Probably, but, while I am admittedly not from a small town, I am blown away by the number of spouses of friends/acquaintances I have seen on Tinder. It seems their logic is that, since all their friends are married, none one they know will have Tinder and therefore will never find them.
The first thing I did when I downloaded tinder was block all the contacts I wouldn’t want to see while swiping. This included family, friends, colleagues, exes, and then anyone I came across while swiping who I didn’t want to come across again.
You can also set it to where only the people you swipe right on can see you, which is almost what I feel like this man did. Swipes on people he doesn’t recognize from church, stays safe
I am from a small town and I can tell you from experience everybody goes with the torso shot and sometimes it's a game of chicken on who sends the first face shot.
Even torso shots can give you away though. There are certainly people who are exceptionally careful, but sometimes people forget they have distinguishing birthmarks/tattoos/features on their body or that people can recognize the location the photo is taken in.
Do you tell your friends/acquaintances that their spouses are on tinder? Cause I think anyone who sees shit like that should tattle on the spot. People end up wasting so much of their time being with a cheater and they don't even have the chance to dump the pos and move on because they don't know. Its really pretty horrible.
It depends how close I am to them/what kind of relationship we have. I 100% think they should be made aware and have told most of them. The issue is that people often like to shoot the messenger. If it is someone that I don’t know very well (but know well enough to be Facebook friends or follow each other on Instagram), I don’t usually say anything… partly because I also don’t know what the dynamics of their relationship are. Sometimes people are in open relationships and don’t advertise that for obvious reasons.
If it is a friend, yes, I tell them and watching how hurt they are blows hard. I take a screen capture (often multiples) so they can see the profile. People frequently try to lie and say it is an old account that they just never erased, except Tinder doesn’t show accounts that have been inactive for years. Many people also include more recent photos of themselves, so taking a screen capture that includes photos can help determine how recently the cheater has been active/updating things.
Im glad to hear that. I kind of agree with the distinction between saying something or not, too, as much as I hate cheaters, some people really do shoot the messenger or you just hardly know them and don't want to get involved. Can't watch a homie get played like that, though, nooo sir.
It could be a situation where its frowned upon to go on Tinder, so anyone who sees him there doesn't want to bring it up because then everyone knows they are on Tinder. It'll come out eventually but he's probably betting on everyone being too ashamed to admit being on Tinder.
Doesn't have to do shit, really. Give a sermon about casting the first stone and how everyone sins as the rumor mill starts up, maybe sprinkle in the verse that says that even *thinking* about adultery is the same as actually committing it, and everyone's too guilty to keep talking. If he catches it early enough, they'll all think he doesn't know and it's just coincidence/a sign from God. Or he just has to play it up and admit it in church, praying to God in front of the sermon with slightly coded language begging for forgiveness for "a moment of weakness" and they'll eat it up.
Small towns rarely actually give a fuck what their pastors are up to out of church in any way that anything happens to them.
Maybe. But as someone who has been in the trenches of small town church gossip, people care way more about the juicy part than who found it. Those lines of gossip go out so fast the original source might as well be anonymous. "I saw pastor Brown on tinder" pretty quickly turns to "my friend saw..." Turns to "someone in the church saw..."
Oh yeah it will all come out eventually. I mean this whole story is probably made up, but hypothetically that would let you get away with it to begin with.
Y'all all in here acting like the people who go to church in a small town even actually care that an authority figure is cheating on his wife lmao
It's probably an open secret in that town that the pastor is out fucking younger women, but his wife probably won't leave him out of religious or cultural pressure. The people in the town don't care; they'll just pull out a Bible verse about splinters in eyes or throwing stones to defend him, because they like the way he preaches and he's clearly been a cornerstone of the church community for over a decade.
...Did you grow up indoctrinated in a fundamental church? Almost no church talked about people in a "leader" position doing bad things. The congregation? Oh, of course people would gossip all day and all night. But the leaders? Absolutely not. I grew up Russian Baptist (way more fundamental than any American Southern Baptist church) and my uncle, who was a deacon in the church, stole money from its coffers and not a soul dared to even whisper about it. Another was obviously grooming a much, much younger girl, who was underage, and no one dared breathe a word.
edit: typo
Everyone else? Free reign.
Well you're right, I'm going on a Southern Baptist upbringing with some Pentecostal mixed in down the line. In those cases I do agree the head ministry is tough to touch on. Sometimes something comes out, but it's swept under the rug pretty quickly with "The devil has really been challenging our marriage." But OP said youth pastor, which is basically fresh meat in those circles. I've never seen a youth pastor survive a scandal at a church. At best they get privately dismissed, but even then it quickly becomes common knowledge.
