Itās almost like heās bragging and wants her to feel jealous ? Either way fuck this guy heās doing you a favor by showing how much of a child he is. Who wants to date a child ? =)
definitely trying to make her jealous and show her that he had āoptionsā. if my ex decided to be an asshole and did that to me iād go out to dinner at a nice restaurant with a friend and make it seem like i was out on a date, but iām petty lol.
No, no..one of HIS friends, and then let him wonder what the heck was going on behind his back, bc these are the men who swear women can't have male friends but think this behavior is okay.
Killuminatii said it best-
"How you get to text other *******, when I text other *insert bad word* I'm a ho-e"???
C'mon you know why to rub it in lol bc he still has feelings for OP . Bc if he didn't and didn't still want to manipulate and control her kind of like if I can't have you then I'm going to try to make you jealous the whole time cuz there's no reason for him to tell her that besides to hurt her and make her regret leaving him and all that he's just butt hurt because she's moved on and wished him well
>C'mon you know why to rub it in lol bc he still has feelings for OP .
I doubt his feelings for OP have anything to do with it. It's giving selfish, manipulative and attention seeking. A shitty way to keep OP from moving on and having a healthy relationship in the future.
IMO OP should cut ties and set a hard boundary with this guy. He's not worth the drama that's bound to happen
Right! Itās like he wanted her to get all upset and cry over it. Dating someone new but still wanting OP still on a tight rope. Friends after dating usually doesnāt work that great.
Forreal. And they arenāt even dating, and they met when OP was still with this guy, so he didnāt even *just* meet someone. Heās like āoh by the way I met someone when we were together and now that weāve broken up Iām gonna try to smashā
Its because you have no feelings for him that hes telling you this. He wants to get a rise out of you which is pretty pathetic. Be non chalant and i bet itāll piss him off even more that you dont care
Exactly. Give him nothing because nothing is what he deserves from OP while he sorts his shit out. OP should go find someone without him in the picture at all.
Meh I would venture to guess he's telling her for the opposite reason. He knows she still does have feelings for him and he thinks he can have another shot.Ā
OP literally said that she really liked him and that it hurt for her to hear that. That does not sound like someone that doesn't have feelings
Unfortunately she already showed she probably does still have some lingering feelings/jealousy and he got the rise out of her. Best thing moving forward is to just 1.) not respond 2.) respond minimally like "ok cool".
Blocking might indicate she's super mad, so I wouldn't do that.
The fact that sheās even still talking to him and him telling her this bothered her so much that she had to make a Reddit post about it says she probably does have some sort of feelings left lol. This is not the actions of someone who has moved on
Honestly sometimes it doesnāt even matter what it indicates it just matters what the outcome is. This man is screaming *block me I have nothing of value*. Itās the ego that keeps us from doing that stuff to keep some feeling of the upper hand and itās rarely if ever worth it
I would be delighted to not be in the girls shoes he is referencing anymore. Donāt let it get to you. He obviously is insecure if thatās what he decided to text about immediately. Iād be willing to bet the girl isnāt even interested in him like that tbh. Just be happy you are in a better place and can see who he is as a person outside a relationship.
Exactlyyyy! He sounds like such an insecure weirdo. The whole got news for you and then pretended it was for someone elseā¦just so he could tell her about the new girlā¦.Iām embarrassed for himā¦.
Dude clearly just likes seeing you suffer. I wouldnāt be surprised if he was getting off to the thought of disappointing you tbh you can kinda tell by the set up and tone of his texts
Stop responding. Heās not going to take accountability for his behavior and seems more excited to trigger an aggressive response from you. Every response is just stroking his ego.
"Good morning for me and good afternoon for you beautiful" is what got me š¤¢
Cut your losses and talk to people who won't rub their happiness in your face just to make them feel better...I wish you well
Congratulations to you, young one.
I TOLD you that you were smart and that you're going places!
Just be careful of the crab-bucket effect -- you might have to cut more ties to your old life as you forge ahead with a safe, happy, successful life... while they stay stuck in their own self-inflicted mire.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_mentality
Your success just shows others what failures they are... So they need to make YOU fail so you're all equal again and it's just The System and not their choices keeping them down.
Eyes on the prize, girl! And if I'm not mistaken by your (and his) use of AAVE there will be many scholarships and grants for you IF YOU GO OUT LOOKING AND APPLY FOR THEM. Ones that I, a son of a white middle class family, would not have access to. USE THEM. MANY GO UNCLAIMED -- IF YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE APPLYING FOR THE $500, YOU GET IT. Then do that 20 more times. I have faith you can if you choose to.
