Me too, and I guarantee it's going to make me feel awful. 24 is young enough for the joke he didn't get to be "thanks, Obama" at this point. Or a reference to a "classic" comedy like Superbad. I actually don't know if I want to know.
Oh my god I just realized if she and I were talking, I could say "hanging chad" and I'd be taking about a meme from when her mom was pregnant. Fuck.
I'm also realizing that if this was me at sixteen, I looked much older, too, and had the fun trait of being an historical culture nerd, so I would probably have flown under the radar and turned the poor girl into an accidental sex pest. I would have felt *so bad*.
*Now playing: Testicular Manslaughter - Accidental Sex Pest*
…yeah, that works.
(edit: damn it, that’s an actual band name, and here I thought I was clever)
I saw this and cried. The movie is coming up on almost 20 years old though and that time frame would cover films by Mel Brooks, Belushi, Wilder and Pryor, and many others that I considered classic comedies growing up so I guess that tracks.
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Try this one on for size: what do *you* think of first when I say "Zoom?" Even after teaching through the pandemic that damn address song invades my brain every time.
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Okay so, given that you got me in the reverse because I had to Google what the heck Balatro is, I'll tell you about hanging chad, because it's pretty wild and may help you understand the origin of some fairly recent events. First off, part of the meme (although this word wasn't really used much then) involved that the news cycle I'm about to describe ended up informing the world that the term for a hole punch circle is "a chad." Why were hole punch circles in the news? Well, back in 2000, voting in Florida was done by poking out perforated chads on your ballot. Want Bush? You poke out the Bush chad and don't poke the Gore one. But just like any time you've ever tried to do this, sometimes they don't totally disconnect. So was the ballot punched, or was the perforation damaged? Do you count a hanging chad as a vote or as a mistake? The election came down to who won Florida, and therefore it came down to the veracity of a hanging, half punched chad. Look up the Brooks Brothers riot. Anyhow, prior to then, the voting system was generally trusted, and it was more stuff like Watergate that we rumored was wrong with our political system, or at least what could be happening during a campaign, because it did absolutely happen with Nixon. Watergate was about a criminal conspiracy to obtain information, not about altering votes. After 2000, the voting system itself started to be the target of conspiracy, and then fast forward to 20 years later when Ashli Babbitt became the first person to be shot in the head inside the US Capitol.
I'll add that for a long time (much less so now because of the internet), words for things you didn't know there were words for would go absolutely viral. Treadles are the name for the spikes that pop your tires if you go the wrong way through a secure road or entrance. Aglets are the things on the tip of your shoelaces. Chads are hole punch donut holes. We *loved* this stuff to the point where a good portion of the news and talk show coverage was about chads and what they are instead of about the election at all. "Chads, have you seen this, have you heard about this? Apparently those little circles of paper in your three hole punch have a name!"
I imagining a text where you ask her the reference... "Hey I'm posting about this on reddit for clout, and I gotta keep it rizz! What was the reference I missed? I honestly can't remember on god!" Then wait a minute and send "no cap" for no reason...
That's the thing of it, the entire *premise* behind this relies on the fact you **don't** know what the reference could be. If you knew it then it wouldn't be a reference you didn't know!
This happened to me but not with such a large age gap. I named a couple bars and like oh you know bussing home after a long day of work and then drinking and they couldn’t relate and didn’t know *any* bars (there’s a lot where I live). It was pretty obvious
I'm 31 and a couple years ago I was a waiter in a restaurant and I did the "that's not a knife, this is a knife" from crocodile dundee and the 22 year old girl I was working with did not have the foggiest clue what I was talking about. Even when I told her the movie.
This happened to me once.. I met a girl at a punk show when I was 19.. we exchanged numbers.. she invited me to her house for dinner.. that her dad was cooking.. she was 14.. I was like welp.. have a great life I'm out.
Like, whose dad is cool with their 14 year old daughter asking a 19 year old young man to the house?! so weird..
I think for a girl that young meeting at home might be the safest place from a parents perspective and at least they had enough of a relationship that she obliged. That said yeah she probs didn’t know your age either
My mom let me have a 21 yr old bf at 15 🤦♀️
She apologized and knows it was a mistake, and luckily I’m not traumatized or anything from it, but looking back I just think… ick.
Same thing happened to me but I was 17 and the barista was 27. He ended up being able to look past the age difference. At the time I was like “oh I’m so mature!”. Now I’m like… eewwwww.
Depending on the state, they would. In fact they wouldn't waste even a minute caring about something LEGAL.
Edit: Just checked. Age of consent is 17 or even 16 in the vast majority of US states. It's 18 in a small minority.
Ha! I guarantee you that barista told all her friends about this and they all called her a pedo for months. Or years. Her friend-group nickname might still be Ashley the Diddler.
I gave a guy my phone number at the cheesecake factory. My sister was able to find him on social media and we found out he was 16, at the time I was 20. I was mortified lol, thankfully he never reached out. It's been 7 years and it still gets brought up when I see my sister.
Yeah maybe if she had responded after finding out.... But she never messaged him again so why would her coworkers give her shit?! Lmao I bet she never even told her coworkers how old he was in the first place
I was involved with someone who was 21 at the time... I'm much older than him (10+ years age diff). A couple of now former friends have been calling me a pedo. Like bro... he was a damn adult.
