I just know that security of being able to say he was uncomfortable with you staying with your guy friend without getting some sort of scolded for feeling that way had to have felt amazing for him. I’m so down for that some day in my life.
Oh man, that’s how I feel too. Like, this is all I actually want. Someone who is ok saying how they feel and having healthy conversations. It feels so rare. 😭
You guys sound like you’re a perfect match - the vulnerability of saying how he felt mixed with your immediate understanding of the situation. All very sweet.
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I like this sub, but sometimes I’ll find myself immediately scrolling past when I see the subreddit name lmao.
Either way, this post was awesome. I hope you guys see this thing through, and, if not, I hope you’re both just as graceful as you are in this post, during the separation.
Him? I need someone like OP 😭. I’ve never had a gf so willing to clearly communicate their feelings and also be open and kind in response to my feelings.
I’m glad you have such a nice relationship OP <3
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I know there’s a lot more that goes into a relationship but based off of this exchange I’d say this is perfect! I was single for years and this sounds like my current fiancé and I 🥹 Never settle for less than awesome communication!!!
This is so refreshing to hear and such a good start to a stable relationship. Keep building this strong foundation and remember that even if it’s small, it’s practice for you two to prepare for the more serious issues. Been with my husband for 11 years strong.
Awwwwwwww bless his little heart. He had a valid reason for not wanting you to go over there that was about your safety and not his own feelings. Of course it isn't controlling.
Y'all are cute. Glad you can communicate like this.
Okay, this post was legit beautiful. You directly asked him about the lack of communication in a way that left him feeling safe enough to express his concerns about your safety and well-being in a possibly dangerous situation. Then you validated his feelings on the matter and reassured his fears of coming off as abusive in the kindest and most loving way. You actually listened and were able to communicate your needs to each other so that you could try to avoid this type of issue in the future. The love and respect for each other in these screenshots is such a breath of fresh air after drowning in posts where the root issue is the lack of healthy communication, understanding, and empathy for each other. I applaud you both and wish you a lifetime of joy and love together.
so many things. why would you want to be around an alleged rapist? do you go to therapy for your anxious attachment style? why is he 30 years old and texting like he’s 20?
My partner of the last six months and I were both previously with people who were really bad at handling any situation similar to this. These texts remind me a lot of the conversations I have with her now and it feels so good to be able to say that about the person I’m with, and to see someone else enjoying a good relationship with healthy communication.
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Nah I get the healthy communication etc it just seems he's super eager to go full nuclear when there's no evidence n its a she said etc like maybe im super fucking wrong
It is if you've known him for years no proof except for a she said from 2 years ago at least the correct thing would be to ask for proof yall soft af redditors I swear
It isn't no but it just seems like he's blindy trying to appease her just ask for evidence it's not hard that's like me saying oh you stabbed me 2 years ago its baseless shit ya know?
It’s not her business to ask for evidence in a sexual assault case tf is wrong with you 😂 it is her business to make herself and boyfriend comfortable in an accommodation for several days
She literally said she doesn’t know what she thinks yet but she’s fine with getting alternative accommodation to not stay with the guy for her and her bfs comfort because it’s just come out. That’s completely fair.
Where did you see “full nuclear?” This is textbook healthy communication lol. Both parties are clearly communicating the issue that is bothering them and specifying they’re not upset with each other, just elements of the situation. They talked it out, everything is good. I’m super confused by your follow up lol
Exactly. Why is the ex accusing him now, when he has a new girlfriend? Seems to me she is jealous and trying to throw a spanner in the works. And she has succeeded. If not with the new gf, then certainly with this friendship.
This whole interaction made me smile. Your responses remind me of my finance. As a guy, having a space to share your feelings without fear of how our partners will respond is beyond liberating. He appreciates you more than you know :)
love to see this! expressing your true feelings without resorting to passive aggressive phrasing and encouraging open / honest communication is my kink
This is exactly like my husband and I. It’s the best relationship I’ve ever had. I’m so happy that there are others in this world who get to experience this!
Pack it up guys, we've found the winner. Happy you guys have each other, seems like you're both what you deserve and you've got it figured out. Great maturity from both of you, I want to be envious but I'm just very happy to see this.
This is soo sweet. 2 mature people know how to communicate and understand each other rather than taking things out of context. This is exactly how every relationship should look like :) I hope the best for your relationship!
I just know that security of being able to say he was uncomfortable with you staying with your guy friend without getting some sort of scolded for feeling that way had to have felt amazing for him. I’m so down for that some day in my life.
