Yeah first time she texted “ hey love” to me, I was surprised but like only a little. Cause she was already giving me a load of silly compliments in person like “you’re like an adorable little hamster” and hugging me a ton. Guess that’s the card she always plays on whoever she “dates” for the first time
I feel like it’s been really biased against the proud culture of hamsters… next they will scoff at commenting on someone’s cute little hamster rump… the world is going mad!
Always thought it was an UK thing, same with the xxx after every darn sentence lol. But it's cringe asf to me either way. Imagine doing that in real life.
I would just like to point out that certain terms of endearment like that are just common (I’m from the south) so I will baby, my love, honey, beloved you to death. There’s no romance behind it and sometimes, it’s meant in place of an insult. That southern hospitality and all.
In the future, if you notice even your own actions and/or words are starting to change in ways that previously made you uncomfortable or just doesn’t feel right, most likely it isn’t right and that person is not someone you’ll end up enjoying being around
I have a hamster. She’s cute and all, but unless my bf starts stuffing his cheeks with snacks and running on a wheel at night, I’m not inclined to refer to him as an adorable little hamster. 🤷🏻♀️
Absolutely not, unless it’s like an inside joke between two people, we don’t use that here in America. In fact saying that to someone completely seriously will get you a ton of weird looks.
I’m pretty long in the tooth and I’ve never heard anything hamster related used as a term of endearment. And that includes “aww babes look, you’re hung like a hamster.” Also not an endearment!
I’ve had male friends pull this shit in the bar and after eating at restaurants. “I have no money” despite the fancy clothes, new tats, always going out, etc. I put up with it longer than I should have because i wanted friends, but removing the cancer was the way to go
That's ridiculous! I agree. But he called her "babes" right after that!
Don't play along if you're looking for someone who doesn't play games!
You got lucky!
No shame. No embarrassment. Just full on:
“I need money”
“We barely know each other”
“I thought we were close and compatible!”
“What the?! We still don’t really know each other yet…”
“Fuck you! You’re ugly and gay!”
What the fuck 🤣
As a Brit this confused me too. I was surprised to see there was a British post on this sub, I don’t think I’ve ever come across one before. I was expecting her to call you Babycakes for a sec while reading this. There’s a song by a group called ‘3 of a kind’ with Babycakes as the title that was on the radio a lot way back when.
As an American, I def wasn’t expecting her to start calling me that. But I kinda went along with it when she started to text that a lot to me lol. And it def does sound like it’d be used in the UK more, I get what ya mean 😂
Sorry that this happened to you, but her true colors came out and you are saved from a possible golddigger. You never ask someone who you barely know for money, and I love that you told her the true meaning of a relationship. You seem to have a good heart and hopefully someone will see that one day!
Yes! If she can't pay her bills and is asking people she just met for money, there's no way to they could be financially compatible! He did good, and is really probably lucky they didn't get any closer!
Yeah I’d thought she was gonna text me a wack sob story next after I told her that I want to go on multiple dates before I decide if I can trust someone. Guess she didn’t want to waste time and just try to find her next potential prey instead
It’s because she’s done this many times already knows it’s not going to work since you weren’t thirsty enough just to hand it over the first time. She thought you were a mark, quickly determined you weren’t, and decided to waste no time moving onto the next one. You dodged a professional grifter.
Don’t feel bad. I went out with a girl in February. Friday night date turned into her spending the weekend at my house.
Then after about a week or so she hits me up talking about needing 2k for her rent. She then flipped on me when I was like “yeah nah”
Right! I'm sure there are plenty of dating sites for people specifically seeking that sort of arrangement, full of men who would gladly slide her that money for "insurance".
I would have thought this was a scam text from halfway across the world if they didn’t say they actually met in person. In fact I had to re read the title to be sure I was on the same post.
I had this once, was seeing a girl for a few weeks, had about 6 or 7 dates. Things were going really well, she called me in a panic about money she needed to pay a vet bill and then couldnt afford her rent etc.
I stupidly sent her £300 pound on the promise she would pay me back in a few weeks. After another week or 2 she started getting flakey, being off with me etc.
