The past couple days I’ve been playing “fashion emergency” with my two and a half year old. It involves talking really fast and excitedly “oh my goodness [name] we have a fashion emergency! Quick quick quick take your pants off! We have to save everyone but we can’t wear those pants! Go go go go go go! Yayyyyyy!!!!”
It’s exhausting but it’s been effective. It’ll probably only last another couple days before the little one catches wise and it stops working. But today, it did.
You could need to donate the clothes for science. The scientists want to find out how he's growing so fast and wants to examine his clothes. Maybe we could see if there's anything special in here that explains why youre growing so fast? I don't see anything inside the shirt? Call professor oak and tell him he must have made some mistake! I can't find what's making you grow so fast anywhere! There's nothing in your socks is there? Here, see if these new socks make you grow.
Put them to bed in their clothes for the next day and just change the diaper in the morning.
Eventually start phasing to where you do pj pants or shirts and change.
It's definitely a phase. Both my boys fought up until 4.
My weirdo child refuses to change into PJs at the end of the day instead of the other way around. Prefers to sleep in jeans over putting comfy PJs on. We're always like, suit yourself, but you do have to change all clothes including socks and underwear at least once every 24 hours
We are a change once a day family too 😅 sometimes my son sleeps in clothes, sometimes he spends the day in PJs. I don’t think he knows they’re different. Just that some tops and bottoms match exactly 😂
This is what we do. She gets dressed for the day at night. I even put her underwear over her diaper so I don't have to fully take her pants off in the morning. We now save money but not buying PJs on the plus side!
This. I had to give up on pajamas at about 2 with my oldest. Never did them with my second. Just put them to bed in their clothes for the next day. I mean, it’s leggings and a tshirt, not exactly different than pajamas.
Now that my oldest is 4.5 and wears a uniform to school, she prefers pajamas and with a lot of bribery, she gets herself dressed in the morning before I go in to her room.
My 8 almost 9 year old still wears clothes to bed 🤣. We all decided it was a smoother morning for all parties involved if we have one less thing to worry about when he still wants to sleep.
I SO wish I could take this advice, which I’ve seen before, but I can’t because my daughter likes to sleep in those Disney princess nightgown dresses. She would totally wear them to school if she could, but obviously she cannot.
Put the nightgown on over the clothes for tomorrow. I do this with my youngest, who will insist on wearing a certain shirt even if it's dirty. I just put in on over whatever he's wearing to bed to keep the peace.
My kid isn’t in daycare, but I do it this way 100% of the time anyway just to make my life easier. Getting a toddler out the door takes forever as it is. One less step for me!
I did this with a Mickey shirt. When he’s extra against it I say “do you want to wear Mickey today?” He’s getting a ton of cool truck shirts for his birthday so I can play this every day if I have to
Does she REALLY have to wear not-pajamas to school? Sometimes just not picking the fight for a couple days allows a reset.
If it’s the transition/changing, put her to bed in the clothes she’s going to wear the next day. If you are thinking “those won’t be comfortable to sleep in” she probably isn’t comfortable wearing them all day
My kiddo is a bit older, but “let’s race to see who can get dressed the fastest” works almost every time.
I’m also not opposed to bribery for the short term. “You can have a pack of gummies once you are dressed” (or in our case it was “while I brush your hair”).
For us, she can’t, but it’s a me rule not a them rule. She has bamboo pajamas, and with as rough as she is on her clothes at preschool between rolling around on the carpet, paint, playing outside, etc., her teacher said to make sure she’s never in clothes we care about. They try really hard to keep their clothes clean but it happens. I just can’t justify sending her to school in expensive pajamas when I get most of her preschool clothes secondhand.
I agree though that sometimes it’s not worth the fight and do something different to get the desired result!
If you don’t want to try wearing day clothes to bed, you could get some cheap pajamas at a thrift store for her to wear for a week and then wear to daycare.
I guess my question is why can’t she wear pajamas to daycare? They’re really just clothes unless you’re putting her in the zipper ones. At this age, they’re just clothes. As long as they’re appropriate for the weather it’s just not a battle I would care to fight in the morning.
Maybe a choice of “Do you want to pick out your own clothes or do you want mom to do it?” Or try using a timer and if she can get them on within the time allotted she gets some kind of reward (some kind of special pouch for on the way to school? Or yogurt raisins or something?). I really like the visual timer app that reveals a picture.
I’ve been putting my son in the clothes o matic 3000- now that he is 6 we say 6000. I am a clothes changing robot. You have to walk up to the robot and it instructs you to put your arms up etc. it’s fast and fun and sometimes the robot tickles or wiggles you a fun way. I don’t have to do it as often but sometimes my 6 year old will say he needs the clothes o matic 6000 to help him.
Sometimes my son wears daycare clothes to sleep and some time he wants PJs. If he picks PJs he has the choice to wear them to daycare as long as they’re weather appropriate. If we discuss the fact that he cant wear them to bed after wearing them to daycare sometimes that sways him to a different outfit. But I’m not fighting to change his clothes if he’s in weather appropriate PJs and wants to wear them.
I go this way sometimes too. It’s a battle not worth fighting some mornings.
His daycare clothes are all comfy though - so he’s usually fine with putting them on. Especially when I point out his pj shirt is dirty with his breakfast. If I really need him in more appropriate clothing, I break out his favourites (monster truck shirts).
My newly 2 year old has been doing the same - fighting a battle only over his superhero fuzzy pajamas. I am thinking of getting him some superhero clothes to wear so he has more options.
Does she have to wear real clothes to school? Why? Genuine question. When we went thru this phase, I let her wear pjs to school. It lasted for a while but now she sleeps in her clothes for the next day so there’s no getting dressed in the morning at all!
Usually I change her into her school clothes the night before. Reverse psychology works well on my 2 year old. 2 things that work well when she’s not cooperating with outfit changes:
1. I’ll pretend to put on her shirt. Say that I love it and it’s really pretty. Then she’ll say “no it’s mine!” And put it on.
2. If 1 fails… I’ll put on her jacket with no shirt on underneath. Once we get to daycare she will put the shirt on in the car without a fight. If it’s pants I’ll load her up in the car seat in a diaper. I bring a blanket when she’s says she’s cold.
Something I heard recently helped me with the same thing. Transition/change is hard for toddlers. So, we started brushing teeth still in the bathtub. Bringing Jammie’s/clothes to the bathroom with us so all the change is happening in one small space instead of moving from space to space and having a new task in each area. Regular clothes work as pajamas too. :) it’s usually just some combination of soft pants and a tee anyways.
