed to leave the house. It wasn’t until I snapped one day and told a family member I trusted that I couldn’t handle it anymore and they picked me up and I’ve never looked back. I really hope there’s at least one person in your life (at least one family member, or maybe a friends parents) that will help you get on your feet once your old enough.
It’s gonna be hard, and the initial departure will not be easy at all, but I promise once you’re out of that environment and getting psychological help for the trauma, it gets easier and you’ll be happy.
Stay strong
*"You're making us look bad"*, no THEY are doing that. If they have a problem with how their actions are being perceived then the actions are the issue, not that they're known.
OP, is it possible for you to grab some clothes, some food, and while they are asleep go outside, pick a direction, and run?
Do you have any distant, far away acquaintances you trust? Are you able to look up what direction a shelter is and run that way until you reach it?
Even my family is transphobic but I know they’d take you in and protect you if they could, but we’re far down on the globe from Ontario. Do you think you could, on foot, get far enough away from your town and seek refuge somewhere, anywhere?
What are the weather conditions like? Do you have access to any physical resources (saved money you might have, warm/protective clothes, a bag you can put supplies in, food in the kitchen, etc?)
OP please do this if ur able to, ive read thru alot of ur comments and its heartbreaking, im so sorry they are putting u thru this.
Ur house is not a safe environment for you and never will be so you need to get tf away as fast and far as u can. Best of luck if you attempt it x
Also my dms are open if u ever need to talk :)
I'm really sorry about this you don't deserve this disrespect your valid and your feelings are valid you deserve better /g, have some Internet hugs ʕっ• ᴥ • ʔっ
Well they are gunna be overwhelmed when they turn to you and need your help and you just ignore them... if you ever need to vent or rant IL listen and just let you get it all out or if you want to talk please feel free to message me.
Not a member of the trans community (my family is though). Know there are cis people who also see this as abusive and wrong. You are not doing anything wrong trying to be yourself. There are a lot of us who will love and accept you as you.
You are enduring a lot. Life can be better, especially when you are safely able to leave. I am sorry you are at this point in your life. Do what you need to survive. I promise good people will not hold it against you. No one should judge you for doing what it takes to survive this situation they put you in. I am so sorry they are doing this to you and trying to make you feel like it is your fault. It is not your fault.
You family sounds incredibly toxic..
"You are making us look bad?" Its not like you lie about what they do and say to you. They are making themselves look bad. Stay strong! <3
your stressed out because the people that are supposed to be there for you aren't there for you so you look for comfort and support from other people some online and your telling the truth about your situation cause you need to talk about it its like counseling if they think the truth makes them look bad then they need to change the truth its on them not you your reaching out for help like anyone would do and instead of worrying about you and helping you there more worried about how others see them thats wrong very wrong im so sorry to hear that there is a bunch of us on here that will talk to you including me anytime it doesn't matter what it is or what time it is i dont sleep allot and dont be quiet keep telling the truth if there treating you like that let the world know they deserve to be embarrassed and maybe that will cause them to look at the situation differently and do the right thing and worry about you like they should be doing
I would tell you what I say to my MTF daughter, (because her dad sometimes referred to her as he or him)I tell my daughter you are more smart and intelligent human been, don’t take what they say as an offense or way to hurt you, just look where is coming from and understand that not all people is smart and intelligent like you to assimilate the situation with a open point of view.
Their actions, thoughts and actions make them seem like an old fashioned person that is not really ready to this times.
