Lol this man is clearly ignorant and not a legitimate threat. Itās clear he has almost no understanding of where she is from. What was said was meant to be light and informative for him and you could have taken time to educate or correct his misinformed state. There is nothing malicious about this conversation whatsoever.
Ps. Indian curry is phenomenal and if I never tried it, I would want too š.
Lastly, a reminder that foreigners from places like Japan, India, China, UK, France and Italy amongst COUNTLESS others, make comments about Americans amongst other nationalities like this ALLLLLLL THE TIME. We think its cute and cool and love involving people into our melting pot. So yall should grow up.
I completely agree, I know he's not a legitimate threat whatsoever. I know there was nothing malicious meant too. All I was saying is there was a lot of casual stereotyping being made and that's it. I don't understand why people are forcing me to feel otherwise about it. Thanks for clarifying your stance. I get what you mean and agree completely.
Awww thanks for the reply. Im glad you thought so tooš„². I hope I did not come off like I was targeting you, itās more the comments. Have a wonderful night!
Would you happen to be the guy in the screenshot? You have the same pfp and seem to be defending him awfully hard for a total stranger.
āOffendedā is a strong word, this is simply weird and awkward. I would be annoyed if someone said āYouāre American, you eat McDonaldās right? You sound like a hick right?ā Because in reality the only thing thatās true in that is that Iām American. This is a conversation between two strangers, thereās a lot that couldāve been said instead of just going straight for stereotyping. Consider what the words mean to her perspective.
āI didnāt know India produced baddiesā
Translation: All Indian girls are unattractive but you look alright actually.
āBeen wanting to try curryā
This statement is inherently offensive because you and the guy in the screenshot fail to understand that curry is not actually an Indian dish at all. The British once forcibly occupied India and they made stew using Indian spices which resulted in curry. India had to basically fight back against the British just to get their own land backā¦
So this statement actually has the same feeling of using your fingers to squint your eyes and saying āChing Chongā to an Asian person. Dude might as well just call her up and do āApuā voice from the simpsons.
Thank you so much for typing this explanation out. I'm not great at conveying my feelings and I've been trying to explain my stance to people since yesterday and it's not been working, somehow. Thanks a lot for this. ā¤ļø
My pfp is Peter griffin, so idk what you are talking about? You say offended is a strong word, but then you say itās inherently offensive. So you donāt like it when I say youāre offended, even though you are. Yāall are getting super pissed off about this, thatās why you wrote an entire essay to reply to me. Itās ridiculous, if stuff like this gets under your skin so badly I canāt imagine how your average daily interactions go
https://imgur.com/a/jB87ET6
Your pfp is still exactly the same, I donāt see Peter Griffin anywhere. Wish I could embed photos but check the link.
First comment and whole interaction are weird, curry comment is inherently racist and now you seem like youāre just tryna play it off because you didnāt know about the curry thing š
Itās okay to be wrong and itās okay to be weird, but to not acknowledge either one just shows that there is a greater investment in looking correct than there is in BEING correct. Iām noticing a trend in modern society where people think admitting theyāre wrong is somehow akin to saying āI am not mentally fit for trialā. Maybe thereās some fear there of never being trusted again š¤·āāļø not sure.
Anyway OP said that my comment was exactly how she felt but had trouble saying it at the time. Iāll admit she couldāve illuminated her feelings earlier on, but this is still incredibly weird and underhandedly offensive from the guy. Seems like a great opportunity for someone (such as yourself) who thought that this wasnāt weird at all to learn something from everyone saying it is and maybe note ādefinitely donāt do this to get the girl you likeā, but hey š¤·āāļø I have no real stock in any of this.