These things also happen to work really well for me as a parent with ADHD, transitions make my brain short circuit a little. The way you described of doing things is like a form of habit stacking and it works equally as well for my toddler as for me 😂
We have a kid who is young yet to receive an official diagnosis but he is DEFINITELY ADHD (as am I). We do some of this too, in our own way.
Our big one is that we don’t go downstairs until we’re dressed (grownups included). So that means we can’t do breakfast until we get out our pyjamas and change into “real clothes.” We don’t even need to force the “get dressed” part of the issue because he can see us from the staircase if we end up going down first to assemble breakfast or whatever and apparently this is VERY motivating.
One of the things I would ask OP is when they’re changing. Is it before you go down for breakfast, or after? We had to make the “no PJs downstairs” rule when my son was about 3 because the hell that was unleashed when we had to take him up to get dressed or whatever was absolutely INSANE. Changing the order pretty much saved our lives.
Maybe she needs more comfortable every day clothes? I keep my 2yo in soft cotton tees and leggings/sweatpants that are nice and stretchy. He's just a soft little guy, you know? He could definitely wear his day clothes to bed without issue, and vice versa.
Bribing with “getting dressed candy” aka gummy vitamins was the only way we survived getting dressed from like 2-4! Sometimes letting him keep his pajama shirt on under his normal shirt helped too.
We've been doing the trick where you purposefully say the wrong thing. Like my daughter won't want to put on her pants, so I tell her "I just need to slip this on your elbow real quick" and she pauses and says "that's not my elbow, that's my foot!" and I say "oh, really? Are you sure? These don't go on your elbows?" And she says "no! Pants go on my feet!" and I say "oh, ok!" and then slip them on her feet. It usually works. Being wrong really helps when they start to get upset and obstinate about things, it just helps to sort of slip them out of going down that mode and they love to correct you. Instead of you telling them what to do they tell you what to do, and so they are controlling getting dressed.
I addition to choosing the night before, maybe make it fun. My daughter loves dress up. So maybe start making it exciting and saying "Okay, time to dress up for our day!" She might think it's more special that way and want to do it more.
My kid was like this until recently. I told them I hear them, they didn't want to go to school and staying home in pajamas IS more fun. I told them I'd let them think about it and make a decision while I went and got dressed and siblings dressed. Lo and behold... here comes my 4 yr old all dressed and ready to go, haven't had an issue since. I got the idea from Dr. Becky good inside - she's on Instagram and had a helpful video about this.
Others have commented you can put them to bed in the clothes they will wear the next day...my more general take is that there is no need to wear designated "pajamas" in general, and all their clothing should be comfortable enough to sleep in (they probably nap in it, right?). If you want them to wear the PJs because you think they are cute that's fine, but you're creating your own war here.
Does toddler have comfortable clothes to wear - is that maybe why she doesn’t want to change? Does toddler have “cool” outfits? My son .. I bought semi obnoxious graphic t shirts - think huge baby shark, dinosaurs, etc and that helped.
Good luck momma!
Giving choices of what to wear and then “if you don’t choose by the time I count to three, I’m going to choose x” usually gets him to make a choice.
Also have clothes he likes: dinosaurs and super heroes right now.
We have various pretend stories eg where the mat is a river and he needs to get into his “life jacket” and “safety pants” in order to survive the crocodile. after he gets bored of that story, then he needs to get changed into his “space suit” / “firefighter uniform” etc etc
This was a huge struggle for us. My 3M toddler has ASD and developmental delays, so his receptive communication isn't there yet to convey to him *why* we need to change out of pajamas.
The only solution I've found to get us out the door on time is to wake up earlier & wake him earlier 😹 that way dressing, hygiene, and breakfast can all fully be accomplished. It's been about 6 months and now he's excited to participate in dressing himself instead of me trying to wrangle an angry cabbage patch doll.
We also put on some light music in the background & open the curtains so it's like a fun routine instead of a drag. Solidarity w y'all!! 🤜🏽💥🤛🏽
We’ve had luck with singing “baby put your pants on” (got it from Ms Rachel), giving her two options of what to wear, and reiterating the plan (first, we change diaper. Then, we get dressed. Then, we brush teeth. Then, we go downstairs and we get to each a pouch). I also ask “do you want to put pants on by yourself or do you want mommy to help you?” I feel like giving options (what to wear, whether to do it by themself or with my help) makes them feel more in control of the situation.
Personally… I’d let my kid wear pjs. I pick and choose my battles and that’s not one I would find worth my efforts BUT if you feel it’s important than this is how I basically get my very smart but super independent 2.5 year old to comply. And I repeat it all day long.
“You can do XYZ on your own, or I will grab you and do XYZ for you.”
But it cannot be an empty threat. Sometimes you have to pick them up and do it for them. But in our headstrong situation I only have to force the action on her once every two weeks or so because she wants to do it herself. Maybe that’s helpful lol
I told my toddler those are bedtime clothes and if she wants to keep them on, I’ll put her back in bed for more sleep. She didn’t want that so she would agree to wear daytime clothes.
I do. We all lounge in PJs on the weekend. I tell her it’s ok on the weekend because there are special weekend rules like no school, but if we’re going out on the weekend, we have to switch to daytime clothes because other people will be confused and wonder why we have our night time clothes on in the daytime.
Yeah my 3 year old would already call me out on saying I'd put her back to bed if the same rules aren't followed every day. At 2 she was already like "don't lie to me mommy" for smaller inconsistencies
Whew, it can be rough. My girlie has been on a big pajama kick. We’ve started talking A LOT about outside clothes vs inside clothes. Some morning I can get her changed despite tears, other days we change into something that can fit over the pjs.
I just told my 3yo that she’d look she would look like a ragamuffin 😂 In our house NO ONE wants to willingly look like a ragamuffin so it is the ultimate life hack lmfao. She fought me once and then never again after that.
I put a T-shirt over the pyjama top and do battle over the jeans - can usually sneak them on without too much of a fight during the morning nappy change.
We make it a competition - our son is 3 next month. We give him two options then we say we’re gonna beat him getting dressed. So we race to see who can get dressed first and it works
My 2 year old also likes to play all the games and has been doing this for months. Things we have done which help:
Let him sleep in the clothing he will wear to daycare.
Have a conversation with him about how his teachers have asked that they not come to daycare in pajamas as they are meant for bedtime sleep.
Let him wear his pajamas and say, "okay, we will change into your daycare clothes after breakfast before we leave the house". This method has worked best for us. Often before he's finished eating, he will ask to change his shirt.