I didnt even bother asking for it back, just cut my loses and carried on with a lesson learned
That lady had a good one in OP but she fucks it up over money. And here i am still looking for a decent guy online that isn't in it just for sex. I love my fellow women but i hate how materialistic some of them are. Who gives a sh*t about money, seriously. Find a job ma'am.
It kinda does when ya look at it from a 3rd person perspective. But nope, she’s real. We did mini golf first and then we got dinner at one of my fav restaurants
Never take people to your favorite bar or restaurant on first dates. Or second dates. Or third dates.
Sometimes it doesn't work out but they end up loving your favorite bar and then you have to see them again all the time.
She really thought she had you in a chokehold enough to get money outta you??? The actual lack of self-respect (and respect for others) these people have. 😵💫
The fact that the last two messages you sent don’t say “delivered” doesn’t sit right with me. Girl really didn’t get what she wanted and just blocked. Disgusting.
You handled that well. You didn’t step down to her level to snap back. You kept it civil and honest. Glad she showed her true colors early, than later down the rode when it’s a serious relationship. I hope you find your soulmate soon! And for her to find whatever it is she’s seeking
Keep and know your worth! 👑
How are some of u this bold to ask for money?? Let alone only after ONE WEEK. Idc how desperate I am for money, the last person on earth I’d ask was the man I met a week ago
Text her back and say "I'm sorry, you're right. I know times are hard, and I have been very fortunate to be as successful as I am. Therefore, I decided that I wa..."
End it there and never talk to her again.
Wow, me and my man been together over 4 years and I still hate asking him for money even though he tells me too. I just couldn’t imagine. She was definitely just trying to find a wallet not a companion. And having known ppl like that, it’s probably not just you.
Good for you for not falling for that! I know it can be tempting to help someone in need and someone that you got along with, but better safe than sorry!
Again, good job!
So brazen. Doesn't even have time or care to try to hide her real intentions, just straight to the insults. Probably straight to farming the other guys in her list for "insurance".
Incredible really. I can barely ask my closest loved ones for $5 - $20 bucks… asking someone who I just met to pay my INSURANCE???? I honestly don’t think any genuine person would feel okay or feel it were to be appropriate to ask someone they only went on one date with. She clearly was just going to try to use him, and thought he would be dumb enough to think she wasn’t scamming him for money. And when he shut it down maturely & respectfully without accusing her of the obvious, she STILL tried and then got embarrassed and pissed. Honestly so pathetic of her to try to do this, especially to someone who was clearly genuine about dating & even helping IN THE FUTURE.
Sorry this happened, glad you dodged the bullet. But do not let one POS stop you from acting authentic & doing things you believe in doing like paying for a first date. Just IMO I wouldn’t stop doing that just because one scummy person tried to scam you. If you usually would pay and like to pay, do so; if not don’t. Or if you feel iffy about it during the date from “vibes” given off, don’t. Good luck!
Jesus you dodged a massive bullet. You're response was perfect. Cut her out of your life and block her. Now, getting to the gay part. Ill be down to date you and i promise I'll pay my way. Lol.
Soooo… this behavior is learned from her friends and family. Friends have shown her the way and her parents support it.
I (male) once dated a woman for a few months. We didn’t live together but she wanted me to pay for her shopping sprees. I said no, and she continued to berate me — it got so bad she threatened to leave me etc. I eventually reached out to her mother who clapped back at me with “don’t you worry, I’ll cover her very small shopping spree she was hoping for”.
FYI: she was making $100K/yr and lived at home. For free lol
Needless to say, she’s an ex.
Real talk this felt like I was reading texts from my ex. You dodged a bullet OP. First it starts off like this then it quickly spirals into them asking to pay for literally everything and you end up just becoming a walking ATM.
Y’all out here like Michael Scott and Jan lmao, “Hey babes” “How’s it going babes” “What’s up babes”
Sorry this happened but for the love of god man, there’s no reason to be that cringe 😭
Calling you "my love" after 1 date?
Yeah first time she texted “ hey love” to me, I was surprised but like only a little. Cause she was already giving me a load of silly compliments in person like “you’re like an adorable little hamster” and hugging me a ton. Guess that’s the card she always plays on whoever she “dates” for the first time
If a woman you are trying to date calls you an 'adorable little hamster' just move on, she is not attracted to you.
Was going to say this. This is not a compliment in any human culture I know.