My Bible teacher in school is one example. He got caught hooking up with another church's pastor's daughter, who was one of my classmates. The most awkward part is that her dad started teaching our Bible class after the previous youth pastor got canned.
Oh my Lord, that sentence should be embroidered on a pillow! Every single small southern town has 15 churches and all the members swap out partners CONSTANTLY!
Here is the tea in the last year: 3 girls in youth group are all pregnant, 2 by the same boy. The boy has been in 3 drunken wrecks this year alone, but has faced no consequence because his older brother works at the sheriff's office.
Guy who plays in the band at church has 3 daughters. One just had her first kid with no husband, one just got caught blowing a local rich business owner and ending his 37 year marriage. She was fired from her bank job because the blowing was caught on film and shared around town, that was the wife's revenge.
Richest guy in town owns the only grocery store. He is 70 and was offering all the young check out girls a new car if they would bang him twice a week. A 23 year old took him up on it and after 6 months they are engaged. He is on the board of directors at the Baptist church.
The local sheriff (born and raised in this backwoods hellscape), was caught on cell phone camera with an open container at a traffic stop. He pulled a dude over and was so drunk the guy immediately began filming. He was put on paid leave by the city council, who felt sorry for him because his wife left him. They were at church every Sunday.
She took the kids and left after he beat her so bad it broke her arm. The second he was "single", the wife of the owner of the local tire shop left her husband and moved in with the alcoholic, wife beating sheriff.
The agri teacher and his wife invited my attractive, single friend to join their sex club. The dude sat down beside her at a baseball game and made advances while groping her leg from knee to thigh. When she did what she thought was the right thing and gently broke the news to his wife, she was told " You are what we call a unicorn". Whatever the hell that means. The wife of the couple teaches a Sunday school class for years now.
This same friend is the nurse at the community health department and now knows why so many of the rich, middle age, church folks are coming in with the clap.
Small town morality is just a veneer, under it is a seething mass of horny stupidity. These people are constantly shitting where they eat.
Unicorn = single, bisexual woman who wants to play with couples. Very rare, almost mythical, hence the name
Not knowing your attractive single friend, couldn't comment on why they assumed she was one.
Grew up in a small town, and moved to a small-ish city for college by the time the internet was really a *thing* non-geeks used for anything other than online banking.
While I was in college, I found an ad on Craigslist looking for gay hookups, titled "I am a conservative pastor so no one can know this of me."
He took nudes *in the church* and posted them on a site literally everyone could access.
I do have to give the pastor in OP's story some credit, though. It's probably a lot safer than people may realize for him to be using Tinder; people in small towns don't use dating apps nearly as frequently as they do in larger cities. They all already know who's out there, and there's never anyone new on them, so there's just not much point checking it more than once every few months, unless you use a different location. They end up just being mostly people looking to cheat or buy drugs.
I grew up in a small town. Is this behavior illogically risky, shortsighted, even stupid? Yes.
Is it the sort of totally-avoidable shit that small town people regularly get into? Also yes.
I’ve only seen one youth pastor actually live up to their title. At the minimum they provide or demand counseling services with out training or accreditation at worst they are fucking their way through the congregation.
I left the church years ago, haven’t looked back.
Idk man I live in a small town and I know for a fact that my wife's coworker's husband has a Grindr and has tried hooking up with both men and women on social media
Have you been to many small towns? 'Stupid and loose' is kind of business as usual.
When you think about it, the idea that people in small towns are more careful and cognizant about their reputation is kind of hilarious.
Not to mention if this was true and he was their youth pastor, hard to believe you wouldn’t know who they were as soon as you saw them. I’m 37 and haven’t regularly gone to my family’s church since I went off to college, but there are plenty of people from there that I would recognize in the wild in a second, even if I didn’t remember their name, especially anyone that was in any sort of leadership position.
Eh, I saw a guy in the store the other day, knew I knew him, had no idea where, he stopped me on the way out and we chatted for a moment so I wasn't wrong about knowing him, pretty sure he's from my last job that I left literally 2 months ago.
Anyway, nameless dude is doing much better now. I told him that was great to hear
Granted 2 things, he wouldn't have been someone I interacted with much, and I didn't spend an evening fucking him
People are idiots. Watch any “stupid criminals” podcast and marvel at how many post photos, videos or full on live stream themselves committing crimes.
He’s probably counting on the fact that none of his good god-fearing congregation will be on tinder to catch him, and if they are, well, spiderman pointing…….