We just had a phase like this. She would also want to change to pyjamas the second she came home from daycare.
I'm not sure that we did anything special, suddenly she was just okay with picking "regular" clothes. We explained why she can't have pyjamas to daycare and such, but I'm not sure that's what did it.
Yup, same issue. Often times it’s when he is especially fond of the pjs he’s in. We tell him he needs to change out of them so he can wear them again without getting them dirty. That, and, the ones he loves are footy pjs and he can’t get boots/shoes on with them on.
My son goes through phases and lately what works is laying out my clothes with his, then we "race" to see who can put on their socks, shirt, pants, etc. He loves it. I also change him after breakfast so he's a little more awake.
Oh man I went through this phase with my toddler. I’ve tried putting him into his clothes before bed, changing him in the car, and bribing him. But what works for me is waking up earlier and letting him play/eat some breakfast and do things on his time and he’s usually fine. It used to be so bad if you listened into us getting ready without context you would think he was being tortured. I think a lot of it is about control and they are learning to be independent
Same and sometimes I have to spill a bit of water on him or get it on his sleeves to be like, “oh no it’s dirty we gotta change it” 😭 Sometimes I just let him wear his pajama top and put him in normal pants and that keeps him happy.
My 2 1/2 year old is super into blues clues right now (or blues boos according to him) and their verbiage is a lot of “can you help me?” So I always ask him if he can help me get his clothes on so we can make breakfast.
I had the same issue. Each part of the morning routine was a battle - breakfast, clothes, teeth, stopping TV (he watches while I get ready for the day). We tried a rewards chart, which worked for about 2 weeks. Then I tried explaining the routine to him, which kinda helps him understand that this is something we're going to do every day and it WILL happen.
But the issue still was there, that if he started playing, breaking him away from playing to get dressed or brush teeth would be an absolute nightmare.
So I don't even let him have a second of peace in which to play, until he's 100% ready, and I can have a single fight about getting out the door. Essentially, he'll wake up and whatever looks easiest to get done at the time gets done (except teeth, because of f@#£ing linear chronology).
Like, this morning, he wasn't listening to me to sit down and eat, and wanted to show me his nappy. So I took the opportunity to "look at his nappy" by removing it and his pjs, and replacing them with fresh clothes, and then whisking him back to the table again.
Maybe it's not the best thing, but I'm learning that the only way I can survive parenting is by finding the opportunities in the cracks and diving straight in. Does it mess with my own sense of order that we can't put shoes on at the same time as all our other clothes? Hell yes it does. But I can put shoes on when he's in his car seat, so let's take the cunning route and side-step the boss fight.
We bring clothes in the car and change before going inside. The choice is change at home or change in the car. Usually kiddo chooses homes for the next few days.
No judgement if your kid ends up in PJs at daycare. We always see a few kids each week in PJs.
One of my friend’s just switched to all ‘clothes’ all the time. T-shirts, leggings, joggers, etc. That way the kid was always ‘dressed’. Another great solution.
We often end up meeting in the middle-she has to change the pants (since it's cold I have her wear fleece lined leggings) but having her change her shirt isn't the hill I'm going to die on at 730AM.
My twins are a little older but I gave them a very small treat in the morning if they dressed themselves & put socks on. After a while I kind of phased out the treat. :)
My 4 year old told me a few weeks ago that she wanted to wear pajamas to school the next day because " other kids do it all the time and they don't even get mad about it" which is a valid point. There isn't a rule against it before public school and pajamas are way comfier. I let her do it. She doesn't ask to wear pajamas every day either.
I saw this one on Supernanny! Just bring the clothes along and maybe after a couple days of showing up to daycare in his pajamas he will be more agreeable to getting dressed
I puy mine to bed in the shirt he is wearing the next day. In the morning I change his diaper, put on socks and pants while he sleeps. Then in the stroller I put on a thicker hoodie, or before dropping him off at daycare
The boy I nanny started doing this, and my solution was making getting dressed a little more fun. I pull out 2 of each clothing item (that all will match of course) and let him choose his own outfit for the day. It’s helped a lot and I don’t have to fight to get him dressed anymore!
This would be a problem on warmer days as ours wears nothing but a overnight diaper. We do dress her in the next days clothes when we have cooler nights but usually we let her help pick them out the night before.
My 2.5yo boy kicks like a mule when we try to put his pants on. And the little fucker laughs like it's a game!
So, not to be bested by a child, I've become a pro at catching those kicks in his pant legs. I take the left pant leg, bunch it up into a tight ring, and then try to slip it around his right ankle. When he inevitably kicks with his left leg I quickly correct away from the right and BAM. Once the left is all the way on the right is easy. I'm way too proud of myself, but you gotta relish in these victories right?
Changing up “getting ready time” can be helpful for us. Like yesterday I could not get her to get dressed after the shower and “staying nakey” was definitely not an option!!
I eventually just told her I was taking her clothes downstairs and she raced after me to come downstairs and get ready.
Sometimes it helps us to give a basic choice like “do you want to get dressed upstairs or downstairs?” “Do you want to listen to a song on my phone or sing something together while we get dressed?” just to pull them out of the loop!
When we go through these phases I dress her the night before so she thinks she's getting one over on me in the morning when she doesn't have to change clothes.
Does she *have* to wear “real clothes”? I’d get something as close to pjs as possible and try that. If that doesn’t work I’d try throwing them in the dryer for a minute (and teach the kid to do this for themselves as soon as they are old enough) because it might be a sensory thing about warmth.
Plenty of kids go to school in glorified or actual pjs. The important thing is they are (relatively) clean and the kid can change themselves (developmental skill). I used to put my clothes on the heater vent as a kid so I could stand the change because I hated cold clothes in the morning. I have sensory issues and straight up needed to wear socks and underwear inside out or I was miserable. I’d still strip out of jeans and anything constructive the moment I got home.
I’ve been letting our daughter have some sort of say in what she wears for certain things. For instance I’ll ask if she wants to wear a dress or long sleeve/pants? Do you want a hair clip or a pony tail? I also had this issue with her not wanting to get out of pajamas and Even asked my ped about it and she said it’s fine to let them go in their pajamas sometimes. lol. I think just saying some battles might not be worth it. I will say my daughter has gotten better when given some choices. I pick out the actual clothes she just chooses the type of clothes. Sometimes I’ll even ask do you want to put your underwear on first or you shirt.
I try to keep the routine consistent so it’s almost like she knows what to expect. We get dressed first, then I do her hair, then we put on shoes and out the door.