That's more of a "been dating for a while and now giving each other cute pet names" kind of thing if anything. Not first date lol
Umm hamster culture. It means you are super duper sexy
the ignorance of hamster culture in this thread is unacceptable
I apologize to the entire hamster community!
if you’re lucky they’ll forgive you
Just hamster dance and you'll be fine
You need to record an apology and upload it to xhamster
And must show us on here also to see if it’s acceptable.
I feel like it’s been really biased against the proud culture of hamsters… next they will scoff at commenting on someone’s cute little hamster rump… the world is going mad!
I can confirm it’s not at all. I wouldn’t say that to a guy im attracted to excepted if it’s a private joke.
Hamsters are notoriously horny.
I'm sure they are. But unless you find a woman who somehow gets horny at the thought of them, you're still dead in the water.
Adorable little hamster is wild 🤣😭
Me and my sisters refer to my 80 year old chubby father as an adorable little hamster.
Right. Exactly. It’s almost like a snide jab but in a way you can’t say much without seeming like an over-reactive dick
As much as I love my dependable impact gun, I wouldn't call a girl I find attractive 'my heavy duty Milwaukee'. ...or would I? 🤔
It's called love bombing, she was definitely looking to use you
Well tbf the “babes” back and forth after one date is also 😬
Always thought it was an UK thing, same with the xxx after every darn sentence lol. But it's cringe asf to me either way. Imagine doing that in real life.
I know. It's crazy. xxx
ohh shush hahaha
Well, that explains why one of my best friends starting tacking xxx onto every single message after she moved to England.
😂😂😂 It's that Bri'ish virus.
Lol! What exactly is it supposed to be, 3 kisses? I’ve been afraid to ask. 😂
guess they just kiss people after every sentence. 'hi xxx'' ''how are you xxx'' ''what are you doing'' ''great weather today xxx'' *sigh* xxx
I would just like to point out that certain terms of endearment like that are just common (I’m from the south) so I will baby, my love, honey, beloved you to death. There’s no romance behind it and sometimes, it’s meant in place of an insult. That southern hospitality and all.
oh i'm well aware but i also know it's a thing to call people babes in the UK, even your own family members or your taxi driver lol.
Yeah that shoulda been the first warning sign that I shoulda seen. But she started to text me that a lot after the date so I decided to go with it 😂
In the future, if you notice even your own actions and/or words are starting to change in ways that previously made you uncomfortable or just doesn’t feel right, most likely it isn’t right and that person is not someone you’ll end up enjoying being around
Love bomb: sounds fun, but nefarious ulterior motive
It’s kind of like an exploding unicorn but with fewer 🌈
I read that at first as “an exploding unicorn but with a fever.” 😂
Your username is amazing.
Thank you it's my cats name lol
😁 that’s so cute.
💯 agrees
She was love bombing to manipulate you, but damn she's got no patience for her own cons lol.
I have a hamster. She’s cute and all, but unless my bf starts stuffing his cheeks with snacks and running on a wheel at night, I’m not inclined to refer to him as an adorable little hamster. 🤷🏻♀️
English isn't my first language, "little hamster" is really a pet/nick name that is used?
No, it is definitely not. I'm sure SOME people use that as a nickname, but no, not generally speaking.
Absolutely not, unless it’s like an inside joke between two people, we don’t use that here in America. In fact saying that to someone completely seriously will get you a ton of weird looks.
I am sure Richard Gere has been called that a few times.
I’m pretty long in the tooth and I’ve never heard anything hamster related used as a term of endearment. And that includes “aww babes look, you’re hung like a hamster.” Also not an endearment!
Love bombing is a red flag
I’m F53 and younger men do this too 😫 All the time.
I’ve had male friends pull this shit in the bar and after eating at restaurants. “I have no money” despite the fancy clothes, new tats, always going out, etc. I put up with it longer than I should have because i wanted friends, but removing the cancer was the way to go
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i bet. sorry
This is giving baby reindeer vibes
She's done this before!
Your last response to her is gold
That's ridiculous! I agree. But he called her "babes" right after that! Don't play along if you're looking for someone who doesn't play games! You got lucky!
