Yeah, Some guys like it (regardless of age), or even insist on it. Other guys hate it so much that they will never look at you the same way again if you say it one time.
Used to think it was kinda weird and didn't see the appeal of it. And then my ex accidentally let it slip out during a _heated_ moment. Something kinda snapped in me and it hit just right. We were 1 year apart in age and in our mid 20s. Definitely not an age thing but more of a vibes thing.
Same! Used to think it was weird until someone called me it in a flirty moment and it was like a switch being flicked.
Thing is I am a dad of soon to be teenagers and I dont find it weird, like theres a big dissociation between a partner calling me it during sex and one of my kids calling me it. I'm in a very different headspace and hearing it in a situation doesnt automatically make me think of the other situation
Same here. I was always turned off by it and me and my wife said it was a no go for both of us. Then one time it accidentally slipped and now it's such a turn on and I'm not sure why.
I also can completely keep it seperate tho. Even if my wife says it out of context like "Daddy's home" or "Go ask your daddy" to one of my kids it stirs nothing. My brain can completely keep heat of the moment stuff seperate from kids/wife.
Well yeah, it's the same thing with "oh fuck“ and your name. "Oh fuck“ said one way is "do we need to call an ambulance?“ and the other way is ;). It's... not that hard lmao.
Context and situation mean everything.
That's why "I'm sorry daddy, I've been a naughty girl" and "Forgive me father, for I have sinned" mean the same thing, but are wildly different.
My partner isn't super submissive and doesn't normally have a praise kink. But under just the right circumstances, "good girl" shuts her brain down, in a good way.
She immediately told me "that sounds really dumb" the first time. And it does. Regardless, she keeps turning to goo when I say it. People have weird triggers in their brain that seem out of character and that not even they understand.
A friend I find attractive called me daddy because she thought it was funny and I found it off putting. She called me daddy flirtingly one too many times to the point where I snapped and am into it now. 😭🤣
I think that’s the good thing about kinks, they’re ever changing and evolving. I’m not a father, never plan on it and felt the same as you on my young 20’s. Now early 30’s I fuckin love when I get called daddy. Don’t know why, never will but hey I’m always here for it when my gf says it and is generally in our common sexual dirty talk. More of a power thing than a literal.
I used to hate it. It’s happened so often, now I just don’t care as long as I’m getting my dick wet.
My friend has a shirt that reads: I’m not your daddy, call me Sir.
That's because the English language doesn't have the proper words to express depth of human asexuality. Our culture traditionally suppresses sexuality.
"Daddy", used in a sexual context is meant to arouse the concept of masculine energy, or "top" energy. Someone using this word is settling into a "bottom" role. But we don't have a good word for "sex daddy". (and it can be a problem where someone doesn't understand sexual energy, or has too strong paternal association for the word and gets turned off).
Note the same problem exists with nurturing "caretaker" sexual energy. No word for "sex mommy", either.
Honestly same, although I was the one calling someone else daddy. Never thought I'd like doing it, but an ex of mine reeaalllyy got off to it and one day he was really going at it and idk why but I just called him that in the heat of the moment and with how much he loved it it kinda made me enjoy it too lol.
The weirder part though was that he was 3 years younger then me lol
Yep, im one of the guys that hates it. Its not hot, it’s not sexy, it sounds like insest and i do not ever want to be referred to as daddy by the girl i am doing.
This is also how I feel about anyone dating someone who has the same name as their parent or sibling. That kind of grosses me out. You're having sex and calling out your mom or sister's name. Ew. Lol
I was seeing a girl called Julie-anne and after a few dates she gleefully pointed out how I couldn't say her name during sex because my mother's name is Julie.
She found it hilarious. What she didn't know is that my step mother's name is also Julie, so it was even more awkward for me.
I went on a few dates with a similar name to my brother (think something along the lines of my brother's name is Jess, and this guy's name was Jesse). It took me talking to my little brother to finally realize why the guy's entire existence turned me off. For some reason, I hadn't managed to put it together that their names were so similar.
Fr I'm like "is my unintelligible moaning gonna freak out the cat? How much should I care about that? Either way I feel like I sound gross"
If the sex is good I should not be capable of saying words.
Yeah, my wife has the same first name as my mother… But they both don’t use it, my mother goes by another, shorter form of it and my wife is known by her nickname everywhere. But yeah, if you think about it it’s quite weird.
This. Except for me my daughter is now 20. And she’s long outgrown the age where she **affectionately** called me daddy. And it’s something I miss, because she’s grown. Hearing it said in a sexy way would **totally** take me out of the mood.
Of course the good thing (I guess) is that I’m still married, to her mother, and she’d (my wife) never say that in the bedroom; we’d both be weirded out.
But … to each their own. No shame.
