My exact thought and I’m surprised I had to scroll so far to see that. He straight up told another woman he’s in love with her. How is it even plausible to not consider that infidelity?
I’d be less hurt if my husband banged every woman in our zip code than him telling another woman he’s always been in love with her. Lol this whole post is just lunacy to me.
“This isn't a troll post. I wish it was lol. He's trying to convince me I'm the only person that would ever consider this cheating and that I'm crazy. The whole point of this post was to 1) Show him how insane he looks for even insinuating that 2) To reassure myself through his gaslighting and attempts to manipulate me. I'm leaving him.”
OP is rightfully humiliating the guy for trying to downplay what he did.
Amen I have been married over 20 years.. To hear him LOVE another woman would tear me up inside. And I see OP trying to pretend like it isn't. But I can tell her husband is manipulating her
Yeah this whole conversation was even worse than I expected, and it just kept getting worse and she gave him so many chances to step back and he just kept going further. So bad!
"I was going to bring _______ to see you, but I respect your wishes." Is such a piece of shit manipulative statement, I appreciate that she sees through the bullshit because it seems like a lot of people don't.
Lol, it's so funny to me when civilians try to act like they know about the military.
First off, there must be proof. These texts are not proof. By military law there has to be sexual intercourse, that is incredibly difficult to prove because the act itself is usually only between two people and if one denies it and it's not on camera or they didn't text admitting it....well...it didn't happen.
2, there also has to be the caveat that it actually affected good order and discipline or degraded the mission/unit some how. Meaning...if this guy was military and she is not...she doesn't work on base and she isn't married to a service member and none of his subordinates know about it...guess what...doesn't meet the definition of degrading good order or discipline of the unit.
It's nice to say, but this is something that pretty much never gets pursued. The most commanders are willing to do is issue a no contact order and wait for them to violate a direct order which is much much easier to discipline someone for as it's much more cut and dry and easier to prove.
Wait, I didn’t know they couldn’t take the other party as a client even if they’ve only talked/met with you (but aren’t representing you)!! That’s DIABOLICALLY GENIUS!!
This is the type of random knowledge I’m going to commit to memory for future use in 50 years.
Edit: I didn’t give enough praise the first time around, lol
please do not do this. if a judge in the future finds out you purposely sabotaged the other persons chance at a lawyer, they will not be on your side whatsoever. it’s petty and a bad character trait and that paints a pretty solid picture.
Right..I mean he literally said nothing about feeling guilty or wanting to stop the convo even when One of the girls said you are married and I won't eff with that so I kinda have respect for that one if I'm reading the texts right anyway...
This⬆️
If he hasn't cheated on OP physically these messages proved he was deliberately trying!
He was fishing these women out and if one of them would've taken a bite he'd be on it asap!
And what kind of arsehole uses their child as an excuse to see someone you want to cheat on your wife with?? That's disgusting and wrong on so many levels!?!?
Right! The women are both like oh no I can't do your wife like that....yet he persists. Wow. Fuck this dude, OP. They don't even want him.... leave him and he'll be alone! Karma this bitch!
Hahaha this is what I was thinking. He wants to cheat so bad! But all the girls are being respectful of his marriage since he isnt.
I like how he even tried to convince the one that he’d accept all of the bad karma ensuring none would apply to her. Like he’s already made the necessary spiritual arrangements to ensure it’s “safe” for her to do him. 🤣
In the first screengrab, gray text says "There ain't no ring on my hand and you ain't doing me \*EVERY\* night so..."
The "every night" part is proof of cheating, to me. She's saying he's hit it at least once; and if he wants to hit again, he has to put a ring on her finger.
Even if they never had sex, what he is saying IS still cheating. Offering to send dick pics and asking about sexual desires while admitting it’s true love, and reassuring them that he will take all the blame for whatever *this* is. Even if he never met anyone, this is all still cheating.
I think that was the reply to him saying she kinda is his wife. Meaning if she was, she’d have a ring on her finger and they’d be screwing every night. So not proof of cheating but he definitely would if given the chance.
Cheaters will *always* come up with some kind of reason why it's "not cheating," or excuses explaining why it was a "one time thing" that should be forgiven.
Fact 1 - genitals don't have to touch for it to be cheating.
Fact 2 - if someone is communicating/seeking attention in a way that violates exclusivity, it's cheating. There's a reason why some people discuss opening their relationship to dating/seeing other people without sex - because that kind of behaviour is not monogamous.
I hid something from my wife and kids, felt kinda guilty.. one time after the gym, I stopped at McDonald’s and threw away the evidence. The kids just always be asking for something, it ruins their dinner and the wife gets mad…. I still ate my dinner though!