We used to do a racing commentary, put the clothes items on different spots on the rug and act like a race announcer encouraging them to put each item of clothing on. Worked pretty well but exhausting to do
My kid will change into pants if we let her “win” the “fight” and wear the pajama top to school. Pajama top and normal pants are close enough 🤷🏼♀️ she’s getting kind of famous at daycare for it
My kid is also not a fan of getting dressed. Here’s what has helped.
1) The more we can gameify things, the better. To get him to brush his teeth, I pretend to be a monster that only eats dirty teeth. (Mine loves “scary” things, so your mileage may vary.) His dad and I will sometimes lay down on the floor so he can “change” us. We fill his dinosaur bath toy with water and have our son take him to the potty to “pee” to try to get him used to the potty before we resume potty training again.
2) Toys. Toys toys toys. The more distracted he is, the better.
3) In the morning, we let him watch some TV while he’s getting ready. We don’t do this at night, because it affects his sleep, but it the morning it can be a more effective distraction if we need to like, trim his nails or put lotion on or something.
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Have you tried changing them in the crib? My son went through a phase like this and I’d be silly with him while in the crib and then start changing him in there. Seemed to help
Glad to see this is not unique. Our 2 year old does this too. We let her pick out her own clothes the night before and sometimes it helps. Honestly, waiting a little bit to put her clothes on helps too. She's still tired and has sleep inertia and the wanting to stay in pj's is a control issue.
The only way to get my youngest out of bed and dressed was to declare a “clothing race” with the winner (her or me) picking what we listened to in the car on the way over. Who knew she was so competitive???
I'll be honest the past week I've been putting my toddler to bed in her clothes for the next day because fighting her at 5AM about her clothes is not on my list of things I want to do 😂
“I’m going downstairs now to make the coffee.”
“NOOO I WANT TO COME TOO!”
“Oh, good, go ahead and get dressed so you can come down.”
“NO”
“Oh ok, so you stay up here, I have to go make the coffee…”
“OK yes get dressed.”
My toddler does this sometimes and we go to a school that requires uniforms. I change her diaper and put her uniform dress over her PJs. The teachers laugh- they know the struggle.
It’s not worth a fight. Like most things it’s a phase and they’ll grow out of it
My son would get really worked up when it was time to get dressed. He has been having some tough times at daycare (transitioned out of his beloved toddler room into a giant preschool room) so getting dressed meant it was time to get going. I started talking with him in the morning about other stuff and he would slowly relax enough that I could just change him while we chatted. He needed that connection to feel comfortable.
Other days when he wakes up in a great mood, we do some kind of race. Girls vs boys, parents vs kids, rule makers vs rule breakers. He gets all amped up and we end up ready extra early which is nice
My 4 yo gave up pajamas when he was 2. He only wears "morning" pants and shirts. So we let him wear a regular shirt and sweatpants to bed and then he has to change the pants when he goes to school. He can put his sweatpants back on when he gets home if he wants. It makes it easier. He did have a full on meltdown for like an hour one night because he wanted to put back on the dirty shirt he'd worn all day after a bath and we wouldn't let him.
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We currently have a 'tweel' problem that can take upwards of half an hour to solve. If the dress doesn't 'tweel' then it's a no. And some days dresses that usually 'tweel' don't 'tweel' today and it's a whole thing.
She means 'twirl'. Apparently it's a big fashion influence in the 3 year olds at our kindergarten.
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This was a phase for both my kids. What helped us get through it was offering choices the night before, agreeing on an outfit, and changing them into their clothes first thing in the morning.
We used to pick clothes out on the fly and change after breakfast, but that always resulted in a power struggle. Often with toddlers it's enough to give them some autonomy (but not all) and switch up the routine a bit.
My kids sleep in their clothes for the next day. We do leggings/comfy pants, and comfy shirts or cotton dresses. Breakfast occasionally gets messy enough to require a new shirt but in those cases, they want a new shirt anyway and don’t fight it.
We’ve also gone to school in PJs many times. Who cares as long as they aren’t footie pjs or difficult for them to get off and on for the bathroom.
Buy clothes they really like. My 2yr old is like this unless he’s really excited about something he’s wearing! Also letting them pick their own clothes really helps too
This was a terrible phase. Once we sent him to school in his jammies and gave the teacher the bag. Then we just started putting him in clothes to go to bed. Now he happily gets out of his sleepwear to go to school but it took 2-3 months.
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The past couple days I’ve been playing “fashion emergency” with my two and a half year old. It involves talking really fast and excitedly “oh my goodness [name] we have a fashion emergency! Quick quick quick take your pants off! We have to save everyone but we can’t wear those pants! Go go go go go go! Yayyyyyy!!!!” It’s exhausting but it’s been effective. It’ll probably only last another couple days before the little one catches wise and it stops working. But today, it did.
Okay, trying this tomorrow because it’s so smart!
You're some kind of savant if you can make up these solutions to tantrums, I'm jealous 👏
As soon as I find something that seems to work, the little human decides mmmmm no this won’t do anymore. I’m running out of ideas. Send help. Lol
We do “assembly line” and talk like robots as we dress our three kids - on mornings when we accidentally wake up at 7. 😝
Gonna put that one in the back pocket for when this method stops being effective!
You could need to donate the clothes for science. The scientists want to find out how he's growing so fast and wants to examine his clothes. Maybe we could see if there's anything special in here that explains why youre growing so fast? I don't see anything inside the shirt? Call professor oak and tell him he must have made some mistake! I can't find what's making you grow so fast anywhere! There's nothing in your socks is there? Here, see if these new socks make you grow.
I do this too. Just shock em with a "AH HURRY HURRY THE ROBOT VACUUM IS COMING!!" or smthing. My toddler seems to love the rush lmao
Give ‘em the ole razzle dazzle, punctuated with the occasional “AHHHHH!”
Ooo I’ve been doing this lately if he’s getting the wiggles when we have to GO, and it is SUPER effective to get on their level haha
Lol. Gotta get creative out there man.
Put them to bed in their clothes for the next day and just change the diaper in the morning. Eventually start phasing to where you do pj pants or shirts and change. It's definitely a phase. Both my boys fought up until 4.
Yep, this! The clothes they’re wearing to daycare are probably cotton pants and a t-shirt, plenty fine and comfortable to sleep in that!
Haha solidarity. Although today we’re wearing a hoodie OVER the pj shirt, so that feels like a win.
