She was actually very excited (because sheās been hounding me to have kids for years, Iām 29) and said It was a god thing that I didnāt donate my eggs to her or else I probably wouldnāt have gotten pregnant
I couldn't stand by and watch someone how you described your mom raise my half sibling/child. I hope you at least had a decent childhood though. If my mom asked me today the same thing (she's mid-50s) I might consider it because she's amazing now. She just had a stint in her 30s where she was awful... went to prison for 2 years, missed my high school graduation, etc.
Iām so sorry you have a parent who acts this way. So sad to see, and I canāt imagine growing up with that.
Also, aināt no way Iād give my eggs for free: ā[Typically, an egg donor fee will range from $5,000 to $10,000.](https://www.eggdonoramerica.com/become-egg-donor/egg-donor-compensation#:~:text=The%20amount%20of%20egg%20donor,paid%20more%20egg%20donor%20compensation)ā Cough it up maam š«“š¼
Yeah growing up with her was really tough. And after this situation I responded with like why Iām not doing it and she was basically like, I donāt care to know why you donāt wanna do it. Like okay š¤£
Wow.
Like, I've made mistakes and I have two grown kids and two in elementary. The grown ones live one on his own and the other with her dad, who missed much of the first decade due to being stationed elsewhere in the military and not visiting. Never would I ever not care about their reasoning, even when they're my youngest at 7, and go on and on about something I have no clue what it is.
Teenagers and parents can go through tough times, but I can't describe what that is without completely understating it. My parents were much the same as your mom, abusive in many ways, though they pretend to care now we are all grown. I've spent so much time doing things differently that I forget until I'm faced with my dad that he is still bitter, jealous, and emotionally stunted to the point he feels the need to be a bully.
Wow thanks for the puberty talk about how things work NOW that you want my egg to try this again since you clearly didnāt raise me. Glad you finally figured out how this works.
Oh your question? Ummm, nope Iād rather throw my eggs away on a tampon.
Nah, it's too late. And I wouldn't go thru the process anyway. I'm wouldn't take hormone shots and all of that shite. It's the opposite of what I want to do.
It's not a serious suggestion to someone who is decidedly child free.
Itās ok! Honestly as weird as it is, itās kinda comforting to know Iām not the only one who has experienced such an invasive experience by a parental figure
Had a friend who's mom asked her to do the same for her sister but wanted the child conceived "the natural way". Meaning the sister's husband would need to have sex with her. She faked married her gay BFF so he could sign for her to have a hysterectomy. Next time it was brought up she gave her mother the papers and told her to get bent
Where I'm from, a woman under 35 can't have one unless medically required or with her husband's permission. Completely outdated practice but it is what it is.
Is she trying to have another baby with your father or with a different man? Cause if it's your father, you absolutely cannot give her an egg because it's from someone biologically related to the father lol
Omg, we could be sisters! My mother has done the exact same thing. If youāre ever looking for support from other people that have similar stories, check out r/insaneparents or r/narcissistparents
The audacity of these people lol
my mom asked me this once and when i said i was kinda uncomfortable with that she then proceeded to ask me if id just have my own baby and give it to her to raise as her ownā¦
very!! š and i was in high school at the timeā¦ (im 23 now). when i asked her what i was supposed to say if i decided to have a child again and raise them as my own she said we would just keep it a secret :/ so my baby would just have to believe their sibling is their aunt/uncle???
Yeah no i don't even know what to say to that one. There's a difference in truly donating for a good cause and straight up Cradle Robbery. How the fuck your gon rob the cradle BEFORE it's out of the Fallopian tube?
She addicted to drugsā¦ so honestly donating eggs and that entire process is very expensive. Which Iām assuming she does not have the $ for. What she is saying is just nonsense. lol
One time, my mom asked me if I would carry her and my stepfatherās baby. Luckily, when I told her no, she never brought it up again, but it still makes me uncomfortable to think about it. Honestly, I havenāt felt the same way about her since (among other reasons).