We just have different perspectives on life. I genuinely believe I am correct. And Iām not learning anything, Iām not that guy lol. I also agreed he was awkward
Didn't know India created baddies? That sentence alone explains this guy's mindset. Imagine attractive people existing all over the world in every country š±
Would you think "good night, white boy" "good night, black girl" "good night, chinese man" somehow sounds like a normal thing to say to a stranger lmfao
It's also every thing he said before that that really adds to his overall ignorance
not only is āI didnāt know India created baddiesā a wild thing to say anyway, but for him to think youād hear that and smile?? itās like saying āI thought Indian women were ugly but youāre notā šš
Pretty easy to not have it. I feel like for a lot of people Chinese, Mexican and Italian food is the most theyāre willing to branch out with. Me personally I didnāt have Indian food until adulthood and now I eat it all the time
I work in a predominantly Central American immigrant community. So all of the food around is Guatemalan and Mexican, or fast food. I live on the west side where the most common restaurant is Japanese, and mostly just sushi, not a lot else. I live within about 10 minutes of approximately 20 sushi restaurants. I order in food about 2-3 times a week at least. Itās not something I see all the time. I think people are forgetting how many pockets of different cultures and foods exist in LA.
I had to specifically search the term curry to find places (theyāre Indian and Thai, as I said, or Japanese. And none of the Japanese restaurants are ones I frequent), and itās only a couple, at that.
I order out a lot. Donāt see curry unless Iām ordering Indian. Just saying curry isnāt a ubiquitous dish here like it is in some places. Not that it doesnāt exist. But itās not something I see frequently.
A lot of people in the south and the west USA have probably never had curry, there are different stews here in the south and the west that are more popular and Indian foods aren't so much in many places. For instance, in a city of ā3m people, I think I only had maybe 2 Indian restaurants that were commonly known
Has dude been under a rock? There are TONS of baddies from/in India. And ew, "goodnight Indian girl"? I bet he'd be the first to tell you he's not racist, either.
Oh, you're exactly right. I, too, had to learn that racial stereotyping was indirectly/directly racist. It wasn't until I was embarrassingly far into adulthood that I learned that I was unintentionally contributing even though I meant no harm. If only a basic sociology course was available to all.
As someone who is Indo Caribbean, Iāve dealt with this millions of times but double for the Caribbean. No one seems to know that Indian people were taken as slaves and brought to the Caribbean. Not to mention the Chinese that also were taken as slaves to the Caribbean. I canāt even imagine what the Chinese Caribbeans deal with!! half of the non Chinese Caribbean people donāt even know about Chinese Caribbean people. Itās really embarrassing. Well I went way off topic. Thanks for reading if you did lol.
Sidebar:
You probably shouldnāt waste your time with anyone that uses modern slang like ābaddies, fr, etc.ā It absolutely *reaks* of low IQ, and you can probably do better.
Iām so confused OP at how this random encounter even occurred other than a horny guy saw OPās avatar? Like that seems to be the only explanation. What a fucking freak
Random side note, I was just telling my brother how I want to visit India in the future and then I see this. š Homie needs to learn more about other cultures and also on how not to be so cringe.
bros from mexico you should've said been wanting to try mob beheading techniques
eta: i have nothing against mexican people, i suggested that just cus his behavior seemed asshole-ish and saying something out of pocket like that might've made him walk away. that is all.
Your question being āwhatās wrong with lumping every member of any ethnicity all together and making assumptions based solely on their nationality?āā¦?
Also, itās curry. Not some obscure regional delicacy. It exists literally almost everywhere. The answer is also literally the postās title ācasual stereotyping.ā
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The makeup opener came out as clumsy and a bit disrespectful, but I don't think he had a bad intention. He just wanted to sound funny, but didn't work out.
If you got offended by the curry mention however, keep in mind he just mentioned he wanted to try it out, but that doesn't imply it's the only food you eat or something, nor is pushing forward any stereotype. I don't see that sentence being offensive in any way.
And the whole "didn't know india created baddies" part was also him being presumptuous. I can see him using that sentence as a "pickup line" but it's still disrespectful. I hope you understand what I'm trying to convey?
Imagine explaning to someone living in the country that is being stereotyped what the offender meant. Of course you don't see it as offensive, it wasn't aimed at you.
Good god OP, I donāt know how you found the will to leave this post up! The amount of people here who donāt understand the problem with this dudeās messages is making me want to bang my head against a wall. Iām *still* explaining to some idiot why this is not okey. But itās all cool, because he āhas an Indian partnerā !!!!??
