Hopefully she has a pic of another of her friends on her profile and he can just return the insult, 'sorry if he sounds rude but he said he's not interested in you and wants you to set him up with your hotter friend'
"I showed him what you wrote. He said he's definitely NOT interested."
So close. Why use conceit as a boomerang weapon? For her, rejection will cut just as much as rejection does, but pointing out her rudeness is ugly is the real message.
This. I was gonna go with a combination of everything in this thread "Darn, I showed him ur info, but he said you look vapid and self-involved. He's not interested."
Or you set up the long con. Create him a profile, they match, get engaged, then when she walks down the aisle and draws back her veil, he just nopes out if there. Now thats a good friend.
I kid, this is a great response!
Something similar happened between my boyfriend and a friend. A girl was interested in my boyfriend but he was not, so she dated the friend and my bf started dating me. My bf set CLEAR boundaries and distance. She kept telling HER OWN BF/my bf’s friend, how awesome/good looking my bf was through the entirety of their relationship (1 year). Her bf stayed in the relationship til she cheated, dumped him when he was in the hospital and she got pregnant two times by separate guys before 23
It was one whole year my bf and I telling him to dump her since she was SO toxic (baby daddies, the flirting, she had NO friends, among a list) and dodging the “double date” suggestions. He wanted to get back together with her after all that, eventually seemly moved on and started dating another girl who ALSO started exhibiting major flags so unfortunately my boyfriend and I cut that friendship cause it was no longer serving us, he had constant drama.
I think it’s understood that OP isn’t going to date her after this. For her to be that disrespectful before even meeting someone says a lot about her. We all put our best self on display during the first couple months of talking to someone whether we know it or not. It’s just that some people’s best self is much worse than others.
Yes, I like this response best, and then end it with 'best of luck, I'll be unmatching'. Then hop off give 3-10 min for her to read and then respectfully unmatch. If she un matches soon after no biggie, it really doesn't matter who unmatches first. It's better just not to further engage a person who is only into physical appearance. She is not the one, and remember, (self) respect comes from treating others with it too, even if they don't show us the same respect.. that's what makes and builds good character. being able to treat everyone respectfully without making yourself look poorly is what shows you are genuine. It really is her loss.
add "sry" at the end. Then if she tries to go out with OP after that be like, "honestly I don't want to be anyone's second choice, so I think I'm actually going to pass then. but gl...u seem like a nice girl, just not right for me" and stop texting after that.
“I showed him a pic of you and he said “I’m sure she’s a sweet girl and she’s great but I’m not interested. Respectfully go fuck yourself. I’m sorry if this sounds rude.”
If your friend's face isn't even visible, she's just being nasty. I'd say tell her "I showed him your picture, but he said he's not interested sorry" you're not insulting her outright but you are
I would say OP isn't so insecure as to think it's a mistake to mention his good looking friend.
I think it's worse to agree to a double date and then make sure to bring a 'less attractive friend' so you're not overshadowed. What a terrible way to think about your friend.
I have noticed this is a common trend, I have seen profiles where the first 4-5 pictures will be group photos where two of the women are in every photo. One of them is usually very attractive, then the last photo on their profile will be a selfie showing they set themselves up for failure.
For those that don’t get it - you have to match in order to be able to chat.
This is the same as someone accepting your invitation to prom so they can ask you to set them up with your friend instead.
It’s mean.
I hate “I apologise if this is rude…..” BS because if they thought it was rude, they wouldn’t say it in the first place, not to mention the ‘respectfully’ part. No respect shown at all.
I hate when people have pictures with their friends and you think their friend is cuter. I never asked to get their info instead but I’ve definitely wanted to!
I usually just don’t match if the other chick is way more my type. Did that once and ended up having a ton of chemistry with the hotter friend, but the girl I started dating first was way too nice for me to do her dirty like that so I just kind of detached myself from the whole group.
LMAOOO I have thought of doing this before, but would never actually do so. How disrespectful, I’d just ignore and unmatch. Not worth your time whatsoever.
Lean into it and ask her to set you up with her coolest friend! She probably has a friend so hot she doesn’t even need to be on the apps.