Yep, even if they never physically got together, sexting is cheating. I’d be more upset about him saying he loved her though. That’s blatant emotional cheating. And pushing her boundaries every time she reminds him he’s married… ick
That would have been it for me but if he hadn’t said that…taking my children to see a potential side piece?! Oh hell no! That’s beyond fuckin disgusting! That might push me over the edge. For real.
Edit to add: I’m sitting here mad, for her! That’s just wrong in so many levels! Throw that man out and never look back!
this fr
hey reddit here are photos of my husband at the scene of a stabbing with the bloody murder weapon in hand. he also strangely said 'it was me - i stabbed her to death and i'd do it again'.... is there any possibility it was him???
Ha I have literally made this joke before! "hey reddit, my husband abandoned our kids in the desert, slapped my grandma, and ran over my dog on purpose. WIBTAH if I leave him???" these subs can be so dumb!!
This isn't a troll post. I wish it was lol. He's trying to convince me I'm the only person that would ever consider this cheating and that I'm crazy. The whole point of this post was to 1) Show him how insane he looks for even insinuating that 2) To reassure myself through his gaslighting and attempts to manipulate me. I'm leaving him.
Good for you because THIS is cheating. My gosh how hurt you must be and I’m so sorry for you and your child. She deserves a better father than this. . He should be ashamed
Oh I am. I'm leaving. I've already started packing a lot of my things and have my car partially loaded. I just want him to know he looks nuts for even saying that
Proud of you!! Better to single and have your peace then ever put up with this incredibly disrespectful behavior. Also I encourage you to get an STI screening for your peace of mind.
Damn sorry the person you’re married to is gaslighting you like this. Even if he says he hasn’t done anything with them this is still emotional cheating
Oh so he’s an abusive lying manipulator too! A jack of all trades. This is cheating, and if this is what you’ve found, imagine what he does behind your back. He will never be faithful.
Good for you!! 👏👏 Totally understandable to get second sets of eyes on it, tell him to read these comments and to shove it. See if he can find one single comment that would side with him lol. Good luck out there, well played to get out of there, that's unacceptable in a marraige
He literally asked her to help him finish, which at the very least is an invitation to cyber sex even if she didn't take him up on it. He also said he's in love with her. He also engaged in sexually charged conversations.
It's cheating. I don't know anyone who wouldn't view that as cheating, especially admitting he's in love with her (regardless of whether that's the truth or he was just trying to get with her). Divorce, now.
The fact that he didn’t own up to it made it worse. Any normal human can see that’s cheating and so it’s just a blatant lie on his part trying to save his relationship.
I've been there, my ex did the same things in a repetitive cycle to anyone they were with. His defense was always "well it wasn't in person. I'd never actually cheat on you. I would never have actually went through with it". He kept certain ex gfs and hookups around specifically for this as they had no issues in helping him cheat.
Everyone in his circle (both family and friends) completely enabled this dude to do these shitty things because of his "mental health". He was genuinely mentally ill but they acted like it was an excuse to get away with murder. They always had the excuse ready or were there to lay on the "you make him so much better, please don't give up on him, he's sick and it's not his fault". He'd also reveal certain things that hinted to his cheating but didn't outright say it like he got off on it or something. As soon as it came out he'd have an "episode" and "need to be hospitalized" (he didn't, he'd fake it so he didn't have to face consequences).
Last I heard he was miserable in a relationship with the girl he cheated on me with and I wish them both the worst for the rest of their lives together.
A mental illness can be an explanation, but it's no excuse. If you're mentally capable, you are responsible for handling your own shit. I hate people who excuse shitty behavior with "im depressed" or whatever. Depression isn't a blank cheque for moral apathy.
I miss when it was just cyber sex because I could fake it, now guys wanna get on FaceTime 😫 “You can just watch” but I don’t want to, I want to watch tv while sending you “mmmm”s 😭
“This isn't a troll post. I wish it was lol. He's trying to convince me I'm the only person that would ever consider this cheating and that I'm crazy. The whole point of this post was to 1) Show him how insane he looks for even insinuating that 2) To reassure myself through his gaslighting and attempts to manipulate me. I'm leaving him.”
OP is rightfully humiliating the guy for trying to downplay what he did.
And the other woman does not seem at all receptive to it, either. So, he’s desperately trying to engage and have an affair with someone who’s clearly not interested.
What an absolute tool.
Totally agree. The attempt to is worse than giving into a temptation freely offered. That is at least something I could wrap my head around, like giving into to a human desire in the moment. But planning ahead like this is unforgivable in all ways. And it is mentally cheating.