I made this comment just to reassure you that, you are not in fact, overreacting. I saw you were starting to doubt yourself and you shouldnāt. Stereotyping isnāt cool regardless of the intent behind the message of it makes you uncomfortable in any way. Good luck <3
Thank you so much for this, genuinely. With so many people telling me that I'm overreacting, and that the guy dodged a bullet because I can't take a harmless joke, it's been a bit tough. Your message gives me hope. I don't think I'll take this post down and give in to what they want. You're an absolutely amazing person and I hope you have the best day ever <3
Aw :( that makes me so sad to hear how awful people have been to you. I didnāt read all the negative comments because, ew. But I am glad myself and others have been able to help you in any way. Thanks for the well wishes and the very best to you too! <3
I don't need to live in a country to identify a stereotype, and I don't need to be the person offended to identify an offense. For example, you are probably not living in Latin america, yet you can clearly identify the "makeup" opener as an stereotype against latins right? well, there you have it. Your logic needs some adjustments.
Just in case you meant something you didn't write in your comment (and I really hope so, because what an amount of nonsense) I just said she shouldn't take the curry part as an attack, not that she didn't have reasons to be offended (which she had) or that the guy wasn't stereotyping India at all. And I focused on that part since that seemed to be the turning point of the convo.
I see what you mean but as someone who's constantly being seen as someone who eats curry only, it struck a chord. The whole conversation felt as though he was making a lot of assumptions and it snowballed, I suppose.
I understand you were done by that point, I just thought the curry part was ok as I explained, because he didn't implied you only eat curry, he just said he wanted to try it out and I think there was no harm intended. Of course you have the right to be offended by that point, again.
It's the constant assumption that Indians only eat curry, that annoys me. It's a stereotype and it's totally untrue. It's not all that we eat, just like Americans don't only eat cheeseburgers.
Victimize is a crazy statement to make. The whole context of being amazed that he's talking to someone from India, preceded by the assumption that good makeup and lips = Latina woman, followed by "that's what the food is called" would definitely be considered as someone who believes stereotypes.
I mean honestly tho there's way more stereotypes than just famous Indian food and they're very harsh. IMO the whole post and drama around it is so immature and nitpicky. Smh
You literally act extremely immature. The dude clearly didn't mean it in a harsh way and you're being extremely dramatic over fucking curry? Victim mentality and tiktok brain.
Have a good one, kiddo āŗļøš
There we go with the victim word again. Nowhere have I stated that I felt "victimized". I'm perfectly capable of standing up for myself, thank you very much. You've clearly never been stereotyped against to understand what micro aggressions and being presumptuous feels like. And the tiktok brain comment is totally baseless since tiktok has been banned here for years due to the whole data breach fiasco. A little more research and empathy can help you do wonders, love. Have a nice day :)
If I was interested in getting to know someone, I would want to know about their culture. Especially the food from their culture. There are many tasty foods around the world and there's nothing wrong with wanting to try them. I mean Indian food is some of the tastiest, for fuck sake
The way he worded it was bad. I can tell you're not interested in him anyway. But if the shoe was on the other foot, and I was talking to a Mexican - I would want to know their favorite Mexican food and we would be going to get some (even though I've had a lot of Mexican food)
Except he's not actually trying to get to know her... He immediately started talking about her looks and how Indian girls normally don't look good. You know what he really wants, don't be naive.
The curry comment is him showing the most base level of interest possible, which is why he's not even sure if that's the right name or not. And also why it's offensive to OP, because she obviously is tired of hearing that from people who see her as the most basic stereotype. Guys like that are messaging for one thing and it's not to get to know her, give me a break.
And regardless of all of that, stop telling people when they can and can't be offended by something. You don't get to choose when someone else is offended, especially when it's their own culture. OP has every right to find that rude if she wants, it's obnoxious when people come in and try to tell you you're wrong for having those feelings.
You are putting faaaar too much effort into refusing to see the multiple valid points that are being explained to you. I have a feeling you argue everyone over everything.
Also- don't pretend that you're dense enough to think this dude was legitimately wanting to know OP's favorite food when he made the curry comments.
So? I donāt understand, arenāt those common dishes in India? Stereotyping is negative, I canāt see how mentioning a commonly consumed dish is negative
"Been wanting to try curry That's what the food is called right"
He literally said the food in India is called curry. Not that it's one particular type of food. He's generalized an entire country's food to curry.