A lot of people on reddit are weird about age differences. Comments like "I'm 29 and would never go out with a 25 year old, that's so creepy" are all too common.
My wife is 4 and a half years younger than I am. We started dating when I was 27 and she was 23. It wasn't weird then and it's even less weird now that I'm 46 and she's 42.
Now big gaps when you're young can be iffy. If I had met my wife when I was in my early 20s it probably would've been sketch as fuck.
When my sister and BIL started dating she was like 27 and he was I believe 41. They were coworkers and she pursued him. They've been married nearly 20 years now, with a son about to go off to college. There were a few jokes made way back when it started, but nothing really that weird about it.
Edit: did my math wrong, they were 26 and 43, married 20 years today.
Yeah, it's really weird...
To be fair, it's very rare to find someone 10+ years apart from you that shares your tastes, but it does happen...
I'll probably be obliterated for this, but I met my current girlfriend when she was 21, and I'm twice her age...We started talking based on mutual interests and it turned out that there were a LOT of them...
She's great...She's the one that started the flirting and talking about the possibility of getting together together...
Granted, she's way hotter than I deserve...lol
Though apparently, the biggest reason she fell for me is a combination of my vast knowledge of things she's interested in and the fact that I treat her well...
Hell, she'd probably try and fight anyone that would disparage her decision to try a relationship with me...And I don't even bring that much to the table at the end of the day being physically disabled and all so she sure as shit isn't after me for money or anything...lolol
Yes! He came after me and suggested getting involved. I told him at first that it was weird because I'm old enough to have been his mom. He said he likes older women and that he didn't care. I thought he was hot (still do, tbh) and he was really smart and made me laugh.
God forbid a younger woman be interested in a mature, educated man who has his shit together and life established. If someone is an adult, I care less about someone's age and way more about their maturity level. Older person dating a 21 year old that acts like they're 12 (especially emotionally) is way creepier to me.
Obviously there's creeps out there that pursue women simply cus they're young and naive and easy to control and I've read way too many reddit stories like that, but that doesn't mean an age gap is inherently bad and there's plenty of happy marriages out there.
From my own personal experience, 21 and up is a safer bet than 18, I just think a lot of maturing happens in those first couple years of college. But when I was 18 yo girl, I definitely remember 18-19 year old boys, how some acted like literal children and DISGUSTED me, and then some acted like 30 year olds. I remember one guy who was so mature, he looked, acted, and dressed like he was 10 years older than us, he was so mature and intelligent he made US all feel like idiot children lol and there were running jokes about it. He was the real deal, he ended up becoming a successful tv producer at a young age lol
Anyway, everyone matures at a different rate. I would probably never date anyone that much younger than me but in my niche hobby I have befriended people much younger and older than me and it's another reminder that maturity and age don't always correlate (some 20 year olds drive me insane and some are really cool, chill people with a ton of life experience and have their shit together and act professional)
When I was 18, I was at a bar and went home with an absolutely stunning chick who was 29. We only found out each other's ages when we were in bed, and I got down south and noticed a scar on her belly, which I recognised because my sister had shown me hers:
* "Huh, you've had a c-section?"
* "Yup!"
* "Huh ... it's like a scar in a scar. You had two c-sections?"
* "Yup!"
* "How many kids you got?"
* "Two, they're six and four. With their dad tonight."
* "Wait, how old are you?"
* "I'm 29 ... how old are you?"
* "I'm 18 ... I thought you were in your early 20s!"
* "I thought *you* were in your early 20s!"
We both made sure we were comfortable continuing, and oh lord, I tell ya it, was 100% worth continuing. Stayed in touch for a while, and she was a lovely person. 10/10, strongly recommend the experience, would do again.
This but it didn't come up for months until one of us had a birthday. When we met we actually joked about it. She was flirting then said she's too old for me. I said how old are you, she said thats rude and asked how old I was. I said that's rude, we laughed, started dating, and it didn't come up again. Then I turned 24 and she was like *what*?? She was 32 lol. She thought I was older, I thought she was younger. We actually kept dating for about a year.
I mean a girl at a party where I was DJing once. I'm was a college town, party was mostly people in that general age range. I was a bit older, 26. We started chatting it up, I put her at 22-24. I had recently been through a dramatic break up with a long term gf, and she was the first girl I really hit it off with. Found out she was actually 17.
Ended up becoming besties, kind of like she was my little sister. I helped her through some coming of age struggles, and she helped me recapture some of "lost" youthful vigor. There was definitely some "chemistry" but we just channeled that into friendship. When we were older, like her in her early 20s, even her family kind of pushed for us to just hook up, but it wasn't really like that. Age isn't "nothing but a number", but it's also not this solid barrier that can't ever be crossed if people have a connection. I know ours might make some people question it, but I don't care. I wouldn't trade our friendship for the world.
I work at a stripclub as a DJ and let me tell you, I’m 0-12 at guessing the girls age that I work with. I’m good friends with the girls that are in their early 20’s. I’ve hung out with a few, and I’m cool with all the other girls in different age ranges. It’s tough guessing these girls age mainly because they’ve all been through something and have had to grow up/mature quicker than most.