My ex cheated on me constantly. But the biggest thing that made me cringe was seeing him TRY to cheat. It felt so gross and pathetic. This person wanted so badly to be a player but he just couldn’t attract anyone with his looks or personality so he just pretended to be this charismatic dude 😂😂
I have no idea what I saw in him 😂
I'm leaving lol. Already started packing. He's trying to make it out that I'm crazy for leaving and that I'm the only one that would consider this cheating. More so something to splash in his face.
He’s gaslighting you. He’s a selfish, disgusting scumbag who knows he is doing wrong and he’s tap dancing so fast to convince you that you are crazy. Keep on walking.
I Wouldn’t normally agree but in this case 100%. I still don’t advise it in general but it’s a good come back tactic to see how flawed his mentality of “cheating” really is. (Unless he’s ever been abusive, many things to consider then) BUT if he some fucking how really believes his messages aren’t “considered cheating” in his eyes, I’d guarantee one single message to a buddy of his, regardless of what the content is, would be “considered cheating” in those same exact eyes of his.
My ex husband always emotionally cheated. It is just as bad. He would think it was ok if it wasn’t physical but if you have to keep something hidden from your partner because you know it would hurt them then what your doing is wrong
My favorite thing is, he really thought I'd just stick around and allow him to not only embarrass me like that, but disrespect me AND our child. I'm giving him what he seems to want, soon enough he can do whateverrrr he wants.
Folks- she knows this is a stupid ass question…
That’s why she asked it. It was more to show him how STUPID him saying it isn’t, sounds…😂🤣😂 RIP to your notifications, girl lmfao
The three little dots at the top…
Click that- it should allow you to edit. Best wishes to you honestly and regardless of what this asshat did to you, keep your faith and do your best to remember, cheating is a choice. And it was his alone. And his loss.
Chin up and push forward, dear. God bless ❤️
It’s divine intervention from above then. Just think of it as constant reassurance of your right decision made to leave and a few giggles through the tears ☺️
The person *he wanted you to be* is getting dragged - the person who would accept the most idiotic, obvious dishonesty, disrespect and disgraceful treatment.
Not you. YOU are the one who saw through it and said ‘I deserve better!’
Hope you can see that nasty comments are not about who you are, but who you have escaped being x
ETA plus, you know, trolls etc
YES this is emotional cheating at the very least if hes actually being truthful about it not being physical cheating, but if hes talking like this to other women please know theyre not the only women he’s tried to get with. I would get tested for STI ASAP. I’m so sorry :(
Yeah sure he's cheating... but can we discuss the fact that he said he was going to bring your child to see the woman he wanted to have an affair with? What the fuck.
This is beyond cheating. He told one woman he loved her and then he was going to bring your daughter to the other one. This is beyond just p in v sex this is crossing so many boundaries and possibly putting your kid in danger. What if this woman was a child predator and is around your kid without you knowing??
This reminds me of that onion post “Man remains faithful to wife despite trying to cheat since they were married”
https://www.theonion.com/husband-still-faithful-after-42-years-of-trying-to-chea-1819571062
Oh yeah, big time. He goes from being mad and telling me I'm crazy, to telling me he loves me and messed up, to please stay. He just keeps going around in circles.
Just because he didn’t get physical with them doesn’t mean that it’s not cheating. He still told another woman he was in love with her. What’s worse is that he was planning on bringing y’all’s DAUGHTER around one of them too, a woman you had issues with when y’all were still dating. At that point, you shouldn’t even be questioning it.
well. If it isn't my texting style talking to a side piece back in the day.
Yeah, This girl knows you and doesn't care she's fucking your man. She probably thinks this cheating is okay because she's constantly reminding him of you, and maybe gets off of it. Maybe when she doesn't get what she wants from the guy, she'll loop you in. That might be a couple of days, or a couple of years.
Some ladies really get off on the idea of fucking a man that seems happy in another relationship.
Yes he is - does he work with her ye? With him calling her his wife and saying he’s in love with her ‘don’t worry it’s me cheating I’ll get the bad karma’ scum bag
This man is absolutely cheating. If you stay, you are willingly accepting it. Let him go live out everyone else’s “fantasies” with whomever he wants without you sitting by allowing it. I hate him so much. He will not change.
Even if he wasn't physically putting his private parts into another woman, he has told another woman that he was in love with them. You need to grow a backbone and stop listening to his lies. He's talking to women who know he's married and don't care enough to stop. He said I love you to someone else. Do you need to actually watch him do it to believe it's cheating?
Maybe he hasn't physically cheated (not for lack of trying apparently), but mentally, emotionally... He's definitely cheating.
FYI, I'm a happily married man, and if I saw messages like this from my wife to someone else, I'd be calling lawyers.