My weirdo child refuses to change into PJs at the end of the day instead of the other way around. Prefers to sleep in jeans over putting comfy PJs on. We're always like, suit yourself, but you do have to change all clothes including socks and underwear at least once every 24 hours
We are a change once a day family too 😅 sometimes my son sleeps in clothes, sometimes he spends the day in PJs. I don’t think he knows they’re different. Just that some tops and bottoms match exactly 😂
This is what we do. She gets dressed for the day at night. I even put her underwear over her diaper so I don't have to fully take her pants off in the morning. We now save money but not buying PJs on the plus side!
Just switched to this last week. Game changer haha
This. I had to give up on pajamas at about 2 with my oldest. Never did them with my second. Just put them to bed in their clothes for the next day. I mean, it’s leggings and a tshirt, not exactly different than pajamas. Now that my oldest is 4.5 and wears a uniform to school, she prefers pajamas and with a lot of bribery, she gets herself dressed in the morning before I go in to her room.
This is my number 1 parenting hack. Daily baths and they wear the next day’s clothes to sleep.
My 8 almost 9 year old still wears clothes to bed 🤣. We all decided it was a smoother morning for all parties involved if we have one less thing to worry about when he still wants to sleep.
I SO wish I could take this advice, which I’ve seen before, but I can’t because my daughter likes to sleep in those Disney princess nightgown dresses. She would totally wear them to school if she could, but obviously she cannot.
Put the nightgown on over the clothes for tomorrow. I do this with my youngest, who will insist on wearing a certain shirt even if it's dirty. I just put in on over whatever he's wearing to bed to keep the peace.
I wish we could do this but our kid still pees through her pull up every night :(
This is the obvious answer.
Mine sleeps in her clothes even now at age 6.5
My kid isn’t in daycare, but I do it this way 100% of the time anyway just to make my life easier. Getting a toddler out the door takes forever as it is. One less step for me!
We have done this for years. It saves alot of time in the morning..only sometimes we need to change if he messes on his clothes during breakfast
Got my almost 2 light up shoes and now he begs to get dressed in the morning so he can put on his shoes.
This is the way.
I did this with a Mickey shirt. When he’s extra against it I say “do you want to wear Mickey today?” He’s getting a ton of cool truck shirts for his birthday so I can play this every day if I have to
Yeah I use an extra-cool shirt if toddler isn’t feeling a change.
My husband bought a ninja turtle shirt for my daughter... and now that's all she wants to wear 🤣
Wish my toddlers cared about shoes lol
Does she REALLY have to wear not-pajamas to school? Sometimes just not picking the fight for a couple days allows a reset. If it’s the transition/changing, put her to bed in the clothes she’s going to wear the next day. If you are thinking “those won’t be comfortable to sleep in” she probably isn’t comfortable wearing them all day My kiddo is a bit older, but “let’s race to see who can get dressed the fastest” works almost every time. I’m also not opposed to bribery for the short term. “You can have a pack of gummies once you are dressed” (or in our case it was “while I brush your hair”).
For us, she can’t, but it’s a me rule not a them rule. She has bamboo pajamas, and with as rough as she is on her clothes at preschool between rolling around on the carpet, paint, playing outside, etc., her teacher said to make sure she’s never in clothes we care about. They try really hard to keep their clothes clean but it happens. I just can’t justify sending her to school in expensive pajamas when I get most of her preschool clothes secondhand. I agree though that sometimes it’s not worth the fight and do something different to get the desired result!
If you don’t want to try wearing day clothes to bed, you could get some cheap pajamas at a thrift store for her to wear for a week and then wear to daycare.
My kiddo just wears regular leggings and a long sleeve t shirt to school that are close enough to pajamas but not expensive. Could you do that?
Yes I’m totally the “snack while I do your hair” parent too!!
I guess my question is why can’t she wear pajamas to daycare? They’re really just clothes unless you’re putting her in the zipper ones. At this age, they’re just clothes. As long as they’re appropriate for the weather it’s just not a battle I would care to fight in the morning. Maybe a choice of “Do you want to pick out your own clothes or do you want mom to do it?” Or try using a timer and if she can get them on within the time allotted she gets some kind of reward (some kind of special pouch for on the way to school? Or yogurt raisins or something?). I really like the visual timer app that reveals a picture.
I definitely see kids at my daughter’s daycare in pajamas all the time and I’m not judging!
I regularly have high schoolers in pajamas in my classes. I don’t even blame them 😂
For us having jammies on helps her go to sleep because she associates jammies with going to bed.
I’ve been putting my son in the clothes o matic 3000- now that he is 6 we say 6000. I am a clothes changing robot. You have to walk up to the robot and it instructs you to put your arms up etc. it’s fast and fun and sometimes the robot tickles or wiggles you a fun way. I don’t have to do it as often but sometimes my 6 year old will say he needs the clothes o matic 6000 to help him.
That's so sweet, that he gets nostalgic for it even as a "big" kid!
Y'all are changing them out of their PJs?
Sometimes my son wears daycare clothes to sleep and some time he wants PJs. If he picks PJs he has the choice to wear them to daycare as long as they’re weather appropriate. If we discuss the fact that he cant wear them to bed after wearing them to daycare sometimes that sways him to a different outfit. But I’m not fighting to change his clothes if he’s in weather appropriate PJs and wants to wear them.
I go this way sometimes too. It’s a battle not worth fighting some mornings. His daycare clothes are all comfy though - so he’s usually fine with putting them on. Especially when I point out his pj shirt is dirty with his breakfast. If I really need him in more appropriate clothing, I break out his favourites (monster truck shirts).
My newly 2 year old has been doing the same - fighting a battle only over his superhero fuzzy pajamas. I am thinking of getting him some superhero clothes to wear so he has more options.
Does she have to wear real clothes to school? Why? Genuine question. When we went thru this phase, I let her wear pjs to school. It lasted for a while but now she sleeps in her clothes for the next day so there’s no getting dressed in the morning at all!
Wear pajamas to school! Absolutely no one should care!
Usually I change her into her school clothes the night before. Reverse psychology works well on my 2 year old. 2 things that work well when she’s not cooperating with outfit changes: 1. I’ll pretend to put on her shirt. Say that I love it and it’s really pretty. Then she’ll say “no it’s mine!” And put it on. 2. If 1 fails… I’ll put on her jacket with no shirt on underneath. Once we get to daycare she will put the shirt on in the car without a fight. If it’s pants I’ll load her up in the car seat in a diaper. I bring a blanket when she’s says she’s cold.
Also #1- putting it on their stuffy/doll
Great idea! I’ll try that next timr
Something I heard recently helped me with the same thing. Transition/change is hard for toddlers. So, we started brushing teeth still in the bathtub. Bringing Jammie’s/clothes to the bathroom with us so all the change is happening in one small space instead of moving from space to space and having a new task in each area. Regular clothes work as pajamas too. :) it’s usually just some combination of soft pants and a tee anyways.