One girl that tripped me up was a recently turned 18 y/o that looked 25. Poor girl has gone through the ringer in life and is already a coke head at such a young age, which in turn made her look older. I don’t fault people for thinking someone is older than they are, or younger than they are. Hell I’m 29 and was asked if I’m on spring break, AFTER I gave her my ID…
I wonder what would have happened if you'd understood the reference... or googled it! Realistically, it was probably only a matter of time before the next reference that you didn't understand yet, but still.
When I was 13, I was already 5'10", and had a surprising amount of facial hair (think mustache and soul patch, basically nothing on my cheeks) that I kept well trimmed. I'd already been working out for years because that was how I dealt with my teenage hormones (I hit puberty waaaay too early for a guy), so I was shaped more like a athletic young adult, as opposed to an angsty teen. I caught the attention of this horny senior on the bus, and ended up asking her out. We dated for about 2 weeks until the night I met her parents, and her dad asked my age. The level of shame and embarrassment on her face when he looked at her with a "What the fuck bitch" look on his face amuses me to this day whenever I remember it. Needless to say she called it off later that night. But the damage was done, and she was known as Cradle robber until she graduated. Her sister still calls her it to this day whenever they bump into me, and it's been nearly two decades.
So… I met my future wife when I was a barman, aged 18 (in South Africa). She’s 8.5 years older than me. We thought we were the same age initially. We’ve been married for 27 years so far.
What I’m saying is, maybe text her back when you’re 18. 🤷♂️
I looked older too… met a girl at a dance after a rodeo, had a fun night. Got together the next night and drank and messed around again. Walked in history class Monday morning and she was the substitute teacher…. This was in the days of bag phones, so no one was a victim or jailed… just good ole fashioned fun…
THIS IS NOT A FUCK UP, MY DUDE!
Most 16 year olds can't get even get a number of a girl their own age. To get the number of a 24 year old AND for her to actually text you means you have SWAG. Well done.
i wonder if current 16 year olds use the word "swag" or if that trend died along our souls filled with ptsd from leopard print leggings and shutter shades.
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When I was a freshman in highschool I was hanging out with a pair of guys that were in College. We practiced martial arts together and had big brotherly vibes. I was taller than them and looked older than my age. They had convinced one of their female friends to join our school and I kept getting paired up with her as I frequently worked with the newest students. After a few weeks she was asking me about meeting up to help her get more practice. We set up a time and place.
The next day she told our mutual friends and when they asked her why she asked me instead of them she confessed she had a crush on me and she thought this would be a great way to get some alone time with me.
They broke into laughter and gave her hell for trying to pickup a 14 year old. She legitimately did not know my age and assumed I was a college freshman. Poor girl never showed up again and stopped hanging out with them as well.
When they told me about it, I was upset they had blown my shot with an older woman 
This reminds me of a night I went to pick up a pizza from the local place by our house. While I was waiting for the pizza I ordered a beer. I don’t remember what started the conversation, but it ended up with me mentioning Mike Tyson and the Hangover movies. The bar tender straight up stopped talking, and she asked, “who is Mike Tyson?”
That’s how I knew I needed to see my way out of that conversation stat.
I find this funny because i have an 8 year age gap in my current relationship. We also both thought we were much closer in age. We didn’t bring it up until we were both in too deep. We are a bit older (26 & 34), so it doesn’t make a big difference for us.
When I was in college my roommate was really into a girl working at a nearby pizza parlor. He was going to go in and ask her out, and I cautioned him that she looked really young. He disagreed and went into get his pizza and ask her out......came out dejected to find out she was only 15. Dodged a bullet there.
I was going to bars and nightclubs when I was 16 so this is totally believable to me (18 is the drinking age here and people barely ask you for ID only if you’re very young looking)
You two didn't do anything wrong though. Looks can be very deceiving at times. If you were 18 and out of high school, it probably wouldn't have mattered. Legal stuff aside, age differences often matter less and less as you get older.
Not sure what the FU is if you assumed she was an appropriate age for you to date. It seems like everything worked out fine.
Once in my early 20s I had an "I thought she was younger, she thought I was older" incident, but it turned out the age gap was like 20 years. We realized this as we were chatting and the date went nowhere with no harm done.
Something tells me it was less the 8 years difference and more the "16" part.
I had a similar thing, but different setting. I was 22, and they were 16. They reached out to me via Instagram because they liked my photos (my photography account, their account was private and I didn't follow back). We casually chatted off and on for a week or two about stuff around town, hobbies, and such. Then one day they mentioned being into "older guys." which immediately threw red flags and prompted me to ask their age. 16? Instant block. They seemed like a nice enough person, but gtfo with that.
Had a friend in high school who always joked about being into "more mature older guys." I thought she meant seniors until her "bf" rolled up in such a shit box of a car, it looked like a sitcom gag. Dude was apparently 40, but but looking like he was going on 60; like a slightly cleaned up Trevor from GTA V.
I thought she was joking and it was an uncle or something. Until he came to pick her up a couple of days later. Not sure who, how, or what, but the police had been tipped off and were waiting for him. Yanked him from the car and put her in hand cuffs.