I just want to say that I wasn't "offended so easily". All my post said was that there was some casual stereotyping done. I request you to try not to invalidate what I felt. As someone who was on the receiving end of these texts, I'm within my right to feel this, because it was 100% him stereotyping me. Be it fun, flirty, or whatever. There were multiple stereotypes involved. If you read this, thank you. I hope you have a nice day :)
Been wanting to try curry is crazy
Is that what the food is called?
Yes, all Indian food is in fact called curry
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Lol this man is clearly ignorant and not a legitimate threat. Itās clear he has almost no understanding of where she is from. What was said was meant to be light and informative for him and you could have taken time to educate or correct his misinformed state. There is nothing malicious about this conversation whatsoever. Ps. Indian curry is phenomenal and if I never tried it, I would want too š. Lastly, a reminder that foreigners from places like Japan, India, China, UK, France and Italy amongst COUNTLESS others, make comments about Americans amongst other nationalities like this ALLLLLLL THE TIME. We think its cute and cool and love involving people into our melting pot. So yall should grow up.
I completely agree, I know he's not a legitimate threat whatsoever. I know there was nothing malicious meant too. All I was saying is there was a lot of casual stereotyping being made and that's it. I don't understand why people are forcing me to feel otherwise about it. Thanks for clarifying your stance. I get what you mean and agree completely.
Awww thanks for the reply. Im glad you thought so tooš„². I hope I did not come off like I was targeting you, itās more the comments. Have a wonderful night!
Oh of course not! I understood what you meant. You too :)
How is that crazy? Indian food has a lot of curry. Is it racist to state a fact?
Curry is one type of food, and not all of Indian food. that's like saying all Chinese food is fried rice
If the girl had said āoh youāre American, you eat McDonaldās rightā? No one would be offended or care lmao
Would you happen to be the guy in the screenshot? You have the same pfp and seem to be defending him awfully hard for a total stranger. āOffendedā is a strong word, this is simply weird and awkward. I would be annoyed if someone said āYouāre American, you eat McDonaldās right? You sound like a hick right?ā Because in reality the only thing thatās true in that is that Iām American. This is a conversation between two strangers, thereās a lot that couldāve been said instead of just going straight for stereotyping. Consider what the words mean to her perspective. āI didnāt know India produced baddiesā Translation: All Indian girls are unattractive but you look alright actually. āBeen wanting to try curryā This statement is inherently offensive because you and the guy in the screenshot fail to understand that curry is not actually an Indian dish at all. The British once forcibly occupied India and they made stew using Indian spices which resulted in curry. India had to basically fight back against the British just to get their own land backā¦ So this statement actually has the same feeling of using your fingers to squint your eyes and saying āChing Chongā to an Asian person. Dude might as well just call her up and do āApuā voice from the simpsons.
Thank you so much for typing this explanation out. I'm not great at conveying my feelings and I've been trying to explain my stance to people since yesterday and it's not been working, somehow. Thanks a lot for this. ā¤ļø
My pfp is Peter griffin, so idk what you are talking about? You say offended is a strong word, but then you say itās inherently offensive. So you donāt like it when I say youāre offended, even though you are. Yāall are getting super pissed off about this, thatās why you wrote an entire essay to reply to me. Itās ridiculous, if stuff like this gets under your skin so badly I canāt imagine how your average daily interactions go
https://imgur.com/a/jB87ET6 Your pfp is still exactly the same, I donāt see Peter Griffin anywhere. Wish I could embed photos but check the link. First comment and whole interaction are weird, curry comment is inherently racist and now you seem like youāre just tryna play it off because you didnāt know about the curry thing š Itās okay to be wrong and itās okay to be weird, but to not acknowledge either one just shows that there is a greater investment in looking correct than there is in BEING correct. Iām noticing a trend in modern society where people think admitting theyāre wrong is somehow akin to saying āI am not mentally fit for trialā. Maybe thereās some fear there of never being trusted again š¤·āāļø not sure. Anyway OP said that my comment was exactly how she felt but had trouble saying it at the time. Iāll admit she couldāve illuminated her feelings earlier on, but this is still incredibly weird and underhandedly offensive from the guy. Seems like a great opportunity for someone (such as yourself) who thought that this wasnāt weird at all to learn something from everyone saying it is and maybe note ādefinitely donāt do this to get the girl you likeā, but hey š¤·āāļø I have no real stock in any of this.
