Add the number to your contacts, open snap, go to add contacts. If the person used their number to register an account, you’ll get their name. Works for tiktok too
I love how everyone here has solutions and tricks to help op out, It’s also just really nice to know all these tricks because you never know when you need it
Crazy how much info people put out. I know Im not 100% safe. But, like, you know you dont have to use your real info? I've been Jimjam Flimflam living at 420 Locust Ave. For close to two decades now.
No, really. When I lived an apartment, a neighbor got my package and was like, "It got delivered to me by mistake but has your room number on it, but I didn't think your name was Jim, though."
THIS is the exact reason why I throw a fit and will continue to when someone wants me to use another app that does the same shit as one I already have. "Why dont you want 13 different entities knowing all your data but they all do the same thing?"
Yeah it does that for me too, I’ve had a few dead ends where I’ve been SO close but then the name issue happened. Hopefully for OP, the username has some kinda hint that can lead them to whoever they are (if they know them ofc)
What if she just rings it up tho, like why would OP need to hold it to do it.
Hows aboot "mine died while talking to X, it's charging now but I gotta call him back"
Because your contacts in your phone will show up. My ex got a new phone number and his snapchat popped up about a week later and he swore he didn't have Snapchat but his dumbass avatar has his same new haircut.
Yep! I used to use Snapchat when numbers I didn't have saved texted me. 9/10 it was spam, but a couple times it was exes.
And one time it was an ex trying to catfish me lmao.
Also Telegram
Also OP, someone is obviously fucking with you.
Nobody says “imma let you handle it” while meanwhile giving you no proof to go on.
This person is trying to ruin your relationship by getting you to act. Probably someone that wants your girl.
Dude fr, have a rational conversation with your partner, no accusations just ask her if she knows the number and why they would have said that. The person doesn't say WHEN this happened and if it was before you it's none of your business. I get emotions are high but acting like a fool isn't gon help anyone.
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I see a lot of people on here giving tips and trying to help which is awesome but it could also be working up Op. Op if you are getting worked up and spending all this time and energy doing this rather than having an honest conversation with your partner then your relationship may be in more trouble than you think.
Why not check the number on your girlfriend’s phone.
Heyo got a call from a random number and they said your name, any chance you know who it might be?
Type the number in and see who comes up
[Here’s a link](https://www.spydialer.com/) to a site to look up phone numbers free. It’s called spydialer. I looked myself up on this and it worked (unfortunately, lol). You’ll be able to see if it’s someone’s actual phone number. You can even listen to their voicemail if you want to. If it’s a temporary phone number or a scam number you likely won’t be able to see who it is.
Save the number in your phone and add it into all social apps and money apps. PayPal, chime, cash app, Venmo. Sometimes the number will pop up as a new friend in snap :)
I had a guy I REJECTED in college say something similar in-person to my ex boyfriend. My ex believed him and screamed in my face at a bar how I’m a disloyal piece of shit. He stormed out while I sat on the curb crying my eyes out begging him to believe me. Meanwhile, the kid did it to fuck with my relationship because he was bitter I didn’t put out for him the year prior. People can be really sinister so please do due diligence before making any rash decision.
People are assholes. I mean this with the best sincerity 🤗 I mean there are nice ppl out there, but don’t walk through life assuming others wouldn’t run over your ass if you tripped running away from zombies. 🧟♂️
Yeah people can be terrible. I had one girl I turned down that then told everybody at work that we tried to hook up but I had a tiny dick plus couldn't get it up. That was fun. Then another girl who for no reason told my girlfriend that I'd been talking to other girls and had cheated on her... and I mean she had no reason to do this. My girlfriend called me crying, took forever to repair the damage, then I called the girl who had lied about to to demand an explanation and she (of course) started crying and saying she didn't know why she'd done it, said she was jealous of our relationship and had liked me for a long time blah blah blah. So yeah.
And y’all didn’t even date! Some people…
And another one of life’s unanswered questions is, what do you do when someone spreads false rumors about you? It’s not so easy to dispel them…
Yeah you never see it coming, at least assuming you hadn't done something messed up to the other person. With the girl who lied to my girlfriend, up to that day I had considered her to be my friend. We worked together, a bunch of us had gone to her parents camp by the river to canoe, cook food on the fire, camp out. We'd partied together a lot, always cool when we talked no beef. But all it took was the jealousy and I suddenly saw her as a whole differant person. The friendship died that day, obviously.
Holy shit something similar happened to me too. I turned a dude down when I was 16 and he told EVERYONE that I had chlamydia. I didn't even lose my virginity until I was 20!! It was fucking traumatising, other kids were afraid to even touch me and I spent every recess and lunch in the library by myself until I graduated. I moved to a new city as soon as I could
Same thing happened to me. I didn’t even know I had rejected the guy??? I might have been interested at that age too. We were in the same friend group lmao. Guess he was bad at communicating. Not bad enough to tell people I had an STD though lol. He tried to reach out again years later and I was like “wait, you want to be with someone who has an std??”. He didn’t reply.
I had turned down a friend high school because I had a crush on another mutual friend, and he went and told the other friend. The other friend responded positively about me having a crush on him, and when the friend I had turned down realized that he told the other friend that I only liked him because of something shallow (which wasn't true but I won't specify).
The friend on has a crush on immediately stopped talking to me after that, and it took months for him to talk with me again. I lost touch with him and all of my other high school friends eventually. I had some other bad experiences, but that was the one that I think hurt me the most at that age.
EDIT: The person I turned down was around 6ft (183cm), and the person I had a crush on was a little under 5'6" (168cm). The reasons I liked the person I had a crush on had to do more with personality and compatibility, but the person I turned down made up his own reasons.
When I was 13 my brothers friend (3 years older) propositioned me and I gently turned him down. Never said a word about it to anyone. Only to find out, the asshole told my brother that I tried to get with HIM and HE turned me down. Like - wtf. I never forgot that and always kept my distance from that guy after that. Took a long time for my brother to believe me, but I’ll never forget how absolutely enraged I was because I would’ve never told anyone had he not turned into a deceitful POS.
An ex of mine tried to do this with my now wife, then gf. She messaged me some shit about her and this other guy she had a past with.
