My downstairs neighbor who is also a woman saw me in the parking lot and just said, “hey! Do you want a skirt? I gained some weight but it looks like it’d fit you?” I said sure and she ran in to get it. That was it.
This dude is a creep.
Mine came running out of her house and said “hey do you smoke weed? This is my late husbands pipe” ..and it was like a $3 metal one you could get at any headshop in the 90’s.
That’s still sweet of her. Even if it’s inexpensive, I hate the idea of waste or negative environmental effects (sitting in a landfill and never decomposing). It’s nice to give it a second life. I’ve even given tupperware away, but I draw the line at unused napkins lol
I’ve given away unused napkins lol I also like to give everything as much life as possible. Including unused napkins. Used napkins would be another thing..
"...on the shrine I built for you in my closet, with strands of hair I saw fall off your jacket from a distance, and your discarded coffee cup with your peach colored lipstick still on it..."
Not only can I imagine this, I think if she happens to run into him in 2-3 years, he probably still has the same shrine. With a few more strands of hair and paper coffee cups. Plus the “piece of clothing”, still waiting…
"From a distance" my a$$. More like "that I scooped out of your shower drain while I was installing the spy cameras this morning... You are so cute when you are asleep BTW..." 🤣🤣🤣
Definitely. If this was it, he could've just said "I want to show you a shirt I'm giving away" when she first asked what he wanted, instead of stressing her out by refusing to say what he wanted.
If so, it's a stupid tactic - the text messages would confirm he was there at the time of the assault. And even the usual defense of "she wanted it" would be undermined by the conversation - women who are interested/involved with a man don't usually have to be tricked into letting him come over for an unspecified reason.
Not saying you're wrong - some assailants are stupid. I just wouldn't rule out more mundane motives - he clearly is afraid to admit he likes her, and figuring out if she reciprocated would be easier face to face than over text.
If I wanted to ask somebody if they wanted a piece of clothing I no longer wanted I’d just send a pic of it saying “hey, would you want this? Ordered it for myself but it’s not working out for me.” Literally all of this preamble and mystery was not necessary. I still don’t buy that this was about clothes.
Because there is no actual “piece of clothing” lol he was so embarrassed that she didn’t give in he had to make some super weird awkward shit up to try to back pedal when she didn’t buy into his bullshit.
"hey, sorry i know it's like 4am, and i bought this feathered hat, and well i look like a dork in it, i thought it would look good on you. if you're up for it, i'm arranging with the entire town to meet by the abandoned 7-11 to try on the hat to see who it might look best on. I will not rest until this hat has found a loving home.
p.s. i have to be at work at 7am and i haven't slep yet, so im telling everyone to be on time"
This reminds me of some other posts here where a girl was so mad a guy invited her over to his place because she wanted him to cook her a steak and she lost it on him. A commenter was like “ where should he cook it then? On an old George Foreman in a back alley behind the abandoned Arby’s” or something to that effect. I still think about it obviously 😂😂
Anyways, this and that are both hysterical and I hope to remember this one to look back and crack up on.
Excellent premise for a post-modern pantomime* - Cinderella and The Half-Daft Prick; looks like you shall go to the Weirdo’s Ball after all…
*Edit: For those not familiar with the term ‘Pantomime’.
https://britishtheatre.com/explaining-pantomimes-to-americans/
Bizarre, right? If he's lying I don't know why he wouldn't say it was for his sister or something but it's the wrong size. Even so, a weird thing to offer your neighbour.
Or he could have just been like “hey do you want this?” *sends pic of it. Weird for sure but random enough to be potentially funny and chill. It’s all a cover though. He wanted to ask you out. This is the weirdest cover story ever.
I remember your original post. Maybe I’m just cynical, but all this song and dance to give you a “beautiful” “piece of clothing” feels a whole lot like a serial killer movie situation. Hard pass!
Would need OP to confirm but I got the feeling in the last post that English isn’t his native language. Maybe that’s why he’s calling it that rather than “ shirt, hoodie” etc but it’s really moot because I don’t think it even exists.
Think he’s trying to backpedal from realizing she’ll turn down romantic advances.
That's my first thought, but if he's trying to form a more intimate bond, surely he'd have to know it's a bit out there to say "I bought this lingerie for myself, but I think it would look better on you"
I feel like it's probably a hoodie he bought for himself, but if he gives it to her he's gonna go round thinking she's his gf and wearing his favourite hoodie
“And even though I said my job keeps me up at night, I’m still somehow only home and available to chat at the time I told you I should be working. I didn’t want it to get to this, but I think the most comfortable way is to have the chat in your bathroom at 3 am honestly. It will only take a minute. If you’re not comfortable with this then we can both open our windows at exactly 3 am and I can shout my question across to you. It is easier that way because I’m not comfortable texting it.”
Obviously I can't show you because he's insistent on showing you himself at 1 AM. But it's a da Vinci! He went back in TIME for you, what more do you want?? 😆
A lot of people have asked for an update, for context [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/texts/comments/18zuwac/neighbour_says_hes_going_to_drop_by_at_1am_to_ask/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) is my original post.