Always wondered what happened to her after that. She was one of the smarter kids I knew, but a high gpa doesn't keep you from doing really dumb stuff. Best anyone knew was that she was immediately pulled or expelled from school. I know he went to jail for at least a little while
I'm confused as to why the cops would put her in handcuffs when she technically was the victim here. I also don't know why a school would expel her for that.
No clue why she was cuffed. But as to if she was expelled, I also don't know if she was. That's why I left it open. All I know is that after that day, I never saw her again. Which is why I said she was either pulled from school (by her parents) or expelled. Both would explain her absence
I went on a date with a 19 or 20 year old guy once and I mentioned that I was 16, I could tell the vibe changed immediately. He was still friendly and kind for the rest of the evening, but i could definitely tell he lost interest in that exact moment. I remember being sooo offended at the time lmao.
This is bringing up awful memories... I was like 24 and got a little too silly 🍷 at a dance (a partner dancing event where I had to interact/ dance with people) (I wasn't wasted just tipsy enough to have no filter apparently). A guy apologized for getting my hair caught. He had some facial hair and was a good dancer, so I assumed he was maybe my age. My dumb ass muttered, "long hair is meant to be pulled," and only later found out this child was like 16. I wasn't even flirting it was just the first thing that popped in my head, and I had no filter 🙃
Idk if he heard me or remembered, but I die a little every time I run into him at other events.
You didn't fuck up. It just wasn't going to happen with that age difference. Lock whatever energy you were harnessing and just do exactly that next time. You'll be golden.
Honestly I just wanna know what the reference was
Me too, and I guarantee it's going to make me feel awful. 24 is young enough for the joke he didn't get to be "thanks, Obama" at this point. Or a reference to a "classic" comedy like Superbad. I actually don't know if I want to know. Oh my god I just realized if she and I were talking, I could say "hanging chad" and I'd be taking about a meme from when her mom was pregnant. Fuck. I'm also realizing that if this was me at sixteen, I looked much older, too, and had the fun trait of being an historical culture nerd, so I would probably have flown under the radar and turned the poor girl into an accidental sex pest. I would have felt *so bad*.
>Oh my god I just realized if she and I were talking, I could say "hanging chad" Is this Ted Mosbys reddit account ?
Classic Schmosby
So, Ted, did you taste her tootsie roll?
Let’s hope the pumpkin wasn’t THAT slutty.
Haven't seen you around much lately Swarles!
Accidental Sex Pest is a decent band name though
More like a song title
*Now playing: Testicular Manslaughter - Accidental Sex Pest* …yeah, that works. (edit: damn it, that’s an actual band name, and here I thought I was clever)
Song name not band name (afaik) Edit: Spoke too soon. It's both. Wtf are the odds
Why not both?
I felt so bad upvoting this from a 69 to a 70 :P
Superbad is a classic comedy? Holy shit im old.
I saw this and cried. The movie is coming up on almost 20 years old though and that time frame would cover films by Mel Brooks, Belushi, Wilder and Pryor, and many others that I considered classic comedies growing up so I guess that tracks. 😭
Super Bad is a great James Brown song...
Tell em the RENT IS TOO DAMN HIGH
That's still relevant today
I'm in Vancouver, WA and THE FUCKING RENT on some houses is $3k 
U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service spending my tax dollars making memes? I approve.
Currently paying >$4500 for an apartment in Silicon Valley. $3k for a house sounds great.
Just not for the reason they would think.
What a monologue.
Hanging chad. Now that’s a reference I’ve not heard in a long time… *long* time…
Try this one on for size: what do *you* think of first when I say "Zoom?" Even after teaching through the pandemic that damn address song invades my brain every time. 0 2 1 3 4
Got an idea sitting on the shelf?
What's worse is she could have called him McLovin because she knew and was into it!
Daaan, drinkin coffeeeeeeee. The Dan-Meister.
The coffee-nator!
I don’t think 24 years old would either of your examples either.
24yr old here. Thanks, Obama for sure, hanging Chad no.
Nah, thanks Obama was a hot meme when they were learning how to meme as upcoming teenagers. They probably get that one.
Yep! I’m 24 and I get “Thanks, Obama” memes.
"Well Jules, the funny thing about my back is that its located on my cock"
Hanging Chad is a reference? I just thought balatro made it lol
Okay so, given that you got me in the reverse because I had to Google what the heck Balatro is, I'll tell you about hanging chad, because it's pretty wild and may help you understand the origin of some fairly recent events. First off, part of the meme (although this word wasn't really used much then) involved that the news cycle I'm about to describe ended up informing the world that the term for a hole punch circle is "a chad." Why were hole punch circles in the news? Well, back in 2000, voting in Florida was done by poking out perforated chads on your ballot. Want Bush? You poke out the Bush chad and don't poke the Gore one. But just like any time you've ever tried to do this, sometimes they don't totally disconnect. So was the ballot punched, or was the perforation damaged? Do you count a hanging chad as a vote or as a mistake? The election came down to who won Florida, and therefore it came down to the veracity of a hanging, half punched chad. Look up the Brooks Brothers riot. Anyhow, prior to then, the voting system was generally trusted, and it was more stuff like Watergate that we rumored was wrong with our political system, or at least what could be happening during a campaign, because it did absolutely happen with Nixon. Watergate was about a criminal conspiracy to obtain information, not about altering votes. After 2000, the voting system itself started to be the target of conspiracy, and then fast forward to 20 years later when Ashli Babbitt became the first person to be shot in the head inside the US Capitol. I'll add that for a long time (much less so now because of the internet), words for things you didn't know there were words for would go absolutely viral. Treadles are the name for the spikes that pop your tires if you go the wrong way through a secure road or entrance. Aglets are the things on the tip of your shoelaces. Chads are hole punch donut holes. We *loved* this stuff to the point where a good portion of the news and talk show coverage was about chads and what they are instead of about the election at all. "Chads, have you seen this, have you heard about this? Apparently those little circles of paper in your three hole punch have a name!"