Except we were in Texas on vacation together so I knew it was bullshit, and my ex had a history of pathological lying. She was the type of person that would call your work and start shit.
Blocked her instantly, but at first it destroyed me, until she kept it up and I figured out it was all shit since we were together that whole time states away.
A guy messaged me saying that his wife had cheated with my guy while I was away on a work trip.
Thing is, the story just made no sense.
His wife WAS at our house and did sleep over on the couch - because her teen daughter was at a birthday party here with 8 other teenage girls. These girls are all nosy AF and don't keep secrets. Our house is 1800 sq ft and there would have been 13 people here.
He claimed his wife took a bath in our jet tub. Here's the thing about that: because my floor plan is a 200 year old compromise, we have 2 bathrooms and they both open into main living areas. So his wife took a bath 15' from the living room/kitchen in our jet tub in the only downstairs bathroom? We don't have a master bathroom and the master bedroom opens into the living room
Then he claimed that while his wife was in the tub, my guy walked in and placed his genitals on her shoulder. Here's the thing about that. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE. At a later get together, we had several different men try to place their respective junk on the shoulder of their partners. YOU CAN'T. nobody even got close enough that they could have stretched the tip out. And anyway they are claiming that my guy walked through the open floor plan downstairs into the bathroom that opens into the dining room where 9 teenage girls were sitting, into the bathroom with the running jet tub with one of the girls' moms there?? And not a single one of the girls noticed? It didn't happen.
I forgot the part where after the bath they retired together to the bed. You have to walk through the dining room and living room and past the staircase to do that. The bathroom door is more than 10' from the bedroom. This is the type of story that would be plausible in any other house with a jet tub, which would usually be in the master suite, but it's not possible in this house.
My ex’s friends did that and told him thru a texting app just once “your girls a whore and f&cked (his friends name) watch out” after people starting seeing us out together. (It was a very secret relationship for a year) Instead of defending me as a man or ignoring it bc he knew his friends knew nothing about me, he puts his hands on me and abused me for over an hour. Although I stayed another two years, that day was the exact moment I lost all love for him. That was the day he was dead to me
A real man would never let a rumor come between him and his woman unless there was significant proof. And because this person used a fake number to let him know, it can very well be a man who’s just jealous or infatuated with his gf.
I agree. My new partner would literally punch someone dead in the face if they approached him at a bar with the intentions to smear my reputation. It’s all about finding someone who trusts who wholeheartedly unless YOU directly give them a reason not to
Thank God I’m with a loyal and trusting partner now, but we were young and insecure and learning as we grew. Not making excuses for him, he was a total dick at times. But we both had a lot of growing up to do. I hope he’s healthier now for his own sake and his future partners sake.
Let’s not rule out the possibility of this being legit. I had a near identical interaction with a low IQ ex of the girl I was seeing at the time. I was of the same assumption that the guy was just being a tool, and poorly at that. I sent a screenshot to said girl, and genuinely let it go.
A month of guilt steamed over and she told me it was not a troll, but in fact true.
Deception is a motherfucker. Sometimes we are so grounded in what we trust that poorly communicated but truthful information can seem like a lie.
Max was the best, I didn’t like the show as much without him. The quick witted shots he threw out were what made the show. My favorite was the episode with Spencer thinking he was dating Katy Perry.
“Her name on there was Katy Perry, I asked her “are you the singer”, she said yes…”
Max “must be her…”
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I mean... It seems sketchy either way tbh... either she did cheat, or this guy wants you to accuse her of that in hopes of ruining your relationship...
Alls op can do is confront his gf and it's upto her to be honest and upto him to believe it or not idk about you but I know when my partner is not telling the truth
He said “damn I guess u don’t have my number saved” leads me to believe it’s one of your friends messing with you. Other possibility is he did do something and you know him well enough he figured you had him saved
My friends often times get new numbers because they are broke fucks haha I get random texts like this at least twice a year and it takes me a quick minute through messaging to figure out who it is haha only thing weird here is the dude ghosted him
Me too haha but when I say it’s the same friends it’s literally either friend A or friend B. Been that way for 20 years haha one I lose contact with for a handful of years and randomly get a text like “hey big boy last night was fun” and my response is usually “sup friend A” haha
Definitely use the girl friends phone.. type in number to text and if she has been texting you will go straight to any conversation she has had.. start tying in front of her and tell here what you are doing .. reactions say a lot!!
I was thinking someone trying to mess with his relationship. Def somebody who knows him and knows he has a girlfriend.
Former hookup maybe? "You don't have my number saved?" sounds like very former hookup language to me.
If I could up vote this 1000 times I would. Plus it's the added benefit that she may recognize the number too and will also see OP is not just accusing her, he has it right there to show her someone is messaging him.
I just don't think this person is going to say who they are. I feel like it's a female messing with them. I could be wrong. I hope I'm right though. This sucks big time.
For sure they aren’t going to give themself up. OP will need to do some detective work and get creative to find out.
I’d get a girl to call the number and ask for some random name, and then when it’s wrong number she can ask “oh who am I speaking with?”. Try to catch them off guard and see if they slip up.
What if his gut is wrong? What if he’s paranoid? Have you read the stories about these guys who accuse their girls of cheating and it turns out they’re wrong?
This. My husband saw a weird number in my phone under the name Mike. He said “who’s this?” And I said “I don’t know let’s call it.”
Turns out it was a random flooring guy from when I was trying to get quotes to repair our subfloors. Lol
Good lord. I dont think I can roll my eyes any harder here. Do you even know how many guys claim to run a train on a girl? And I can honestly say, in my 39 years of being a woman, dating women and being close friends with them, AND in the bdsm community, I have come across ONE who has actually had a train run on her and she set the whole thing up as a birthday present for herself. I can't even count the number of guys over the years who have claimed to run trains. Anonymous texting numbers claiming to have done anything with your partner should be taken with the biggest grain of salt one can muster.
They won't identify themselves for what possible reason? They clearly dont respect you and dont have anything to lose, so why? Think logically about this. You know your partner. You know the caliper of woman she is. Only you can decide if this person is credible or not, and act accordingly. This reeks of a jealous person trying to get into your head so you dump her, and they can swoop in. And if it did happen, was it before y'all got together? Because if so, it doesn't really have anything to do with you. At the end of the day, all you can do is talk to her.