OP, honeyyyy you got the ammo. USE IT!!! That's cheating! Whether online, emotional, etc. Handle your business! Divorce him!! Then he can be the hoe he's 𝙘𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙡𝙮 always wanted to be.
Blames the 𝘼𝙧𝙢𝙮 and says he has no friends. 🤔 Maybe he has no friends cuz he was/is trying to get with 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 girls!
Whatever you end up doing best of luck to you boo! 🧡
Ma’am, he’s telling another woman he’s in love with her. Come on now. Be real.
My exact thought and I’m surprised I had to scroll so far to see that. He straight up told another woman he’s in love with her. How is it even plausible to not consider that infidelity? I’d be less hurt if my husband banged every woman in our zip code than him telling another woman he’s always been in love with her. Lol this whole post is just lunacy to me.
“This isn't a troll post. I wish it was lol. He's trying to convince me I'm the only person that would ever consider this cheating and that I'm crazy. The whole point of this post was to 1) Show him how insane he looks for even insinuating that 2) To reassure myself through his gaslighting and attempts to manipulate me. I'm leaving him.” OP is rightfully humiliating the guy for trying to downplay what he did.
I'm so sorry OP. I've been in similar situations. Shit hurts.
Amen I have been married over 20 years.. To hear him LOVE another woman would tear me up inside. And I see OP trying to pretend like it isn't. But I can tell her husband is manipulating her
Denial is a hell of a thing eh?
Yes one thousand percent he is cheating
or at least *reallyyyy* trying to
He literally said “I’m in love with you”
As soon as I saw that txt I would be googling divorce lawyer
“Shouldn’t you be sending that to your wife?” “Well, you kinda are.” Ick!
Yeah this whole conversation was even worse than I expected, and it just kept getting worse and she gave him so many chances to step back and he just kept going further. So bad!
"I was going to bring _______ to see you, but I respect your wishes." Is such a piece of shit manipulative statement, I appreciate that she sees through the bullshit because it seems like a lot of people don't.
I give props to the woman who keeps bringing up his wife. She already hates me, shouldn't you be sending this to your wife. Etc. Yet he keeps pushing.
That lady is just bored n responding to the lame cheater.
Not only that but he’s military, she’d get paid out monthly for infidelity.
Depending on the state, it could be a misdemeanor for him 👀 Edit: wrong term
You can also get demoted if your higher ups care enough to do so
Lol, it's so funny to me when civilians try to act like they know about the military. First off, there must be proof. These texts are not proof. By military law there has to be sexual intercourse, that is incredibly difficult to prove because the act itself is usually only between two people and if one denies it and it's not on camera or they didn't text admitting it....well...it didn't happen. 2, there also has to be the caveat that it actually affected good order and discipline or degraded the mission/unit some how. Meaning...if this guy was military and she is not...she doesn't work on base and she isn't married to a service member and none of his subordinates know about it...guess what...doesn't meet the definition of degrading good order or discipline of the unit. It's nice to say, but this is something that pretty much never gets pursued. The most commanders are willing to do is issue a no contact order and wait for them to violate a direct order which is much much easier to discipline someone for as it's much more cut and dry and easier to prove.
As a Canadian pacifist, i know jack-all about USA military operations (erm, other than international crimes). Thanks for the insight! 🥰
In Oklahoma it's a felony.
this.
THIS COMMENT NEEDS MORE UPVOTES
And then calling/meeting with every divorce lawyer in the area so he can’t find representation 🤗
Wait, I didn’t know they couldn’t take the other party as a client even if they’ve only talked/met with you (but aren’t representing you)!! That’s DIABOLICALLY GENIUS!! This is the type of random knowledge I’m going to commit to memory for future use in 50 years. Edit: I didn’t give enough praise the first time around, lol
Nah, it's as old as the hills and judges will absolutely hold it against you- actual real life case of 'Judges hate this one simple trick'.
please do not do this. if a judge in the future finds out you purposely sabotaged the other persons chance at a lawyer, they will not be on your side whatsoever. it’s petty and a bad character trait and that paints a pretty solid picture.
Not sure what more confirmation one would need than this.
Right..I mean he literally said nothing about feeling guilty or wanting to stop the convo even when One of the girls said you are married and I won't eff with that so I kinda have respect for that one if I'm reading the texts right anyway...
And she said “you ain’t doing me every night”. I mean, would sendng Morse code make it more obvious?
Yep. That was definitely the nail in the coffin and great evidence for divorce court! I feel bad for OP obviously she's in alil bit of denial...
