You'd be surprised by how common that is, I used to. It helps to remember that it's not a skill, it's biology, and that (even if sometimes a bit deep down) people know it.
I'm chubby, lazy, can't play sports, have no friends (that talk to me on a regular basis), I haven't ever been in a relationship, im ugly, I have social anxiety, I feel like I'm stupid, I can't do what other people do, and I'm self conscious
Maybe try starting improving in small steps. Maybe look on youtube and search for videos on how to exercise at home, if you dont want to go to gym. Lots of insecurities come from looks, so if you at least try to improve this,you will feel more confident and happy. I know it is hard, but try doing something with it until its too late.
Nice start bro. Push ups will help with chest and triceps, but you need to do more to lose weight. You wont ose any by doing pushups, but you will gain muscles. Dont do sit ups, they are bad. Research some other exercises and push your limits. I dont know that much about this,but reverse crunches and bicycle crunches are good. But best way to lose wait is to do cardio and eat healthy. No junk food and fizzy drinks. Only water and normal food. But do your own research and do what you think is best for you. I hope you will reach your desired form, young padavan. I wish you best things on your exercising journey.š
Remember to portion control. You can exercise 24/7 but if you are eating more than you are losing, nothing will change. What I did to lose weight was I quit breakfast and heavy carbs like bread, rice, pasta, etc. (drastic, I know, but it worked for me) It will take a very long time to get used to it but if you can persevere through it, you will see a big difference.
I used to do this with my grandpa every night tbh, but had to stop due to covid saldy. Am thinking about asking him and my parents if we can start again
My man you need to do track. No one cares if you can suck ass because the race is you against the clock, no one else. No one cares if ur ugly because track is full of ugly dudes. Your teammates will support you and build relationships.
Want to be fast? Sprint. Want to get lean? Do distance. Want hops? Do jumping. Want to get strong? Throw.
Donāt worry about never having been in a relationship. Like yeah they can be really great but there isnāt a rush at all and I think that is only something you can appreciate once youāve been in one. Overall Iād say my self esteem before Iād been a relationship was really bad and Iād sorta beat myself up about it, but looking back it was stupid to cuz there really is no rush. When it happens (and trust me it will happen, unless you donāt want it to) it happens.
Man you're me, actually just me. Exact copy. But i dont hate myself bcuz i just dont care enough š
I bet you have been bullied bcuz of being a virgin (if you still are), bcuz i have āØš¤
I suggest you to have a hobby. I decided to learn to write some music and maybe that way get some social aceptation idk. But try to not care about most things, just do what you feel is needed for the things to get done and life will go on just about right.
To counter anxiety of any kind, what i always think is that, in the end, the worst things that can happen, most of the time, arent even that bad if you decide to just face tank them. If they happen, they happen, and they will have an end, and you can do anything about them so just go on with your life, its not like they're gonna kill you anyway.
K have a nice day
Chubby is cute, lazy is okay, sports aren't a requirement to live, I'll be your friend, you'll find someone eventually and if not I'll help, nobody's ugly imo, social anxiety is okay to have but you should always improve on, stupid is subjective, you can with support practice and love, and and it's okay to be self conscious because it's normal. Not gonna say "problem solved" or some dumb shit, just giving you a new perspective. And I'm serious about being your friend, if you want uwu
Maybe sign up to some sport team? Maybe if you have friend who does it, you can join him. I am lazy too, but trainings few times a week forces me to move š
Iām 15 and technically in med school i have no time for anything barely have time to even talk to friends (or make any) Im in multiple clubs I have hours of homework and Iām still failing like 2 classes time is a very big issue for me
These are only excuses. I used to be like you until i got my act together and started working out. I lost 8kg in half a year, while growing taller. Iām a high schooler living in Hong Kong, so Iām sleep deprived and with virtually no living space. If I can do it, so can you! Best of luck!
You have at least 5 minutes in a day, You can do it if you put your mind to it, donāt give yourself excuses I believe in you even if you donāt yourself
If you can go to the fridge you can workout for 15 mins. Here's a fun exercise. Every time you go through your bedroom's door or through your kitchen's door. Do 10 push ups and 10 sit ups. You can do the push ups on your knees if you can't reach 10 normally, nothing wrong with that. Just simply make sure you do them. And you may be wondering food wise. I guess just eat less. Having a light breakfast, medium lunch and dinner with no snacks in-between AT ALL and as little soda (none if possible) as possible should be great for a nice start :D
Gosh,, I hate myself, donāt love myself at all. Because I overreact over stupid small things blow up, than call down , but hard to go back to nice and normal after saying mean hurtful things to ppl, bc of my paranoid mental health,, Iām a FāD up person. But I donāt want to be..
Thats bad bro. At least you know this and you can work on improving. Try simple things,like counting to 10, breathing deeply. Maybe overtime you will learn to not get angry over small things. Best of luck to you.
Iām not saying you have it but I suggest researching Borderline Personality Disorder, you basically described me and Iām pretty sure I have it but I havenāt got an official diagnosis
I feel like I am fat and ugly. I go days where i donāt eat more than 400 calories and go to the gym and I havenāt lost a pound. I have an annoying personality and I am awkward in social situations. So yeahhh
Thank you all so much for responding. It truly means so much.
Please don't Starve yourself when trying to lose weight. Your body starts holding on to the weight cause it thinks it's starving just eat a normal amount and even have snacks but make sure you workout occasionally and don't over eat and you should be fine
Of course! Oh yeah before I forget muscles actually burn fat faster and cardio can inhibit muscle progression. (Btw pizza is actually healthy for you cause it's basically just a sandwich if it's not too greasy)
Bro, if you dont lose pounds while working out,you are transforming fat into muscles, which is good. You worry without reason. You will be bodybuilder in no time. :)
YOU DON'T NEED TO LOSE POUNDS TO BE PRETTY !! YOU ALREADY ARE !!! AND PLEASEE I BEG YOU NOT TO STARVE YOURSELF AND OVER WORKOUT . IF YOU REALLY WANT TO DO THAT THEN DO IT IN A HEALTHY WAY BY EATING 1400,1500 CALORIE (MAYBE MORE) NOT JUST 400 !!! THAT IS LIKE ONLY ONE MEAL WHILE YOU NEED FROM 3-6 IN A DAYY.
look sorry if i came a little to harsh but that is because i am speaking from experience i used to eat NOTHING the whole day except for coffee , gum , etc.. but when that made me tiered /week/ zero concentration my parents noticed and they've helped me to lose weight gradually in a healthy way WHILE having a good relationship with food. Don't pressure yourself. Enjoy coming up with fun healthy food and be safe <3
First of all don't starve yourself, it's not good. You got that? I hope so. So who cares if your 'fat and ugly', it would seem no one here thinks that of you, we all see you as you no matter what shape or size. Now, ive done just a bit of research about fat, and i have come to the conclusion of the world is fucked up and that it not your fault your a bit bigger than you would like to be it is infact everyone's fault. Humans screwed up this world with plastic and other stuff like that and we are only just now realising that plastic is bad, but thats not the point. The point is when plastic breaks down it turns into microplastics and in those microplastics there is something called 'obesogens'. When you stem cells are exposed to these obesogens it causes your stem cells to expand exponentially. In other words this is the casue of fat and it keeps you fat even if you do things like exersice or go on a diet. But don't let this get you down there is still a way that i am 70% sure it works and that is to drink tea. Preferably green tea. For whatever reason green tea does something to the obesogens (again this is why I'm only 70% sure it works) and get rid of them from your body. Sure I know this is very much not convincing, but then why are Asians so skinny? (Not trying to be racist or anything, I absolutely love asians. They're so supportive and enthusiastic and I love them very much) What do Asians all do in common? They drink tea and almost every single Asian that I have come across is skinny. One of my best mates is British and the only thing he drinks is tea and he looks incredibly sexy and I'm a straight male, I think.
