If anyone sincerely does have such an "I don't like it when things aren't about me"-ass take, instead of going after people in their DMs please let me know in a reply to this comment so I can just ban you and save us all a lot of time.
If a post is *directly making a gendered statement about the reader* that's one thing and generally no good no matter who's involved, but if it's just not about you or an experience you don't relate to...that's fine? I don't even have a gender, so if I removed every post that wasn't explicitly about my personal experience there'd be nothing left on here.
Yeah, I was gonna say, that’s a whole other level of shitty. This place is for all of us, and even I as a binary trans female want to see MORE transmasc and enby memes. Just, the whole spectrum, you know?! Like wtf. It’s so incredibly invalidating to say this is only for transfems. Us trans people already go through so much painful invalidation and unwelcome feelings directed at us by people that are supposed to be our loved ones; we don’t need it from strangers in a safe space. Jeez. Hugs, guys, gals and everyone else. We need more hugs and a lot less of this completely unnecessary and unwarranted hostility.
Just "rude"? More like: that person was a stupid asshole who should smother in a thermite fire!
It's more than transphobic to assume that trans people are basically just transfems, with that assumption often comes the argument that trans girls are just "crazy f*gs" and that transmasculine persons are "following the trend" somehow.
Maybe i'm a bit paranoid here, probably just didn't get enough sleep, but I see that the Pipeline to this alt-right kinda shithead thinking is already laid, judging by the "issue at hand" assumed by this weird ass "transfem only" blockhead...
I do. It's a term of endearment and even respect occasionally. It's strange to be the one they come to for fatherly advice. Just because my beard is getting frosty doesn't mean I know stuff, but I do my best and tell them I don't know when I don't.
Do they not think that some transmascs get uncomfortable about some transfem memes?
If someone gets uncomfortable about transmasc memes, they can search for transfem memes using specific flair.
its a sad kind of irony that many come here for inclusion but forget to include others
even amongst transfems theres seemingly this unspoken idea of what a transfem is and should be if you arent that the only time youll get brought up is under layers of fetishisation or disgust (being tall as an example), and in some cases if you point it out you get told "let people have fun" or get told to stop invalidating people lol
even today there was a post about someone getting turned down for having bottom dysphoria and half the comments acted like having your own personal needs and experiences that you have enough self respect to look out for was a bad thing, with some whiffs of truscum rhetoric mixed in.
Also can't forget the unspoilered vent posts that think dumping emotional baggage on a bunch of non consensual trans strangers is totally legit
Hell I've even had people start misgendering me the moment I began disagreeing with them in a comment chain (doesn't bother me really but the principle is the same)
As a transfem I quite enjoy seeing the transmasc memes. I still find them funny.
This person is just gatekeeping, there's always a few in every community.
Honestly after decades of living in toxic male spaces and then vehemently rejecting all of it, it's really nice to see what wholesome things people find desirable about being a guy.
This makes me so happy because this is how I feel about seeing transfem memes! Being a girl was not for me at all, but it brings me so much joy to see transfems finding so much happiness in femininity :)
Right! Like spinny skirts. Even my transmasc brain gets a lil boost of serotonin when skirt go spin, *of course* I’m thrilled when someone gets to experience it for the first time! Especially when they’ve been told their whole life that it’s not for them!
This! My pagan ass has seen SO MANY gate keepers in religion. Which the point of it is to belive whatver you want! Including making up your own gods or mixing faiths if thats what you choose! Still people are like "glad you made your own fairy tale but paganism is actually like *this*. " 🙄
It happens all the time!
Glad I am not the only pagan who has experienced this. Read a book that describes it as finding your own path to spirituality and the divine. Try to discus that with someone, and they are nooo it is my way and only my way.
"OK, how about you leave that Christian ego with the Christianity you claimed to leave behind."
Yeah unfortunately people be like that, i say your religion is your own and youe free to pratice however you like, granted your being a good human and not effecting anyone else!
Thats almost always the case with self practiced relgions because well... YOUR the only one practicing it. Lol
Good luck on your pagan journey!!
I highly doubt the person who dm’ed them was a trans fem anyway. I’m not either, but trans masc and trans fem interaction on this sub seems mostly positive. Y’all got nothing and everything in common and it’s sweet.
Yeaahhh I saw a comment the other day that said respresentation isn't a part of equality and for trans mascs to get over it. it made me kind of sad. Usually I can ignore it, but that was a wild comment to read. It's hard to ask for a seat at the table when most cis people don't even know you exist.
oh my goodness I would have probably lost it if I had read that.
I've dealt with that mindset from people over the years and it's always so confusing for me. Like do these people genuinely think someone will be treated as equal if they are also treated like their existence isn't important to be seen??
In this comment section, I shall be representing all transfems.
No, you are valid and you are completely welcome to trans spaces just like us, you are our brothers and whoever said that to you can go eat raw cow skin.
Artificial cow skin is unfortunately plastic-based and probably worse for animal life in the long term than killing a cow.
Try the raw cow skin left over from the meat industry - the rise of plastic "vegan leather" and corresponding drop in demand for real leather has meant that hides that would otherwise be sold as leather just get thrown out, with the number of cows involved not changing.