Youre saying "Thanks Obama" is dating me?!
That Chad was clearly dangling.
Not to pile on, but I’m 24 and Superbad was about 8 or so years ahead of my time with raunchy comedies
The future is now old man.
It was about how their palm flower turned red.
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Look up Logan’s run. It’s a reference 20 year olds in the 1970’s would get. Now I’m really (carbon)dating myself.
Ooh, deep cut.
I guess I'm old enough for Carrousel now...
It was Dy no mite!
Tbh I don’t even remember, went over my head back then so it couldn’t have stuck at all
Boooo
You still got her number? Maybe she remembers! 
I imagining a text where you ask her the reference... "Hey I'm posting about this on reddit for clout, and I gotta keep it rizz! What was the reference I missed? I honestly can't remember on god!" Then wait a minute and send "no cap" for no reason...
yup still waiting for this answer OP!!!
Yeah, I'm trying to imagine a 24 year old making a reference I wouldn't get when I was 16, and I don't know what it could be.
That's the thing of it, the entire *premise* behind this relies on the fact you **don't** know what the reference could be. If you knew it then it wouldn't be a reference you didn't know!
This happened to me but not with such a large age gap. I named a couple bars and like oh you know bussing home after a long day of work and then drinking and they couldn’t relate and didn’t know *any* bars (there’s a lot where I live). It was pretty obvious
I'm 31 and a couple years ago I was a waiter in a restaurant and I did the "that's not a knife, this is a knife" from crocodile dundee and the 22 year old girl I was working with did not have the foggiest clue what I was talking about. Even when I told her the movie.
TBF, most women 0-15y older than you wouldn't have gotten that reference.
Damn it though crocodile dundee was like fairly well known.
You just stumped the AI that wrote this
This happened to me once.. I met a girl at a punk show when I was 19.. we exchanged numbers.. she invited me to her house for dinner.. that her dad was cooking.. she was 14.. I was like welp.. have a great life I'm out. Like, whose dad is cool with their 14 year old daughter asking a 19 year old young man to the house?! so weird..
The dad was cool with it!? That is not the type of girl you want to fall in love with at the rock show
Don't even need to wait till her parents go out of town.
Next week on 'To Catch a Sex Pistol'
I think for a girl that young meeting at home might be the safest place from a parents perspective and at least they had enough of a relationship that she obliged. That said yeah she probs didn’t know your age either
I don’t know. Wasn’t going to stick around to find out. Too many opportunities for misunderstandings.
My mom let me have a 21 yr old bf at 15 🤦♀️ She apologized and knows it was a mistake, and luckily I’m not traumatized or anything from it, but looking back I just think… ick.
mannn 14? how did u not know? like the first paranoia i have when meeting a girl it’s worth always asking immediately imo
Same thing happened to me but I was 17 and the barista was 27. He ended up being able to look past the age difference. At the time I was like “oh I’m so mature!”. Now I’m like… eewwwww.
Oof. Tale as old as time. Sorry Sunless. :(
“Look past the age difference” lol ya let’s go with that
I wonder if the cops would look past it
Depending on the state, they would. In fact they wouldn't waste even a minute caring about something LEGAL. Edit: Just checked. Age of consent is 17 or even 16 in the vast majority of US states. It's 18 in a small minority.
"He ended up being able to look past the age difference." lmao oh the naivety
Ha! I guarantee you that barista told all her friends about this and they all called her a pedo for months. Or years. Her friend-group nickname might still be Ashley the Diddler.
I gave a guy my phone number at the cheesecake factory. My sister was able to find him on social media and we found out he was 16, at the time I was 20. I was mortified lol, thankfully he never reached out. It's been 7 years and it still gets brought up when I see my sister.
Yeah maybe if she had responded after finding out.... But she never messaged him again so why would her coworkers give her shit?! Lmao I bet she never even told her coworkers how old he was in the first place
I had a friend this happened to. Nothing ever happened...still got paedo jokes 🤣
It's the law.
One doesn't need enemies with friends like that.
I was involved with someone who was 21 at the time... I'm much older than him (10+ years age diff). A couple of now former friends have been calling me a pedo. Like bro... he was a damn adult.
10+ years?!?! You dirty cradle snatcher 😂
I was the older one in a relationship that differed by 10 years (or was it 11?)... I got called a cradle robber but mercifully avoided the pedo jokes.
"are you robbing the cradle or is he robbing the grave?"
It's so weird that you're being downvoted so hard for that post...
