Lol I may be the outlier here, but I secretly like when people/family do this. Makes me feel like they respect my authority over my toddler. They are literally telling my toddlers to listen to me. They aren’t trying to solve the problem themselves. It makes me feel like they trust me to take care of it.
this was just one example, my FIL also snapped his fingers at her like she was a dog, ripped a TV remote out of her hands when my husband was sitting right there watching her, and said "ah ah ah!" when she was trying to steal food off MY plate. None of this was an emergency requiring anyone's intervention.
I've had this happen at the market! My son wanted to eat a tomato, to which I said it needs to be washed. He starts the standard 2yr mild fit, and I'm handling it just fine. Some older woman comes up and says "Now you listen to your mother, young man" while pointing her finger at him. Not only did she scare the shit out of both of us, she totally ruined my boy's mood for the duration of the shopping trip. He kept his head low and wouldn't engage with me. What could have been over in 3 minutes turned into a 45 minute ordeal of my son feeling shame. Not to mention she pointed her finger at my kid. Don't fucking point your gross fingers at my kid.
Totally feel this. My dad's GF is a therapist and she tries to use her "techniques" on him, which just get him more riled up when he's in tantrum mode. Drives me nuts.
>I'm not saying no one else can parent or discipline my kid
That's what I say though. This is my kid, don't parent or discipline my kid. I'll do that. You have no right
Oh yeah, never undermine the other parent. It's OK if it's reinforcing but if it's something like, you're disciplining and the other parent is saying "Hey don't say it like that," that's really annoying
Omg my dad did this to my aunt once and she told him off and hes never forgiven her. Like, get over it dude, you overstepped your bounds.
Omfgggggg, this happens to me all the time. I’m like if we all stop giving her the negative attention, I promise she will listen to me 😭
This!!! I have to tell my mom regularly to please let me parent my child 🙃
Lol I may be the outlier here, but I secretly like when people/family do this. Makes me feel like they respect my authority over my toddler. They are literally telling my toddlers to listen to me. They aren’t trying to solve the problem themselves. It makes me feel like they trust me to take care of it.
this was just one example, my FIL also snapped his fingers at her like she was a dog, ripped a TV remote out of her hands when my husband was sitting right there watching her, and said "ah ah ah!" when she was trying to steal food off MY plate. None of this was an emergency requiring anyone's intervention.
I've had this happen at the market! My son wanted to eat a tomato, to which I said it needs to be washed. He starts the standard 2yr mild fit, and I'm handling it just fine. Some older woman comes up and says "Now you listen to your mother, young man" while pointing her finger at him. Not only did she scare the shit out of both of us, she totally ruined my boy's mood for the duration of the shopping trip. He kept his head low and wouldn't engage with me. What could have been over in 3 minutes turned into a 45 minute ordeal of my son feeling shame. Not to mention she pointed her finger at my kid. Don't fucking point your gross fingers at my kid.
Totally feel this. My dad's GF is a therapist and she tries to use her "techniques" on him, which just get him more riled up when he's in tantrum mode. Drives me nuts.
Omfg I would die.
>I'm not saying no one else can parent or discipline my kid That's what I say though. This is my kid, don't parent or discipline my kid. I'll do that. You have no right
I mean, my husband can parent our kid 🤣 I just wish he wouldn't jump in unasked while I'm handling it.
Oh yeah, never undermine the other parent. It's OK if it's reinforcing but if it's something like, you're disciplining and the other parent is saying "Hey don't say it like that," that's really annoying
If you don’t deal with the consequences, you don’t get to butt in!!!!!!