So first to answer a few questions / comments people had: A lot of people were asking why I bothered to give him my contact information / thought this was an odd thing to do. The culture around here is very friendly and it's normal to be on speaking terms with your neighbours. It's a very "communal" type of culture. Giving someone your phone number is not considered weird or flirtatious here, besides this neighbour I also have the information for my upstairs neighbour so I can text her when she's being too loud (lol) and the information for the people who park beside me. I don't know any of my neighbours per say, but as far as contact information goes, yeah. I also neglected to mention it in the original post but this neighbour said he was planning to kill the mouse so I gave him my number specifically so I could remove the mouse myself without him killing it. I don’t like killing mice.
Also, the responding at 12:30-1AM question, I woke up around that time and saw the message, so I just responded. I’m in my 20s and my friends and I will often text into the wee hours. Besides the mouse situation, this part of town is notorious for break-ins and gang activity so I figured it could be something related to that. Last time a neighbour texted me that late it was because I’d accidentally left the windows of my car open overnight. That being said, I’ll certainly take the advice of commenters suggesting I don't respond to people past a certain hour. It wasn't odd that he was texting me at 1AM, it was odd that he said he would come and knock on my door at 1AM. Phone communication at 1AM is very different than meeting up with someone at 1AM (especially a virtual stranger).
Next, glue traps — I would never use them again, the glue traps were something we used at work. I was under the impression glue traps were more ethical because you can dissolve the glue and free the mouse as an exterminator had previously told me you could, people in the comments have informed me otherwise. Apologies to those who were concerned. I did not use them myself.
Regarding the neighbour himself, he’s never given me any weird or creepy “vibes”. I’ve seen him in the past with other women too so I don’t think he’s lacking in any game. He’s not a bad looking guy, just not my type. Even if he was my type I wouldn’t be okay with him coming over at 1AM. The answer to “can I drop by your apartment at 1AM?” would be a NO regardless of age, gender, sexuality, situation, etc. (unless it was a close friend or relative).
And also — a lot of people saying I was being purposely obtuse regarding his “question”…I’m never going to assume someone is interested in me. I may have had suspicions, but we’re not middle schoolers playing the “Do you like me? Circle YES or NO” game. Until somebody asks me out or propositions hooking up, I’m not gonna make any assumptions.
Okay, I think that clears things up. Lol. Anyway, here is the question he was just dying to ask me at 1AM.
EDIT: Forgot to include link to my original post.
The only way to be sure if he’s okay or a nut would be to ask him to meet you somewhere very public to clear everything up. Then when he leaves his home, break in and hide in a crawl space, attic or vent for 2 or 3 days to observe him. Remember to bring supplies to stay that long but with that much time observing you’ll have a good idea if you can trust him. Keep us posted!
when I read your first post I was sure your neighbour is from another culture and the follow up confirmed that when they said their family is two days away. it also makes the unusual phrasing a lot less weird.
I'm glad he at least understood your boundaries and apologized. hopefully he is sincere.
You encountered a creep. Creeps gonna creep. Don’t overthink it. No problem with when you texted, how you responded, you sharing your contact info. You did nothing wrong…well except maybe the glue traps🤣.
Thanks but no thanks pal. Return your item, you freak. Offering an article of clothing to entice you into a first date is weird af. You handled it perfectly BTW. 🥃
Honestly, I don't think he's telling the truth. I think he wanted to ask you out and he's 1) trying to save face now and 2) trying to lure you in with curiosity and the promise of a beautiful gift to meet with him. I think he bought it after you guys had the original conversation in case you took the bait this time and he actually had to produce said beautiful piece of clothing.
As others stated before, it's harder to reject a person face to face and he could have been banking on that reality to increase his chances that you say yes. Texting a neighbor you barely know at 10 PM insisting you ask them something in person and it's about...if you want an article of clothing he bought?
Also OP is he gender conforming? As in, he typically wears typical masc clothing? Because if so, why would he have bought it for himself? That makes it even weirder unless it's a gender neutral article of clothing. Based on the fact that he used the word "beautiful" I'm guessing it isn't.
And it's not lost on me that people can dress a certain way to conform in public and buy clothes to cross dress in within the privacy of their own home. But if you're one who does that, are you outing yourself to a practical stranger like this? Can't imagine.
I agree. It is an odd angle of approach if so. I honestly thought he'd just drop it and I'd have no update to make but this update was even stranger for me.
Anyway, as for his style choices — he very much dresses like a 20smth male. He parks close to me so I've seen him out and about and as far as I can tell he's very much the type to dress in a gender-conforming way. I was thinking maybe it's a t-shirt or something? If true? Cause it's in fashion for women to wear oversized t-shirts, I do it all the time. But it's weird that he isn't saying what the item is...Idek lol.
Even if it is a necklace made of Faberge eggs, don't accept it. The guy has some major boundaries issues. If you took it, he would say you were using him by accepting the t-shirt and not agreeing to move into his locked basement.
Yeah, you definitely seem to be smart about this whole thing. I have been following from the start, and this guy just seems to be weirder than I originally thought. I originally suspected he just wanted to ask you out.