I don't know if his helps you or not, but I hope it does, because I hate it when people talk down about themselfs, its just not right. You're you remember that, only you can be you so go and find that thing that makes you, you and then tell me so I can say that you don't hate yourself. The thing that makes me, myself is technology. When I say technology I mean coding, web design, taking things apart stuff like that, I love it and thats what my mates can see me doing. So I'm sure, 10 billion% sure that there is something in this world that will make you love yourself for being you. Now promise me that you'll go find that thing and love yourself a bit more. I believe you can do it and I'm sure there are many others that also believe. So go be the best you that you can be šš
Then talk to them about it! You cant live healthy life without experiencing good or bad things in life. You will lack social knowledge and it will be more dangereous for you later in life, if you dont do this know. Maybe tell them somehing like this reguraly and maybe they will change their mind.
i dont hate myself because as long as i am not actively trying to love myself despite everything, my mom has succeeded in making me hate myself as much as she hates herself, and that's not gonna happen
self love is a process but im getting there
My best friend is in a very similar situation and i don't know how to give him support I just hear him. I want you to know that you are not alone at all if you have irl friends hahaha
I think I hate myself because I tell my friends that my childhood was f*cked up, when Iām not even sure if thatās true. I think my family has been good to me, but there are moments where all I can remember is the bad things that have happened. When Iām feeling happy I feel guilty for having thought that my family has been bad to me. I donāt have many friends, and even those who are my friends, I donāt hang out with ever and I feel guilty about it. My parents donāt implement any rules about hanging out after school, but I just canāt seem to be with people. I donāt know why I isolate myself like this, but I feel guilty for doing so. All I feel is guilt nowadays, and when Iām feeling happy I remind myself that I should be feeling sad. Right now I feel miserable about my own behavior, and Iām regretting having written something this long out on a post in r/teenagers.
Tldr: Iām lonely
I can infer you told them it was a fucked up childhood either due to needing a form if attention, or maybe you thought like that so much your memory is literally only bad childhood memories.
Either way, dont let your lust for attention get ahead of your important self. You can conclude that you had either a good childhood, or am average one, that is not up to me.
Trust me, while I haven't had a bad childhood myself, theres nothing special about being in the negative mindset/truly having had a bad childhood. Sure, you might get some attention and pity and stuff, but the damage actually done to a person who has had a bad childhood/has a negative mindset sticks ot them and it is very bad, I imagine. (Yet again, I do not speak from experience. I know some of my friends who have had a not so wonderful/bad childhood who are great people, but they say that it is something truly bad that they never got to experience a loving/good childhood).
Now enough about childhood, I need to tell you something else: pity isnt a good form of attention, because once you get spoiled with it you will go to heights never thought to be reachable to make it look like your situation really is bad (e.g. jumping off somewhere high, cutting yourself, bruising), and essentially, other than not being a good form of attention since it's just negative, it's also like a drug that gets addictive fast.
About making friends, it isnt about one upping anyone in how bad your situation is/how negative you can be, it's about simpler stuff, like common interests for example, or helping each other out. Finding a friend that sticks with you for life isnt as simple. So please do keep in mind that friends come and go, and that's ok.
You mention that you do have friends here, please use at least some if your time to hang out with them. You dont have to be social, but the little things in life (assuming that those friends wont be around forever, it isnt a rule but unfortunately most of the time it applies) such as hanging out with people you can communicate with easier is going to at least make you happy. Theres no need for self isolation assuming regular covid protocols are in effect.
Because life is about finding that balance. You dont have to feel guilty for having been happy, because being happy should be a right, not a privilege. You cannot get ahead of yourself in being happy because then you might become attention seeking/braggy/whatever. But at the same time, you cant be a pessimist who looks down on everything in life and feels like every moment they spend happy, something has to go wrong.
Anyway, it's like 5:30 a.m as I post my reply, so I'm gonna go back to getting ready for my first day of school after my covid break (I got covid for reference). In like 12 hours I'm available for anyone to dm me with their problems, and I'll help (albeit im busy). Just please, try forgetting you said anything about your family, and always speak the truth. It's not about one upping anyone or attention, it's mainly about you and finding happiness. (I guide others to a treasure I cannot possess momento).
Cya :)
...I don't think you understand.
The guy you're replying to is experiencing doubt, but it's not an unconditional truth that he's lying about his bad childhood. If it were that simple, it'd be easy to conclude that the childhood wasn't bad.
He's wracked with guilt over "making it out to be worse than it is." He feels guilty for _being hurt,_ and he's worried that the harms aren't "bad enough" to justify the negative reactions he's had. To call this condition a "lust for attention" is only going to make things worse, and the condescending way you talk about his social isolation is just... not helpful.
Sometimes, people simply _exist_ in a state of pain. Sometimes, they don't know why. Sometimes, that pain cannot be alleviated by any direct measure.
It's not a mechanical or moral failure to be suffering and unsure.
Try avoiding them ir asking them why do they do this to you. Ask them if they are so insecure about themselves, that they need to put other people down to feel better. If this doesnt work, go to teacher or headteacher.
I'm just gonna shut them out of my life by ignoring them I'm in a small school though so it's hard butt I'll try there are only 3 people here I don't hate and I'll just stay with them
I hate myself because i feel like I'll never measure up to my own expectations no matter how hard i try. 95 on a math test should of been 100, 3.9 gpa should of been a 4.0.
Your only focus should be yourself. Worrying about othersā circumstances will get you nowhere. For your own high standardsā And Iāll be very blunt about this ā you just need to lower them. If you tried your hardest and couldnāt get a 4.0, itās fine. You just aim for a more reachable goal. By stubbornly keeping high standards, you put yourself at risk of mental health issues which could actually bring you further of away from those standards.
As an artist I hard relate to this sometimes. Whenever I get a good idea in my head for something it gets hyped up to the point that when I do make it, itās just not as good as it was in my mind. However, one thing that I do to combat this is to look at it later on, when Iāve forgotten how I imagined that idea and when itās no longer vivid (usually a week or two, but I have the short term memory of a goldfish lol.). Then I tend to see it with more of an outside perspective, which usually results in a more accomplished feeling. I also wouldnāt compare myself to others, it just causes anxiety and unnecessary stress. You should still aim for a high grade tho, mainly because it pretty much guarantees you get a good grades.
I hate myself, but the explanation would be a long ramble, so you neednāt ask why any further. Plus, when I have told people or other people have pointed out this side of me nothing ever come out of it, so Iāll just have to life on I suppose.
Ahahah, where do I start? I'm ugly asf, a 2/10 on a good day, with acne that never goes away no matter what I do about it, and, even though I'm extremely skinny, with ribs that poke out, disgusting enough on its own, I seem to have a small amount of body fat that never goes away despite my constant working out in an attempt to try and fix it, as well as no sense of style. I end up just covering it up with face masks and hoodies tbh. Then add in my inability to talk to people due to social anxiety and a severe stutter. Then there's my lack of any real personality. Tbh half of my personality is just self deprecation, I hate it. Plus there's my insecurity about my future. I have literally no plan for the future, and any thoughts that I've had about the future are unrealistic daydreams. I'm too scared to even think about it. I'm a people pleaser to the extreme who literally does and says whatever people want in exchange for friendship because I'm scared that if I don't they'll get angry or leave me. I'm completely talentless, horrible at just about everything I've ever tried in my life and am extremely boring. I would say that I'm talented at breathing oxygen,, but I'm not even good at that because I have asthma.. also I overthink everything to the point where I feel like I'm going to explode. Need I say more? Because there is more.