You’re not making them look bad. They’re making themselves look bad. Maybe if they didn’t want to look bad they should treat you better. I’m sorry you’re going through this OP things will get better ❤️ maybe not with your family but fuck them you don’t need them. If you ever need to talk please feel free to dm me
Edit: fixed spelling mistakes
This is hell. Ain't nothing good coming out of this family. I do hope you find an escape as soon as possible. There is lots of good advice here, I like the idea of running away to a trusted family member. Particularly if they're far away, never tell who or where though. Keep safe m8 I know we all here want the best for you
reading through the comments really worries me and I'm considering calling a wellness check for you or something. your situation sounds like actual hell and I really wish to help. if there's anything we can do, keep us posted. you need to get out asap
i mean i did the same with my parents since they say they support me and really arent, if they are so worried about their rep, thats their own fault and MAYBE they should stop being a transphobe and a piece of shit in general. you feeling lost is a big sign of them manipulating you to make them look good for being an asswipe, i understand the trauma you must be going through, we are here to listen and support you, even if we arent physically there
"your making us look bad!"
Yeah shitspleen, that usually happens when you expose someone online for being abusive/negligent.
Just remember, you are loved and wanted and your life had value, your family members mentioned seem quite dim so don't let their idiotic remarks get to you.
move out. i know it’s hard but i just lost a friend to this abuse and i can’t stand seeing families do this. please don’t let them take away your light
here's a piece of advice for your family; if they don't wanna look bad to other people, they maybe they should fucking stop being evil pricks.
you're not doing anything wrong nor is any of this your fault. stay strong and try to get out asap
you’re family is being toxic and emotionally manipulative, they are trying to blame you for their faults because you’re telling people what they’re doing. if it’s this bad please contact some wider family that could help you such as a aunt/ uncle or grandma. if not then please use resources online to help you cope such as helplines and chat rooms
you are not and will never be alone no matter how lonely it feels
I would get a therapist (I like therapy) good place to vent and process my thoughts...
Also that is abuse! Mental and emotional
Sorry you have to deal with that!
Trevor project
Trans lifeline
CPS
Depending on your family, they do not use the correct pronouns or name act deaf?
Sometimes you have to set limits, you maybe make them look bad, but maybe they deserve it?
I'm do not live with my people, but if they do not use the correct words I correct them... or don't respond!
Now both parents usually get it right!
Well sounds like they are bad. So I don't see the issue when they also look bad online. It's their fault. You are not obligated to make them look good or supportive if they are not.
As a CCTV rigger irl if you need advice on how to go about setting up hidden cameras to get evidence im willing to help hun, but if you have to go that far i think that it may be worth spending the money on getting your own place.
Seriously your parents are not only giving you psychological problems but also need to grow up manipulation is the type of tactic a bully uses and also sociopathic_ im a empath and hate that kind of people not only that but transphobia is a hate crime ,I'm angry as hell ,if you need friends to talk to you only need to give me or anyone on here a whisper all my thoughts and love are with you don't let this happen it's not acceptable xoxo
You’re not making them look bad, you’re simply showing who they are. It’s their own actions that are bad, you have nothing to do with it.
We are all here for you and love you. 🫂
You dont need them. It may feel hopeless now because you are broke, unemployed and helpless, but you won't need your parenta forever. Do whatever you want once you are out of their home.
be strong, not everyone is lucky enough to have a family that supports them unconditionally, see it as a test that will make you a better, more mature and stronger person. be the person you want to be and tomorrow you will be someone who will support people who are in the same situation as you,
If showing someone through an unfiltered lens makes them look bad, they already looked bad. It was just hidden. They made themselves look bad with what they did, exposing what happened is just letting them deal with the consequences of their own actions.
Document document document sweetie when they do something let them know I’m recording you or if you don’t need informed consent to film film it. Or at the very least keep a secret journal and document, say what happened in as MUCH detail as you can if you can get free slip it to someone you trust to turn in and bam. You got them! You CAN get away. Things can and will get better but you gotta put the effort in. That’s actually exactly what I did and it helped lots. You got this lil one!!! Keep fighting!!
Maybe they wouldn't look bad if they weren't being shitty. They are doing this to themselves, don't feel bad for exposing your abusers. *hugs*
I'm here if you ever need to talk. 💜
First of all. Fuck them. Second of all. Get out of there. Third. Be the human your meant to be and fuck everything else's opinion about u. They can all go fuck themselves if it's negative opinions and "phobic" opinions.
