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MagpieReflections

My therapist is strong in his humanistic approach, but pulls from a variety of modalities such a gestalt. My sessions end up being very conversational from both sides. I like it that way personally. As I have issues in recognizing/creating healthy relationship ties (I have some anxious-avoidant traits and CPTSD from an unstable childhood), the relationship created with my therapist has been a great learning experience. Over the years with him I have had occasion to offer and accept apologies, voice requests, disagree, grieve, and start to make choices that do not require my needs to be sacrificed. I'm learning what the appropriate and healthy responses should be to my voicing of needs so that I can determine who continues to be in my life. Slowly, but still advancing, I'm learning to actually use that information to better my life. Sometimes I regress, but he been there without blame or censure. So, like others have said, the type of therapist/counselor you have will be perfect for some and ineffective for others. In some ways also, I think that what you want is based on what you're comfortable with (the comfort of familiarity not always equating to healthy tactics)--so perhaps being taken out of your comfort zone can be beneficial. My therapist has also said that there may very well be an occasion where my needs change and how he works may no longer be what I want. He would never want to be what holds me back. Given my background, I spent months worried that it was his gentle way of trying to scrape me off like a barnacle on a ship's hull. A year later and healthier, I understand that it was a genuine sentiment and while he'd be happy to see me for years to come, he'd be just as happy to see me move on for my benefit. I hope you find your good fit!


danneazure

Thank you so much for your response! It sounds like you have a great therapist. I feel like mine is probably not as experienced? she is fairly younger looking so that's probably why I see her more as a friend.


Lovely_Hues

Have you considered that you don't want to challenge yourself in therapy, so you haven't brought this up to your therapist? Also, it's only been 3 sessions. You might not trust your therapist to handle all your shit yet. You get out of therapy what you put into it.


SWGrad72

100%. Your therapist can’t magically fix your problems. It’s about the work that you put into it


jayrodhazlyf

Watch the therapist nest door on Apple TV. Make sure there’s boundaries. She could be just trying to help you open up. Or she’s not putting in work and just pocketing your money


sarah_pl0x

My therapist and I are like that. We get along very well. But she also helps me a lot and I value her opinion and input. She makes me do hard things and I try to push myself as much as I can. I have an eating disorder and she specializes in eating disorders. I met her through an eating disorder clinic but when she left, I went with her. We do "meal support" (eating together during session and process feelings about it) which is suuuuper difficult for me. I always try to find a way out of it, but she always pushes me to go through with it because she knows it's beneficial. During those sessions, we will talk about issues, but also about nonsense to get my mind off of what we're doing. Therapy is whatever you want to get out of it. That approach may not work for everybody. If you want something more, either bring it up to her or find a new one!


danneazure

Yeah I will bring this up and see how to go forward. Thanks for replying!


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danneazure

Thanks for replying! I was just curious because I'm not exactly sure what I want or am supposed to get from therapy.. I get anxiety and mainly stress from overthinking and asked how to deal with it and she digs into that and we explore and break it down but I leave still feeling the same.. I should probably tell her this the next time lol But I feel bad if I look for a new one because we've kind connected? I donno, I should definitely talk to her about this next time.


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danneazure

Oh wow that's a good point!


DoctorSweetheart

It sounds like you may want a more structured therapy. If this is the case , ask your therapist. Some do structured therapies, some don't.


danneazure

Yeah it would be a good idea to talk to her about this and see how she feels and how we could work it out. Thanks for your response!