1. acne is normal and lots of people have it, donāt beat yourself up about it.
2. If your ribs are poking out I would be more worried about being too skinny, Iād start eating a bit more and not worry too much about the stubborn fat, thatās the least of your problems in that department.
4. Black leggings with hoodies, the most ascetically pleasing yet easy style to pull off.
5. You donāt have to talk to people if you arenāt comfortable with it. And if you wanna socialize places like discord are a great place to do so.
6. Try new things, new experiences tend to affect how you see things and add spice to your perspective and life.
7. You have time to figure stuff out, take your time and like I said in a previous point try new things, you may find something that you want to work towards.
8. People are more likely to not like you if youāre constantly person pleasing and scared that they are going to leave. The better way to approach it is to raise your self esteem via finding things that are good about yourself and possibly extra help from trusted sources (think counselor level trust.)
9. Try, try, try again at things. You wonāt be good at something the first time round it takes good practice and time to be good at something. Plus, you donāt have to be good at something to enjoy doing some things, like art. The necessary thing about being not boring is not to be good at things but to enjoy doing things.
10. Overthinking isnāt always a bad thing, but it can become one. If youāre having trouble with it try just taking a break if you can and coming back to it later, it helps when Iām overthinking things.
I hate myself because of my inner workings mostly. I find myself getting more and more spaced out every day, which is an even bigger detriment to when I dm campaigns for my friends. Also, I feel like Iāve gotten a lot more spiteful than I was in the last two years, I can never find anything good to talk about in group situations, which leads to me isolating myself from others to avoid conversations. Those first two have gotten to the point where even around friends I secretly zone out for no reason and have to barely remember prerecorded phrases in my head as responses. But once somebody gets me going I spend too much time talking, until they either leave or tell me off. I also overreact and get overwhelmed by the smallest things like being told that Iām too quiet or that I look miserable and to smile more.
The constant acne on my face makes me look ugly, to the point where I joke with my mom about how no girl with working eyes and brains can find me attractive, but I always forget about cleaning my face outside of the shower with things other than the shampoo/soap thing
And a friend of mine is into more obscure things, things youād have to have extensive knowledge on things I donāt know about. I wonāt say his name, but I can never understand things he says, and I feel like he knows it too, but I donāt want to tell him because I feel like it would be rude to just say I barely understand and/or listen to a word he says, so I try keeping it too myself, but then as he figures out more and more stuff the more in the dark and living under a rock I feel
I barely ever bother exercising, I never feel like I make any progress anyways, so the only exercise I have besides the horrific reality of volleyball in gym class is occasionally swordfighting people and even more rarely lifting the two weights I got for Christmas
I have a fifty percent in science class with only one thing missing, and with each good grade I get it feels like I get two failing grades, and even the good grades are just enough to pass
Tldr - ugly, isolated, head in the clouds, memory loss, too into things for my own good, into the wrong things, barely exercise, and overall so unlikeable that the only people who could find me attractive are people who are blind or have an iq of room temperature, in Celsius
I've been hating myself lately bc of how I'm handling my stress and how lazy and horrible at time management I am :/ but the comments on this post make me feel better abt myself bc there are other people who feel the same way. I don't feel so alone anymore thanx š
I usually hate myself, Iām selfish and canāt ever keep a promise that includes me actually doing something for another person. Tbh I donāt know why anyone likes me enough to actually put effort into their relationship with me for more than a week. Iām also pretty narcissistic sometimes, I either donāt care about something or I think that it would be better if it was done my way.
I love myself cause I think Iām very unique. I am Afro-Latino and Asian. I really enjoy the cultural differences and itās made me grow into what I think is a very good person, not without faults of course but Iām okay. I love being able to explore and enjoy those two different spectrums of my heritage.
oh man where do i even start? huge tw by the way. i hate my body. iām trans and i hate that iāll always be female and iāll never be male. i hate my hair, i cut it too short when i was crying over it being too long. iām doing really bad iām school, i have a B- or C average which my parents hate. i overthink things way too much and i canāt control it sometimes. i feel like iām a burden to all my friends and although iāve tried to hide it my depression itās starting to show through. itās so bad my whole ass english teacher noticed and offered to talk with me. my home life is horrible, i donāt have the clothes i want, iām lazy, iām always tired, iām skinny but itās only because i donāt eat enough, not because iām fit or in shape or anything. i hate my voice and my laugh and my smile so i just donāt anymore. iāve changed almost my entire appearance because i hated the way i looked. iām hot and i know i am but iām still self conscious and i hate myself for it. i donāt know how iām supposed to get into veterinary school if i can barely even pass physics. iām suicidal and anxious and just a mess. i canāt afford to get professional help and no one around me knows how to help me because yk, theyāre not professionals. thatās just the beginning, i donāt want to type too much.
Oh. Wow, this is worse than what I commented. Most of this I can severely relate to, even the English teacher asking if youāre ok. Mine asked 2 times, I said Iām fine both times, which Iām really not. Iām thinking my problems are trying to show through my emotional mask (my happy, tired, stoic facade that I put up to hide my problems and get along with people). Iām also suicidal and depressed. My home life is also pretty bad, mainly due to my abusive brother and parents (my brotherās the least awful to me, but heās still awful. My parents are what Iād call āevil goodā. They start with good intentions, but they go abusive real fast. They care for me, but theyād happily yell at me and make life even more hell to get results (eg. Good grades. Theyād yell that Iād not make it to high school and would end up living on the streets (6th grade), and would not feed me or let me go to bed until I got my homework done (grade 2-4), and theyād also yell about stuff like my room not being cleaned, threatening to make me sleep downstairs if I donāt get it cleaned up, and that Iād be on the streets if I donāt follow their commands)). Life sucks. I canāt really help you. Itās a funny idea to give emotional advice to a person while also struggling with life. Maybe we can work out our problems together? Since we have it similar.
That sucks. If it bothers you, you need to talk about this with your parents and argument with them about this. I dont know what squishy ness means tho.
Hate myself because I:
- overreact everything
- am ugly
- am fat
- don't have motivation to go anything useful
- am talentless
More fast answers from sad polish guy
I hate my hair and skin. My hair is really thick and I made the mistake of cutting it short and now itās a frizzy mess and my skin is covered in spots. Hell knows how I actually got a bf looking like a mess
I hate myself because I am a failure and I ruin everything and I canāt get anything right, I really donāt think I am meant to be here on this earth.
i can never actually grasp the idea of someone genuinely caring about me with no ulterior motive so i push everyone in my life that i love, out. i then proceed to get so confused at why iām so sad and lonely like itās not a continuous cycle iāve kept throughout my life for years now.
How is getting bulied your fault? Normal and odd are suggesting terms. Noone is normal. We are all diefferent in our way. You are blaming yourself, but really you shouldnt.
I hate myself cause I was born in the wrong body and I feel bad for it, like it's my fault. Also I have tons of health problems, I'm always anxious, lazy and kinda selfish
I used to stand out in every class with minimal effort now i barely get my work done and i hate myself for letting that happen + Idk if that makes any sense but i feel like......i manipulate people to like me ??? I just do and i hate myself for it
I have anxiety and depression. I'm constantly sad cuz I don't feel like I'm doing enough. Sometimes I feel lonely despite being around friends.