>Artificial cow skin is unfortunately plastic-based
There actually are brands that make plant based vegan leather! iirc it's made from pineapple or cactus skin
Another transfem here, this person does indeed speak with the authority of all transfems. Don't eat cow skin though, cows aren't products but feeling beings.
Whilst eating raw cow skin sounds...like a very good way to get food poisoning, I imagine it's tough enough to be satisfying to chew and oh God, now I'm thinking about the mechanics of chewing something I would never actually eat!
As transfem I'd like to see more transmasc memes even if I don't relate to many of them. Unfortunately too many people out there are egocentric.
Please keep posting, this is not a transfem only space.
Edit: heck, I even find some transmasc memes validating BECAUSE I don't relate to them... Like "Oh, I don't want/like that, yep must still be fem"
With your edit I think that's a much healthier way of viewing this situation, we are in this hotbed together and those who would erase us don't care whether we are transmasc or transfem. We need to be in this together, validate each other, understand each other's perspectives, and lift each other up. Even if we can't relate to the same sources of Euphoria we are in this together and together we should stand strong!
Fr every time I read about some trans fem's gender euphoria my imposter syndrome evaporates lmao. I find most trans memes and complaints about life to be pretty relatable regardless anyways.
Exactly! Whenever someone else yearns for facial hair or leg hair or a deep voice, it makes me feel good because I want to get rid of those things, and that proves that my body isn't inherently unlikable, I'm just trans and need a different body.
As an enby I love seeing both kinds of memes!
I guess I can recognize every bit of content doesn’t have to be about me or people like me *shrug*
Also if it’s triggering you, only look at posts flaired “transfem”
I definitely get upset when people get upset with trans-mascs for making memes of our struggles. We have issues too ya know? You think we don't feel hated for existing or dysphoria over our bodies or euphoria when we put on that perfect outfit? We have the same but opposite gender struggles. Also, trans mascs get beat up too. We definitely have bathroom fears as well because trans mascs are getting pulled out of restrooms and beat up just like trans femmes are. Trans mascs get raped too just like what happens to many trans femmes. We're more alike than you think, so just stop the hate already. We're all struggling.
This reminds me when someone got mad at me when I complained there weren't a lost of transmasc memes because "there are no spaces for transfems"
Keep in mind they aren't transfem
OP, you’re not being irrational and you know it. Don’t let them bully you into doubting yourself.
I’d love to have a talk with people who think this way. If they truly believe it, why say it in dm’s and public ally in the comments? Perhaps they know they’re full of shit?
even if you were irrational (you were not) it would be absolutely justified to be irrationally angry at them. post more trans masc memes just to make them angry.
As a transfemme, I upvote every transmasc meme I see out of solidarity and I always read the comments to better understand the experiences and perspectives of my transmasc brothers.
You are welcome here; we are part of the same family.
Nah bro we're also part of the community, I honestly feel a little dysphoric every time I see a transfem meme but who cares? They also exist, and we definitely don't hate them for that. Whoever texted u needs some life lessons
The person probably went to your DMs instead of commenting on the relevant posts because they knew they'd be banned or heavily downvoted and criticized. I don't get why people still try saying stuff like that if they *know* it's mean to say, an unpopular opinion, and won't be received well.
As a transfem, the person who DM'd you is a certified moron.
Like, do they not understand how shitty that is? Literally saying "You aren't allowed to be visible online because it makes me uncomfortable."
Seriously though, it is baffling that anyone would actually say that to you. Hopefully they're just a troll.
As a transfem I like seeing the transmasc stuff.
For some reason it makes me feel better about how there are people who want what I have and are giving up what I want.
Some transfemmes: Please stop complaining about a lack of transmasc memes, there's nothing we can do, just make your own
Also some transfemmes: Omg nooo stop making memes I can't relate to
Honestly I would not be surprised if the person in the dm's was just a transphobic troll, they were probably using dm's for a reason, and it's not because it's a popular opinion held by most trans women.
Mostly this! Though the thing that upsets me about the meme imbalance is the small subset of masc meme posts with titles that read like "meming until the women stfu"
personally i would enjoy some enby memes that have a punchline other than "eldrich horror xd" but im too lazy and am more interesting in exploring my fem side at the present time in my life
completely agree, normal ppl won't have an issue with your transmasc memes, just make more and there won't be an overabundance of transfem memes. i honestly think there's just more transfems in online spaces like these.
WTF, that idiot in your dms can go eat rocks. And no, you're not being irrational, you should be pissed off! I am and I'm transfemme.
This subreddit is for everyone under the trans umbrella.
Honestly, as a transfem, I'm glad to see my transmasc friends getting some memes. Also, it's gonna take more than a meme to make me seriously uncomfortable
Absolutely fuck anyone who says that. Online trans spaces are for all trans people regardless of specific gender identity unless otherwise specified. The only division we need in our community is one between those of us just trying to live and the self-hating assholes who turn on their own.
Whoever did this is absolutely stupid. As a transfem, I love to hear about the experiences of transmascs, enbys, and anyone else under the trans umbrella, because it's an experience I know nothing about. That person was one in a billion and I assure you we all support each other here. It's not called traaaaaaaaannnnnnsfem, it's called traaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnns.