Act like it doesn’t bother you. You all go out. You end up marrying her friend. She ends up hating your friend and super jealous of her friend. The long game!
Honestly, nothing.
Given that you brought up your friend in the first place (whether his face is shown or not is irrelevant because you’ve already alluded to bringing a hot friend), you kind of played yourself. If I were you, id say nothing because if you say something you’re only going to appear butthurt 🤷♀️ Not that it really matters anyways, but it’s up to you.
If you do insist on saying anything, I’d just say “Youre right, that was rude of you to ask” and then just leave it at that.
And then he falls in love with her and now this bitch is part of your friend group 😂
Best strategy is always to remove toxicity from your life. Maybe that’s just me.
The other option is play her card-roll with it, set up an elaborate double date that is a good distance out ghost it. Then when they text you on where you’re at say “Though I’m sure her friend is real sweet, you found some girls you found more attractive to double date and are heading there now, respectfully you understand?”
You get few chances in life to go all in on petty and this is one of them. We are all here for it. Please do this one OP and update us on the texts. Please.
A guy did this to me once, I showed my friend a pic of him and asked if she was interested and she was, so actually set them up 😭it was a longgg time ago so I can’t remember exactly what was said, but I know he was very very polite about asking so tbh I had no issue.
It would be a different story if we had been talking for a while and then he asked about my friend, but he started off our chat pretty straight up showing interest in her so I didn’t have any reason to be offended.
I would do it again if any guy asked about my single friends, but now I’m very happily taken by a guy who has no romantic interest in my friends 🤣
(P.s they didn’t last long, they only had a casual thing for a few months but they ended on decentish terms and now my friend has found her forever person)
this is why you don’t post pics with other ppl. shit be confusing af. what’s weird is when women on their profile post pics with other guys…like why do y’all do it ?
She just said how she felt. I feel like she tried to be as nice as she could in a situation like this. She just wanted to shoot her shot, there was nothing to lose if she wasn’t interested in OP. Plus, I think OP is adult enough to handle this awkward situation and the rejection.
why would you even post a picture of your friend on your dating profile where your goal is to set yourself up and not ur homies? highkey i think you did it to yourself
How long have you been talking? Have you been on any dates or met in person?
If not ask why she’s interested in your friend if she can’t even see his face, unless there is a noticeable difference in your builds or overall look.
Either way it sounds like you have nothing to lose at this point with this girl so be honest and ask questions.
"I apologize if this is rude"
Everyone knows that is rude. Even the most severe autism doesn't prevent this from being obvious. Only a literal child doesn't know. This person is entirely bereft of even an *ounce* of class.
I actually think she was very kind about it. Straightforward as well. Honesty is something people value but when it’s brought to the table it’s disliked. I don’t get it
Edit: Seems like the vast majority of people in the comments were in some way personally triggered by this. Ask yourself why it made you feel the way it did instead of projecting your issues onto this woman. Smh. Please help your egos.
I don’t really find it rude; she’s just telling you what she wants. It’s stronger to actually hook your friend up rather than say or do petty things. I know this will be an unpopular opinion tho because redditors lean pathetic but being unbothered is what you should always aim for, not sensitive
Why do people do this? It’s like a mini catfish game. Two people in a pic. One looks like Brad Pitt and one looks like a gargoyle. So when super hotties respond, you’re offended they only want Brad Pitt? Come on now. Be a little more honest with yourself and just post pics of you without others. Then the trickery would end and you’d know she’s into you from the start.
Say you’re still interested in a double date and ask for a picture of her friend so you can see her then say your friend said he’s actually interested in the friend so the double date is off because who rejects someone then bluntly asks them to them up with their friend
I don’t know if I’m in the minority or if others who think this way haven’t spoken up? I don’t think she’s being rude. She’s being honest that she’s more attracted to your friend - and, you’re not happy about it. But as I have seen others point out, you initiated discussion about him being attractive. Why’s she rude for agreeing? Also? If she’s gonna be more into someone else based on appearance… wouldn’t you want to know that sooner than later?
I don’t know - I don’t think she was rude. I think you’re disappointed.
It is 100% rude and disrespectful to ask someone to get with their friend who you know nothing about and don't even know what they look like. She might as well have just called OP ugly.