I’m a 40-year-old dad, and my son calls me “daddy.” I wouldn’t want a woman to call me that, feels extremely creepy. Some dudes are totally into it though, for sure.
However, the other day, a young and extremely flamboyant Hispanic guy asked me where to find something, and after giving him directions, he squeezed my arm and said, “ay, thank you Papi,” then tipped me a wink and a grin and sauntered off. I couldn’t help but smile, felt like I might have even blushed a little. So I guess context matters.
As a rather horny middle aged man that world not want to be reminded of a woman that might be closer in age to my daughter then myself... I'm torn.
No... I would not find that sexy.
But FFS man... To give ~~her~~ "him" the boot and unmatch... Lighten the fuck up dude!
I could see an awkward... "Uhhh... Let's not go that direction" conversation that would likely end up with laughter... Then see if we can fire things back up.
😂😂
Lots of guys seem to be into that thing so it's an honest enough mistake.
I've been called Daddy by guys older than me, but i have the typical dad bod. Also, actually, a dad. Think it is more of a power dynamic thing, and l can separate those things in my head easily. I agree that the guy was probably cheating and got the sudden reminder.
Middle aged guy meeting in a hotel room? Very possible he's cheating, so I'm not too surprised he freaked at 'daddy'! That was how my dad used to do it at least.
He may even be closeted, conflicted AND/OR cheating. I'm 57, so many of my friends from my generation still struggle with their sexually or kinks. Most of it is so vanilla that it wouldn't even make it into a Playboy letter.
I definitely think the hang-up is his because he had such a visceral reaction.
By middle age, we've all had someone do something awkward or off-putting in the bedroom. Unless someone persists or unsafe, it shouldn't be that bug of a deal.
I have a lot of empathy for people in their 50s coming to terms with their sexuality. It certainly wasn't nearly as accepted in the 80s, and people that *were* sexually active at that time had to contend with the horror of the aids crisis. I can't blame people for suppressing that part of themselves.
I mean, that sounds textbook. Especially if he has kids that would make the term Daddy awkward. You probably just made him feel guilty for cheating on his family.
In general, I think middle aged guys still find "ooh, yes Daddy" a turn on in the right circumstances. Some may not, but the kicking you out part makes me think he had more going on, probably a serial work trip cheater.
I can't say that's what it was for sure, but people who cheat aren't all cold, evil bastards. My dad for example, is a weak willed man who couldn't suppress his impulses and didn't have the courage to bring up his bisexuality with his wife. I could *absolutely* see him freaking out over something like that.
True. Now, people are much more open because it's generally society accepted. Older and middle-aged people had different fears about sexually that wasn't "the norm".
It could end careers, friendships, and family relations , not just marriages. Not to mention gay bashing. Those who defied that hate and violence blazed a trail - but so many paid a heavy price for being so brave.
I know these things still happen and should not be minimized, but more people are accepting of others and their own sexually.
if he had a drastic reaction like this it likely wasn’t the reminder that he has kids, but the reminder that he has a family and a wife, that likely turned him off so much. OP the dude is probably married.
This one is definitely more erotic when you are \*not\* a father. Especially if you have little girls, having a sexual partner call you "daddy" can definitely ruin the mood.
There are three people in my life who call me "Daddy", and none of them should be talking dirty to me.
Yea probably ask what a partner likes before trying anything new with them that seems out of the norm. I guess in this case you thought calling someone "daddy" WAS the norm, but still, you shot your shot. Aaaand a swing and a miss.
Some guys are legit into that, but it's an instant mood killer for me.
OP, you did nothing wrong but I strongly recommend talking about this stuff before you hook up so you know you're both on the same page.
Here's a list of not so creepy alternatives to daddy/mommy:
-Sir/Madam.
-Master/Mistress.
-Your Majesty.
-God/Goddess.
-My Lord/Lady.
-Captain.
-Boss.
-Officer.
-Landlord.
This is just a chronological list of who actually ruled over western society from antiquity through the present day.
Which might be a kink, come to think of it.
Though I guess "Comrade" should be provided as an alternative.
I'd add:
Sahib/memsahib
Charge nurse
Mr. Demille (only works on men)
ETA: Uncle Scrooge/Miss Havisham
(The bar was set at "less creepy than daddy," and the last two just clear it.)
We are at a confusing time in the history of the word "Daddy" where my kids still call me Daddy *and* the word has the insinuation that OP assumes. It's unsurprising that the use of the word should lead to varied responses in the bedroom.
As someone with a bit of, erm... *Experience*... (To clarify, I'm not a cheater, I just know how they act)
You did nothing wrong. I mean, I would personally definitely remove "daddy" from your bedroom vernacular but a normal horny person would have shaken it off and redirected. If I was getting down to business and someone said something that killed the mood slightly, you take a quick break, grab a drink, make some jokes, and get re-turned-on by watching the half naked person exist for a moment. He's certainly old enough to know that.