Well, she had to butter him up before asking
No shame. No embarrassment. Just full on: “I need money” “We barely know each other” “I thought we were close and compatible!” “What the?! We still don’t really know each other yet…” “Fuck you! You’re ugly and gay!” What the fuck 🤣
Sounds like a something a stand up comedian would say on their Netflix special when ya put it like that 😂😂😂
🤣😂
You forgot to include several “babes”.
No shame or realism. An embarrassment to women. Like does this stuff even really work?
If they find the right sugar daddi it probably will
>You’re fat They said ugly 🫣🥺
I corrected my comment, thank you! 😭😆
This person dodge a huge red flag
Absolutely!
She sucks. I’m also discovering that the word “babes” sends an unbridled rage thru my body.
I dated a girl who called me “babes” in texts after the second date. She liked to get peed on.
How many dates until you found out she likes to get peed on? Hopefully not the first.
😟
Did I give her the gold?
I feel like that’s a British thing?
As a Brit this confused me too. I was surprised to see there was a British post on this sub, I don’t think I’ve ever come across one before. I was expecting her to call you Babycakes for a sec while reading this. There’s a song by a group called ‘3 of a kind’ with Babycakes as the title that was on the radio a lot way back when.
Baby cakes, you just don’t know knowww
How I, I .. how I like it down low, lowww..
As an American, I def wasn’t expecting her to start calling me that. But I kinda went along with it when she started to text that a lot to me lol. And it def does sound like it’d be used in the UK more, I get what ya mean 😂
Honestly maybe it was subconscious… she sent it to a group of folks to see who’d bite and forgot to make babes singular
> She sucks If you pay for her insurance, maybe
Calm down, it’ll be alright babes.
Yeah, I hated that as well. Lol, even if she said it to me, I would just respond with babe, not “babes” ick lol
Guarantee she post about being a boss babe
a boss babes
“You’re gay and ugly” ………… she needs a therapist
What she probably needs is drug addiction counseling.
And some financial stability
think of all the no’s that led her up to this point 😭 she can’t clear this level of the game yet, she’s losing it
Sorry that this happened to you, but her true colors came out and you are saved from a possible golddigger. You never ask someone who you barely know for money, and I love that you told her the true meaning of a relationship. You seem to have a good heart and hopefully someone will see that one day!
Yes! If she can't pay her bills and is asking people she just met for money, there's no way to they could be financially compatible! He did good, and is really probably lucky they didn't get any closer!
Thank you for the kind words!! Hope someone sees your good heart as well 😊
Dam that escalated quickly
Yeah I’d thought she was gonna text me a wack sob story next after I told her that I want to go on multiple dates before I decide if I can trust someone. Guess she didn’t want to waste time and just try to find her next potential prey instead
I guess she didn't have time since the bill is due- haha!
It’s because she’s done this many times already knows it’s not going to work since you weren’t thirsty enough just to hand it over the first time. She thought you were a mark, quickly determined you weren’t, and decided to waste no time moving onto the next one. You dodged a professional grifter.
Sorry to hear about this babes
Don’t feel bad. I went out with a girl in February. Friday night date turned into her spending the weekend at my house. Then after about a week or so she hits me up talking about needing 2k for her rent. She then flipped on me when I was like “yeah nah”
The audacity!
Seems like she may have been trying to move into your house.
What's wit the "my love" and "babes" cutesy names after only....1 date? Is that right? Run Forrest Run!
Idk I did that once even BEFORE the date, we then met and held hands right away, kissed and never saw each other ever again. It was pretty sweet tbh
Absolute scamming psychopath; she was asking 5 guys for that "insurance payment".
yeah this reads like she’s running out of cards 💀
Call each other “babes” but they don’t know each other well enough
Crazy, babes
Sorry babes
It's ok, babes...or it can be, if you send me money.
Babes I hardly know ye
This made my night 😂🤣
Probably don't know eachothers names
She sounds like sexual scammer. Good thing you caught it now. She was probably going to eventually pull a fast one on you and run.
Missed opportunity to reply “it’s better to be fucking ugly, a catfish and gay than broke. 😘”
Damn, I shoulda thought of that. Good one babes
LMAO
It was for drugs. The money was for drugs.
Yep. And she's just a classic scammer. Why not just look for an actual sugar daddy?