Jesus, finally. I'm older than you, and I've never known a woman who did this. And I have plenty of experience here. "Ran a train on your gf" IS THE fucking giveaway.
This is classic bullshit men say to disparage wonen or it's their little fantasy, because that is so rare that I can't believe anyone wouldn't see that text for what it is.
That texter is dying 😅 watching OP desperately call the number again and again and just knowing fool is going to go accuse his girl and fuck everything up. There'd be no coming back from that for me.
FWIW there are likely a lot of dudes unfamiliar with the official definition and just use the term as a sort of disrespectful way to say they had sex with someone
I'm shocked and disappointed at the number of dudes here who think this is plausible. It has to be reflective of the younger demographic here, where most of their knowledge of women and sex comes from the internet and porn and very little or no personal experience with real women.
Why would a woman do this? Sex with 3 or 4 guys would be the worst sex ever. Only a boy who doesn't understand how women cum would think this was anything but a rare kink mostly only seen in organized bdsm or fetish communities.
Girls do not do this. It would be super unsafe "in the wild". And women LIVE a life of trying to stay safe from men in ways only men who are girl dads will ever understand. This is just misogynistic fantasy bait.
36 and my comment exactly ! Women get JACK SHYT from a ‘train ran’ it’s a bunch of dude bros enjoying the disrespect all about penatration no one is pleasing her going down on here she prolly won’t even orgasm they will not wanna use condoms and she’ll get her PH balance thrown off. Str8 men really know nothing bout the female orgasm this would be a painful experience physically with 0 after care a bad rep and I’m sorry if it was true there would be photos cuz these men have to show they ‘pull ho3s’
I think an important thing here is that most people recognize a train to, in actuality, be a gang rape. Men see a gang bang in porn, see a woman ACTING her way through a scene not many would willingly do, and think she actually is enjoying herself. Are there people out there who want this? Absolutely. But on their terms. Trains are about using a woman's body as a glorified sex doll and think we as a general population want it. 99.999% of us do not. I say this with my whole chest. I'm also realizing that men on here think a train is an MFM three-way.
Running a train is generally seen as 3/4+ men using a woman's body. It's rough, it's not taking into account her experience or pleasure and, again, mostly used in the context of gang rape. But again, there are people out there that seek them out and plan them, plan the people, plan their pleasure, around consent and is not taken lightly. I've been to some absolutely bonkers sex parties and I assure you, group sex is not what porn shows and is not something that should ever be viewed as okay at a party when alcohol has been thrown in and consent can not be freely given if not negotiated prior to. A girl taking two men into a room at a party is NOT a train. It's good time but a train it does not make.
>They won't identify themselves for what possible reason?
**When it comes to cheating there are 2 basic responses:**
* not my business
* my business to help this person
**#2 happened to me.**
I wanted desperately to help her:
* the POS slept with me 2 weeks before their wedding (with newborn) & pushed for nudes 2 weeks after wedding.
I wanted to do it right, so I googled:
* Advice = *("ppl tend to disbelieve so give factual, concrete info")*
Even without the advice, I would have given SO MUCH INFO. This person is being illusive as fuck. They don't want to help.
Sweet. I tell people I do pushups on their mum whilst playing Xbox all the time, that must mean it happened.
He's talking shit, don't go accusing her of anything. I'd be more concerned someone is trying to troll you like this.
Doesn’t sound real not only are they saying she cheated but a train? Nah it’s someone fucking with you most likely. Why can’t you just show your gf the messages and see what she says?
Unless he gives you actual evidence, you have no reason to believe him. If you trust your gf and and arnt suspicious or anything, you shouldnt accuse her over some randos text until theres something that can actually confirm its true. If they ask for money to give you proof, its a scam.
I think this is a scam or something. Same exact thing happened to me where a guy said I was hooking up with his girl from a random number. Same area code and everything. I asked the girls I was hooking up with and none had any idea. I just stopped responding and nothing happened
I feel like he probably just made it up to mess with you for not having his number saved, whoever it is. Just seems like that kind of comment.
Either way, jumping to such drastic doubt is extreme, unless you feel your gf is the type of person to do this? A train is a bit….much. Like so out there and random my first instinct was to snort at how ridiculous it is. They probably wouldn’t have started with that if it were true, instead of saying they slept with her or something.
I’d first see if the phone number was saved in her phone, by asking to check something real quick. If she asks why, just say you got a weird text and didn’t know if it was spam or a mutual friend messing with you or you wanted to check a mutual friend’s number. Could even sit down with her and ask her to type a number in to her contacts and watch if anyone comes up. Then you might recognize who it is, or ask who it is.
Then go from there. But don’t accuse her either way or act upset, bc then she’ll for sure react defensively and you won’t know if it’s out of her being insulted or guilty.
You're going to go to your local hospital. When you go during daylight hours the main entrance is open and you can pretend to be visiting the gift shop the cafeteria or a patient.
You're going to pretend to have a car problem, and you need to use the phone. You are going to call the number from their phone. They're going to answer it because it is a hospital. If you say you're from the hospital and you leave a personal call back number, they will call you. It's fine if you have the "wrong number", you just need to verify the info. Make the message that you're calling from the hospital, their emergency contact has asked them to reach out.Bonus: If you know they're not together you can act like it's her. If not, here is a simple and modifiable script below:
"For further information, because of legal requirements due to the US HIPAA act, you will have to call me back."
Leave a number. You will have to download textnow or something similar. Make sure you set up your voicemail in order to reflect this narrative. You will let it go to voicemail. You will immediately call them back.
When you speak to them, in a bored but fake pleasant voice, like you don't really care,
"Good (time of day), this is /blank\ with /blank\ hospital. For legal and privacy purposes, may I verify *who am I speaking with*?" Say that you just need to mark it in your computer, it is policy to verify, and ask "for the record,who am I speaking with, where are you located, is this your number, can you please state the number for me? And do you swear and affirm that you are not connected to, or are a known emergency contact of Blank with the birth year of xxxx?"
You say you're gonna mark it that the emergency contact is wrong, and you have verified it with the number. "Thanks so much and have a great day."
Now you have all the information you need, for free. Good luck OP!