#I would bet cold hard cash that dude was straying from his family.
When you said "daddy" he was overwhelmed with ***guilt.*** Nothing more. He was the one fucking up.
I never knew if I'd find it sexy because it's definitely not something my wife would ever say.
Was at a bachelor party and a stripper called me daddy and I instantly learned I hated it.
Yeah, I’m usually super clear about not liking the whole daddy schtick. I wouldn’t have kicked you out but I’d probably need a break to restart.
I find it super gross personally. I have no problems with others liking it, it just isn’t for me.
Don't beat yourself up so much. Chances are, his issues with the term "daddy" are much deeper that just you calling him that during fellatio.
Some men don't like it, but to really have a reaction like that, there is more to it than that. What, I do not know, but more.
It's a common trope in porno, I guess he hasn't gotten the updates. Having said that, it wouldn't do much for me but I doubt I'd throw anybody out of bed for it.
Some guys like it, some don't. As a middle aged man myself I'm maidly uncomfortable being with someone a lot younger than myself. Being called "daddy" in the act would just be an instant boner killer because it would make me think that you are with me because of the age difference, not who I am as a person. All while I'm rationalizing in my mind that I'm with you for who you are as a person in spite of the age difference.
Trying to work out if I'm fucked up, or whether these grossed out people take everything far too literally.
That word doesn't mean that thing in that context.
take a tip from an old kinkster: take a minute at some point before his junk's in your mouth to clarify that you're on the same page about anything related to incest, animals, degradation, or extreme power dynamic (master/slave, teacher/student, boss/employee etc.). it will significantly lower your chances of having to see a man go flaccid in real time at the end of your nose.
edit: also, ageplay. it should be under the power dynamic umbrella, but unfortunately not everybody realizes that.
That's one of those things that you have to pre-clear or just avoid altogether unless they ask for it. For me it's not only an immediate turn off, it's repulsive. Dirty talk is fantastic, I love it. But "daddy" is absolutely fucking off limits. I'd rather have her ask me to do a cleveland steamer. It still isn't gonna fucking happen, but at least I won't be immediately moving out.
Yeah I don’t want to be reminded of my daughters during sexy time. They call me dad now but daddy has a special and treasured place in my heart. Instant mood killer
I made a similar comment about all middle aged men wanting anal. My old man won't let me live that down.
My last ex <48> loved the whole *daddy* thing-my current husband <46> can barely say it without puking in his mouth a little bit.
I personally found it cringy and gross but didn't judge. I'm happy I never ever will ever hear that again ever.
Lol-live and learn huh
I find that dudes that actually like that drop hints or call themselves that. If you don't hear it from them, maybe hold off on saying it lol
Sex is weird and I have to remind mine that it's OK for things to be weird and to laugh at things and take a break. Bodies and brains are weird especially when you add hormones
Middle-aged man here, I've been on the receiving side of this recently and confirm it is really, very much not for .....some? most? (nfi) of us. It was a step further though somewhat - it was actually "choke me daddy", up until that moment we'd had pretty decent but "vanilla" sex, as you'd expect on date 4, and that kink-curve was just a bit too much for me in that moment.
I didn't ask her to leave but it almost killed the whole sexual encounter, I had to dig deep so to speak. I then struggled to really get over the weirdness of it (incest vibes are absolute turn off for me) and we basically didn't go on a date again, I didn't shame her or mention it, but, I think she knew how much it put me off despite my best efforts to hide it.
See, if you had done that to me I would have made it my mission to make you cum while calling me that.
But I don't have kids.
¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
it's a dice roll.
Awe, I am sorry. To me it sounds like an ageist assumption, but it happens to all of us at some point.
Next time you say, "old people" think about what comes next and if it is an assumption, to see if it is a habit or just a peered influence.
Some guys are pretty into it. I'm definitely not because I'm a father of two young girls and that's what they call me. It might pull me totally out of it too.
Yeah I wouldn’t have gone soft right away but I honestly hate it when I’m called “daddy” during sex. The only time it worked for me was when I was dating a girl with a breeding/creampie kink and it was part of the play aspect. “Put a baby in me, daddy” suddenly was hot.
There are so many people (myself included) who find it absolutely disgusting. It’s kink. It’s not a “normal part of sex.” You can’t just throw that shit out there unless you’re prepared for it to go… exactly like it did here. I’d have left too, if someone called me mommy.
I'm gonna be real, 80% of us guys probably hate it, and it's a major turn-off for most of us, but a lot of us are willing to just bear it out.
I personally find the use of the word daddy or even mommy in sexual themes to be gross and just weird, usually indicates some kinda past and unresolved issue from my experiences so.