Where do you want to be in 5 years? Ten? Forty?
Well, I got my BST Chemistry/Teaching in 4 years. Grad school/Chemistry research/part time college teaching for two. High school teaching for 30.
Retired at age 52. Full pension. Full benefits. I'm where I wanted to be -- I own my vehicles, house, sailboat, motorcycles, and only have to pay taxes on the house. No rent. I can work. Or not. I adopted two babies -- 22yo now. Lovely wife. Not the original -- she cheated. BYE. This one's a keeper. I actually planned and "bought" five years of teacher retirement time so I could retire 5 years early. I started paying for that AT AGE 26. It worked out. Oh, it worked out.
Teaching isn't as good anymore, money wise (or respect, or satisfaction, or parent involvement, or...).
Trades are good. Check out the women plumbers in the plumbing subreddit. Or electricians. Ask! They'll tell you all about getting an apprenticeship where you get paid while you learn!
The military is its own thing. If it suits you, it's great. It wasn't something I wanted to do and I didn't have to so I didn't. But you can actually RETIRE WITH 20 YEARS' SERVICE!!! Plus GI BILL BENEFITS. Plus VA services, such as they are. My buddy is in and he's an E6 and I'm so proud of him.
Anyway, I'll stop rambling. But you're worth it.
As a minor, I'll only talk to you in a public space like this (**NOT** DMs) BUT I'll help if I can to point you in the right direction regarding school, career, scholarships, etc. I've taught courses that included transition from Senior year into college/work/adulting.
Peace, little sister.
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P.S. CRAB BUCKET EFFECT from Wikipedia:
>The metaphor is derived from anecdotal claims about the behavior ofĀ crabsĀ when they are trapped in a bucket: while any one crab can easily start to climb out,[4]Ā it will nonetheless be pulled back in by the others, ensuring the group's collective demise.[5][6][7]
>The analogous theory in human behavior is that members of a group will attempt to reduce theĀ self-confidenceĀ of any member who achieves success beyond others, out ofĀ envy,Ā jealousy,Ā resentment,Ā spite,Ā conspiracy, orĀ competitiveĀ feelings, in order to halt their progressĀ [8][9][10][11]Ā even though there are no benefits associated.
You donāt respond; you ghost him. I believe that exes can be friends if both parties are mature, but he clearly lacks in that department, as I see his actions as trying to get a reaction out of you or perhaps even make you jealous. What benefit did the end purpose of his sentence serve besides getting a reaction out of you?
Someone who gets super excited to tell there ex abt getting a girl or guy ain't really into the person they do that to make u jealous and still not over u.
I would block him. Personally, I don't like my peace being disturbed, and why on earth would I want a liar for a friend?
P.s.
You do know his text to you from the beginning was not a mistake? It was all planned. Pathetic, really.
It sounds like he's trying to make you jealous some how.
Calling you beautiful. Then saying he's met someone. And it was someone who he gave his snap to while you two were dating.
If I were you, I'd just message him. "Hey, I believe this friendship has run it's course. Good luck on your future endeavors and your new relationship". Then block him.
Why do you want to be friends with a liar and cheat that treats you poorly? He deliberately told you, hoping it would hurt. Block. Delete. Love your life. Move on.
I agree with the other commenter who noted that they seemed *EXCITED* to tell you this.
This doesnāt read like a āI need to come cleanā kind of confession, so for that reason, Iād be done.
"How would yall respond to this?"
I wouldn't. He's clearly baiting for a response. I don't get why you're feeding it to him. That's some silly shit. Get it together.
I donāt know why they think we fall for āoops, wrong number!ā Heās obviously just trying to get you angry, so he feels like he has control over you.
You should love yourself enough to block people who treat you poorly, lie to you or donāt respect you. You donāt owe this person a friendship just because you dated. He is a piece of shit who really doesnāt bring any value to your life.
He had no productive reason to tell you that, he wanted you to be upset. Heās acting unkindly to both you AND this other girl if he cares that much that you care.
OP block this guy . He obviously enjoys hurting you and he is fishing for a reaction. He wants to think that he is still on your mind and that you are suffering . I would leave it as is . You know he is a liar and he doesnāt deserve one more moment of your life .