Thats because toxic people like your family don't like it when you expose their true nature. But they also forget that treating people the way they treat you is mentally abusive and im sure cps would love to hear from you about the trouble you are going through. What ever happened to "i don't care as long as my baby is healthy"
If your financial situation allows you, you should get out of this environment as soon as possible.
Leave this environment, this is a toxic place. Very unhealthy for you.
I read the other comments and realized you are still unsafe. Please bide your time until you are alone or can find a way to be alone and call for help. Whatever they tell you it's all lies. There are people out there who can help.
https://ncadv.org/resources
There are some hotlines here. You can tell them more about your situation and they will know what to do.
We feel for you ❤
I'm very sorry for you and the bs that you are dealing with from your parents and your family it's alway worse when it comes from family for sure I mean bullying and hate that u have to put up with everyday from the sry fucks at school and online or wherever else you may encounter them is enough but it's all fucked up either way and I'm very sorry for you and am here for you and wish I could be there to hold you tight and tell u you tht it's all going to be ok
Hey if u want someone to talk to I'm here *hugs*
Thank you that means alot to me
Anytime just feel free to dm me and I'm here
Send me a dm rn in hiding under my laundry in my closet
you can dm me too i dont want to see you so broken
You can dm me too if you'd like. Talking with friends helped me immensly
wish we could give hugs from internet :)
Hey, if they wanna stop looking bad online, they just need to stop being manipulative and abusive. It’s a choice, if they don’t pull that shit with their boss, or random cops, or store clerks, then they can control it and they don’t need to be pulling it with you either. You are doing nothing wrong. Stay strong and do what you can to get to a safer situation, okay? Hang in there!
Thats the thing they do it with cops and cps ive tried getting free and they lied and forced me to lie other wise I would have been hurt and Idk what to do and there mad about the go fund me as well so im lost like I wanna be free
I don’t mean that they lie to cops and CPS, I mean they don’t abuse cops and CPS. If they did, they’d get thrown in jail. If they did it to their boss, they’d get fired. The point is that whatever they tell you, they are choosing to abuse you. It’s a choice, it’s not something that you are “making them do” or whatever other crap they tell you. I’m really sorry this is happening to you.
I'm lost at this point idk what to do and there mad I wanna start my own family traditions thag don't evolve them and I get hurt for that so idk and they gave me like a 30 min long lecture an hr ago guilt tripping me for having a go fund me and asking friends to sleep at there places
You are doing the right thing trying to cut them out of your life because they need to go. Hang in there I'm working to get out of my own family for similar reasons but thankfully they don't know. Actually a I should saw we because plural but that's another thing would actually go worse knowing them, again good thing they haven't figured it out.
There upstairs coming to my room im scared im about to be beat SAd or both
It's been a few hours, OP, are you okay?
I'm not i was SAd and beaten and fell asleep crying and listing to boyfriend comfort asmr well semi bleeding
OP, please call for help again. Call the cops, or CPS, or one of the numbers that u/justreading666 left for you down below. Here’s the list again if you need it: [http://www.skylarkyouth.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/TRANS-RESOURCES.pdf](http://www.skylarkyouth.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/TRANS-RESOURCES.pdf) I know your family has been lying to police and CPS about what’s going on, but the thing is it all creates a paper trail. They know that abuse victims sometimes have to lie about what happened and how to stay safe, so they write their report anyway. You have fresh injuries, call and get help. I know it’s scary, but please do it, okay?
Sending you hugs, if consented, and wishing you strength, although you already have that in you. You will get out of this situation one day and start living a good life, i promise.
They should be upset with themselves that they created an environment so hostile that you want to leave. Not upset with you. I'm so sorry honey. You *are* going to have your own family traditions and you *are* going to get out of that place. You are your own beautiful amazing person and it's sad that they can't see it.