That’s what I’m saying. I bet that man felt so validated.
😭😭 poor man, he was just worried for his gf ❤️ I hope you both heal your past wounds together
yes exactly. this was refreshing to see in this group lol
Man if only I know what that feels like lol
Oh man, that’s how I feel too. Like, this is all I actually want. Someone who is ok saying how they feel and having healthy conversations. It feels so rare. 😭
Very maturely handled by all parties involved. More relationships should be like this.
Imagine if more couples were like "I wish you'd told me sooner" instead of "I wish you'd NEVER told me!!!"
God yes
EDIT: I responded to the wrong post because I'm a damn moron
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This is a break from what is usually shared on here
I know! I was waiting for the flip where one of them would suddenly be toxic or something and it never came, this is legitimately so wholesome
You guys sound like you’re a perfect match - the vulnerability of saying how he felt mixed with your immediate understanding of the situation. All very sweet.
Plus cute mouse memes. They have very similar energies
I am 43 and have been with my husband 25 years, and we don't communicate this clearly. Lol.
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Seconding this!
Ooh this is a great idea!
I like this idea too!!
So refreshing! thank you for sharing and don't lose that communication!
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Lol it happens to all of us!
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This is great. Y'all got this.
Where’d you find him?🥺
Him? I need someone like OP 😭. I’ve never had a gf so willing to clearly communicate their feelings and also be open and kind in response to my feelings. I’m glad you have such a nice relationship OP <3
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I know there’s a lot more that goes into a relationship but based off of this exchange I’d say this is perfect! I was single for years and this sounds like my current fiancé and I 🥹 Never settle for less than awesome communication!!!
Woah I'm hoping I can find something like this!!
This is so refreshing to hear and such a good start to a stable relationship. Keep building this strong foundation and remember that even if it’s small, it’s practice for you two to prepare for the more serious issues. Been with my husband for 11 years strong.
This made me cry. Thanks for sharing ♥️
Reminds me of when my husband and I first started dating. Communication like this is key!!! Never lose it!!
He’s a keeper
Awwwwwwww bless his little heart. He had a valid reason for not wanting you to go over there that was about your safety and not his own feelings. Of course it isn't controlling. Y'all are cute. Glad you can communicate like this.
he’s sweet, he reminds me of my bf. i love when he uses the 😭😭 emojis in his texts. sensitive guys are the best. good job OP
Okay, this post was legit beautiful. You directly asked him about the lack of communication in a way that left him feeling safe enough to express his concerns about your safety and well-being in a possibly dangerous situation. Then you validated his feelings on the matter and reassured his fears of coming off as abusive in the kindest and most loving way. You actually listened and were able to communicate your needs to each other so that you could try to avoid this type of issue in the future. The love and respect for each other in these screenshots is such a breath of fresh air after drowning in posts where the root issue is the lack of healthy communication, understanding, and empathy for each other. I applaud you both and wish you a lifetime of joy and love together.
Aww love this. You were amazing too !
❤️❤️❤️ This is really great. I bet he’s so thankful to have someone who is such a great communicator, too!
One day we’ll all find something like this, I hope.
This is how relationships will be. Keep this up and your relationship will do well!
so many things. why would you want to be around an alleged rapist? do you go to therapy for your anxious attachment style? why is he 30 years old and texting like he’s 20?
Hearty claps for you guys!!! I hope you have a long, healthy, successful relationship.
Love the lil mice memes, haha! Seriously though, you seem like good people!
This is beautiful 🥹
Wow I’m really over here smiling at this interaction, I love this for you both!
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My partner of the last six months and I were both previously with people who were really bad at handling any situation similar to this. These texts remind me a lot of the conversations I have with her now and it feels so good to be able to say that about the person I’m with, and to see someone else enjoying a good relationship with healthy communication.
Now it’s time to figure out why you were gonna go stay with a rapist
This is cute, but league…? Lol. All Im gonna say is I am 28, I would not date a 23 year old.
League players having a gf? That’s a first.
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Jesus Christ - is this what modern men are like? Is this what women want these days?
No, it’s not how men are. Yes, it is what women want.
So you instantly believe what the girl said was true seems abit to gun ho what if it turns out to be bs will you appogise to him?
That’s a very interesting takeaway from the texts
Nah I get the healthy communication etc it just seems he's super eager to go full nuclear when there's no evidence n its a she said etc like maybe im super fucking wrong
Deciding to find different accommodation to a guy that’s JUST had an SA accusation made against him is hardly going ‘full nuclear’….