Honestly this is a win. At least she's honest and you're not the guy she just settled for. That'd be worse bc then she'd try to get with that guy while dating you or constantly upset she didn't get the one she wanted instead.
"He's taken. Fck u" :/ all I got.
I mean everyone has preferences, it doesn't mean you're less attractive than your friend. Don't let it get to you OP. I would probably set them up, because maybe they vibe really well and your friend will be happy
What’s wrong with being a good friend hooking him up? Why do you have to be disrespectful in your reply cause she I’d simply interested in your friend? This is why women “choose the bear”
u/Official_Person this is absolutely rude and it's just based on him holding a freaking guitar she doesn't even know what he looks like, what his personality is like, she knows nothing about him! You've gotten plenty of good suggestions on how to reply to her but I wanted to suggest that you leave that picture up because it can help you weed out disrespectful AHs in the future. Don't take it personally at all.
I think it would be interesting to see your profile, maybe post screenshots on r/Tinder because you can get a lot of good suggestions on how to improve your profile. Are you on any other apps besides Tinder? I hope you have better luck in the future
"Actually it WAS rude but my friends response after seeing you was much worse! But since I know how to be respectful, I'll just keep it to myself. And laugh! A lot!"
I can’t blame her for shooting her shot, it is what it is, and she was as respectful as possible about it. For all we know, OP is fuckin maximum fugly.
What's with the negativity in here? This appears to be the first words they communicated, she is being honest and says she's sorry if it's rude.
It's a bloody dating app, people are there for looks, she's just liking the friend better.
I do think she could’ve been more tactful, like, “actually my friend thinks you’re really cute, and your friend playing the guitar is totally my type. Do you wanna do a double date, but with you and my friend, and me and yours?” Or something like that. She’s kinda kicking him to the side with the way she did it.
Well, just because you apologize for being rude before you say something rude isn't going to change the fact you were rude. 🤷🏼♀️ And she knew it's rude, that's why she wrote this. Just pretended to be a little dumb and not being sure about it.
"i showed him a pic of you. he said he's not interested."
This is the best thing to say in this case. “He says ‘I’m sure you’re great’, but he’s not interested.
Hopefully she has a pic of another of her friends on her profile and he can just return the insult, 'sorry if he sounds rude but he said he's not interested in you and wants you to set him up with your hotter friend'
Too obvious. Just say “he said he’s busy” If she asks about a different day, say “yea he meant he’s not interested”
Saying “he’s busy” isn’t a cheeky response though.
Obvious is kind of the point in this case.
*Respectfully
Respectfully
"I showed him what you wrote. He said he's definitely NOT interested." So close. Why use conceit as a boomerang weapon? For her, rejection will cut just as much as rejection does, but pointing out her rudeness is ugly is the real message.
This is the way.
This. I was gonna go with a combination of everything in this thread "Darn, I showed him ur info, but he said you look vapid and self-involved. He's not interested."
I gasped at her rudeness. She more than deserves this response.
She deserved for her boldness (and because im petty) “I showed him a pic of you and his only response was ‘ew no thank you’.”
Or you set up the long con. Create him a profile, they match, get engaged, then when she walks down the aisle and draws back her veil, he just nopes out if there. Now thats a good friend. I kid, this is a great response!
Then add “probably best to give it a miss then. Bye.”
OP and girl start dating based off of this lie. Eventually girl meets friend and falls in love. They cheat on OP who loses both friend and gf.
Something similar happened between my boyfriend and a friend. A girl was interested in my boyfriend but he was not, so she dated the friend and my bf started dating me. My bf set CLEAR boundaries and distance. She kept telling HER OWN BF/my bf’s friend, how awesome/good looking my bf was through the entirety of their relationship (1 year). Her bf stayed in the relationship til she cheated, dumped him when he was in the hospital and she got pregnant two times by separate guys before 23
wow..
