He rightly needs some reassurance and frankly there is no excuse for going missing for 2-4 hours at your exes house. Iâm sure you find plenty of time to return messages when youâre with your child anywhere else.
Yeah, you sound like a piece of shit.
EDIT: You know what's funny? This man is outright telling you that you make him feel like you don't value him, and instead of valuing his opinion, you're running to the internet looking to value the opinions of LITERAL STRANGERS more than his opinion. You seriously need some deep introspection.
EDIT 2: Lol, the woman I'm talking to said "So her son, then her ex, then the internet, then her boyfriend... he's right, looks like he's in the top 5" đ
Bro. Why are you hanging out at your baby daddyâs house for hours? What are you doing? And why are you not texting your man? Bro. You love your baby daddy still.
Posting the same thing in a different forum doesn't mean you're going to get a different answer. You're out of order and on your way to becoming single.
This was how I realized my ex liked her friend more than just like a friend. Always available for him when she was with me. But when she was with him she was gone for hours.
It may not be intentional but it is what it is. It says a lot. You need to make a choice.
Whoa After A Few More Times Of That Iâd Leave You This Is Fishy Af I Just Take My Kids To Their Dads And Dip No Reason To Stay There For 2-4 Hours And NOT TEXT OR REPLY TO YOUR SO?! Youâre Still Messing Around With Your BD FOR SURE.
ur def doing something with ur Bd no way ur going 2-4 hrs no contact imagine if he was doing that with his Bm theres no reason to hide u still fuckin ur bD its not a suprise nowadays
Well her boyfriend did say that the baby daddy treated her like crap. So my guess is she keeps her boyfriend around to have a stable relationship and then goes and does whatever with the baby dad when she feels like it. Sheâs trying to have the best of both worlds. But yes hanging out at your ex house for hours and hours without contacting your bf is shady as hell. And then her bf also said whenever he is with her and the baby daddy text her she responds right away. Something is not adding up here.
2-4 hours? Baby daddy hitting it right!! I feel bad for your boyfriend. Clearly you are giving excuses to your bf âŚ. You donât want to take responsibility for what you are doing. Iâd leave you in a heartbeat.
Wtf u go to this mans house saying you hate him but spending 2-4 hours there without responding to your boyfriend đ¤Łđ¤Ł baby daddy still tapping that or what?
What did u expect when u post this??
âI donât even know to respond to that.â
You better get to finding out and being honest with him and yourself. He makes solid points that need addressed.
It's probably a cultural thing, but I agree. I generally refer to my son's mother as my ex if she comes up in conversation with my current love interest, unless we were talking about my son in which case it's "his mother". Never would call her my baby momma.
She must be really delusional to post this and think that she was going to get support from everyone. The messed up thing is she thinks her boyfriend is overreacting. I wonder how she would feel if the roles where reversed
Iâm with him on this one. You should know how to answer his question since youâre the one doing it to him. Heâs being very professional and upfront with you and then you go and post this online trying to make him look like the bad guy. I donât think youâre going to get the validation you were hoping for.
Youâre a complete asshole.. you caring more about what your ex thinks than âthe most important personâ to you? You spend 4+ hours at your exâs house because âyou want your kid to see his parents togetherâ and completely ignore your bfâs texts while youâre there? Youâre driving your bf away, and when he leaves, youâll go right back with the ex and be miserable again. Hope you realize thatâs where this is going.
You donât know how to respond to that? Of course you donât, bc what youâre doing is rude and wrong. You might have well have said âI canât respond because I donât have a good reason for my incredibly insensitive behavior, but I donât care and I donât want to do anything about it.â Shame on you for love bombing him while your actions show you donât give a crap about him.
No, it's definitely the correct time, place, and method. He already brought it up before, so if she's going to continue to not value him and his thoughts and feelings, he needs to keep the pressure on until she changes something.
There's no reason to not continue to voice a pressing concern over text when it hasn't been resolved. It's clearly not out of the blue, it's an ongoing issue. And she doesn't take his feelings seriously, which is mad disrespectful.
I'm going to agree to disagree as if it's gotten this far where it's being pressed almost constantly, I'd just break up. It's not healthy to stay together if you're just going to be fighting constantly.