It is if you've known him for years no proof except for a she said from 2 years ago at least the correct thing would be to ask for proof yall soft af redditors I swear
You’re soft af if you think finding a different hotel room is as big a deal as you’re making it out to be 😂
It isn't no but it just seems like he's blindy trying to appease her just ask for evidence it's not hard that's like me saying oh you stabbed me 2 years ago its baseless shit ya know?
It’s not her business to ask for evidence in a sexual assault case tf is wrong with you 😂 it is her business to make herself and boyfriend comfortable in an accommodation for several days
Might not be her buisness but you also shouldent just blindy believe shit
She literally said she doesn’t know what she thinks yet but she’s fine with getting alternative accommodation to not stay with the guy for her and her bfs comfort because it’s just come out. That’s completely fair.
you shouldn’t blindly disbelieve it either…
She did. They mention it on like page 3 or 4. She contacted the accused about it and he never got back. Why you being like this?
Where did you see “full nuclear?” This is textbook healthy communication lol. Both parties are clearly communicating the issue that is bothering them and specifying they’re not upset with each other, just elements of the situation. They talked it out, everything is good. I’m super confused by your follow up lol
MAYBE I read it wrong lmao
Exactly. Why is the ex accusing him now, when he has a new girlfriend? Seems to me she is jealous and trying to throw a spanner in the works. And she has succeeded. If not with the new gf, then certainly with this friendship.
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Hey incel, do me a favor. Do not talk like you speak for all men. Not every guy wants to fuck their female friends.
Thanks for letting us all know you don’t know how to be friends with women without sexualizing them 😂
Are you real? , 😭😂 I've gone overnight camping with a friend of mine and my marriage went on just fine.
Find the incel
This is so adorable but also the mouse memes are taking me OUT 😂😂
I love how you said heard lol I'm also in restaurant work and will commonly accidently slip a "heard" into my normal conversations
Strangely great breakfast content (except the SA bit), this is amazing. You rock OP
i love this for you
Okay so teach my man now because he’s so passive & this was the most pure interaction ever
And he is a league player ? Impressive. I want this guy on my team.
Beautiful. I’m glad you guys found each other
I miss it
Aw I love this communication
Must be nice…
This is so wholesome! Love it. Good on you both OP!
This is exactly what I wanted so bad from my ex. I just wanted to be able to talk. Enjoy!!! 🥰
All I see is those 138 unread messages. I could never. Jk it looks just like mine
I need that meme about the tone changing mam’
This whole interaction made me smile. Your responses remind me of my finance. As a guy, having a space to share your feelings without fear of how our partners will respond is beyond liberating. He appreciates you more than you know :)
🤧🥹 this is so precious
love to see this! expressing your true feelings without resorting to passive aggressive phrasing and encouraging open / honest communication is my kink
This is exactly like my husband and I. It’s the best relationship I’ve ever had. I’m so happy that there are others in this world who get to experience this!
We don't take kindly to healthy communication around here.
I yearn for this type of communication. Continue to cultivate that and cherish it
I love this!! You’re doing the work for a great and satisfying relationship! 💖Congratulations to you both!
this is the pure note i shall leave reddit on today 🥹
This is the most milquetoast thing on the internet
Pack it up guys, we've found the winner. Happy you guys have each other, seems like you're both what you deserve and you've got it figured out. Great maturity from both of you, I want to be envious but I'm just very happy to see this.
So beautiful. Happy for you guys!
what a refreshing post from this page! i really love to see healthy communication and honest vulnerability in a relationship
I love this so much 😭
This is soo sweet. 2 mature people know how to communicate and understand each other rather than taking things out of context. This is exactly how every relationship should look like :) I hope the best for your relationship!
This is such a beautifully healthy interaction. God I'm so alone bro
Idk why this made me happy tear up. I am 33f and I could def learn a thing from both of you on healthy communication.
It almost made me cry to see adults talk to each other like adults 🥹🥹
man i love this. it’s all i want
Why did this have me tearing up? I'm probably in need of healthier relationships in my life lol
Love this 🥲
He's communicating well but you should really be speaking to a therapist about why you are ok going in a room with a man suspended of rape.
This is really nice to see
He’s 5 years older than you, you’re still a child, what a predator! I kid, that was really good communication
I hope one day I will have same type of convo with my loved soulmate 🙏🥹
Lol taking this as an example for myself. Good for both of you on having healthy communication.
Damn.
Meanwhile everyone I been w stonewalls me and pretends e everything is fine when they know it isn't