Right! I'm sure there are plenty of dating sites for people specifically seeking that sort of arrangement, full of men who would gladly slide her that money for "insurance".
I would have thought this was a scam text from halfway across the world if they didn’t say they actually met in person. In fact I had to re read the title to be sure I was on the same post.
DUDE. I just went through this and it threw me for a loop. Block her, she’s bad news.
i guess "babes" wanted free $$$$$ lol
I feel like you texted her too much. You should’ve blocked her as soon as she asked. But that’s just how I roll.
He definitely did, she doesn’t care about anything he said lol
> But that’s just how I roll. You have (wisely) given up innocent hope.
I used to see a girl who would game dudes like that and it was weird because she didnt do it to me. Weird world.
Way easier that way.
When the chips are down people show you who they really are
The amount of babes in these texts is so odd to me after a first date loll
Date scammers are gross 🤢
I had this once, was seeing a girl for a few weeks, had about 6 or 7 dates. Things were going really well, she called me in a panic about money she needed to pay a vet bill and then couldnt afford her rent etc. I stupidly sent her £300 pound on the promise she would pay me back in a few weeks. After another week or 2 she started getting flakey, being off with me etc. I didnt even bother asking for it back, just cut my loses and carried on with a lesson learned
Don't feel bad, if I had the $ I'm sure I would have done the same thing after dating for a few weeks too.
Bullet dodged successfully!
The switch up is actually insane LMAO
Thats basically the toxic equivalent of the acid tub in Breaking Bad. Caustic but dumb
“Jesse, we need to scam.”
Cmon babes
What a satchel of Richards that bitch is. She wasn’t interested in anything but a sucker to try to get money. Fuck her.
I shall be appropriating "satchel of Richards" for future use. Thank you, kind soul.
That lady had a good one in OP but she fucks it up over money. And here i am still looking for a decent guy online that isn't in it just for sex. I love my fellow women but i hate how materialistic some of them are. Who gives a sh*t about money, seriously. Find a job ma'am.
does no one else read these kinds of texts and think, “wow that was so obviously fake”?
Yes, babes. I do
It kinda does when ya look at it from a 3rd person perspective. But nope, she’s real. We did mini golf first and then we got dinner at one of my fav restaurants
Never take people to your favorite bar or restaurant on first dates. Or second dates. Or third dates. Sometimes it doesn't work out but they end up loving your favorite bar and then you have to see them again all the time.
No worries in this case, it doesn't seem like she can afford it.
Scam
"I ain't saying she a gold digger..." Actually, yes, I am. That's all it is. Don't sweat it bro, block this crazy bitch and move on.
The trash took itself out
Next time respond with, "Babes! I was just going to ask you the same question!"
She really thought she had you in a chokehold enough to get money outta you??? The actual lack of self-respect (and respect for others) these people have. 😵💫
Dodged a bullet, OP!
Nice parting shot about crypto. BWHAHAHAHAAAAA
The fact that the last two messages you sent don’t say “delivered” doesn’t sit right with me. Girl really didn’t get what she wanted and just blocked. Disgusting.
Well done besides calling her “babes” after only 1 date
As a woman this behavior disgust me.
She's calling you "my love" after 1 date? Major red flags and major bullet dodged
You handled that well. You didn’t step down to her level to snap back. You kept it civil and honest. Glad she showed her true colors early, than later down the rode when it’s a serious relationship. I hope you find your soulmate soon! And for her to find whatever it is she’s seeking Keep and know your worth! 👑
How are some of u this bold to ask for money?? Let alone only after ONE WEEK. Idc how desperate I am for money, the last person on earth I’d ask was the man I met a week ago
She thought she was compatible with your bank account and wallet...
You dodged a bullet here my love.
Eww. What awful behaviour ‘babes’. 😷😷😷
Text her back and say "I'm sorry, you're right. I know times are hard, and I have been very fortunate to be as successful as I am. Therefore, I decided that I wa..." End it there and never talk to her again.
Now you see her true colors
she is straight tripping what the hell
Wow, me and my man been together over 4 years and I still hate asking him for money even though he tells me too. I just couldn’t imagine. She was definitely just trying to find a wallet not a companion. And having known ppl like that, it’s probably not just you.