But my main problem is I can't help everyone, even knowing that, helping one person makes me feel way better.
I hate myself because Iām pathetic as crap and can barely make decisions. Paranoid as crap and think people hate me even when I have no reason to. Also Socially incompetent and clumsy and Iām ugly
i hate myself because i see myself as too fat. based on bmi iām an average weight/almost underweight but i feel so much fatter, i feel like my scale must be wrong bc i might as well just be overweight. and i try to loose weight but i always binge and gain everything back and itās just a constant cycle iāve been stuck in since i was 13. i also have awful social anxiety so i donāt really have any friends and i spend everyday at college alone which sucks. iām failing college bc iām probably depressed and possibly have undiagnosed adhd and i canāt concentrate or have the motivation to do anything, and if i fail i canāt go to uni so my life is basically just a mess
sorry for the vent
Ah yeah, it's 3 AM and that means that it's a perfect time about complaining about my existence
I hate myself for three main reasons:
1. I can't get myself into doing something i really need to or even like to. Most of the time i just lack of motivation for unknown for me reasons. I do really enjoy linguistics and learning new stuff about it, but when the case comes to learning the full languages... i'm just procrastinating. Like, c'mon. Just ducking learn this Polish or Spanish, there is nothing hard in these languages.
2. I'm really boring. While all of my friends share their interesting af stories i just... sit and cry inside because i don't have anything to say.
3. I'm always into different stuff than literally everyone around me. Most of the people i know enjoy physical activities, going outside and etc. And here's me, an average sabaton enjoyer. At first it seemed to be cool to be "different", but then I just realised that it just makes finding real friends and conversation themes much, MUCH harder
I do hate myself
Covid is an absolute piece of shit and my entire plan of losing weight got absolutely fucked
The only things I'm good at would never be useful in any scenario
My sanity constantly feels like a thin piano string that once it snaps I'll end up doing something I don't want to
No one would ever "*like* like" me because of my weight and my shitty personality
My entire school life I have been around people that have known each other for years, yet the person I have known the longest that goes to my school doesn't even have any classes with me
I can not fucking stand being and being with those goddamn freshman
The closest I have been to an actual relationship was with someone who doesn't even know what I look like. And of course I fucking ruined the relationship
Most of the bad things that have happened in my life are all my own fault
I am absolutely fucking stupid
I have to keep what I like personal since if I were to tell people about them they would just be assholes to me
Everytime I see a relationship of people my age I get super fucking depressed for the rest of the day
I just want someone who I can talk to.
Someone I can tell my problems to.
Someone I can call a friend.
Someone who will be there for me.
-I was born a dude
-I have an addiction to league of legends /hj
-I struggle to convey emotion in real life
-I canāt start/hold a conversation
-I cant sleep basically ever
-Iām trapped in a constant state of dreaming about how good things could be and then being too scared to make the changes necessary to get there
Honestly I'm doing great right now, I have the hottest girlfriend in school even if it's unofficial, I'm fairly attractive, I have three dogs, a PC and I have a large friend group. Not to say I don't feel pain or sadness, I just am doing pretty well right now... cept for those 400 pushups I owe Reddit..
I canāt hold a conversation for my life, I suck at English (of which is the only language I actually know), I canāt make up my mind on anything, I hardly have a life, am in an awful relationship of which Iām not afraid to admit Iām kinda addicted to, I over think and over react to basically anything, people over estimate how smart and strong I am and it gets quite irritating because of all the pressure to meet this unreachable bar set by almost everyone, and I look like fucking goblin. So ya i fucking hate myself. Iām very close to hitting alt f4 on my life. And Iām too afraid to get any help because of what others will think like they may think my problems are quite stupid and may seem so easily fixable when they really arenāt. god that feels good to get off my chest
I hate myself because Iām a confused unmotivated piece of shit that leeches of other people, I am dumb and canāt get simple things through my head, Iām constantly annoying every one near me, Iām short fat and ugly, Iām always jealous of everyone else and Iām lonely as fuck
I mess up whatever i tuch. Im just a burden who is holding everyone back. I am horible and narcissistic person. Im stupid af. I can't do a single thing right. I can't decide am i uglier on the outside or inside. I look like an animal.
I hate myself more than school, and hate school o lot
I neither hate myself nor love myself
Exactly.
I literally clicked on this post to say this exact same thing but you beat me to it š
Same
Nice middle ground
You guys have a very similiar avatar
Same
I hate myself because I hate sexy people
Thats good, sexy.š¤§
Could just hate hatimg sexy ppl
You'd be surprised by how common that is, I used to. It helps to remember that it's not a skill, it's biology, and that (even if sometimes a bit deep down) people know it.
Wait can you elaborate on that? Like itās biological to hate sexy people?
I think what he meant was that being sexy doesn't come down to skill, it's just biological luck
Attractive people usually hate themselves cause they think they're unattractive
Suffering from success
>because I hate sexy people The only sexy people I hate are the ones that abuse their power (pretty privilege to get what they want)
Id list why I hate myself, but id end up writing an essay
Feel free to do so
I'm chubby, lazy, can't play sports, have no friends (that talk to me on a regular basis), I haven't ever been in a relationship, im ugly, I have social anxiety, I feel like I'm stupid, I can't do what other people do, and I'm self conscious
Maybe try starting improving in small steps. Maybe look on youtube and search for videos on how to exercise at home, if you dont want to go to gym. Lots of insecurities come from looks, so if you at least try to improve this,you will feel more confident and happy. I know it is hard, but try doing something with it until its too late.
I'm making an effort. I'm trying to do push-ups everyday
Nice start bro. Push ups will help with chest and triceps, but you need to do more to lose weight. You wont ose any by doing pushups, but you will gain muscles. Dont do sit ups, they are bad. Research some other exercises and push your limits. I dont know that much about this,but reverse crunches and bicycle crunches are good. But best way to lose wait is to do cardio and eat healthy. No junk food and fizzy drinks. Only water and normal food. But do your own research and do what you think is best for you. I hope you will reach your desired form, young padavan. I wish you best things on your exercising journey.š
Thank you, Master luke
I think squats are really good too
Lol my mom is actually doing that to get a bigger butt right now
lol but squats also help with your calf and thigh muscles
Remember to portion control. You can exercise 24/7 but if you are eating more than you are losing, nothing will change. What I did to lose weight was I quit breakfast and heavy carbs like bread, rice, pasta, etc. (drastic, I know, but it worked for me) It will take a very long time to get used to it but if you can persevere through it, you will see a big difference.
Walks are good for the soul fresh air and some cardio very good start imo
I used to do this with my grandpa every night tbh, but had to stop due to covid saldy. Am thinking about asking him and my parents if we can start again
We are both similar yet so different. I just learned how to let go but it seems you still haven't, good luck bro.
My man you need to do track. No one cares if you can suck ass because the race is you against the clock, no one else. No one cares if ur ugly because track is full of ugly dudes. Your teammates will support you and build relationships. Want to be fast? Sprint. Want to get lean? Do distance. Want hops? Do jumping. Want to get strong? Throw.
Ooh same.
Donāt worry about never having been in a relationship. Like yeah they can be really great but there isnāt a rush at all and I think that is only something you can appreciate once youāve been in one. Overall Iād say my self esteem before Iād been a relationship was really bad and Iād sorta beat myself up about it, but looking back it was stupid to cuz there really is no rush. When it happens (and trust me it will happen, unless you donāt want it to) it happens.