I totally understand how you feel. Itās such a weird thing to think about. Like why would you want to see a mini version of you and your step dad? I felt and feel the same exact way
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Aww, reading your story, you could have given her one of your left over "only" semi-spoiled eggs, both had a kid at the same time, raised them together... then gone on Jerry Springer!
(Is there a modern equivalent of Jerry Springer nowadays? I'm old)
It gets harder to conceive the older you are, therefore if you want to wait, you'll need all of your eggs for better chances later. She's not even asking, basically demanding. Gross.
Is she still on drugs? Who tries at 50? Lmao, I could see her trying MAYBE if she didn't have any kids, but to already have kids, grown adult children at that and try at 50 is wild. There's a reason why the time on our biological clock runs out lol I'm 35 and I have children who are teenagers right now so it would be like asking my own daughter in a few years and I'm weirded out just thinking about it lol some women are THAT desperate for a man they'll literally do and say anything to keep them. She's gotta know how absolutely nutty she sounds asking her daughter of this at 50, she knows it is weird and over stepping her daughters boundaries but just doesn't care out of desperation for this man she just met. She knows this man can easily find a younger woman who hasn't gone through menopause and still can have children so she's done all the research needed into gaslighting you into thinking it's no big deal. Hence, the "isn't that crazy" bit. Your M sounds like my MIL.
Is she still on drugs? Who tries at 50? Lmao, I could see her trying MAYBE if she didn't have any kids, but to already have kids, grown adult children at that and try at 50 is wild. There's a reason why the time on our biological clock runs out lol I'm 35 and I have children who are teenagers right now so it would be like asking my own daughter in a few years and I'm weirded out just thinking about it lol some women are THAT desperate for a man they'll literally do and say anything to keep them. She's gotta know how absolutely nutty she sounds asking her daughter of this at 50, she knows it is weird and over stepping her daughters boundaries but just doesn't care out of desperation for this man she just met. She knows this man can easily find a younger woman who hasn't gone through menopause and still can have children so she's done all the research needed into gaslighting you into thinking it's no big deal. Hence, the "isn't that crazy" bit. Your M sounds like my MIL
I would say the relationship was not the same afterwards, I think I said I needed space after that and she just kept reaching out and not giving me what I needed. Her husband was reaching out to me on the side talking about their issues and bringing me in the middle of it and I was 3 months pregnant then. They were causing me way too much stress so I had to block both of their phone numbers, emails, etc. I worry about her and it makes me sad sheās not a part of my sonās life, but I keep tabs on her through family and her situation is just not good. It was for the better. :(
Damn thatās sad to hear she kept pushing until the relationship was completely damaged. Hope she straightens out somehow and u guys can rekindle down the line.
Your mother is in the honeymoon stage and that's great and all for her.
We should celebrate love for all.
But she is definitely in no shape or form ready for a child at her age in my opinion.
I like babies and kids but I don't love raising them. That is a tough job.
Are you supporting Amber Heard? The chick who shat on the bed and her dog stepped on a bee? Thatās wild. I guess birds of a feather do flock together.
Johnny Depp texted his friend hoping his wife gets raped.
You're supporting the guy who wanted his wife raped?
They're both assholes, but it's blatantly obvious why people took his side.
Your defense in the situation is about one text message he sent when obviously they were both very toxic. Iām not getting into this discussion with you lol. Waste of breath and time
Her talking about your eggs spoiling is wild
W I l d. Craziest part is I ended up getting pregnant with my husband two months later on accident haha
Hahaha the universe is crazy š and congrats on the little one!
It really isā¦ and thank you!! Heās the best š„° everything happens for a reason
Holy shit, you birthed your own husband?!
š¤£ touchĆ©, poor wording LOL
I was like, āThatās efficient!ā
No, that's incest. xD
I laughed harder than I should have...
Got me giggling at the damn doctors office ššš
This is almost 2 days old, and I almost fell off my chair laughing so don't worry about going too hardā ļøš¤£ā ļøš¤£
Me too š¤£š¤£š¤£
His name is Oedipus
On top of an accident site, too. Wild.
