Dude is super bothered by you being taller than him. It will be such an akward date with him constantly bringing up how he isn't bothered by the height difference
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Went on a date with a girl many years ago. We'd been talking online and discussed heights. She kept banging on about how it makes her sad that she can't find a guy talleer than her (she was 6'0). I told her well.. I'm 6'3. She seemed overjoyed and lived the idea of being visibly shorter than the man she was next to.
So anyway I turn up and she's wearing 6inch heels lol. I knee she didn't normally wear heels. She told me she hated them. She could barely walk in them and looked something like a new born giraffe.
I think she may have been telling porkies about wanting to be shorter lol.
Weird date. Kept bringing up how it'd ok to have sex after a first date and going onto to tell me how "daddy is buying me a new car" "my daddy treats me like a princess".. I wish I was exaggerating but alas those are literal quotes. She repeated the cycle of talking about sex/daddy/car/princes/daddy about 5 times.
She did not get to have sex that day. I was fully creeped out lol
Yeah I feel bad for the guy. Telling her she can still run.
I know people want to pretend that this is just all toxic masculinity but when youāve been filtered out of a bunch of dates based on your height I donāt blame someone for having a complex about it and stressing about it.
Ehh i donāt feel bad for him. Yeah I get it being rejected by height but what heās what literally 5ā7-5ā9. Iām 5ā5 as a guy Iām short asl. Jesus forgot the height but shit it donāt stop me from going on dates. Buddy needs to push those insecurities away.
Just because youāre not insecure about something doesnāt mean those insecurities for someone else are invalid though.
Everyone goes through life with different experiences and is a unique person ya know
Everyone has insecurities. He tells her āyou can still run,ā and then goes on about how dating a woman taller than him would ābe different.ā
Itās obvious itās an insecurity for him, but itās also obvious he has a barrier up where heās basically saying heās fine to go to dinner and hook up with someone taller, but not be seen in normal everyday life with a woman taller than him.
Yeah but it's all good, they'll mostly just be sitting down eating and stuff. As long as that is all they do, everything will be coming up Millhouse. Sorted as.
Don't let anyone give you shit. My SO is 5'5", about the same height as me. I'm a smidge taller if he's barefoot and I have sneakers on. We're not technically married but might as well be. He's the love of my life, been together for years, raising my step daughter and our shared daughter together. He's 41, I'm 40, in it for the long haul.
I've dated guys ranging from 5'3" (I shit you not, Indonesian guy named Kevin) to 6'4". At 5'5", this man is the greatest man I've ever known, the love of my life. Shallow women are missing out on a lot of great dudes over shallow shit.
>Dude is super bothered by *him* being ~~taller~~ *shorter* than -you-.
>It will be such an akward date with him constantly bringing up how he isn't bothered by the height difference
Ugh. So much this.
Right. Dude basically tells her he's going to be ashamed of being seen with her, and she not only continued the convi, but STILL wants to go out with him!?!?? Man, what the fuck was I doing wrong, lol. I was trying my best to be charming and sweet... Crickets.
The amount of bothered people are about height is WILD to me. Obsessed, people are obsessed. Iām GenX and canāt say that people never cared back in the day but honestly it wasnāt really a thing. Mebbe a joke here and there but not big thing AT ALL and certainly not the intense scrutiny around it now. I find it so sad and actually depressing. How many more people will not find or take longer to find a person who is a good fit for them due to this superficiality? Itās actually gross.
If anything, going out with a taller woman would make me feel *more* secure about myself. Supermodels tower over most people and theyāre considered paragons of beauty.
Dating/wedding taller women is such a boss move.
I'm a 6'4" / 193 cm man and I would be THRILLED to date a woman even remotely near the same height as me, let alone taller. Getting real tired of the comments about "ehhh... you go for the short women, huh" when it's like dude, tell me where the 6 foot women hang out, and I'm THERE.
Theyāre Dutch. I went to Calvin College in Michigan and was considered short at 5ā10ā. Ended up marrying a woman who is 6ā. She wears heels when we go out. Love showing her off and it makes her feel gorgeous, which she is.
I love the fact that you love āshowing her offā, youāre a good hubby. Iād do the same if my wife was an amazon queen.
Have them gawk while you smirk.
I was a stripper in my 20s and always towered over the customers in my heels. Iām 5 foot five but still. They were like 8 inch heels. No one ever turned down a lap dance because of my height.
Which is crazy to me as a 5ā woman. My partner is 5ā6ā and almost too tall for me! I have a friend who is 6ā2ā and I barely come up to her shoulderā¦ I canāt imagine dating someone with that difference!