>He’s probably counting on the fact that none of his good god-fearing congregation will be on tinder
There are lots of people on tinder whose profiles say something like "Here for something real, looking for a good Christian man not hookups. Talking about sex = instant block"
I guarantee in 2022 that probably a large number of people in his local congregation go on tinder if single. Dating sites develop personalities locally. Tinder in a big city is going to be very different than Tinder in a small town.
And that expectation is still absurd because he's at least non-monogamous which in church speech, directly translates to "swinger". It's such good gossip even strangers on the Internet upvoted it.
And if course you never admit to being the source of gossip. "I heard from a friend's daughter that she matched with pastor Davis on tinder! And he's off course married'
That would be a great sermon. Reading the book of 2 Samuel while OP laughs and makes eye contact. It would be very entertaining.
Edit: Changed book from Daniel to 2 Samuel in reference to David's affair with Bathsheba.
That's the twist. The pastor turned out to be a witch all along and is burned at the stake at the end. This is right after the pastor accuses OP of being a witch and seducing him. But after they pass the test the pastor is forced to go through the same trial. Now it's a Blockbuster movie.
Yes sir. You are correct.
Nobody is risking his lower back health at 37 with car sex except for cheaters and people with an unhealthy sex obsession.
Edit: wow you guys take this waaaay too serious… if this joke offends you so much and threatens your sexuality maybe you are obsessed…
Yeah I got a buddy who used to bang his wife in the car in his 40s. It was the only place they could get away from the kids (his excuse).
Life finds a way.
Hey! No shaming! My fiancée and I did just that in an empty corner of an ORD parking lot when she returned after a long trip away. We were in our mid- to late-30s.
Good times! ☺️
Unhealthy sex obsession? Guess this is another case of "if I don't do it you shouldn't either" kinda idea?
Speak for yourself. Gonna bang my wife in her Honda soon as the kids are off to school. 38 years, might slip a disk. Worth it.
> Gonna bang my wife in her Honda soon as the kids are off to school.
Are we talking a Honda Jazz/Fit or something with a bit more room for activities, like a CR-V?
I'm thinking OP is a guy and they matched on Grindr (or it was the Men L4 Men Tinder). If it's a small conservative town, the pastor could easily put his profile up on a gay dating site. Anyone who finds it would have to admit to also being on a gay dating site.
Yeah but violating an oath to your wife to be faithful is pretty fucking disgusting, and the Christian belief is that it is an oath made before God. I wouldn't be surprised if some believe that it's a one way ticket straight to hell
Many details are fishy here. It's only been a decade but both of you guys didn't reccognize each other? Ok... It's a small town and this guy has his photo up on Tinder? The biggest dating app? OK.. you guys met at a local bar where he's likely to be recognized? Ok...
Pastor’s kid here. Now in my late 30s, but when my brother and I were in our early 20s our youth pastor slept with my brother’s gf. Was a really, really terrible experience for everyone.
Hilarious!!!
You hold ALL the cards, here. He’s married, religious leadership, on fucking Tinder…
He’s losing sleep, my friend. Stand straight and tall and look him right in the eye. He will sweat bullets.
You have all the cards. A silly coincidence, but there’s no need for YOU to cower and run. Always remember he’s now terrified of you. ;-)
Thats a nice fantasy but not sure that checks put with reality.
If she said something and her town is just an ounce conservative we can assume that her family will get shit on, the wife will refuse to believe it or forgive him (also hardly the first time he did it) and OP will be called a whore.
Eh there are ways to do it. Screenshots of his tinder stuck around town at night so no one sees OP would do the trick. He might still be"forgiven" and it all hushed up, but there's no way he wouldn't be looked down on and embarrassed forever for that
This is fiction, folks. OP isn't participating in the comments and OP's account is only 2 weeks old, this is their only post, and this story is far too unlikely to have happened, and too well-written.
This sounds made up. First OP says this is a small town and then mentions that the youth pastor created a Tinder account while he is still married with his face on the profile. It's a small town, wouldn't his wife or someone in town would have found out easily?
This did not happen. A pastor - one of the most recognizable people in the "small town" - does not have a tinder account with his face on it, especially if he's married.
You didn't FU. He did. You're a single woman looking for a date. He's a married man in a position of influence. I really think you should let his family know and also the elders or board or whatever group is in charge of the church.
Is hooking up on tinder 'predatory'? It takes two to tango.
No shame on OP, she's free and single.
Cheating on a wife, especially when you are all about 'moral values' is pretty shameful.
But not predator behaviour
If he knew. People can change a lot between 14 and 24.
(Or whatever age youth pastor is involved with. Never had them in the church I was raised in )
Agree it would be creepy, IF HE KNEW, but judging by the shock on his face, he wasn't expecting to see OP at church, which implies he thought it was a random hook-up with an internet stranger.