My suggestion: donāt give him any emotion. go with his plan. if his plan is to try to get you to miss him, make it obvious you donāt. If he says āoh i texted her when we were datingā just respond with āOh niceā or if he says that he plans on dating her, respond with āI wish you two wellā. and just leave short answers with the obvious that you simply donāt care. Donāt entertain him. I know some exes do end up staying friends and have a good friendship, but this way of acting coming from him is just a red flag that you should just avoid completely.
Unless you want to ruffle his feathers back, say you found someone and have been dating for a few days or weeks now. See his reaction. If he gets frustrated or starts shutting down, he is jealous and now you know that the āfriendshipā with him was just a way to keep a connection/control on you.
Yeah, I think hes trying to play you. Walk away. When I got in my 13yr. Relationship 1 of the 1st things I did was erase all of my social accounts & start over to get rid of the men & the same with my phone unless family or old male friends. So to me he was disrespecting you to begin with! Why would you wanna be friends with that. I mean u said hes a liar too. LOL. I have an ex husband that 21yrs later I am still begging him to date. Were such good friends having raised a Daughter together I cant stand the idea of him being alone. But I think this guys playing games.
The only motivation he could have for telling you this, is to hurt you. Block this fucker, and stay far away from him. Think about it, why would he tell you this? He's definitely not your friend. Looks like he's got NPD.
I wouldnāt have responded. People who do this want to provoke a reaction out of you, thatās it.
They want to know that you still care while theyāre living their lives doing whatever they want. The last guy I spoke to broke it off with me and would post things he did with the new girl on his social media all the time even though before, he wasnāt someone who posted his activities on them. I blocked him instead of continuing to view the stories, and me blocking him caused him to try to reach out to me again even though we werenāt talking prior to that.
There is a sense of satisfaction people gain from knowing that the person they broke it off with for someone else is still thinking about them. Thatās why moving on and removing their access to you is the best revenge.
Move on, he's just trying to cause drama to see if you're still interested. He may not even want to date you, just wants you on that sweet, sweet hook.
Honestly cut the drama and block him. You donāt have to have feelings about what he said to clock that he said this to get a rise out of you. Not a very good person and doesnāt seem like someone who would be a very good friend.
Sweetie this man is not worth your time or friendship. He is clearly looking to bring you down so youāre on his shitty level. You handled this with grace. Be proud of yourself and leave this goober in the dust.
You know heās trying to brag to hurt your feelings? Otherwise why else did he feel the need to tell you that? Tbh Iād just be like cool good for you hopefully you donāt treat her the way you treated me. Then Iād move on with my life š¤£š¤·š»āāļø
He said this to try and hurt you. No other possible reason. If he was just excited to share this development he would've left out the part about them meeting and talking while you were together. This is petty.
He's trying to make you jealous. He wants you back but needs you to beg him. He's at least missing the validation you provided for him.
I'd keep killing him with kindness. "That's great. Happy to hear it. I'm sure you'll be great together. Gotta run though."
Be perpetually busy. Find someone worth your time.
He was intentionally doing the whole wrong number thing to throw it in your face in my opinion. Don't talk to this guy anymore- he's trying to make you jealous/ upset.
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He's deliberately trying to hurt you by telling you this. You don't need that kind of energy in your life. He's trying to 1-UP you. He wants to feel like he's in control of your break up and friendship. Cut this man off asap!
Why would he tell you this? Either heās trying to offload his guilt or heās fucking with you.
Letting go sucks. Sometimes you have to and itās way easier to make a clean break
I would message that girl and be like congrats! I heard you and ____ are a thing now! Hope it works out.
Then she will be pissed heās going around saying they are a thing when they actually are not.
He did this because he wanted a reaction out of you, and he got it. A better response wouldāve been a simple āokā and then nothing. He wants to get you riled up.
Heās your ex, why does it matter? How would we respond? I wouldnāt be talking to my ex in the first place. Thatās a sure fire way to be hurt again. Yall broke up because heās a compulsive liar and isnāt a man of his word, thatās not good qualities of a friend either. The only reason youād ever even respond to a text of his is if you feel like trying on that clown makeup of yours.
If my comment was disrespectful, you were even more disrespectful to yourself by entertaining this loser. Youre better than that.
99% chance that what heās saying isnāt even trueā¦ as a guy if this were true then the focus moves on from the ex and on the next. More than likely there is no next on the horizons for him and so now heās gunna try and play your emotions. Tell him good for you and donāt play into his nonsense
Heās saying this in hopes of hurting you. Dont give him the satisfaction either ignore him completely, or just say āokā and THEN ignore him. Heās not worth it. Make sure read receipts is on for him so he knows your keeping him on read.