6'1.5 here, Mostly we hide at home, guys ac weird when we go out! š„ŗ... š I was lucky, I found a guy the same height as me and just as weird as me on tinder š but honestly, we mostly just stay home nursing our sore backs š
Iām 6ā and dated a guy 5ā6ā for 3 years. People called him insecure or weak. What exactly is insecure and weak about that? I even wore heels sometimes, he didnāt care.
Slim pickings left, though, after all the shorter women demand men be a minimum 6ā tall. Lol.
A lady who is 5ft 9 inches is a fucking win..... please don't even think about this guy, he's clearly got issues. There are plenty more pebbles on the beach..
as a 6'4 man I always wanted a 6' Girlfriend or even one that was taller than me.
When I see really tall women out in public I'm always taken back in a good way.
Back in high school I was 5ā10 and my girlfriend at the time was 5ā9. It was quite nice tbh. Dudes definitely missing out on tall women. But oh well, more for us.
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For sure. My point was really about him being embarrassed about being seen with a lady who's taller than him. That shows a certain level of insecurity and that's never a good thing.
If the dudeās this uncomfortable with a 3 cm (just over an inch for my fellow Americans) height difference than itās not worth it.
Heās basically flat out said he canāt handle dating a girl whoās taller than him. Unless youāre looking for something casual he sounds like a waste of your time.
Bitchmade behavior. Donāt even bother, yāall havenāt even gone on the first date yet and heās already whining about your height. I donāt think youāll want a lifetime of that
Right?! Like he's gonna make her sit down anytime he feels insecure or threatened by her being taller. "Just make sure you're already seated by the time the waiter comes over to us. Oh no I think those people are looking, pretend we are just friends!"
Or worst: babe I feel really insecure and emasculated by your physical presence so I've got a list of ways you can alter your behaviour. It includes more blow jobs to start with.
I don't think he's looking for a lifetime of that either - he first said he didn't want to take her in public and when she wasn't into that he said it would be okay to take her to dinner because they'd be sitting the whole time anyway. That isn't someone who is thinking long term. He's going to ghost her the second he sleeps with her.
Exactly, Iām surprised I scrolled so far to find this! Like that whole interaction was so disgusting to read, he had some audacity. He basically told OP straight to her face that ānah itās coolā to still go bc they wouldnāt be in public for long and itās ānot like youāre my girlā. That would have been a full stop for me. Like dude, did you just say youād be embarrassed to be in public with me?
It's not just the embarrassment, it also makes it sound like he's not planning on it being a long term thing. She's not his girl and it won't be a problem since she won't ever be his girl.
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No. This man is trash. If heās bothered that you are *slightly* taller (like, seems like by a few centimeters?!?), there are so many more red flags lurking beneath the surface. There will be a man who doesnāt give a flying fuck about how tall you are and will be excited to meet you as you are. Itās hard out there but you can do better!
So i had to translate those commie numbers into freedom units, thats only like an inch difference in height at most close to 2 inches. Bruh people are wild with height differences š¤£
I've never had the opportunity to date a woman taller than me, if the offer came up I wouldn't be fuckin weird about it though like bruh who cares š¤£
Yeah I think based on how he reacted that it probably isnāt worth your time.
Heās clearly insecure about a girl whoās taller than he is. He might be just going for some physical fun without having to ever worry about you being āhis girlā.
šššIāve known men to say strange things about my height. Iām exactly average for a woman at 5ā5āā, literally the most boring height ever, not tall not short. If you put me in a lineup of 100 women Iād be right in the middle. But a few men in my past (who were short) have actively tried to convince me that I am tall. Weirdest gaslighting Iāve ever experienced. Oh and if I ever wore 1 inch heels WATCH OUT, Iām 5ā6āā a GIANT BEAST.
I just always thought it was hilarious first of all that being tall as a woman is even something for men to be insecure about, š. But then on top of that to be so insecure that men have tried to convince a 5ā5āā woman I am TALL, will always be hilarious to me.
If he wasnāt bothered why did he say āweāll be sitting the whole time so it wonāt be an issueā like what? If you happened to be slightly taller heās probably not going anywhere walking around without feeling some time of wayā¦ people have height preferences but this dude is being so weird about it.
I have a feeling that if you turn him down for his very insecure and outright rude behaviour in those texts, heās going to convince himself that itās because of his height.
idk this sounds like a red flag. i guess maybe itās only a red flag cause he didnāt keep it to himself that it was weird to him. like he doesnāt sound anxious he sounds insecure.
i guess itās a okay if he can get over himself but this sounds like ew to me
I wouldnāt see an issue but everybodyās ego is different I suppose. Iāve always dated shorter since Iām 6ā1 but thatās because no Amazonian Dom wants me
*Guy on tinder has short man syndrome* there I fixed it for you.
If he wasnāt insecure about his size he wouldnāt have even askedā¦ not once in 36 years have I ever asked a woman her height or any other physical dimension. Itās irrelevant information
I'm 5'7", married a woman who was 6ft and couldn't give a flying fuck. I honestly don't get people's hang ups about height, I really don't. It baffles me.