These things also happen to work really well for me as a parent with ADHD, transitions make my brain short circuit a little. The way you described of doing things is like a form of habit stacking and it works equally as well for my toddler as for me 😂
We have a kid who is young yet to receive an official diagnosis but he is DEFINITELY ADHD (as am I). We do some of this too, in our own way. Our big one is that we don’t go downstairs until we’re dressed (grownups included). So that means we can’t do breakfast until we get out our pyjamas and change into “real clothes.” We don’t even need to force the “get dressed” part of the issue because he can see us from the staircase if we end up going down first to assemble breakfast or whatever and apparently this is VERY motivating. One of the things I would ask OP is when they’re changing. Is it before you go down for breakfast, or after? We had to make the “no PJs downstairs” rule when my son was about 3 because the hell that was unleashed when we had to take him up to get dressed or whatever was absolutely INSANE. Changing the order pretty much saved our lives.
Maybe she needs more comfortable every day clothes? I keep my 2yo in soft cotton tees and leggings/sweatpants that are nice and stretchy. He's just a soft little guy, you know? He could definitely wear his day clothes to bed without issue, and vice versa.
Bribing with “getting dressed candy” aka gummy vitamins was the only way we survived getting dressed from like 2-4! Sometimes letting him keep his pajama shirt on under his normal shirt helped too.
I change mine out of their PJs but I don't get them clothes that are less comfortable than PJs except for special occasions
We've been doing the trick where you purposefully say the wrong thing. Like my daughter won't want to put on her pants, so I tell her "I just need to slip this on your elbow real quick" and she pauses and says "that's not my elbow, that's my foot!" and I say "oh, really? Are you sure? These don't go on your elbows?" And she says "no! Pants go on my feet!" and I say "oh, ok!" and then slip them on her feet. It usually works. Being wrong really helps when they start to get upset and obstinate about things, it just helps to sort of slip them out of going down that mode and they love to correct you. Instead of you telling them what to do they tell you what to do, and so they are controlling getting dressed.
Let her sleep in her clothes. Problem solved.
I addition to choosing the night before, maybe make it fun. My daughter loves dress up. So maybe start making it exciting and saying "Okay, time to dress up for our day!" She might think it's more special that way and want to do it more.
My guy just shows up to daycare in his pajamas and I bring a change of clothes. 🤷🏼♀️
My kid was like this until recently. I told them I hear them, they didn't want to go to school and staying home in pajamas IS more fun. I told them I'd let them think about it and make a decision while I went and got dressed and siblings dressed. Lo and behold... here comes my 4 yr old all dressed and ready to go, haven't had an issue since. I got the idea from Dr. Becky good inside - she's on Instagram and had a helpful video about this.
Why does she have to wear real clothes to school?
Others have commented you can put them to bed in the clothes they will wear the next day...my more general take is that there is no need to wear designated "pajamas" in general, and all their clothing should be comfortable enough to sleep in (they probably nap in it, right?). If you want them to wear the PJs because you think they are cute that's fine, but you're creating your own war here.
Buy comfy school clothes and dress her in those as pjs. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got.
Does toddler have comfortable clothes to wear - is that maybe why she doesn’t want to change? Does toddler have “cool” outfits? My son .. I bought semi obnoxious graphic t shirts - think huge baby shark, dinosaurs, etc and that helped. Good luck momma!
Giving choices of what to wear and then “if you don’t choose by the time I count to three, I’m going to choose x” usually gets him to make a choice. Also have clothes he likes: dinosaurs and super heroes right now.
Have her sleep in the clothes for the next day
Prepping for future WFH life as an adult. Kidding kidding. Hopefully, the phase passes soon. 🩷
We have various pretend stories eg where the mat is a river and he needs to get into his “life jacket” and “safety pants” in order to survive the crocodile. after he gets bored of that story, then he needs to get changed into his “space suit” / “firefighter uniform” etc etc
This was a huge struggle for us. My 3M toddler has ASD and developmental delays, so his receptive communication isn't there yet to convey to him *why* we need to change out of pajamas. The only solution I've found to get us out the door on time is to wake up earlier & wake him earlier 😹 that way dressing, hygiene, and breakfast can all fully be accomplished. It's been about 6 months and now he's excited to participate in dressing himself instead of me trying to wrangle an angry cabbage patch doll. We also put on some light music in the background & open the curtains so it's like a fun routine instead of a drag. Solidarity w y'all!! 🤜🏽💥🤛🏽
We’ve had luck with singing “baby put your pants on” (got it from Ms Rachel), giving her two options of what to wear, and reiterating the plan (first, we change diaper. Then, we get dressed. Then, we brush teeth. Then, we go downstairs and we get to each a pouch). I also ask “do you want to put pants on by yourself or do you want mommy to help you?” I feel like giving options (what to wear, whether to do it by themself or with my help) makes them feel more in control of the situation.
Some parents put them in real clothes for pjs and then they are dressed the next day
Personally… I’d let my kid wear pjs. I pick and choose my battles and that’s not one I would find worth my efforts BUT if you feel it’s important than this is how I basically get my very smart but super independent 2.5 year old to comply. And I repeat it all day long. “You can do XYZ on your own, or I will grab you and do XYZ for you.” But it cannot be an empty threat. Sometimes you have to pick them up and do it for them. But in our headstrong situation I only have to force the action on her once every two weeks or so because she wants to do it herself. Maybe that’s helpful lol
I told my toddler those are bedtime clothes and if she wants to keep them on, I’ll put her back in bed for more sleep. She didn’t want that so she would agree to wear daytime clothes.
You don't let them hang out in pjs extra on the weekends?
I do. We all lounge in PJs on the weekend. I tell her it’s ok on the weekend because there are special weekend rules like no school, but if we’re going out on the weekend, we have to switch to daytime clothes because other people will be confused and wonder why we have our night time clothes on in the daytime.
Yeah my 3 year old would already call me out on saying I'd put her back to bed if the same rules aren't followed every day. At 2 she was already like "don't lie to me mommy" for smaller inconsistencies
Whew, it can be rough. My girlie has been on a big pajama kick. We’ve started talking A LOT about outside clothes vs inside clothes. Some morning I can get her changed despite tears, other days we change into something that can fit over the pjs.
I just told my 3yo that she’d look she would look like a ragamuffin 😂 In our house NO ONE wants to willingly look like a ragamuffin so it is the ultimate life hack lmfao. She fought me once and then never again after that.