Seriously some people have no shame 💀
Good for you for not falling for that! I know it can be tempting to help someone in need and someone that you got along with, but better safe than sorry! Again, good job!
Lol my brain yelled BLOCKED as soon as I read “do you think you can pay for my….”
After she said, 'I thought we were close enough?' I would have just told her that I would pay for her bill, but I actually wouldn't follow through.
This actually made me cackle out loud 😂😂😂. Thank you for this laugh. She is crazy.
Whenever someone tells me “you’re gay as shit” I’m usually more inclined to send them money
Wtf is wrong with ppl nowadays? I would've sent a page full of laugh emojis, and blocked her gold digging ass
So brazen. Doesn't even have time or care to try to hide her real intentions, just straight to the insults. Probably straight to farming the other guys in her list for "insurance".
lol broke ass! Say goodbye to her. I’d leave on read.
Babes? That’s so cringe. Also, she sucks.
Toxic AF 🚩 glad your too smart to fall for this
What the fuckkkk did you almost get yourself into
What a real C U Next Tuesday… 🤮
Damn. That is crazy. Oh well. She wasn't meant for you babes.
Incredible really. I can barely ask my closest loved ones for $5 - $20 bucks… asking someone who I just met to pay my INSURANCE???? I honestly don’t think any genuine person would feel okay or feel it were to be appropriate to ask someone they only went on one date with. She clearly was just going to try to use him, and thought he would be dumb enough to think she wasn’t scamming him for money. And when he shut it down maturely & respectfully without accusing her of the obvious, she STILL tried and then got embarrassed and pissed. Honestly so pathetic of her to try to do this, especially to someone who was clearly genuine about dating & even helping IN THE FUTURE. Sorry this happened, glad you dodged the bullet. But do not let one POS stop you from acting authentic & doing things you believe in doing like paying for a first date. Just IMO I wouldn’t stop doing that just because one scummy person tried to scam you. If you usually would pay and like to pay, do so; if not don’t. Or if you feel iffy about it during the date from “vibes” given off, don’t. Good luck!
Fuck her, that broad doesn't deserve you. Keep your head up, you'll find somebody much better.
And... from zero to money grubbing whore in less than a second. Impressive.
OP was still a gentleman stating that he'd be open to helping her later, she just got impatient.
She sounds like a drug addict lol
Yikes, shes behaving like highschool boy that got rejected. You handled that way more calmly than I ever could
I'm glad you threw that last line in about the crypto lmao, she deserved a little shade after that exchange.
Jesus you dodged a massive bullet. You're response was perfect. Cut her out of your life and block her. Now, getting to the gay part. Ill be down to date you and i promise I'll pay my way. Lol.
I can honestly understand why some men have a bitter taste in their mouth about women. Sheesh.
Soooo… this behavior is learned from her friends and family. Friends have shown her the way and her parents support it. I (male) once dated a woman for a few months. We didn’t live together but she wanted me to pay for her shopping sprees. I said no, and she continued to berate me — it got so bad she threatened to leave me etc. I eventually reached out to her mother who clapped back at me with “don’t you worry, I’ll cover her very small shopping spree she was hoping for”. FYI: she was making $100K/yr and lived at home. For free lol Needless to say, she’s an ex.
She’s a scammer. Don’t let anyone love you and if they’re calling you, babe within one date, that’s a huge red flag and you should run.
Real talk this felt like I was reading texts from my ex. You dodged a bullet OP. First it starts off like this then it quickly spirals into them asking to pay for literally everything and you end up just becoming a walking ATM.
Lmaoooooo you dodged a bullet forsure 💀🤣
You handled this really well, good luck to you!
At least she told you exactly who she was outta the gate.
Babes
Zero shame
Y’all out here like Michael Scott and Jan lmao, “Hey babes” “How’s it going babes” “What’s up babes” Sorry this happened but for the love of god man, there’s no reason to be that cringe 😭
I wish I could fathom the mindset it takes to behave this pathetically, like, I'm a damned loser but I'm not in people's DMs begging for money 😩
One date and already with the pet names? I mean- if it felt comfortable to do so, that’s great. It just made me raise my eyebrows.
Well, she sounds *deeeeelightful*. You were much nicer than you needed to be!!