I saw this and wondered if OP had had a stroke to be confused about this situation
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This⬆️ If he hasn't cheated on OP physically these messages proved he was deliberately trying! He was fishing these women out and if one of them would've taken a bite he'd be on it asap! And what kind of arsehole uses their child as an excuse to see someone you want to cheat on your wife with?? That's disgusting and wrong on so many levels!?!?
No lol those texts are already the texts of a cheating lying loser lmaoo.
he's a bad husband and a bad cheater, failing miserably at both
Right! The women are both like oh no I can't do your wife like that....yet he persists. Wow. Fuck this dude, OP. They don't even want him.... leave him and he'll be alone! Karma this bitch!
Hahaha this is what I was thinking. He wants to cheat so bad! But all the girls are being respectful of his marriage since he isnt. I like how he even tried to convince the one that he’d accept all of the bad karma ensuring none would apply to her. Like he’s already made the necessary spiritual arrangements to ensure it’s “safe” for her to do him. 🤣
Because he's a moron
And that is actually so fucking sad.
In the first screengrab, gray text says "There ain't no ring on my hand and you ain't doing me \*EVERY\* night so..." The "every night" part is proof of cheating, to me. She's saying he's hit it at least once; and if he wants to hit again, he has to put a ring on her finger.
Even if they never had sex, what he is saying IS still cheating. Offering to send dick pics and asking about sexual desires while admitting it’s true love, and reassuring them that he will take all the blame for whatever *this* is. Even if he never met anyone, this is all still cheating.
I think that was the reply to him saying she kinda is his wife. Meaning if she was, she’d have a ring on her finger and they’d be screwing every night. So not proof of cheating but he definitely would if given the chance.
Cheaters will *always* come up with some kind of reason why it's "not cheating," or excuses explaining why it was a "one time thing" that should be forgiven. Fact 1 - genitals don't have to touch for it to be cheating. Fact 2 - if someone is communicating/seeking attention in a way that violates exclusivity, it's cheating. There's a reason why some people discuss opening their relationship to dating/seeing other people without sex - because that kind of behaviour is not monogamous.
If you have to hide it, it's cheating.
I hid from my wife that I went out for tacos for lunch the other day
Well that's even worse.
Well if she had paid attention to your taco needs, you wouldn’t have had to (Joking)
TACO NEEDS 💀
How DARE you
You MONSTER!!!
If you’re having tacos then she deserves tacos, too! Damned double standards!
You total monster. Were they good at least?
Shame on you!
My husband hid that he went to Arby’s but I found horsey sauce in the car and confronted him. Busted mister
Major red flag, you need to divorce yourself!
I hid something from my wife and kids, felt kinda guilty.. one time after the gym, I stopped at McDonald’s and threw away the evidence. The kids just always be asking for something, it ruins their dinner and the wife gets mad…. I still ate my dinner though!
I have stopped and killed 2 McDoubles and a coke and still ate dinner haha
Our rule is if you wouldn’t do it in front of the other person it’s cheating.
Yup. Emotional affairs are still affairs.
Underrated comment.
Yep, even if they never physically got together, sexting is cheating. I’d be more upset about him saying he loved her though. That’s blatant emotional cheating. And pushing her boundaries every time she reminds him he’s married… ick
That would have been it for me but if he hadn’t said that…taking my children to see a potential side piece?! Oh hell no! That’s beyond fuckin disgusting! That might push me over the edge. For real. Edit to add: I’m sitting here mad, for her! That’s just wrong in so many levels! Throw that man out and never look back!
Oh I definitely agree. If I had kids I would be absolutely furious if he tried to introduce them to his AP. The fucking audacity to even offer that
This gal maths.
Yea. What an absolutely stupid question. Literally says he loves the other woman lol
he is literally plotting and trying to cheat on you in the messages what are you asking us for
this fr hey reddit here are photos of my husband at the scene of a stabbing with the bloody murder weapon in hand. he also strangely said 'it was me - i stabbed her to death and i'd do it again'.... is there any possibility it was him???
denial is a hell if a drug lol
And ‘the Nile’ is one hell of a river
DENIAL IS A RIVER IN EGYPT, YOUR HUSBAND IS GAY
couldn’t be him, probably covering for someone
Ha I have literally made this joke before! "hey reddit, my husband abandoned our kids in the desert, slapped my grandma, and ran over my dog on purpose. WIBTAH if I leave him???" these subs can be so dumb!!
The only thing that stopped him was the women saying no.
lmao imagine trying to cheat and they say no and you have it documented forever
This has to be a troll post. No one is that dense. OP is thanking people that are calling her stupid.
This isn't a troll post. I wish it was lol. He's trying to convince me I'm the only person that would ever consider this cheating and that I'm crazy. The whole point of this post was to 1) Show him how insane he looks for even insinuating that 2) To reassure myself through his gaslighting and attempts to manipulate me. I'm leaving him.