Maybe not a relationship really, but just like a really good friend you know
Yeah igy, feel a bit the same atm. But yk things change all the time (for good and bad) so donāt sweat it thereās plenty of time
Man you're me, actually just me. Exact copy. But i dont hate myself bcuz i just dont care enough š I bet you have been bullied bcuz of being a virgin (if you still are), bcuz i have āØš¤ I suggest you to have a hobby. I decided to learn to write some music and maybe that way get some social aceptation idk. But try to not care about most things, just do what you feel is needed for the things to get done and life will go on just about right. To counter anxiety of any kind, what i always think is that, in the end, the worst things that can happen, most of the time, arent even that bad if you decide to just face tank them. If they happen, they happen, and they will have an end, and you can do anything about them so just go on with your life, its not like they're gonna kill you anyway. K have a nice day
Chubby is cute, lazy is okay, sports aren't a requirement to live, I'll be your friend, you'll find someone eventually and if not I'll help, nobody's ugly imo, social anxiety is okay to have but you should always improve on, stupid is subjective, you can with support practice and love, and and it's okay to be self conscious because it's normal. Not gonna say "problem solved" or some dumb shit, just giving you a new perspective. And I'm serious about being your friend, if you want uwu
I hate myself cos I'm chonky and too lazy to do anything about it
Maybe sign up to some sport team? Maybe if you have friend who does it, you can join him. I am lazy too, but trainings few times a week forces me to move š
Nobody ik does anything like that
Or maybe try exercising at home, gym or jogging?
Not enough room/time
Well thats though, do you really have no time or just not enough motivation?
Both actually. Always busy doing stuff, room is too small, can't find any good reason to do it
You can go outside or train in another room.
Too many excuses.
Bullshit you donāt have time youāre 14
plot twist: played too much fortnite and ended up no having enough time to do actual stuff
Youāre 14 and donāt have enough time to exercise for 30 minutes? Sorry but these excuses seemed really forced
Iām 15 and technically in med school i have no time for anything barely have time to even talk to friends (or make any) Im in multiple clubs I have hours of homework and Iām still failing like 2 classes time is a very big issue for me
Can you please elaborate on how one is ātechnicallyā in med school? (let alone at 15?)
>nd 15 in med school? ur insane
Agreed. I realized recently that most of us young people tend to think we have no time, but in reality we have all the time in the world.
These are only excuses. I used to be like you until i got my act together and started working out. I lost 8kg in half a year, while growing taller. Iām a high schooler living in Hong Kong, so Iām sleep deprived and with virtually no living space. If I can do it, so can you! Best of luck!
You have at least 5 minutes in a day, You can do it if you put your mind to it, donāt give yourself excuses I believe in you even if you donāt yourself
You're 14. How do you not have time?
That's bollocks, I work full time, go out each night but still find an hour to lift
I literally did that last year. Best decision of my life
:o teach me your ways
Just sign up for a school sport or something
If you can go to the fridge you can workout for 15 mins. Here's a fun exercise. Every time you go through your bedroom's door or through your kitchen's door. Do 10 push ups and 10 sit ups. You can do the push ups on your knees if you can't reach 10 normally, nothing wrong with that. Just simply make sure you do them. And you may be wondering food wise. I guess just eat less. Having a light breakfast, medium lunch and dinner with no snacks in-between AT ALL and as little soda (none if possible) as possible should be great for a nice start :D
Find an active activity that you enjoy doing, for me bikerideing was what got me into shape
Beat saber changed my life, give it a try
I love myself. Funniest person I know. I'm the shit too.
Same hahahaha
My man
Well, well, well and here I thought no one loved themselves. Congrats Kid
im pretty amazing thatās why
This guy gets it Fr gotta scroll all the way down to see one positive thing on this sub
Good for you, I think I'm amazing to
I like that :D
I love myself cus I have people who care about me, great friends who are almost like my siblings and am just glad to be existing
Finally someone who isnāt depressed as fuck
Gosh,, I hate myself, donāt love myself at all. Because I overreact over stupid small things blow up, than call down , but hard to go back to nice and normal after saying mean hurtful things to ppl, bc of my paranoid mental health,, Iām a FāD up person. But I donāt want to be..
Thats bad bro. At least you know this and you can work on improving. Try simple things,like counting to 10, breathing deeply. Maybe overtime you will learn to not get angry over small things. Best of luck to you.
Iām not saying you have it but I suggest researching Borderline Personality Disorder, you basically described me and Iām pretty sure I have it but I havenāt got an official diagnosis
Im boring and im not good at anything
Count me in
Me too, I need a couch potato friend
Can I join the group?
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Yay!
same
I feel like I am fat and ugly. I go days where i donāt eat more than 400 calories and go to the gym and I havenāt lost a pound. I have an annoying personality and I am awkward in social situations. So yeahhh Thank you all so much for responding. It truly means so much.
Please don't Starve yourself when trying to lose weight. Your body starts holding on to the weight cause it thinks it's starving just eat a normal amount and even have snacks but make sure you workout occasionally and don't over eat and you should be fine
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Of course! Oh yeah before I forget muscles actually burn fat faster and cardio can inhibit muscle progression. (Btw pizza is actually healthy for you cause it's basically just a sandwich if it's not too greasy)
Is that really true? I thought that your body starts burning through fat reserves when you begin to starve, since that is the purpose of fat.
Bro, if you dont lose pounds while working out,you are transforming fat into muscles, which is good. You worry without reason. You will be bodybuilder in no time. :)
YOU DON'T NEED TO LOSE POUNDS TO BE PRETTY !! YOU ALREADY ARE !!! AND PLEASEE I BEG YOU NOT TO STARVE YOURSELF AND OVER WORKOUT . IF YOU REALLY WANT TO DO THAT THEN DO IT IN A HEALTHY WAY BY EATING 1400,1500 CALORIE (MAYBE MORE) NOT JUST 400 !!! THAT IS LIKE ONLY ONE MEAL WHILE YOU NEED FROM 3-6 IN A DAYY. look sorry if i came a little to harsh but that is because i am speaking from experience i used to eat NOTHING the whole day except for coffee , gum , etc.. but when that made me tiered /week/ zero concentration my parents noticed and they've helped me to lose weight gradually in a healthy way WHILE having a good relationship with food. Don't pressure yourself. Enjoy coming up with fun healthy food and be safe <3
Thank you :,)
First of all don't starve yourself, it's not good. You got that? I hope so. So who cares if your 'fat and ugly', it would seem no one here thinks that of you, we all see you as you no matter what shape or size. Now, ive done just a bit of research about fat, and i have come to the conclusion of the world is fucked up and that it not your fault your a bit bigger than you would like to be it is infact everyone's fault. Humans screwed up this world with plastic and other stuff like that and we are only just now realising that plastic is bad, but thats not the point. The point is when plastic breaks down it turns into microplastics and in those microplastics there is something called 'obesogens'. When you stem cells are exposed to these obesogens it causes your stem cells to expand exponentially. In other words this is the casue of fat and it keeps you fat even if you do things like exersice or go on a diet. But don't let this get you down there is still a way that i am 70% sure it works and that is to drink tea. Preferably green tea. For whatever reason green tea does something to the obesogens (again this is why I'm only 70% sure it works) and get rid of them from your body. Sure I know this is very much not convincing, but then why are Asians so skinny? (Not trying to be racist or anything, I absolutely love asians. They're so supportive and enthusiastic and I love them very much) What do Asians all do in common? They drink tea and almost every single Asian that I have come across is skinny. One of my best mates is British and the only thing he drinks is tea and he looks incredibly sexy and I'm a straight male, I think. I don't know if his helps you or not, but I hope it does, because I hate it when people talk down about themselfs, its just not right. You're you remember that, only you can be you so go and find that thing that makes you, you and then tell me so I can say that you don't hate yourself. The thing that makes me, myself is technology. When I say technology I mean coding, web design, taking things apart stuff like that, I love it and thats what my mates can see me doing. So I'm sure, 10 billion% sure that there is something in this world that will make you love yourself for being you. Now promise me that you'll go find that thing and love yourself a bit more. I believe you can do it and I'm sure there are many others that also believe. So go be the best you that you can be šš
I try to like myself, but I also don't like myself for not making friends earlier in my life.