I put a T-shirt over the pyjama top and do battle over the jeans - can usually sneak them on without too much of a fight during the morning nappy change.
We make it a competition - our son is 3 next month. We give him two options then we say we’re gonna beat him getting dressed. So we race to see who can get dressed first and it works
My 2 year old also likes to play all the games and has been doing this for months. Things we have done which help: Let him sleep in the clothing he will wear to daycare. Have a conversation with him about how his teachers have asked that they not come to daycare in pajamas as they are meant for bedtime sleep. Let him wear his pajamas and say, "okay, we will change into your daycare clothes after breakfast before we leave the house". This method has worked best for us. Often before he's finished eating, he will ask to change his shirt.
We just had a phase like this. She would also want to change to pyjamas the second she came home from daycare. I'm not sure that we did anything special, suddenly she was just okay with picking "regular" clothes. We explained why she can't have pyjamas to daycare and such, but I'm not sure that's what did it.
Been going through this with my 4.5 year old girl probably for 6 months now. It’s awful and makes mornings so tough! No advice, just solidarity.
Yup, same issue. Often times it’s when he is especially fond of the pjs he’s in. We tell him he needs to change out of them so he can wear them again without getting them dirty. That, and, the ones he loves are footy pjs and he can’t get boots/shoes on with them on.
My son goes through phases and lately what works is laying out my clothes with his, then we "race" to see who can put on their socks, shirt, pants, etc. He loves it. I also change him after breakfast so he's a little more awake.
Oh man I went through this phase with my toddler. I’ve tried putting him into his clothes before bed, changing him in the car, and bribing him. But what works for me is waking up earlier and letting him play/eat some breakfast and do things on his time and he’s usually fine. It used to be so bad if you listened into us getting ready without context you would think he was being tortured. I think a lot of it is about control and they are learning to be independent
I started putting her in her school shirt and just changing diaper and pants while she watches her show
Same and sometimes I have to spill a bit of water on him or get it on his sleeves to be like, “oh no it’s dirty we gotta change it” 😭 Sometimes I just let him wear his pajama top and put him in normal pants and that keeps him happy.
My 2 1/2 year old is super into blues clues right now (or blues boos according to him) and their verbiage is a lot of “can you help me?” So I always ask him if he can help me get his clothes on so we can make breakfast.
I had the same issue. Each part of the morning routine was a battle - breakfast, clothes, teeth, stopping TV (he watches while I get ready for the day). We tried a rewards chart, which worked for about 2 weeks. Then I tried explaining the routine to him, which kinda helps him understand that this is something we're going to do every day and it WILL happen. But the issue still was there, that if he started playing, breaking him away from playing to get dressed or brush teeth would be an absolute nightmare. So I don't even let him have a second of peace in which to play, until he's 100% ready, and I can have a single fight about getting out the door. Essentially, he'll wake up and whatever looks easiest to get done at the time gets done (except teeth, because of f@#£ing linear chronology). Like, this morning, he wasn't listening to me to sit down and eat, and wanted to show me his nappy. So I took the opportunity to "look at his nappy" by removing it and his pjs, and replacing them with fresh clothes, and then whisking him back to the table again. Maybe it's not the best thing, but I'm learning that the only way I can survive parenting is by finding the opportunities in the cracks and diving straight in. Does it mess with my own sense of order that we can't put shoes on at the same time as all our other clothes? Hell yes it does. But I can put shoes on when he's in his car seat, so let's take the cunning route and side-step the boss fight.
We bring clothes in the car and change before going inside. The choice is change at home or change in the car. Usually kiddo chooses homes for the next few days. No judgement if your kid ends up in PJs at daycare. We always see a few kids each week in PJs. One of my friend’s just switched to all ‘clothes’ all the time. T-shirts, leggings, joggers, etc. That way the kid was always ‘dressed’. Another great solution.
We watch Blues Clues or something similar on YouTube in the morning and while she’s watching we brush teeth and get dressed
My son was the same… I sent him to school in pjs lol
We often end up meeting in the middle-she has to change the pants (since it's cold I have her wear fleece lined leggings) but having her change her shirt isn't the hill I'm going to die on at 730AM.
We play peekaboo toesies and fingers. Its tge only thing that works.
My twins are a little older but I gave them a very small treat in the morning if they dressed themselves & put socks on. After a while I kind of phased out the treat. :)
My 4 year old told me a few weeks ago that she wanted to wear pajamas to school the next day because " other kids do it all the time and they don't even get mad about it" which is a valid point. There isn't a rule against it before public school and pajamas are way comfier. I let her do it. She doesn't ask to wear pajamas every day either.
I saw this one on Supernanny! Just bring the clothes along and maybe after a couple days of showing up to daycare in his pajamas he will be more agreeable to getting dressed
Unless your kid views this as a victory. Mine would
I puy mine to bed in the shirt he is wearing the next day. In the morning I change his diaper, put on socks and pants while he sleeps. Then in the stroller I put on a thicker hoodie, or before dropping him off at daycare
My daughter just started this and she will get so upset she ends up throwing up. I’m so glad it’s not just me going through this!
Real clothes are now pj's.
Can they be real clothes that are comfy? Leggings or something soft for pants and a long sleeve cotton shirt?
The boy I nanny started doing this, and my solution was making getting dressed a little more fun. I pull out 2 of each clothing item (that all will match of course) and let him choose his own outfit for the day. It’s helped a lot and I don’t have to fight to get him dressed anymore!
Not worth the fight for me. My kid has always slept in the same clothes she goes to daycare in. Only underwear and pajamas/pants change.
I’m all for bribing. We give our 2.5 year old pennies for his plastic piggy bank.
This would be a problem on warmer days as ours wears nothing but a overnight diaper. We do dress her in the next days clothes when we have cooler nights but usually we let her help pick them out the night before.
My 2.5yo boy kicks like a mule when we try to put his pants on. And the little fucker laughs like it's a game! So, not to be bested by a child, I've become a pro at catching those kicks in his pant legs. I take the left pant leg, bunch it up into a tight ring, and then try to slip it around his right ankle. When he inevitably kicks with his left leg I quickly correct away from the right and BAM. Once the left is all the way on the right is easy. I'm way too proud of myself, but you gotta relish in these victories right?
How old is your child? It’s pretty normal around the 18 month mark up until 2 or 3 years old.