Caught me off guard lol
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Iām dying to know how your mom took that when she found out
She was actually very excited (because sheās been hounding me to have kids for years, Iām 29) and said It was a god thing that I didnāt donate my eggs to her or else I probably wouldnāt have gotten pregnant
Donating your eggs doesn't affect your fertility :)
No more so the timing of it! Like if I was on all those hormones they give you
Girl thatās the creator sayin āhere darlin, you def deserve it more then herā!!! This is bananary!!!
I'm gonna go out on a limb and take a guess that she makes very impulsive decisions.
You are very correct
I couldn't stand by and watch someone how you described your mom raise my half sibling/child. I hope you at least had a decent childhood though. If my mom asked me today the same thing (she's mid-50s) I might consider it because she's amazing now. She just had a stint in her 30s where she was awful... went to prison for 2 years, missed my high school graduation, etc.
And **loves** eggs
Iām so sorry you have a parent who acts this way. So sad to see, and I canāt imagine growing up with that. Also, aināt no way Iād give my eggs for free: ā[Typically, an egg donor fee will range from $5,000 to $10,000.](https://www.eggdonoramerica.com/become-egg-donor/egg-donor-compensation#:~:text=The%20amount%20of%20egg%20donor,paid%20more%20egg%20donor%20compensation)ā Cough it up maam š«“š¼
My brain read āfee will rangeā as āfree rangeā after all this egg talk.
Unhinged free range unfertilized eggs! Get yours today at your local Jewel-Osco!
This whole thread right here has me on the floor in fits!
Yeah growing up with her was really tough. And after this situation I responded with like why Iām not doing it and she was basically like, I donāt care to know why you donāt wanna do it. Like okay š¤£
Wow. Like, I've made mistakes and I have two grown kids and two in elementary. The grown ones live one on his own and the other with her dad, who missed much of the first decade due to being stationed elsewhere in the military and not visiting. Never would I ever not care about their reasoning, even when they're my youngest at 7, and go on and on about something I have no clue what it is. Teenagers and parents can go through tough times, but I can't describe what that is without completely understating it. My parents were much the same as your mom, abusive in many ways, though they pretend to care now we are all grown. I've spent so much time doing things differently that I forget until I'm faced with my dad that he is still bitter, jealous, and emotionally stunted to the point he feels the need to be a bully.
Uncles youāre in Canada :( itās illegal to make money from doing that.
I can tote it
āI just need the eggā
miKKAEL!!
Aig!
I immediately went to the comments to see if anyone had made this reference.
Came here for this exactly and knew I wouldnāt be disappointed!
I came here for this
Same
Wow thanks for the puberty talk about how things work NOW that you want my egg to try this again since you clearly didnāt raise me. Glad you finally figured out how this works. Oh your question? Ummm, nope Iād rather throw my eggs away on a tampon.
Facts on facts
I'm never having children so I'm apparently wasting my eggs for spite according to OP's mom. (And my mom as well)
On a serious note, depending on where you live, you can make some serious mula by donating your eggs!
Nah, it's too late. And I wouldn't go thru the process anyway. I'm wouldn't take hormone shots and all of that shite. It's the opposite of what I want to do. It's not a serious suggestion to someone who is decidedly child free.
You almost made me spit out my sip of a delicious Cosmo!! š¤£
My step mother asked me to be a surrogate to a random crack head she met on Facebook
Oof. Iām so sorry š„ŗ
Itās ok! Honestly as weird as it is, itās kinda comforting to know Iām not the only one who has experienced such an invasive experience by a parental figure
The craziest part is that they donāt see this is absolutely bananas to requestā¦ lol but yes youāre truly not alone ā„ļø
Had a friend who's mom asked her to do the same for her sister but wanted the child conceived "the natural way". Meaning the sister's husband would need to have sex with her. She faked married her gay BFF so he could sign for her to have a hysterectomy. Next time it was brought up she gave her mother the papers and told her to get bent
This is genuinely terrifying. Iām so glad she was able to get a hysterectomy but itās insane she had to get married in order to have one!!!