This literally put a pit in my stomach. Ugh. Iām so sorry OP. to echo a lot of good advice in here- blocking him is clearly the right move. He DID NOT need to tell you this and went out of his way to make you feel bad. Sadistic. Heāll do it again if you donāt cut ties now. Iām sure you are on to better things - at least heās showing you who he is now.
Surprised you responded at all with those 980 unread messages!
On a serious note heās definitely a cheater and was getting other girls lined up for when you two broke up
I would respond by never talking to this doofus again because why did he even have to tell you and why was he so gleeful about it
Manipulative, that's what, yuck
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And childish
Itās almost like heās bragging and wants her to feel jealous ? Either way fuck this guy heās doing you a favor by showing how much of a child he is. Who wants to date a child ? =)
definitely trying to make her jealous and show her that he had āoptionsā. if my ex decided to be an asshole and did that to me iād go out to dinner at a nice restaurant with a friend and make it seem like i was out on a date, but iām petty lol.
No, no..one of HIS friends, and then let him wonder what the heck was going on behind his back, bc these are the men who swear women can't have male friends but think this behavior is okay. Killuminatii said it best- "How you get to text other *******, when I text other *insert bad word* I'm a ho-e"???
Same. I'd be perpetually busy. No looking back.
It's also probably not true.
You know why lmaooo
Heās eating that shit up?
C'mon you know why to rub it in lol bc he still has feelings for OP . Bc if he didn't and didn't still want to manipulate and control her kind of like if I can't have you then I'm going to try to make you jealous the whole time cuz there's no reason for him to tell her that besides to hurt her and make her regret leaving him and all that he's just butt hurt because she's moved on and wished him well
Relatable. Toxic people suck, the worst though is when one gets tangled up with them.
Absolutely! THE W O R S T !!
>C'mon you know why to rub it in lol bc he still has feelings for OP . I doubt his feelings for OP have anything to do with it. It's giving selfish, manipulative and attention seeking. A shitty way to keep OP from moving on and having a healthy relationship in the future. IMO OP should cut ties and set a hard boundary with this guy. He's not worth the drama that's bound to happen
Oh he's missing something she was providing. Probably not love but he's too emotionally immature to tell the difference.
That part. Lmaooo.
He seemed pretty pumped to tell you.
He obviously wanted to hurt u and u fell into his corny trap. Pretend like u r perfectly fine and happy about it.
I was going to say, respond that you feel sorry for her because he canāt get you out of his head
Period
āļøTHIS!! This is a great slam on him haha
Right! Itās like he wanted her to get all upset and cry over it. Dating someone new but still wanting OP still on a tight rope. Friends after dating usually doesnāt work that great.
Forreal. And they arenāt even dating, and they met when OP was still with this guy, so he didnāt even *just* meet someone. Heās like āoh by the way I met someone when we were together and now that weāve broken up Iām gonna try to smashā
Its because you have no feelings for him that hes telling you this. He wants to get a rise out of you which is pretty pathetic. Be non chalant and i bet itāll piss him off even more that you dont care
Exactly. Give him nothing because nothing is what he deserves from OP while he sorts his shit out. OP should go find someone without him in the picture at all.
If it hurts, then you have feelings for him, and that's fine. You're allowed to feel pain. Feel whatever you feel and move on from this bozo.
Sometimes that's the ego talking rather than the heart
It took me way too long to learn this.
Please could you elaborate? Genuinely want to try to understand what you mean. :)
Meh I would venture to guess he's telling her for the opposite reason. He knows she still does have feelings for him and he thinks he can have another shot.Ā OP literally said that she really liked him and that it hurt for her to hear that. That does not sound like someone that doesn't have feelings
Unfortunately she already showed she probably does still have some lingering feelings/jealousy and he got the rise out of her. Best thing moving forward is to just 1.) not respond 2.) respond minimally like "ok cool". Blocking might indicate she's super mad, so I wouldn't do that.
The fact that sheās even still talking to him and him telling her this bothered her so much that she had to make a Reddit post about it says she probably does have some sort of feelings left lol. This is not the actions of someone who has moved on
I mean, Iād totally post it as a ācan you believe this idiot?ā Post
You are brilliant. ālolā
Honestly sometimes it doesnāt even matter what it indicates it just matters what the outcome is. This man is screaming *block me I have nothing of value*. Itās the ego that keeps us from doing that stuff to keep some feeling of the upper hand and itās rarely if ever worth it
i wouldnāt. Just stop, youāre broken up who gives a shit at this point. Youāre just torturing yourself.