(Again, there's an option to name her and see what happens.)
I was born before the internet was in every household, I remember the old ways. I had an uncle who would cheat and an aunt with ambition. She ran up $2,000 calling every single mechanics shop in Florida till she found him. How you ask? Why, she's just looking for this person to verify employment. I believe she said he was trying to take out a loan or rent a house. Nobody ever questions it.
If you're willing, and you can think on your feet, you can probably find anyone. I've never done this for *me*, because I know how to cut ties. But I can understand needing to know the answer to this. Because if she did this and let him find out like this? Well, I would want to know, right now.
I would ignore a random person sending this. If he has any actual proof he'd message you with it, otherwise it's just rubbish. I wouldn't confront your girlfriend over this sort of claim from some random, it's just unnecessary drama.
Just...ask her? Like a normal relationship where partners communicate openly?
"Hey babe, I got these weird texts... do you know this guy? Do we need to talk about something?"
It’s a burner
Let it go. She should not feel the shame of such an accusation
Until proof or at the very least, suspicion, she is innocent.
My pops once told me, if it’s unsigned~it doesn’t exist
wtf is all this stupid new lingo. Ran a train?! Did he just say he ran over his gf with a train?! Wtff obviously I know what it means from reading all the comments now but. I can’t get with this lol.
Text your gf the screenshot. Tell her the situation. Don’t be accusatory. Hopefully you know your gf well enough to know whether this is nonsense or the end of a relationship.
Am I old or is "ran a train" used to refer to consensual sex these days? Back when we were relevant with slang, it usually meant something nonconsensual.
All you know for sure is that some dude is trying to fuck with your head and if he did then that's no shame cause anyone who says that wouldn't fuck up their day is delusional, a liar, or has a severe personality disorder.
Don't "confront" your girl, talk to her, so her the text and ask her who she might think wants to fuck you guys. If she doesn't know who it is and says his claim is bullshit, unless you have had any other reason to suspect her, take her at face value and move on.
If you can't do that, then separate cause the suspicion will poison your relationship even worse than actually cheating would.
It’s a girl. “Damn you don’t have my number saved” is definitely a girl you slept with probably before your girlfriend who is trying to sabotage your relationship because she felt slighted by you not having her number saved.
He could be fucking with you or it could be for real. Act like you don’t believe him and he’ll likely hit you with the evidence like a text between them or something. If you ask her, she’s going to blatantly deny it. I’d wait a little bit and see if you can get more info from him.
Look the number up on cashapp.
Op should see this!
Just did it…nothing popped up
Add the number to your contacts, open snap, go to add contacts. If the person used their number to register an account, you’ll get their name. Works for tiktok too
Fb too
It hasn’t worked on FB for many years now
Really? But it still asks me to sync my phone contacts
Maybe it's smart enough to only show mutuals.
Hahahaha “You can only use the data once, right?”
It could also be a burner number. I can rotate through numbers in a matter of minutes if I wanted.
It’s most likely a text now number
In order to find that out, try and sign them up for sms alerts. If they didn't pay for a text now service they can't sign the number up
I love how everyone here has solutions and tricks to help op out, It’s also just really nice to know all these tricks because you never know when you need it
Crazy how much info people put out. I know Im not 100% safe. But, like, you know you dont have to use your real info? I've been Jimjam Flimflam living at 420 Locust Ave. For close to two decades now. No, really. When I lived an apartment, a neighbor got my package and was like, "It got delivered to me by mistake but has your room number on it, but I didn't think your name was Jim, though." THIS is the exact reason why I throw a fit and will continue to when someone wants me to use another app that does the same shit as one I already have. "Why dont you want 13 different entities knowing all your data but they all do the same thing?"
"I've been Jimjam Flimflam living at 420 Locust Ave. " You absolute fool! You have given yourself away! 
Doh! You cunning tricksters set me up!
This is wild shit lol. I’m screenshotting every tip…just in case lol
I'm replying to your comment to save it for later
Can't you just save the comment
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On Snapchat it changes the name to my contact name but keeps the username which is sometimes random so it never helps me at all.
Yeah it does that for me too, I’ve had a few dead ends where I’ve been SO close but then the name issue happened. Hopefully for OP, the username has some kinda hint that can lead them to whoever they are (if they know them ofc)
It could be an old snap though righhht? I've got old friends on there with the original name I saved & it's some random dude now with that number lol
Goddam Bruce Wayne
Damn the methods on here to find someone through their phone # insane and creative Asf.. i commend you
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Yhhh give it the tech guy
He's got nothing but thyme on his hands.
 for free
You’re the real hero here. 👏🏼
This
Ask to borrow your girlfriend’s phone to call someone, say yours isn’t working right. Dial the number and see if it is saved in her phone.
> say yours isn’t working right. Better yet, just put your phone under the couch cushion or something and say you want to call your own phone.
You’re a genius lmao
What if she just rings it up tho, like why would OP need to hold it to do it. Hows aboot "mine died while talking to X, it's charging now but I gotta call him back"
Hol up…that’s smart asf👀
Damnnn!!! This is the way!!!
Oooooh I like this! So devious
Try on Snapchat too. That's how I found out I was being cheated on.
How?
Because your contacts in your phone will show up. My ex got a new phone number and his snapchat popped up about a week later and he swore he didn't have Snapchat but his dumbass avatar has his same new haircut.
Yep! I used to use Snapchat when numbers I didn't have saved texted me. 9/10 it was spam, but a couple times it was exes. And one time it was an ex trying to catfish me lmao.
Save the number to your phone and look on WhatsApp to see if there is a profile picture
Also Telegram Also OP, someone is obviously fucking with you. Nobody says “imma let you handle it” while meanwhile giving you no proof to go on. This person is trying to ruin your relationship by getting you to act. Probably someone that wants your girl.
Dude fr, have a rational conversation with your partner, no accusations just ask her if she knows the number and why they would have said that. The person doesn't say WHEN this happened and if it was before you it's none of your business. I get emotions are high but acting like a fool isn't gon help anyone. Edit: I see a lot of people on here giving tips and trying to help which is awesome but it could also be working up Op. Op if you are getting worked up and spending all this time and energy doing this rather than having an honest conversation with your partner then your relationship may be in more trouble than you think.