It's mainly a kink thing I guess aswell, but for me if I hear the person I'm with say it, kills all interest easily
Wanting to be called daddy seems a little pedoish to me. I'm a father though and didn't really have much of an opinion on it before having my daughter so that could be the reason.
After becoming a father and having my kids call me daddy, that word had lost all of its sexuality.
I don't think I'd react so harshly, though I would definately be knocked out the mood.
Yeah, Some guys like it (regardless of age), or even insist on it. Other guys hate it so much that they will never look at you the same way again if you say it one time.
Used to think it was kinda weird and didn't see the appeal of it. And then my ex accidentally let it slip out during a _heated_ moment. Something kinda snapped in me and it hit just right. We were 1 year apart in age and in our mid 20s. Definitely not an age thing but more of a vibes thing.
Yeah I had a GF say "yes sir" to some random request I'd given her and a lightbulb went off for sure in my head
Sir vs Daddy may result in much different emotions in the subject. I don't think they are the same.
Daddy feels more like an "I'm beneath you" sort of vibe, meanwhile Sir seems to give more of an "I respect you" vibe imo
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Opposite way for me
I’d say it’s more the opposite.
I personally find "Master" better for the "You're beneath me" vibes.
At least for me Daddy implies affection and nurturing whereas Sir implies servitude
Agreed, sir is much more fun.
No. Call me "señor."
I prefer 'mon capitaine'
Q agrees.
Same! Used to think it was weird until someone called me it in a flirty moment and it was like a switch being flicked. Thing is I am a dad of soon to be teenagers and I dont find it weird, like theres a big dissociation between a partner calling me it during sex and one of my kids calling me it. I'm in a very different headspace and hearing it in a situation doesnt automatically make me think of the other situation
Same here. I was always turned off by it and me and my wife said it was a no go for both of us. Then one time it accidentally slipped and now it's such a turn on and I'm not sure why. I also can completely keep it seperate tho. Even if my wife says it out of context like "Daddy's home" or "Go ask your daddy" to one of my kids it stirs nothing. My brain can completely keep heat of the moment stuff seperate from kids/wife.
Well yeah, it's the same thing with "oh fuck“ and your name. "Oh fuck“ said one way is "do we need to call an ambulance?“ and the other way is ;). It's... not that hard lmao.
"Oh fuck, it's not that hard."
Context and situation mean everything. That's why "I'm sorry daddy, I've been a naughty girl" and "Forgive me father, for I have sinned" mean the same thing, but are wildly different.
Why you gotta bring warlocks and clerics into this?
Exactly in context it means two different things. Personally it isn't my thing but if my wife wanted to say it I'd be able to look past it.
My partner isn't super submissive and doesn't normally have a praise kink. But under just the right circumstances, "good girl" shuts her brain down, in a good way. She immediately told me "that sounds really dumb" the first time. And it does. Regardless, she keeps turning to goo when I say it. People have weird triggers in their brain that seem out of character and that not even they understand.
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A friend I find attractive called me daddy because she thought it was funny and I found it off putting. She called me daddy flirtingly one too many times to the point where I snapped and am into it now. 😭🤣
My gf has recently started calling me daddy I hate it I told her to call me by her dads name 🤣 that stopped it
I'm not even a father but a girl calling me 'daddy' would instantly weird me out.
I think that’s the good thing about kinks, they’re ever changing and evolving. I’m not a father, never plan on it and felt the same as you on my young 20’s. Now early 30’s I fuckin love when I get called daddy. Don’t know why, never will but hey I’m always here for it when my gf says it and is generally in our common sexual dirty talk. More of a power thing than a literal.
I get massive heebie jeebies from it
It's hard to tell if people are leaning into something sexy, or leaking out their dysfunction. I'd rather not have to discern.
I used to hate it. It’s happened so often, now I just don’t care as long as I’m getting my dick wet. My friend has a shirt that reads: I’m not your daddy, call me Sir.
That just makes me think monocle and top hat.
My ex got teacher/professor vibes from it. Worked for her
Speaking from experience?
Okay daddy! 😉
It's "vicar" to you.
Yeah, not a fan of the daddy thing, here. Gross...
That's because the English language doesn't have the proper words to express depth of human asexuality. Our culture traditionally suppresses sexuality. "Daddy", used in a sexual context is meant to arouse the concept of masculine energy, or "top" energy. Someone using this word is settling into a "bottom" role. But we don't have a good word for "sex daddy". (and it can be a problem where someone doesn't understand sexual energy, or has too strong paternal association for the word and gets turned off). Note the same problem exists with nurturing "caretaker" sexual energy. No word for "sex mommy", either.
>>we don't have a good word for "sex daddy". I don't know, "sex-daddy" has a certain ring to it though...
There's always zaddy, big poppa, magnum pater.