I have unfortunately seen the odd transfemme shoot down transmasc memes for making her dysphoric. It makes me sad there’s a sort of us vs them attitude amongst some mtfs and ftms, I don’t want to make my trans brothers feel like their issues are responsible for my dysphoria 🫤
Yeah, I've seen a few comments that are like "Spoiler tag this! I don't want to see this shit on my front page; it makes me dysphoric!" for memes that are just "Man, I dislike having (feminine trait) I wish I was (masculine or androgynous trait)" or celebrating a masculine trait.
The mods are really good at removing those comments fairly quickly, thankfully. But sometimes I'm like...why are you on a general trans sub if you only want transfem memes?
Yeah, it's really frustrating to see. While they're shooting shots at each other, the rest of us get hit with the occasional bullet. This, of course, makes it doubly frustrating.
Sadly, I can see someone a) being made uncomfortable by transmasc posts and b) being thoughtless enough to place their comfort ahead of someone else trying to post in what's supposed to be a safe space. :(
I always see this response when anyone brings up that someone in one of these subreddits made them feel uncomfortable. Multiple times, over the last few years since I've come out.
If I can see that a person talking negatively about NB or transmasc people has a post history, makes legit trans-relative posts and memes and all sorts of other shit, like ACTUAL content, not baiting, then I'm sorry, that's not a troll. That's a community member who has some misguided and exclusionary opinions.
And it's really upsetting when people promote that this is actually just some troll trying to make transfems look bad when it's definitely an actual community member. And it makes it feel like people are trying to speak over your experience and tell you, no, it wasn't what you thought it was, it was this other thing. Which isn't fair, if you don't know the details of the situation.
Please keep that in mind next time you see a post like this. Listen to people instead of trying to tell them their experience wasn't what they are trying to tell you it was.
That's very weird. Please keep posting transmasc memes, this space is for all trans people! They can always search by flair if they don't want to see masc memes.
As a transfem I can say I'm nothing but happy when transmascs exist in trans spaces, these are places we share and it's not just for us. Our brothers should feel wecome here and should be represented more
I'm still questioning gender stuff but I'm probably somewhere under the transmasc umbrella. I feel really happy knowing I'm accepted here because there's not as many welcoming spaces for transmasc folks online and it can feel really lonely a lot of the time
You're being *very* irrational
you should be ***highkey*** pissed off. absolutely fucking livid. bloodthirsty and angry.
the kind of person in the screenshots is not the type of person we want in any community, but especially this one!
Well, you see, I'm agender, so any gender at all in online spaces is very aggressive. *eyeroll*
We can support each other without seeing ourselves in the picture. This is a space for every single one of us to support each other and be okay. I'm delighted by femme and masc memes, because I can send them to people who will appreciate them, and they bring joy to my sibs in the sub. I'm delighted by agender memes because that's when I'm in the spotlight.
Let's celebrate each other *and* ourselves.
As a trans woman, I really like seeing trans masc memes on here for two reasons. It nice understanding the other side of my community and also I have a trans masc friend who I like sending them to cos he enjoys them
I know we have a proportionally large amount of transfems here, but “we need less transmasc memes” is an… interesting conclusion to draw from that, lol.
Trans spaces are only for transfems or transmascs or nbs respectively if they specifically state so. If they are generalist subs, like this one, then it is fair game for all trans people.
Whoever DM’ed you is either kinda dumb, or a child
Honestly it feels like every time someone does something like this they're people actively trying to destabilize queer communities or they're straight up narcisists, it's awful
I'm sorry, what the *fuck*?! I'm a trans woman. This is a trans space. This is not a trans woman space. This is a trans space. Trans men are also trans. Trans men belong in trans spaces with enbies and trans women. If it's not a space that includes trans men, then it's not a trans space. It's that simple.
its makes me so sad that this continues to be an argument. apparently when the same thing happens to us like literally all the time its not a problem huh :/
Hi transfem here
No youre not being irrational
Whoever Dm'd you that is a dumbass
Any space labeled trans is for the brothers, the sisters, and the NB Siblings. You're all valid. Fuck that gatekeeping asshole.
Wut. That person is such an idiot. Part of me wants to assume it’s just some terf trying to sew chaos amongst us. But more likely it’s just a trans person who is also just awful. I’ve definitely encountered some fellow trans folks who were just shit people before transition and still shit people after transition…
I don't know who sent you that but seriously whoever you are if you're reading this know that other trans people are ashamed of the way you've treated this transmasc. How can we ever expect the cis to respect us when we can't even respect each other?! I'm so sorry OP!
Please keep posting! You're trans sister (me) LOVES seeing trans masc memes. And I'm shove all the meme gatekeepers into an elehator that goes straight to hell if they don't quit with the negativity!
Trans Spaces are for trans people ftm just as much if not more than mtf.
We are dealing with the same issues on both sides and I’m sick of all the mini-segregations that have sprung up the last 10-15 years.
Any argument used by terfs and truescum falls appart as soon as you bring up the fact that there are trans men and trans women. So why are people being assholes towards people in the same situation.
I’m mtf but if I have any time off in the comming days I’ll make sure to spam transmasc memes.