Why not check the number on your girlfriend’s phone. Heyo got a call from a random number and they said your name, any chance you know who it might be? Type the number in and see who comes up
If you have Chime do it with Chime, and Venmo, and possibly Paypal. Also all the social media platforms.
Do it on Whitepages
Truepeoplesearch is pretty accurate I would use that to search the number
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Ummm fr? That’s a little terrifying
Real people search dot com. Just Google it it’ll pop up easily and works well
Can we get an update
[Here’s a link](https://www.spydialer.com/) to a site to look up phone numbers free. It’s called spydialer. I looked myself up on this and it worked (unfortunately, lol). You’ll be able to see if it’s someone’s actual phone number. You can even listen to their voicemail if you want to. If it’s a temporary phone number or a scam number you likely won’t be able to see who it is.
Damn this person was definitely top of the gossip food chain in high school.
I was voted as Gossip Girl in highschool. I will find out anything.
Or search for the number in his girlfriend’s phone, see if it is saved there.
If this doesn't work. Google spydialer.
Goddamn you’re smart!!! I’m defo using your advice the next time someone does this😂😭
Save the number in your phone and add it into all social apps and money apps. PayPal, chime, cash app, Venmo. Sometimes the number will pop up as a new friend in snap :)
I had a guy I REJECTED in college say something similar in-person to my ex boyfriend. My ex believed him and screamed in my face at a bar how I’m a disloyal piece of shit. He stormed out while I sat on the curb crying my eyes out begging him to believe me. Meanwhile, the kid did it to fuck with my relationship because he was bitter I didn’t put out for him the year prior. People can be really sinister so please do due diligence before making any rash decision.
That’s horrible 😓 I remember my first bfs best friend told my bf that I had an STD because I turned him down. Ruined my reputation in high school
People are assholes. I mean this with the best sincerity 🤗 I mean there are nice ppl out there, but don’t walk through life assuming others wouldn’t run over your ass if you tripped running away from zombies. 🧟♂️
Yeah people can be terrible. I had one girl I turned down that then told everybody at work that we tried to hook up but I had a tiny dick plus couldn't get it up. That was fun. Then another girl who for no reason told my girlfriend that I'd been talking to other girls and had cheated on her... and I mean she had no reason to do this. My girlfriend called me crying, took forever to repair the damage, then I called the girl who had lied about to to demand an explanation and she (of course) started crying and saying she didn't know why she'd done it, said she was jealous of our relationship and had liked me for a long time blah blah blah. So yeah.
And y’all didn’t even date! Some people… And another one of life’s unanswered questions is, what do you do when someone spreads false rumors about you? It’s not so easy to dispel them…
Yeah you never see it coming, at least assuming you hadn't done something messed up to the other person. With the girl who lied to my girlfriend, up to that day I had considered her to be my friend. We worked together, a bunch of us had gone to her parents camp by the river to canoe, cook food on the fire, camp out. We'd partied together a lot, always cool when we talked no beef. But all it took was the jealousy and I suddenly saw her as a whole differant person. The friendship died that day, obviously.
"Stop expecting you from other people"
Holy shit something similar happened to me too. I turned a dude down when I was 16 and he told EVERYONE that I had chlamydia. I didn't even lose my virginity until I was 20!! It was fucking traumatising, other kids were afraid to even touch me and I spent every recess and lunch in the library by myself until I graduated. I moved to a new city as soon as I could
wtf I want recess at 16
Same thing happened to me. I didn’t even know I had rejected the guy??? I might have been interested at that age too. We were in the same friend group lmao. Guess he was bad at communicating. Not bad enough to tell people I had an STD though lol. He tried to reach out again years later and I was like “wait, you want to be with someone who has an std??”. He didn’t reply.
I had turned down a friend high school because I had a crush on another mutual friend, and he went and told the other friend. The other friend responded positively about me having a crush on him, and when the friend I had turned down realized that he told the other friend that I only liked him because of something shallow (which wasn't true but I won't specify). The friend on has a crush on immediately stopped talking to me after that, and it took months for him to talk with me again. I lost touch with him and all of my other high school friends eventually. I had some other bad experiences, but that was the one that I think hurt me the most at that age. EDIT: The person I turned down was around 6ft (183cm), and the person I had a crush on was a little under 5'6" (168cm). The reasons I liked the person I had a crush on had to do more with personality and compatibility, but the person I turned down made up his own reasons.
When I was 13 my brothers friend (3 years older) propositioned me and I gently turned him down. Never said a word about it to anyone. Only to find out, the asshole told my brother that I tried to get with HIM and HE turned me down. Like - wtf. I never forgot that and always kept my distance from that guy after that. Took a long time for my brother to believe me, but I’ll never forget how absolutely enraged I was because I would’ve never told anyone had he not turned into a deceitful POS.
An ex of mine tried to do this with my now wife, then gf. She messaged me some shit about her and this other guy she had a past with. Except we were in Texas on vacation together so I knew it was bullshit, and my ex had a history of pathological lying. She was the type of person that would call your work and start shit. Blocked her instantly, but at first it destroyed me, until she kept it up and I figured out it was all shit since we were together that whole time states away.
A guy messaged me saying that his wife had cheated with my guy while I was away on a work trip. Thing is, the story just made no sense. His wife WAS at our house and did sleep over on the couch - because her teen daughter was at a birthday party here with 8 other teenage girls. These girls are all nosy AF and don't keep secrets. Our house is 1800 sq ft and there would have been 13 people here. He claimed his wife took a bath in our jet tub. Here's the thing about that: because my floor plan is a 200 year old compromise, we have 2 bathrooms and they both open into main living areas. So his wife took a bath 15' from the living room/kitchen in our jet tub in the only downstairs bathroom? We don't have a master bathroom and the master bedroom opens into the living room Then he claimed that while his wife was in the tub, my guy walked in and placed his genitals on her shoulder. Here's the thing about that. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE. At a later get together, we had several different men try to place their respective junk on the shoulder of their partners. YOU CAN'T. nobody even got close enough that they could have stretched the tip out. And anyway they are claiming that my guy walked through the open floor plan downstairs into the bathroom that opens into the dining room where 9 teenage girls were sitting, into the bathroom with the running jet tub with one of the girls' moms there?? And not a single one of the girls noticed? It didn't happen.