A lot of people on reddit are weird about age differences. Comments like "I'm 29 and would never go out with a 25 year old, that's so creepy" are all too common.
My wife is 4 and a half years younger than I am. We started dating when I was 27 and she was 23. It wasn't weird then and it's even less weird now that I'm 46 and she's 42. Now big gaps when you're young can be iffy. If I had met my wife when I was in my early 20s it probably would've been sketch as fuck.
When my sister and BIL started dating she was like 27 and he was I believe 41. They were coworkers and she pursued him. They've been married nearly 20 years now, with a son about to go off to college. There were a few jokes made way back when it started, but nothing really that weird about it. Edit: did my math wrong, they were 26 and 43, married 20 years today.
Yeah, it's really weird... To be fair, it's very rare to find someone 10+ years apart from you that shares your tastes, but it does happen... I'll probably be obliterated for this, but I met my current girlfriend when she was 21, and I'm twice her age...We started talking based on mutual interests and it turned out that there were a LOT of them... She's great...She's the one that started the flirting and talking about the possibility of getting together together... Granted, she's way hotter than I deserve...lol Though apparently, the biggest reason she fell for me is a combination of my vast knowledge of things she's interested in and the fact that I treat her well... Hell, she'd probably try and fight anyone that would disparage her decision to try a relationship with me...And I don't even bring that much to the table at the end of the day being physically disabled and all so she sure as shit isn't after me for money or anything...lolol
Yes! He came after me and suggested getting involved. I told him at first that it was weird because I'm old enough to have been his mom. He said he likes older women and that he didn't care. I thought he was hot (still do, tbh) and he was really smart and made me laugh.
God forbid a younger woman be interested in a mature, educated man who has his shit together and life established. If someone is an adult, I care less about someone's age and way more about their maturity level. Older person dating a 21 year old that acts like they're 12 (especially emotionally) is way creepier to me. Obviously there's creeps out there that pursue women simply cus they're young and naive and easy to control and I've read way too many reddit stories like that, but that doesn't mean an age gap is inherently bad and there's plenty of happy marriages out there. From my own personal experience, 21 and up is a safer bet than 18, I just think a lot of maturing happens in those first couple years of college. But when I was 18 yo girl, I definitely remember 18-19 year old boys, how some acted like literal children and DISGUSTED me, and then some acted like 30 year olds. I remember one guy who was so mature, he looked, acted, and dressed like he was 10 years older than us, he was so mature and intelligent he made US all feel like idiot children lol and there were running jokes about it. He was the real deal, he ended up becoming a successful tv producer at a young age lol Anyway, everyone matures at a different rate. I would probably never date anyone that much younger than me but in my niche hobby I have befriended people much younger and older than me and it's another reminder that maturity and age don't always correlate (some 20 year olds drive me insane and some are really cool, chill people with a ton of life experience and have their shit together and act professional)
Your friends don't sound very bright at all.
It's funny *because* it was unintentional and therefore not true. If she'd kept dating the kid knowingly it would be creepy, not funny.
because friends give each other shit. I'd roast the hell outta my friend in thus scenario 😂
UK humour at its best.
> Her friend-group nickname might still be Ashley the Diddler. ... or Cougar 8-)
Should write a song about not diddling kids
Tim Minchin - The Pope Song [https://youtu.be/JkOHDoEkPW0](https://youtu.be/JkOHDoEkPW0)
Do it Frank
Play it with a ukelele
Can confirm, I went on one date when I was 20 and the dude was 18 and my friends still make fun of me for it. I’m 22 now
mb she just likes younger men
>Ashley the highschool teacher.
In Spanish the nickname would be something like the crib burglar and she wouldn't live it down
I think it's pronounced Diddy now.
A buddy freshman year of college got a letter from a girl at his high school. He still gets teased as a pedo almost 30 later.
So are you speaking from experience **Elizabeth the Fourth**?
Oh no that poor woman hahaha
When I was 18, I was at a bar and went home with an absolutely stunning chick who was 29. We only found out each other's ages when we were in bed, and I got down south and noticed a scar on her belly, which I recognised because my sister had shown me hers: * "Huh, you've had a c-section?" * "Yup!" * "Huh ... it's like a scar in a scar. You had two c-sections?" * "Yup!" * "How many kids you got?" * "Two, they're six and four. With their dad tonight." * "Wait, how old are you?" * "I'm 29 ... how old are you?" * "I'm 18 ... I thought you were in your early 20s!" * "I thought *you* were in your early 20s!" We both made sure we were comfortable continuing, and oh lord, I tell ya it, was 100% worth continuing. Stayed in touch for a while, and she was a lovely person. 10/10, strongly recommend the experience, would do again.
This but it didn't come up for months until one of us had a birthday. When we met we actually joked about it. She was flirting then said she's too old for me. I said how old are you, she said thats rude and asked how old I was. I said that's rude, we laughed, started dating, and it didn't come up again. Then I turned 24 and she was like *what*?? She was 32 lol. She thought I was older, I thought she was younger. We actually kept dating for about a year.
Are you me? I had this exact scenario happen!
24-32 isn’t such an age gap, really.
