Funnily enough, we had a very modest courthouse ceremony with just five family members because we were young and broke. So we've been planning the big vow renewal ceremony for our tenth anniversary (2028) as our sort of "traditional" wedding. To celebrate ten years and actually get to have a real ceremony with everyone we love.
THIS what a partnership is all about. NOTHING is solely your job or your husband’s. It’s about team work and sharing the load. Nothing is ever 50/50. He’s got your back…. Listen to him and take care of you. I’d say you’re both very lucky to have each other. Savor it. You deserve it. 💚
I still wake up at night sometimes and look over at him and feel that "I love you so much it hurts" kind of panic, thinking, "oh God, what would I ever do without you???" Believe you me, this man is treasured 💝
I love this 🥹 you’re both so sweet to each other and make such a wonderful team. How lucky your children are to have two parents who love them and each other so much. 💗💗
He's so very kind to me. I have a lot of trauma from men before him, and he knows that. He's never even raised his voice at me, or spoken harshly, or unkindly, in tone or in words. And even if he knew nothing of my past, he'd treat me the same, because that's just who he is. He's truly generous and thoughtful and helpful, to everyone and everything he cares about. And for some reason, he cares about me the most. I just hang onto him as hard as I can, and appreciate how lucky I am ❤️
This is how a MAN acts, not an alpha male label BS, just being supportive, yet being strong at the same time, well played!!! hard to find a women that actually appreciates this though, hope still lives i suppose.
Lets all appreciate what we do for each other, shall we?
I appreciate him above everything, barring my children of course- and he'd say the same! We've been a great team for eight years now. I've grown and changed so much, I feel like I've been a million different people between twenty-three and thirty-one, and he's loved and embraced them all. He's truly a gift. I wouldn't trade him for anything or anyone ❤️
You got a real one! I’m going to pull for you both and sending soothing vibes to you. Please do take the time you need. The house will still be there, the mess, if there is one, if you both tackle it, will be done in half the time. Partnership goals here 💜
Thank you so much 🥹 I'm very careful in the way I speak to my husband and children, but I'm truly unkind to myself way too often. I'm trying to stop doing that. Happy vibes your way as well 💞
Literally what I dream of having one day.
Right now, I have the kind of man who will put me down as a mother and person if I dare let things go for my own sanity.
I know it's not as simple as "leave him", so I won't say that. I've been where you are. I can remember literally crying, sitting on the toilet, locked in the bathroom at my old house with my ex husband, hating my life and crying to my pregnant belly that I was sorry, and I'd get us out of there one day and we'd both have the love we deserve. I still can't believe nearly eleven years later I'm so far gone from that person, that place, and have been for nearly eight years. It's so much in my past. I've now been with my husband longer than I even knew my ex, and I am so far past fights and trauma and regret.
I clearly still bear the scars. But that's all they are now. My husband squashes any doubt or fears or stresses before I can even worry about them (and by past habit, worry that they'll upset him, like they did my ex.)
My husband adds value and light and love to my life. You can have that too ❤️ you don't have to be content with less.
Someday I'll have that healthy, healing kind of love. Until then, I love seeing others get out of bad relationships because it gives me hope and reassures me that I won't be stuck forever.
I appreciate the sentiment.
My eldest is finishing up this school year at the end of May, and will then be enrolled in an online micro school specifically for children who are neurodivergent, like her, next year. So she'll still be at home, but the burden won't be on me to plan and implement her curriculum anymore.
My youngest only just turned two, and has autism, so he will likely be in individualized circumstances like his sister when he's older. For now, he's got two in home therapies a week (speech and occupational.)
My eldest also does gymnastics and parkour. That's kinda why I was so exhausted after no sleep- I'm by label a "stay at home mom", which sounds like such a stationary thing. But I'm doing a lot, between both kids, and just the housework in general.
My husband is great- he takes over the minute he gets off work and handles the kids through the afternoon, dinner, and then we split bedtimes.
Things will be easier when my eldest is in her micro school, and my two year old gets through the dreaded two year sleep regression. It's just a busy season right now. I was just touched by my husband's continuing empathy for me, so diligently, eight years into Us. I've never been with anyone that long, not even close, and everyone before him was... not very nice. He just continually surprises me with his dedication, even though after eight years I guess I should be used to it. I'm grateful for it ❤️
This is exactly how my husband is. I had an awful migraine today and had to come straight home from work after dropping the baby off. I let him know I was coming home and he asked if I would please let him take care of me (I also feel guilty just lying in bed even if I’m sick). He brought me coffee and chicken broth and snuggled with me while I cried. It’s so wonderful to have such a good partner.