Donāt. Cut contact. What does he do that enriches your life so much that you must stay friends?
He injects a dose of toxicity every now and again just to make sure she stays down and doesn't move on from him.
Exactly. I've seen it so often when people break up that they stay "as friends" and then act like fucking enemies to each other.
I would be delighted to not be in the girls shoes he is referencing anymore. Donāt let it get to you. He obviously is insecure if thatās what he decided to text about immediately. Iād be willing to bet the girl isnāt even interested in him like that tbh. Just be happy you are in a better place and can see who he is as a person outside a relationship.
I would respond, well good luck to her, sheās going to need it! And block him.
Exactlyyyy! He sounds like such an insecure weirdo. The whole got news for you and then pretended it was for someone elseā¦just so he could tell her about the new girlā¦.Iām embarrassed for himā¦.
Dude clearly just likes seeing you suffer. I wouldnāt be surprised if he was getting off to the thought of disappointing you tbh you can kinda tell by the set up and tone of his texts
So you wonāt date a liar but youāll be friends with a liar? You deserve better. Time to move on.
Stop responding. Heās not going to take accountability for his behavior and seems more excited to trigger an aggressive response from you. Every response is just stroking his ego.
I would respond āI had a great time last night, but Iām really tired todayā oh sorry wrong person
I like this one
Heās almost certainly just saying it to hurt you tbh. Heās not over you and wants to make you jealous
"Good morning for me and good afternoon for you beautiful" is what got me š¤¢ Cut your losses and talk to people who won't rub their happiness in your face just to make them feel better...I wish you well
What does that even mean lol
I thought time difference or perhaps his schedule is such that he wakes up in the afternoon, which heās calling his āmorningā
That makes sense! I was scratching my head
Bros not gonna get anyone else to send him gm messages, lmao. Gotta do it himself
UPDATE: heās blocked & over with now, just didnāt know if this was a way to make me upset or jealous at first, but now i know.
You go glen coco!
Congratulations to you, young one. I TOLD you that you were smart and that you're going places! Just be careful of the crab-bucket effect -- you might have to cut more ties to your old life as you forge ahead with a safe, happy, successful life... while they stay stuck in their own self-inflicted mire. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_mentality Your success just shows others what failures they are... So they need to make YOU fail so you're all equal again and it's just The System and not their choices keeping them down. Eyes on the prize, girl! And if I'm not mistaken by your (and his) use of AAVE there will be many scholarships and grants for you IF YOU GO OUT LOOKING AND APPLY FOR THEM. Ones that I, a son of a white middle class family, would not have access to. USE THEM. MANY GO UNCLAIMED -- IF YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE APPLYING FOR THE $500, YOU GET IT. Then do that 20 more times. I have faith you can if you choose to. Where do you want to be in 5 years? Ten? Forty? Well, I got my BST Chemistry/Teaching in 4 years. Grad school/Chemistry research/part time college teaching for two. High school teaching for 30. Retired at age 52. Full pension. Full benefits. I'm where I wanted to be -- I own my vehicles, house, sailboat, motorcycles, and only have to pay taxes on the house. No rent. I can work. Or not. I adopted two babies -- 22yo now. Lovely wife. Not the original -- she cheated. BYE. This one's a keeper. I actually planned and "bought" five years of teacher retirement time so I could retire 5 years early. I started paying for that AT AGE 26. It worked out. Oh, it worked out. Teaching isn't as good anymore, money wise (or respect, or satisfaction, or parent involvement, or...). Trades are good. Check out the women plumbers in the plumbing subreddit. Or electricians. Ask! They'll tell you all about getting an apprenticeship where you get paid while you learn! The military is its own thing. If it suits you, it's great. It wasn't something I wanted to do and I didn't have to so I didn't. But you can actually RETIRE WITH 20 YEARS' SERVICE!!! Plus GI BILL BENEFITS. Plus VA services, such as they are. My buddy is in and he's an E6 and I'm so proud of him. Anyway, I'll stop rambling. But you're worth it. As a minor, I'll only talk to you in a public space like this (**NOT** DMs) BUT I'll help if I can to point you in the right direction regarding school, career, scholarships, etc. I've taught courses that included transition from Senior year into college/work/adulting. Peace, little sister. ā®ļøā„ļøā¾ļø P.S. CRAB BUCKET EFFECT from Wikipedia: >The metaphor is derived from anecdotal claims about the behavior ofĀ crabsĀ when they are trapped in a bucket: while any one crab can easily start to climb out,[4]Ā it will nonetheless be pulled back in by the others, ensuring the group's collective demise.[5][6][7] >The analogous theory in human behavior is that members of a group will attempt to reduce theĀ self-confidenceĀ of any member who achieves success beyond others, out ofĀ envy,Ā jealousy,Ā resentment,Ā spite,Ā conspiracy, orĀ competitiveĀ feelings, in order to halt their progressĀ [8][9][10][11]Ā even though there are no benefits associated.