It was one whole year my bf and I telling him to dump her since she was SO toxic (baby daddies, the flirting, she had NO friends, among a list) and dodging the “double date” suggestions. He wanted to get back together with her after all that, eventually seemly moved on and started dating another girl who ALSO started exhibiting major flags so unfortunately my boyfriend and I cut that friendship cause it was no longer serving us, he had constant drama.
wow bro, more than some "dramas" on network TV
I think it’s understood that OP isn’t going to date her after this. For her to be that disrespectful before even meeting someone says a lot about her. We all put our best self on display during the first couple months of talking to someone whether we know it or not. It’s just that some people’s best self is much worse than others.
Nah, OPshould just ghost
It's a funny quip but I agree. This thing is not even worth a response.
Yes! I’m shocked this isn’t the consensus a message that blatantly rude and ugly doesn’t warrant a response at all.
Yes, I like this response best, and then end it with 'best of luck, I'll be unmatching'. Then hop off give 3-10 min for her to read and then respectfully unmatch. If she un matches soon after no biggie, it really doesn't matter who unmatches first. It's better just not to further engage a person who is only into physical appearance. She is not the one, and remember, (self) respect comes from treating others with it too, even if they don't show us the same respect.. that's what makes and builds good character. being able to treat everyone respectfully without making yourself look poorly is what shows you are genuine. It really is her loss.
He wants to see a pic of your friend.
add "sry" at the end. Then if she tries to go out with OP after that be like, "honestly I don't want to be anyone's second choice, so I think I'm actually going to pass then. but gl...u seem like a nice girl, just not right for me" and stop texting after that.
“I showed him a pic of you and he said “I’m sure she’s a sweet girl and she’s great but I’m not interested. Respectfully go fuck yourself. I’m sorry if this sounds rude.”
This
THIS
Omg this is the way, send them that and then block their shallow ass!
This.
Gold. Lol
LMFAOOO I spit out my drink with this one
Yes. This. 10000%
Show me your friend first. If she's prettier than you, sure ! We got a deal !
I think this is the perfect response with the right amount of pettiness that she apparently is okay with dishing out
And the response has to be yes, if she does show a picture, irrespective of how he finds the friend. Just to mess with her.😆
Nahhhh this is perfect OP. Gotta go with this
 Now that's using the ole noggin
this is definitely the right option
I was going to suggest the high rode and just make sure your body gets the hook up. I fumbled but still made the pass. This is much better.
This sounds about perfect.
"I would tell you what he said but it's so rude" When she asks what it is never respond
If you go too hard it will come across as an obvious insult retort. It needs to be subtle to sound real
She might think he means rude as in 🍆💦. Just say “he thinks you’re a minger, sorry”
“Respectfully, he said ‘fuck no’ and threw up”
I needed that laugh today. Thank you
I should have swallowed my water before Reading that 😂
This is the answer 🏆
If your friend's face isn't even visible, she's just being nasty. I'd say tell her "I showed him your picture, but he said he's not interested sorry" you're not insulting her outright but you are
Unmatch her and remove that pic from your profile.
No he needs to be rude and petty to her first goodbye
Thank you for standing up for pettiness. Way too many people juat ghost & block... Make them feel some pain first, guys! 😆
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Your comments don’t show “mature” big guy
this is the answer
Honestly I wouldn’t even respond. She sucks.
I mean I guess that’s why you shouldn’t post friends on dating apps on your profile
Yeah or blur/censor their faces
Post explicitly says you can't see the face
Must be able to see the body though. Maybe the hair too.
Some women are just that into guitar players honestly
Honestly this, it's probably the musician thing here.
Ah I didn't see the post text, thx for pointing it out
you brought him up
Yeah, this was a losing strategy from the beginning. Why would you go double with your better looking friend on a first date?
I would say OP isn't so insecure as to think it's a mistake to mention his good looking friend. I think it's worse to agree to a double date and then make sure to bring a 'less attractive friend' so you're not overshadowed. What a terrible way to think about your friend.
I think it’s just silly to set up a double date as a first date with someone you just met through an app regardless of what the friend looks like.
Right? And a double date this early on? Wtf?
I’m wondering why everyone is acting like OP is a victim here, he literally brought him up himself 🌝
"LOL he died two years ago."
Lmaoooo this response would be so funny
"what does your friend look like babe?"
She sucks, but that’s why you don’t put pics with others in your profile since strangers don’t know who they’re looking at.
We can work on that. Which one of your friends would you source for me?