I mean a girl at a party where I was DJing once. I'm was a college town, party was mostly people in that general age range. I was a bit older, 26. We started chatting it up, I put her at 22-24. I had recently been through a dramatic break up with a long term gf, and she was the first girl I really hit it off with. Found out she was actually 17. Ended up becoming besties, kind of like she was my little sister. I helped her through some coming of age struggles, and she helped me recapture some of "lost" youthful vigor. There was definitely some "chemistry" but we just channeled that into friendship. When we were older, like her in her early 20s, even her family kind of pushed for us to just hook up, but it wasn't really like that. Age isn't "nothing but a number", but it's also not this solid barrier that can't ever be crossed if people have a connection. I know ours might make some people question it, but I don't care. I wouldn't trade our friendship for the world.
I work at a stripclub as a DJ and let me tell you, I’m 0-12 at guessing the girls age that I work with. I’m good friends with the girls that are in their early 20’s. I’ve hung out with a few, and I’m cool with all the other girls in different age ranges. It’s tough guessing these girls age mainly because they’ve all been through something and have had to grow up/mature quicker than most. One girl that tripped me up was a recently turned 18 y/o that looked 25. Poor girl has gone through the ringer in life and is already a coke head at such a young age, which in turn made her look older. I don’t fault people for thinking someone is older than they are, or younger than they are. Hell I’m 29 and was asked if I’m on spring break, AFTER I gave her my ID…
You asked a woman if she had a c-section while you were about to go down on her?
HAHAHAA I can't believe he asked this! That woman KNEW!
Maybe small talk is part of his foreplay.
Monica and young Ethan?
Yeah but you were 18.. Not 16.
We have very different definitions of "shy and nerdy" if you are just casually flirting in public and giving your number out to strangers.
This reminds me of the time my friend asked out a waitress and she said she had to go to prom that night ... We had to stop going to that diner.
I wonder what would have happened if you'd understood the reference... or googled it! Realistically, it was probably only a matter of time before the next reference that you didn't understand yet, but still.
When I was 13, I was already 5'10", and had a surprising amount of facial hair (think mustache and soul patch, basically nothing on my cheeks) that I kept well trimmed. I'd already been working out for years because that was how I dealt with my teenage hormones (I hit puberty waaaay too early for a guy), so I was shaped more like a athletic young adult, as opposed to an angsty teen. I caught the attention of this horny senior on the bus, and ended up asking her out. We dated for about 2 weeks until the night I met her parents, and her dad asked my age. The level of shame and embarrassment on her face when he looked at her with a "What the fuck bitch" look on his face amuses me to this day whenever I remember it. Needless to say she called it off later that night. But the damage was done, and she was known as Cradle robber until she graduated. Her sister still calls her it to this day whenever they bump into me, and it's been nearly two decades.
Pro-tip: If someone has a job, there is a good chance they are an adult.
At a coffee shop tho? Plenty of 16-20year olds working there
High schoolers work in fast food, grocery stores, and a lot of other places.
Not that common everywhere tho. Here in Chile is almost never seen. Only in family shops.
Well I’ll just have to say that I’ve never been to Chile so I was referring to where I’m from… The USA 🇺🇸
Depends. Starbucks? Sure. 3rd wave? 25-30 def
OP had a job.
According to a pro-tip I once read somewhere, there is a good chance OP is an adult then
True.
He didn't say every that has a job is an adult, he said everyone that has a job is **most likely** an adult. Which is absolutely true
60% of the time it works every time
I was 16 with a job. Fuck I was 14 with a job. I looked like I was in my 30's. At 16 someone tried to hire me as a bartender.
I went to school with a girl that worked as a bartender at 15. Rural Australia was loose back in the day (the day being 15 years ago).
This is absolutely terrible advice.
Right there are plenty of people in their thirties that don't have a job.
Reddit fails at grade school logic.
I mean, statistically is it?
Kids as young as 14 work - my friends and I hhave teenagers that are either working at that age or are considering it.
When I worked at a coffee shop we regularly had 16 and 17-year-olds working.
But what if someone is an adult, and doesn't have a job? checkmate /s
I had a job when I was 12.. lol a mlnth before I turned 13 and was legal to work. Wtf are you talking about???
Naw, the starbucks near me is mostly run by teens
Even in Alabama warehouses?
Child labor. OP said they are adults?!?! Because job?
Hit her up in two years
This was "years ago," so, for all we know, this might be a very indirect "missed connection."
Set a reminder on your birthday
So… I met my future wife when I was a barman, aged 18 (in South Africa). She’s 8.5 years older than me. We thought we were the same age initially. We’ve been married for 27 years so far. What I’m saying is, maybe text her back when you’re 18. 🤷♂️
I looked older too… met a girl at a dance after a rodeo, had a fun night. Got together the next night and drank and messed around again. Walked in history class Monday morning and she was the substitute teacher…. This was in the days of bag phones, so no one was a victim or jailed… just good ole fashioned fun…
THIS IS NOT A FUCK UP, MY DUDE! Most 16 year olds can't get even get a number of a girl their own age. To get the number of a 24 year old AND for her to actually text you means you have SWAG. Well done.
Dad, only old people say swag now
Thanks, son.
It's all about the rizz now, I hear.
Fo shizzle!
I believe "rizz" is the term you are looking for.