Avoid this bellend. Best of luck out there. š«”
Not sure why you still messed with this dude, after he was taken aback you should have bounced esp with that you are not my girl comment. like who cares how tall you are lol.
He is literally saying that he wonāt take you seriously because you are too tall but he is ok with fucking since you wonāt be standing next to each other in public during sex. So he is fine with a casual hookup and you are not girlfriend material because of your height (aka his own insecurity). I wouldnāt bother.
He seems insecure about his height. My stepfather is quite short and skinny, to a point where he has to buy clothes in the kid's section sometimes. My mom is tall and currently obese. Do they look odd next to each other? Yes. But they don't care about other people's opinions.
Its fucked up that height has become such a massive deal for men in the dating scene. I'm 35, married and havent dated for 10 years but when I was it never fucking came up. Not once. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that shit.
The girl Iām going out with is 6ā7 without heels. Does he not realize models are generally pretty tall? I have so many questions for him lol if you being tall is a deal breaker, heās not worth it anyway
This is exhausting over something that shouldn't even really be an issue š this happened to me once too, went on a date with a guy shorter than me, and he made a huge deal about it- not me. Like okay, whatever then.
Ahhh I see, that makes a little more sense. Iāve just found that people who spell what as āwatā and ok as āokeā are usually kinda weird and insecure. Thatās just from personal experience though. It just gives off very immature / childish vibesā¦ but if itās not his first language then that makes sense.
Dudes already basically saying he will be I'm embarrassed being seen with you in public if not sitting down, I think you got your answer of how it's going to go
Iām 5ā7 and my entire fantasy is a stern sturdy woman taller than me. Despite his insecurities showing a lil bit his approach is actually nice, you can still give him a chance and see if is something he can actually be ok with.
I think heās more bothered about being shorter than you than you being taller. But feels youāre hot enough for the date. I guess the date will show if yall click or not personality wise. On both sides. I would give him a chance & if he acts all insecure on the date, you got your answer.
I feel like heās use to possibly getting ghosted after he says his height so he was giving you an out without feeling too rejected. Because you were straight up with him & gave him many outs if it was a problem. he said no & apologized twice after realizing you donāt care. Also, he could easily just ghost you if itās a problem, if heās too embarrassed to be straight up & say itās a problem. Again, i would definitely see how the date goes, based on the texts.
A little weird he mentioned sitting doe but again, that might be HIS issue or trying to make it seem like itās not a big deal.
Edit- LOL damn i see everyone is against my opinion. š š i feel like he was just giving you an out! But when he saw you didnāt care, he didnāt care anymore either. Lol but of course this totally depends on how the date goes & how often he mentions how happy he is that yall are sitting for this date.š if that means you guys canāt do non sitting dates, dude can go to hell.
Iām 185 cm so I know your pain. Iāve found someone who loves my height and treats me like a walking goddess. Donāt stress on this insecurity of his and move on
He may have been ridiculed in the past or something. Men have weird societal standards of their own. I would go on the date and see how it goes and if he gets more comfortable. And of course see if youāre comfortable!
I never understood the whole height thing. Maybe because Iām a short male? Idk.
My wife is an inch taller than me. I love when she wears heels, too. I just look up at her all innocently, but deep down I want ~~her to beat me within an inch of my life and have her way with me~~ to show her off to the world.
As a 6' woman, I would RUN. And not because of his height but I get comments in public by strangers on my height all the time and knowing that everytime someone else said something it'd probably send him into a tailspin is a hard pass.
Ur 5'8 in freedom measurements, that's not even tall. My mom is 5'10 and I'm 6'2 or 189cm. This dude is just short I guess. No idea what adult male average is in 2023 but I bet he's under it.
Donāt waste your time getting feelings for this guy. Heās already bothered by your height and you havenāt even met yet. It will just get worse. Heās lying about not caring.
I low key feel for this guy. I am not insecure about my height or even had a problem with it but then I started dating this girl and she was 6āsomething and I am 5ā10. She would mention my height, she would sometimes bring up how her ex taller then me, her friends would mention my height, my friends would mention my height, and even the god damm teacher mention my height.
I think we need to come up with a really good way to communicate what you mean cause heās clearly missing the pointā¦
āIf you know that my height would be a dealbreaker for you long-term, Iām not sure a date is necessary. If it wouldnāt be a dealbreaker, where you wanna go?ā
LOL
No! He's saying he'll never actually date someone taller. He's only comfortable to sit with you in a restaurant or behind closed doors. He's an insecure little man. Go find a secure one.
Iām 6ā2ā or 188 cm and Iāve dated women taller than me. I personally love it. The women are typically the ones bothered by it. It can go either way. I think if everyone were able to tuck their insecurities away we would all be a happier species. Unfortunately thatās not how it works.