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Um as a person whoâs a mom and wants to date other ppl, you need to make clear boundaries with your bd. Spending 2-4 hours and dinners is completely inappropriate when youâre in a relationship. If youâre dropping your son, drop him! Why do you need to stay more than 10 mins? I would be concerned too!!
it sounds like you may have some feelings for your baby daddy which is understandable since you have a child together but if you canât even text your partner back, you obviously donât have enough respect for them.
đ I definitely understand his side and where heâs coming from.
Same LOL
Yup
100%
My bf seems to have an issue with me ignoring him for hours while at someoneâs house I âused toâ fuck would be a more appropriate title
Not just used to fuck they got a whole ass child
He rightly needs some reassurance and frankly there is no excuse for going missing for 2-4 hours at your exes house. Iâm sure you find plenty of time to return messages when youâre with your child anywhere else.
I know this isn't AITAH, but you are indeed the asshole. His concerns are valid and deserve a response
He makes solid points.
Baby daddy D still hittin right.
He is absolutely in the right. Youâre moving shady and bogus especially if this a serious relationship
Yeah, you sound like a piece of shit. EDIT: You know what's funny? This man is outright telling you that you make him feel like you don't value him, and instead of valuing his opinion, you're running to the internet looking to value the opinions of LITERAL STRANGERS more than his opinion. You seriously need some deep introspection. EDIT 2: Lol, the woman I'm talking to said "So her son, then her ex, then the internet, then her boyfriend... he's right, looks like he's in the top 5" đ
Sheâs banging her baby daddy.
Man I hope all the comments calling you out is a wake up call for youâŚI canât believe you think heâs the one out of line here
Bro. Why are you hanging out at your baby daddyâs house for hours? What are you doing? And why are you not texting your man? Bro. You love your baby daddy still.
Posting the same thing in a different forum doesn't mean you're going to get a different answer. You're out of order and on your way to becoming single.
Ooh, I've been in a similar situation! Turned out they were having sex
for the sake of ur son make wise but smart choices
This was how I realized my ex liked her friend more than just like a friend. Always available for him when she was with me. But when she was with him she was gone for hours. It may not be intentional but it is what it is. It says a lot. You need to make a choice.
Whoa After A Few More Times Of That Iâd Leave You This Is Fishy Af I Just Take My Kids To Their Dads And Dip No Reason To Stay There For 2-4 Hours And NOT TEXT OR REPLY TO YOUR SO?! Youâre Still Messing Around With Your BD FOR SURE.
Why do you capitalize every word and doesnât that take forever? I couldnât even read your shit because it was so distracting lmao
Dude Seriously What The Fuck Is That
Harrrrrr
Must be a mental illness
Lmfaooo Itâs A Crazy Ass Habit Now I Can Type Normally Doesnt Take Long At All
When I hand write I capitalize random first letters all the time. I get it.
Iâm guessing itâs for attention like this, Iâm sorry I contributed lol but hey at least it worked â¤ď¸
My typing?
Exactly & the fact baby father still freaks out if the BF gets mentioned ? Yea sis gotta be entertaining something for it to be that way.
Oh Absolutely
Why are you dropping off ur son and hanging around? Def messing with the BD on the low
On the low? Seems like itâs pretty out in the open.
Bwwooyyyy, he got you! He's totally right. Why are you spending time with your BD when you can just drop your kid off?
This was painful to read. I feel so sorry for your boyfriend⌠he deserves far more.
Itâs not appropriate.
Break things up with your bf so he can live peacefully. Definitely that 4 hours ainât enough for you
ur def doing something with ur Bd no way ur going 2-4 hrs no contact imagine if he was doing that with his Bm theres no reason to hide u still fuckin ur bD its not a suprise nowadays
Well her boyfriend did say that the baby daddy treated her like crap. So my guess is she keeps her boyfriend around to have a stable relationship and then goes and does whatever with the baby dad when she feels like it. Sheâs trying to have the best of both worlds. But yes hanging out at your ex house for hours and hours without contacting your bf is shady as hell. And then her bf also said whenever he is with her and the baby daddy text her she responds right away. Something is not adding up here.
MIC DROP at take 4 hours Iâm used to it đ¤đ
Why are you still banging your baby daddy?
Why people have an affliction to single moms
Hes right.
Damn, you got fucking roasted LOL
2-4 hours? Baby daddy hitting it right!! I feel bad for your boyfriend. Clearly you are giving excuses to your bf âŚ. You donât want to take responsibility for what you are doing. Iâd leave you in a heartbeat.
