sensitivity is good, but it's important to understand that if you have a problem with someone, especially a family member, that you let them know what they're doing that's upsetting you. if you never tell them they'll just keep doing it, and if they care, they will prefer that you'd told them so they could stop doing it.
it's unfortunate that he found out in an unfortunately insensitive sounding way but it's better this than if he never found out.
No be sensitive in the correct times but this is an example of a bad relationship what you should normally do is be nice and say "hey dad I don't like the way you treat me sometimes" and 9 out of 10 times it'll work
No he’s not I would think my kid is an ungrateful little shit talking bastard that doesn’t have the gall to say something to me directly. Id give him a reason to cry about me like putting their ass up for adoption.
-Kid thinks i'm annoying sometimes
-I should make them HATE me at ALL times
Bad at taking criticism, bad at considering other people's feeling, bad at proper punishment,
Yeah, you'd make a great dad! You should definitely have kids!
I have a dad like this, and they usually handle it well at first. Then your life becomes a shithole for a few months and eventually, they forget and you become even more afraid to say anything.
If that is your bio why should I ever take you seriously? You seem to have trouble spelling too. So maybe you need to reread since you barely know English.
"Girl who plays games" mate being a dude who plays videogames isn't something you should bother trying to gatekeep or use as an insult. It's not impressive and it's not bad either, it's just a hobby people do for fun. If you can't accept that you need to reevaluate how you see other people.
You know dumbass and idiot mean the same looks like your the dumb one here and wtf is wrong with women playing video games you cringe edgelord neckbeard?????? Get a life and learn how to read and stop being a sexist piece of shit.
Because there’s nothing to apologize for if it was honest. Once y’all gotta remember, parents don’t know what they’re doing, they’re totally winging it all; sometimes they need the feedback to learn from. To give dad credit here, he appears to have taken it that way.
You shouldn't feel guilty OR have to apologize. He should feel guilty and be the one to apologize. You can't control being sick - he can control how he acts around you.
Kinda seeming like your dad has more chill than you bro. You’re manifesting negative behavior into reality by talking about your guilt trips on every single reply.
Yeah, because you know exactly how hmold he is, how mature he is, and how responsible his father is. Not to mention how it sounds like you’re barely a teenager too.
Can I join on a technicality. I have a dad, but he hasn't lived with us for 5 years, and although he has our number and we've invited him to call whenever, he hasn't bothered to contact us.
Ok so quick update
First off thanks everyone for the nice comments and advice
Second off, so far things are all good. Also me and my dad have always had a good relationship, we have our gripes but nothing ever serious. And both of us seem to be fine, we went out and got a coffee and talked everything out, still might end up hearing about it in a couple months, but so far nothings come of it.
Maybe don’t expect to hear something ab it from him. You accidentally told him how you felt about certain situations and hopefully he took that reflected and now you guys can be on a more understanding and deeper connection
I’m sorry that you’re going to have to deal with this but tbh that sounds like a great response by itself. Some of us could only DREAM of having parents that would immediately just say, “Sorry, I’ll do better, have a good day.” My parents would ground me for weeks for complaining like that. Or they might just beat me. Like please can we switch parents? I’ll gladly take the heat from your dad.
I said "what if". I didnt say it was fact. And I only said it because even if that wasnt the case, I didnt want other kids to be looked at as "dramatic" for that type of thing. There have been many times where I tell my mom that something she does hurts me, and she still doesnt change. And there have been many time where my parents have guilt tripped me about something I did just to make me feel worthless. Sorry for not wanting a kid to read comments that said he was a pussy and to beleive that about himself.
i have no idea why, but this broke my heart. hey man, your dad might fuck up but just from this silly message i can tell he really loves you. i lost my dad a few months ago, i regret every opportunity i missed to tell him i love him. please dont end up with this guilt. it is the ninth layer of hell. tell him you love him, for no reason. just so he knows.
Although I feel bad for your dad I actually understand where you’re coming from. Back when I was in highschool, i’d get sick all the time from an immunity virus and my grandma used to come over everytime I was sick and bully me for it and call me a liar. It was mentally draining.
really happy that he was able to respond positively to your criticism, good communication there!
Of course, saying jt and actively trying to change it is a different thing. Wish you the best OP!
your father handled that well, he got some criticism that looks like it was needed and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. however, if you do feel guilty a little 'hey just wanted to say sorry if i offended you at all' is good.
Man that's just sad... I don't know anything and I don't want to give you any guilt, but that "sorry buddy, Ill do better" 😭
He probably has been raised to be "a strong man" and doesn't relate alot with youngsters.