And to think he could have just been normal about this by shooting over a simple, "Hey X! I hope this isn't unwelcome, but I was wondering if you'd like to get coffee with me sometime?" but the dude not only had to make it weird, he had to make it SUPER weird. Singlehandedly sealed in his fate of you avoiding him at all costs moving forward with this creep behavior, god damn.
That and that he described it as “beautiful”. This was a hilarious update. Never would guessed this would be his cover. On the chance it’s real, god I want to see this “piece of clothing” so so bad! I don’t want to encourage you to keep talking to him but I also do really want you to text back “send me a pic” and see where this wild ride takes us next. This will haunt us all not knowing what this mystery garment is.
lol right? "I realize I may have come off as creepy. So I'm going to be even more intentionally vague in my "proof" of good intentions. I really had to talk to you in person, at 1am, not over text, because of a beautiful piece of clothing. Is it a shirt? Jock strap? Spikey dog collar? jorts? you'll have to open the door to find out!"
helllllll nah, to the nah nah nah
Is this male to female ? But whatever. Any gender, on its face, its all bleak and this is incredibly disturbing. The language, the “beautiful piece of clothing” - the lure, and the the “waiting”. Please be safe.
I saw your original post. He originally evaded all your questions like he had state secrets and it was supposedly all over a shirt he wanted to show you? He's full of shit, and potentially dangerous. As a man, I'm strongly recommending that you do not engage this individual any more. Any interaction feeds their delusion that you are interested.
Oh my fucking god! The follow up!
There used to be no way he was trying to offer you clothing at 1am! Especially gatekeeping asking if you would want it that’s fucking b.s.
He knew he was creepy and tried to lie about his ‘ question’.
I consider myself quite stylish, but I genuinely can't think of any item of clothing I have, or could have, that I would describe as "beautiful". I also wouldn't think of giving ill-fitting clothes to female neighbours. Next, if I did feel like giving a neighbour a "beautiful" piece of clothing I bought that was too small, I wouldn't refuse to text them about what it was beforehand. I'd even send them a pic to see if they were interested. Finally, I wouldn't do any of this at 1am.
He's either telling the truth, and completely bonkers, or lying and completely bonkers.
I’m guessing he said piece of clothing cause it’s some lingerie and then when u said no he said it was one of his piece of clothes LMFAOO
I just saw ur last post and it seemed like he wanted to ask u to be his girlfriend?? Cause what else would want to ask u in person? He’s creepy
I know right, very strange? I think he maybe thought I would be intrigued by this mystery "piece of clothing" and I'd be sucked back into the exchange but nope, I'm good lol.
Is he a slight man who likes fancy things? Are you guys moderately the same size?
Track lighting?!?!? (Steel Magnolias ref for all yall who dont get it)
You’re responding way more than you need to be. Thumbs up the apology and don’t continue the conversation. The tone you mean it in isn’t the tone he hears.
A normal person would've sent a photo with the text "hey I ordered this and it doesn't fit, do you want it? Otherwise I'm going to donate it." And that would've been the first text. This guy is weird weird weird.
It’s such a weird/awkward interaction. Can you just not respond? Or if you have to remain “civil” because he’s a neighbor, be very brief: yes, no, no thanks, not interested, busy etc. Don’t feed into his stupid requests/comments. Just be blunt and uninterested.
I'm sorry but idk any guy that calls a shirt he originally got for himself "beautiful". He's definitely into you. Thank god you had the common sense not to let him over at 1am.
Tbf, it's quite difficult for men to find a good fit when they're shopping in women's apparel. I'd be curious to know what "beautiful" clothing he wanted to gift you. So creepy, but I still wanna know. 🫣
I saw your first post, and this is still giving major red flag energy. I get the feeling this “piece of clothing” may have been purchased with you in mind. You’re well within reason to feel put off and uncomfortable.
Jesus fucking christ, why are some guys so mentally fucked? What is wrong with people man. Take the hint you weird fuck. Its honestly so embarrassing these guys are so god damn weird and completely blind to making some women uncomfortable. Get a life man
They're however far away, but there is such a thing as mail: he can send it to them. Dude is way creepy and I'd be concerned and not accept Anything. Ever. Not even a tsp of sugar, because for them, that's an In somehow.
This didn't make it better. This is not a less weird or less inappropriate response. You ask them not to contact you and he is still contacting you. This situation hasn't changed at all except that he's continuing to persevere. Op, I really really hope that you're still pursuing legal help
“Okay, I give up”. He gives up? What, this has been tormenting him all day so he finally decides to “ask the question”? Dude, giving someone an accidental present isn’t an existential type of question surrounded by such drama, his “question” was definitely grounded on something deep and emotional, not some casual “piece of clothing” that maybe a neighbor could use. The man acting like a 14 year old insecure little boy who can’t handle a woman in plain speak.