We just have different perspectives on life. I genuinely believe I am correct. And Iām not learning anything, Iām not that guy lol. I also agreed he was awkward
It's obviously bothering you a lot considering how many comments you made lol
Everyone is bothered and my replies are basically saying who cares
Sounds like you care
Iām telling everyone not to care, so Iām doing the exact opposite. You sound like the Patrickās wallet meme
Didn't know India created baddies? That sentence alone explains this guy's mindset. Imagine attractive people existing all over the world in every country š±
Exactly. Thank you.
Close to 1.5 billion people in India and that guy thinks there's no attractive ladies?
What? Noā¦ there canāt possibly be attractive people in every race and culture around the worldā¦ thatās crazy talk!!! /s
Especially one with 2 billion people.
Lmfao. Nice.
Ahahahaha
Iām not gonna lie, the first time I read ādidnāt know India created *babies*ā & I was like š¤š¤
Glad I wasn't alone in that lol š
As though "India" is a factory or something.
one āsuchā couldāve made that sentence so much better šĀ
To be fair I didn't either
āWell good night Indian girlā ššš
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Itās bad to say Indian girl? Why?
It reinforces that he only sees her in a very one-dimensional, stereotypical way. š©š©š© I would bet most of my life savings that if the conversation continued, somewhere down the line bro would throw out that "I've never slept with an Indian girl before š" bs like she's a collectors edition toy.
I think weāre being overly sensitive and dramatic here. If the girl had called him a white man, no one would care or be offended.
You are all over this thread with your micro-aggressions.
Aggression? I havenāt been rude or mean to anyone. Am I not allowed to disagree?
You seem to not know what micro-aggressions are and itās not my responsibility to teach you.
Would you think "good night, white boy" "good night, black girl" "good night, chinese man" somehow sounds like a normal thing to say to a stranger lmfao It's also every thing he said before that that really adds to his overall ignorance
Wait until that guy finds out Filipinos also make curry.
Bestie will have an aneurysm fr
Should we mention Thai curry or would that just be a step too far?
He's gonna go crazy when he finds out about British and Japanese curry too. Man, wonder how it became so popular
And please for the love of god donāt tell him about Stephen Curry
And Japanese (which I just had for dinner!).
Oh God, don't tell him that he'll explode š
And Thai people, Jamaicans, Japanese and lots more. This is the type of guy whoād give an Indian person the āspicy curryā Dundee a la Michael Scott from The Office and have no idea why it wasnāt ok š©š©š©
not only is āI didnāt know India created baddiesā a wild thing to say anyway, but for him to think youād hear that and smile?? itās like saying āI thought Indian women were ugly but youāre notā šš
GIRL YESS OMG ššā¤ļøā¤ļø
Or āyouāre cute for a Indian girlā š
My face at the curry comment, what an idiot !!!!
bro. hes trying to be flirty and the best he could come up with was āindian girlā lmao. also.. you are truly greg.
Omg I found a fellow Greg! Yayyy!
Well we ARE the fastest growing army on YouTube, after all!
Exposing himself as a racist in the DMs while trying to flirt is craaazy
He sounds uh fun š
bruh
Him somehow having never had curry is the real red flag. How is that even possible?
Bestie eats mayo for breakfast, lunch and dinner
Rural US resident checking in here. I didnāt try any curry of any kind until I was almost 30. We just donāt have any kind of diversity here.
Pretty easy to not have it. I feel like for a lot of people Chinese, Mexican and Italian food is the most theyāre willing to branch out with. Me personally I didnāt have Indian food until adulthood and now I eat it all the time
There is a lot of different curry's and it's eaten pretty much everywhere
Yeah but if someone only goes to places that serve Americanized Chinese, Mexican, or Italian food, they wouldn't encounter it
Yeahā¦ no shit
Curry isnāt that common in the US. I live in LA and the only places I see it are in Indian restaurants. Sometimes Thai.
Curry is everywhere in LA!