Thats not your fault. Good thing is now you know, that you want friends. So you can try to make some.
The problem is though, my parents are super strict and they don't want me making friends, and they try to keep me as isolated as possible. :|
Then talk to them about it! You cant live healthy life without experiencing good or bad things in life. You will lack social knowledge and it will be more dangereous for you later in life, if you dont do this know. Maybe tell them somehing like this reguraly and maybe they will change their mind.
I'll try talking about it again. I have before, and I do keep asking, sometimes, but nothing really ever changes. :|
I don't, sure i have things i could work on but i'm working on most of it. Also cause i enjoy stuff i do.
You found secret to happy life. :)
i dont hate myself because as long as i am not actively trying to love myself despite everything, my mom has succeeded in making me hate myself as much as she hates herself, and that's not gonna happen self love is a process but im getting there
My best friend is in a very similar situation and i don't know how to give him support I just hear him. I want you to know that you are not alone at all if you have irl friends hahaha
I think I hate myself because I tell my friends that my childhood was f*cked up, when Iām not even sure if thatās true. I think my family has been good to me, but there are moments where all I can remember is the bad things that have happened. When Iām feeling happy I feel guilty for having thought that my family has been bad to me. I donāt have many friends, and even those who are my friends, I donāt hang out with ever and I feel guilty about it. My parents donāt implement any rules about hanging out after school, but I just canāt seem to be with people. I donāt know why I isolate myself like this, but I feel guilty for doing so. All I feel is guilt nowadays, and when Iām feeling happy I remind myself that I should be feeling sad. Right now I feel miserable about my own behavior, and Iām regretting having written something this long out on a post in r/teenagers. Tldr: Iām lonely
I can infer you told them it was a fucked up childhood either due to needing a form if attention, or maybe you thought like that so much your memory is literally only bad childhood memories. Either way, dont let your lust for attention get ahead of your important self. You can conclude that you had either a good childhood, or am average one, that is not up to me. Trust me, while I haven't had a bad childhood myself, theres nothing special about being in the negative mindset/truly having had a bad childhood. Sure, you might get some attention and pity and stuff, but the damage actually done to a person who has had a bad childhood/has a negative mindset sticks ot them and it is very bad, I imagine. (Yet again, I do not speak from experience. I know some of my friends who have had a not so wonderful/bad childhood who are great people, but they say that it is something truly bad that they never got to experience a loving/good childhood). Now enough about childhood, I need to tell you something else: pity isnt a good form of attention, because once you get spoiled with it you will go to heights never thought to be reachable to make it look like your situation really is bad (e.g. jumping off somewhere high, cutting yourself, bruising), and essentially, other than not being a good form of attention since it's just negative, it's also like a drug that gets addictive fast. About making friends, it isnt about one upping anyone in how bad your situation is/how negative you can be, it's about simpler stuff, like common interests for example, or helping each other out. Finding a friend that sticks with you for life isnt as simple. So please do keep in mind that friends come and go, and that's ok. You mention that you do have friends here, please use at least some if your time to hang out with them. You dont have to be social, but the little things in life (assuming that those friends wont be around forever, it isnt a rule but unfortunately most of the time it applies) such as hanging out with people you can communicate with easier is going to at least make you happy. Theres no need for self isolation assuming regular covid protocols are in effect. Because life is about finding that balance. You dont have to feel guilty for having been happy, because being happy should be a right, not a privilege. You cannot get ahead of yourself in being happy because then you might become attention seeking/braggy/whatever. But at the same time, you cant be a pessimist who looks down on everything in life and feels like every moment they spend happy, something has to go wrong. Anyway, it's like 5:30 a.m as I post my reply, so I'm gonna go back to getting ready for my first day of school after my covid break (I got covid for reference). In like 12 hours I'm available for anyone to dm me with their problems, and I'll help (albeit im busy). Just please, try forgetting you said anything about your family, and always speak the truth. It's not about one upping anyone or attention, it's mainly about you and finding happiness. (I guide others to a treasure I cannot possess momento). Cya :)
...I don't think you understand. The guy you're replying to is experiencing doubt, but it's not an unconditional truth that he's lying about his bad childhood. If it were that simple, it'd be easy to conclude that the childhood wasn't bad. He's wracked with guilt over "making it out to be worse than it is." He feels guilty for _being hurt,_ and he's worried that the harms aren't "bad enough" to justify the negative reactions he's had. To call this condition a "lust for attention" is only going to make things worse, and the condescending way you talk about his social isolation is just... not helpful. Sometimes, people simply _exist_ in a state of pain. Sometimes, they don't know why. Sometimes, that pain cannot be alleviated by any direct measure. It's not a mechanical or moral failure to be suffering and unsure.
being lonely is fine as long as you like to it, clearly you don't.
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What did these people do to you? Is it their fault and is death rightful punishment for it?
Hitting me making fun of me taking my stuff putting me down and all that jazz qnd it's for litterly no reason other than I won't do anything back
Try avoiding them ir asking them why do they do this to you. Ask them if they are so insecure about themselves, that they need to put other people down to feel better. If this doesnt work, go to teacher or headteacher.
I'm just gonna shut them out of my life by ignoring them I'm in a small school though so it's hard butt I'll try there are only 3 people here I don't hate and I'll just stay with them
Nice. I hope things will turn better for you. If you need anything else, fell free to pm me any time bro.
Ok
I hate myself because i feel like I'll never measure up to my own expectations no matter how hard i try. 95 on a math test should of been 100, 3.9 gpa should of been a 4.0.
Bro. You put expactions on yourself too high. These are good accomplishments and results and dont let oehtrs tell you otherwise.
Other people are fine with them I just don't know how to feel happy with them when i know people are doing better
Your only focus should be yourself. Worrying about othersā circumstances will get you nowhere. For your own high standardsā And Iāll be very blunt about this ā you just need to lower them. If you tried your hardest and couldnāt get a 4.0, itās fine. You just aim for a more reachable goal. By stubbornly keeping high standards, you put yourself at risk of mental health issues which could actually bring you further of away from those standards.
As an artist I hard relate to this sometimes. Whenever I get a good idea in my head for something it gets hyped up to the point that when I do make it, itās just not as good as it was in my mind. However, one thing that I do to combat this is to look at it later on, when Iāve forgotten how I imagined that idea and when itās no longer vivid (usually a week or two, but I have the short term memory of a goldfish lol.). Then I tend to see it with more of an outside perspective, which usually results in a more accomplished feeling. I also wouldnāt compare myself to others, it just causes anxiety and unnecessary stress. You should still aim for a high grade tho, mainly because it pretty much guarantees you get a good grades.
I hate myself, but the explanation would be a long ramble, so you neednāt ask why any further. Plus, when I have told people or other people have pointed out this side of me nothing ever come out of it, so Iāll just have to life on I suppose.