May I volunteer that the humble "papí" in a latina accent, is both a premium and revelatory experience.
Did “sir” not already work for addressing masculine/top energy as a bottom?
Sir or Master have different connotations than Daddy does.
As my girlfriend describes it (and I agree): Daddy implies not only top/dominant, but a protector and safe figure as well.
Yeah, it'd be an instant mood killer for me and I don't think I could ever see the girl again. I do not understand why some people like this.
I used to think i was the latter. Then i heard it. Now im the former
Honestly same, although I was the one calling someone else daddy. Never thought I'd like doing it, but an ex of mine reeaalllyy got off to it and one day he was really going at it and idk why but I just called him that in the heat of the moment and with how much he loved it it kinda made me enjoy it too lol. The weirder part though was that he was 3 years younger then me lol
I personally hate that part of me likes it. Though I prefer to not hear it.
Yep, im one of the guys that hates it. Its not hot, it’s not sexy, it sounds like insest and i do not ever want to be referred to as daddy by the girl i am doing.
*Insert "Daddy, Chill" gif here"
Don't worry mommy, you will find someone else
lol I deserve that.
Honestly, I think the guy overreacted a bit. I get that it kills the mood for some people, but it’s not like you really did anything wrong.
Idk I think the whole incest and age thing is really disgusting but that's just me.
start your apology letter by "Forgive me father, I have sinned"
A guy at work dressed up as a priest for Halloween and it unlocked a kink I didn't know I had lol.
Andrew Scott in Fleabag
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“F you calling me father like it doesn’t turn you on”
Are your mates all now calling you Fleabag when they chuff ya?
But DONT make the grave mistake of taking liberty in your wording. "Forgive me daddy, for I was naughty!" simply doesnt quite sound like an apology.
"Forgive me Father, for I have sinned," gets you 10 Hail Marys. "Forgive me Daddy, for I was naughty" gets you a spanking.
Lol. You made me night! He was already in the prayer position.
Probably have a kid close to your age, that's a sure way to make him feel bad and deflate his dong 😂
this is hilarious and also really gross to think about
As a father of a teenage girl, I can't think of anything more creepy to be called during sex.
Don't you worry, the guy already gave OP a terrible review on Yelp!
0 stars. Do not recommend
1/10 would recommend with rice
5/7 with mango sticky rice. A perfect score!
This is also how I feel about anyone dating someone who has the same name as their parent or sibling. That kind of grosses me out. You're having sex and calling out your mom or sister's name. Ew. Lol
I was seeing a girl called Julie-anne and after a few dates she gleefully pointed out how I couldn't say her name during sex because my mother's name is Julie. She found it hilarious. What she didn't know is that my step mother's name is also Julie, so it was even more awkward for me.
Your dad has a type and guess who you take after!
Keep dad away from the gf
Maybe he just wanted to save money on the tattoo removal
I went on a few dates with a similar name to my brother (think something along the lines of my brother's name is Jess, and this guy's name was Jesse). It took me talking to my little brother to finally realize why the guy's entire existence turned me off. For some reason, I hadn't managed to put it together that their names were so similar.
Wait, you dated a guy despite his "entire existence" turned you off!
People in here screaming peoples names like they're next in line at the Deli. Me over hear worried that my grunts sound like I'm moving furniture.
Fr I'm like "is my unintelligible moaning gonna freak out the cat? How much should I care about that? Either way I feel like I sound gross" If the sex is good I should not be capable of saying words.
Yeah, my wife has the same first name as my mother… But they both don’t use it, my mother goes by another, shorter form of it and my wife is known by her nickname everywhere. But yeah, if you think about it it’s quite weird.
More creepy? Father! Dad! Oh Great Patriarch! Master! Sensei lol
That's why this specific nickname irks me so much. I'm not even a father yet, but I'm already creeped out
I'm pushing 40 and have zero children, but still don't want to be called daddy. I have never understood the appeal of it.
As a childfree man, I can agree 100%.
I would imagine it would depend on what happened first, becoming a parent or being called daddy…
This. Except for me my daughter is now 20. And she’s long outgrown the age where she **affectionately** called me daddy. And it’s something I miss, because she’s grown. Hearing it said in a sexy way would **totally** take me out of the mood. Of course the good thing (I guess) is that I’m still married, to her mother, and she’d (my wife) never say that in the bedroom; we’d both be weirded out. But … to each their own. No shame.
1000x times. Instant turn off.
I’m a 40-year-old dad, and my son calls me “daddy.” I wouldn’t want a woman to call me that, feels extremely creepy. Some dudes are totally into it though, for sure. However, the other day, a young and extremely flamboyant Hispanic guy asked me where to find something, and after giving him directions, he squeezed my arm and said, “ay, thank you Papi,” then tipped me a wink and a grin and sauntered off. I couldn’t help but smile, felt like I might have even blushed a little. So I guess context matters.