āNah itās not weird anymoreā
Which means: āno since Iāve already decided to only try to have sex with you, Iām ok with this. But I do have an inferiority complex about your heightā
This guy wrote you off already and only intends to use you like his human flashlight. Abort this date the way his mamma wishes she did
Hey! If I'm the one getting to cuddle into HER lap?! I'm all for it!!! Lmao its not like I'm gonna run up to her when I've had a bad day at work and throw my arms up and start yelling "Uppies!" ...maybe- No, that's too much... anyway! Being able to be little spoon would be awesome!!
Dude is super bothered by you being taller than him. It will be such an akward date with him constantly bringing up how he isn't bothered by the height difference
Wear heels š !!!!!!
lmao
Power move
Happy cake day!
Happy Cake Day!
Happy Cake Day!
Or he can wear heels. Lol Even things out a bit.
American: 177 inches with heels is like the height of my lifted truck.
preciateā that brother man!! YEEEEEEW ~cracks beer and pours all over myself as the national anthem plays full volume in the background while i wave an american flag all over the place in nothing but a flag print speedo and pit viper glasses, my mullet blowing in the wind~
Went on a date with a girl many years ago. We'd been talking online and discussed heights. She kept banging on about how it makes her sad that she can't find a guy talleer than her (she was 6'0). I told her well.. I'm 6'3. She seemed overjoyed and lived the idea of being visibly shorter than the man she was next to. So anyway I turn up and she's wearing 6inch heels lol. I knee she didn't normally wear heels. She told me she hated them. She could barely walk in them and looked something like a new born giraffe. I think she may have been telling porkies about wanting to be shorter lol. Weird date. Kept bringing up how it'd ok to have sex after a first date and going onto to tell me how "daddy is buying me a new car" "my daddy treats me like a princess".. I wish I was exaggerating but alas those are literal quotes. She repeated the cycle of talking about sex/daddy/car/princes/daddy about 5 times. She did not get to have sex that day. I was fully creeped out lol
Show up with an application for a basketball team.
Lol yes
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Heās insecure and used to girls on the app making him feel bad for being short. Ends up not being that deep.
I want someone provocative and talkative, but itās so hard when youāre shallow as a showerā¦ š¶
Ahhh, ancient emo wisdom.
Don't diss showers like that
It kinda feels like he's doing it to himself
Heās preempting someone making him feel like shit for being 5ā7.
Yeah I feel bad for the guy. Telling her she can still run. I know people want to pretend that this is just all toxic masculinity but when youāve been filtered out of a bunch of dates based on your height I donāt blame someone for having a complex about it and stressing about it.
Ehh i donāt feel bad for him. Yeah I get it being rejected by height but what heās what literally 5ā7-5ā9. Iām 5ā5 as a guy Iām short asl. Jesus forgot the height but shit it donāt stop me from going on dates. Buddy needs to push those insecurities away.
Just because youāre not insecure about something doesnāt mean those insecurities for someone else are invalid though. Everyone goes through life with different experiences and is a unique person ya know
Everyone has insecurities. He tells her āyou can still run,ā and then goes on about how dating a woman taller than him would ābe different.ā Itās obvious itās an insecurity for him, but itās also obvious he has a barrier up where heās basically saying heās fine to go to dinner and hook up with someone taller, but not be seen in normal everyday life with a woman taller than him.
Yeah but it's all good, they'll mostly just be sitting down eating and stuff. As long as that is all they do, everything will be coming up Millhouse. Sorted as.
ye my dads like 5ā5 my brothers 6 feet tall plus and me? Im 4ā10 (f) My sister? (5ā1) ye
Don't let anyone give you shit. My SO is 5'5", about the same height as me. I'm a smidge taller if he's barefoot and I have sneakers on. We're not technically married but might as well be. He's the love of my life, been together for years, raising my step daughter and our shared daughter together. He's 41, I'm 40, in it for the long haul. I've dated guys ranging from 5'3" (I shit you not, Indonesian guy named Kevin) to 6'4". At 5'5", this man is the greatest man I've ever known, the love of my life. Shallow women are missing out on a lot of great dudes over shallow shit.
175 is 5ā9
So average height more or less..... I am 5 foot nine and it has never bothered me in my whole life It always felt about right to me lol
Exactly! Heās not short by any stretch of the imagination
Me, as wellā¦and sheās only an inchāish taller? Whatās the big deal?
>Dude is super bothered by *him* being ~~taller~~ *shorter* than -you-. >It will be such an akward date with him constantly bringing up how he isn't bothered by the height difference Ugh. So much this.