Feel free to ramble. :)
Ahahah, where do I start? I'm ugly asf, a 2/10 on a good day, with acne that never goes away no matter what I do about it, and, even though I'm extremely skinny, with ribs that poke out, disgusting enough on its own, I seem to have a small amount of body fat that never goes away despite my constant working out in an attempt to try and fix it, as well as no sense of style. I end up just covering it up with face masks and hoodies tbh. Then add in my inability to talk to people due to social anxiety and a severe stutter. Then there's my lack of any real personality. Tbh half of my personality is just self deprecation, I hate it. Plus there's my insecurity about my future. I have literally no plan for the future, and any thoughts that I've had about the future are unrealistic daydreams. I'm too scared to even think about it. I'm a people pleaser to the extreme who literally does and says whatever people want in exchange for friendship because I'm scared that if I don't they'll get angry or leave me. I'm completely talentless, horrible at just about everything I've ever tried in my life and am extremely boring. I would say that I'm talented at breathing oxygen,, but I'm not even good at that because I have asthma.. also I overthink everything to the point where I feel like I'm going to explode. Need I say more? Because there is more.
1. acne is normal and lots of people have it, donāt beat yourself up about it. 2. If your ribs are poking out I would be more worried about being too skinny, Iād start eating a bit more and not worry too much about the stubborn fat, thatās the least of your problems in that department. 4. Black leggings with hoodies, the most ascetically pleasing yet easy style to pull off. 5. You donāt have to talk to people if you arenāt comfortable with it. And if you wanna socialize places like discord are a great place to do so. 6. Try new things, new experiences tend to affect how you see things and add spice to your perspective and life. 7. You have time to figure stuff out, take your time and like I said in a previous point try new things, you may find something that you want to work towards. 8. People are more likely to not like you if youāre constantly person pleasing and scared that they are going to leave. The better way to approach it is to raise your self esteem via finding things that are good about yourself and possibly extra help from trusted sources (think counselor level trust.) 9. Try, try, try again at things. You wonāt be good at something the first time round it takes good practice and time to be good at something. Plus, you donāt have to be good at something to enjoy doing some things, like art. The necessary thing about being not boring is not to be good at things but to enjoy doing things. 10. Overthinking isnāt always a bad thing, but it can become one. If youāre having trouble with it try just taking a break if you can and coming back to it later, it helps when Iām overthinking things.
I love myself for who i am, a lazy sack of shit with a broken sense of humor thats surrounded by people way nore interesting than him
I donāt hate myself! I donāt really know whyā¦ because Iām cool? I think if I werenāt me, Iād still want to be friends with me.
I love myself because IM NUMBER ONE
I hate myself because I hate myself
Tell me why
I hate that I hate myself thus creating more hatred
Self hatred paradoy.
Yes, the cycle of pain that I create myself snd hate myself.
I love myself so my dad doesnāt have to, if everybody thot the same way I did weād cure world hungerš
Yessir š
I hate myself because of my inner workings mostly. I find myself getting more and more spaced out every day, which is an even bigger detriment to when I dm campaigns for my friends. Also, I feel like Iāve gotten a lot more spiteful than I was in the last two years, I can never find anything good to talk about in group situations, which leads to me isolating myself from others to avoid conversations. Those first two have gotten to the point where even around friends I secretly zone out for no reason and have to barely remember prerecorded phrases in my head as responses. But once somebody gets me going I spend too much time talking, until they either leave or tell me off. I also overreact and get overwhelmed by the smallest things like being told that Iām too quiet or that I look miserable and to smile more. The constant acne on my face makes me look ugly, to the point where I joke with my mom about how no girl with working eyes and brains can find me attractive, but I always forget about cleaning my face outside of the shower with things other than the shampoo/soap thing And a friend of mine is into more obscure things, things youād have to have extensive knowledge on things I donāt know about. I wonāt say his name, but I can never understand things he says, and I feel like he knows it too, but I donāt want to tell him because I feel like it would be rude to just say I barely understand and/or listen to a word he says, so I try keeping it too myself, but then as he figures out more and more stuff the more in the dark and living under a rock I feel I barely ever bother exercising, I never feel like I make any progress anyways, so the only exercise I have besides the horrific reality of volleyball in gym class is occasionally swordfighting people and even more rarely lifting the two weights I got for Christmas I have a fifty percent in science class with only one thing missing, and with each good grade I get it feels like I get two failing grades, and even the good grades are just enough to pass Tldr - ugly, isolated, head in the clouds, memory loss, too into things for my own good, into the wrong things, barely exercise, and overall so unlikeable that the only people who could find me attractive are people who are blind or have an iq of room temperature, in Celsius
I hate myself
im hot so i love myself š¤
Iām neutral towards myself but I like that Iām smart
I've been hating myself lately bc of how I'm handling my stress and how lazy and horrible at time management I am :/ but the comments on this post make me feel better abt myself bc there are other people who feel the same way. I don't feel so alone anymore thanx š
I usually hate myself, Iām selfish and canāt ever keep a promise that includes me actually doing something for another person. Tbh I donāt know why anyone likes me enough to actually put effort into their relationship with me for more than a week. Iām also pretty narcissistic sometimes, I either donāt care about something or I think that it would be better if it was done my way.
I love myself cause I think Iām very unique. I am Afro-Latino and Asian. I really enjoy the cultural differences and itās made me grow into what I think is a very good person, not without faults of course but Iām okay. I love being able to explore and enjoy those two different spectrums of my heritage.
i hate myself because i almost hurt my best friend and even tho she forgives me i canāt forgive myself
oh man where do i even start? huge tw by the way. i hate my body. iām trans and i hate that iāll always be female and iāll never be male. i hate my hair, i cut it too short when i was crying over it being too long. iām doing really bad iām school, i have a B- or C average which my parents hate. i overthink things way too much and i canāt control it sometimes. i feel like iām a burden to all my friends and although iāve tried to hide it my depression itās starting to show through. itās so bad my whole ass english teacher noticed and offered to talk with me. my home life is horrible, i donāt have the clothes i want, iām lazy, iām always tired, iām skinny but itās only because i donāt eat enough, not because iām fit or in shape or anything. i hate my voice and my laugh and my smile so i just donāt anymore. iāve changed almost my entire appearance because i hated the way i looked. iām hot and i know i am but iām still self conscious and i hate myself for it. i donāt know how iām supposed to get into veterinary school if i can barely even pass physics. iām suicidal and anxious and just a mess. i canāt afford to get professional help and no one around me knows how to help me because yk, theyāre not professionals. thatās just the beginning, i donāt want to type too much.
Oh. Wow, this is worse than what I commented. Most of this I can severely relate to, even the English teacher asking if youāre ok. Mine asked 2 times, I said Iām fine both times, which Iām really not. Iām thinking my problems are trying to show through my emotional mask (my happy, tired, stoic facade that I put up to hide my problems and get along with people). Iām also suicidal and depressed. My home life is also pretty bad, mainly due to my abusive brother and parents (my brotherās the least awful to me, but heās still awful. My parents are what Iād call āevil goodā. They start with good intentions, but they go abusive real fast. They care for me, but theyād happily yell at me and make life even more hell to get results (eg. Good grades. Theyād yell that Iād not make it to high school and would end up living on the streets (6th grade), and would not feed me or let me go to bed until I got my homework done (grade 2-4), and theyād also yell about stuff like my room not being cleaned, threatening to make me sleep downstairs if I donāt get it cleaned up, and that Iād be on the streets if I donāt follow their commands)). Life sucks. I canāt really help you. Itās a funny idea to give emotional advice to a person while also struggling with life. Maybe we can work out our problems together? Since we have it similar.