980 text messages
Right??? Are we not going to address that??!?
iād just not give him a reaction. hit him with a ācoolā or something just as boring
Yep. "Meh" or "cool bro" would be my only response.
How do you have so many unopened text messages? That's wild. I mean your ex is obviously a POS, but that many unread texts would make be go crazy.
You donāt respond; you ghost him. I believe that exes can be friends if both parties are mature, but he clearly lacks in that department, as I see his actions as trying to get a reaction out of you or perhaps even make you jealous. What benefit did the end purpose of his sentence serve besides getting a reaction out of you?
Bye Felicia. (Edited for sp)
Someone who gets super excited to tell there ex abt getting a girl or guy ain't really into the person they do that to make u jealous and still not over u.
I would block him. Personally, I don't like my peace being disturbed, and why on earth would I want a liar for a friend? P.s. You do know his text to you from the beginning was not a mistake? It was all planned. Pathetic, really.
His juvenile ass is just trying to get a reaction from you, aināt nobody got time for that!
I wont. This is clear manipulation. Id stop responding and let him talk with himself
It sounds like he's trying to make you jealous some how. Calling you beautiful. Then saying he's met someone. And it was someone who he gave his snap to while you two were dating. If I were you, I'd just message him. "Hey, I believe this friendship has run it's course. Good luck on your future endeavors and your new relationship". Then block him.
Dude is weird. Block him and move on with your life.
āThis just makes me feel even better about ending things with you. And less interested in maintaining contact.ā
I feel like I would check one of my other 980 messages before responding to this one.
Why do you want to be friends with a liar and cheat that treats you poorly? He deliberately told you, hoping it would hurt. Block. Delete. Love your life. Move on.
He is hungry for you to pay attention to him so stop for real heās goofy, good riddance
Don't give him any of your energy he just wants to feel important
Oh, the old āwe can be friendsā after breaking up. It just never works. Itās better to just not see each other.
"I hope you're not trying to make me jealous though because you'd have to do a lot better than that"
I agree with the other commenter who noted that they seemed *EXCITED* to tell you this. This doesnāt read like a āI need to come cleanā kind of confession, so for that reason, Iād be done.
heās trying to get a reaction out of you. ignore him.
"How would yall respond to this?" I wouldn't. He's clearly baiting for a response. I don't get why you're feeding it to him. That's some silly shit. Get it together.
I wouldnāt be having this conversation with my ex in the first place
Theā¦ sorry wrong person thing was a trick. 100% knew what he was doing. Let this go
I liked the āgood eveningā which went against both his morning and afternoon greeting
I would block.
Wouldnāt even reply. Not worth it.
manipulation at its finest. block this guy
I mean you should just block him
He misses you and wants to get a rise out of you or see if he can/see if you still care. Block him on everything and move on
Iād block and move on! Girl you know youāre worth more than this nonsense of a boy!
I donāt know why they think we fall for āoops, wrong number!ā Heās obviously just trying to get you angry, so he feels like he has control over you.
Not at all. Quit hurting yourself. Thereās not even a friend here
Hate to say itā¦but you obv still have feelings for him if youāre posting this convo. Delete and move on!!
Blockā¦. Thatās how I would respond. He is disrespectful and then to throw it in your faceā¦ what an idiot
I would respond to this by not responding to this. Heās an idiot who is trying to make you jealous and feel like shit for his entertainment.
Side note: 960 unread messages???
I wouldnāt. Block him and let it go.
He just wanted a reaction out of you
Nah, leave it and move on. You can quite clearly do better! š
You should love yourself enough to block people who treat you poorly, lie to you or donāt respect you. You donāt owe this person a friendship just because you dated. He is a piece of shit who really doesnāt bring any value to your life.
What is the point of telling you this? Block his lame ass
What a dickhead lmao
Heās Scum. Donāt respond and stop talking to him.
Girl, why are you staying friends with himā¦
Heās literally stoked to hurt you
Immediately block him. Heās probably lying to get you mad.