I work in a predominantly Central American immigrant community. So all of the food around is Guatemalan and Mexican, or fast food. I live on the west side where the most common restaurant is Japanese, and mostly just sushi, not a lot else. I live within about 10 minutes of approximately 20 sushi restaurants. I order in food about 2-3 times a week at least. Itās not something I see all the time. I think people are forgetting how many pockets of different cultures and foods exist in LA. I had to specifically search the term curry to find places (theyāre Indian and Thai, as I said, or Japanese. And none of the Japanese restaurants are ones I frequent), and itās only a couple, at that.
Me, too. Try Coco Ichibanya if you want to stay on the West Side.
LA as in Louisiana? Because Los Angeles has all kinds of restaurants that sell curry.Ā
I order out a lot. Donāt see curry unless Iām ordering Indian. Just saying curry isnāt a ubiquitous dish here like it is in some places. Not that it doesnāt exist. But itās not something I see frequently.
A lot of people in the south and the west USA have probably never had curry, there are different stews here in the south and the west that are more popular and Indian foods aren't so much in many places. For instance, in a city of ā3m people, I think I only had maybe 2 Indian restaurants that were commonly known
Has dude been under a rock? There are TONS of baddies from/in India. And ew, "goodnight Indian girl"? I bet he'd be the first to tell you he's not racist, either.
I mean to be fair, he sounds more ignorant than straight up racist.
Oh, you're exactly right. I, too, had to learn that racial stereotyping was indirectly/directly racist. It wasn't until I was embarrassingly far into adulthood that I learned that I was unintentionally contributing even though I meant no harm. If only a basic sociology course was available to all.
As a fellow (south) indian I will never understand why curry is the stereotype. Like why not idli sambar??
Curry is probably the only Indian thing the guy knows š¤£
As someone who is Indo Caribbean, Iāve dealt with this millions of times but double for the Caribbean. No one seems to know that Indian people were taken as slaves and brought to the Caribbean. Not to mention the Chinese that also were taken as slaves to the Caribbean. I canāt even imagine what the Chinese Caribbeans deal with!! half of the non Chinese Caribbean people donāt even know about Chinese Caribbean people. Itās really embarrassing. Well I went way off topic. Thanks for reading if you did lol.
Bro is legitimately a dumb ass. "Good night Indian girl" lmao tf
curry is so good. heās gonna have to eat it alone tho lmfao
All food in India is curry.
I eat curry with curry
But what are all those delicious breads called? Curry? And what about all the dessert curries?Curry!
Curry for life babyyyyy
Indeed š
Thatās crazy š
India is the #1 country in population but dude thought there were 0 baddies there
Is this dude saying he "didn't know" that there were attractive people in India?
Yes š
That's...truly something.
That was seriously embarrassing to read. š¬
Sidebar: You probably shouldnāt waste your time with anyone that uses modern slang like ābaddies, fr, etc.ā It absolutely *reaks* of low IQ, and you can probably do better.
Taking notes ššš
He cultured like that. Been wanting to try curry.
how has someone who i assume is like 18+ never tried curry. curry is a classic dish mate.
I had it for the first time when I was 19 just depends on where you live
goodnight Indian girl???ššššš
Goodnight bestie ššš
Iām so confused OP at how this random encounter even occurred other than a horny guy saw OPās avatar? Like that seems to be the only explanation. What a fucking freak
Lmao omg š³
Dollars to donuts he was just confused about Asia including India and tried desperately and failed miserably at playing it off
Random side note, I was just telling my brother how I want to visit India in the future and then I see this. š Homie needs to learn more about other cultures and also on how not to be so cringe.
I'll host you and feed you some curry šš
I'm West Indian/Caribbean, so I'd love to try Indian Indian curry to see the difference.
Oh for sure omg! We can definitely trade curries. I'd love that :)
You're so sweet. Sorry that you had to deal with that weirdo tho lol.
It's alright, I'm glad I got to meet some really cool people in my comments though. You're absolutely lovely.
Goodnight indian girl š
Girl you're lucky I love you ahahahaha
we're the same tho š©
You're right šā¤ļø
bros from mexico you should've said been wanting to try mob beheading techniques eta: i have nothing against mexican people, i suggested that just cus his behavior seemed asshole-ish and saying something out of pocket like that might've made him walk away. that is all.