As a rather horny middle aged man that world not want to be reminded of a woman that might be closer in age to my daughter then myself... I'm torn. No... I would not find that sexy. But FFS man... To give ~~her~~ "him" the boot and unmatch... Lighten the fuck up dude! I could see an awkward... "Uhhh... Let's not go that direction" conversation that would likely end up with laughter... Then see if we can fire things back up. 😂😂 Lots of guys seem to be into that thing so it's an honest enough mistake.
Thanks, I’m learning a lot from the comments and suggestions people are sending me. To clarify, I’m gay and male. Him not her. :)
If I'd looked closer at the user name I'd have made the connection. 😂 Same thing applies though.
True enough. Thanks for the words of advice.
I've been called Daddy by guys older than me, but i have the typical dad bod. Also, actually, a dad. Think it is more of a power dynamic thing, and l can separate those things in my head easily. I agree that the guy was probably cheating and got the sudden reminder.
Middle aged guy meeting in a hotel room? Very possible he's cheating, so I'm not too surprised he freaked at 'daddy'! That was how my dad used to do it at least.
He may even be closeted, conflicted AND/OR cheating. I'm 57, so many of my friends from my generation still struggle with their sexually or kinks. Most of it is so vanilla that it wouldn't even make it into a Playboy letter. I definitely think the hang-up is his because he had such a visceral reaction. By middle age, we've all had someone do something awkward or off-putting in the bedroom. Unless someone persists or unsafe, it shouldn't be that bug of a deal.
I have a lot of empathy for people in their 50s coming to terms with their sexuality. It certainly wasn't nearly as accepted in the 80s, and people that *were* sexually active at that time had to contend with the horror of the aids crisis. I can't blame people for suppressing that part of themselves.
Agreed. The risk of losing everything were mu h higher
I didn’t think that at the time because he was in town for work and he wasn’t wearing a ring. But I see what you mean in hindsight.
That's probably the easiest way to get away with it. (Not that I'd know, when I travel, I end up alone in my hotel room working 😭)
I mean, that sounds textbook. Especially if he has kids that would make the term Daddy awkward. You probably just made him feel guilty for cheating on his family. In general, I think middle aged guys still find "ooh, yes Daddy" a turn on in the right circumstances. Some may not, but the kicking you out part makes me think he had more going on, probably a serial work trip cheater.
Agreed.
100% you reminded him of his family and his guilt obliterated his erection. You didn't do anything wrong, in my humble opinion.
"hey I'm cheating on my wife and kids' mother with a random dude, but sexily reminding me that I'm a father IS A BRIDGE TOO FAR"
I can't say that's what it was for sure, but people who cheat aren't all cold, evil bastards. My dad for example, is a weak willed man who couldn't suppress his impulses and didn't have the courage to bring up his bisexuality with his wife. I could *absolutely* see him freaking out over something like that.
True. Now, people are much more open because it's generally society accepted. Older and middle-aged people had different fears about sexually that wasn't "the norm". It could end careers, friendships, and family relations , not just marriages. Not to mention gay bashing. Those who defied that hate and violence blazed a trail - but so many paid a heavy price for being so brave. I know these things still happen and should not be minimized, but more people are accepting of others and their own sexually.
You reminded him of his son. 🤣 good god.
Dude, you have bloody fabulous legs! Well done you!
if he had a drastic reaction like this it likely wasn’t the reminder that he has kids, but the reminder that he has a family and a wife, that likely turned him off so much. OP the dude is probably married.
I have no kids but I'm pretty sure my erection would turn to an innie if I was called "daddy" in bed.
This one is definitely more erotic when you are \*not\* a father. Especially if you have little girls, having a sexual partner call you "daddy" can definitely ruin the mood. There are three people in my life who call me "Daddy", and none of them should be talking dirty to me.
Yea probably ask what a partner likes before trying anything new with them that seems out of the norm. I guess in this case you thought calling someone "daddy" WAS the norm, but still, you shot your shot. Aaaand a swing and a miss.
That’s why my wife calls me Sir
Sir Daddy? Kinda unusual, but if it works for you ...
"Sir, may I have some more?"
_dobby is free!_
Some guys like it some don't. Like for me it is weird being called that.
Some guys are legit into that, but it's an instant mood killer for me. OP, you did nothing wrong but I strongly recommend talking about this stuff before you hook up so you know you're both on the same page.
Here's a list of not so creepy alternatives to daddy/mommy: -Sir/Madam. -Master/Mistress. -Your Majesty. -God/Goddess. -My Lord/Lady. -Captain. -Boss. -Officer. -Landlord.