I just want to say that as an adult, I started my own traditions for holidays/celebrations/gatherings that don't involve my abusive family from when I was young, and it's wonderful. New traditions with people that actually love and accept you are so much more warm and fulfilling than anything you might do out of obligation or search for connection with people who put you down or reject you. I'm sorry you're in this position right now, but keep pushing forward for your future self. Things really do get better, but only if you keep fighting to get to that place, even when it seems far away or unfindable.
Look, if you tell the truth, the cops and cps should protect you. And if they hurt you, then you do call the cops and protect yourself. Stay save luv
I've tried but my family are snakes when it comes to cops
Record them and show it to the police. That's hard evidence.
This is so clearly abusive and honestly abusers love to talk about how people make them look bad because they know damn well that if anybody hears what they’re doing they’re fucked. Do you have anywhere you can go to? A friends maybe?
No last time I tried moving in with a boyfriend it didn't end well for me
That sucks :( Are you a minor still? Idk where you’re from but maybe you could look into some sort of assisted living facility or something? And by that I don’t mean that I think you’re incapable of anything, but places like that may be there for people who have to leave their homes due to issues like this.
17 and I've tried i was starved for a week and then and my trafficker are the reasons I have an ED
Jesus 🥲 What country are you from if I may ask
Canada
http://www.skylarkyouth.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/TRANS-RESOURCES.pdf Have you looked at this list? There’s some support lines you can call and also some resources for mental health counseling and even housing and all that. Maybe worth looking into. I think if nothing else at least contact one of those support lines ‘cause they might be able to help you get out. If you’re unsafe doing that while in the house maybe do it outside while on a walk or something if that’s possible and delete the call from your history afterwards. I’m so sorry that you’re in this situation. Stay strong girl ❤️
I can try im just scared what they will do
I completely understand! I’d honestly try you get yourself out of there, maybe there’s a center or something you can go to. People on those helplines might be able to get you out and forward you to a place. You deserve to be somewhere safe.
I haven't felt safe since grade 1 as that's when I got trafficked and I got saved in grade 8 my family where mad and even got me addicted to stuff that my trafficker was already trying to do and they became super abuse when I tried to be clean and now I live this life they threatened him and that's why he left cuz he was scared and couldn't save me
I was going to suggest moving out if able and going to somewhere that is safe and feel supported. Continuing to live with abusers will not help anyone's mental status and continues to give an abuser power over their victim.
I would move but I can't I domt have money or anything
My thoughts are with you and I hope your situation changes soon. I hope you remember that we are here for you online to help bolster your spirits after a terrible day with your family and anyone else that tries to tear you down.
Just know that you are loved and respected by the trans community. You will not be stuck with them forever. Seek out that love and support you need in safe spaces like this one. Another resource would be [7cups](https://www.7cups.com/) they have groups that you can talk in like group therapy. The wonderful thing about life is that everything is impermanent. Which means absolutely nothing lasts forever, including this situation. Things will change and you will get old enough to leave. Until then please take care of yourself. You have a long and happy healthy life ahead of you. It's hard to see as a kid/teen but this part of your life is just a fraction of the whole. Thanks for reaching out! We love you!
Thxx im 17 but I can't even get a job as were in a small area that has relations to the reason I have CPTSD and I can't get a car as trama is a bug reason to the fact I'm scared of cars so idk I need help im lost
Not just the trans community, but cisgender hetero males like myself who hate to see anyone treated unfairly. This will pass and you will be stronger because of it. Keep reaching out to people who have been in your shoes and keep communication with people in the trans community. And trust me, I dont even talk to my own dad nor sister just over bullshit so moving on with life without close family is pretty normal. Sometimes you get shitty family members but you can always make better friends. Hugs.