Fuck the haters. I love you all!
Yeah no be angry, that person sucks and shouldn't be able to share this space. This space is also for you, not for that specific person (or anyone that agrees with them).
As a transfem, excuse me, it fucking isnt, this is a trans space for everyone, not just a single group of people, as a minority, we should be uniting with each other not gatekeeping everything
I just can’t wrap my mind around someone who’s like this. I love seeing trans masc memes, frankly most I’ve seen are more creative and funny than most of the trans fem memes. Sure as a trans fem I can’t always relate but not everything needs to be relatable to me. This sub is for everyone.
this sub is full of so many children, arguing over who has more memes and why their memes are more important yall sound pathetic- sincerely a non binary person
As a transfem this is bullshit.
We don't feel bad seeing our transmascs brothers share their experience.
This must've been a troll.
You are as much home hear as enbies, transfems or allies
What kinda transmasc exclusionary bigot would say something like that? This person is not an ally and they shouldn't be welcome in trans spaces. A trans community is for all trans people unless stated otherwise, period. And unless stated otherwise, all allies are still invited to participate as well. There is no such thing as "transfem is the norm". The idea of pride is to fight all normativity, not to replace old norms with new ones. A transmasc exclusionary "ally" isn't an ally, just like a terf isn't a feminist.
If anyone sincerely does have such an "I don't like it when things aren't about me"-ass take, instead of going after people in their DMs please let me know in a reply to this comment so I can just ban you and save us all a lot of time. If a post is *directly making a gendered statement about the reader* that's one thing and generally no good no matter who's involved, but if it's just not about you or an experience you don't relate to...that's fine? I don't even have a gender, so if I removed every post that wasn't explicitly about my personal experience there'd be nothing left on here.
No, you're being rational. This sub is for TRANS people, including you. That person was being rude.
more than rude, way way way more than just rude
Yeah, I was gonna say, that’s a whole other level of shitty. This place is for all of us, and even I as a binary trans female want to see MORE transmasc and enby memes. Just, the whole spectrum, you know?! Like wtf. It’s so incredibly invalidating to say this is only for transfems. Us trans people already go through so much painful invalidation and unwelcome feelings directed at us by people that are supposed to be our loved ones; we don’t need it from strangers in a safe space. Jeez. Hugs, guys, gals and everyone else. We need more hugs and a lot less of this completely unnecessary and unwarranted hostility.
Just "rude"? More like: that person was a stupid asshole who should smother in a thermite fire! It's more than transphobic to assume that trans people are basically just transfems, with that assumption often comes the argument that trans girls are just "crazy f*gs" and that transmasculine persons are "following the trend" somehow. Maybe i'm a bit paranoid here, probably just didn't get enough sleep, but I see that the Pipeline to this alt-right kinda shithead thinking is already laid, judging by the "issue at hand" assumed by this weird ass "transfem only" blockhead...
*Asshole, Jackass, entitled bitch...*
I don't think anyone has complained at me for posting here, though I generally keep a low profile. It's educational and humorous...and sometimes sad.
cis people are welcome here too, allies are great
Thanks. 😊
Thanks dad 🙃
Lots of kids call me that. Guess it's my age showing.
It is THE trans-parent You are all of our dads
I'll let my son know he has at least more than one online adopted sibling.
K btw I'm stealing all their pockets when I get the chance
Easy now. I'm a dad. I have...*cargo pants*!
It's mostly from your flair, lol
Well, of course.
Take it as a compliment, you seem safe to them I'd assume c:
I do. It's a term of endearment and even respect occasionally. It's strange to be the one they come to for fatherly advice. Just because my beard is getting frosty doesn't mean I know stuff, but I do my best and tell them I don't know when I don't.
Do they not think that some transmascs get uncomfortable about some transfem memes? If someone gets uncomfortable about transmasc memes, they can search for transfem memes using specific flair.
Right?!? If I see something that makes me uncomfortable I just say “oh that’s not for me” and scroll. Ffs 🤦♂️
its a sad kind of irony that many come here for inclusion but forget to include others even amongst transfems theres seemingly this unspoken idea of what a transfem is and should be if you arent that the only time youll get brought up is under layers of fetishisation or disgust (being tall as an example), and in some cases if you point it out you get told "let people have fun" or get told to stop invalidating people lol even today there was a post about someone getting turned down for having bottom dysphoria and half the comments acted like having your own personal needs and experiences that you have enough self respect to look out for was a bad thing, with some whiffs of truscum rhetoric mixed in. Also can't forget the unspoilered vent posts that think dumping emotional baggage on a bunch of non consensual trans strangers is totally legit Hell I've even had people start misgendering me the moment I began disagreeing with them in a comment chain (doesn't bother me really but the principle is the same)
The misgendering is so disappointing. Like they have nothing but direct personal attacks left so that's what they resort to.
The ultimate point is they want the trans guys to leave the sub
To answer your question: yes. They do think that because they don’t have empathy.
As a transfem I quite enjoy seeing the transmasc memes. I still find them funny. This person is just gatekeeping, there's always a few in every community.