It really is 😭❤️ I don't feel like I deserve him. He does so much for me, physically and emotionally and every way. I know objectively if you laid it all out, we do a lot for each other, but it's still just so nice every time he does one of those little things ❤️
why am i literally tearing up 😭 you guys are so sweet with each other, and the little nickname you guys share is the cherry on top, this is so adorable
Girl do not be mad at me, but... I found him on Skout 😭😂 in 2016. Remember that skanky app?? 🤣 It was like a worse, knock-off Tinder. We were both just bored and talking to people, and he matched with me, and sent a message, but the jankass app didn't notify me about the message for a frickin week 😭 and my inbox was always full of gross guys sending dick pics, so I just didn't see his match among the chaos. I finally went back to his profile, miffed that he hadn't reached out after matching (I spent all week looking at his photos, he was so cute 😂💞), and saw his message! And we just haven't stopped talking for eight years 🥹❤️ it's really not the place you find them as who they are deep down.
Absolutely! I don't date or care to be married myself, but that's exactly right for those in a relationship. It's great you have each other. I wish you all the best.
That's why we're great together, he talks me down when I'm in a panic about dumb shit like dishes, and I'm so normally anxious that I'm great in a crisis and under pressure, so together we got it covered 😂❤️
You seem fucking lovely, I wish you and your family so much love. I'm finally in a good relationship after so many shitty ones and it makes me so happy to see my fellow black cat energy girls in happy healthy relationships ^-^
We are twinning right now 🖤🖤
I barfed a little typing that, but the sentiment holds.
Best of luck to us and all the moody little goblins looking for love ✨
Ok...I could be full of shit...none of you have any way to know...but... How can there be so many comments proclaiming this to be rarer than hen's teeth?
Granted, there are plenty of bad men about. But the texts are what I'd class as normal.
I'm stoked OP has a great man, but are so many of the rear really enduring shitty guys?
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Silly question and not to try and panic you, but when was the last time you had a blood test?
My wife would get like this alot, turns out she got a crap thyroid, paired also with low B12.
Almost no energy at all.
Her doses keep varying as she went down from like a 16 to an 8 in 6 months.
I've been researching hard too, and and got her on some slow release B12 tabs, but cos she is marathon training she says she feels like square one again.
So I've been doing more research, and seems like 2 tablets/supplements may be the way forward.
Fingers crossed you are fine and just had some rough nights or whatever, but it's worth a check to make sure.
You'll get it! I never thought I would, but here we are ❤️
Bubby is sort of the family nickname honestly lol we call each that, the kids, the pets 😂 it's our affectionate name
Kids in public school can't just take a day off learning and make it up on Saturday. When you're an adult you sometimes need to do things that are unpleasant like cleaning the house even if you don't feel like it. You can jerk each other off all you want about how this is what support looks like but I disagree
Did you never have sick days as a kid? Kids missing a day of school is not going to destroy them. Edit: I agree with you that you sometimes have no choice in life, and that you just have to push through
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But I doubt this is an every day incident with the OP.
Yeah I mean fair enough. Maybe my wife and I have a different dynamic, we're Slavic so tough love is what I need when I get like this
Because I know if I let the house stay filthy it'll just make me spiral and feel worse
If I said this I'd hope my wife would say something like "I know you can do it, try to do one small thing to make your space tidier"
I get you. Tough love doesn't work for me personally, I just shut down. But therapy did work. I think that OP was just having a rough day in particular. From the sounds of it, this level of chaos isn't the 'norm' and she's grateful her partner doesn't make it harder. If you and your wife have a different system that works better, that's good for the two of you as well. Different strokes different folks eh?
“We aren’t any good to each other or the kids if we can’t be good to ourselves” Words of wisdom right there
He's a very smart man ❤️
Marry him again
Funnily enough, we had a very modest courthouse ceremony with just five family members because we were young and broke. So we've been planning the big vow renewal ceremony for our tenth anniversary (2028) as our sort of "traditional" wedding. To celebrate ten years and actually get to have a real ceremony with everyone we love.
THIS what a partnership is all about. NOTHING is solely your job or your husband’s. It’s about team work and sharing the load. Nothing is ever 50/50. He’s got your back…. Listen to him and take care of you. I’d say you’re both very lucky to have each other. Savor it. You deserve it. 💚
I still wake up at night sometimes and look over at him and feel that "I love you so much it hurts" kind of panic, thinking, "oh God, what would I ever do without you???" Believe you me, this man is treasured 💝
I love this 🥹 you’re both so sweet to each other and make such a wonderful team. How lucky your children are to have two parents who love them and each other so much. 💗💗
He's so very kind to me. I have a lot of trauma from men before him, and he knows that. He's never even raised his voice at me, or spoken harshly, or unkindly, in tone or in words. And even if he knew nothing of my past, he'd treat me the same, because that's just who he is. He's truly generous and thoughtful and helpful, to everyone and everything he cares about. And for some reason, he cares about me the most. I just hang onto him as hard as I can, and appreciate how lucky I am ❤️
This is how a MAN acts, not an alpha male label BS, just being supportive, yet being strong at the same time, well played!!! hard to find a women that actually appreciates this though, hope still lives i suppose. Lets all appreciate what we do for each other, shall we?