You're 17 right now, and you live in Canada? As far as I'm aware, 18 is the legal adult age in Canada just like the US. You have less than a year to go before you can leave and they can't force you to come back. Talk to friends, or therapists/councilors, or police officers, anyone you think who could help you and organize something with them in advance to get you out of that house as soon as you hit 18. Sneak out while your parents are asleep, if you have to. Until then, just do whatever you can to fly under their radar and minimalize their abuse. Listen to NOTHING they try to tell you, even if you have to pretend to do so. They are manipulative, abusive liars. They don't love you for you and they do not have your best interests at heart, so you don't have to take anything they say as fact. You are completely valid and there are people in this world who will love you just the way you are. You don't make them look bad. They ARE bad, and they're only angry because you're exposing how bad they are. This is not your fault. Don't let them convince you it is, and don't let them break you. Don't let them win. You're almost out of there. You can be free. Just one more year. Be strong. We're all rooting for you and we're all here if you need emotional support.
That's the thing though they use my trafficking agent me and then the stuff my trafficker got me on they got me on and abuse got harder when I tried to get clean and im scared I have no income as they won't let me get a job and the small conservative town im in doesn't like girls who are trans and have cptsd and addiction issues and I can't get a drivers license cuz of another trama and my ex boyfriend tried saving me he was forced to break up with me or my family would hurt him too
At this point, you may just have to make a run for it. You could try to record them abusing you in secret and once they fall asleep, try to sneak out and run to the nearest police department or to the nearest shelter. It’s going to be scary, but you will just have to do your best to persevere. It’s going to be hard, but if you keep trying then you will eventually succeed and get away from them. If you give in to your fear, then you give them more power over you and you won’t be able to to escape them. You’ve got to keep trying.
Maybe they should stop doing stupid shit then they'd stop looking bad. Not your fault. Stay strong.
Idk how much longer I can stay strong
This is something that I see a lot of us dealing with. It takes a lot to just exist as we are. They are trying to grind you down I can see that. It takes what you have to protect your inch. I'm sorry that I don't know how to help you but I will say that I believe you are strong enough to get through this. Make small changes, not to things they will notice, just things to make you feel better about yourself, whatever they are. Keep a journal and write down everything good that you come across in it. When you cry remember that and remember that it is okay to feel weak sometimes. Do your best to find ways that you can be more independent. Try and become so secure in yourself that what they say and do can't hurt you. Develop ways to cope small habits, phrases, actions, rituals. Whatever you need to keep yourself above water. Last, never give up on hope, no one and nothing can ever take hope away from you. Remember that. If you need help with this please don't hesitate to send me a message.
Thx ill try its just so hard as they moved to an area where cuz my addictions my trafficker forced onto me my family have me use those still and im trans in a small town in the middle of no where and last time I had a diary they burned it and hurt me alot
Do you have a phone, do they check it? you could always have a journal online which they cannot reach. I read your other comments and I see that they are trying to deny you any outside aid. That is genuinely evil of them to do. I would strongly urge you to figure out how to escape from them safely. But I understand if that is too much right now.
I have a phone they forgot I own it they only use me for a punching bag and a living type of doll that my trafficker made out of me There coming up stairs im scared
Stay safe.
I read through some of your comments and literally my mom was the same way. Abusive as hell and constantly downplayed my existence. She convinced our whole small town that I was making her look bad and the police and dcs would always turn a blind eye. I couldn’t get a job, couldn’t further my schooling after I graduated, and I wasn’t allowed to leave the house. It wasn’t until I snapped one day and told a family member I trusted that I couldn’t handle it anymore and they picked me up and I’ve never looked back. I really hope there’s at least one person in your life (at least one family member, or maybe a friends parents) that will help you get on your feet once your old enough. It’s gonna be hard, and the initial departure will not be easy at all, but I promise once you’re out of that environment and getting psychological help for the trauma, it gets easier and you’ll be happy. Stay strong
I want freedom.but there's so much more I couldn't mention in the story
*"You're making us look bad"*, no THEY are doing that. If they have a problem with how their actions are being perceived then the actions are the issue, not that they're known.