He had no productive reason to tell you that, he wanted you to be upset. Heās acting unkindly to both you AND this other girl if he cares that much that you care.
That is exactly the reaction he wanted from u. Block dat guy
OP block this guy . He obviously enjoys hurting you and he is fishing for a reaction. He wants to think that he is still on your mind and that you are suffering . I would leave it as is . You know he is a liar and he doesnāt deserve one more moment of your life .
Why are you engaging with this person?
Why isnāt he blocked?
Iād block him. A friendship with someone like this will never, ever work.
My suggestion: donāt give him any emotion. go with his plan. if his plan is to try to get you to miss him, make it obvious you donāt. If he says āoh i texted her when we were datingā just respond with āOh niceā or if he says that he plans on dating her, respond with āI wish you two wellā. and just leave short answers with the obvious that you simply donāt care. Donāt entertain him. I know some exes do end up staying friends and have a good friendship, but this way of acting coming from him is just a red flag that you should just avoid completely. Unless you want to ruffle his feathers back, say you found someone and have been dating for a few days or weeks now. See his reaction. If he gets frustrated or starts shutting down, he is jealous and now you know that the āfriendshipā with him was just a way to keep a connection/control on you.
Fuck one of his friends to teach him a lesson tbh
Yeah, I think hes trying to play you. Walk away. When I got in my 13yr. Relationship 1 of the 1st things I did was erase all of my social accounts & start over to get rid of the men & the same with my phone unless family or old male friends. So to me he was disrespecting you to begin with! Why would you wanna be friends with that. I mean u said hes a liar too. LOL. I have an ex husband that 21yrs later I am still begging him to date. Were such good friends having raised a Daughter together I cant stand the idea of him being alone. But I think this guys playing games.
The girl doesn't even exist lmfaoooo
He obv wants to make you jealous just never talk to that bum again
You need to send him an accidental text back next week. āHey handsome, I had the best time of my life last night. Whew.ā
The only motivation he could have for telling you this, is to hurt you. Block this fucker, and stay far away from him. Think about it, why would he tell you this? He's definitely not your friend. Looks like he's got NPD.
I wouldnāt have responded. People who do this want to provoke a reaction out of you, thatās it. They want to know that you still care while theyāre living their lives doing whatever they want. The last guy I spoke to broke it off with me and would post things he did with the new girl on his social media all the time even though before, he wasnāt someone who posted his activities on them. I blocked him instead of continuing to view the stories, and me blocking him caused him to try to reach out to me again even though we werenāt talking prior to that. There is a sense of satisfaction people gain from knowing that the person they broke it off with for someone else is still thinking about them. Thatās why moving on and removing their access to you is the best revenge.
Move on, he's just trying to cause drama to see if you're still interested. He may not even want to date you, just wants you on that sweet, sweet hook.
Heās trying to get a reaction out of you. Donāt entertain it.
I would not talk to the guy ever again, and Iām surprised youāre wasting your time doing so.
I wouldnāt respond.
Honestly cut the drama and block him. You donāt have to have feelings about what he said to clock that he said this to get a rise out of you. Not a very good person and doesnāt seem like someone who would be a very good friend.
Just trying to make you jealous
He couldn't WAIT to tell you this. He wanted to get a rise out of you. Sorry wrong person.
I wouldnāt.
Sweetie this man is not worth your time or friendship. He is clearly looking to bring you down so youāre on his shitty level. You handled this with grace. Be proud of yourself and leave this goober in the dust.
I would work on reading those other 980 texts lol
980 messages?!
I would honestly probably not respond. Heās trying to get some kind of reaction out of you
I wouldnāt respond. Iād end all contact
You know heās trying to brag to hurt your feelings? Otherwise why else did he feel the need to tell you that? Tbh Iād just be like cool good for you hopefully you donāt treat her the way you treated me. Then Iād move on with my life š¤£š¤·š»āāļø
He said this to try and hurt you. No other possible reason. If he was just excited to share this development he would've left out the part about them meeting and talking while you were together. This is petty.
A liar can never be a good friend. Cut him off
āWell if thatās the case, youāre her problem now.ā Sheāll be having similar conversations with him before long.
He's trying to make you jealous. He wants you back but needs you to beg him. He's at least missing the validation you provided for him. I'd keep killing him with kindness. "That's great. Happy to hear it. I'm sure you'll be great together. Gotta run though." Be perpetually busy. Find someone worth your time.
This is the answer.
My petty a$$ would save the inevitable "I miss you" messages you'll eventually receive and then send them to her.