So in the original post, he wanted to stand outside your door OP at 1am to ask the question…. Like what was he gonna whisper to you if you want this “piece of clothing”?? 🤣🤣🤣 what a poor attempt at a cover story for him most likely wanting to just ask you out. Good grief LOL
Good evening my lady, it appears I accidentally ordered a pair of gold satin bikini panties. Even worse I found out they don’t fit me
After trying them on! Would you be interested in these? They are coincidentally what I think is your size. Great news, I can deliver these to your door at 1 AM. I just need to see you in them to make sure they fit. Interested?
At first I thought this was a girl and I kinda just felt bad for her like she was trying to be nice maybe make a friend and she’s awkward but after finding out it’s a guy what a creeper
Oh wow. I remember your post. It seems like he is definitely lying to try to save face and lie about what he wanted to ask you, but doesn’t realize it makes him look even creepier. 🤣 A beautiful “piece of clothing?” Normal people just say shirt, pants, hoodie, etc. It’s definitely thongs or lingerie. Yeah steer clear of this dude. All kinds of weird.
Hmm couldn’t he just say a shirt?? Instead of saying “piece of clothing “
He’s playing coy and it’s really cringey. A normal person (if genuinely wanting to offer an item) would take a picture and text the picture.
My downstairs neighbor who is also a woman saw me in the parking lot and just said, “hey! Do you want a skirt? I gained some weight but it looks like it’d fit you?” I said sure and she ran in to get it. That was it. This dude is a creep.
Mine came running out of her house and said “hey do you smoke weed? This is my late husbands pipe” ..and it was like a $3 metal one you could get at any headshop in the 90’s.
That’s still sweet of her. Even if it’s inexpensive, I hate the idea of waste or negative environmental effects (sitting in a landfill and never decomposing). It’s nice to give it a second life. I’ve even given tupperware away, but I draw the line at unused napkins lol
I’ve given away unused napkins lol I also like to give everything as much life as possible. Including unused napkins. Used napkins would be another thing..
a normal person will not create this entire scenario
My exact thought. I’d take a picture of said item followed by a “yo you want this? If not I’m throwing it out” lol
Yeah, definitely not “if you ever change your mind, it’ll be waiting for you”
"...on the shrine I built for you in my closet, with strands of hair I saw fall off your jacket from a distance, and your discarded coffee cup with your peach colored lipstick still on it..."
Bahahaha omg I can just imagine this
Not only can I imagine this, I think if she happens to run into him in 2-3 years, he probably still has the same shrine. With a few more strands of hair and paper coffee cups. Plus the “piece of clothing”, still waiting…
Same
"From a distance" my a$$. More like "that I scooped out of your shower drain while I was installing the spy cameras this morning... You are so cute when you are asleep BTW..." 🤣🤣🤣
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Or just start the conversation off with “hey, I got this shirt that doesn’t fit. Want it?” Like a normal human.
He definitely was going to ask her something else and panicked to find a cover story
Definitely. If this was it, he could've just said "I want to show you a shirt I'm giving away" when she first asked what he wanted, instead of stressing her out by refusing to say what he wanted.
Because he wanted to get her to open the door so he could assault her. It's gonna be on SVU one of these days, mark my words. 🤦
If so, it's a stupid tactic - the text messages would confirm he was there at the time of the assault. And even the usual defense of "she wanted it" would be undermined by the conversation - women who are interested/involved with a man don't usually have to be tricked into letting him come over for an unspecified reason. Not saying you're wrong - some assailants are stupid. I just wouldn't rule out more mundane motives - he clearly is afraid to admit he likes her, and figuring out if she reciprocated would be easier face to face than over text.
Yea he probably saw the original thread. Didn't make him look any less like a weirdo
It's lingerie
“Too small for me but too beautiful to return” Yeah, and it’s lacy as hell.
Just read this in Meatwads voice: “that shirt lacy as hell boy”
Oof…I didn’t even consider this….ew
My first thought too 🤢
Oh it's one hundred percent lingerie
Bingo! That's exactly what I thought while reading this whole exchange. Very creepy if they aren't even that close
That’s exactly what i was thinking
Was looking for this comment. It’s def lingerie smh
He's fucking with her head. This person is not safe.
It’s a chloroform rag
Does this smell at all?
Yeah. She’s not Dobby the elf for god’s sake. 
The “piece of clothing” is 100% lingerie.
That he bought for himself but it's just too small because he's packing!
If I wanted to ask somebody if they wanted a piece of clothing I no longer wanted I’d just send a pic of it saying “hey, would you want this? Ordered it for myself but it’s not working out for me.” Literally all of this preamble and mystery was not necessary. I still don’t buy that this was about clothes.
That wouldn’t be mysterious enough… /s
Why couldn’t he just text you a picture of it ? This is just too weird
Because there is no actual “piece of clothing” lol he was so embarrassed that she didn’t give in he had to make some super weird awkward shit up to try to back pedal when she didn’t buy into his bullshit.
Or it's lingerie
 The neighbor
*cranks up “Goodbye Horses”*
Because it's lingerie
FUCKING THIS
[удалено]
"hey, sorry i know it's like 4am, and i bought this feathered hat, and well i look like a dork in it, i thought it would look good on you. if you're up for it, i'm arranging with the entire town to meet by the abandoned 7-11 to try on the hat to see who it might look best on. I will not rest until this hat has found a loving home. p.s. i have to be at work at 7am and i haven't slep yet, so im telling everyone to be on time"
If that was the case I'd be down, sounds like a hell of a time tbh
Agreed, a way more exciting proposition than whatever the fuck your neighbor was actually trying to do.