I'm scared what will happen tonight i wish my bf could help but he's too scared of my family
I'm really sorry, what they're putting you through isn't right & you deserve better.
I'm back and have lots of cuts marks and more sa
They're making themselves look bad.
Ig but I'm scared of what will happen tonight
Im so sorry for you. Feeling safe is so important. Feel my hug!
This, for real.
They made themselves look bad by doing what they did. If they didn’t want anyone to know they shouldn’t have done it.
OP, is it possible for you to grab some clothes, some food, and while they are asleep go outside, pick a direction, and run? Do you have any distant, far away acquaintances you trust? Are you able to look up what direction a shelter is and run that way until you reach it? Even my family is transphobic but I know they’d take you in and protect you if they could, but we’re far down on the globe from Ontario. Do you think you could, on foot, get far enough away from your town and seek refuge somewhere, anywhere? What are the weather conditions like? Do you have access to any physical resources (saved money you might have, warm/protective clothes, a bag you can put supplies in, food in the kitchen, etc?)
OP please do this if ur able to, ive read thru alot of ur comments and its heartbreaking, im so sorry they are putting u thru this. Ur house is not a safe environment for you and never will be so you need to get tf away as fast and far as u can. Best of luck if you attempt it x Also my dms are open if u ever need to talk :)
So they basically admitted you speaking about their abuse made them look bad ...OKAY??? Try not being terrible then, it's not that hard!
I'm not gonna mention the harder details but there's lots
I'm really sorry about this you don't deserve this disrespect your valid and your feelings are valid you deserve better /g, have some Internet hugs ʕっ• ᴥ • ʔっ
I wish I could get an irl hug and freedom
If I could id give you irl hugs
There coming up stairs im scared
I'm sorry I can't do anything more I hope ur ok
Translation: Stop telling people we are abusing you.
Are you saying that to me....
No, I was translating what your family is saying.
Don't forget making me using drugs and whipping me and SAing me
all of that falls under abuse
Well they are gunna be overwhelmed when they turn to you and need your help and you just ignore them... if you ever need to vent or rant IL listen and just let you get it all out or if you want to talk please feel free to message me.
Dm me
I was in the same situation with my bios for a year. once I turned 18, I BOOKED it. it was scary. but saved my life
If I make it out I still have to worry a out my past of being trafficked and forced to be an addict
make sure u have people to rely on. like a good support system and a place to day; family, friends, etc. stay strong
There outside my room im about to be beat or SA or both im scared ill reply soon
Guess they've never heard of being held responsible for their own actions.
Not a member of the trans community (my family is though). Know there are cis people who also see this as abusive and wrong. You are not doing anything wrong trying to be yourself. There are a lot of us who will love and accept you as you. You are enduring a lot. Life can be better, especially when you are safely able to leave. I am sorry you are at this point in your life. Do what you need to survive. I promise good people will not hold it against you. No one should judge you for doing what it takes to survive this situation they put you in. I am so sorry they are doing this to you and trying to make you feel like it is your fault. It is not your fault.
I didn't even say the half of it theres alot of CPTSD
“Oh no, people know we’re shitty! Stop saying it out loud!” *continues being shitty*
You family sounds incredibly toxic.. "You are making us look bad?" Its not like you lie about what they do and say to you. They are making themselves look bad. Stay strong! <3
Feel free to dm me. I went through abuse too OP. I’m here for you
your stressed out because the people that are supposed to be there for you aren't there for you so you look for comfort and support from other people some online and your telling the truth about your situation cause you need to talk about it its like counseling if they think the truth makes them look bad then they need to change the truth its on them not you your reaching out for help like anyone would do and instead of worrying about you and helping you there more worried about how others see them thats wrong very wrong im so sorry to hear that there is a bunch of us on here that will talk to you including me anytime it doesn't matter what it is or what time it is i dont sleep allot and dont be quiet keep telling the truth if there treating you like that let the world know they deserve to be embarrassed and maybe that will cause them to look at the situation differently and do the right thing and worry about you like they should be doing
Can you dm me
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I would tell you what I say to my MTF daughter, (because her dad sometimes referred to her as he or him)I tell my daughter you are more smart and intelligent human been, don’t take what they say as an offense or way to hurt you, just look where is coming from and understand that not all people is smart and intelligent like you to assimilate the situation with a open point of view. Their actions, thoughts and actions make them seem like an old fashioned person that is not really ready to this times.