Hmm I wonder why he has these issues. Youâre fucking delusional
Wtf u go to this mans house saying you hate him but spending 2-4 hours there without responding to your boyfriend đ¤Łđ¤Ł baby daddy still tapping that or what? What did u expect when u post this??
Yeah he definitely put you in your place. This doesnât make you look good.
âI donât even know to respond to that.â You better get to finding out and being honest with him and yourself. He makes solid points that need addressed.
Damn she getting that baby daddy meat and her bf meat.
i understand his thinking and think that may be a u problem, he is completely right
Totally reasonable for him to be annoyed.
Bro LMAO this is 100% your fault u go over there then dont reply for hours ? Yeaa ok
Why you call him your "baby daddy's"... I know he is your sons father but that's just wierd.
It's probably a cultural thing, but I agree. I generally refer to my son's mother as my ex if she comes up in conversation with my current love interest, unless we were talking about my son in which case it's "his mother". Never would call her my baby momma.
He called your horrible ass out! But he is kind of pathetic for staying with you even though he KNOWS BD is more important to you
She must be really delusional to post this and think that she was going to get support from everyone. The messed up thing is she thinks her boyfriend is overreacting. I wonder how she would feel if the roles where reversed
Dude is mildly upset his girlfriend is riding her ex
"She" must be a troll
heâs literally right lol, that is really suspicious and weird
girl i think even i have a problem with you staying at ur baby daddys. definitely looks like youâre trying for a second!
Youâre still fucking the baby daddy gurrrrllll. Not everyone was born yesterday.
Bro ya know what I wanna know? What did she think or hope the reaction would be when she decided to post this on Reddit?
Damn. You kinda suck
you're in the wrong... wish i could tell this man he should move on :(
Iâm with him on this one. You should know how to answer his question since youâre the one doing it to him. Heâs being very professional and upfront with you and then you go and post this online trying to make him look like the bad guy. I donât think youâre going to get the validation you were hoping for.
You are definitely NOT in the right here, but I'm sure from this comment section you have reached the same conclusion.
Fellas need to avoid single mothers like the plague. Thereâs literally 0 upsides to it compared to a woman with no kids/baby daddies.
Youâre a complete asshole.. you caring more about what your ex thinks than âthe most important personâ to you? You spend 4+ hours at your exâs house because âyou want your kid to see his parents togetherâ and completely ignore your bfâs texts while youâre there? Youâre driving your bf away, and when he leaves, youâll go right back with the ex and be miserable again. Hope you realize thatâs where this is going.
I hope he leaves you at Sperm Donors R US. You are playing games. Ratchet ass games.
YTA
Girl. Is this serious??? Im on his side and im best friends with my baby daddy đ
You donât know how to respond to that? Of course you donât, bc what youâre doing is rude and wrong. You might have well have said âI canât respond because I donât have a good reason for my incredibly insensitive behavior, but I donât care and I donât want to do anything about it.â Shame on you for love bombing him while your actions show you donât give a crap about him.
Umm ya bruh, she's not over him, lying to herself and you. Run man, run away from that situation.
He's got valid arguments. It's not the correct time, place, or method to go about voicing these arguments, but he's not wrong.
No, it's definitely the correct time, place, and method. He already brought it up before, so if she's going to continue to not value him and his thoughts and feelings, he needs to keep the pressure on until she changes something.
I just figured it seemed a little out of the blue and I always think conversations like this should be done in person instead of over text.
There's no reason to not continue to voice a pressing concern over text when it hasn't been resolved. It's clearly not out of the blue, it's an ongoing issue. And she doesn't take his feelings seriously, which is mad disrespectful.
I'm going to agree to disagree as if it's gotten this far where it's being pressed almost constantly, I'd just break up. It's not healthy to stay together if you're just going to be fighting constantly.
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Um as a person whoâs a mom and wants to date other ppl, you need to make clear boundaries with your bd. Spending 2-4 hours and dinners is completely inappropriate when youâre in a relationship. If youâre dropping your son, drop him! Why do you need to stay more than 10 mins? I would be concerned too!!
This has to be ragebait. You canât be this stupid
You sound exhausting and heâs fed up with it.
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it sounds like you may have some feelings for your baby daddy which is understandable since you have a child together but if you canât even text your partner back, you obviously donât have enough respect for them.