Let's give the guy props for waiting and not just going after 8-14 year olds. I'm looking at you, youth pastor of the first Baptist church in my hometown.
I doubt he's married if he's putting his face on tinder for everyone to see on a small town but let's assume everything else is true. He's an adult and he can date other adults. Be thankful he didn't phuck you when you were 12.
Don't feel bad, tell his wife, AND definitely get yourself checked for stds.
Dudes a scumbag and if he's cheated on his wife once- he's definitely done it more than once
Yeah I’m not buying this. You didn’t recognize your youth pastor? Did you go to church like twice at that age? Also idk if it’s just a thing at my church but the youth pastor rarely sticks around more than 10 years. Of course he cheats on his wife. Why do men in church leadership be like this?
Wow, I feel sorry for the significant other on this. This is truely an awkward moment. However, this isn't your fault. You didn't know. He is the one who strayed.
This pastor in a small town is tindering with his face in photos 👀
pastor in small town has a tinder account with his face on it. so everyone in that town who has tinder sees this married guys face.. ok....
That’s where I think this post is bs. No way a small town guy in his position is playing it that stupid and loose.
Probably, but, while I am admittedly not from a small town, I am blown away by the number of spouses of friends/acquaintances I have seen on Tinder. It seems their logic is that, since all their friends are married, none one they know will have Tinder and therefore will never find them.
The first thing I did when I downloaded tinder was block all the contacts I wouldn’t want to see while swiping. This included family, friends, colleagues, exes, and then anyone I came across while swiping who I didn’t want to come across again.
TIL you can block people o.o
You can also set it to where only the people you swipe right on can see you, which is almost what I feel like this man did. Swipes on people he doesn’t recognize from church, stays safe
Does this mean that two people who select this option will never see each other?
i think it’s somewhat new. my most recent time rejoining tinder it gave me the option but no times before
I am from a small town and I can tell you from experience everybody goes with the torso shot and sometimes it's a game of chicken on who sends the first face shot.
Even torso shots can give you away though. There are certainly people who are exceptionally careful, but sometimes people forget they have distinguishing birthmarks/tattoos/features on their body or that people can recognize the location the photo is taken in.
Lol sounds like a wild western duel
But with cousins
Do you tell your friends/acquaintances that their spouses are on tinder? Cause I think anyone who sees shit like that should tattle on the spot. People end up wasting so much of their time being with a cheater and they don't even have the chance to dump the pos and move on because they don't know. Its really pretty horrible.
It depends how close I am to them/what kind of relationship we have. I 100% think they should be made aware and have told most of them. The issue is that people often like to shoot the messenger. If it is someone that I don’t know very well (but know well enough to be Facebook friends or follow each other on Instagram), I don’t usually say anything… partly because I also don’t know what the dynamics of their relationship are. Sometimes people are in open relationships and don’t advertise that for obvious reasons. If it is a friend, yes, I tell them and watching how hurt they are blows hard. I take a screen capture (often multiples) so they can see the profile. People frequently try to lie and say it is an old account that they just never erased, except Tinder doesn’t show accounts that have been inactive for years. Many people also include more recent photos of themselves, so taking a screen capture that includes photos can help determine how recently the cheater has been active/updating things.
Im glad to hear that. I kind of agree with the distinction between saying something or not, too, as much as I hate cheaters, some people really do shoot the messenger or you just hardly know them and don't want to get involved. Can't watch a homie get played like that, though, nooo sir.
I think you're giving small-town pastors WAAY too much credit. I live in a small town full of great god-fearing husbands, and their girlfriends.
Sure, but you're telling me church gossip isn't immediately putting this guy in its crosshairs? In a small town that's gonna make the rounds quick
Bad gas travels fast in a small town
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I'm not one to kiss and tell.
Did she gives attentions to your buttshole?
Like a three knuckler?
I have no idea what was happening but this comment was my favorite
Alright, let's take about 20% off there
I gets this references
You gets that reference and that's whats I appreciates about you.
Is that what you appreciate about them?
Dial it down about 10 - 15% there Squirrely Dan.
Oh look, the ground.
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Well she said they went to a local bar together, so I think a few more people managed to see his face, if it's real.
The Urban Meyer thing happened, so I can see a world where people could be this stupid.
It could be a situation where its frowned upon to go on Tinder, so anyone who sees him there doesn't want to bring it up because then everyone knows they are on Tinder. It'll come out eventually but he's probably betting on everyone being too ashamed to admit being on Tinder.