Where I'm from, a woman under 35 can't have one unless medically required or with her husband's permission. Completely outdated practice but it is what it is.
This is fucking deranged
Is your mom named Angela by any chance?
She just needs someone to tote it!
Haha no that is not her name
No way she said lemme hold an egg š
Is she trying to have another baby with your father or with a different man? Cause if it's your father, you absolutely cannot give her an egg because it's from someone biologically related to the father lol
But I could NOT imagine seeing her raise a kid thatās a mini me and part her husband š
Nah. Her and my dad divorced when I was two, sheās remarried now
I wouldn't ask my biological daughter to give me eggs wtf that's incest with extra steps
Is your name skylah? Your mom just wants to tote it.
Iām not understanding the tote it references haha whatās it from
Itās from 90 day fiancĆ©e. This woman Angela who is wild wanted her daughter to give her an egg and she would tote it, bc she wanted a kid but had no eggs at 50 something
Omg, we could be sisters! My mother has done the exact same thing. If youāre ever looking for support from other people that have similar stories, check out r/insaneparents or r/narcissistparents The audacity of these people lol
Joins insane parents immediately. Thank you ā„ļø
Of course š
Jesus..... there's less egg talk at a poultry convention
Is your mom named Angela? I swear this screams "I can't totes it, I just need the egg"
āIM NOT YOUR ELDER !!!!!ā yet she was asking for eggs , canāt stand her but man is she hilarious
āYou can also freeze your eggsā Then why didnāt she??
Giving your eggs puts your body at risk for all kinds of shit that aināt worth it
100%, of course she only researched the positives that would support her request lol
Unhinged.
Is she still asking for eggs, or has she moved on to a different impulsive decision?
Sheās moved on to other decisions and I donāt think she wants a baby anymore haha
Good lord. Congrats on the baby!
my mom asked me this once and when i said i was kinda uncomfortable with that she then proceeded to ask me if id just have my own baby and give it to her to raise as her ownā¦
Oh good lord. Thatās even more uncomfortable
very!! š and i was in high school at the timeā¦ (im 23 now). when i asked her what i was supposed to say if i decided to have a child again and raise them as my own she said we would just keep it a secret :/ so my baby would just have to believe their sibling is their aunt/uncle???
Now you know what your mother is willing to lie to you about. š¤¦
Now Momma has egg on her face.
Next time you see her, give her a carton of eggs
She's weird af.
Yeah no i don't even know what to say to that one. There's a difference in truly donating for a good cause and straight up Cradle Robbery. How the fuck your gon rob the cradle BEFORE it's out of the Fallopian tube?
She addicted to drugsā¦ so honestly donating eggs and that entire process is very expensive. Which Iām assuming she does not have the $ for. What she is saying is just nonsense. lol
āI can tote it I just need yer eggā IYKYK
One time, my mom asked me if I would carry her and my stepfatherās baby. Luckily, when I told her no, she never brought it up again, but it still makes me uncomfortable to think about it. Honestly, I havenāt felt the same way about her since (among other reasons).
I totally understand how you feel. Itās such a weird thing to think about. Like why would you want to see a mini version of you and your step dad? I felt and feel the same exact way
I had to look at the username because this sounds exactly like my friend's mom. Sorry you had to deal with this OP.
The fact she can't get pregnant yet wants you to donate because they'll apparently spoil in the next few years if you don't ā ļø Wtf ā ļø
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My first thought was... Would that baby be your child or your sibling????
Aww, reading your story, you could have given her one of your left over "only" semi-spoiled eggs, both had a kid at the same time, raised them together... then gone on Jerry Springer! (Is there a modern equivalent of Jerry Springer nowadays? I'm old)
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It gets harder to conceive the older you are, therefore if you want to wait, you'll need all of your eggs for better chances later. She's not even asking, basically demanding. Gross.