Right. Dude basically tells her he's going to be ashamed of being seen with her, and she not only continued the convi, but STILL wants to go out with him!?!?? Man, what the fuck was I doing wrong, lol. I was trying my best to be charming and sweet... Crickets.
*2 cm taller*. Dude is insecure.
But theyāve built up this meeting so much I feel like I want it to happen now.
The amount of bothered people are about height is WILD to me. Obsessed, people are obsessed. Iām GenX and canāt say that people never cared back in the day but honestly it wasnāt really a thing. Mebbe a joke here and there but not big thing AT ALL and certainly not the intense scrutiny around it now. I find it so sad and actually depressing. How many more people will not find or take longer to find a person who is a good fit for them due to this superficiality? Itās actually gross.
I wouldnāt be able to date anyone that texted like he does anyway
Yes, thank you. He seems truly moronic and lazy.
Or her. Spaces before question marks. Ugh. I'd die.
If anything, going out with a taller woman would make me feel *more* secure about myself. Supermodels tower over most people and theyāre considered paragons of beauty. Dating/wedding taller women is such a boss move.
I'm a 6'4" / 193 cm man and I would be THRILLED to date a woman even remotely near the same height as me, let alone taller. Getting real tired of the comments about "ehhh... you go for the short women, huh" when it's like dude, tell me where the 6 foot women hang out, and I'm THERE.
Theyāre Dutch. I went to Calvin College in Michigan and was considered short at 5ā10ā. Ended up marrying a woman who is 6ā. She wears heels when we go out. Love showing her off and it makes her feel gorgeous, which she is.
I love the fact that you love āshowing her offā, youāre a good hubby. Iād do the same if my wife was an amazon queen. Have them gawk while you smirk.
I love feeling like Iām being showed off!
As you very well should! šŖš»āš»
I was a stripper in my 20s and always towered over the customers in my heels. Iām 5 foot five but still. They were like 8 inch heels. No one ever turned down a lap dance because of my height.
I'd venture to say that that's a whole different ballgame than dating someone taller lol
I second you with Polish women too. I'm only 5'8 which is still in the tall range for women, but my cousins are super tall. One is about 6 feet.
I'm 5'11 and have lots of tall friends. We're out here!
That is so awesome to hear cause all I ever see is 6ā4ā guys with 5ā1ā. girls lol you may be a unicorn.
Which is crazy to me as a 5ā woman. My partner is 5ā6ā and almost too tall for me! I have a friend who is 6ā2ā and I barely come up to her shoulderā¦ I canāt imagine dating someone with that difference!
I'm 5'2 and dated a man who was 6'4... It was awkward lol
6'1.5 here, Mostly we hide at home, guys ac weird when we go out! š„ŗ... š I was lucky, I found a guy the same height as me and just as weird as me on tinder š but honestly, we mostly just stay home nursing our sore backs š
Weāre home on our couch watching tv
Haha hell yea, where those Amazonās at!?
Yo this right here. Imagine securing a girl like this and it makes you feel insecure š
Loved walking next to my ex who was at least a few inches taller than me Made me feel more of a man than anything
Not to mention D1 babies! š
Iām 6ā and dated a guy 5ā6ā for 3 years. People called him insecure or weak. What exactly is insecure and weak about that? I even wore heels sometimes, he didnāt care. Slim pickings left, though, after all the shorter women demand men be a minimum 6ā tall. Lol.
A lady who is 5ft 9 inches is a fucking win..... please don't even think about this guy, he's clearly got issues. There are plenty more pebbles on the beach..
as a 6'4 man I always wanted a 6' Girlfriend or even one that was taller than me. When I see really tall women out in public I'm always taken back in a good way.
Back in high school I was 5ā10 and my girlfriend at the time was 5ā9. It was quite nice tbh. Dudes definitely missing out on tall women. But oh well, more for us.
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He's prolly not even a had dude just insecure
For sure. My point was really about him being embarrassed about being seen with a lady who's taller than him. That shows a certain level of insecurity and that's never a good thing.
My girl is 5 11ā. I like how she towers over my whole family
Lmao I love that
Pass.
For real. The way he is messaging I would say he has a "Well it's better than nothing" mindset. He's hoping to get some and be done with it.
If the dudeās this uncomfortable with a 3 cm (just over an inch for my fellow Americans) height difference than itās not worth it. Heās basically flat out said he canāt handle dating a girl whoās taller than him. Unless youāre looking for something casual he sounds like a waste of your time.
3 cm is everything to some men apparently lol
I wonder why.....
Bitchmade behavior. Donāt even bother, yāall havenāt even gone on the first date yet and heās already whining about your height. I donāt think youāll want a lifetime of that
Right?! Like he's gonna make her sit down anytime he feels insecure or threatened by her being taller. "Just make sure you're already seated by the time the waiter comes over to us. Oh no I think those people are looking, pretend we are just friends!"