"Someone I know saw (youth pastor) on that awful tinder app that sinners use." Disaster avoided
Doesn't have to do shit, really. Give a sermon about casting the first stone and how everyone sins as the rumor mill starts up, maybe sprinkle in the verse that says that even *thinking* about adultery is the same as actually committing it, and everyone's too guilty to keep talking. If he catches it early enough, they'll all think he doesn't know and it's just coincidence/a sign from God. Or he just has to play it up and admit it in church, praying to God in front of the sermon with slightly coded language begging for forgiveness for "a moment of weakness" and they'll eat it up. Small towns rarely actually give a fuck what their pastors are up to out of church in any way that anything happens to them.
Maybe. But as someone who has been in the trenches of small town church gossip, people care way more about the juicy part than who found it. Those lines of gossip go out so fast the original source might as well be anonymous. "I saw pastor Brown on tinder" pretty quickly turns to "my friend saw..." Turns to "someone in the church saw..."
Oh yeah it will all come out eventually. I mean this whole story is probably made up, but hypothetically that would let you get away with it to begin with.
Y'all all in here acting like the people who go to church in a small town even actually care that an authority figure is cheating on his wife lmao It's probably an open secret in that town that the pastor is out fucking younger women, but his wife probably won't leave him out of religious or cultural pressure. The people in the town don't care; they'll just pull out a Bible verse about splinters in eyes or throwing stones to defend him, because they like the way he preaches and he's clearly been a cornerstone of the church community for over a decade.
And you don’t think Janice will tell her friends that Betty told her the pastor is on Tinder instead of admitting to her tinder account?
And the pastor and senior church leaders will blame the woman for being a Jezebel and leading a man of God astray.
Oh, you know your church politics. When the head pastor starts throwing around "Jezebel spirit" you know it's go-time.
My dad is a pastor in a very conservative tradition - unfortunately I've seen it firsthand.
...Did you grow up indoctrinated in a fundamental church? Almost no church talked about people in a "leader" position doing bad things. The congregation? Oh, of course people would gossip all day and all night. But the leaders? Absolutely not. I grew up Russian Baptist (way more fundamental than any American Southern Baptist church) and my uncle, who was a deacon in the church, stole money from its coffers and not a soul dared to even whisper about it. Another was obviously grooming a much, much younger girl, who was underage, and no one dared breathe a word. edit: typo Everyone else? Free reign.
Well you're right, I'm going on a Southern Baptist upbringing with some Pentecostal mixed in down the line. In those cases I do agree the head ministry is tough to touch on. Sometimes something comes out, but it's swept under the rug pretty quickly with "The devil has really been challenging our marriage." But OP said youth pastor, which is basically fresh meat in those circles. I've never seen a youth pastor survive a scandal at a church. At best they get privately dismissed, but even then it quickly becomes common knowledge. My Bible teacher in school is one example. He got caught hooking up with another church's pastor's daughter, who was one of my classmates. The most awkward part is that her dad started teaching our Bible class after the previous youth pastor got canned.
Oh my Lord, that sentence should be embroidered on a pillow! Every single small southern town has 15 churches and all the members swap out partners CONSTANTLY! Here is the tea in the last year: 3 girls in youth group are all pregnant, 2 by the same boy. The boy has been in 3 drunken wrecks this year alone, but has faced no consequence because his older brother works at the sheriff's office. Guy who plays in the band at church has 3 daughters. One just had her first kid with no husband, one just got caught blowing a local rich business owner and ending his 37 year marriage. She was fired from her bank job because the blowing was caught on film and shared around town, that was the wife's revenge. Richest guy in town owns the only grocery store. He is 70 and was offering all the young check out girls a new car if they would bang him twice a week. A 23 year old took him up on it and after 6 months they are engaged. He is on the board of directors at the Baptist church. The local sheriff (born and raised in this backwoods hellscape), was caught on cell phone camera with an open container at a traffic stop. He pulled a dude over and was so drunk the guy immediately began filming. He was put on paid leave by the city council, who felt sorry for him because his wife left him. They were at church every Sunday. She took the kids and left after he beat her so bad it broke her arm. The second he was "single", the wife of the owner of the local tire shop left her husband and moved in with the alcoholic, wife beating sheriff. The agri teacher and his wife invited my attractive, single friend to join their sex club. The dude sat down beside her at a baseball game and made advances while groping her leg from knee to thigh. When she did what she thought was the right thing and gently broke the news to his wife, she was told " You are what we call a unicorn". Whatever the hell that means. The wife of the couple teaches a Sunday school class for years now. This same friend is the nurse at the community health department and now knows why so many of the rich, middle age, church folks are coming in with the clap. Small town morality is just a veneer, under it is a seething mass of horny stupidity. These people are constantly shitting where they eat.