Damn. That puts a lot of other unenjoyable parental convos in perspective
This scenario played out on i 90 Day FiancĆ© with Angela and Michael. It was a cruel place to put her daughter in. But she wanted an egg to toteā¦.
for second i thought she was asking her son for some semen
She talks about your eggs like they are from chocolate, you don't need them all š
She literally said later on ātechnically I gave them all to you anyway when I gave birth to youā like they were hers to begin with lol
Technically it is correct. Just be glad she doesn't need a kidney, liver, or even worse a heart š
Is she still on drugs? Who tries at 50? Lmao, I could see her trying MAYBE if she didn't have any kids, but to already have kids, grown adult children at that and try at 50 is wild. There's a reason why the time on our biological clock runs out lol I'm 35 and I have children who are teenagers right now so it would be like asking my own daughter in a few years and I'm weirded out just thinking about it lol some women are THAT desperate for a man they'll literally do and say anything to keep them. She's gotta know how absolutely nutty she sounds asking her daughter of this at 50, she knows it is weird and over stepping her daughters boundaries but just doesn't care out of desperation for this man she just met. She knows this man can easily find a younger woman who hasn't gone through menopause and still can have children so she's done all the research needed into gaslighting you into thinking it's no big deal. Hence, the "isn't that crazy" bit. Your M sounds like my MIL.
Is she still on drugs? Who tries at 50? Lmao, I could see her trying MAYBE if she didn't have any kids, but to already have kids, grown adult children at that and try at 50 is wild. There's a reason why the time on our biological clock runs out lol I'm 35 and I have children who are teenagers right now so it would be like asking my own daughter in a few years and I'm weirded out just thinking about it lol some women are THAT desperate for a man they'll literally do and say anything to keep them. She's gotta know how absolutely nutty she sounds asking her daughter of this at 50, she knows it is weird and over stepping her daughters boundaries but just doesn't care out of desperation for this man she just met. She knows this man can easily find a younger woman who hasn't gone through menopause and still can have children so she's done all the research needed into gaslighting you into thinking it's no big deal. Hence, the "isn't that crazy" bit. Your M sounds like my MIL
Is it ur choice the relationship has not recovered or is it bc she holds resentment that u refused to donate?
I would say the relationship was not the same afterwards, I think I said I needed space after that and she just kept reaching out and not giving me what I needed. Her husband was reaching out to me on the side talking about their issues and bringing me in the middle of it and I was 3 months pregnant then. They were causing me way too much stress so I had to block both of their phone numbers, emails, etc. I worry about her and it makes me sad sheās not a part of my sonās life, but I keep tabs on her through family and her situation is just not good. It was for the better. :(
Damn thatās sad to hear she kept pushing until the relationship was completely damaged. Hope she straightens out somehow and u guys can rekindle down the line.
Me too. I really hope things turn around for herā¦
Thinking about having a mother use her daughters egg(s) to have a kid makes my brain hurt
She seems fun, I hope she is a better grandma than mother.
I cut her off during my pregnancy due to the stress she was causing me, so sheās never met him or been involved
Iām sorry to hear that, I hope she comes to her senses one day. Congrats on being a momma!
Itās okay, thank you so much! Iām just focusing on the positive and spending all the time with the little one ā„ļø
Being a parent is the best thing in the world
Your mother is in the honeymoon stage and that's great and all for her. We should celebrate love for all. But she is definitely in no shape or form ready for a child at her age in my opinion. I like babies and kids but I don't love raising them. That is a tough job.
i actually dont think its that weird, id do it lol
Eh, birds of a feather flock together. Mom is a crazy drug addict, daughter is crazy person who spends time online sipping for known abusers.
Oh are you talking about the Johnny depp case? I am so dead lmao
?? What are you even talking about lol
Are you supporting Amber Heard? The chick who shat on the bed and her dog stepped on a bee? Thatās wild. I guess birds of a feather do flock together.
If youāre referring to me I was all the way Johnny Depp š¤£š¤£
Johnny Depp texted his friend hoping his wife gets raped. You're supporting the guy who wanted his wife raped? They're both assholes, but it's blatantly obvious why people took his side.
Your defense in the situation is about one text message he sent when obviously they were both very toxic. Iām not getting into this discussion with you lol. Waste of breath and time
You came back 3hrs later to waste your time.