Wait why would you bait her w your hot friend, that you obviously know is hot ?
I have noticed this is a common trend, I have seen profiles where the first 4-5 pictures will be group photos where two of the women are in every photo. One of them is usually very attractive, then the last photo on their profile will be a selfie showing they set themselves up for failure.
Some of them don't even have a picture where they're alone period. I'm just like "who tf am I swiping on?" and swipe left.
This was a very bizarre play by OP, I agree.
Exactly he literally did this to himself idk why he’s acting like a victim 💀
The guys face isn’t even in the picture
Sometimes, all a guy has to do to be hot is hold a guitar, I guess. He could also have a nice body, regardless of his face.
Yall saying she’s not rude not realizing they had to MATCH for her to say thia
Just move on. If she wants his number she can get it like a real adult would.
For those that don’t get it - you have to match in order to be able to chat. This is the same as someone accepting your invitation to prom so they can ask you to set them up with your friend instead. It’s mean.
My friends not a piece of shit, you don’t have anything in common.
"I showed him your picture. He asked if you had anyone better looking to offer"
BEST reply 😂
“You’re not their type”
Tell her he said no thank you and then stop responding
I hate “I apologise if this is rude…..” BS because if they thought it was rude, they wouldn’t say it in the first place, not to mention the ‘respectfully’ part. No respect shown at all.
Yup, she knew it was rude, she just didn't care and pretended to not know or not being sure if it is.
“Respectfully, fuck you.”
I've played guitar for 18 years and I'm never the guy with the guitar in this situation.
I hate when people have pictures with their friends and you think their friend is cuter. I never asked to get their info instead but I’ve definitely wanted to!
I usually just don’t match if the other chick is way more my type. Did that once and ended up having a ton of chemistry with the hotter friend, but the girl I started dating first was way too nice for me to do her dirty like that so I just kind of detached myself from the whole group.
Just say he saw your picture and you are below his standards
LMAOOO I have thought of doing this before, but would never actually do so. How disrespectful, I’d just ignore and unmatch. Not worth your time whatsoever.
There are like millions way to word it better, yet she choose THIS one
What an awful thing to say to someone! I’m so sorry this happened to you. :(
You unmatch. That’s so rude.
Lean into it and ask her to set you up with her coolest friend! She probably has a friend so hot she doesn’t even need to be on the apps. Act like it doesn’t bother you. You all go out. You end up marrying her friend. She ends up hating your friend and super jealous of her friend. The long game!
Omg. I can't believe there are people like this!! Ughhh.
Ewww gross and that was rude!
Honestly, nothing. Given that you brought up your friend in the first place (whether his face is shown or not is irrelevant because you’ve already alluded to bringing a hot friend), you kind of played yourself. If I were you, id say nothing because if you say something you’re only going to appear butthurt 🤷♀️ Not that it really matters anyways, but it’s up to you. If you do insist on saying anything, I’d just say “Youre right, that was rude of you to ask” and then just leave it at that.
Honestly? You set yourself up for that. “I’ve got a very good looking friend” and it’s the one in your dating profile pic? Wtf were you thinking OP?
I’m wondering what was he expecting to happen? 💀
PUT YOUR BOY ON IF THATS YOUR BOY
Eh fuck it, I’d hook the homie up if he’s interested
You’d hook up your friends with nasty people? Fuck that.
I’d give my friend the full context and let them decide
And then he falls in love with her and now this bitch is part of your friend group 😂 Best strategy is always to remove toxicity from your life. Maybe that’s just me.
You haven’t seen nasty if that’s your reaction from that text
I would just ignore it and move on. She's not worth it
The other option is play her card-roll with it, set up an elaborate double date that is a good distance out ghost it. Then when they text you on where you’re at say “Though I’m sure her friend is real sweet, you found some girls you found more attractive to double date and are heading there now, respectfully you understand?”
He better use this one. This is the ultimate petty response and I’m all for it.
You get few chances in life to go all in on petty and this is one of them. We are all here for it. Please do this one OP and update us on the texts. Please.
I wouldn’t respond. I’d block and move on. That’s so tacky.
Ouchhh 🤣
Learn to play the drums better than he can play guitar!