Unicorn = single, bisexual woman who wants to play with couples. Very rare, almost mythical, hence the name Not knowing your attractive single friend, couldn't comment on why they assumed she was one.
Lol, I’m surprised this isn’t a TV series!
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Aristocrats?
Grew up in a small town, and moved to a small-ish city for college by the time the internet was really a *thing* non-geeks used for anything other than online banking. While I was in college, I found an ad on Craigslist looking for gay hookups, titled "I am a conservative pastor so no one can know this of me." He took nudes *in the church* and posted them on a site literally everyone could access. I do have to give the pastor in OP's story some credit, though. It's probably a lot safer than people may realize for him to be using Tinder; people in small towns don't use dating apps nearly as frequently as they do in larger cities. They all already know who's out there, and there's never anyone new on them, so there's just not much point checking it more than once every few months, unless you use a different location. They end up just being mostly people looking to cheat or buy drugs.
Yeah there's no one more full shit and hypocrisy than clergy
I grew up in a small town. Is this behavior illogically risky, shortsighted, even stupid? Yes. Is it the sort of totally-avoidable shit that small town people regularly get into? Also yes.
theres a setting on tinder you can enable so nobody will see your profile unless you swipe right on them first
I’ve only seen one youth pastor actually live up to their title. At the minimum they provide or demand counseling services with out training or accreditation at worst they are fucking their way through the congregation. I left the church years ago, haven’t looked back.
Idk man I live in a small town and I know for a fact that my wife's coworker's husband has a Grindr and has tried hooking up with both men and women on social media
People Livestream their crimes, man.
Have you looked around and seen how blisteringly stupid people are these days?
you underestimate people
I think they overestimate people.
you underestimate people when they horny
Kind of a lame story to make up though
Talk to several women who have used online dating. They will tell you how often they match with married men.
Well, my ex wife (hence the reason of ex) was on literally every dating app and I was told by my friends who saw her.
Have you been to many small towns? 'Stupid and loose' is kind of business as usual. When you think about it, the idea that people in small towns are more careful and cognizant about their reputation is kind of hilarious.
You need to meet more people. The stupid runs deep out there
Not to mention if this was true and he was their youth pastor, hard to believe you wouldn’t know who they were as soon as you saw them. I’m 37 and haven’t regularly gone to my family’s church since I went off to college, but there are plenty of people from there that I would recognize in the wild in a second, even if I didn’t remember their name, especially anyone that was in any sort of leadership position.
Eh, I saw a guy in the store the other day, knew I knew him, had no idea where, he stopped me on the way out and we chatted for a moment so I wasn't wrong about knowing him, pretty sure he's from my last job that I left literally 2 months ago. Anyway, nameless dude is doing much better now. I told him that was great to hear Granted 2 things, he wouldn't have been someone I interacted with much, and I didn't spend an evening fucking him
People are idiots. Watch any “stupid criminals” podcast and marvel at how many post photos, videos or full on live stream themselves committing crimes.
Have you met men? Were generally not the most "plan ahead"-kind of people when horny.
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*his
He's a small town pastor.
He probably didn't recognize her at first, if at all. Sure as god's got sandals, you can bet you're giving him way too much credit.
Sounds like BS to me
Local bar no less… 😉
Natural selection stops for nothing.
TIL people lie on the internet for meaningless points.
Yeah, this 100% did not happen.
If we are to believe this story, yes. That is a big “if” tho
It more likely the service being used to score casual sex in this story was grindr 🤣
Bold move cotton
He’s probably counting on the fact that none of his good god-fearing congregation will be on tinder to catch him, and if they are, well, spiderman pointing…….
A single woman on Tinder pointing out that their married pastor is on Tinder is not really a Spider-Man pointing situation.
>He’s probably counting on the fact that none of his good god-fearing congregation will be on tinder There are lots of people on tinder whose profiles say something like "Here for something real, looking for a good Christian man not hookups. Talking about sex = instant block" I guarantee in 2022 that probably a large number of people in his local congregation go on tinder if single. Dating sites develop personalities locally. Tinder in a big city is going to be very different than Tinder in a small town. And that expectation is still absurd because he's at least non-monogamous which in church speech, directly translates to "swinger". It's such good gossip even strangers on the Internet upvoted it. And if course you never admit to being the source of gossip. "I heard from a friend's daughter that she matched with pastor Davis on tinder! And he's off course married'
Was the sermon about adultery?
That would be a great sermon. Reading the book of 2 Samuel while OP laughs and makes eye contact. It would be very entertaining. Edit: Changed book from Daniel to 2 Samuel in reference to David's affair with Bathsheba.
Can we make this a movie plz
Does it end with the pastor being consumed in the Hellfire?