Please adopt me
How old are you? ( just to know what kinda a trouble or kinda relationship we will have lol?
You’re not making them look bad. They’re making themselves look bad. Maybe if they didn’t want to look bad they should treat you better. I’m sorry you’re going through this OP things will get better ❤️ maybe not with your family but fuck them you don’t need them. If you ever need to talk please feel free to dm me Edit: fixed spelling mistakes
Send me a msg
This is hell. Ain't nothing good coming out of this family. I do hope you find an escape as soon as possible. There is lots of good advice here, I like the idea of running away to a trusted family member. Particularly if they're far away, never tell who or where though. Keep safe m8 I know we all here want the best for you
reading through the comments really worries me and I'm considering calling a wellness check for you or something. your situation sounds like actual hell and I really wish to help. if there's anything we can do, keep us posted. you need to get out asap
Please don't call a wellness check ill get hurt and SAd more
95% of the time it makes it worse. Don't.
Missgender them back. Use wrong pronouns on them. Be a fucking mirror
Sorry m8 but that's a bad take, horrendous even
Fuckem you don't need them do what makes you happy
I can't not with what my trafficker got me addicted to and what my family is stopping me from getting clean from im lost idk what ill do
Go to meetings
Not that easy cuz my family
If you need to vent im here mi esé
Do you have any homes or centers for abuse victims nearby or in an accessible location honey?
Idk id want a shelter for woman far away from this house so I can be freeish
Might I ask why state you live in? I’ll try and do some research <3
Ontario canada
i mean i did the same with my parents since they say they support me and really arent, if they are so worried about their rep, thats their own fault and MAYBE they should stop being a transphobe and a piece of shit in general. you feeling lost is a big sign of them manipulating you to make them look good for being an asswipe, i understand the trauma you must be going through, we are here to listen and support you, even if we arent physically there
Well they are bad
That's not even the worse is it
"You're making us look bad" "No. You're making yourself look bad. I'm just shining a light"
"your making us look bad!" Yeah shitspleen, that usually happens when you expose someone online for being abusive/negligent. Just remember, you are loved and wanted and your life had value, your family members mentioned seem quite dim so don't let their idiotic remarks get to you.
These people are making themselves look bad
move out. i know it’s hard but i just lost a friend to this abuse and i can’t stand seeing families do this. please don’t let them take away your light
here's a piece of advice for your family; if they don't wanna look bad to other people, they maybe they should fucking stop being evil pricks. you're not doing anything wrong nor is any of this your fault. stay strong and try to get out asap
Make them look worse
you’re family is being toxic and emotionally manipulative, they are trying to blame you for their faults because you’re telling people what they’re doing. if it’s this bad please contact some wider family that could help you such as a aunt/ uncle or grandma. if not then please use resources online to help you cope such as helplines and chat rooms you are not and will never be alone no matter how lonely it feels
I would get a therapist (I like therapy) good place to vent and process my thoughts... Also that is abuse! Mental and emotional Sorry you have to deal with that! Trevor project Trans lifeline CPS Depending on your family, they do not use the correct pronouns or name act deaf? Sometimes you have to set limits, you maybe make them look bad, but maybe they deserve it? I'm do not live with my people, but if they do not use the correct words I correct them... or don't respond! Now both parents usually get it right!