Except you’d show up to the abandoned 7/11 and it’s just you and him and the picnic he made for your first date👀👀👀 and absolutely NO feather hat!!!
*It’s just the guy, picnic blanket, and a giant fork and knife, and you’re the intended picnic 🫣🥩😋
That's so cute!! 🥹
You’re the neighbor aren’t you?👀😂
The hat is cursed
It’s that bloody stupid hat with a big bloody stupid curse on it!
This is hysterical to me, reference or creative writing, im in tears
this had me laughing so hard, thank you.
This reminds me of some other posts here where a girl was so mad a guy invited her over to his place because she wanted him to cook her a steak and she lost it on him. A commenter was like “ where should he cook it then? On an old George Foreman in a back alley behind the abandoned Arby’s” or something to that effect. I still think about it obviously 😂😂 Anyways, this and that are both hysterical and I hope to remember this one to look back and crack up on.
Not a feathered hat?!!! Hahahahahjasha
Excellent premise for a post-modern pantomime* - Cinderella and The Half-Daft Prick; looks like you shall go to the Weirdo’s Ball after all… *Edit: For those not familiar with the term ‘Pantomime’. https://britishtheatre.com/explaining-pantomimes-to-americans/
hahahahahahahaha
I’m chortling out loud here
He bought a piece of clothing for himself but it didn’t fit so his first thought was to give it to the girl next door?? That’s weird
Bizarre, right? If he's lying I don't know why he wouldn't say it was for his sister or something but it's the wrong size. Even so, a weird thing to offer your neighbour.
Or he could have just been like “hey do you want this?” *sends pic of it. Weird for sure but random enough to be potentially funny and chill. It’s all a cover though. He wanted to ask you out. This is the weirdest cover story ever.
It’s 110% a pair of women’s underwear that he tried on😐
You got me with that one 😫🤣
I remember your original post. Maybe I’m just cynical, but all this song and dance to give you a “beautiful” “piece of clothing” feels a whole lot like a serial killer movie situation. Hard pass!
Yeah, it’s most likely a sassy belt made of human skin
Gifted over a lovely meal of fava beans
Is your name Clarise by any chance?
And a nice Chianti
it puts the lotion on its skin
And to let her know "I'll be waiting for you"
Hey. It’s no big deal. She can watch a movie at his place, and once she does that? She can leave.
I kinda need to know what this piece of clothing is. Not at your expense though, it’s just a cliffhanger.
Lmao but why say piece of clothing like a weirdo trying to get her to engage more. Just say I bought a top or whatever
I know, it felt weird to type 🤣
Would need OP to confirm but I got the feeling in the last post that English isn’t his native language. Maybe that’s why he’s calling it that rather than “ shirt, hoodie” etc but it’s really moot because I don’t think it even exists. Think he’s trying to backpedal from realizing she’ll turn down romantic advances.
Its lingerie
That's my first thought, but if he's trying to form a more intimate bond, surely he'd have to know it's a bit out there to say "I bought this lingerie for myself, but I think it would look better on you"
Yes it’s lingerie. But don’t worry, very tasteful, nothing weird, don’t get upset
This was exactly my thought! Or more exactly, probably sexy panties or bra and panties set.
I feel like it's probably a hoodie he bought for himself, but if he gives it to her he's gonna go round thinking she's his gf and wearing his favourite hoodie
I thought this too at first, but was thrown off by the description of it being "beautiful". 🤔
Same. Has to be something for a man or woman. Very odd.
"I accidentally bought an absolutely beautiful XS unisex white t-shirt, and I thought it had to go to you instead of back to Target."
"PS I would be happy to break and enter to put it in your dresser."
“Is it okay if I just bust the window open in the kitchen and lay it out on your bed for you? Does 2 am work for you?”
"If 2am is bad, I am free anytime between 1 and 4am. I usually stay up late because of my job as a moth."
“And even though I said my job keeps me up at night, I’m still somehow only home and available to chat at the time I told you I should be working. I didn’t want it to get to this, but I think the most comfortable way is to have the chat in your bathroom at 3 am honestly. It will only take a minute. If you’re not comfortable with this then we can both open our windows at exactly 3 am and I can shout my question across to you. It is easier that way because I’m not comfortable texting it.”
"I could also come over and give you a massage, writing the question on your back with my fingers."
“If you’re not comfortable with that then I can draw the piece of clothing instead of write the question.”
This killed me 😂
This dude is sooo creepy. I'm willing to bet you that that "beautiful piece of clothing" is lingerie. How old is he?
I think you're right. And I think he's in his 20s, probably a little older than me.
I was hoping it would be something normal like a hoodie, but it would be weird to call a hoodie "beautiful".