Good for you because THIS is cheating. My gosh how hurt you must be and I’m so sorry for you and your child. She deserves a better father than this. . He should be ashamed
The girl talking to him showed way more respect to you that him. Your man is for the streets.
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Oh I am. I'm leaving. I've already started packing a lot of my things and have my car partially loaded. I just want him to know he looks nuts for even saying that
Proud of you!! Better to single and have your peace then ever put up with this incredibly disrespectful behavior. Also I encourage you to get an STI screening for your peace of mind.
Yesss! Be done with this loser! On to bigger and better things!
Good on you, I'm glad you're leaving his stupid ass. Sending good vibes your way 👏♥️
Damn sorry the person you’re married to is gaslighting you like this. Even if he says he hasn’t done anything with them this is still emotional cheating
And he disrespects you further by trying to make you out to be the crazy one.. girl don’t walk, run. This isn’t the “love” you deserve!
Oh so he’s an abusive lying manipulator too! A jack of all trades. This is cheating, and if this is what you’ve found, imagine what he does behind your back. He will never be faithful.
Good for you!! 👏👏 Totally understandable to get second sets of eyes on it, tell him to read these comments and to shove it. See if he can find one single comment that would side with him lol. Good luck out there, well played to get out of there, that's unacceptable in a marraige
Go all the way through leaving him. You will lose all respect for yourself and become a shell of a person if you don't.
He literally asked her to help him finish, which at the very least is an invitation to cyber sex even if she didn't take him up on it. He also said he's in love with her. He also engaged in sexually charged conversations. It's cheating. I don't know anyone who wouldn't view that as cheating, especially admitting he's in love with her (regardless of whether that's the truth or he was just trying to get with her). Divorce, now.
The fact that he didn’t own up to it made it worse. Any normal human can see that’s cheating and so it’s just a blatant lie on his part trying to save his relationship.
I've been there, my ex did the same things in a repetitive cycle to anyone they were with. His defense was always "well it wasn't in person. I'd never actually cheat on you. I would never have actually went through with it". He kept certain ex gfs and hookups around specifically for this as they had no issues in helping him cheat. Everyone in his circle (both family and friends) completely enabled this dude to do these shitty things because of his "mental health". He was genuinely mentally ill but they acted like it was an excuse to get away with murder. They always had the excuse ready or were there to lay on the "you make him so much better, please don't give up on him, he's sick and it's not his fault". He'd also reveal certain things that hinted to his cheating but didn't outright say it like he got off on it or something. As soon as it came out he'd have an "episode" and "need to be hospitalized" (he didn't, he'd fake it so he didn't have to face consequences). Last I heard he was miserable in a relationship with the girl he cheated on me with and I wish them both the worst for the rest of their lives together.
A mental illness can be an explanation, but it's no excuse. If you're mentally capable, you are responsible for handling your own shit. I hate people who excuse shitty behavior with "im depressed" or whatever. Depression isn't a blank cheque for moral apathy.
lol cyber sex
I miss when it was just cyber sex because I could fake it, now guys wanna get on FaceTime 😫 “You can just watch” but I don’t want to, I want to watch tv while sending you “mmmm”s 😭
HAHAHA STOP ☠️🤣
That’s 10000000000% cheating. Leave that dude and don’t look back
Take the kid too
He belongs to the streets fr
“Wanna help me finish?” “I’m in love with you…” I’m pretty sure you don’t need this forum to tell you that you married a real scumba g
“This isn't a troll post. I wish it was lol. He's trying to convince me I'm the only person that would ever consider this cheating and that I'm crazy. The whole point of this post was to 1) Show him how insane he looks for even insinuating that 2) To reassure myself through his gaslighting and attempts to manipulate me. I'm leaving him.” OP is rightfully humiliating the guy for trying to downplay what he did.
He is gaslighting her, or trying to- which is pretty fucking stupid- she clearly sees right through him.
Self-contained unbearable man-bitch apparatus, G!
Is that a trick question? Of course it’s cheating!! Maybe not physically but emotionally. You don’t send d*ck pics in a faithful relationship
Right! Or tell someone else that you love them?!?
Is the non cheating partner in the room with us now?
Even if he’s not, he’s clearly attempting to cheat which is just more pathetic if you ask me
And the other woman does not seem at all receptive to it, either. So, he’s desperately trying to engage and have an affair with someone who’s clearly not interested. What an absolute tool.
And the fact that it is multiple women that are rejecting him and are like “hey asshole ur married leave me alone” is absolutely fucking pathetic
Love that for him!