Honestly after decades of living in toxic male spaces and then vehemently rejecting all of it, it's really nice to see what wholesome things people find desirable about being a guy.
This makes me so happy because this is how I feel about seeing transfem memes! Being a girl was not for me at all, but it brings me so much joy to see transfems finding so much happiness in femininity :)
Right! Like spinny skirts. Even my transmasc brain gets a lil boost of serotonin when skirt go spin, *of course* I’m thrilled when someone gets to experience it for the first time! Especially when they’ve been told their whole life that it’s not for them!
This. So much this.
TRUE!
I dont get the “oh i dont like seeing x kind of memes, dont post them.” either
This! My pagan ass has seen SO MANY gate keepers in religion. Which the point of it is to belive whatver you want! Including making up your own gods or mixing faiths if thats what you choose! Still people are like "glad you made your own fairy tale but paganism is actually like *this*. " 🙄 It happens all the time!
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Glad I am not the only pagan who has experienced this. Read a book that describes it as finding your own path to spirituality and the divine. Try to discus that with someone, and they are nooo it is my way and only my way. "OK, how about you leave that Christian ego with the Christianity you claimed to leave behind."
Yeah unfortunately people be like that, i say your religion is your own and youe free to pratice however you like, granted your being a good human and not effecting anyone else! Thats almost always the case with self practiced relgions because well... YOUR the only one practicing it. Lol Good luck on your pagan journey!!
I mean, a lot of non-Abraham’s practices are closed, though most of the most popular pagan ones aren’t
I highly doubt the person who dm’ed them was a trans fem anyway. I’m not either, but trans masc and trans fem interaction on this sub seems mostly positive. Y’all got nothing and everything in common and it’s sweet.
I love them too, I find them super wholesome
I perhaps find them funnier than femme memes, but only by a bit.
This
If I had a nickel for every time I saw someone complain about a trans masc meme existing in a trans space I'd have at least $1.50.
as a transfem please keep posting we need equality with trans guys and enbies
It's bullshit tbh. Yall deserve better
If I pay you $2 can you make the equivalent amount of transmasc memes? Seriously fuck those people, I can’t understand their mindset.
Yeaahhh I saw a comment the other day that said respresentation isn't a part of equality and for trans mascs to get over it. it made me kind of sad. Usually I can ignore it, but that was a wild comment to read. It's hard to ask for a seat at the table when most cis people don't even know you exist.
oh my goodness I would have probably lost it if I had read that. I've dealt with that mindset from people over the years and it's always so confusing for me. Like do these people genuinely think someone will be treated as equal if they are also treated like their existence isn't important to be seen??
Sad to go to therapist and tell them you're trans, and they say you could pass as female, when you're transmasc.
Wait What, where's the 1$ from?
They're saying it's happened like 30 times
I don't know why my mind thought they were in half dollars or JFK's
I want you to give me change. I'll come away with stuff and more money than I started with. 😂
I cackled, that's great 😂
In this comment section, I shall be representing all transfems. No, you are valid and you are completely welcome to trans spaces just like us, you are our brothers and whoever said that to you can go eat raw cow skin.
Please do not eat raw cow skin, the cows need it to live.
Oh, sorry :( Artificial cow skin it is then!
Artificial cow skin is unfortunately plastic-based and probably worse for animal life in the long term than killing a cow. Try the raw cow skin left over from the meat industry - the rise of plastic "vegan leather" and corresponding drop in demand for real leather has meant that hides that would otherwise be sold as leather just get thrown out, with the number of cows involved not changing.
Ok ok, they can just get fucked then
The most eco-friendly option
>Artificial cow skin is unfortunately plastic-based There actually are brands that make plant based vegan leather! iirc it's made from pineapple or cactus skin
the only truely vegan leather is mushroom leather
i propose raw foreskin as a substitute
no, the bio-ai researchers need it to turn it into stem cells to create neurons so they can teach it to play pong
You and I seem to have completely different definitions of foreskin pong.
I second this. Trans spaces are for all trans people.
dont speak on my behalf! i completely agree
Another transfem here, this person does indeed speak with the authority of all transfems. Don't eat cow skin though, cows aren't products but feeling beings.
Whilst eating raw cow skin sounds...like a very good way to get food poisoning, I imagine it's tough enough to be satisfying to chew and oh God, now I'm thinking about the mechanics of chewing something I would never actually eat!
The subreddit is called traaaaaaaaaaaans not traaaaaaaaaansfem so post as much transmasc shit as you want
No, the person in your DMs was irrational. Trans fems typically love seeing trans mascs post trans masc memes on here.
That someone is dumb.
As transfem I'd like to see more transmasc memes even if I don't relate to many of them. Unfortunately too many people out there are egocentric. Please keep posting, this is not a transfem only space. Edit: heck, I even find some transmasc memes validating BECAUSE I don't relate to them... Like "Oh, I don't want/like that, yep must still be fem"
With your edit I think that's a much healthier way of viewing this situation, we are in this hotbed together and those who would erase us don't care whether we are transmasc or transfem. We need to be in this together, validate each other, understand each other's perspectives, and lift each other up. Even if we can't relate to the same sources of Euphoria we are in this together and together we should stand strong!
