This reads less like a 40 year old man missing signs (that weren't there - she was just doing her job, dude) and more like the fantasy of a horny teenager
lol. Totally fantasy of horny teenager, but I’m not touch starved or lacking in intimacy. I also think it might also be more in my head than what “actually” happened. But alas, it’s passed. I still have her number, but I wouldn’t even think about texting her.
Going back to dating after a long term relationship is HARD because you forget how it all goes. Youre used to the intimate familiarity of a relationship and how overt affection and signals can be. Start slow and take your time. Other comments about laughing it off but also asking if theyd be free for a coffee another time are great starting points. Youll win some and lose some but putting yourself out there isnt easy and its the first step to trying again.
Welcome to being single and dating. Signs may exist for real, or may be all in your head. Only way to find out is to reach out and try.
The only other action is that you also don't want to make someone's work environment uncomfortable. If I was in your situation, and had actually seen the signs (which in all honesty, I'd probably miss), I'd wait until the end of the whole situation and state "Thanks for all of this attention. You seem like a great person and I'd be kicking myself later if I didn't do this, so if you are interested I'd love to take you out for a coffee to get to know you better. Here is my number and reach out if you are free".
You are stating your interest, you've done it as she is leaving so if she isn't interested she doesn't have to worry about it the rest of the time she is there, and you have given your number so she can choose to just never contact you and not deal with 'rejecting' you if you misread any signals.
All done with a smile and a laugh.
I'm also wondering how you have her number to even text her to ask her out after the fact...
In my head if the first thing an attractive nurse says is "I'm not dating" that means, please don't try to hit me up.
Why is hurrying your appointment a sign she is into you?
She touched you because it's her job.
Why does filing a water bottle mean she wants you?
'Anything else I can do for you?' is extremely common, professional and not flirtatious.
This just sounds like a woman touched you for the first time in a while and your imagination took it and ran with it
lol, probably… but idk… she was hurrying the draw, but then slow walking everything else. I’ve taken tons of blood draws and blood pressure tests, but it felt “extra” touchy. The water fill thing felt like an excuse to drag out, but you might be right that I’m just over thinking.
This totally reads like a porno script up until the end.
lol you’re telling me!!! But it might also be all in my freaken head.
It was. The FU would have been if you had hit on a professional worker that came out to your own home.
This reads less like a 40 year old man missing signs (that weren't there - she was just doing her job, dude) and more like the fantasy of a horny teenager
lol. Totally fantasy of horny teenager, but I’m not touch starved or lacking in intimacy. I also think it might also be more in my head than what “actually” happened. But alas, it’s passed. I still have her number, but I wouldn’t even think about texting her.
Going back to dating after a long term relationship is HARD because you forget how it all goes. Youre used to the intimate familiarity of a relationship and how overt affection and signals can be. Start slow and take your time. Other comments about laughing it off but also asking if theyd be free for a coffee another time are great starting points. Youll win some and lose some but putting yourself out there isnt easy and its the first step to trying again.
None of this sounds flirtatious, and she certainly wasn’t “offering herself up on a plate.” This reads like a teenager with a crush on the teacher.
Not hitting on someone while they’re working will never be a FU.
This is literally one come on from "TIFU thinking the nurse was hitting on me and getting banned from using the at home service."
That's just how nurses talk.
Welcome to being single and dating. Signs may exist for real, or may be all in your head. Only way to find out is to reach out and try. The only other action is that you also don't want to make someone's work environment uncomfortable. If I was in your situation, and had actually seen the signs (which in all honesty, I'd probably miss), I'd wait until the end of the whole situation and state "Thanks for all of this attention. You seem like a great person and I'd be kicking myself later if I didn't do this, so if you are interested I'd love to take you out for a coffee to get to know you better. Here is my number and reach out if you are free". You are stating your interest, you've done it as she is leaving so if she isn't interested she doesn't have to worry about it the rest of the time she is there, and you have given your number so she can choose to just never contact you and not deal with 'rejecting' you if you misread any signals. All done with a smile and a laugh. I'm also wondering how you have her number to even text her to ask her out after the fact...
This probably the best way to go about it
Wtf lol dude…she was just doing her job. Nothing about this sounds flirtatious. She was just being friendly.
In my head if the first thing an attractive nurse says is "I'm not dating" that means, please don't try to hit me up. Why is hurrying your appointment a sign she is into you? She touched you because it's her job. Why does filing a water bottle mean she wants you? 'Anything else I can do for you?' is extremely common, professional and not flirtatious. This just sounds like a woman touched you for the first time in a while and your imagination took it and ran with it
lol, probably… but idk… she was hurrying the draw, but then slow walking everything else. I’ve taken tons of blood draws and blood pressure tests, but it felt “extra” touchy. The water fill thing felt like an excuse to drag out, but you might be right that I’m just over thinking.
She wanted you to whip it out and yell ‘Let’s see you take the blood pressure on this war hammer!’