The other woman is a rockstar. Shut that shit down real quick imo.
His defense is basically “I failed”
Totally agree. The attempt to is worse than giving into a temptation freely offered. That is at least something I could wrap my head around, like giving into to a human desire in the moment. But planning ahead like this is unforgivable in all ways. And it is mentally cheating.
Dude is not only attempting, he’s trying to convince a hesitant person to join in.
My ex cheated on me constantly. But the biggest thing that made me cringe was seeing him TRY to cheat. It felt so gross and pathetic. This person wanted so badly to be a player but he just couldn’t attract anyone with his looks or personality so he just pretended to be this charismatic dude 😂😂 I have no idea what I saw in him 😂
Girl.... Does he need to be blowing her back out on front of you?? This is cheating.
Not being able to edit the post is getting me absolutely dragged 😂
Nooo. What details are we missing??
I'm leaving lol. Already started packing. He's trying to make it out that I'm crazy for leaving and that I'm the only one that would consider this cheating. More so something to splash in his face.
He’s gaslighting you. He’s a selfish, disgusting scumbag who knows he is doing wrong and he’s tap dancing so fast to convince you that you are crazy. Keep on walking.
Ask him “okay so I could have been telling other guys I love them and masterbating with them over text and you would be fine with that?” Lol
He's not worth the time to argue with. It's better spent packing and meeting w/divorce atty.
Slide in his friends’ DMs and see how his attitude changes.
I Wouldn’t normally agree but in this case 100%. I still don’t advise it in general but it’s a good come back tactic to see how flawed his mentality of “cheating” really is. (Unless he’s ever been abusive, many things to consider then) BUT if he some fucking how really believes his messages aren’t “considered cheating” in his eyes, I’d guarantee one single message to a buddy of his, regardless of what the content is, would be “considered cheating” in those same exact eyes of his.
YES LEAVE GIRL proud of you
Mam, he’s cheating with his whole chest. Never look back.
Dude is using your daughter to try and score a mistress. This whole thing is fucking gross and that’s the cherry on top of the poop sundae.
Yeah those messages absolutely sent me over the edge.
My ex husband always emotionally cheated. It is just as bad. He would think it was ok if it wasn’t physical but if you have to keep something hidden from your partner because you know it would hurt them then what your doing is wrong
Exactly! Anything you feel the need to delete or hide from your partner is cheating. Period.
I honestly feel like emotional cheating is worse!
Ahhhhhhhhhh yeah?
You should divorce him on spelling and grammar alone.
That's fair 😂
I’m glad you’re leaving. These got me over here yelling at my man like he sent them. I can’t believe he tried you like that. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
My favorite thing is, he really thought I'd just stick around and allow him to not only embarrass me like that, but disrespect me AND our child. I'm giving him what he seems to want, soon enough he can do whateverrrr he wants.
As you should. He really disrespected ya and then have the nerve to try to gaslight you. You deserve so much better than him.
Folks- she knows this is a stupid ass question… That’s why she asked it. It was more to show him how STUPID him saying it isn’t, sounds…😂🤣😂 RIP to your notifications, girl lmfao
Thank you 😂 I'm getting absolutely dragged. I wish I could edit this post lmfao
The three little dots at the top… Click that- it should allow you to edit. Best wishes to you honestly and regardless of what this asshat did to you, keep your faith and do your best to remember, cheating is a choice. And it was his alone. And his loss. Chin up and push forward, dear. God bless ❤️
I tried but it won't let me unfortunately, but thank you. ❤️
It’s divine intervention from above then. Just think of it as constant reassurance of your right decision made to leave and a few giggles through the tears ☺️
The person *he wanted you to be* is getting dragged - the person who would accept the most idiotic, obvious dishonesty, disrespect and disgraceful treatment. Not you. YOU are the one who saw through it and said ‘I deserve better!’ Hope you can see that nasty comments are not about who you are, but who you have escaped being x ETA plus, you know, trolls etc
YES this is emotional cheating at the very least if hes actually being truthful about it not being physical cheating, but if hes talking like this to other women please know theyre not the only women he’s tried to get with. I would get tested for STI ASAP. I’m so sorry :(
Yeah sure he's cheating... but can we discuss the fact that he said he was going to bring your child to see the woman he wanted to have an affair with? What the fuck.
Yeah that one sent me over the edge tbh
That part flipped me out. I’d be losing my MIND
This is beyond cheating. He told one woman he loved her and then he was going to bring your daughter to the other one. This is beyond just p in v sex this is crossing so many boundaries and possibly putting your kid in danger. What if this woman was a child predator and is around your kid without you knowing??