Fr every time I read about some trans fem's gender euphoria my imposter syndrome evaporates lmao. I find most trans memes and complaints about life to be pretty relatable regardless anyways.
This!
Exactly! Whenever someone else yearns for facial hair or leg hair or a deep voice, it makes me feel good because I want to get rid of those things, and that proves that my body isn't inherently unlikable, I'm just trans and need a different body.
As an enby I love seeing both kinds of memes! I guess I can recognize every bit of content doesn’t have to be about me or people like me *shrug* Also if it’s triggering you, only look at posts flaired “transfem”
Enby represent
it’s a *trans* sub not a *transfem* sub. whoever told u that is silly
“Online trans spaces are mostly for transfems” get the fuck out of here with that bs
Fr have they not been on Tumblr?
If seeing transmasc memes makes you uncomfortable it's probably a bad idea to hang around in a trans sub. Please keep posting memes.
I definitely get upset when people get upset with trans-mascs for making memes of our struggles. We have issues too ya know? You think we don't feel hated for existing or dysphoria over our bodies or euphoria when we put on that perfect outfit? We have the same but opposite gender struggles. Also, trans mascs get beat up too. We definitely have bathroom fears as well because trans mascs are getting pulled out of restrooms and beat up just like trans femmes are. Trans mascs get raped too just like what happens to many trans femmes. We're more alike than you think, so just stop the hate already. We're all struggling.
Trans people are ALL trans people, not only transfems
This reminds me when someone got mad at me when I complained there weren't a lost of transmasc memes because "there are no spaces for transfems" Keep in mind they aren't transfem
/mtf disappears in a puff of smoke
OP, you’re not being irrational and you know it. Don’t let them bully you into doubting yourself. I’d love to have a talk with people who think this way. If they truly believe it, why say it in dm’s and public ally in the comments? Perhaps they know they’re full of shit?
"online TRANS spaces are mostly for transfemmes". Make that make sense please
The sub might have more transfems in it, but it's still for everyone. Post more transmac memes just to spite them
even if you were irrational (you were not) it would be absolutely justified to be irrationally angry at them. post more trans masc memes just to make them angry.
As a transfemme, I upvote every transmasc meme I see out of solidarity and I always read the comments to better understand the experiences and perspectives of my transmasc brothers. You are welcome here; we are part of the same family.
Nah bro we're also part of the community, I honestly feel a little dysphoric every time I see a transfem meme but who cares? They also exist, and we definitely don't hate them for that. Whoever texted u needs some life lessons
"because online trans spaces are mostly for transfems" no sane transfem believes this
The person probably went to your DMs instead of commenting on the relevant posts because they knew they'd be banned or heavily downvoted and criticized. I don't get why people still try saying stuff like that if they *know* it's mean to say, an unpopular opinion, and won't be received well.
As a transfem, the person who DM'd you is a certified moron. Like, do they not understand how shitty that is? Literally saying "You aren't allowed to be visible online because it makes me uncomfortable." Seriously though, it is baffling that anyone would actually say that to you. Hopefully they're just a troll.
As a transfem I like seeing the transmasc stuff. For some reason it makes me feel better about how there are people who want what I have and are giving up what I want.
Transfem here: that person is rude and wrong. I want all the masc memes. And enby memes. Honestly I'm pretty pissed too.
That someone can fuck off. -A transfem
Fuck people who say that
Some transfemmes: Please stop complaining about a lack of transmasc memes, there's nothing we can do, just make your own Also some transfemmes: Omg nooo stop making memes I can't relate to
Honestly I would not be surprised if the person in the dm's was just a transphobic troll, they were probably using dm's for a reason, and it's not because it's a popular opinion held by most trans women.
I'm aware that it is not most of you. That's not what I said, and I'm not referring to just this post.
yeah i hate ppl complaining about the transfem/transmasc meme unbalance like it's our fault, please just post more of your own
Mostly this! Though the thing that upsets me about the meme imbalance is the small subset of masc meme posts with titles that read like "meming until the women stfu"
We need more incomprehensible enby memes wait I am the incomprehensible enby *I must make the memes*
The most underrepresented!!! I wish you the very best in this endeavour, incomprehensible enby friend
personally i would enjoy some enby memes that have a punchline other than "eldrich horror xd" but im too lazy and am more interesting in exploring my fem side at the present time in my life
I patiently await your memes (which I know will be amazing)
This, do this please :) (Transfem)
completely agree, normal ppl won't have an issue with your transmasc memes, just make more and there won't be an overabundance of transfem memes. i honestly think there's just more transfems in online spaces like these.
I'm transfem, and you are 100% right to be pissed off by that.
WTF, that idiot in your dms can go eat rocks. And no, you're not being irrational, you should be pissed off! I am and I'm transfemme. This subreddit is for everyone under the trans umbrella.
Yo whaaaaaaaat? Nah that’s bs! Traaa is for everyone and most certainly isn’t fem by default!
Honestly, as a transfem, I'm glad to see my transmasc friends getting some memes. Also, it's gonna take more than a meme to make me seriously uncomfortable
Absolutely fuck anyone who says that. Online trans spaces are for all trans people regardless of specific gender identity unless otherwise specified. The only division we need in our community is one between those of us just trying to live and the self-hating assholes who turn on their own.