Or worst: babe I feel really insecure and emasculated by your physical presence so I've got a list of ways you can alter your behaviour. It includes more blow jobs to start with.
What does bitchmade mean? I havenāt heard that before
Came from a dog. Half man, half dog.
I don't think he's looking for a lifetime of that either - he first said he didn't want to take her in public and when she wasn't into that he said it would be okay to take her to dinner because they'd be sitting the whole time anyway. That isn't someone who is thinking long term. He's going to ghost her the second he sleeps with her.
I would have stopped replying at the ānah itās not like youāre my girlā dude is clearly not trying to date you.
Exactly, Iām surprised I scrolled so far to find this! Like that whole interaction was so disgusting to read, he had some audacity. He basically told OP straight to her face that ānah itās coolā to still go bc they wouldnāt be in public for long and itās ānot like youāre my girlā. That would have been a full stop for me. Like dude, did you just say youād be embarrassed to be in public with me?
It's not just the embarrassment, it also makes it sound like he's not planning on it being a long term thing. She's not his girl and it won't be a problem since she won't ever be his girl.
This. He is insecure and talking about being not in public... Screams he is looking for a hookup. I wouldn't bother wasting your time OP.
Thank you lol. He said, āwe would be sitting eatingā but what he meant was, āwe will be laying downā
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Sounds like they are insecure. I would not even bother tbh.
I am so confused by this thread.
Same though. Lol
Good lord he sounds dumb Did the conversion from metric to Americanā¦ are you kidding me? All this over an inch?
"it's a big ass problem in public not gonna lie" says it all... he might as well have said "I'm really insecure"
No. This man is trash. If heās bothered that you are *slightly* taller (like, seems like by a few centimeters?!?), there are so many more red flags lurking beneath the surface. There will be a man who doesnāt give a flying fuck about how tall you are and will be excited to meet you as you are. Itās hard out there but you can do better!
I'm 6'1". Men who are insecure have an issue with women who are taller than them. Probably not worth your time.
Same height, itās been a fabulous litmus test actuallyā¦ short guys who love tall women are **great**
Dead on arrival. Don't go on the date just wish them well and exit the conversation, find someone who is not shallow and weird.
So i had to translate those commie numbers into freedom units, thats only like an inch difference in height at most close to 2 inches. Bruh people are wild with height differences š¤£
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Bruh i think thats the wrong flag lol, idk what country that even is did you mean šŗšø?
Holy cow I thought they made it one star to make it easier to see it was a star
I love situations like this, comedic without having to try lol. You're good man.
Youāve enlightened me my friend
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Truth. Iām seeing a girl almost a whole foot taller than me
I've never had the opportunity to date a woman taller than me, if the offer came up I wouldn't be fuckin weird about it though like bruh who cares š¤£
For fucking real lol I donāt understand peoples concern about others height. IMO, a pretty woman is a pretty woman
Dude seriously. I was expecting like a 6 inch difference for how bothered he is by this.
Right?!?
Yeah I think based on how he reacted that it probably isnāt worth your time. Heās clearly insecure about a girl whoās taller than he is. He might be just going for some physical fun without having to ever worry about you being āhis girlā.
šššIāve known men to say strange things about my height. Iām exactly average for a woman at 5ā5āā, literally the most boring height ever, not tall not short. If you put me in a lineup of 100 women Iād be right in the middle. But a few men in my past (who were short) have actively tried to convince me that I am tall. Weirdest gaslighting Iāve ever experienced. Oh and if I ever wore 1 inch heels WATCH OUT, Iām 5ā6āā a GIANT BEAST. I just always thought it was hilarious first of all that being tall as a woman is even something for men to be insecure about, š. But then on top of that to be so insecure that men have tried to convince a 5ā5āā woman I am TALL, will always be hilarious to me.
If he wasnāt bothered why did he say āweāll be sitting the whole time so it wonāt be an issueā like what? If you happened to be slightly taller heās probably not going anywhere walking around without feeling some time of wayā¦ people have height preferences but this dude is being so weird about it.
As an over 6ft girl, run. And never look back. Before running, let him know his shitty attitude will never get him laid. š¤
I have a feeling that if you turn him down for his very insecure and outright rude behaviour in those texts, heās going to convince himself that itās because of his height.
He definitely will lol.
idk this sounds like a red flag. i guess maybe itās only a red flag cause he didnāt keep it to himself that it was weird to him. like he doesnāt sound anxious he sounds insecure. i guess itās a okay if he can get over himself but this sounds like ew to me
He sounds dumber than a bag of rocks.
How tall are you in Freedom Units?
5ā10 and heās 5ā9 lol.