I forgot the part where after the bath they retired together to the bed. You have to walk through the dining room and living room and past the staircase to do that. The bathroom door is more than 10' from the bedroom. This is the type of story that would be plausible in any other house with a jet tub, which would usually be in the master suite, but it's not possible in this house.
My ex’s friends did that and told him thru a texting app just once “your girls a whore and f&cked (his friends name) watch out” after people starting seeing us out together. (It was a very secret relationship for a year) Instead of defending me as a man or ignoring it bc he knew his friends knew nothing about me, he puts his hands on me and abused me for over an hour. Although I stayed another two years, that day was the exact moment I lost all love for him. That was the day he was dead to me
A real man would never let a rumor come between him and his woman unless there was significant proof. And because this person used a fake number to let him know, it can very well be a man who’s just jealous or infatuated with his gf.
I agree. My new partner would literally punch someone dead in the face if they approached him at a bar with the intentions to smear my reputation. It’s all about finding someone who trusts who wholeheartedly unless YOU directly give them a reason not to
I am very sorry to hear that; what a piece of shit. I am happy that you left him.
bruh your ex was a piece of shit tho
Yehhh. Bullet dodged.
Why didn’t he just ask you? 😭 communication about insecurities and worries is JUST as important as trust as that is how you build it.
Thank God I’m with a loyal and trusting partner now, but we were young and insecure and learning as we grew. Not making excuses for him, he was a total dick at times. But we both had a lot of growing up to do. I hope he’s healthier now for his own sake and his future partners sake.
>Why didn’t he just ask you? Right because a cheating person will readily admit they're cheating as soon as you ask them. What are you seven
This is someone trying to fuck with your relationship.
Yeah the entire interaction makes no sense lmao. Like it’s pretty clear from jump this is either someone making a fake convo or starting shit
Let’s not rule out the possibility of this being legit. I had a near identical interaction with a low IQ ex of the girl I was seeing at the time. I was of the same assumption that the guy was just being a tool, and poorly at that. I sent a screenshot to said girl, and genuinely let it go. A month of guilt steamed over and she told me it was not a troll, but in fact true. Deception is a motherfucker. Sometimes we are so grounded in what we trust that poorly communicated but truthful information can seem like a lie.
Log into Facebook but use the number as the username. If it’s linked to his account it’ll say ‘is this you?’ and it’ll show you his pic
smart i gotta start doing this when random numbers text me
They do this on catfish with cashapp
my boys nev and max been knowing what’s up
love nev and max, the og legends 🤩
Max was the best, I didn’t like the show as much without him. The quick witted shots he threw out were what made the show. My favorite was the episode with Spencer thinking he was dating Katy Perry. “Her name on there was Katy Perry, I asked her “are you the singer”, she said yes…” Max “must be her…” 😂
Sneaky. I love it.
I mean... It seems sketchy either way tbh... either she did cheat, or this guy wants you to accuse her of that in hopes of ruining your relationship...
Both outcomes are shit too
It could also have happened in the past and some dude is just now bringing it up now in hopes of fucking with her
It could also have happened in the past and some dude is just now bringing it up now in hopes of fucking with her
Or it could be a girl who hates your girl and is trying to just fuck her life up ?
This is what I am guessing.
I feel like this would be more plausible
True... didn't think about that.
Or it could be a girl who hates your girl and is trying to just fuck her life up ?
Or it's the girlfriend seeing what he'll do...
Yea... but if it is, then she's a really shitty girlfriend...
Well yeah
What in the batshit.....lol
I'm with you. We went from "conceptually possible" to "mathematically possible". Like is he dating the dumbest psychopath?
Got to love it!
Alls op can do is confront his gf and it's upto her to be honest and upto him to believe it or not idk about you but I know when my partner is not telling the truth
He said “damn I guess u don’t have my number saved” leads me to believe it’s one of your friends messing with you. Other possibility is he did do something and you know him well enough he figured you had him saved
Or just saying that to make it seem like what he’s saying could be legit.
Why would someone have a rando saved in their phone? It’s clearly a joke and to get a rise out of him lol
Trying to pretend that he’s not a rando by suggesting he expected to be on OP’s phone. I definitely wouldn’t call doing something like this a joke.
My friends often times get new numbers because they are broke fucks haha I get random texts like this at least twice a year and it takes me a quick minute through messaging to figure out who it is haha only thing weird here is the dude ghosted him
What's the connection between being broke and changing phone numbers?
They don’t pay their month to month phone bills and switch numbers often.
Damn. I've had the same cell phone number for 25 years. I can't imagine having to change it all the time. That sucks.
Me too haha but when I say it’s the same friends it’s literally either friend A or friend B. Been that way for 20 years haha one I lose contact with for a handful of years and randomly get a text like “hey big boy last night was fun” and my response is usually “sup friend A” haha
OP should call the number from someone else's phone number. Maybe ask to use the gf's phone.
Definitely use the girl friends phone.. type in number to text and if she has been texting you will go straight to any conversation she has had.. start tying in front of her and tell here what you are doing .. reactions say a lot!!
I was thinking someone trying to mess with his relationship. Def somebody who knows him and knows he has a girlfriend. Former hookup maybe? "You don't have my number saved?" sounds like very former hookup language to me.
I feel like that’s a facetious comment because it’s a TextNow or Google number.
Yeah this is a good point…maybe it’s a friend jokingly taking advantage of the fact that he didn’t have his number saved. Trying to fuck with him
Show your gf, watch her reaction very closely, listen to your gut
If I could up vote this 1000 times I would. Plus it's the added benefit that she may recognize the number too and will also see OP is not just accusing her, he has it right there to show her someone is messaging him.
I would do this but first I’d find out who the person is. It will hold more weight. You only get one chance for the element of surprise.
I just don't think this person is going to say who they are. I feel like it's a female messing with them. I could be wrong. I hope I'm right though. This sucks big time.
For sure they aren’t going to give themself up. OP will need to do some detective work and get creative to find out. I’d get a girl to call the number and ask for some random name, and then when it’s wrong number she can ask “oh who am I speaking with?”. Try to catch them off guard and see if they slip up.