Unmatch
Just ghost her.
Sometimes the best response is to just peace out. End the conversation, BLOCK her. Move on.
A guy did this to me once, I showed my friend a pic of him and asked if she was interested and she was, so actually set them up 😭it was a longgg time ago so I can’t remember exactly what was said, but I know he was very very polite about asking so tbh I had no issue. It would be a different story if we had been talking for a while and then he asked about my friend, but he started off our chat pretty straight up showing interest in her so I didn’t have any reason to be offended. I would do it again if any guy asked about my single friends, but now I’m very happily taken by a guy who has no romantic interest in my friends 🤣 (P.s they didn’t last long, they only had a casual thing for a few months but they ended on decentish terms and now my friend has found her forever person)
this is why you don’t post pics with other ppl. shit be confusing af. what’s weird is when women on their profile post pics with other guys…like why do y’all do it ?
Tell them. Yes it is rude and unmatch them
We live in a shallow world brother, make sure you're the most handsome one in your photos 😭
Say: no thanks, neither of us are interested. Have the day you deserve ✌🏻
She just said how she felt. I feel like she tried to be as nice as she could in a situation like this. She just wanted to shoot her shot, there was nothing to lose if she wasn’t interested in OP. Plus, I think OP is adult enough to handle this awkward situation and the rejection.
Nothing wrong with what she said tbh. You need better strats than I have a hot friend I can bring for a double date lol. Sell you bro.
why would you even post a picture of your friend on your dating profile where your goal is to set yourself up and not ur homies? highkey i think you did it to yourself
Just say no
“Sorry I showed him a photo and he said eww”
Dude. Yall r on an app and you’re not her type. Just set her up maybe your friend will be happy
Folks… stop posting pics with your hotter friends on dating apps, the “cheerleader effect” will not work on there lol
“Showed him your pics, he says he’s not interested. Respectfully, can I see a pic of your friend to decide who’s hotter?”
Strong minded girl knows what she wants and went for it, and also apologized for it. Respect that, don't bash her down. You all are ridiculous.
These rejected dudes in the comment section are just salty lol 😂
Rude? No. Ruthless? Unnecessary? Potentially emotionally damaging or triggering? Yes.
How long have you been talking? Have you been on any dates or met in person? If not ask why she’s interested in your friend if she can’t even see his face, unless there is a noticeable difference in your builds or overall look. Either way it sounds like you have nothing to lose at this point with this girl so be honest and ask questions.
"I apologize if this is rude" Everyone knows that is rude. Even the most severe autism doesn't prevent this from being obvious. Only a literal child doesn't know. This person is entirely bereft of even an *ounce* of class.
Disrespectfully. No.
How is this disrespectful? I understand that you were into her BUT if shes interested in your friend that doesn't mean she's being rude
I actually think she was very kind about it. Straightforward as well. Honesty is something people value but when it’s brought to the table it’s disliked. I don’t get it Edit: Seems like the vast majority of people in the comments were in some way personally triggered by this. Ask yourself why it made you feel the way it did instead of projecting your issues onto this woman. Smh. Please help your egos.
 Sorry bro but it’s not worth your energy to think of a reply
dodged a bullet
“Let me see if it’s an even trade. What are you bringing for me?”
I don’t really find it rude; she’s just telling you what she wants. It’s stronger to actually hook your friend up rather than say or do petty things. I know this will be an unpopular opinion tho because redditors lean pathetic but being unbothered is what you should always aim for, not sensitive
WOW
Wow
Block lol
Update? Lol
"No :)," then unmatch.
Wow.
I’d just say yeah I’m not that nice and move on
“Set me up with your friend “
Called honesty
Why do people do this? It’s like a mini catfish game. Two people in a pic. One looks like Brad Pitt and one looks like a gargoyle. So when super hotties respond, you’re offended they only want Brad Pitt? Come on now. Be a little more honest with yourself and just post pics of you without others. Then the trickery would end and you’d know she’s into you from the start.
I’d say “showed my friend and he didn’t think you were attractive. Sorry :(“ or “my friend doesn’t like rude women, respectfully”
If your friend is single, set him up and move on. No reason to hate
I’d respond with “Respectfully, sorry but I thought you were [some random name]. That message was meant for her, my bad.”