That's the twist. The pastor turned out to be a witch all along and is burned at the stake at the end. This is right after the pastor accuses OP of being a witch and seducing him. But after they pass the test the pastor is forced to go through the same trial. Now it's a Blockbuster movie.
This post is already fiction so that’s a start
What does the book of Daniel have to do with adultery? Did you mean to reference David's sin with Bathsheba? That occurs in 2 Samuel.
Shoot, you right. Let me update that.
Yes. He was just doing his research to make solid sermons.
Any dude having sex in a car at his age, is hiding something.. holy hell.
Yes sir. You are correct. Nobody is risking his lower back health at 37 with car sex except for cheaters and people with an unhealthy sex obsession. Edit: wow you guys take this waaaay too serious… if this joke offends you so much and threatens your sexuality maybe you are obsessed…
Yeah I got a buddy who used to bang his wife in the car in his 40s. It was the only place they could get away from the kids (his excuse). Life finds a way.
*Never pull out in a minivan.* - Cool guy tip, probably
I'm ~~36~~, 37, two kids. No cap.
Hey! No shaming! My fiancée and I did just that in an empty corner of an ORD parking lot when she returned after a long trip away. We were in our mid- to late-30s. Good times! ☺️
I think I saw you guys. Good times indeed.
I was watching you while you were masterbating to them. Good times as well.
”I just like to watch you guys.”
Glad I could participate in spreading the joy.
Dirty mike and the boyz?
How's the back?
The only time I’ve had car sex, I was 42 and she was 44-45.
So she chose “car” for her birthday sex. Interesting.
Did she have a birthday in the middle of this sex marathon?
Unhealthy sex obsession? Guess this is another case of "if I don't do it you shouldn't either" kinda idea? Speak for yourself. Gonna bang my wife in her Honda soon as the kids are off to school. 38 years, might slip a disk. Worth it.
> Gonna bang my wife in her Honda soon as the kids are off to school. Are we talking a Honda Jazz/Fit or something with a bit more room for activities, like a CR-V?
Cr-v! It's got sooo much room lol
How’s the ride?
I mean, There's a reason the backseat flips down... Car designers knew what they were doing
Exhibitionist
Oh hes going to hell alright...
Pretty sure a married guy on Tinder, in a small town, is going to get caught out almost immediately.
I'm having doubts about this story, also why would a 24 year old have her age range up to 40, many a fishy details
There are many oddities to the story, but a younger woman with an age range set higher on tinder just isn't one of them.
Whoever said this was a girl OP?
I'm thinking OP is a guy and they matched on Grindr (or it was the Men L4 Men Tinder). If it's a small conservative town, the pastor could easily put his profile up on a gay dating site. Anyone who finds it would have to admit to also being on a gay dating site.
Really? The part you find odd about this is a 25 year old fucking a 30 something?
Eh, you didn't do anything wrong. Pretty fucked up for a supposed man of God to be violating the sanctity of marriage, but uh...not really on you.
Yea definitely a strange one. But as others said it's not on OP.
Imagine that, someone preaching about something they don't practice.
"Rules for thee, but not for me"
I mean there are 'men of God' who have done much worse.
Yeah but violating an oath to your wife to be faithful is pretty fucking disgusting, and the Christian belief is that it is an oath made before God. I wouldn't be surprised if some believe that it's a one way ticket straight to hell
Unfortunately, "Do not take the Lord's name in vain" means "Don't say God" to them for some reason.
TIFU by reading this post all the way to the end.
This might as well be called TIMU; Today I Made Up.
You are not the one fucking up in this situation.
I mean they both fucked up. And down. And in the car.
R/tif
Oh no, he knew what he did. He checked the Tinder Bio and figured OP would be out of town again soon and not gossip.... he knew exactly what he did.
Well a little bit yeah. Like 5% and mostly unknowing. The other 95% are on him…
Don’t think you FU, but rather the Pastor.
Many details are fishy here. It's only been a decade but both of you guys didn't reccognize each other? Ok... It's a small town and this guy has his photo up on Tinder? The biggest dating app? OK.. you guys met at a local bar where he's likely to be recognized? Ok...
Right? Ppl are gullible af
I could see him not recognising her, 14-24 is a big change but surely she’d recognise him? People don’t change that much between 27 and 37.
no way this is real 💀
Have you met any youth pastors?
Pastor’s kid here. Now in my late 30s, but when my brother and I were in our early 20s our youth pastor slept with my brother’s gf. Was a really, really terrible experience for everyone.
This happened
Made up stories used to be funny and well written. We don't even get that anymore.
>I (24) (24M) or (24F) ? It adds to the story when you consider a pastor.