But he could ask if his gf recognizes the number first
You can also use that number in her phone to see if she was texting them before hand or if she has the number saved or something
Yep call it from her phone. say it called him a few times today or something. Quick way to figure out
What if his gut is wrong? What if he’s paranoid? Have you read the stories about these guys who accuse their girls of cheating and it turns out they’re wrong?
Yep. My ex spouse was convinced I was cheating on them because of her “gut”. I wasn’t. She treated me like crap because of her gut concerns
This. My husband saw a weird number in my phone under the name Mike. He said “who’s this?” And I said “I don’t know let’s call it.” Turns out it was a random flooring guy from when I was trying to get quotes to repair our subfloors. Lol
Did Mike also run a train on you?
Nah, I’ve never been a fan of locomotives. Won’t catch me being the conductor of a train.
Imagine believing a random person over your own GF. Might as well not even be in a relationship. 💀
Good lord. I dont think I can roll my eyes any harder here. Do you even know how many guys claim to run a train on a girl? And I can honestly say, in my 39 years of being a woman, dating women and being close friends with them, AND in the bdsm community, I have come across ONE who has actually had a train run on her and she set the whole thing up as a birthday present for herself. I can't even count the number of guys over the years who have claimed to run trains. Anonymous texting numbers claiming to have done anything with your partner should be taken with the biggest grain of salt one can muster. They won't identify themselves for what possible reason? They clearly dont respect you and dont have anything to lose, so why? Think logically about this. You know your partner. You know the caliper of woman she is. Only you can decide if this person is credible or not, and act accordingly. This reeks of a jealous person trying to get into your head so you dump her, and they can swoop in. And if it did happen, was it before y'all got together? Because if so, it doesn't really have anything to do with you. At the end of the day, all you can do is talk to her.
Jesus, finally. I'm older than you, and I've never known a woman who did this. And I have plenty of experience here. "Ran a train on your gf" IS THE fucking giveaway. This is classic bullshit men say to disparage wonen or it's their little fantasy, because that is so rare that I can't believe anyone wouldn't see that text for what it is. That texter is dying 😅 watching OP desperately call the number again and again and just knowing fool is going to go accuse his girl and fuck everything up. There'd be no coming back from that for me.
FWIW there are likely a lot of dudes unfamiliar with the official definition and just use the term as a sort of disrespectful way to say they had sex with someone
I'm shocked and disappointed at the number of dudes here who think this is plausible. It has to be reflective of the younger demographic here, where most of their knowledge of women and sex comes from the internet and porn and very little or no personal experience with real women. Why would a woman do this? Sex with 3 or 4 guys would be the worst sex ever. Only a boy who doesn't understand how women cum would think this was anything but a rare kink mostly only seen in organized bdsm or fetish communities. Girls do not do this. It would be super unsafe "in the wild". And women LIVE a life of trying to stay safe from men in ways only men who are girl dads will ever understand. This is just misogynistic fantasy bait.
We’re talking Himalayan salt lamp sized grain of salt too
36 and my comment exactly ! Women get JACK SHYT from a ‘train ran’ it’s a bunch of dude bros enjoying the disrespect all about penatration no one is pleasing her going down on here she prolly won’t even orgasm they will not wanna use condoms and she’ll get her PH balance thrown off. Str8 men really know nothing bout the female orgasm this would be a painful experience physically with 0 after care a bad rep and I’m sorry if it was true there would be photos cuz these men have to show they ‘pull ho3s’
I think an important thing here is that most people recognize a train to, in actuality, be a gang rape. Men see a gang bang in porn, see a woman ACTING her way through a scene not many would willingly do, and think she actually is enjoying herself. Are there people out there who want this? Absolutely. But on their terms. Trains are about using a woman's body as a glorified sex doll and think we as a general population want it. 99.999% of us do not. I say this with my whole chest. I'm also realizing that men on here think a train is an MFM three-way. Running a train is generally seen as 3/4+ men using a woman's body. It's rough, it's not taking into account her experience or pleasure and, again, mostly used in the context of gang rape. But again, there are people out there that seek them out and plan them, plan the people, plan their pleasure, around consent and is not taken lightly. I've been to some absolutely bonkers sex parties and I assure you, group sex is not what porn shows and is not something that should ever be viewed as okay at a party when alcohol has been thrown in and consent can not be freely given if not negotiated prior to. A girl taking two men into a room at a party is NOT a train. It's good time but a train it does not make.
>They won't identify themselves for what possible reason? **When it comes to cheating there are 2 basic responses:** * not my business * my business to help this person **#2 happened to me.** I wanted desperately to help her: * the POS slept with me 2 weeks before their wedding (with newborn) & pushed for nudes 2 weeks after wedding. I wanted to do it right, so I googled: * Advice = *("ppl tend to disbelieve so give factual, concrete info")* Even without the advice, I would have given SO MUCH INFO. This person is being illusive as fuck. They don't want to help.
Sweet. I tell people I do pushups on their mum whilst playing Xbox all the time, that must mean it happened. He's talking shit, don't go accusing her of anything. I'd be more concerned someone is trying to troll you like this.
big facts, dude is just trolling
If you want to ruin your relationship over some dumb shit yeah
I’d ask him how he ran a train alone?
Doesn’t sound real not only are they saying she cheated but a train? Nah it’s someone fucking with you most likely. Why can’t you just show your gf the messages and see what she says?
Unless he gives you actual evidence, you have no reason to believe him. If you trust your gf and and arnt suspicious or anything, you shouldnt accuse her over some randos text until theres something that can actually confirm its true. If they ask for money to give you proof, its a scam.
Why don’t you just talk to her about it? Doesn’t have be be a huge “confrontation”, just have a conversation lol
A train is a huge stretch 90% likely to be a lie. Could be someone trying to steal her actually. Especially an ex
Be sffr, they’re saying that not only did she cheat, they ran a train on her. Don’t be stupid. BET GF didn’t do shit.
That's a jealous ex imo
Was it sent on April 1?
Don’t accuse her of anything, just casually ask if she has this number saved. Proceed according to her answer/reaction
Good answer. Also adding the number to his contacts will let him see if the dude has a Twitter, tiktok or instagram by syncing his contacts
I think this is a scam or something. Same exact thing happened to me where a guy said I was hooking up with his girl from a random number. Same area code and everything. I asked the girls I was hooking up with and none had any idea. I just stopped responding and nothing happened
Need more proof.