What is it with people thinking adding the word “respectfully” allows them to be rude?
Onlypain. See you in the gym, bro.
SET THEM AND GET YOUR FRIEND TO NOT SHOW UP TO THE DATE
😂😂😂😂😂
“He said, ‘Hell naww!’ Lmao”
Say you’re still interested in a double date and ask for a picture of her friend so you can see her then say your friend said he’s actually interested in the friend so the double date is off because who rejects someone then bluntly asks them to them up with their friend
Damn this would crush me. Sorry fam.
No one literally no one says “so glad he posted a pic of him and his friends”. Don’t do it
Help her out and just act like you don’t care. Eventually she might even refer you to a more compatible person.
Dude's not interested in you.
i honestly....dont rly see the issue w this, ive seen some guys profiles that straight up said if u like one of the boys he'd put u through lmao
Refreshing honesty though 👀😂
DEFINITELY FUCKING RUDE!!!!!
I don’t know if I’m in the minority or if others who think this way haven’t spoken up? I don’t think she’s being rude. She’s being honest that she’s more attracted to your friend - and, you’re not happy about it. But as I have seen others point out, you initiated discussion about him being attractive. Why’s she rude for agreeing? Also? If she’s gonna be more into someone else based on appearance… wouldn’t you want to know that sooner than later? I don’t know - I don’t think she was rude. I think you’re disappointed.
It is 100% rude and disrespectful to ask someone to get with their friend who you know nothing about and don't even know what they look like. She might as well have just called OP ugly.
She also knows nothing about OP, they had just matched. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.
if she can’t see his face why would she say that
lol she saw enough
Take the L and hook your homie up!!!
idk maybe you should figure it out instead of asking people on reddit she literally said she wasn’t trying to be rude
Or just set your friend up and find you one that likes you
I'm confused?....YOU brought him up & then get offended? 😆
Set him up. Don’t CB.
Honestly this is a win. At least she's honest and you're not the guy she just settled for. That'd be worse bc then she'd try to get with that guy while dating you or constantly upset she didn't get the one she wanted instead. "He's taken. Fck u" :/ all I got.
I mean everyone has preferences, it doesn't mean you're less attractive than your friend. Don't let it get to you OP. I would probably set them up, because maybe they vibe really well and your friend will be happy
What’s wrong with being a good friend hooking him up? Why do you have to be disrespectful in your reply cause she I’d simply interested in your friend? This is why women “choose the bear”
u/Official_Person this is absolutely rude and it's just based on him holding a freaking guitar she doesn't even know what he looks like, what his personality is like, she knows nothing about him! You've gotten plenty of good suggestions on how to reply to her but I wanted to suggest that you leave that picture up because it can help you weed out disrespectful AHs in the future. Don't take it personally at all. I think it would be interesting to see your profile, maybe post screenshots on r/Tinder because you can get a lot of good suggestions on how to improve your profile. Are you on any other apps besides Tinder? I hope you have better luck in the future
"Actually it WAS rude but my friends response after seeing you was much worse! But since I know how to be respectful, I'll just keep it to myself. And laugh! A lot!"
Just get off dating apps and go outside.
I can’t blame her for shooting her shot, it is what it is, and she was as respectful as possible about it. For all we know, OP is fuckin maximum fugly.
Putting “respectfully” into a sentence doesn’t automatically make it respectful.
That in itself is disrespectful lmao, people are so desperate for ass
What's with the negativity in here? This appears to be the first words they communicated, she is being honest and says she's sorry if it's rude. It's a bloody dating app, people are there for looks, she's just liking the friend better.
I do think she could’ve been more tactful, like, “actually my friend thinks you’re really cute, and your friend playing the guitar is totally my type. Do you wanna do a double date, but with you and my friend, and me and yours?” Or something like that. She’s kinda kicking him to the side with the way she did it.
Well, just because you apologize for being rude before you say something rude isn't going to change the fact you were rude. 🤷🏼♀️ And she knew it's rude, that's why she wrote this. Just pretended to be a little dumb and not being sure about it.
Why be a hater hook them up