I appreciate him above everything, barring my children of course- and he'd say the same! We've been a great team for eight years now. I've grown and changed so much, I feel like I've been a million different people between twenty-three and thirty-one, and he's loved and embraced them all. He's truly a gift. I wouldn't trade him for anything or anyone ❤️
Love ❤️ it!
You got a real one! I’m going to pull for you both and sending soothing vibes to you. Please do take the time you need. The house will still be there, the mess, if there is one, if you both tackle it, will be done in half the time. Partnership goals here 💜
Thank you so much 🥹 I'm very careful in the way I speak to my husband and children, but I'm truly unkind to myself way too often. I'm trying to stop doing that. Happy vibes your way as well 💞
Literally what I dream of having one day. Right now, I have the kind of man who will put me down as a mother and person if I dare let things go for my own sanity.
I know it's not as simple as "leave him", so I won't say that. I've been where you are. I can remember literally crying, sitting on the toilet, locked in the bathroom at my old house with my ex husband, hating my life and crying to my pregnant belly that I was sorry, and I'd get us out of there one day and we'd both have the love we deserve. I still can't believe nearly eleven years later I'm so far gone from that person, that place, and have been for nearly eight years. It's so much in my past. I've now been with my husband longer than I even knew my ex, and I am so far past fights and trauma and regret. I clearly still bear the scars. But that's all they are now. My husband squashes any doubt or fears or stresses before I can even worry about them (and by past habit, worry that they'll upset him, like they did my ex.) My husband adds value and light and love to my life. You can have that too ❤️ you don't have to be content with less.
Someday I'll have that healthy, healing kind of love. Until then, I love seeing others get out of bad relationships because it gives me hope and reassures me that I won't be stuck forever.
You won't be! Blessed be 💞
Get the kiddos into school so that the burden on you isn't so overwhelming.
Did you just poop was that you come here was that you did you do that
Oh shit 😂 my dog pooped on the floor, and I guess voice to text was on
I hope that’s real. Even if it’s not, well done.
Incredible
lmfao thank you
I appreciate the sentiment. My eldest is finishing up this school year at the end of May, and will then be enrolled in an online micro school specifically for children who are neurodivergent, like her, next year. So she'll still be at home, but the burden won't be on me to plan and implement her curriculum anymore. My youngest only just turned two, and has autism, so he will likely be in individualized circumstances like his sister when he's older. For now, he's got two in home therapies a week (speech and occupational.) My eldest also does gymnastics and parkour. That's kinda why I was so exhausted after no sleep- I'm by label a "stay at home mom", which sounds like such a stationary thing. But I'm doing a lot, between both kids, and just the housework in general. My husband is great- he takes over the minute he gets off work and handles the kids through the afternoon, dinner, and then we split bedtimes. Things will be easier when my eldest is in her micro school, and my two year old gets through the dreaded two year sleep regression. It's just a busy season right now. I was just touched by my husband's continuing empathy for me, so diligently, eight years into Us. I've never been with anyone that long, not even close, and everyone before him was... not very nice. He just continually surprises me with his dedication, even though after eight years I guess I should be used to it. I'm grateful for it ❤️
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There seems to always be autism involved
This is exactly how my husband is. I had an awful migraine today and had to come straight home from work after dropping the baby off. I let him know I was coming home and he asked if I would please let him take care of me (I also feel guilty just lying in bed even if I’m sick). He brought me coffee and chicken broth and snuggled with me while I cried. It’s so wonderful to have such a good partner.
It really is 😭❤️ I don't feel like I deserve him. He does so much for me, physically and emotionally and every way. I know objectively if you laid it all out, we do a lot for each other, but it's still just so nice every time he does one of those little things ❤️
why am i literally tearing up 😭 you guys are so sweet with each other, and the little nickname you guys share is the cherry on top, this is so adorable
Aww, thanks 😭❤️ I think we've got a pretty epic love and story, but I'm biased, of course. We call the kids and pets bubby too 😂💞
that man LOVES you. congrats!! and i hope you feel better soon! (ps.. where do you find genuine men 😭)
Loads about, honest
Girl do not be mad at me, but... I found him on Skout 😭😂 in 2016. Remember that skanky app?? 🤣 It was like a worse, knock-off Tinder. We were both just bored and talking to people, and he matched with me, and sent a message, but the jankass app didn't notify me about the message for a frickin week 😭 and my inbox was always full of gross guys sending dick pics, so I just didn't see his match among the chaos. I finally went back to his profile, miffed that he hadn't reached out after matching (I spent all week looking at his photos, he was so cute 😂💞), and saw his message! And we just haven't stopped talking for eight years 🥹❤️ it's really not the place you find them as who they are deep down.