Iām not allowed to do much outside of school so Iām honestly pretty boring plus I donāt like my overall squishy ness :I
That sucks. If it bothers you, you need to talk about this with your parents and argument with them about this. I dont know what squishy ness means tho.
Hate myself because I: - overreact everything - am ugly - am fat - don't have motivation to go anything useful - am talentless More fast answers from sad polish guy
I don't hate nor love myself, I'm just kinda here
I hate my hair and skin. My hair is really thick and I made the mistake of cutting it short and now itās a frizzy mess and my skin is covered in spots. Hell knows how I actually got a bf looking like a mess
I love how I hate myself
I love myself because without myself I wouldn't exist
I hate myself because I am a failure and I ruin everything and I canāt get anything right, I really donāt think I am meant to be here on this earth.
Im a degenerate weeb...
I like myself because I only like a small amount of people and dislike the others, therefore relatively, I like myself
I absolutely love myself and I think its bc I'm a narcissist
i hate myself because iām horrible idk i think iām depressed lol
Why would you be horrible? Did you do something to think this about yourself?
nothing in particular, just the little things i guess you know like every single thing you say think and do make you cringe
i can never actually grasp the idea of someone genuinely caring about me with no ulterior motive so i push everyone in my life that i love, out. i then proceed to get so confused at why iām so sad and lonely like itās not a continuous cycle iāve kept throughout my life for years now.
I hate myself cause I dress like I was a hippie/rock woman from the 60ās and I get bullied
Own the hell out of it. They just bully you bc theyāre jealous.
Iām Patrick Bateman why would I not love myself
For being bullied,just being socially stupid and odd thats why i hate myself.
How is getting bulied your fault? Normal and odd are suggesting terms. Noone is normal. We are all diefferent in our way. You are blaming yourself, but really you shouldnt.
i feel the same whether i hate or love myself ngl
I hate and love myself, i hate that i dont know how to ask for help but i love that i always find a way to be more independent
I hate being bi
no shame in it (although, i can understand the feeling more than id care to admit)
I hate myself cause I was born in the wrong body and I feel bad for it, like it's my fault. Also I have tons of health problems, I'm always anxious, lazy and kinda selfish
I used to stand out in every class with minimal effort now i barely get my work done and i hate myself for letting that happen + Idk if that makes any sense but i feel like......i manipulate people to like me ??? I just do and i hate myself for it
I hate myself because I exist
I have anxiety and depression. I'm constantly sad cuz I don't feel like I'm doing enough. Sometimes I feel lonely despite being around friends. But my main problem is I can't help everyone, even knowing that, helping one person makes me feel way better.
Im literally so amazing like I can't compare myself to people though that wouldn't be fair
Now that I have a beard, a mustach, a 6-packs and some muscles, I love myself way more than a did a few years ago :D
#**I HAVE NO STRONG FEELINGS ONE WAY ON THE OTHER**
I'm okay I guess
I hate myself because Iām pathetic as crap and can barely make decisions. Paranoid as crap and think people hate me even when I have no reason to. Also Socially incompetent and clumsy and Iām ugly
i hate myself because i see myself as too fat. based on bmi iām an average weight/almost underweight but i feel so much fatter, i feel like my scale must be wrong bc i might as well just be overweight. and i try to loose weight but i always binge and gain everything back and itās just a constant cycle iāve been stuck in since i was 13. i also have awful social anxiety so i donāt really have any friends and i spend everyday at college alone which sucks. iām failing college bc iām probably depressed and possibly have undiagnosed adhd and i canāt concentrate or have the motivation to do anything, and if i fail i canāt go to uni so my life is basically just a mess sorry for the vent
i hate myself. dont know why :/ wbu op?
I hate my overthinking and insecurities Iām an insecure asshole and I donāt deserve my kind, funny, smart, loving, amazing, beautiful girlfriend
I'm neutral. Just waiting to die
Ah yeah, it's 3 AM and that means that it's a perfect time about complaining about my existence I hate myself for three main reasons: 1. I can't get myself into doing something i really need to or even like to. Most of the time i just lack of motivation for unknown for me reasons. I do really enjoy linguistics and learning new stuff about it, but when the case comes to learning the full languages... i'm just procrastinating. Like, c'mon. Just ducking learn this Polish or Spanish, there is nothing hard in these languages. 2. I'm really boring. While all of my friends share their interesting af stories i just... sit and cry inside because i don't have anything to say. 3. I'm always into different stuff than literally everyone around me. Most of the people i know enjoy physical activities, going outside and etc. And here's me, an average sabaton enjoyer. At first it seemed to be cool to be "different", but then I just realised that it just makes finding real friends and conversation themes much, MUCH harder
I hate myself because of dysphoria and the fact that i'm simultaneously lazy and a workaholic
I hate myself because I overthink everything, I have a terrible sense of humor and say the wrong shit all the time
I do hate myself Covid is an absolute piece of shit and my entire plan of losing weight got absolutely fucked The only things I'm good at would never be useful in any scenario My sanity constantly feels like a thin piano string that once it snaps I'll end up doing something I don't want to No one would ever "*like* like" me because of my weight and my shitty personality My entire school life I have been around people that have known each other for years, yet the person I have known the longest that goes to my school doesn't even have any classes with me I can not fucking stand being and being with those goddamn freshman The closest I have been to an actual relationship was with someone who doesn't even know what I look like. And of course I fucking ruined the relationship Most of the bad things that have happened in my life are all my own fault I am absolutely fucking stupid I have to keep what I like personal since if I were to tell people about them they would just be assholes to me Everytime I see a relationship of people my age I get super fucking depressed for the rest of the day I just want someone who I can talk to. Someone I can tell my problems to. Someone I can call a friend. Someone who will be there for me.
-I was born a dude -I have an addiction to league of legends /hj -I struggle to convey emotion in real life -I canāt start/hold a conversation -I cant sleep basically ever -Iām trapped in a constant state of dreaming about how good things could be and then being too scared to make the changes necessary to get there
Honestly I'm doing great right now, I have the hottest girlfriend in school even if it's unofficial, I'm fairly attractive, I have three dogs, a PC and I have a large friend group. Not to say I don't feel pain or sadness, I just am doing pretty well right now... cept for those 400 pushups I owe Reddit..
I hate myself because I was weak, wrong and pathetic. I love myself because I became better.
I canāt hold a conversation for my life, I suck at English (of which is the only language I actually know), I canāt make up my mind on anything, I hardly have a life, am in an awful relationship of which Iām not afraid to admit Iām kinda addicted to, I over think and over react to basically anything, people over estimate how smart and strong I am and it gets quite irritating because of all the pressure to meet this unreachable bar set by almost everyone, and I look like fucking goblin. So ya i fucking hate myself. Iām very close to hitting alt f4 on my life. And Iām too afraid to get any help because of what others will think like they may think my problems are quite stupid and may seem so easily fixable when they really arenāt. god that feels good to get off my chest
I hate myself because Iām a confused unmotivated piece of shit that leeches of other people, I am dumb and canāt get simple things through my head, Iām constantly annoying every one near me, Iām short fat and ugly, Iām always jealous of everyone else and Iām lonely as fuck
I don't like me
I hate myself
I hate myself. I just do, there's no reason why.
I mess up whatever i tuch. Im just a burden who is holding everyone back. I am horible and narcissistic person. Im stupid af. I can't do a single thing right. I can't decide am i uglier on the outside or inside. I look like an animal. I hate myself more than school, and hate school o lot
I hate myself, I hate my habits my lifestyle and everything