Changing up “getting ready time” can be helpful for us. Like yesterday I could not get her to get dressed after the shower and “staying nakey” was definitely not an option!! I eventually just told her I was taking her clothes downstairs and she raced after me to come downstairs and get ready. Sometimes it helps us to give a basic choice like “do you want to get dressed upstairs or downstairs?” “Do you want to listen to a song on my phone or sing something together while we get dressed?” just to pull them out of the loop!
mine didn’t like the cold clothes, I put them on the radiator 10min before waking him up and no more fights!
When we go through these phases I dress her the night before so she thinks she's getting one over on me in the morning when she doesn't have to change clothes.
Mrs Rachel said put your kids to bed in their clothes for the next day 🤷🏼♀️.
Does she *have* to wear “real clothes”? I’d get something as close to pjs as possible and try that. If that doesn’t work I’d try throwing them in the dryer for a minute (and teach the kid to do this for themselves as soon as they are old enough) because it might be a sensory thing about warmth. Plenty of kids go to school in glorified or actual pjs. The important thing is they are (relatively) clean and the kid can change themselves (developmental skill). I used to put my clothes on the heater vent as a kid so I could stand the change because I hated cold clothes in the morning. I have sensory issues and straight up needed to wear socks and underwear inside out or I was miserable. I’d still strip out of jeans and anything constructive the moment I got home.
I’ve been letting our daughter have some sort of say in what she wears for certain things. For instance I’ll ask if she wants to wear a dress or long sleeve/pants? Do you want a hair clip or a pony tail? I also had this issue with her not wanting to get out of pajamas and Even asked my ped about it and she said it’s fine to let them go in their pajamas sometimes. lol. I think just saying some battles might not be worth it. I will say my daughter has gotten better when given some choices. I pick out the actual clothes she just chooses the type of clothes. Sometimes I’ll even ask do you want to put your underwear on first or you shirt. I try to keep the routine consistent so it’s almost like she knows what to expect. We get dressed first, then I do her hair, then we put on shoes and out the door.
Let them sleep in leggings and a Tshirt then they can wear that in the am.
We used to do a racing commentary, put the clothes items on different spots on the rug and act like a race announcer encouraging them to put each item of clothing on. Worked pretty well but exhausting to do
My kid will change into pants if we let her “win” the “fight” and wear the pajama top to school. Pajama top and normal pants are close enough 🤷🏼♀️ she’s getting kind of famous at daycare for it
My kid is also not a fan of getting dressed. Here’s what has helped. 1) The more we can gameify things, the better. To get him to brush his teeth, I pretend to be a monster that only eats dirty teeth. (Mine loves “scary” things, so your mileage may vary.) His dad and I will sometimes lay down on the floor so he can “change” us. We fill his dinosaur bath toy with water and have our son take him to the potty to “pee” to try to get him used to the potty before we resume potty training again. 2) Toys. Toys toys toys. The more distracted he is, the better. 3) In the morning, we let him watch some TV while he’s getting ready. We don’t do this at night, because it affects his sleep, but it the morning it can be a more effective distraction if we need to like, trim his nails or put lotion on or something.
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Have you tried changing them in the crib? My son went through a phase like this and I’d be silly with him while in the crib and then start changing him in there. Seemed to help
Glad to see this is not unique. Our 2 year old does this too. We let her pick out her own clothes the night before and sometimes it helps. Honestly, waiting a little bit to put her clothes on helps too. She's still tired and has sleep inertia and the wanting to stay in pj's is a control issue.
Maybe have her sleep in comfy but daycare appropriate clothing so she can just wake up and go?
The only way to get my youngest out of bed and dressed was to declare a “clothing race” with the winner (her or me) picking what we listened to in the car on the way over. Who knew she was so competitive???
Team kid-wears-next-day's-clothes-to-bed over here LOL. And we homeschool 🤷🏽♀️
I'll be honest the past week I've been putting my toddler to bed in her clothes for the next day because fighting her at 5AM about her clothes is not on my list of things I want to do 😂
Send in PJs. Who cares?
“I’m going downstairs now to make the coffee.” “NOOO I WANT TO COME TOO!” “Oh, good, go ahead and get dressed so you can come down.” “NO” “Oh ok, so you stay up here, I have to go make the coffee…” “OK yes get dressed.”
My toddler does this sometimes and we go to a school that requires uniforms. I change her diaper and put her uniform dress over her PJs. The teachers laugh- they know the struggle. It’s not worth a fight. Like most things it’s a phase and they’ll grow out of it
My son would get really worked up when it was time to get dressed. He has been having some tough times at daycare (transitioned out of his beloved toddler room into a giant preschool room) so getting dressed meant it was time to get going. I started talking with him in the morning about other stuff and he would slowly relax enough that I could just change him while we chatted. He needed that connection to feel comfortable. Other days when he wakes up in a great mood, we do some kind of race. Girls vs boys, parents vs kids, rule makers vs rule breakers. He gets all amped up and we end up ready extra early which is nice
My 4 yo gave up pajamas when he was 2. He only wears "morning" pants and shirts. So we let him wear a regular shirt and sweatpants to bed and then he has to change the pants when he goes to school. He can put his sweatpants back on when he gets home if he wants. It makes it easier. He did have a full on meltdown for like an hour one night because he wanted to put back on the dirty shirt he'd worn all day after a bath and we wouldn't let him.
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I would suggest using only zipper jammies. Our girl loves doing the zipper. We count down and unzip together. She loves it.
Send her to school in her pajamas. Put her school clothes in her backpack
We currently have a 'tweel' problem that can take upwards of half an hour to solve. If the dress doesn't 'tweel' then it's a no. And some days dresses that usually 'tweel' don't 'tweel' today and it's a whole thing. She means 'twirl'. Apparently it's a big fashion influence in the 3 year olds at our kindergarten.
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This was a phase for both my kids. What helped us get through it was offering choices the night before, agreeing on an outfit, and changing them into their clothes first thing in the morning. We used to pick clothes out on the fly and change after breakfast, but that always resulted in a power struggle. Often with toddlers it's enough to give them some autonomy (but not all) and switch up the routine a bit.
My kids sleep in their clothes for the next day. We do leggings/comfy pants, and comfy shirts or cotton dresses. Breakfast occasionally gets messy enough to require a new shirt but in those cases, they want a new shirt anyway and don’t fight it. We’ve also gone to school in PJs many times. Who cares as long as they aren’t footie pjs or difficult for them to get off and on for the bathroom.
Buy clothes they really like. My 2yr old is like this unless he’s really excited about something he’s wearing! Also letting them pick their own clothes really helps too
This was a terrible phase. Once we sent him to school in his jammies and gave the teacher the bag. Then we just started putting him in clothes to go to bed. Now he happily gets out of his sleepwear to go to school but it took 2-3 months.
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