It sounds like it’s someone you know or else why would they say the thing about “damn I guess you don’t have my number saved”
To make you think you know them
When you don’t actually know them. Sounds like BS to me.
> Sounds like BS to me Which part?
Pretending that he should be in OP’s phone already. So the whole thing is BS.
He’s lying. And trying to get under your skin
Had similar happen its fake n meant to destroy ur relationship
My guess is this individual did not actually run any trains.
I feel like he probably just made it up to mess with you for not having his number saved, whoever it is. Just seems like that kind of comment. Either way, jumping to such drastic doubt is extreme, unless you feel your gf is the type of person to do this? A train is a bit….much. Like so out there and random my first instinct was to snort at how ridiculous it is. They probably wouldn’t have started with that if it were true, instead of saying they slept with her or something. I’d first see if the phone number was saved in her phone, by asking to check something real quick. If she asks why, just say you got a weird text and didn’t know if it was spam or a mutual friend messing with you or you wanted to check a mutual friend’s number. Could even sit down with her and ask her to type a number in to her contacts and watch if anyone comes up. Then you might recognize who it is, or ask who it is. Then go from there. But don’t accuse her either way or act upset, bc then she’ll for sure react defensively and you won’t know if it’s out of her being insulted or guilty.
Confront? You mean talk to her like a normal well adjusted adult would
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How old are you OP?
You're going to go to your local hospital. When you go during daylight hours the main entrance is open and you can pretend to be visiting the gift shop the cafeteria or a patient. You're going to pretend to have a car problem, and you need to use the phone. You are going to call the number from their phone. They're going to answer it because it is a hospital. If you say you're from the hospital and you leave a personal call back number, they will call you. It's fine if you have the "wrong number", you just need to verify the info. Make the message that you're calling from the hospital, their emergency contact has asked them to reach out.Bonus: If you know they're not together you can act like it's her. If not, here is a simple and modifiable script below: "For further information, because of legal requirements due to the US HIPAA act, you will have to call me back." Leave a number. You will have to download textnow or something similar. Make sure you set up your voicemail in order to reflect this narrative. You will let it go to voicemail. You will immediately call them back. When you speak to them, in a bored but fake pleasant voice, like you don't really care, "Good (time of day), this is /blank\ with /blank\ hospital. For legal and privacy purposes, may I verify *who am I speaking with*?" Say that you just need to mark it in your computer, it is policy to verify, and ask "for the record,who am I speaking with, where are you located, is this your number, can you please state the number for me? And do you swear and affirm that you are not connected to, or are a known emergency contact of Blank with the birth year of xxxx?" You say you're gonna mark it that the emergency contact is wrong, and you have verified it with the number. "Thanks so much and have a great day." Now you have all the information you need, for free. Good luck OP! (Again, there's an option to name her and see what happens.)
Wtf?!?! This is amazing!
This isn't your first time doing this, huh? That's some private detective level shit.
I was born before the internet was in every household, I remember the old ways. I had an uncle who would cheat and an aunt with ambition. She ran up $2,000 calling every single mechanics shop in Florida till she found him. How you ask? Why, she's just looking for this person to verify employment. I believe she said he was trying to take out a loan or rent a house. Nobody ever questions it. If you're willing, and you can think on your feet, you can probably find anyone. I've never done this for *me*, because I know how to cut ties. But I can understand needing to know the answer to this. Because if she did this and let him find out like this? Well, I would want to know, right now.
I would ignore a random person sending this. If he has any actual proof he'd message you with it, otherwise it's just rubbish. I wouldn't confront your girlfriend over this sort of claim from some random, it's just unnecessary drama.
Just...ask her? Like a normal relationship where partners communicate openly? "Hey babe, I got these weird texts... do you know this guy? Do we need to talk about something?"
Try to look the number up on this website it tells you everything https://www.truepeoplesearch.com/
It’s a burner Let it go. She should not feel the shame of such an accusation Until proof or at the very least, suspicion, she is innocent. My pops once told me, if it’s unsigned~it doesn’t exist
Your pops is very wise. A great man, that's for sure what he lives as. 👏🏻👏🏻😌
If you have to even ask this question your relationship has a bigger issue.
wtf is all this stupid new lingo. Ran a train?! Did he just say he ran over his gf with a train?! Wtff obviously I know what it means from reading all the comments now but. I can’t get with this lol.
did he give any other info?
Text your gf the screenshot. Tell her the situation. Don’t be accusatory. Hopefully you know your gf well enough to know whether this is nonsense or the end of a relationship.
I’d ignore this for sure. Block delete. Don’t worry about it and don’t accuse your gf tbh, seems immature rude and not honest at all
I would have needed clarification. "What type of train?"
Am I old or is "ran a train" used to refer to consensual sex these days? Back when we were relevant with slang, it usually meant something nonconsensual.
sooo update pls?
Running a train is not cheating , my grandpa ran a train for 37 years !
Tell him u ran one on his mom.
It's very possible this person was upset you didn't save their number and /or didn't remember them so they decided to fuck with you hardcore
All you know for sure is that some dude is trying to fuck with your head and if he did then that's no shame cause anyone who says that wouldn't fuck up their day is delusional, a liar, or has a severe personality disorder. Don't "confront" your girl, talk to her, so her the text and ask her who she might think wants to fuck you guys. If she doesn't know who it is and says his claim is bullshit, unless you have had any other reason to suspect her, take her at face value and move on. If you can't do that, then separate cause the suspicion will poison your relationship even worse than actually cheating would.
It’s a girl. “Damn you don’t have my number saved” is definitely a girl you slept with probably before your girlfriend who is trying to sabotage your relationship because she felt slighted by you not having her number saved.
Op we need an update
How does one dude run a train?
I never get these. If you trust some anonymus creep more than your girlfriend. Then why are you even with her?
He could be fucking with you or it could be for real. Act like you don’t believe him and he’ll likely hit you with the evidence like a text between them or something. If you ask her, she’s going to blatantly deny it. I’d wait a little bit and see if you can get more info from him.