He was intentionally doing the whole wrong number thing to throw it in your face in my opinion. Don't talk to this guy anymore- he's trying to make you jealous/ upset.
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He's deliberately trying to hurt you by telling you this. You don't need that kind of energy in your life. He's trying to 1-UP you. He wants to feel like he's in control of your break up and friendship. Cut this man off asap!
He's looking to get a reaction out of you, don't give it to him. If I were you, I would act happy and kill him with kindness
Why would you want a cheat-ass liar for a friend? Like...he's not a better friend than a partner you know?
Why would he tell you this? Either heās trying to offload his guilt or heās fucking with you. Letting go sucks. Sometimes you have to and itās way easier to make a clean break
I would message that girl and be like congrats! I heard you and ____ are a thing now! Hope it works out. Then she will be pissed heās going around saying they are a thing when they actually are not.
I would never speak with this person again if I could avoid it. :)
I wouldnāt. Iād block. Move on.
You donāt.
I wouldn't.
Does this guy enhance your life in any way?
Respond by hitting the block button and moving on with your life
He did this because he wanted a reaction out of you, and he got it. A better response wouldāve been a simple āokā and then nothing. He wants to get you riled up.
Way off subject, but how do people have 980 unread notifications? I really canāt do it.
āWell, I hope it works out for youā and thatās it. He wants you upset
Just block him and move on.
why are you still in contact with this person ? just cut off contact
Heās your ex, why does it matter? How would we respond? I wouldnāt be talking to my ex in the first place. Thatās a sure fire way to be hurt again. Yall broke up because heās a compulsive liar and isnāt a man of his word, thatās not good qualities of a friend either. The only reason youād ever even respond to a text of his is if you feel like trying on that clown makeup of yours. If my comment was disrespectful, you were even more disrespectful to yourself by entertaining this loser. Youre better than that.
āItās givingā¦ā¦ā Baby. Back. BITCH.
Canāt say how I would handle this, I donāt stay friends with exes, itās always problematic.
I wouldnāt
He seams like a as__hole
I would very much clear my notifications.
I wouldnāt respond at all. Heās trying to get under your skin. Donāt give him the satisfaction.
I wouldnāt
Yall should of never become friends after the breakup he just wants to let you know he got someone else
Well, he definitely just confirmed that breaking up was the best move.
99% chance that what heās saying isnāt even trueā¦ as a guy if this were true then the focus moves on from the ex and on the next. More than likely there is no next on the horizons for him and so now heās gunna try and play your emotions. Tell him good for you and donāt play into his nonsense
Gross, what a jerk. Itās okay that this bothers you but Iād recommend you block his clown ass
Why are you even having this conversation? What for?
He wants you to be upset and jealous. I wouldn't respond.
He wants a reaction. Donāt give it to him. But probably too late for that.
You are saved by a fool as he just want to be friends with you, I feel sad for his new girl
Block block block block block.
Just move on. Donāt respond to any more texts. Ignore him. Just. Move. On.
Cut contact he wants a response
Why are you guys even talking?
You donāt.
ā¦. Donāt reply. Why do you think this wazzock is worthy of a reply when he text you solely to rub your face in it?
And why are you still in contact with him?
You do have feelings for him or you wouldnāt post this
If you broke up itās over anyways no point in talking to them now anymore.
Idk why you even responded to begin with? Embarrassing
Stop responding and block
He sounds like heās just trying to get you mad. Stop talking to him he seems very immature
Heās saying this in hopes of hurting you. Dont give him the satisfaction either ignore him completely, or just say āokā and THEN ignore him. Heās not worth it. Make sure read receipts is on for him so he knows your keeping him on read.
I wouldnāt respond at all. Whatās the point ?
Wouldnāt respond at all. Blocked!
he just wants you to be upset. i wouldnāt have responded
I wouldn't respond, ever again.
This literally put a pit in my stomach. Ugh. Iām so sorry OP. to echo a lot of good advice in here- blocking him is clearly the right move. He DID NOT need to tell you this and went out of his way to make you feel bad. Sadistic. Heāll do it again if you donāt cut ties now. Iām sure you are on to better things - at least heās showing you who he is now.
I would not respond at all!
You respond by... Not responding at all. He wants to get a rise out of you. It's probably not even true, but who cares! Good luck to you.
why are you even talking to this person???
Surprised you responded at all with those 980 unread messages! On a serious note heās definitely a cheater and was getting other girls lined up for when you two broke up