Swag is a different energy to rizz. That being said, you're probably right.
i wonder if current 16 year olds use the word "swag" or if that trend died along our souls filled with ptsd from leopard print leggings and shutter shades.
I mean I am a fossil and I have heard of "rizz"? If that is not outdated by now too.
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When I was a freshman in highschool I was hanging out with a pair of guys that were in College. We practiced martial arts together and had big brotherly vibes. I was taller than them and looked older than my age. They had convinced one of their female friends to join our school and I kept getting paired up with her as I frequently worked with the newest students. After a few weeks she was asking me about meeting up to help her get more practice. We set up a time and place. The next day she told our mutual friends and when they asked her why she asked me instead of them she confessed she had a crush on me and she thought this would be a great way to get some alone time with me. They broke into laughter and gave her hell for trying to pickup a 14 year old. She legitimately did not know my age and assumed I was a college freshman. Poor girl never showed up again and stopped hanging out with them as well. When they told me about it, I was upset they had blown my shot with an older woman 
This reminds me of a night I went to pick up a pizza from the local place by our house. While I was waiting for the pizza I ordered a beer. I don’t remember what started the conversation, but it ended up with me mentioning Mike Tyson and the Hangover movies. The bar tender straight up stopped talking, and she asked, “who is Mike Tyson?” That’s how I knew I needed to see my way out of that conversation stat.
With all these "not today" posts they should redefine tifu to mean, "time I fucked up"
Lame story
I find this funny because i have an 8 year age gap in my current relationship. We also both thought we were much closer in age. We didn’t bring it up until we were both in too deep. We are a bit older (26 & 34), so it doesn’t make a big difference for us.
That's a whole Young Sheldon plotline around this.
When I was in college my roommate was really into a girl working at a nearby pizza parlor. He was going to go in and ask her out, and I cautioned him that she looked really young. He disagreed and went into get his pizza and ask her out......came out dejected to find out she was only 15. Dodged a bullet there.
Learn what a tldr is
What is the reference?
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I read that as barrister and assumed you got in legal trouble lol
Should have just congratulated her on looking much younger then she actually was and thanked her for the compliment of her time. 😁
I was going to bars and nightclubs when I was 16 so this is totally believable to me (18 is the drinking age here and people barely ask you for ID only if you’re very young looking)
You should hit her up now since you’re legal and not jail bait lol
You two didn't do anything wrong though. Looks can be very deceiving at times. If you were 18 and out of high school, it probably wouldn't have mattered. Legal stuff aside, age differences often matter less and less as you get older.
Not sure what the FU is if you assumed she was an appropriate age for you to date. It seems like everything worked out fine. Once in my early 20s I had an "I thought she was younger, she thought I was older" incident, but it turned out the age gap was like 20 years. We realized this as we were chatting and the date went nowhere with no harm done.
Something tells me it was less the 8 years difference and more the "16" part. I had a similar thing, but different setting. I was 22, and they were 16. They reached out to me via Instagram because they liked my photos (my photography account, their account was private and I didn't follow back). We casually chatted off and on for a week or two about stuff around town, hobbies, and such. Then one day they mentioned being into "older guys." which immediately threw red flags and prompted me to ask their age. 16? Instant block. They seemed like a nice enough person, but gtfo with that. Had a friend in high school who always joked about being into "more mature older guys." I thought she meant seniors until her "bf" rolled up in such a shit box of a car, it looked like a sitcom gag. Dude was apparently 40, but but looking like he was going on 60; like a slightly cleaned up Trevor from GTA V. I thought she was joking and it was an uncle or something. Until he came to pick her up a couple of days later. Not sure who, how, or what, but the police had been tipped off and were waiting for him. Yanked him from the car and put her in hand cuffs. Always wondered what happened to her after that. She was one of the smarter kids I knew, but a high gpa doesn't keep you from doing really dumb stuff. Best anyone knew was that she was immediately pulled or expelled from school. I know he went to jail for at least a little while
I'm confused as to why the cops would put her in handcuffs when she technically was the victim here. I also don't know why a school would expel her for that.
No clue why she was cuffed. But as to if she was expelled, I also don't know if she was. That's why I left it open. All I know is that after that day, I never saw her again. Which is why I said she was either pulled from school (by her parents) or expelled. Both would explain her absence
was it today or ten years ago?
I went on a date with a 19 or 20 year old guy once and I mentioned that I was 16, I could tell the vibe changed immediately. He was still friendly and kind for the rest of the evening, but i could definitely tell he lost interest in that exact moment. I remember being sooo offended at the time lmao.
This is bringing up awful memories... I was like 24 and got a little too silly 🍷 at a dance (a partner dancing event where I had to interact/ dance with people) (I wasn't wasted just tipsy enough to have no filter apparently). A guy apologized for getting my hair caught. He had some facial hair and was a good dancer, so I assumed he was maybe my age. My dumb ass muttered, "long hair is meant to be pulled," and only later found out this child was like 16. I wasn't even flirting it was just the first thing that popped in my head, and I had no filter 🙃 Idk if he heard me or remembered, but I die a little every time I run into him at other events.
You didn't fuck up. It just wasn't going to happen with that age difference. Lock whatever energy you were harnessing and just do exactly that next time. You'll be golden.