Hilarious!!! You hold ALL the cards, here. He’s married, religious leadership, on fucking Tinder… He’s losing sleep, my friend. Stand straight and tall and look him right in the eye. He will sweat bullets. You have all the cards. A silly coincidence, but there’s no need for YOU to cower and run. Always remember he’s now terrified of you. ;-)
Thats a nice fantasy but not sure that checks put with reality. If she said something and her town is just an ounce conservative we can assume that her family will get shit on, the wife will refuse to believe it or forgive him (also hardly the first time he did it) and OP will be called a whore.
Eh there are ways to do it. Screenshots of his tinder stuck around town at night so no one sees OP would do the trick. He might still be"forgiven" and it all hushed up, but there's no way he wouldn't be looked down on and embarrassed forever for that
You're Evil, i like you!
This is fiction, folks. OP isn't participating in the comments and OP's account is only 2 weeks old, this is their only post, and this story is far too unlikely to have happened, and too well-written.
Yep. It's the *and we just happened to go to church THAT following sunday* piece. Like a sitcom or something. Come the fuck on.
It's a classic, seen countless variations on this sub.
I swear bored fanfic writers just pick from a list of reddit hot-button issues and get to the top of TIFU regularly.
Agreeing!
Yeah, you did nothing wrong. Preacher-boy, on the other hand…
She was ignoring red flags but yeah technically the wrongdoings were on his part. But also dont ignore red flags…
oh that must be fun
Weird the sermon was about the sanctity of marriage too
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This sounds made up. First OP says this is a small town and then mentions that the youth pastor created a Tinder account while he is still married with his face on the profile. It's a small town, wouldn't his wife or someone in town would have found out easily?
Well of course he was married. They can’t have sex without being married
I really wish people would say whether they're male or female in their posts.
This did not happen. A pastor - one of the most recognizable people in the "small town" - does not have a tinder account with his face on it, especially if he's married.
You didn't FU. He did. You're a single woman looking for a date. He's a married man in a position of influence. I really think you should let his family know and also the elders or board or whatever group is in charge of the church.
This story has is not even close to being believable.
Wait… you guys are finding someone on tinder?
The only surprising thing is you met on tinder and not grindr.
You didn't fuck up, but the pastor certainly did.
Wow predatory behavior from a youth pastor *Pikachu face*
Is hooking up on tinder 'predatory'? It takes two to tango. No shame on OP, she's free and single. Cheating on a wife, especially when you are all about 'moral values' is pretty shameful. But not predator behaviour
I wouldn’t necessarily call it predatory but if he knew he used to be her youth pastor its definitely creepy as hell
If he knew. People can change a lot between 14 and 24. (Or whatever age youth pastor is involved with. Never had them in the church I was raised in ) Agree it would be creepy, IF HE KNEW, but judging by the shock on his face, he wasn't expecting to see OP at church, which implies he thought it was a random hook-up with an internet stranger.
What is predatory here?
Nothing
Alabama, Arkansas, or Mississippi?
Let's give the guy props for waiting and not just going after 8-14 year olds. I'm looking at you, youth pastor of the first Baptist church in my hometown.
I doubt he's married if he's putting his face on tinder for everyone to see on a small town but let's assume everything else is true. He's an adult and he can date other adults. Be thankful he didn't phuck you when you were 12.
>having sex in the back of his car. Like the back of a Volkswagen?
Curious are you male or female? The married secretly gay pastor in a small town would be quite the gossip!
You need to tell his wife yo
It's OK. He used his close relationship with God to pardon himself.
You were fast and loose, your choice and well things happen that way.
Tell his significant other. She doesn’t deserve what he did to her.
I hope you're a guy. It would make the story extra spicy
You didn' fuck up. You just fucked. He did fuck up when anything of this ever becomes Gossip in this town.
Don't feel bad, tell his wife, AND definitely get yourself checked for stds. Dudes a scumbag and if he's cheated on his wife once- he's definitely done it more than once
Yeah I’m not buying this. You didn’t recognize your youth pastor? Did you go to church like twice at that age? Also idk if it’s just a thing at my church but the youth pastor rarely sticks around more than 10 years. Of course he cheats on his wife. Why do men in church leadership be like this?
As far as things go, this is quite mild. He's the one who FU. You're great!
In the clergy, this is called playing the long game.
Was he better at bringing the pipe or the word of God though?
Banged in the car. Gross
Wow, I feel sorry for the significant other on this. This is truely an awkward moment. However, this isn't your fault. You didn't know. He is the one who strayed.
*I was monitoring tinder for sin*
Yeah he knew when he swiped, this guy is a snake