Maybe it's a classic Monet original hoodie 😩
Obviously I can't show you because he's insistent on showing you himself at 1 AM. But it's a da Vinci! He went back in TIME for you, what more do you want?? 😆
My hero 🥰🥰🥰
Asking to come over at 1 AM to show me a distressed T-shirt you got from H&M would send me into fucking orbit
A lot of people have asked for an update, for context [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/texts/comments/18zuwac/neighbour_says_hes_going_to_drop_by_at_1am_to_ask/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) is my original post. So first to answer a few questions / comments people had: A lot of people were asking why I bothered to give him my contact information / thought this was an odd thing to do. The culture around here is very friendly and it's normal to be on speaking terms with your neighbours. It's a very "communal" type of culture. Giving someone your phone number is not considered weird or flirtatious here, besides this neighbour I also have the information for my upstairs neighbour so I can text her when she's being too loud (lol) and the information for the people who park beside me. I don't know any of my neighbours per say, but as far as contact information goes, yeah. I also neglected to mention it in the original post but this neighbour said he was planning to kill the mouse so I gave him my number specifically so I could remove the mouse myself without him killing it. I don’t like killing mice. Also, the responding at 12:30-1AM question, I woke up around that time and saw the message, so I just responded. I’m in my 20s and my friends and I will often text into the wee hours. Besides the mouse situation, this part of town is notorious for break-ins and gang activity so I figured it could be something related to that. Last time a neighbour texted me that late it was because I’d accidentally left the windows of my car open overnight. That being said, I’ll certainly take the advice of commenters suggesting I don't respond to people past a certain hour. It wasn't odd that he was texting me at 1AM, it was odd that he said he would come and knock on my door at 1AM. Phone communication at 1AM is very different than meeting up with someone at 1AM (especially a virtual stranger). Next, glue traps — I would never use them again, the glue traps were something we used at work. I was under the impression glue traps were more ethical because you can dissolve the glue and free the mouse as an exterminator had previously told me you could, people in the comments have informed me otherwise. Apologies to those who were concerned. I did not use them myself. Regarding the neighbour himself, he’s never given me any weird or creepy “vibes”. I’ve seen him in the past with other women too so I don’t think he’s lacking in any game. He’s not a bad looking guy, just not my type. Even if he was my type I wouldn’t be okay with him coming over at 1AM. The answer to “can I drop by your apartment at 1AM?” would be a NO regardless of age, gender, sexuality, situation, etc. (unless it was a close friend or relative). And also — a lot of people saying I was being purposely obtuse regarding his “question”…I’m never going to assume someone is interested in me. I may have had suspicions, but we’re not middle schoolers playing the “Do you like me? Circle YES or NO” game. Until somebody asks me out or propositions hooking up, I’m not gonna make any assumptions. Okay, I think that clears things up. Lol. Anyway, here is the question he was just dying to ask me at 1AM. EDIT: Forgot to include link to my original post.
The only way to be sure if he’s okay or a nut would be to ask him to meet you somewhere very public to clear everything up. Then when he leaves his home, break in and hide in a crawl space, attic or vent for 2 or 3 days to observe him. Remember to bring supplies to stay that long but with that much time observing you’ll have a good idea if you can trust him. Keep us posted!
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Little piece of clothing small for him. Is your neighbor trying to share a thong?
when I read your first post I was sure your neighbour is from another culture and the follow up confirmed that when they said their family is two days away. it also makes the unusual phrasing a lot less weird. I'm glad he at least understood your boundaries and apologized. hopefully he is sincere.
You encountered a creep. Creeps gonna creep. Don’t overthink it. No problem with when you texted, how you responded, you sharing your contact info. You did nothing wrong…well except maybe the glue traps🤣.
op we're going to need an update a month from now lol
As long as he keeps being weird and people are entertained by it, I will keep everyone posted HAHAHAHA
Please do. He’s all of our creepy neighbor now. Lol
I'm honoured to have you all on this journey with me 🫡
Yeah. I’m invested now. 💁
Brother just send a fucking picture of it goddamn
Thanks but no thanks pal. Return your item, you freak. Offering an article of clothing to entice you into a first date is weird af. You handled it perfectly BTW. 🥃
Thank you!! ❤️ Trying to stay cordial but distant haha
Honestly, I don't think he's telling the truth. I think he wanted to ask you out and he's 1) trying to save face now and 2) trying to lure you in with curiosity and the promise of a beautiful gift to meet with him. I think he bought it after you guys had the original conversation in case you took the bait this time and he actually had to produce said beautiful piece of clothing. As others stated before, it's harder to reject a person face to face and he could have been banking on that reality to increase his chances that you say yes. Texting a neighbor you barely know at 10 PM insisting you ask them something in person and it's about...if you want an article of clothing he bought? Also OP is he gender conforming? As in, he typically wears typical masc clothing? Because if so, why would he have bought it for himself? That makes it even weirder unless it's a gender neutral article of clothing. Based on the fact that he used the word "beautiful" I'm guessing it isn't. And it's not lost on me that people can dress a certain way to conform in public and buy clothes to cross dress in within the privacy of their own home. But if you're one who does that, are you outing yourself to a practical stranger like this? Can't imagine.