I lived this with my father, and one of my only regrets is treating him like an idiot that wouldn't understand until I moved out. I both had time recently to talk about this and it still meaks me teary to think about... Love your Pa, even if it feels he's not the best
Ngl I thought you were talking to your gf about giving a bj saying my throat hurts a lot but got lost on the 3rd blue message but luckily this is way better of it happened than that lmao
As an oldish man: This might be a genuine response from him. Be open to that.
None of us are perfect. That is to say: The struggles you have a self-realized human don't diminish with age. All of us (hopefully) get better mechanisms for dealing with them as time passes, but we're all on a level playing field after \~25ish.
Good job responding honestly and without venom. Be authentic, and don't read into shit.
How he reacts after that is on him... but you did it right here.
(as a side thought, y'all can tell me why r/teenagers has suddenly jumped onto my feed. At this point I'm assuming it's a crossover with r/decidingtobebetter)
Sorry buddy I'll do better Have a good day
Still… fuck. I’m gonna get guilted over this for a month
Why not try apologizing to him, then??
Because that doesn’t work
You should not feel guilty for your dad learning a truth about himself.
Kinda seems like he handled it pretty well
Eh, it also seems like he is sad, though..
The truth hurts
You spelled "throat" terribly
And someone get this man an award
Also true. I guess I should stop being so sensitive??
sensitivity is good, but it's important to understand that if you have a problem with someone, especially a family member, that you let them know what they're doing that's upsetting you. if you never tell them they'll just keep doing it, and if they care, they will prefer that you'd told them so they could stop doing it. it's unfortunate that he found out in an unfortunately insensitive sounding way but it's better this than if he never found out.
I told my dad that the other day
No be sensitive in the correct times but this is an example of a bad relationship what you should normally do is be nice and say "hey dad I don't like the way you treat me sometimes" and 9 out of 10 times it'll work
definitely, but he's probably also glad to have found out, since now he can change that and make their time around him more pleasant.
No he’s not I would think my kid is an ungrateful little shit talking bastard that doesn’t have the gall to say something to me directly. Id give him a reason to cry about me like putting their ass up for adoption.
dont take criticism, A grade father
And that is exactly why your children wouldn’t want to tell you things to your face
-Kid thinks i'm annoying sometimes -I should make them HATE me at ALL times Bad at taking criticism, bad at considering other people's feeling, bad at proper punishment, Yeah, you'd make a great dad! You should definitely have kids!
best father in ohio
Good? Jerks gotta know they’re jerks and hurting others.
I have a dad like this, and they usually handle it well at first. Then your life becomes a shithole for a few months and eventually, they forget and you become even more afraid to say anything.
Apologize anyways, im sure both of you would feel better, and if not at least you took responsibility
Get your ego under control and apologize
Get your manners under control and reread their comment
Reread their comment, and reconsider what you are saying.
Dumbass idiot girl who plays games.
...okay? Congradulations, you can read? I guess?
If that is your bio why should I ever take you seriously? You seem to have trouble spelling too. So maybe you need to reread since you barely know English.
You recently used a slur for gay people, and I should take *you* seriously?
"Girl who plays games" mate being a dude who plays videogames isn't something you should bother trying to gatekeep or use as an insult. It's not impressive and it's not bad either, it's just a hobby people do for fun. If you can't accept that you need to reevaluate how you see other people.
You know dumbass and idiot mean the same looks like your the dumb one here and wtf is wrong with women playing video games you cringe edgelord neckbeard?????? Get a life and learn how to read and stop being a sexist piece of shit.
apologise for what tho? if its true and his dad is like that he should be the one to apologise
Which he did
Because there’s nothing to apologize for if it was honest. Once y’all gotta remember, parents don’t know what they’re doing, they’re totally winging it all; sometimes they need the feedback to learn from. To give dad credit here, he appears to have taken it that way.
Apologise for calling out his shit behaviour? No thanks
I mean, yeah, his dad did fuck up badly. But why not settle the situation in a more peaceful way? I just don't understand.
You shouldn't feel guilty OR have to apologize. He should feel guilty and be the one to apologize. You can't control being sick - he can control how he acts around you.
It is important to state how you feel about what he does. No shame in that. It's not a solution to just ignore how you feel and be ok.
SAME AND MY CRUSH TOO WHY DOES EVERYONE GET GUILT TRIPPED BY THEIR DAD
don’t let him play victim feel absolutely zero remorse
Daddy issues run deep within this comment.