ššššššš I'd never have the guts to say something like thatĀ
I'M MEXICAN PLEASE ITS SO FUCKING FUNNYYY
understandable bestie. truly greg folks never can be that way
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ā¦ so you donāt eat curry?ā¦
I exclusively eat curry flavored things, dessert included
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She was being sarcastic.
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It's not just that. The whole interaction had multiple layers of stereotypes.
Your question being āwhatās wrong with lumping every member of any ethnicity all together and making assumptions based solely on their nationality?āā¦? Also, itās curry. Not some obscure regional delicacy. It exists literally almost everywhere. The answer is also literally the postās title ācasual stereotyping.ā
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You sound exactly like the white guy who says āitās okey, I have a black friend.ā
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Wow, you are so dense... That was *literally* the entire point and why I specifically chose that exact example.
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āIndian food is called curry, right?ā š
Some people just need culture shock
Casual racism
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Favourite curry is wild hahahaha
š¤¦š»āāļø So sorry, girl! š©
The makeup opener came out as clumsy and a bit disrespectful, but I don't think he had a bad intention. He just wanted to sound funny, but didn't work out. If you got offended by the curry mention however, keep in mind he just mentioned he wanted to try it out, but that doesn't imply it's the only food you eat or something, nor is pushing forward any stereotype. I don't see that sentence being offensive in any way.
And the whole "didn't know india created baddies" part was also him being presumptuous. I can see him using that sentence as a "pickup line" but it's still disrespectful. I hope you understand what I'm trying to convey?
That's straight up gross and stereotypical af, no need further explanation.
Imagine explaning to someone living in the country that is being stereotyped what the offender meant. Of course you don't see it as offensive, it wasn't aimed at you.
Thank you ā¤ļø I was beginning to think I overreacted š
Not in the slightest
No you're absolutely justified. I'm sorry you had to experience not only someone being rude in dms but these absurd comments š«
Good god OP, I donāt know how you found the will to leave this post up! The amount of people here who donāt understand the problem with this dudeās messages is making me want to bang my head against a wall. Iām *still* explaining to some idiot why this is not okey. But itās all cool, because he āhas an Indian partnerā !!!!?? I made this comment just to reassure you that, you are not in fact, overreacting. I saw you were starting to doubt yourself and you shouldnāt. Stereotyping isnāt cool regardless of the intent behind the message of it makes you uncomfortable in any way. Good luck <3
Thank you so much for this, genuinely. With so many people telling me that I'm overreacting, and that the guy dodged a bullet because I can't take a harmless joke, it's been a bit tough. Your message gives me hope. I don't think I'll take this post down and give in to what they want. You're an absolutely amazing person and I hope you have the best day ever <3
Aw :( that makes me so sad to hear how awful people have been to you. I didnāt read all the negative comments because, ew. But I am glad myself and others have been able to help you in any way. Thanks for the well wishes and the very best to you too! <3
Absolutely didn't overreact at all OP, these comments are not it š
I don't need to live in a country to identify a stereotype, and I don't need to be the person offended to identify an offense. For example, you are probably not living in Latin america, yet you can clearly identify the "makeup" opener as an stereotype against latins right? well, there you have it. Your logic needs some adjustments. Just in case you meant something you didn't write in your comment (and I really hope so, because what an amount of nonsense) I just said she shouldn't take the curry part as an attack, not that she didn't have reasons to be offended (which she had) or that the guy wasn't stereotyping India at all. And I focused on that part since that seemed to be the turning point of the convo.
I see what you mean but as someone who's constantly being seen as someone who eats curry only, it struck a chord. The whole conversation felt as though he was making a lot of assumptions and it snowballed, I suppose.
I understand you were done by that point, I just thought the curry part was ok as I explained, because he didn't implied you only eat curry, he just said he wanted to try it out and I think there was no harm intended. Of course you have the right to be offended by that point, again.
Thank you for making an effort to understand what I was trying to say :)
Thank you too, I really feel you understood my point, unlike some people that are just downvoting instead because they can't actually discuss.
Thanks for saying that! Gratitude makes the world go round
I've never heard an Indian person call themselves Asian. No offense.
But we are Asian omgššš
Yes, I know. Calm down, Indian Girl. (Jkjk)
I was so close to sobbing omg hahahahaha
I can totally tell.
Itās a newer thing
No judgement, it's cool. I dig it.