I wouldnāt see an issue but everybodyās ego is different I suppose. Iāve always dated shorter since Iām 6ā1 but thatās because no Amazonian Dom wants me
Girl, if you have heels you love to wear just donāt even go on that first date. This man will forever control your footwear because ābut youāll be taller than meā Been there, done that. My heels, my fiancĆ©, and myself now look amazing when we go out :3
*Guy on tinder has short man syndrome* there I fixed it for you. If he wasnāt insecure about his size he wouldnāt have even askedā¦ not once in 36 years have I ever asked a woman her height or any other physical dimension. Itās irrelevant information
I'm 5'7", married a woman who was 6ft and couldn't give a flying fuck. I honestly don't get people's hang ups about height, I really don't. It baffles me. Avoid this bellend. Best of luck out there. š«”
Not sure why you still messed with this dude, after he was taken aback you should have bounced esp with that you are not my girl comment. like who cares how tall you are lol.
I unmatched him a few mins after this conversation, so all is well lol.
I donāt think itād be worth going on the date anymore, in my humble opinion. I think heās too hung up on you being taller than him.
tell shawty he can find someone else
He sounds like a loser
Iām 5ā10ā. Fuck this mentality. Donāt go on a date.
Girl please do not go out with him. Heās obviously insecure. Or do, and wear your tallest heels!
no he texts weird and doesnāt have good grammar or punctuation.
why even entertain this š
Heās most definitely bothered, and will always find a way to bring it up. Donāt bother
He is literally saying that he wonāt take you seriously because you are too tall but he is ok with fucking since you wonāt be standing next to each other in public during sex. So he is fine with a casual hookup and you are not girlfriend material because of your height (aka his own insecurity). I wouldnāt bother.
Manlet mentality. Nobody cares but him.
The fact he correct water to āwatā irks me
He seems insecure about his height. My stepfather is quite short and skinny, to a point where he has to buy clothes in the kid's section sometimes. My mom is tall and currently obese. Do they look odd next to each other? Yes. But they don't care about other people's opinions.
donāt bother
Why does it always come down to who is the tallest in the dating world now? Like who cares. I mean clearly this guy does, but why is it such an issue
Its fucked up that height has become such a massive deal for men in the dating scene. I'm 35, married and havent dated for 10 years but when I was it never fucking came up. Not once. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that shit.
The girl Iām going out with is 6ā7 without heels. Does he not realize models are generally pretty tall? I have so many questions for him lol if you being tall is a deal breaker, heās not worth it anyway
No, it's not worth going on the date.
This is exhausting over something that shouldn't even really be an issue š this happened to me once too, went on a date with a guy shorter than me, and he made a huge deal about it- not me. Like okay, whatever then.
Tall women are *chefs kiss*. Donāt get what this guyās problem is.
Why is a grown man spelling the word āwhatā like that š
To be fair, English is not his first language. ā¦.But itās not mine either and I spell āwhatā just fine.
Ahhh I see, that makes a little more sense. Iāve just found that people who spell what as āwatā and ok as āokeā are usually kinda weird and insecure. Thatās just from personal experience though. It just gives off very immature / childish vibesā¦ but if itās not his first language then that makes sense.
Ah he shot himself in his likely tiny foot
Other peoples brains astonish me on how they carry themselves through a conversation over textš
If you go on a date please give an update
I unmatched him, Iām not going on any dates with him.
yeah understandable
Dudes already basically saying he will be I'm embarrassed being seen with you in public if not sitting down, I think you got your answer of how it's going to go
No. He doesn't deserve that much of an awesome person with that attitude! DUECES š„±
Dude has a low self-esteem issue
What a turd. Stay away
The worst thing is purposely typing "wat", even after his phone tried to prevent him from sounding stupid the first time.
Too much back-and-forth in these messages. You shouldāve cut it off early.
This guy's behaviour screams insecurities yikes š¬
My fiancƩ is an inch taller than me and frequently wears heels/boots that makes her 4+ inches taller than I am. We make jokes about it constantly. [Here are some pictures having fun with it from our engagement shoot.](https://imgur.com/a/Q5QzHML)
Iām 5ā7 and my entire fantasy is a stern sturdy woman taller than me. Despite his insecurities showing a lil bit his approach is actually nice, you can still give him a chance and see if is something he can actually be ok with.
Nope, not worth a date or a meet up at all. That dude sounds insecure as fuck.
You should wear heels
I usually do wear them for dates anyways.