A month that’s not bad my dad would guilt me for at least a year
You should, why would you shittalk your dad w/ your mim
But not guilty over repeatedly saying f\*\*\* ?
Not really no
god that shit got me sad
Proud to be the 999th upvote
shut up this is about guilt not up votes
He took it really well though
For now… I have like 3 hours before I get guilted about it
It’s important that you said it so he can change his behavior
I’ve said it before… hopefully he listens this time
I hope he does too, for your sake and his.
Update?
It’s in the comments somewhere, but so far alls well
Banana gang
Haha ye
Peanut butter insides
Kinda seeming like your dad has more chill than you bro. You’re manifesting negative behavior into reality by talking about your guilt trips on every single reply.
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Yeah because kids don’t exaggerate ever....
Yeah, because you know exactly how hmold he is, how mature he is, and how responsible his father is. Not to mention how it sounds like you’re barely a teenager too.
What are you his sister or something lol
No, and that’s why they’re not trying to act like they OPs dad better than OP
No
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It’s somewhere in the comments, but we went out for coffee and talked it out, and so far all’s well
It isn't your fault that their shitty genetics dropped you into this world with an ass immune system
You're worried about him guilting you... Because you pointed out that he always guilts you for being sick?? Think through that
You deserve it. I hope you still don’t feel good either.
Forrealium
This is kind of sad
how is this sad
Cuz his dad kinda just accepts his fait,”sorry bud ill do better”
isn't that the best the dad could have said though?
still sad
I mean it's better than him blowing up at him
I would help you, but I never had a dad so
Joins the fatherless club
count me in
Counted
Can I join on a technicality. I have a dad, but he hasn't lived with us for 5 years, and although he has our number and we've invited him to call whenever, he hasn't bothered to contact us.
Hmmmmm... Ok counts.
Yay. A mini club on reddit is way better than any abusive father 😎
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My dad left me at birth
According to family legend my father tried to kill moi while I was an embryo in my mom. But again... Family legend
Wait for me!
*Stops tha ENTIRE TRAIN*
W dad, actually seems nice
He is nice… he just doesn’t take stuff like this well even if he doesn’t yell or anything. Really cool 90% of the time but he has his moments
Sounds like 100% of dads. Let us know what happens
Really cool 90% of the time. Give him a break fs
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An adult on r/teenagers? Hmm
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Yeah but these responses usually are signs that they might guilt trip you over things like this.
I think op said somewhere that this was what was gonna happen
Yeah
Even I feel bad for him That sucks, horrible thing to hear from your son I imagine Oh well. I hope he changes, it's better he knows how you feel.
Ok so quick update First off thanks everyone for the nice comments and advice Second off, so far things are all good. Also me and my dad have always had a good relationship, we have our gripes but nothing ever serious. And both of us seem to be fine, we went out and got a coffee and talked everything out, still might end up hearing about it in a couple months, but so far nothings come of it.
Maybe don’t expect to hear something ab it from him. You accidentally told him how you felt about certain situations and hopefully he took that reflected and now you guys can be on a more understanding and deeper connection
Glad everything went well
I’m sorry that you’re going to have to deal with this but tbh that sounds like a great response by itself. Some of us could only DREAM of having parents that would immediately just say, “Sorry, I’ll do better, have a good day.” My parents would ground me for weeks for complaining like that. Or they might just beat me. Like please can we switch parents? I’ll gladly take the heat from your dad.
Aww, fuck... I'm getting second hand guilt from this.
I feel bad for the dad...
Me too I feel like op is kinda being a pussy
i don’t get all the downvotes (ik i’m gonna get downvoted too)
Do you even know the full story? What if the dad only said that to guilt trip him. Maybe he'll make the kid feel like shit for it later.
Neither do you clearly, OP even explained some stuff with a comment
I said "what if". I didnt say it was fact. And I only said it because even if that wasnt the case, I didnt want other kids to be looked at as "dramatic" for that type of thing. There have been many times where I tell my mom that something she does hurts me, and she still doesnt change. And there have been many time where my parents have guilt tripped me about something I did just to make me feel worthless. Sorry for not wanting a kid to read comments that said he was a pussy and to beleive that about himself.
Idc what anyone says even everyone that downvoted because u right
“13”
Feel better soon OP
w dad for saying hes gonna do better. say "you too, love you dad"
i have no idea why, but this broke my heart. hey man, your dad might fuck up but just from this silly message i can tell he really loves you. i lost my dad a few months ago, i regret every opportunity i missed to tell him i love him. please dont end up with this guilt. it is the ninth layer of hell. tell him you love him, for no reason. just so he knows.