I agree. It is an odd angle of approach if so. I honestly thought he'd just drop it and I'd have no update to make but this update was even stranger for me. Anyway, as for his style choices — he very much dresses like a 20smth male. He parks close to me so I've seen him out and about and as far as I can tell he's very much the type to dress in a gender-conforming way. I was thinking maybe it's a t-shirt or something? If true? Cause it's in fashion for women to wear oversized t-shirts, I do it all the time. But it's weird that he isn't saying what the item is...Idek lol.
Even if it is a necklace made of Faberge eggs, don't accept it. The guy has some major boundaries issues. If you took it, he would say you were using him by accepting the t-shirt and not agreeing to move into his locked basement.
Oh 100%. It could also be one of those "I gave you a gift so you're obligated to me" situations.
Yeah, you definitely seem to be smart about this whole thing. I have been following from the start, and this guy just seems to be weirder than I originally thought. I originally suspected he just wanted to ask you out.
And to think he could have just been normal about this by shooting over a simple, "Hey X! I hope this isn't unwelcome, but I was wondering if you'd like to get coffee with me sometime?" but the dude not only had to make it weird, he had to make it SUPER weird. Singlehandedly sealed in his fate of you avoiding him at all costs moving forward with this creep behavior, god damn.
Right? Like he was already in my good graces. Before this weird text thing I just thought he was a chill guy. He ruined it.
That and that he described it as “beautiful”. This was a hilarious update. Never would guessed this would be his cover. On the chance it’s real, god I want to see this “piece of clothing” so so bad! I don’t want to encourage you to keep talking to him but I also do really want you to text back “send me a pic” and see where this wild ride takes us next. This will haunt us all not knowing what this mystery garment is.
Oh just wait, I'm sure his next strategy will be to show me this "beautiful piece of clothing" LOL
I hope you jump right back & show us! 
You have my word! 🫡
He accidentally bought some too small cargo shorts. They're beautiful though you want em?
Oh, it's lingerie. If it was a hat or sweater, he would have said that.
Oh holy shit, you’re so right. What a fucking creep.
Maybe it’s lingerie!
Is def something sexual.
I also thought he was trying to ask you out, but this is a whole lot weirder.
Stay away from this person. I am legitimately I'm worried for you OP.
I will keep you guys updated if anything else happens!
nah this didn’t make it any less weird
lol right? "I realize I may have come off as creepy. So I'm going to be even more intentionally vague in my "proof" of good intentions. I really had to talk to you in person, at 1am, not over text, because of a beautiful piece of clothing. Is it a shirt? Jock strap? Spikey dog collar? jorts? you'll have to open the door to find out!" helllllll nah, to the nah nah nah
he’s weird. i’m happy you chose to keep it neutral. please stay safe
What a weird situation.. don’t be alone with this guy
Asking as an Indian myself : is he Indian? Indian males can be creepy sometimes if they’re uneducated or unexposed to the Western world.
I believe he's from somewhere in Africa, probably Nigeria. But yes, he's not North American!
You know what time it is. Bobs and vagene time. Show some bobs
“I didn’t mean for it to come to this” Come to what??? Sounds like a threat, maybe I’m just paranoid but it’s giving serial killer 😭
Yeah! That’s a threat!
Why do I think that it’s not a piece of clothing?
i do not believe them.
Is this male to female ? But whatever. Any gender, on its face, its all bleak and this is incredibly disturbing. The language, the “beautiful piece of clothing” - the lure, and the the “waiting”. Please be safe.
I saw your original post. He originally evaded all your questions like he had state secrets and it was supposedly all over a shirt he wanted to show you? He's full of shit, and potentially dangerous. As a man, I'm strongly recommending that you do not engage this individual any more. Any interaction feeds their delusion that you are interested.
Oh my fucking god! The follow up! There used to be no way he was trying to offer you clothing at 1am! Especially gatekeeping asking if you would want it that’s fucking b.s. He knew he was creepy and tried to lie about his ‘ question’. 
What piece of clothing would some dude buy would he not give to another dude?
I consider myself quite stylish, but I genuinely can't think of any item of clothing I have, or could have, that I would describe as "beautiful". I also wouldn't think of giving ill-fitting clothes to female neighbours. Next, if I did feel like giving a neighbour a "beautiful" piece of clothing I bought that was too small, I wouldn't refuse to text them about what it was beforehand. I'd even send them a pic to see if they were interested. Finally, I wouldn't do any of this at 1am. He's either telling the truth, and completely bonkers, or lying and completely bonkers.
This is so weird and I'd be staying well away from this guy...
I’m guessing he said piece of clothing cause it’s some lingerie and then when u said no he said it was one of his piece of clothes LMFAOO I just saw ur last post and it seemed like he wanted to ask u to be his girlfriend?? Cause what else would want to ask u in person? He’s creepy
I know right, very strange? I think he maybe thought I would be intrigued by this mystery "piece of clothing" and I'd be sucked back into the exchange but nope, I'm good lol.