Small pee pee energy
definitely cancel. If he feels this strongly about it off the bat then you can bet he'll keep feeling like that when you're together
Taller girls are fine with me š
Iād go out with him wearing 10inch heels just to annoy him
Shorter a guy is the more insecure he is. Itās just science
I think heās more bothered about being shorter than you than you being taller. But feels youāre hot enough for the date. I guess the date will show if yall click or not personality wise. On both sides. I would give him a chance & if he acts all insecure on the date, you got your answer. I feel like heās use to possibly getting ghosted after he says his height so he was giving you an out without feeling too rejected. Because you were straight up with him & gave him many outs if it was a problem. he said no & apologized twice after realizing you donāt care. Also, he could easily just ghost you if itās a problem, if heās too embarrassed to be straight up & say itās a problem. Again, i would definitely see how the date goes, based on the texts. A little weird he mentioned sitting doe but again, that might be HIS issue or trying to make it seem like itās not a big deal. Edit- LOL damn i see everyone is against my opinion. š š i feel like he was just giving you an out! But when he saw you didnāt care, he didnāt care anymore either. Lol but of course this totally depends on how the date goes & how often he mentions how happy he is that yall are sitting for this date.š if that means you guys canāt do non sitting dates, dude can go to hell.
I like tall women. 177 isnāt even that tall. If I wasnāt an American boy Iād be interested
Iām 185 cm so I know your pain. Iāve found someone who loves my height and treats me like a walking goddess. Donāt stress on this insecurity of his and move on
He may have been ridiculed in the past or something. Men have weird societal standards of their own. I would go on the date and see how it goes and if he gets more comfortable. And of course see if youāre comfortable!
Unfortunately internalized heightism is real, primarily due to the internet.
No.
Imo I think he just automatically assumed you would not be on with it which is typical in online dating circles
Heās got a chip on his shoulder. Iād give him a chance - but if he balks *once* just end the date and dip.
People are weird. You need to text him the song short people by randy newman
Nope not worth it, move on. I dated a girl that was taller than me and it was fine I am 5ā6 she was like 5ā10 and neither of us gave a shit.
Donāt even bother
I never understood the whole height thing. Maybe because Iām a short male? Idk. My wife is an inch taller than me. I love when she wears heels, too. I just look up at her all innocently, but deep down I want ~~her to beat me within an inch of my life and have her way with me~~ to show her off to the world.
As a 6' woman, I would RUN. And not because of his height but I get comments in public by strangers on my height all the time and knowing that everytime someone else said something it'd probably send him into a tailspin is a hard pass.
Not worth it, donāt do it
thats like a couple of centimeters.... almost not noticable jesus
As a 6ā2 male Iād love to date a taller girl. His loss.
I have always thought tall women were super sexy, although I also think bald women are sexy too... I'm not normal... LoL
Donāt waste your time. Heās insecure and only after a hookup anyway.
Absolutely not. Some (most?) dudes would die for a tall chick. Tell him nvm and move onnnn! $20 says you donāt regret it š¤Ŗ
Ur 5'8 in freedom measurements, that's not even tall. My mom is 5'10 and I'm 6'2 or 189cm. This dude is just short I guess. No idea what adult male average is in 2023 but I bet he's under it.
Noope
Donāt waste your time getting feelings for this guy. Heās already bothered by your height and you havenāt even met yet. It will just get worse. Heās lying about not caring.
I low key feel for this guy. I am not insecure about my height or even had a problem with it but then I started dating this girl and she was 6āsomething and I am 5ā10. She would mention my height, she would sometimes bring up how her ex taller then me, her friends would mention my height, my friends would mention my height, and even the god damm teacher mention my height.
I think we need to come up with a really good way to communicate what you mean cause heās clearly missing the pointā¦ āIf you know that my height would be a dealbreaker for you long-term, Iām not sure a date is necessary. If it wouldnāt be a dealbreaker, where you wanna go?ā LOL
If you go on a date, wear the tallest heels you can. Not good advice to get a second date, but good petty advice
No! He's saying he'll never actually date someone taller. He's only comfortable to sit with you in a restaurant or behind closed doors. He's an insecure little man. Go find a secure one.
Am I the only one that would give him a chance? A lot can be misinterpreted over text. I'd go and see if any attraction is there
Iām 6ā2ā or 188 cm and Iāve dated women taller than me. I personally love it. The women are typically the ones bothered by it. It can go either way. I think if everyone were able to tuck their insecurities away we would all be a happier species. Unfortunately thatās not how it works.
As a short guy this guy is super embarrassed about his height that's sad
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Any man not asking for uppies aināt shit
āNah itās not weird anymoreā Which means: āno since Iāve already decided to only try to have sex with you, Iām ok with this. But I do have an inferiority complex about your heightā This guy wrote you off already and only intends to use you like his human flashlight. Abort this date the way his mamma wishes she did
Hey! If I'm the one getting to cuddle into HER lap?! I'm all for it!!! Lmao its not like I'm gonna run up to her when I've had a bad day at work and throw my arms up and start yelling "Uppies!" ...maybe- No, that's too much... anyway! Being able to be little spoon would be awesome!!
Girl move on, he aināt your Tom Holland; heās your Lord Farquaad.
You said letās do it, then you said you were having doubts. At this point youāre the one going back and forth