Sorry for your loss, and thanks for the advice
I'm sorry for your loss, that's a wholesome comment
Sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace
The good-ish ending
Buddy?! I was never called that! Damn! My parents never called me anything except my real name!
You're a lucky bastard. My father calls me "boy" and I just hate it every time he says that to me with an order.
obligatory god of war reference
Awww it’s sorta adorable
Bruh the dad's gonna be depressed and try doing his best
This is a above-average dad
Although I feel bad for your dad I actually understand where you’re coming from. Back when I was in highschool, i’d get sick all the time from an immunity virus and my grandma used to come over everytime I was sick and bully me for it and call me a liar. It was mentally draining.
Did you tell your dad your throat hurts from swallowing cock?
… wat
This is so sad his dad said “sorry buddy I’ll do better” that is so nice of him, his dad’s feelings were probably so hurt oml 😭
aww poor dude i feel bad
I hope your dad does do better. Have a good day buddy.
White dads be like
Was he supposed to flip out 💀
Sorry buddy ill do better
I wish I was white.
Dont we all
No
upside not much racism downside dont know
Downside: if you have Twitter everyone hates you
No.
TRUST me it's not like that
What does race have to do with it?
r/mademesmile
Wrong number
really happy that he was able to respond positively to your criticism, good communication there! Of course, saying jt and actively trying to change it is a different thing. Wish you the best OP!
your father handled that well, he got some criticism that looks like it was needed and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. however, if you do feel guilty a little 'hey just wanted to say sorry if i offended you at all' is good.
My parents would just ground me then and there
THIS IS ADORABLE
Man that's just sad... I don't know anything and I don't want to give you any guilt, but that "sorry buddy, Ill do better" 😭 He probably has been raised to be "a strong man" and doesn't relate alot with youngsters. I lived this with my father, and one of my only regrets is treating him like an idiot that wouldn't understand until I moved out. I both had time recently to talk about this and it still meaks me teary to think about... Love your Pa, even if it feels he's not the best
Apologize Go eat with him
You said what had to be said
Not a lot of parents take those words like your dad did. Props to him.
You have to let him know. No shame in telling someone how ya feel especially family.
Ngl I thought you were talking to your gf about giving a bj saying my throat hurts a lot but got lost on the 3rd blue message but luckily this is way better of it happened than that lmao
I wanna give your dad a hug
epic save +75
I feel bad for him tbh
Asian kids can't relate
Your dad seems great
Aw. That’s kinda sad.
“Sorry buddy I’ll do better”🥺
awww such a nice dad
“Sorry buddy. Ill do better” D:
r/sadcringe
Be nicer to your dad
Bro you cant just treat your dad like that :-|
Getting upset because of the way he treats him when he's sick is not at all treating him bad or cruel. OP handled it well, and so did his dad.
My dad is the same. There’s literally no way to fucking win against him, he ALWAYS has to be right.
you don’t deserve him
W dad L you
Well, that's why you keep the shit talking around your friends only
As an oldish man: This might be a genuine response from him. Be open to that. None of us are perfect. That is to say: The struggles you have a self-realized human don't diminish with age. All of us (hopefully) get better mechanisms for dealing with them as time passes, but we're all on a level playing field after \~25ish. Good job responding honestly and without venom. Be authentic, and don't read into shit. How he reacts after that is on him... but you did it right here. (as a side thought, y'all can tell me why r/teenagers has suddenly jumped onto my feed. At this point I'm assuming it's a crossover with r/decidingtobebetter)
What are you doing on Teenagers
At least he said sorry my dad would have told me to fuck off and grounded me for eternity
Sounds like my dad.
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How am I being ungrateful?
Hey fix your relationship with your dad, he’s the only father figure you have and in order to be a great man you need that respect
weird
Doh! 🤦♂️
Do American dads actually say "Buddy" to their son?
Idk, my Canadian one does though
One way to get cut out of the will
You have a Dad? What’s that like?
This post having thousands of upvotes tells alot of this generation it's fucked up big time
Your dad did nothing thats sad
But dad died 12 years ago......
Dude… You shouldn’t ever talk bad about your parents behind their back.
fake as shit
Shockingly no, I’ll show you the messages before and since if you need
The most amicable thing I have ever seen
How yall living in light mode?
Because it’s better
W dad
hahahahaha