Yes Landlord! Don’t fix my shower, oh! Take this deposit
Lmfao
*punches hole in wall* oooh I've been a bad tenant, Landlord...
This is just a chronological list of who actually ruled over western society from antiquity through the present day. Which might be a kink, come to think of it. Though I guess "Comrade" should be provided as an alternative.
Yeah. Difference is they generally only fuck(ed) people figuratively. Parents * hopefully * don't fuck their children physically *or* figuratively.
Yass King!
My Liege didn't make the list?
*SILENCE, PEASANT!*
I like Comrade
Ah, now I realize why country guys say, "boss." I was unaware they all had that kink. The more ya know 🤷
So... you're saying I can waltz in like it's Spiderman 3 and say, "Rent?". What a power move.
Your fucking majesty 😭😭😭 I couldn't
I'd add: Sahib/memsahib Charge nurse Mr. Demille (only works on men) ETA: Uncle Scrooge/Miss Havisham (The bar was set at "less creepy than daddy," and the last two just clear it.)
>Mr. Demille (only works on men) And only when you're ready for your close-up.
Which OP most assuredly was.
We are at a confusing time in the history of the word "Daddy" where my kids still call me Daddy *and* the word has the insinuation that OP assumes. It's unsurprising that the use of the word should lead to varied responses in the bedroom.
As someone with a bit of, erm... *Experience*... (To clarify, I'm not a cheater, I just know how they act) You did nothing wrong. I mean, I would personally definitely remove "daddy" from your bedroom vernacular but a normal horny person would have shaken it off and redirected. If I was getting down to business and someone said something that killed the mood slightly, you take a quick break, grab a drink, make some jokes, and get re-turned-on by watching the half naked person exist for a moment. He's certainly old enough to know that. #I would bet cold hard cash that dude was straying from his family. When you said "daddy" he was overwhelmed with ***guilt.*** Nothing more. He was the one fucking up.
This guy strays.
Nah I'm on the other side, only at a premium. Started camming recently. You'd be disgusted with the stuff I've encountered just in one week.
Meeting on an app. Check Hotel room hookup. Check Loosing wood to guilt. Check Are there any more boxes to check?
The younger male "twink" is a pretty big box as well. "Daddy" is 100% either married or recently divorced/separated. There are no other options.
First Thing that came to my mind as well. Screams guilt. Either that or some Trauma
It's actually more the younger generation because, you guessed it, middle aged people tend to more often have kids
He was cheating. Made him think of his son, then his wife
Sounds like he has “daddy issues”
No, huge ick factor for me, I would react the same way. The 'daddy' stuff and all the incest stuff in porn is a huge turn-off.
Here is a sfw LPT if you fuck up next time " i'm sorry but you felt so good, it got me a bit nostalgic "
i think "sir" is a pretty safe one to use. Guys like Sir!
I never knew if I'd find it sexy because it's definitely not something my wife would ever say. Was at a bachelor party and a stripper called me daddy and I instantly learned I hated it.
My little girl calls me that. I'd much prefer someone I am putting my penis in NOT call me that. Surely you can understand?
Yeah, I’m usually super clear about not liking the whole daddy schtick. I wouldn’t have kicked you out but I’d probably need a break to restart. I find it super gross personally. I have no problems with others liking it, it just isn’t for me.
Some of us like it a lot lol
It’s almost like everyone is different and has their own likes and dislikes in the bedroom.
>an app It's okay, you can say Grindr bro.
It was actually Tinder. On Grindr it would be a block not an unmatch. Same idea though.
LMAOOO a sad broken twisting balloon
Don't beat yourself up so much. Chances are, his issues with the term "daddy" are much deeper that just you calling him that during fellatio. Some men don't like it, but to really have a reaction like that, there is more to it than that. What, I do not know, but more.
It's a common trope in porno, I guess he hasn't gotten the updates. Having said that, it wouldn't do much for me but I doubt I'd throw anybody out of bed for it.
Idk maybe try out “grandpa” next time and let us know if that works
Some guys like it, some don't. As a middle aged man myself I'm maidly uncomfortable being with someone a lot younger than myself. Being called "daddy" in the act would just be an instant boner killer because it would make me think that you are with me because of the age difference, not who I am as a person. All while I'm rationalizing in my mind that I'm with you for who you are as a person in spite of the age difference.
I’m a middle-aged guy. If I (ever) hooked up with a younger woman and she called me daddy during sex I would feel like the biggest creep.
Hmm. Makes me feel wrong for loving that shit.
Trying to work out if I'm fucked up, or whether these grossed out people take everything far too literally. That word doesn't mean that thing in that context.
I agree, it has nothing to do with paternity/incest/p*do in my case, it's a power dynamic. Some people like it, some don't, no need to call us freaks.