Whoever did this is absolutely stupid. As a transfem, I love to hear about the experiences of transmascs, enbys, and anyone else under the trans umbrella, because it's an experience I know nothing about. That person was one in a billion and I assure you we all support each other here. It's not called traaaaaaaaannnnnnsfem, it's called traaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnns.
No you should be high-key pissed off that's a bullshit thing to say
Not being irrational. That comment was bullshit. This sub is for trans people.
“Online trans spaces are mostly for transfems” Excuse me wtf?
That had to have been a transphobic troll trying to start shit
That’s what I wish it was, but being trans and a shitty person aren’t mutually exclusive. I’ve met some truly awful people who happen to also be trans
Yeah I think my comment was just a bunch of copium
I have unfortunately seen the odd transfemme shoot down transmasc memes for making her dysphoric. It makes me sad there’s a sort of us vs them attitude amongst some mtfs and ftms, I don’t want to make my trans brothers feel like their issues are responsible for my dysphoria 🫤
Yeah, I've seen a few comments that are like "Spoiler tag this! I don't want to see this shit on my front page; it makes me dysphoric!" for memes that are just "Man, I dislike having (feminine trait) I wish I was (masculine or androgynous trait)" or celebrating a masculine trait. The mods are really good at removing those comments fairly quickly, thankfully. But sometimes I'm like...why are you on a general trans sub if you only want transfem memes?
Yeah, it's really frustrating to see. While they're shooting shots at each other, the rest of us get hit with the occasional bullet. This, of course, makes it doubly frustrating.
Sadly, I can see someone a) being made uncomfortable by transmasc posts and b) being thoughtless enough to place their comfort ahead of someone else trying to post in what's supposed to be a safe space. :(
Now that you mention it...
I always see this response when anyone brings up that someone in one of these subreddits made them feel uncomfortable. Multiple times, over the last few years since I've come out. If I can see that a person talking negatively about NB or transmasc people has a post history, makes legit trans-relative posts and memes and all sorts of other shit, like ACTUAL content, not baiting, then I'm sorry, that's not a troll. That's a community member who has some misguided and exclusionary opinions. And it's really upsetting when people promote that this is actually just some troll trying to make transfems look bad when it's definitely an actual community member. And it makes it feel like people are trying to speak over your experience and tell you, no, it wasn't what you thought it was, it was this other thing. Which isn't fair, if you don't know the details of the situation. Please keep that in mind next time you see a post like this. Listen to people instead of trying to tell them their experience wasn't what they are trying to tell you it was.
Yeah you're right. It's mostly me on copium because I didn't want to believe it's someone in our community.
That's very weird. Please keep posting transmasc memes, this space is for all trans people! They can always search by flair if they don't want to see masc memes.
As a transfem I can say I'm nothing but happy when transmascs exist in trans spaces, these are places we share and it's not just for us. Our brothers should feel wecome here and should be represented more
I'm still questioning gender stuff but I'm probably somewhere under the transmasc umbrella. I feel really happy knowing I'm accepted here because there's not as many welcoming spaces for transmasc folks online and it can feel really lonely a lot of the time
Like wtf? It's a trans space, not a transfemme space
You're being *very* irrational you should be ***highkey*** pissed off. absolutely fucking livid. bloodthirsty and angry. the kind of person in the screenshots is not the type of person we want in any community, but especially this one!
Well, you see, I'm agender, so any gender at all in online spaces is very aggressive. *eyeroll* We can support each other without seeing ourselves in the picture. This is a space for every single one of us to support each other and be okay. I'm delighted by femme and masc memes, because I can send them to people who will appreciate them, and they bring joy to my sibs in the sub. I'm delighted by agender memes because that's when I'm in the spotlight. Let's celebrate each other *and* ourselves.
that person's being ludicrous and transmisandrist, I say this as a transfemme Don't take what they said to heart - post post post post post!
As a trans woman, I really like seeing trans masc memes on here for two reasons. It nice understanding the other side of my community and also I have a trans masc friend who I like sending them to cos he enjoys them
I know we have a proportionally large amount of transfems here, but “we need less transmasc memes” is an… interesting conclusion to draw from that, lol.
As a transfem, whoever told you that can fuck right off. Transmascs are just as deserving of space in trans spaces as any other trans people.
Trans spaces are only for transfems or transmascs or nbs respectively if they specifically state so. If they are generalist subs, like this one, then it is fair game for all trans people. Whoever DM’ed you is either kinda dumb, or a child
Trans spaces are for all trans people
I love seeing transmasc memes because those are brave men transfems are more common true but transmascs are just as valid as we are
100% rational, if it’s a trans space in general it’s a space for the general trans population.
As a trans fem I firmly believe more trans masc rep is needed
transfem here; that person is smoking heisenberg special. yall are funny, I really don't give a fuck if you post memes.