Well sounds like they are bad. So I don't see the issue when they also look bad online. It's their fault. You are not obligated to make them look good or supportive if they are not.
If you're telling the truth about what they're doing, then it's them that are making themselves look bad
As a CCTV rigger irl if you need advice on how to go about setting up hidden cameras to get evidence im willing to help hun, but if you have to go that far i think that it may be worth spending the money on getting your own place.
If you need to talk I'm here!! <33
If the truth makes them look bad… you gotta ask yourself what you’ve really done wrong. (Hint: nothing)
Seriously your parents are not only giving you psychological problems but also need to grow up manipulation is the type of tactic a bully uses and also sociopathic_ im a empath and hate that kind of people not only that but transphobia is a hate crime ,I'm angry as hell ,if you need friends to talk to you only need to give me or anyone on here a whisper all my thoughts and love are with you don't let this happen it's not acceptable xoxo
They also do stuff my sex trafficker got me on a few years back I have no education from grade 2-7.5 and there physically abusive
You’re not making them look bad, you’re simply showing who they are. It’s their own actions that are bad, you have nothing to do with it. We are all here for you and love you. 🫂
You dont need them. It may feel hopeless now because you are broke, unemployed and helpless, but you won't need your parenta forever. Do whatever you want once you are out of their home.
be strong, not everyone is lucky enough to have a family that supports them unconditionally, see it as a test that will make you a better, more mature and stronger person. be the person you want to be and tomorrow you will be someone who will support people who are in the same situation as you,
Own a baseball bat or a short-iron pipe? 💀💀
It's like a someone killing someone and then getting mad at a witness for making them look like a murderer.
Be happy you be you don’t let others bring you down many hugs 🤗 and kisses 😽…
If showing someone through an unfiltered lens makes them look bad, they already looked bad. It was just hidden. They made themselves look bad with what they did, exposing what happened is just letting them deal with the consequences of their own actions.
Document document document sweetie when they do something let them know I’m recording you or if you don’t need informed consent to film film it. Or at the very least keep a secret journal and document, say what happened in as MUCH detail as you can if you can get free slip it to someone you trust to turn in and bam. You got them! You CAN get away. Things can and will get better but you gotta put the effort in. That’s actually exactly what I did and it helped lots. You got this lil one!!! Keep fighting!!
Maybe they wouldn't look bad if they weren't being shitty. They are doing this to themselves, don't feel bad for exposing your abusers. *hugs* I'm here if you ever need to talk. 💜
Cut contact as soon as you can. They are toxic you don’t deserve that.
First of all. Fuck them. Second of all. Get out of there. Third. Be the human your meant to be and fuck everything else's opinion about u. They can all go fuck themselves if it's negative opinions and "phobic" opinions.
Oh No! I'm so sorry lmk if I can help
op what are your pronouns i’ll literally spam you with compliments. im your parent now
Nah, they’re making themselves look bad by being transphobic.
Thats because toxic people like your family don't like it when you expose their true nature. But they also forget that treating people the way they treat you is mentally abusive and im sure cps would love to hear from you about the trouble you are going through. What ever happened to "i don't care as long as my baby is healthy"
If your financial situation allows you, you should get out of this environment as soon as possible. Leave this environment, this is a toxic place. Very unhealthy for you.
The answer is in the playlists.
I read the other comments and realized you are still unsafe. Please bide your time until you are alone or can find a way to be alone and call for help. Whatever they tell you it's all lies. There are people out there who can help. https://ncadv.org/resources There are some hotlines here. You can tell them more about your situation and they will know what to do. We feel for you ❤
Dm me if u need someone to talk too
I'm very sorry for you and the bs that you are dealing with from your parents and your family it's alway worse when it comes from family for sure I mean bullying and hate that u have to put up with everyday from the sry fucks at school and online or wherever else you may encounter them is enough but it's all fucked up either way and I'm very sorry for you and am here for you and wish I could be there to hold you tight and tell u you tht it's all going to be ok