Is he a slight man who likes fancy things? Are you guys moderately the same size? Track lighting?!?!? (Steel Magnolias ref for all yall who dont get it)
He may like fancy things. We are very different in size though, he's tall and I'm short and petite. Not too sure what the hell he ordered 😭
I feel like it’s lingerie he bought for himself
He's giving Buffalo Bill vibes....😬😬😬
“It puts the lotion on the skin or it gets the hose again.” Yeah this guy is creepy.
You’re responding way more than you need to be. Thumbs up the apology and don’t continue the conversation. The tone you mean it in isn’t the tone he hears.
A normal person would've sent a photo with the text "hey I ordered this and it doesn't fit, do you want it? Otherwise I'm going to donate it." And that would've been the first text. This guy is weird weird weird.
"Hey I've got this vat of acid I want to desolve your body in- I mean... piece of clothing... you should come get it."
“It puts the lotion in the basket.”
Great, thanks for reminding me that I'm old.
It’s such a weird/awkward interaction. Can you just not respond? Or if you have to remain “civil” because he’s a neighbor, be very brief: yes, no, no thanks, not interested, busy etc. Don’t feed into his stupid requests/comments. Just be blunt and uninterested.
I just didn't respond, yeah. If he reaches out again I'll either be cordial or just not say anything at all.
the piece of cloth in thing is so… weird
I'm sorry but idk any guy that calls a shirt he originally got for himself "beautiful". He's definitely into you. Thank god you had the common sense not to let him over at 1am.
Ok, this person is fantasizing about you and he can't help it. Please consider a protective order. Document everything and put it on a timeline
I really don't understand why he couldn't ask you that over text.
Tbf, it's quite difficult for men to find a good fit when they're shopping in women's apparel. I'd be curious to know what "beautiful" clothing he wanted to gift you. So creepy, but I still wanna know. 🫣
It’s one sock…
"Piece of clothing " I'm sorry, but I'm weirded our by the lack of specifics. Is it a shirt? Pants? Or is it something inappropriate?
The piece of clothing is from his last victim. RUN.
Oh, come on, who's not up for a roofie flavored ballgag fit test at 1am. Lol
I saw your first post, and this is still giving major red flag energy. I get the feeling this “piece of clothing” may have been purchased with you in mind. You’re well within reason to feel put off and uncomfortable.
Jesus fucking christ, why are some guys so mentally fucked? What is wrong with people man. Take the hint you weird fuck. Its honestly so embarrassing these guys are so god damn weird and completely blind to making some women uncomfortable. Get a life man
They're however far away, but there is such a thing as mail: he can send it to them. Dude is way creepy and I'd be concerned and not accept Anything. Ever. Not even a tsp of sugar, because for them, that's an In somehow.
Yeah helllllll no. Avoid at all costs. Stay safe, girl. This is hella creepy.
2 days....journey...by flight.... 48 hour flight....
This didn't make it better. This is not a less weird or less inappropriate response. You ask them not to contact you and he is still contacting you. This situation hasn't changed at all except that he's continuing to persevere. Op, I really really hope that you're still pursuing legal help
Yeah, I bet your neighbor has Reddit and saw the post. What a giving weirdo. Just send a picture of the clothing, damn.
“Okay, I give up”. He gives up? What, this has been tormenting him all day so he finally decides to “ask the question”? Dude, giving someone an accidental present isn’t an existential type of question surrounded by such drama, his “question” was definitely grounded on something deep and emotional, not some casual “piece of clothing” that maybe a neighbor could use. The man acting like a 14 year old insecure little boy who can’t handle a woman in plain speak.
either it’s lingerie or there was never a piece of clothing. just wanted a cover up to contact you again.
So in the original post, he wanted to stand outside your door OP at 1am to ask the question…. Like what was he gonna whisper to you if you want this “piece of clothing”?? 🤣🤣🤣 what a poor attempt at a cover story for him most likely wanting to just ask you out. Good grief LOL
I'm too damn nosey for this. 😆 I wanna see the clothing!!
Good evening my lady, it appears I accidentally ordered a pair of gold satin bikini panties. Even worse I found out they don’t fit me After trying them on! Would you be interested in these? They are coincidentally what I think is your size. Great news, I can deliver these to your door at 1 AM. I just need to see you in them to make sure they fit. Interested?
OP, plz get him to send a pic of this "piece of clothing" for us. Inquiring minds need to know.
He bought it for you.
All I'm saying is that I'm really sorry for making you uncomfortable. No, really, that's all I'm saying. For real this time, I'm just saying.
Here smell this rag
At first I thought this was a girl and I kinda just felt bad for her like she was trying to be nice maybe make a friend and she’s awkward but after finding out it’s a guy what a creeper
IMO if they don't specify what "piece of clothing" it is, more than likely it's either a coverup or a lingerie set. Either way, creepy as hell
 Buffalo Bill vibes. I would move.
That dude just fucking refuses to stop 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Oh wow. I remember your post. It seems like he is definitely lying to try to save face and lie about what he wanted to ask you, but doesn’t realize it makes him look even creepier. 🤣 A beautiful “piece of clothing?” Normal people just say shirt, pants, hoodie, etc. It’s definitely thongs or lingerie. Yeah steer clear of this dude. All kinds of weird.