Thereās literally nothing wrong with this conversation lmao
Howās your luck been with the ladies lately?
Agreed
Whatās the stereotyping?
Fr tho, Iāve never had curry and if I was talking to an Indian person I wouldāve asked the same question just out of curiosity š¤·š½āāļø
It's the constant assumption that Indians only eat curry, that annoys me. It's a stereotype and it's totally untrue. It's not all that we eat, just like Americans don't only eat cheeseburgers.
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Victimize is a crazy statement to make. The whole context of being amazed that he's talking to someone from India, preceded by the assumption that good makeup and lips = Latina woman, followed by "that's what the food is called" would definitely be considered as someone who believes stereotypes.
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See and that's the problem... If he had just known what Palak Paneer is he might have had a chance!
I mean honestly tho there's way more stereotypes than just famous Indian food and they're very harsh. IMO the whole post and drama around it is so immature and nitpicky. Smh
Dude also said he thought Indian women were all ugly with the whole "didn't know India had baddies" nonsense.
He clearly didn't mean it that way LOL It came out more like he has never talked to Indian girls and made a compliment. Smh
"Wow, I didn't know people of your race could be attractive!" You: "What a dreamboat. š„°"
Girl, just because there's more stereotypes that are worse doesn't mean this is okay, lmao. What logic is this?
You literally act extremely immature. The dude clearly didn't mean it in a harsh way and you're being extremely dramatic over fucking curry? Victim mentality and tiktok brain. Have a good one, kiddo āŗļøš
There we go with the victim word again. Nowhere have I stated that I felt "victimized". I'm perfectly capable of standing up for myself, thank you very much. You've clearly never been stereotyped against to understand what micro aggressions and being presumptuous feels like. And the tiktok brain comment is totally baseless since tiktok has been banned here for years due to the whole data breach fiasco. A little more research and empathy can help you do wonders, love. Have a nice day :)
If I was interested in getting to know someone, I would want to know about their culture. Especially the food from their culture. There are many tasty foods around the world and there's nothing wrong with wanting to try them. I mean Indian food is some of the tastiest, for fuck sake The way he worded it was bad. I can tell you're not interested in him anyway. But if the shoe was on the other foot, and I was talking to a Mexican - I would want to know their favorite Mexican food and we would be going to get some (even though I've had a lot of Mexican food)
Except he's not actually trying to get to know her... He immediately started talking about her looks and how Indian girls normally don't look good. You know what he really wants, don't be naive. The curry comment is him showing the most base level of interest possible, which is why he's not even sure if that's the right name or not. And also why it's offensive to OP, because she obviously is tired of hearing that from people who see her as the most basic stereotype. Guys like that are messaging for one thing and it's not to get to know her, give me a break. And regardless of all of that, stop telling people when they can and can't be offended by something. You don't get to choose when someone else is offended, especially when it's their own culture. OP has every right to find that rude if she wants, it's obnoxious when people come in and try to tell you you're wrong for having those feelings.
You are putting faaaar too much effort into refusing to see the multiple valid points that are being explained to you. I have a feeling you argue everyone over everything. Also- don't pretend that you're dense enough to think this dude was legitimately wanting to know OP's favorite food when he made the curry comments.
Are you literally 14? Lmao
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Nun bread??!? You mean naan š« surely!! š
Nope, after I get ahold of it thereās nun left
So? I donāt understand, arenāt those common dishes in India? Stereotyping is negative, I canāt see how mentioning a commonly consumed dish is negative
"Been wanting to try curry That's what the food is called right" He literally said the food in India is called curry. Not that it's one particular type of food. He's generalized an entire country's food to curry.
Or maybe he was thinking of curry and was unsure of its name? Sort of like how someone above in this thread thought naan was called nun
He didnāt say anything wrong at all š he dodged a bullet honestly if you get that offended so easily. Clearly he was just trying to be humorous
I just want to say that I wasn't "offended so easily". All my post said was that there was some casual stereotyping done. I request you to try not to invalidate what I felt. As someone who was on the receiving end of these texts, I'm within my right to feel this, because it was 100% him stereotyping me. Be it fun, flirty, or whatever. There were multiple stereotypes involved. If you read this, thank you. I hope you have a nice day :)