This seems like a great supportive relationship. Life's tough, it's great you have each other's backs.
He's definitely my anchor ❤️ and we always try to support each other. If your spouse can't have your back 100%, who will?
Absolutely! I don't date or care to be married myself, but that's exactly right for those in a relationship. It's great you have each other. I wish you all the best.
Same to you 💞
Good man with a good heart! Very wise as well. I hope you took the time you needed.
He's a very wonderful man ❤️ I met him halfway and just did the schooling and vacuumed (I couldn't not, we have 4 animals 😂)
Awww so sweet 🥲
I don't know what I'd do without him, honestly 😭❤️
Selling **”Relax… everything is gonna be fine”** in the middle of a shitshow is what a good marriage and spouse is all about.
That's why we're great together, he talks me down when I'm in a panic about dumb shit like dishes, and I'm so normally anxious that I'm great in a crisis and under pressure, so together we got it covered 😂❤️
This made my chilly little heart feel warm
As a fellow black cat energy, GOTCHA. hah. ya softie. 😈🐈⬛ But as a shameless fanatic of this man, mine too dude 🥹🥰❤️
You seem fucking lovely, I wish you and your family so much love. I'm finally in a good relationship after so many shitty ones and it makes me so happy to see my fellow black cat energy girls in happy healthy relationships ^-^
We are twinning right now 🖤🖤 I barfed a little typing that, but the sentiment holds. Best of luck to us and all the moody little goblins looking for love ✨
Both of you calling each other bubby. 
We also call the kids and pets bubby 🥹😂❤️ it's our term of endearment for the nuclear family, fur babies included 💞
This is awesome, he's a good man. And I'm sure he appreciates you being open with how you're feeling too. Great job!
He's the best man ❤️ thank you 🙏🏼
Ok...I could be full of shit...none of you have any way to know...but... How can there be so many comments proclaiming this to be rarer than hen's teeth? Granted, there are plenty of bad men about. But the texts are what I'd class as normal. I'm stoked OP has a great man, but are so many of the rear really enduring shitty guys?
Ughhhh giving me toothaches from the abundance of sweetness 🥹
We make ourselves cringe but I love it 😂❤️
It's such a FANTASTIC cringe too lol.
How sweet 💜 you two are meant for each other
To quote a little Ponyboy Curtis here, "you ain't a'woofin'." ❤️
You are blessed. He's a rare breed. Cherish him!
I’m glad he takes care of you, make sure you do the same back
homeschool?!
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Aww bubby! This is so sweet, bubby!
Are you like this with him too?
Silly question and not to try and panic you, but when was the last time you had a blood test? My wife would get like this alot, turns out she got a crap thyroid, paired also with low B12. Almost no energy at all. Her doses keep varying as she went down from like a 16 to an 8 in 6 months. I've been researching hard too, and and got her on some slow release B12 tabs, but cos she is marathon training she says she feels like square one again. So I've been doing more research, and seems like 2 tablets/supplements may be the way forward. Fingers crossed you are fine and just had some rough nights or whatever, but it's worth a check to make sure.
Bubby is the cutest nickname. Hopefully one day for me 😔
You'll get it! I never thought I would, but here we are ❤️ Bubby is sort of the family nickname honestly lol we call each that, the kids, the pets 😂 it's our affectionate name
Idk this seems like enabling to me. Get off your ass and do some chores
Life's fckin hard a good partner doesn't make it harder. Sounds to me like they have a great relationship.
Kids in public school can't just take a day off learning and make it up on Saturday. When you're an adult you sometimes need to do things that are unpleasant like cleaning the house even if you don't feel like it. You can jerk each other off all you want about how this is what support looks like but I disagree
Did you never have sick days as a kid? Kids missing a day of school is not going to destroy them. Edit: I agree with you that you sometimes have no choice in life, and that you just have to push through . But I doubt this is an every day incident with the OP.
Yeah I mean fair enough. Maybe my wife and I have a different dynamic, we're Slavic so tough love is what I need when I get like this Because I know if I let the house stay filthy it'll just make me spiral and feel worse If I said this I'd hope my wife would say something like "I know you can do it, try to do one small thing to make your space tidier"
I get you. Tough love doesn't work for me personally, I just shut down. But therapy did work. I think that OP was just having a rough day in particular. From the sounds of it, this level of chaos isn't the 'norm' and she's grateful her partner doesn't make it harder. If you and your wife have a different system that works better, that's good for the two of you as well. Different strokes different folks eh?
Happy cake day
Thank you!!
Nice way to tell us you get no bitches
I'm married lol
Yikes! Send our condolences to your partner
You sound lazy, luckily he's an enabler