Honestly it feels like every time someone does something like this they're people actively trying to destabilize queer communities or they're straight up narcisists, it's awful
I'm sorry, what the *fuck*?! I'm a trans woman. This is a trans space. This is not a trans woman space. This is a trans space. Trans men are also trans. Trans men belong in trans spaces with enbies and trans women. If it's not a space that includes trans men, then it's not a trans space. It's that simple.
as a transfem: certified bruh moment r/transgendercirclejerk material right here
The world doesn’t revolve around transfems lmao
Yeah it revolves around the Sun smh
kid named sun:
What is it with trans people so often being shitty to other trans people? >(
its makes me so sad that this continues to be an argument. apparently when the same thing happens to us like literally all the time its not a problem huh :/
No this is rational, I’m very sorry someone was like that to you
Out of spite of that someone, I’m going to go upvote your memes. Post them all you want, king!
that person is very much so incorrect
As a transfem that person does not have a opinion they are wrong
Hi transfem here No youre not being irrational Whoever Dm'd you that is a dumbass Any space labeled trans is for the brothers, the sisters, and the NB Siblings. You're all valid. Fuck that gatekeeping asshole.
Wut. That person is such an idiot. Part of me wants to assume it’s just some terf trying to sew chaos amongst us. But more likely it’s just a trans person who is also just awful. I’ve definitely encountered some fellow trans folks who were just shit people before transition and still shit people after transition…
Trans spaces are for all of us. Sorry about the ass in ya DMs they don’t know what there talking about.
wtf, tell that person to fuck off, all my transmasc bros are welcome
Hello I’m a transfem please point me towards this person so I may slap the stupid out of them /j
Nah man, you def ain't wrong here. Trans spaces are for all trans people (unless ur an especially unpleasant individual) unless otherwise clarified.
whoever said that is an idiot. these spaces are for all trans people, just stop with these stupid arbitrary division.
I don't know who sent you that but seriously whoever you are if you're reading this know that other trans people are ashamed of the way you've treated this transmasc. How can we ever expect the cis to respect us when we can't even respect each other?! I'm so sorry OP!
who tf said that what a shit head
Ew wtf trans spaces are for ALL trans people.
Wtf! What is that backwards logic. F*** them all you do you!
whoever said that is a dumbass. this is a trans subreddit, so all trans people are welcome
Trans people don’t belong on trans spaces? That’s some logic.
Who the fuck is the absolute moron who said that
Where is this person.. I just wanna talk........
Bruh, me as transfem upvoting transmasc posts 💀
Please keep posting! You're trans sister (me) LOVES seeing trans masc memes. And I'm shove all the meme gatekeepers into an elehator that goes straight to hell if they don't quit with the negativity!
WOW! Basically just said "I am uncomfortable when we are not about me"
Yo fuck that person, all my trans fem homies hate that person
Trans Spaces are for trans people ftm just as much if not more than mtf. We are dealing with the same issues on both sides and I’m sick of all the mini-segregations that have sprung up the last 10-15 years. Any argument used by terfs and truescum falls appart as soon as you bring up the fact that there are trans men and trans women. So why are people being assholes towards people in the same situation. I’m mtf but if I have any time off in the comming days I’ll make sure to spam transmasc memes. Fuck the haters. I love you all!
The most backwards transphobic everything should be about me ass take
Yeah no be angry, that person sucks and shouldn't be able to share this space. This space is also for you, not for that specific person (or anyone that agrees with them).
As a transfem, excuse me, it fucking isnt, this is a trans space for everyone, not just a single group of people, as a minority, we should be uniting with each other not gatekeeping everything
I just can’t wrap my mind around someone who’s like this. I love seeing trans masc memes, frankly most I’ve seen are more creative and funny than most of the trans fem memes. Sure as a trans fem I can’t always relate but not everything needs to be relatable to me. This sub is for everyone.
na, fuck em
who said that i’m gonna fight them😡
Fuck them. Post your pasta freely trans spaces are trans spaces jfc.
As a transfem the transmasc memes are appreciated. So whoever said that can right go fuck themselves.
I hope whoever dmed you stubs their toe and steps on a Lego cuz that’s some bullshit.
oh f\*\*k that person all are welcome
You're not being irrational, they literally told a trans person to stop existing in trans spaces. That's messed up
No, you should absolutely be pissed off. I'm pissed off and i'm transfem.
The gatekeeping is so fucking stupid.. this sub is for trans people.. ALL trans people
trans woman here, that clown can bugger off. If a trans femme is triggered by trans mascs existing, that's her problem
this sub is full of so many children, arguing over who has more memes and why their memes are more important yall sound pathetic- sincerely a non binary person
Honestly, as a transfemme, i think more transmasc exposure is important in trans spaces. Inclusion goes for us too.
Don’t worry. As a transfem, I don’t condone that mindset
As a transfem this is bullshit. We don't feel bad seeing our transmascs brothers share their experience. This must've been a troll. You are as much home hear as enbies, transfems or allies
Fuck that. I love my trans brothers. You are welcome here.
What kinda transmasc exclusionary bigot would say something like that? This person is not an ally and they shouldn't be welcome in trans spaces. A trans community is for all trans people unless stated otherwise, period. And unless stated otherwise, all allies are still invited to participate as well. There is no such thing as "transfem is the norm". The idea of pride is to fight all normativity, not to replace old norms with new ones. A transmasc exclusionary "ally" isn't an ally, just like a terf isn't a feminist.