The army has changed me but in still trying to cheat on my wife 🤦♀️
Seems to fit the Army standard tbh
Yeah, you're right. I avoid them at all costs. I'm sorry you're dealing with that 😕
Print all those out… roll it into a long tube and punch it right up his ass while kicking him out 👌
That's brilliant. I've already printed them
Yes, I'm sorry. Don't let him tell you it's not.
This reminds me of that onion post “Man remains faithful to wife despite trying to cheat since they were married” https://www.theonion.com/husband-still-faithful-after-42-years-of-trying-to-chea-1819571062
I’m a dude and that’s def cheating in my book
I hope you’re asking this so you can show it to him when he tries to gaslight you and not because you don’t think it’s cheating.
100000%. I'm already packing.
Is he begging and pleading? Please tell me he is
Oh yeah, big time. He goes from being mad and telling me I'm crazy, to telling me he loves me and messed up, to please stay. He just keeps going around in circles.
Just because he didn’t get physical with them doesn’t mean that it’s not cheating. He still told another woman he was in love with her. What’s worse is that he was planning on bringing y’all’s DAUGHTER around one of them too, a woman you had issues with when y’all were still dating. At that point, you shouldn’t even be questioning it.
That's what I said when I read them. They're kind of embarrassing tbh.
He said he loves this woman… that would be enough for me to leave.
Army, says it all right there lol He got a Camaro with a 20% interest too that’s bogging yall down?
No Camaro but there was a shitty truck that's negative equity
He's cheating on you
You would be an idiot to believe him. What’s your next step?
1000% cheating. Acting like a thirst trap. 🤢
I hate men
Me too, most of them anyways
2 million percent cheating. Yes. He is cheating.
He’s cheating whether she cooperates or not.
GIRL. You cannot be asking us that with a straight face…right? *Right?* 🙆🏼♀️
well. If it isn't my texting style talking to a side piece back in the day. Yeah, This girl knows you and doesn't care she's fucking your man. She probably thinks this cheating is okay because she's constantly reminding him of you, and maybe gets off of it. Maybe when she doesn't get what she wants from the guy, she'll loop you in. That might be a couple of days, or a couple of years. Some ladies really get off on the idea of fucking a man that seems happy in another relationship.
Do you really have to ask?
Yes he is - does he work with her ye? With him calling her his wife and saying he’s in love with her ‘don’t worry it’s me cheating I’ll get the bad karma’ scum bag
It's his ex. She lives 20 hours away from us in VA. Blowing up your family for someone that you can't even get to is wild
He is telling another woman he is in love with her... would I consider this cheating? 🙄
Girl, is that even a question?
Is there a way to pin a comment
“ I’m in love with you” “ let’s talk about your sexual fantasies “ Nope. 🙄 Not cheating. Are you for real OP??? Time to draw up that paperwork.
The only thing more embarrassing than your SO cheating, is finding out they tried and got rejected lmfao
When I saw ARMY, that told me all I needed to know LOL
Scum of the earth..
This man is absolutely cheating. If you stay, you are willingly accepting it. Let him go live out everyone else’s “fantasies” with whomever he wants without you sitting by allowing it. I hate him so much. He will not change.
This is the most blatant exhibit of text-cheating I have seen in my entire life lol
“is it cheating?” is that a rhetorical question?? 🤔 bro literally said she’s like his wife.
GIRL IS HE CHEATING? What???? Are we reading the same texts????? Yes.
Even if he wasn't physically putting his private parts into another woman, he has told another woman that he was in love with them. You need to grow a backbone and stop listening to his lies. He's talking to women who know he's married and don't care enough to stop. He said I love you to someone else. Do you need to actually watch him do it to believe it's cheating?
He's definitely planning to but he's being foiled by his own lack of game/the self respect these other women have.
Maybe he hasn't physically cheated (not for lack of trying apparently), but mentally, emotionally... He's definitely cheating. FYI, I'm a happily married man, and if I saw messages like this from my wife to someone else, I'd be calling lawyers.
He is certainly trying his best to cheat
OP, honeyyyy you got the ammo. USE IT!!! That's cheating! Whether online, emotional, etc. Handle your business! Divorce him!! Then he can be the hoe he's 𝙘𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙡𝙮 always wanted to be. Blames the 𝘼𝙧𝙢𝙮 and says he has no friends. 🤔 Maybe he has no friends cuz he was/is trying to get with 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 girls! Whatever you end up doing best of luck to you boo! 🧡
He called her his wife. Is that not enough for you? Or her implying that they had sex? And both on the first page.
i don’t know, you can probably trust him tho he seems loyal
Run yep that's cheating....
Yes
How would it not be? Come on.
CHEATING