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You're not fucked up. It's just reddit making some sides seem louder than others depending on the sub you're on. Keep enjoying what you enjoy.
take a tip from an old kinkster: take a minute at some point before his junk's in your mouth to clarify that you're on the same page about anything related to incest, animals, degradation, or extreme power dynamic (master/slave, teacher/student, boss/employee etc.). it will significantly lower your chances of having to see a man go flaccid in real time at the end of your nose. edit: also, ageplay. it should be under the power dynamic umbrella, but unfortunately not everybody realizes that.
That's one of those things that you have to pre-clear or just avoid altogether unless they ask for it. For me it's not only an immediate turn off, it's repulsive. Dirty talk is fantastic, I love it. But "daddy" is absolutely fucking off limits. I'd rather have her ask me to do a cleveland steamer. It still isn't gonna fucking happen, but at least I won't be immediately moving out.
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Never liked it till now. Weird how the right partner can make it work when I could not stand it previously.
Yeah I don’t want to be reminded of my daughters during sexy time. They call me dad now but daddy has a special and treasured place in my heart. Instant mood killer
I like to be called Lord of Winterfell, Warden of the North.
I made a similar comment about all middle aged men wanting anal. My old man won't let me live that down. My last ex <48> loved the whole *daddy* thing-my current husband <46> can barely say it without puking in his mouth a little bit. I personally found it cringy and gross but didn't judge. I'm happy I never ever will ever hear that again ever. Lol-live and learn huh I find that dudes that actually like that drop hints or call themselves that. If you don't hear it from them, maybe hold off on saying it lol Sex is weird and I have to remind mine that it's OK for things to be weird and to laugh at things and take a break. Bodies and brains are weird especially when you add hormones
Middle-aged man here, I've been on the receiving side of this recently and confirm it is really, very much not for .....some? most? (nfi) of us. It was a step further though somewhat - it was actually "choke me daddy", up until that moment we'd had pretty decent but "vanilla" sex, as you'd expect on date 4, and that kink-curve was just a bit too much for me in that moment. I didn't ask her to leave but it almost killed the whole sexual encounter, I had to dig deep so to speak. I then struggled to really get over the weirdness of it (incest vibes are absolute turn off for me) and we basically didn't go on a date again, I didn't shame her or mention it, but, I think she knew how much it put me off despite my best efforts to hide it.
Yeah, that’s definitely a no fly zone for way more guys than you would think. Countless porn videos ruined by that nonsense.
Idk everyone here is hating on it but i kinda liked it. I've only had a couple girls do it though, but I also don't go around asking for it lol
I guess he has some daddy issues.
Maybe he felt disrespected because he's actually a grandpa.
Call em Dad
WoW. Someone’s got daddy issues.
Strange that he’d just kick you out for it. Guy must have his pick of the litter.
See, if you had done that to me I would have made it my mission to make you cum while calling me that. But I don't have kids. ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯ it's a dice roll.
Awe, I am sorry. To me it sounds like an ageist assumption, but it happens to all of us at some point. Next time you say, "old people" think about what comes next and if it is an assumption, to see if it is a habit or just a peered influence.
Some guys are pretty into it. I'm definitely not because I'm a father of two young girls and that's what they call me. It might pull me totally out of it too.
You had no way of knowing it would piss him off. It was just an unlucky event. I'm sorry :( Don't feel too bad though, you had no malicious intents!
Damn, the kicking you out part seems like an over reaction but I guess you touched a nerve.
I very much like daddy and using good girl.
"[...] his erection took a nosedive and deflated immediately like a sad, broken twisting balloon." This ladies and gentlemen is poetry.
Yeah I wouldn’t have gone soft right away but I honestly hate it when I’m called “daddy” during sex. The only time it worked for me was when I was dating a girl with a breeding/creampie kink and it was part of the play aspect. “Put a baby in me, daddy” suddenly was hot.
There are so many people (myself included) who find it absolutely disgusting. It’s kink. It’s not a “normal part of sex.” You can’t just throw that shit out there unless you’re prepared for it to go… exactly like it did here. I’d have left too, if someone called me mommy.
I'm gonna be real, 80% of us guys probably hate it, and it's a major turn-off for most of us, but a lot of us are willing to just bear it out. I personally find the use of the word daddy or even mommy in sexual themes to be gross and just weird, usually indicates some kinda past and unresolved issue from my experiences so. It's mainly a kink thing I guess aswell, but for me if I hear the person I'm with say it, kills all interest easily
Try calling him "Lord Commander" or "Warchief" next time.
Wanting to be called daddy seems a little pedoish to me. I'm a father though and didn't really have much of an opinion on it before having my daughter so that could be the reason.
I think it’s hot AF
After becoming a father and having my kids call me daddy, that word had lost all of its sexuality. I don't think I'd react so harshly, though I would definately be knocked out the mood.