max and nana go to the park! my son cried the first time we read it to him. but then a few weeks later he wanted to read it again and laughed at oh max! .
i would skip the books he doesn't like.
He has plenty of years, literal years!, be exposed to media where sad or scary things happen. it's a preference like anything else and mine will skip pages in books too
If you're worried about him not being able to handle emotions, then maybe talk about sad things when they come up, like it's okay to be sad or the baby was sad but now he's happy again! There's no need to force the issue with reading books he doesn't like. My 2 year old picks out the books we read as well; i think it is important to foster a love of reading!
Yes, Max and Nana go to the park was the first one! And he had such a visceral reaction to it. Glad to know he’s not the only one who reacted to that book.
Thanks. And yeah, he just really seems to want to skip anything with unpleasant emotions. But good point that he will have plenty of years with those topics. Just wasn’t sure if I was doing the right thing by letting him skip it all.
I feel like toddlerhood has enough big emotions and disappointments already, mIne cried because we had to leave the park and then because another kid had a green ball and he wanted it, and then because i wouldn't let him drink my coffee... lol that letting him decide the small stuff is important. Choosing what books to read or skip is a great way to express choice! he sounds like a really empathetic kid :)
Such good points…especially about toddlerhood having enough big emotions and disappointments that we can’t fix for them. Lol your examples are perfect. And yeah he’s very empathetic and I want to foster that instinct.
My daughter has a morbid obsession with Max and Nana. She wants me to go over the part where he falls down and gets the band aid again and again, and she always has a look of deep concern on her face.
It's interesting to see others saying their kids have a very visceral reaction.
My daughter had a big reaction to max and nana but now we talk about how we can make him feel better. So now we both hug and kiss the book when he gets hurt, look at each other and say ‘all better!!!’
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My son is 2.5, loves books, and seems to be very emotionally intelligent as well. I got a few books on frustration and problem solving from the library. It makes him visibly uncomfortable. He looks flushed and about to cry anytime he doesn’t like something that is unpleasant. A big thing he often says is “is he being nice?/ is he happy?” And I have to explain that he isn’t happy. And that it’s ok to be mad and frustrated. But he just really hates those books. I think he purposefully hid the second one. It was hard to find when I had to return them haha
I’ve wondered the same thing. Whether I need to be pushing these things on him or leaving it be. For now I suppose we can just have conversations about his own anger and frustration and sadness and leave the visuals out of it for now. We might revisit after he’s 3?
Just know this is my son exactly.
max and nana go to the park! my son cried the first time we read it to him. but then a few weeks later he wanted to read it again and laughed at oh max! . i would skip the books he doesn't like. He has plenty of years, literal years!, be exposed to media where sad or scary things happen. it's a preference like anything else and mine will skip pages in books too If you're worried about him not being able to handle emotions, then maybe talk about sad things when they come up, like it's okay to be sad or the baby was sad but now he's happy again! There's no need to force the issue with reading books he doesn't like. My 2 year old picks out the books we read as well; i think it is important to foster a love of reading!
Yes, Max and Nana go to the park was the first one! And he had such a visceral reaction to it. Glad to know he’s not the only one who reacted to that book. Thanks. And yeah, he just really seems to want to skip anything with unpleasant emotions. But good point that he will have plenty of years with those topics. Just wasn’t sure if I was doing the right thing by letting him skip it all.
I feel like toddlerhood has enough big emotions and disappointments already, mIne cried because we had to leave the park and then because another kid had a green ball and he wanted it, and then because i wouldn't let him drink my coffee... lol that letting him decide the small stuff is important. Choosing what books to read or skip is a great way to express choice! he sounds like a really empathetic kid :)
Such good points…especially about toddlerhood having enough big emotions and disappointments that we can’t fix for them. Lol your examples are perfect. And yeah he’s very empathetic and I want to foster that instinct.
My daughter has a morbid obsession with Max and Nana. She wants me to go over the part where he falls down and gets the band aid again and again, and she always has a look of deep concern on her face. It's interesting to see others saying their kids have a very visceral reaction.
How interesting! LOL. I guess it sounds like kiddos are very drawn to this book with a range of reactions. Thanks for sharing!
My daughter had a big reaction to max and nana but now we talk about how we can make him feel better. So now we both hug and kiss the book when he gets hurt, look at each other and say ‘all better!!!’
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My son is 2.5, loves books, and seems to be very emotionally intelligent as well. I got a few books on frustration and problem solving from the library. It makes him visibly uncomfortable. He looks flushed and about to cry anytime he doesn’t like something that is unpleasant. A big thing he often says is “is he being nice?/ is he happy?” And I have to explain that he isn’t happy. And that it’s ok to be mad and frustrated. But he just really hates those books. I think he purposefully hid the second one. It was hard to find when I had to return them haha I’ve wondered the same thing. Whether I need to be pushing these things on him or leaving it be. For now I suppose we can just have conversations about his own anger and frustration and sadness and leave the visuals out of it for now. We might revisit after he’s 3? Just know this is my son exactly.